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Deciding how to grandparent.

Posted on 8/21/2022

Our grandson, turned 3, is starting to be a brat. Our son and daughter in law don't correct him. Daughter in law talks to him and never gets to the point. He doesn't go to bed at a regular...

Reining in Mr. 3 year old

Posted on 6/12/2022

Wow! My normally good natured, well behaved 3 year old grandson has been an absolute tyrant today. He will not listen to his parents, laughs and acts like everything is funny. They keep trying...

4 Year Old and Grandma need a break

Posted on 5/12/2022

I am a grandparent?! asking the question. My husband and I take turns babysitting my daughter's 2 of 3 kids, their oldest daughter is in 2nd grade. We are baby sitting due to their youngest son,...

Child Abuse? I Think Not.

Posted on 2/21/2022

My 9 year old homschool son cries and freaks out when we mention he does school at my mother's house an hour away. The children usually stay a week or a few days. Is it child abuse if he doesn't...

Should We Let Newborn "Cry It Out"?

Posted on 2/21/2022

We are new parents of a three-week old girl. As we've been reading the "New Parent Power!," we've been focusing on "Part 2," which gives guidance for the stages. For infants, it seems that John...

Parent vs. Grandparent Relationships

Posted on 2/15/2022

My husband and I love the John Rosemond way of parenting. We set rules and expect our kids to follow them. When my parents come around, they completely baby them because they "feel bad" and think...

One Day at a Time

Posted on 1/2/2022

I have a 22-month old boy and a 2-month old little girl. My husband is with the state national guard and started his basic training a month or so ago, is now back for Christmas, and will go back...

Disciplining With Tickets When Grandma Comes to Town

Posted on 12/29/2021

I just got your book, "The Well Behaved Child," and today I began using tickets (and Alpha speech) for my just 5-year-old son who is very loving and sweet but would be considered a "high...

Rollercoaster years.

Posted on 12/20/2021

My 3 year old grandson was a lovely, sweet, fun 2 year old. Is 3 known for being a bit rude? I used to facetime and have nice talks. Now he will not talk and if prodded by mom not to be rude,...

Rocked His World

Posted on 12/15/2021

Hello. My husband and I have two kids, one 20-month old boy and one 2-month old girl. The younger one is an easy baby and the older one likes his baby sister (exhibited by kissing her all the...

Reading in the Morning or Reading in the Evening? Raising a Reader with Learning Challenges

Posted on 11/18/2021

I am homeschool my 7 year old child/grandchild. His Mother was diagnosed at age 7 with dyslexia and an auditory processing disorder by Dr Lucia Karnes which made me confident the assessment was...

Frustrated Grandparent Is Not Alone

Posted on 9/26/2021

Hello. I raised my now 35-year-old son using John Rosemond’s methods, and he turned out great! Unfortunately for my two grandsons aged almost 6 and almost 8, my son and his wife are not...

Granny is Tired of 7 Year Olds Nightly Walks

Posted on 8/21/2021

My granddaughter lives with me, along with her two children The 7 year old boy is a tough case. His mother and I do NOT parent anything alike. This boy gets up almost every night and roams the...

When Your Teen Cancels God

Posted on 8/1/2021

Our 15 year old (High IQ) grandson recently informed his mother (our daughter) that he does not believe in God. This has devastated her and us.She is divorced from his father and they have 50/50...

Coping with the pain of losing a parent

Posted on 7/19/2021

My daughter recently died of brain cancer. Her husband works full time and I am with the kids (ages 8, 9, 11 and 15) most of the time. I would like to know how to help them through the grieving...

Take charge grandmother - it's your home.

Posted on 6/19/2021

My 7 yr old grandson, who lives with me is the poster child for oppositional/defiant. My parenting style and my granddaughter’s are so different. Besides everything being a battle with him, when...

Solutions do not always solve the problem.

Posted on 5/11/2021

A oppositional/defiant great grandchild is living with me temporarily with his mom and his 4 year old sister, who is a total delight. I usually let the mother deal with her son, even though I did...

7 year old curiosity

Posted on 5/7/2021

Last night after his shower, I noticed my son who is 7, had not come out of the bathroom for about 15 minutes. So, I got out of bed-to go see what the delay was. This was after he had nosed...

Indulgent Grandparents

Posted on 4/12/2021

My 6 year old son has been spending more time with my parents without me present for special time. When I’m not there he has a level of indulgence that I think is probably common at grandparent’s...

What's a Grandma to Do?

Posted on 1/31/2021

Hello. I raised my now 35-year-old son using John Rosemond’s methods, and he turned out great! Much to my dismay, however, he and his wife are not interested in raising their sons, 5 and 7, with...

Posted on 1/28/2021

My grandson was adopted from an orphanage in India when he was 3 years old. My daughter and son-in-law have had him for 2 years as he will be 5 in June. This boy is and has been an unbelievingly...

Grandson Needs to be Held More Accountable

Posted on 1/15/2021

I just pulled an old John article out of my drawer that I have had for years. It was about how therapy can be detrimental to a child and rarely works. Also talked about kids emotions and feelings...

8-Year-Old Needs Attitude Adjustment

Posted on 1/1/2021

I have an eight year old granddaughter who comes to visit me for spring break, Christmas break, and summer. She lives out of state and her mother likes John Rosemond's wisdom, so we work together....

It's a nailbiter

Posted on 12/29/2020

My granddaughter is very nervous and bites fingernails and toenails until they bleed. Is there anything I can do to prevent this? Do you have any insight as to the cause?

Eight year old does what she wants when grandma says "No"

Posted on 12/29/2020

I have an eight year old granddaughter who will ask if she can do something, or I tell her she can't do something and she turns right around nonchalantly and does it anyway. What can I do?

Difficult is Not Bad

Posted on 12/2/2020

I am homeschooling my Grandson, who is in first grade. He is a bright child, but not motivated for school. He has struggled with handwriting and anything which requires manual dexterity, or fine...

Continue to beware of TMI

Posted on 9/9/2020

Hi, My 4 yr old grandsons mother walked out on the family 1 1/2 years ago. As he is aging he is asking more questions , and we are telling him it is not his fault, and that he has us, his dad and...

Needy 5 year old

Posted on 8/10/2020

My soon to be ( in 2 months) 5 year old is extremely needy. He doesn't play by himself and if he does it is for a very short time. 20 to 30 minutes maybe. He will not go to sleep without one of us...

No Good Reason For 7-Year-Old's Threat

Posted on 7/30/2020

I got a call from our daycare provider today saying our 7-year-old told his best friend that he was going to bring in a real gun and shoot him because the friend had taken something that belonged...

Don't stop doing it!!!

Posted on 7/16/2020

Building on my last two questions, I have run into another issue regarding attention-seeking behavior from my three year old. My husband and I have created an environment that is parent-centered;...

Navigating the grieving process.

Posted on 6/23/2020

My spouse recently died at home under hospice care. He had been ill for 5 years. Our grandchildren live close and have been partially living with us since they were born. We all are devastated. I...

Three Snaps & out of the Spotlight

Posted on 5/20/2020

I have a just-turned 3-year-old son. He has a problem with needing constant attention. My husband and I routinely engage in our own activities around our son, and he can entertain himself well, so...

Toddler's Frustration with Confinement is Understandable

Posted on 1/19/2020

My 15 month grandson spends a lot of time in a corral to keep him away from things where he can be hurt. This morning he began shaking the corral, pushed it into a wall, kept shaking and pushing,...

Toddler ignores grandma.

Posted on 1/14/2020

Lately my 2 year old has moments where he is very rude to my mom (his grandma) who helps with childcare. He blatantly ignores her or tells her no or that he doesn't want to do x, y or z. My...

Worry or Not?

Posted on 1/12/2020

41/2 year old grandchild’s 4 year old k4 teacher said she does not know her alphabet. She had big vocabulary and seems bright but just will not say them. Is this just her being stubborn? She...

Time for a Reset

Posted on 1/12/2020

Clarification to my follow up question: When you say impose consequences... often my consequences are extra chores. I do not know what else to offer as a consequence. They're too young to take...

6 and 9 Year Olds Won’t Do Chores

Posted on 1/12/2020

Follow up question: After reviewing chapter 3, i do believe I was using the ticket system properly... my targets were 1. Not doing as told 2. Lying 3. Talking back. The targets were the same...

Just give her some time!

Posted on 10/13/2019

Hello! Our daughter (4.5 yrs) (and her younger sister) recently started going to their grandmother (1 - 2 times a week for 4 hours each). In the beginning she enjoyed going but now she tells...

Enforcing Consquences

Posted on 9/15/2019

I have read Well Behaved Child. We are dealing with our 7 year old granddaughter (we have legal custody since July) that has high misbehaviors. We are doing the chart. Our one concern is keeping...

Grandparent Etiquette

Posted on 9/15/2019

I am a single mom with a 6-year-old girl. Both sets of grandparents live close by, and she is very close to both of them. I am trying to teach her that when we visit, she is to say hello,...

Beware of TMI

Posted on 8/21/2019

How would you answer a 3 year old grandson when he ask where his mommy is, when mommy walked away 5 months ago and we dont know if or when she will come back into the picture. Child lives in a...

A Strong Marriage is Your First Priority

Posted on 7/24/2019

This is the scinerao...we are sitting at the dinner table. My husband is reading "whatever the latest news is" on his phone. When our 6 yr. talks back to me or does not do what I have asked of...

Be The Grandparent

Posted on 7/10/2019

I witnessed my son try to discipline his daughter. Daughter in law repeatedly challenged him and totally emasculated him in front of me when he continued. She's a wonderful daughter in law and...

Great-grandparents who now parent.

Posted on 7/3/2019

what are the first steps in teaching a 6 yr. old boy how to entertain himself. For the last 3 years we have been raising our 6 yr old great grandson due to drug problems with his parents and...

2.5 year old won't share Grandma

Posted on 6/11/2019

2.5 year old only wants Grandma when she is around. Grandma lives out of state, so when we see her we are together for day/night at least a week. 2.5 yo only wants Grandma to take care of, play,...

Grandparent raising grandchild

Posted on 5/30/2019

I have finally gotten to a point legally where my daughter, who is the mother of the 5 year old I am raising has no visitation. It's been a long, hard, and expensive process but it is what it is...

Time for Change

Posted on 5/7/2019

My mom has been babysitting my son while I am at work since he was a baby. When my son turned 2.5 she opened a preschool. He always had behavior issues but now at 4.5, he is even more disruptive....

What's a Grandmother To Do?

Posted on 4/29/2019

Good morning, Almost 2 decades of an avid Rosemond follower, I am confident he can offer his wisdom or at least help me help my daughter/grand-kids? My daughter is a 31 YO wonderful person,...

Jesus Loves the Little Children Through Grandparents

Posted on 4/14/2019

I am a step grandparent. We have a three year old grandson who is being raised in a progressive, liberal, agnostic environment. The household is run by the toddler and to say it is matriarch ruled...

Picky picky picky!

Posted on 2/22/2019

My two year old grandson will only eat yogurt and cheese at my house and is picky at his grandad's as well. He does drink milk and juice. If I put out fruit or other foods, he won't even try...

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