Questions

College students and control.

Posted yesterday

Our 21 year old son is on a full ride academic scholarship at an out of state university. When he was born, we set up a UGMA account for his college education, but he hasn’t needed it. He has...

Ages: Young Adult (19-25 years)

Topics: School Issues

3 year old boy should keep his lovie

Posted 2 days ago

I have read "The Well Behaved Child" and I have been implementing the ticket system for three days with my three year old son. Today he lost all of his tickets after a complete melt-down at...

Ages: Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old), Preschool (4-5 years), School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Bedtime/Sleep, Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), John's Discipline Methods, Pacifiers/Security Blankets/Thumbsucking

American Homeschool Association

Posted 4 days ago

I'm trying to find the home school website John recommends in his book The Diseasing of America's Children, but I can't seem to access it? Can you provide any home schooling website that I can...

Ages: No Specific Age

Ten Year Old With Anxiety

Posted 5 days ago

Hello! My daughter is 10 years old. She has quite a bit of anxiety (inherited I believe). Recently, she has been confronted with the task of working on a project with another, very difficult...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Anxieties, Fears, School Issues

Cannot address some questions.

Posted 6 days ago

What are your thoughts on Vision Therapy? I am have read some really great things and just wanted to get your opinion. Thank you.

Appropriate Punishment for a Toddler

Posted 6 days ago

What is an appropriate way to punish a 17 month old for being bad (i.e. deliberately disobeying when I tell him not to do something) is time out appropriate for this age? If it is how do I even...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Consequences/Punishment

High School Freshman Vaping

Posted 1 week ago

Hi! My 14 year old freshman has been telling me how he vapes in the high school bathroom with friends. My husband and I do not smoke or vape and we have made it very clear that he needs to wait...

Ages: Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years)

Topics: Disobedience/Defiance, Drugs (marijuana, cocaine, etc.)

Teen Prefers to Live with Daily Pot Smoking Dad

Posted 1 week ago

My just turned 13 year old son wants to see what living with Dad would be like after living with me and Stepdad (and visiting Dad and StepMom) over his childhood. Dad has a stable career and nice...

Ages: Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years)

Topics: Divorce/Custody, Drugs (marijuana, cocaine, etc.)

Taming the Toddler Tantrums

Posted 1 week ago

Hi there, my 25 month old son is starting to have more tantrums at home and especially in public. I have heard of a tantrum spot where they can express themselves, alone. My question is- how long...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Tantrums

post nap crankiness with 2 year old twins

Posted 1 week ago

What is the right way to handle 2-year-old post-nap tantrums/crankiness? My 29 month old boy/girl twins often are extremely out of sorts when they wake from their afternoon nap. Today my daughter...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Bedtime/Sleep, Tantrums

Little Meanie

Posted 1 week ago

Both sets of my 3 year old's grandparents live out of state. When they come to visit they typically stay for several days at our home. Last time his grandmother was in town my son sternly told her...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Grandparents/Grandchildren, Parent Leadership and Authority

Old School Blues

Posted 1 week ago

My daughters were homeschooled, public schooled, homeschooled again, and back in public school right down the street. They were pretty happy with school but the oldest was always hard to get out...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years), Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years)

Topics: School Issues

The Phone is Not the Problem

Posted 1 week ago

So, in response to the answer to my question I have a few other questions. In the past few days a lot has transpired and my husband and I really had it out over my son. I understand a lot of his...

Ages: Older Teen/High School (16-18 years)

Topics: Arguments with Children, Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, Electronics (Computers/Video Games/Television/Cell Phones), Father, Lying, Marriage Issues, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior, Teenage Issues

Bedtime Horseplay

Posted 1 week ago

I have twin 9 year olds and a 6 year old girl that share a bed room. A few years ago when the 6 year old had her own room she pretty much went to bed as told with the exception of getting up a few...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Bedtime/Sleep, Consequences/Punishment, Disobedience/Defiance, John's Discipline Methods, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems

Potty Time Party Boy

Posted 2 weeks ago

We are in the process of potty training our 21 month old son, 3 weeks in using N75, except at night and naps he is in a diaper. We have had some days of great success using the potty bell, except...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Toilet Training

Follow-Up to Fighting Siblings

Posted 2 weeks ago

Thank you for your response to my first question. I have a follow up question, just to make sure we are striking a healthy balance of discipline. I'm pretty sure I have read 2 or 3 variations of...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Consequences/Punishment, Sibling Conflict

11 yr old lost all her blocks on chart!!!

Posted 2 weeks ago

My wife and I have an 11 year old and 9 year old daughter. We kicked our 9 year old out of the garden several weeks ago for school and home behavior issues. Our 11 year was put on weekly charts...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior

Time for the Gate

Posted 2 weeks ago

1 month ago I asked about potty training for my developmentally normal 3 year old. We are continuing to help her feel the consequences of sneaking off to poop in her panties however she continues...

Ages: Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old)

Topics: Toilet Training

Lower the Boom on 18 year old son

Posted 2 weeks ago

My son has just turned 18 and is a senior in high school. He had his first job this summer doing construction work with some people we know. He did well getting up early and they said that he...

Ages: Older Teen/High School (16-18 years)

Topics: Arguments with Children, Character/Values (teaching), Chores/Responsibilities, Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, Extracurricular Activities/Hobbies, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior, School Issues, Teenage Issues

First Time Offender

Posted 2 weeks ago

Received a call from my 5th graders school today he and another boy were making and folded paper craft (ninja star) at lunch. My son turned it into an inappropriate conversation about a private...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Parent Leadership and Authority, School Issues

Regaining Authority

Posted 2 weeks ago

We moved back home while my husband is deployed and now I am having isses with my 7yo daughter. This is not the first time he's had to leave but when he does I feel like I am not taken seriously....

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: John's Discipline Methods

3 yo Nighttime Disturbances

Posted 2 weeks ago

Our almost 3 year old (33 months) is giving us such trouble during the night! She goes to bed as usual with routine and at usual time (~7:30pm). But she has been waking up once, twice, sometimes...

Ages: Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old)

Topics: Bedtime/Sleep

Consult a parent coach.

Posted 3 weeks ago

I am a single divorced mother of three year old twins. I have a home. My ex-husband, the Twins' father, lives with his parents. We have split custody. While at my home about six months ago one...

Ages: Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old)

Topics: Divorce/Custody

Ill-Behaved Grandchildren

Posted 3 weeks ago

My 4 yr old grandson is already in trouble in school for bullying. A classmate didn't want to go to school because he was afraid he was going to get hurt by my grandson again, who has apparently...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Aggression, School Issues, Social Issues (fighting/arguing with friends)

Micromanagement Out, Mentoring In

Posted 3 weeks ago

Our 15 yr old comes in and out of moodiness and maturity. He is doing well in some school classes amd not so well in others. Your advice has been very helpful to me. There is a girl that he is...

Ages: Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Socialization/Social Skills, Teenage Issues

10 yo and 8 yo Sibling Conflict

Posted 3 weeks ago

We have two boys (10 and 8). Our older son is generally passive and doesn't start problems, and the younger one is constantly doing whatever he can to annoy and cause problems, and it usually ends...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Sibling Conflict

Breaking a Bed Time Habit

Posted 3 weeks ago

Hi, my 9yr son will not sleep alone. I let him sleep with us but now I don't know how to break the habit. During day he is very independent, strong willed kid but at night he cries and throws a...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Bedtime/Sleep

When a Sibling Interferes With a Consequence

Posted 3 weeks ago

Our 6 year old son threw a huge tantrum after school in front of a lot of people, thus enforcing a consequence of all his toys being taken away as well as early bedtime. Our dilemma in following...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Consequences/Punishment

Girl--Boy

Posted 3 weeks ago

My granddaughter just turned 3 and has been saying she wants to be a boy. She wants to wear just t-shirts and shorts and hates dresses. It's been going on for quite a while but seems to be getting...

Ages: Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Developmental Issues (e.g. late talking), Social Issues (fighting/arguing with friends)

6 year old boy with an attitude

Posted 3 weeks ago

We are having a hard time with our almost 6 year old son. This summer we started him on tickets for whining and not listening. Quickly the focus became on not listening only. It worked for a while...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years), School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, John's Discipline Methods, Parent Leadership and Authority

Excessive Complaining

Posted 4 weeks ago

My question is about my thirteen-year-old daughter and her constant complaining whenever she's asked to do something that she doesn't want to do. She will get emotional and complain and argue, and...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment

Bedtime for a teen.

Posted 4 weeks ago

I have a 9th grade stepson whose bio mother passed when he was 2. I married his dad when he was 5 and consequently raised him. About 2 years ago he became a problem. He committed an act of...

Ages: Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years)

Topics: Teenage Issues

5 yo lying with no remorse

Posted 4 weeks ago

We have a 5 year old daughter we are fostering. She's been with us for a little over 2 months. She is pleasant enough, but she has no remorse for things she does wrong (big or little). We've been...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Disobedience/Defiance, Lying

2 yo sleep troubles

Posted 4 weeks ago

We have had our 2 year old grandson since birth and have finally started adoption proceedings. He is a Fetal Alcohol Effect baby and is dealing with a number of delays. We have a speech,...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Bedtime/Sleep

Excessive Complaints from Teenage Girl

Posted on 9/15/2017

Hi. My question is about my thirteen year old daughter and her constant complaining whenever shes asked to do something that she doesn't want to do. She will get all.emmotional and complain and...

Ages: Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years)

Topics: Chores/Responsibilities, Parent Leadership and Authority, Teenage Issues

3yr old out of control

Posted on 9/14/2017

My husband and I are struggling with finding the right disciplinary action for our 3 year old daughter. She has many meltdowns and tests our authority on a regular basis. We have found that taking...

Ages: Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old)

Topics: Aggression, Disobedience/Defiance, Rebellious Behavior, Tantrums

Clarification from John

Posted on 9/13/2017

I tried to send the following question as an email through your contact page because it is a question specifically for Mr. Rosemond, but I could not get it to submit (and yes I kept to the 400...

Two home dilemma.

Posted on 9/13/2017

My 14 year old son is having a difficult time with me getting remarried. We have given him space and even dated for 2 years before we married. He is mad and I have mistakenly let him get away...

Ages: Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years)

Topics: Divorce/Custody, Teenage Issues

Calm Down Please!

Posted on 9/12/2017

My daughter is now 8 1/2 - through the years I have written to you about her personality - last year she was diagnosed with Dyslexia - which has explained where the low self esteem has come from....

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Bedtime/Sleep, Food/Eating Problems, Learning Disabilities, Parent Leadership and Authority, Self-Esteem

Kindergartner frustrated by new immersion class

Posted on 9/11/2017

My 5 1/2 year old boy is having a hard time transitioning into a spanish immersion kindergarten. He's acting out by being very disruptive and sometimes "play hitting"/horsing around. We had...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Aggression, Consequences/Punishment, School Issues

13 year old, 5 year old Squabbles

Posted on 9/9/2017

Hi ☺my question is about sibling conflict between my thirteen-year-old daughter and five-year-old son. They are constantly fighting! And they are basically just rude and disrespectful towards each...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Sibling Conflict

Teenage Girl Talks of Changing Gender

Posted on 9/9/2017

I have a grand daughter who is now announcing herself as a transmute. Her mother is in a lesbian relationship with a wonderful partner and they are marrying this year. My daughter has set some...

Ages: Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years)

Topics: Grandparents/Grandchildren, Social Issues (fighting/arguing with friends)

11 yr old Effort and Responsibility

Posted on 9/6/2017

I am the Dad of an 11 year old (6th grade). She is not giving good effort at school. My wife and I have told her it is her responsibility and she needs to get help from the teachers, study...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Arguments with Children, Disobedience/Defiance, Homework, Rebellious Behavior, Sibling Conflict

Screens are Everywhere!

Posted on 9/6/2017

I have a soon to be 13 year old grandson I have been raising since he was an infant. He was diagnosed ADD in first grade but delayed medication until 4th grade. The medication has really helped....

Ages: Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years)

Topics: Electronics (Computers/Video Games/Television/Cell Phones), Grandparents/Grandchildren, Parent Leadership and Authority, Teenage Issues

Enough Talk?

Posted on 9/6/2017

Hello and Thank You for your help and guidance. We last asked a question in April. Here we are in September, back again and most appreciative. Our 7 year old was exposed to pornographic video on...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Disobedience/Defiance, Electronics (Computers/Video Games/Television/Cell Phones), Parent Leadership and Authority

What to Do About Screaming?

Posted on 9/4/2017

I have a 7 year old daughter who goes from 0-10 and screams loudly over tiny little things, and everyone rushes to her rescue (except us) when something happens. For instance, if she stubs her...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Manners, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems

Toddler Anxiety After Displacement

Posted on 9/4/2017

Hi there, we were affected by Hurricane Harvey. Our house flooded by a few inches, but we still had to relocate until we're able to redo some parts of our house. My husband, 24 month old son, and...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Bedtime/Sleep

Should Mom address home behavior or Math grade first?

Posted on 9/2/2017

Our 11 yr old daughter (6th grade) has some small/medium behaviors at home we would like to get under control with a Weekly Chart, but also is having trouble in Math at school (C)...other subjects...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, School Issues

Same problem, same directive.

Posted on 9/2/2017

How do I get my 6yo boy to stop the constant whining/crying when he doesn't get his way, gets frustrated, and fighting with his 2 sisters. Help.... It's driving me nuts!!

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Consequences/Punishment, Tantrums