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Toddler hits mommy

Posted 3 days ago

Hi. My 27 month old toddler recently started hitting me when I say no to her, sometimes my husband as well, but it is most often directed at me (her mother) in moments of frustration. How should I...

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Mom Wants 13-Month-Old to Stop Screaming

Posted 6 days ago

Hi. I am having some difficulties with my 13-month-old. He is stubborn, disobedient and he screams quite a bit if he doesn’t get his way. He does not yet talk, and I was told that screaming is his...

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Ticket to Change

Posted 1 week ago

My 7-year-old son has a habit of expressing his frustration, questioning me, or complaining about what I've told him to do or said “no” to. He asks, “Why not?” and I answer simply, “Because I...

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Toddler's Frustration with Confinement is Understandable

Posted 1 week ago

My 15 month grandson spends a lot of time in a corral to keep him away from things where he can be hurt. This morning he began shaking the corral, pushed it into a wall, kept shaking and pushing,...

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Changed my mind

Posted 1 week ago

Hello! Our second daughter (2.5 yrs) says no to certain things, e.g. I do not want to have the blankets on at bedtime, or no I am not finishing my dinner, or no I am not going outside. We tell...

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Solving Baby Sleep Issue

Posted 1 week ago

Not sure if this is your expertise or not but our 10 month old has been giving us some grief at night with sleep. He generally does okay when we let him cry to sleep but some nights he wakes up...

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Gone From The Garden.....Now What?

Posted 1 week ago

I have a clarification question. When a child had been kicked out of the garden, are they supposed to also stay in said room when not at school? And if so should we leave something in their room...

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Decisions fueled by guilt - not good.

Posted 1 week ago

Hi, I have written before regarding my stepson. He is 24 years old, has a college degree and lives at home with his mother. He has been diagnosed with interstitial cystitis, a chronic condition...

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Little Victories

Posted 1 week ago

Not a question; more of a comment of thanks. I started the Ticket Method (at home for both home and school behaviors) a week ago and today my son's teacher (1st grade) sent me an email stating...

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Who is in charge here?

Posted 1 week ago

My 13 month old loves his bottle and milk. He regularly drinks over the recommended amount of milk. He also does not hold his own bottle. He will drink water out of several types of sippy cups,...

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Stay the Course.

Posted 1 week ago

I used N75 with my first child and it was a snap. At 22 months she was without accidents within a few days. My second child was 22 months before the holidays. With traveling etc. etc. we...

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Toddler ignores grandma.

Posted 1 week ago

Lately my 2 year old has moments where he is very rude to my mom (his grandma) who helps with childcare. He blatantly ignores her or tells her no or that he doesn't want to do x, y or z. My...

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6 Year Old Laughs When She Gets In Trouble

Posted 1 week ago

Good Morning, We have been using the ticket system and it's worked well. I have a 6 year old girl, who seems to have thrived from it until recently. Now when she loses a ticket she says "i...

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Ticket to change.

Posted 1 week ago

My 7-year old son has this habit of expressing his frustration, questioning me, or complaining about what I've told him to do or said, “no” to. He asks, “Why not?” and I answer simply, “Because...

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3 year old needs more time to adjust to playing at preschool

Posted 1 week ago

Hi! I have spoken with a coach via email, and was happy with the response. I recently spoke with my recently turned 3 year old son’s teachers, and had a chance to sit in on one of his church child...

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4 Year Old Biting Must Stop

Posted 1 week ago

Our 4 year old son's teacher called home today after school to tell us that he got into an argument with a peer over a toy. While pulling back and forth for the toy, our son bit the other child....

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Worry or Not?

Posted 2 weeks ago

41/2 year old grandchild’s 4 year old k4 teacher said she does not know her alphabet. She had big vocabulary and seems bright but just will not say them. Is this just her being stubborn? She...

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6 and 9 Year Olds Won’t Do Chores

Posted 2 weeks ago

Follow up question: After reviewing chapter 3, i do believe I was using the ticket system properly... my targets were 1. Not doing as told 2. Lying 3. Talking back. The targets were the same...

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10-Year-Old Worries about Death

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hello- We have a 10 year old only child who has recently started crying and getting upset about what he will do when we die and how sad he will be. We have tried to reassure him but it’s become a...

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Time for a Reset

Posted 2 weeks ago

Clarification to my follow up question: When you say impose consequences... often my consequences are extra chores. I do not know what else to offer as a consequence. They're too young to take...

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Alpha Speech is Key for Getting Kids to Obey

Posted 2 weeks ago

I have 2 girls, 9 & 6. They will not obey. They’ll lie that they did something and I have to verify completion or it’s never done. I used the ticket system and I had to take away every privilege...

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Toilet training with Gate and Bell

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hi, I have a follow up question to my previous question about the bell and barrier method not being successful; after my child pees on the floor do I let him out of the bathroom or keep him in the...

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Aversion to potty

Posted 2 weeks ago

My son is 3.25 years old. We started toilet training a week ago and he has done well with the potty part, but he’s having issues with pooping on his potty chair. He did it just fine a couple...

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Alpha Speech is Key to Parental Leadership

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hello. Our daughter just turned 5. She has started to argue, history, say she didn’t hear, that she forgot and any number of excuses when she has disobeyed us. If we ask her to go put her toy...

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Is Child's Threat of Suicide a Cry for Help or for Attention?

Posted 2 weeks ago

My oldest is eleven and started middle school this year. Overall it has been a smooth transition. She has a great group of friends and likes school. She does not have a phone and has very limited...

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Hold Me! Never Let Me Go!

Posted 2 weeks ago

My daughter (age 2) demands to be held an excessive amount. By "excessive amount", I mean hours in a row. The more holding I give her, the more she demands. She gets furious when put down before...

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No Way to Treat a 7 Year Old Boy

Posted 2 weeks ago

My son is 7 years old and in 1st grade. He's had some problems with negative self-talk and is disruptive in class. (I think he’s a perfectionist who’s big on justice and is bored). His grades are...

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Toilet Training While Out on the Town

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hi There! Last October we started potty training my then 19 month old son using the "naked and 75" method you lay out in your book. By the end of November he was doing so well, we started...

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A Toddler Terror

Posted 3 weeks ago

Hi! After raising four children myself, I can say that my 2.5 year old grandson, Hudson, is on the far end of the active, aggressive, physical, energetic, testing, bouncing-off-the-walls and...

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4 Year Old Boy's Baffling Behavior

Posted 3 weeks ago

We adopted our son in October 2018. He was almost 3 years old. Right away I noticed he banged his head in his sleep or to go to sleep. Banged into his hands or pillow, almost rhythmically. I know...

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The Age-Gap Triplicate

Posted 3 weeks ago

My kids (11-girl, 10-girl, 3-boy) were driving me crazy with all the squabbling. Especially as the 3 year old gets older. All 3 kids are on the ticket system. I’ve read a lot of the q & a on here...

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College Student Has Lesson to Learn

Posted 3 weeks ago

I am a single mom of ten years to one son. He just completed his first semester of college at a Christian school. His faith is stronger than ever, he met some great people, was selected to be a...

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Toilet Training for a 23 month

Posted 3 weeks ago

My husband and I are on Day 6 of potty training using the Toilet Training Without Tantrums. We have had a few successes but... we're frustrated. Our daughter is 23 months old. She's been naked...

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The Picky Eater Battle Continues.....

Posted 3 weeks ago

We were trying to stand our ground and get our picky eaters (2 year old twins) to eat the meals their parents are presenting them. We stopped giving them snacks in between meals. If they...

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Your Place, Your Rules.

Posted 4 weeks ago

What should parents do about young adults away at college who come back on breaks and are disrespectful, entitled, rude? Even going so far as to (after they say things that are out of line...

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Potty Setback

Posted on 12/26/2019

My son, who is two and a half and well potty trained, has recently taken to pooping in his pants and/or on the floor. Timeouts do not seem to be effective. I tell him that "only babies poop in...

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Wishing for Silent Nights

Posted on 12/26/2019

My daughter just turned two. About six weeks ago (two weeks before the arrival of our new baby), she started having issues going to bed. When we lay her down, she tries to think of any excuse to...

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Teenage Scrooges

Posted on 12/20/2019

I have three teenagers. For my older two - the 17 and 16-yr old - thinking of their family members on special occasions like birthdays or Christmas is clearly not a priority for them. All...

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Challenging "smile stones."

Posted on 12/19/2019

My 6 year old daughter visits the school nurse quite often for the tiniest of things. She seems to love the attention she gets when she is hurt... and it seems to happen a lot. She was coming home...

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Potty training setback

Posted on 12/18/2019

My daughter is 27 month old, before she turned 2 in October we started to potty train her. At around 25 months she was completely trained; she'd tell us when she needed to go and at one point, she...

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Table Manners for Toddlers

Posted on 12/18/2019

What is the best process for teaching 2-year-olds to use eating utensils? They enjoy feeding themselves, but ignore their spoons and just dig in and eat with their hands. I have showed...

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Ending the Food Battle

Posted on 12/17/2019

We are having many battles over food in our house. We have boys ages five, three, and one. The older boys go to preschool and are usually going without an adequate breakfast. They are offered food...

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Accident or On Purpose?

Posted on 12/17/2019

Right before my child turned 2 in October we started to potty train her. At around 25 months she was completely trained; she'd tell us when she needed to go and at one point, she was...

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Should we cancel Christmas?

Posted on 12/16/2019

We are a family with 4 kids (13 year old boy, 13 year old girl, 11 year old girl, 4 year old girl). None of them have any electronics (since October 2019). The three older ones did have cell...

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Argumentative two and a half year old

Posted on 12/14/2019

Our two and a half year old daughter is argumentative. There will be times when we’ve told her to do something in a clear manner and she will outright say “No, I will not do...” (fill in the...

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Resistant to using the toilet

Posted on 12/12/2019

Looking for suggestion on dealing with a 2.5 year old girl very resistant to using the toilet. 4 days into training and is unwilling to use potty. Thanks

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Posted on 12/12/2019

I know I have already asked another question, but have a new one. The pediatrician sent a referral for my almost 3 year old son to see a behavior specialist back in September for his screaming....

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Posted on 12/11/2019

My son turns 3 next week. He has always been very loud, screaming to get our attention when he was younger. I have worked really hard on getting him to use words to tell me what he wants, so now...

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Mouthy Teens Ups the Vitriol

Posted on 12/9/2019

Okay, I’ve had this subscription for years now and have yet to write in with a question, as many, and as urgent, as I’ve felt they have been in previous years. So I hope you’ll give me a little...

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Relationship Reboot

Posted on 12/9/2019

This is a Part II to an early question submitted about a very strong-willed and increasingly mouthy 16-year old daughter. Please bear with someone who has subscribed for YEARS without submitting...

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