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8 Year-Old's Anxiety Impacting Everyone's Sleep

Posted 3 days ago

My 8 year old has become anxious and it is impacting sleep. The anxiety appeared as school was approaching with precautions for covid and we prepared to sell our house. After a few nights of...

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Night Time Dryness Takes Patience

Posted 4 days ago

Hello, I understand that there isn’t really nighttime potty training, and that’s fine. She often wakes up soaked, and happily helps me strip the bed and put the linens in the washer. We’re still...

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Adjusting to a New Pre School Can Be Hard

Posted 5 days ago

We are struggling with our 3-year-old at school. She started in PK-3 this year at a new school. The past 3 years she has been in daycare/pre-school. Where to begin... and by the way all of these...

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3D Snapshot of the Mien of a Tween: not a Pretty Picture

Posted 1 week ago

My 12 year old son is stealing money out of my purse. He has a long history of defiance, sneakiness, and lying. He is also disrespectful, and disobedient. We suspect he's been stealing money for...

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Normal Kindergarten Boy

Posted 1 week ago

Our 5-year-old is struggling in kindergarten because of behavior. He runs around the classroom instead of staying in his seat, refuses to stay quiet (shouts) when the teacher is teaching and...

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Night Time Potty Training Takes Time

Posted 1 week ago

My 2 year old daughter wets her bed almost everyday and she has only Been potty trained in the day time for 2 months should I put a night time diaper ?

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A Fine Whine?

Posted 1 week ago

Looking for help for whining for our 28mo. We have tried saying "that's whining. We can't hear whining. Use your happy voice." and even the raising eyebrows suggestion, for the last 7 or so...

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Unwell Mom Struggles with Screen Time Abuse

Posted 1 week ago

I am really unwell at the moment and my son is being kept home from school, I also have a 1 year old. I am trying to look after both while I get through this illness. Discipline has slided and...

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Homeschool help for sick mom of 7-yo boy

Posted 1 week ago

I am a single parent with a 7 year old and 1 year old. I plan to relocate back to our home town once I buy a house, hopefully by Christmas unless covid and other unexpected issues arise that delay...

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Disrespectful 8-Year-Old

Posted 1 week ago

We have noticed more ungrateful and entitled behavior in my 8 year old son recently. During a trip to the zoo, he became upset and was rude and disrespectful when I would not buy him food and ice...

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How to Deal With a 5-Year-Old Who Hits

Posted 1 week ago

Our son is 5 and just started kindergarten. He's had so many tough transitions this year with COVID lockdowns. One day in March his friends, preschool, extended family were all taken away and then...

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Time To Introduce The Potty Gate

Posted 1 week ago

We have been potty training my 22 month old for 2 months (8.5 weeks).He will only use the toilet if I catch him before he pees in his pants and have him go sit on it. If he needs to go before the...

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Difficult transition for a 4 year old.

Posted 1 week ago

Hello again, Gretchen, Thank you for your previous advice on not saying too much to my 4 year old about his father and I separation. I have followed the advice but my 4 year old is now having...

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Daytime vs Nighttime Dryness

Posted 2 weeks ago

My 2 year old daughter has been potty trained for 2 months now and is still wetting the bed at night how long should I give her until I use the blanket with a buzzer to wake her up when she pees ?

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Road to accident freedom

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hello! My two year old is recently potty trained using Naked and $75. He is doing so well with peeing on the potty at home, but we have two issues. He will not tell me when he needs to poop. He...

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It's my room

Posted 2 weeks ago

My 6 year old won’t allow her 3yr old brother in her room, especially if we are working on her homework. Unfortunately, there are times that I’m home alone and he needs to be with us. She try’s to...

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Mean behavior on playground

Posted 2 weeks ago

Advice please for mom of a strong-willed preschool girl age 4 who got into trouble at pre-school for being mean to other children. The teacher said she has tried talking to preschool girl about...

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Continue to beware of TMI

Posted 3 weeks ago

Hi, My 4 yr old grandsons mother walked out on the family 1 1/2 years ago. As he is aging he is asking more questions , and we are telling him it is not his fault, and that he has us, his dad and...

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Curing the Bedtime Blues

Posted 3 weeks ago

Our almost 2.5-year-old daughter started to refuse to go to sleep. She doesn’t take naps at home anymore (only at daycare) and was fully sleep trained before age one. It all started with her...

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Address the elephant in the room with teens.

Posted 4 weeks ago

Your previous advice has been very good and I am seeing improvements. Thank you. But my question today relates to school holidays and if I should leave my 2 kids home alone (age 13 & 15) while I...

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Music Matters

Posted 4 weeks ago

My son is 14. I let him have Spotify music not realizing the horrible explicit music. Rap. I recently found where he was listening to it. We don’t allow that in our home. I’m going to block the...

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Welcome to the Terrible Twos!

Posted on 8/30/2020

When I get ready in the morning I let my 21 month old play with cotton balls and bandaids and other non harmful bathroom supplies. When I was done I told him to pick up the the cotton balls (he...

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Actions Speak Louder Than Explanations

Posted on 8/30/2020

I have 2 questions: If a family has children of grade school age and want to begin using John's child rearing principals. What is the best way to begin? Sit the kids down and say "Things are...

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Entitled teen woes.

Posted on 8/29/2020

My daughter is 17, a good student, and active in extracurricular activities. Her teachers often say what a pleasure she is to have in their class. Her mother and I split almost two years ago and...

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Don't Play The Lying Game

Posted on 8/29/2020

My 7-year-old daughter has begun to tell lies. She was an honest child but lately, she has been lying so much to get herself out of trouble. She has started playing with a neighbor who lies and...

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Night Owl Habit

Posted on 8/28/2020

Still a daily struggle here and school is about to start. I gave in and allowed the computer back, but I cannot get this kid on a schedule of getting up for the day and sleeping at night. He is...

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Discouraging whining in a toddler

Posted on 8/23/2020

What is the best way to discourage excessive whining in a 3 year old toddler? She does not use any words, and instead relies on moaning or crying to communicate with people. This does not work...

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Explaining marital problems to a 4 year old.

Posted on 8/21/2020

About 5 days ago, my 4 year old son and I escaped a domestic violence situation. My husband is now in a behavioral health hospital for the unforeseen future and we have been staying at my dad’s...

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2-Year-Old and 4-Year-Old Can't Get Along

Posted on 8/20/2020

My 2 year old and my 4 year old seem to not be able to stay with each other for 5 min with out fitting over something ... should I say something or let them work it out because it seem like a...

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School Performance Ultimately Belongs to the Student

Posted on 8/20/2020

My son is going in the 3rd grade and so far has had great performance at school both with academics and behavior. When school went virtual in the spring, it was a horrible few months for both of...

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What Is A Normal 3 Year Old?

Posted on 8/19/2020

Our little boy turns 3 in a week. He is one of the youngest in his preschool class (cutoff is 9/1 and his birthday is 8/25) and some classmates have been 3 since last fall. I feel that he is...

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TIme to work with a coach.

Posted on 8/18/2020

Hi there. My husband and I have twin boys who will turn five years old at the end of October. Over the past few weeks, the competition between the two of them has really increased. I know that...

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Weed-be-Gone

Posted on 8/16/2020

My 15yo son admitted to me that a few months ago he took weed (THC) for about a week. Yesterday he and a friend took some more weed. I found out when his friend started feeling nauseated and dizzy...

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Stealing the Spotlight

Posted on 8/14/2020

Our three year old daughter still loves being the center of attention. She can occupy herself for a time, but it seems like a majority of her time is spent trying to get my attention, asking me to...

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Books about Boys

Posted on 8/12/2020

Hi, My husband and I are going to be taking custody of a 6 year old boy whose mother is a meth addict and has exposed him to major drug use including overdose by outsiders. He is remarkably well...

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Potty Bell and Gate

Posted on 8/12/2020

So my daughter is 2 and she used the potty gate And potty bell very well for one whole day should I remove the gate or should I keep using it ?

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Toys or No Toys for Bathroom Gate Time

Posted on 8/11/2020

Our bathroom is way to small to keep our 24 month old, so we decided to have the gate on my room door . So when they potty bell rings we take her to my room but I have no toys in there should I...

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Be careful of putting time limits on behavior change

Posted on 8/10/2020

My son is 3yrs 4 months and when he is sent to his room as punishment, our house becomes a war zone. He tantrums, throws things at or kicks his door (if shut), refuses to stay in his room (if the...

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Needy 5 year old

Posted on 8/10/2020

My soon to be ( in 2 months) 5 year old is extremely needy. He doesn't play by himself and if he does it is for a very short time. 20 to 30 minutes maybe. He will not go to sleep without one of us...

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Backtalking 8-Year-Old

Posted on 8/10/2020

I have a question about the ticket system. We are using tickets to focus on talking back from our 8 year old. Often when he loses a ticket for talking back, he continues as he makes his way to...

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Potty Training: Going Between The Bell

Posted on 8/10/2020

We have been potty training my 20 month old for 3 weeks. For about two of the weeks we have been doing the potty bell. He does well with the potty Bell and goes almost immediately once the bell...

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Tween Not Playing By the Rules

Posted on 8/10/2020

I have sent in a request for a coach, as you can see I have been having a difficult time with my 13 year old. I just experienced a tantrum again, it’s nightly for about a week now, how he is still...

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On-Fleek Slang a bit too Woke for Momma

Posted on 8/8/2020

I have a 14 year old boy that talks nonsense incessantly. He is a good-natured kid, and I don’t think he speaks out of malice. He picks on his sister and me almost constantly. For example, I will...

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Nipping the Kicking During Diaper Change

Posted on 8/4/2020

Recently my 20 month old grandson has begin kicking and generally screaming whenever his clothes/diapers are changed. He basically objects to the entire process. His kicks get hard and violent....

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No Good Reason For 7-Year-Old's Threat

Posted on 7/30/2020

I got a call from our daycare provider today saying our 7-year-old told his best friend that he was going to bring in a real gun and shoot him because the friend had taken something that belonged...

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Holding it

Posted on 7/29/2020

Two weeks into “Naked and $75” with my 21mo. boy and he’s been holding both his pee and poop until he’s in a diaper for nap or bedtime. When he can’t hold it until then, he runs around on his...

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Teen parenting adjustment.

Posted on 7/28/2020

We have a 16 yo son who we have caught recently lying and even snuck out of the house once (that we know of) with a couple friends. He does have a phone that he pays for monthly. But we have...

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Soldiers and Cars and Football-Card Stars: that's what little boys are made of

Posted on 7/26/2020

My child always wants me to play with him. He wants me to play football cards, army, cars boys games that I have absolutely no interest in. I feel forced and resentful so I say no, I can read...

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Toddler Wakes Up Multiple Times A Night...Exhausting!

Posted on 7/25/2020

My three year old has been up 6+ times in the night. It always starts out with him yelling "mama!" I've tried ignoring him but he wont stop until I come in and we live in close quarters and I cant...

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