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Girl--Boy

Posted 2 days ago

My granddaughter just turned 3 and has been saying she wants to be a boy. She wants to wear just t-shirts and shorts and hates dresses. It's been going on for quite a while but seems to be getting...

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Excessive Complaining

Posted 3 days ago

My question is about my thirteen-year-old daughter and her constant complaining whenever she's asked to do something that she doesn't want to do. She will get emotional and complain and argue, and...

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2 yo sleep troubles

Posted 4 days ago

We have had our 2 year old grandson since birth and have finally started adoption proceedings. He is a Fetal Alcohol Effect baby and is dealing with a number of delays. We have a speech,...

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Excessive Complaints from Teenage Girl

Posted 1 week ago

Hi. My question is about my thirteen year old daughter and her constant complaining whenever shes asked to do something that she doesn't want to do. She will get all.emmotional and complain and...

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3yr old out of control

Posted 1 week ago

My husband and I are struggling with finding the right disciplinary action for our 3 year old daughter. She has many meltdowns and tests our authority on a regular basis. We have found that taking...

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Clarification from John

Posted 1 week ago

I tried to send the following question as an email through your contact page because it is a question specifically for Mr. Rosemond, but I could not get it to submit (and yes I kept to the 400...

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Two home dilemma.

Posted 1 week ago

My 14 year old son is having a difficult time with me getting remarried. We have given him space and even dated for 2 years before we married. He is mad and I have mistakenly let him get away...

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Calm Down Please!

Posted 1 week ago

My daughter is now 8 1/2 - through the years I have written to you about her personality - last year she was diagnosed with Dyslexia - which has explained where the low self esteem has come from....

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Kindergartner frustrated by new immersion class

Posted 1 week ago

My 5 1/2 year old boy is having a hard time transitioning into a spanish immersion kindergarten. He's acting out by being very disruptive and sometimes "play hitting"/horsing around. We had...

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13 year old, 5 year old Squabbles

Posted 1 week ago

Hi ☺my question is about sibling conflict between my thirteen-year-old daughter and five-year-old son. They are constantly fighting! And they are basically just rude and disrespectful towards each...

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Teenage Girl Talks of Changing Gender

Posted 1 week ago

I have a grand daughter who is now announcing herself as a transmute. Her mother is in a lesbian relationship with a wonderful partner and they are marrying this year. My daughter has set some...

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11 yr old Effort and Responsibility

Posted 2 weeks ago

I am the Dad of an 11 year old (6th grade). She is not giving good effort at school. My wife and I have told her it is her responsibility and she needs to get help from the teachers, study...

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Screens are Everywhere!

Posted 2 weeks ago

I have a soon to be 13 year old grandson I have been raising since he was an infant. He was diagnosed ADD in first grade but delayed medication until 4th grade. The medication has really helped....

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Enough Talk?

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hello and Thank You for your help and guidance. We last asked a question in April. Here we are in September, back again and most appreciative. Our 7 year old was exposed to pornographic video on...

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What to Do About Screaming?

Posted 2 weeks ago

I have a 7 year old daughter who goes from 0-10 and screams loudly over tiny little things, and everyone rushes to her rescue (except us) when something happens. For instance, if she stubs her...

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Toddler Anxiety After Displacement

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hi there, we were affected by Hurricane Harvey. Our house flooded by a few inches, but we still had to relocate until we're able to redo some parts of our house. My husband, 24 month old son, and...

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Should Mom address home behavior or Math grade first?

Posted 2 weeks ago

Our 11 yr old daughter (6th grade) has some small/medium behaviors at home we would like to get under control with a Weekly Chart, but also is having trouble in Math at school (C)...other subjects...

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Same problem, same directive.

Posted 2 weeks ago

How do I get my 6yo boy to stop the constant whining/crying when he doesn't get his way, gets frustrated, and fighting with his 2 sisters. Help.... It's driving me nuts!!

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22 Month Old Toilet Training Tears

Posted 3 weeks ago

I started potty training my 22-month old daughter 3 days ago. I have read the toilet training book several times. I was using the N75 method the first 2 days. She refused to sit on the potty for...

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Daily Report Cards Help School Behaviors

Posted 3 weeks ago

I have a 7 year old who has been having problems at school and just recently we received a form from school saying that the school is requesting for social worker intervention, that is "the next...

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Off to a rocky start at Kindergarten!

Posted 3 weeks ago

For the 3rd time in 8 days my 5 year old has come home from Kindergarten with a bad report from the teacher. She's at a Catholic school, which we are very happy with, but she just can't seem to...

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3yr Twins and Ticket System

Posted 3 weeks ago

I've just read "The Well Behaved Child". I have 3yo twin boys. There are A LOT of things I want to work on but am taking your advice to only work on one at a time. I want to use the Ticket...

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When grandma interferes...

Posted 3 weeks ago

My parents live a few doors down from us and they and my kids (2 and 4) are all crazy about each other and love to spend time together. However, my mother has often tried to undermine my authority...

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AP Classes and Motivation

Posted 3 weeks ago

Hi! My son started high school a couple of weeks ago. He was placed in an advanced program where they start taking some AP classes in 9th grade. He has been against the program since we went to an...

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Change her circumstances- She'll change her behavior.

Posted 3 weeks ago

My daughter is 3 5 months years old and is having potty training trouble. She showed great interest and the "classic" signs of readiness at 2 years old but then became very resistant and finally...

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14 yr old peer pressure

Posted 3 weeks ago

My 14 year old daughter has an 'interesting' group of friends at her government school, who seem to be able to manipulate their parents. We are zoned for this school and cannot afford a private...

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When a Child Chooses the Wrong Friends

Posted 3 weeks ago

My 14-year-old son started in a new, academically-driven private school for high school. He became friends immediately with his peer group on the football team and we've allowed him some new...

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Pay Your Way

Posted 3 weeks ago

Hello, I've been asking questions for a few years now about my daughter. I've read John's book "The Well Behaved Child." My question regarding my now 7 year old daughter is this: How do I...

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No More Lies

Posted 3 weeks ago

Hello Again, While I appreciate the quick reply to my last question, it didn't address the primary question in the post. The issue wasn't eating in the cafeteria. That was a result of the...

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Stop Feeding the Beast

Posted 3 weeks ago

HI there, We are currently disciplining our 6 year old daughter for not eating her lunch most days. The problem she claims is that they turn on the TV during lunch so she doesn't eat. She also...

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Go to Sleep!

Posted 4 weeks ago

My 26 month old boy/girl twins are suddenly experiencing sleep issues after we moved them from a shared to separate rooms soon after converting their cribs to toddler beds. They have been great...

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Six year old girl needs to play!

Posted on 8/23/2017

I am having trouble balancing my 6 year old's responsibilities at home. She started school this year (prep) - the year before grade 1. She's at school from 8:30am - 3pm. By the time we arrive...

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Mealtime Meltdowns Revisited

Posted on 8/23/2017

This is a follow up question to a previously asked question about my daughter's eating habits at breakfast. Things have gotten off track a bit with the start of Kindergarten for my son. Now that...

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11 Year Old Is Disrespectful And "Plays the Victim"

Posted on 8/23/2017

My 11 year old daughter is playing the victim. Nothing is ever her fault and she takes no responsibility for anything. She's petulant, disrespectful and downright rude to peers, coaches, adults...

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Testing 1, 2, 3!

Posted on 8/23/2017

What do you do when a 2 (almost 3 year old) doesn't listen? I try to only give directions once and then I try to act on it. If it's something like putting his shoes on I simply put them on him...

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Being Accountable

Posted on 8/22/2017

Our 9 year old daughter (4th grade) is mean to other students, threatens them etc. She is in a private, Catholic school. We have kicked her out of the Garden and revoked all privileges. Now, she...

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8 yr old not fair sis gets everything/sad

Posted on 8/22/2017

My 8 year old grandson is often a gregarious, fun loving child who loves sports. My son and daugher-in-law, who both work full time, have provided a fairly structured home life with routines for...

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Why "why" doesn't really matter.

Posted on 8/21/2017

I have a 5 year old daughter who will start kindergarten in 4 days. I have used the 6 block chart for behavior issues with good success. For some reason, the last several weeks have seen her...

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Thriving at four - between two families.

Posted on 8/21/2017

Our soon to be 4 grandson now has a parenting contract between our son and the child's mother. They were never married. The contract was made by the biological mother and my son's new wife, who...

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Questions about the Ticket System

Posted on 8/21/2017

A couple of months ago, we started the ticket system on our 5 year old son. It has worked relatively well. There are 2 target behaviors: whining and not listening when he is asked to do...

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Being consistent.

Posted on 8/21/2017

Our 9 year old daughter has a legion of home and school misbehaviors (primarilly tantrums/hitting at home and agression/defiance at school) that have been occuring for years. After reading "The...

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Late Start on Potty Training with almost-3 year old

Posted on 8/21/2017

Getting a late start on potty training my 34 month old. I've read the Potty Training book but am not clear on night time routine as it relates to bedding. Since she shouldn't sleep in anything...

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Potty Bell

Posted on 8/21/2017

Our 2 1/2 year old daughter (our second child. First one also trained easily using N75) began potty training about a month and a half ago using the N75 method. She will potty or have a bowel...

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5 yo Bedtime Wetness

Posted on 8/21/2017

My five year old boy has been potty trained since he was three but has been peeing in his bedroom mostly at night. He will pee in his toys or a toy chest, he chooses places that can hide his pee. ...

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10 Year Old's Life of Disobedience

Posted on 8/18/2017

My very bright 10-year-old son simply refuses to obey. He is child #2 of 4 kids. He seems to take up all of our parenting energy. He spent a lot of time in the office for the first half of grade...

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5 yo refuses to stay in room

Posted on 8/17/2017

Sort of follow up on last question/sort of a new question - for my almost 5-year old - I have been doing the pass system at night for 3 weeks and it's not going well. He ends up spending several...

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Bedtime woes

Posted on 8/13/2017

My older son will be 5 next month and shares a room with my middle child, who is 3.5 years old this month. My almost-5 year old has started having nighttime fears and is coming out of his room a...

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8 yo No Birthday Celebration While Punished?

Posted on 8/13/2017

This is follow up question that was answered by Tim Bonzagni regarding "8 yro hurting others using ticket system." After having the discussion with the 8 yro about hurting others and the lack...

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7 Year Old's Nihilistic Talk

Posted on 8/11/2017

I have a 7 year old son who just happily started second grade. He is extremely bright and normal in every way. No major discipline problems, no unexplained behavior. Sometimes he complains...

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Can't tell who is in charge.

Posted on 8/11/2017

What is the impact on a child when one parent challenges, contradicts, minimizes, dismisses the other parent's dealing with a child in front of the child? We just spent a week of vacation with...

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