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Much Appreciated Feedback

Posted 4 days ago

I don't know if this is the proper forum for this, but I wanted to thank you for all your work and also share a story with you. I have a seven year old who wakes himself up in the morning for...

Pull up and Potty Problems

Posted 1 week ago

My 3yr old son is almost fully potty trained. He still wears a pull-up at night and he is very inconsistent about using the toilet to go poop. He has a very hard time going poop all together. I...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Toilet Training

You're in Charge Now

Posted 1 week ago

Okay so I’m ready to administer a discipline plan for my daughter. My questions are; 1. How much is too much? I’m ready to take a lot of her favorite things away. But, what about life...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Arguments with Children, Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, John's Discipline Methods, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior, Respect

Parent Apologies: Choosing Relationship Over Being Right with Adult Child

Posted 1 week ago

This question builds off of a prior one answered by Gretchen Slover. Last summer, my 18-year-old daughter lost about 15-20 pounds. She was at about 130 at her peak and in good shape. My ex-wife...

Ages: Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years), Older Teen/High School (16-18 years), Young Adult (19-25 years)

Topics: ADHD and other disorders, Arguments with Children, Character/Values (teaching), Father, Food/Eating Problems, Mealtime/Eating, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Miscellaneous Editorial Columns, Respect, Single Parents, Step-Families, Teenage Issues

Anxiety taking the wheel

Posted 1 week ago

My 12-year-old niece is experiencing out-of-control anxiety. She says thoughts keep repeating themselves over and over in her head. She's even experienced anxiety about having anxiety. My sister...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Anxieties, Fears

Perfect time for a reset

Posted 1 week ago

Our 9yo girls currently rule the roost. They speak to us flippantly, complain constantly, whine and pester after receiving a "no" answer, expect others to fetch/carry for them, ignore directives...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Aggression, Alpha Speech, Arguments with Children, Bullies/Bullying, Chores/Responsibilities, Disobedience/Defiance, Manners, Parent Leadership and Authority, Respect, Sibling Conflict, Social Issues (fighting/arguing with friends), Tantrums

Silly Bedtime Brothers

Posted 1 week ago

Our older two boys, 5 and 7, go crazy at bedtime. They are silly, which is fine, but in being silly they make messes and are often disrespectful. After going to bed, we can hear them laughing and...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years), School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Alpha Speech, Bedtime/Sleep, Character/Values (teaching), Disobedience/Defiance, John's Discipline Methods, Miscellaneous Editorial Columns, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Play

question previously answered

Posted 1 week ago

I found an answer to my last question. I keyed in the wrong key words, but kept searching after I posted the question. Thank you.

Posted 1 week ago

Inside the back flap of the booklet within "The Perfect Parenting Plan" are two websites for study questions. Neither site is active. Is there another location for this resource of this...

Mom Wants to Put a Lid on Son's Potty Talk

Posted 1 week ago

Hello, We have a 4.5 year old son. He has been using the word "poop" in everything. Trying to be funny. Or trying to get a rise? Depends. Here are a couple of examples.. I am 33 weeks pregnant...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Parent Leadership and Authority, Socialization/Social Skills

question previously answered

Posted 1 week ago

I have custody of a seven-year-old. Every time he is introduced to a new kid and he plays with them, he emulates their bad behavior.. as an example, all of a sudden his behavior was that of a...

If I Could Save Time in a Battle---When Siblings Collide

Posted 2 weeks ago

When doing the conference room for sibling conflict what do you do if all they do is yell and fight while in there? Currently I just add more time when they start fighting. Sometimes it helps...

Ages: No Specific Age

Topics: Sibling Conflict

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hi, Can you please refund me? I've been charged twice for the yearly subscription. Thank you

3 year old night-time blues

Posted 2 weeks ago

Our two oldest children are boys and share a room. They are ages 3 and 6. In general, our nighttime routine is pretty streamlined and they are in bed around 7:30. They go to bed easily but in the...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Bedtime/Sleep

Consistency is Key to Re-establishing Nighttime Sleep Routine

Posted 2 weeks ago

I sleep trained my second when he was 11 months old, then we went on vacation and fell back into the bad habit of letting him sleep in our bed. He is now 14 months old, I’m pregnant and due in...

Ages: Birth to 18MOS

Topics: Bedtime/Sleep, Parent Leadership and Authority

18 month old Wetting Bed and Doesn’t Care

Posted 3 weeks ago

My 18-month-old could care less about his wet sheets in the morning or after naptime, and I am getting very tired of doing laundry twice a day (I am 8 months pregnant). Do you think putting a...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Bedtime/Sleep, Bedwetting, Toilet Training

18 month old Screams on the Potty

Posted 3 weeks ago

We are potty training our 18-month-old boy and are on day 5. The first day he screamed when I introduced him to the little potty, but slowly he was sometimes ok with sitting on it. My husband...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Tantrums, Toilet Training

What to Say, What to Do?

Posted 3 weeks ago

How much to say of what we know? We randomly review our 15 year old daughter's school laptop. We just did so for the first time this school year a few days ago. We found screenshots of messages...

Ages: Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years)

Topics: Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, Electronics (Computers/Video Games/Television/Cell Phones), Parent Leadership and Authority, Teenage Issues

One Day at a Time

Posted 3 weeks ago

I have a 22-month old boy and a 2-month old little girl. My husband is with the state national guard and started his basic training a month or so ago, is now back for Christmas, and will go back...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Daycare/Preschool, Father, Grandparents/Grandchildren, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority

Importance of Presenting a United Parenting Front

Posted 3 weeks ago

This may be a complicated question: I have a question about my and my husband's parenting styles. I come from a conservative background, my parents were old school and traditional. Lots of...

Ages: No Specific Age, Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old), Preschool (4-5 years), School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Alpha Speech, Character/Values (teaching), Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, Father, John's Discipline Methods, Marriage Issues, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Miscellaneous Editorial Columns, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority

Parent Update

Posted 4 weeks ago

Just realized that I asked a question on 12/15 only to ask an updated version on 12/30 again, without realizing my first question was indeed answered! Sorry for whoever gets it twice. I read the...

Shy 7 Year Old

Posted 4 weeks ago

My 7 year old first-grader has trouble joining into social situations. He plays well with his 5 year old brother, but with peers, he goes off on his own, and will tell stories to himself (I...

Ages: No Specific Age, Preschool (4-5 years), School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Extracurricular Activities/Hobbies, John's Discipline Methods, Manners, Miscellaneous Editorial Columns, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Play, Self-Esteem, Shyness, Social Issues (fighting/arguing with friends), Socialization/Social Skills

Posted 4 weeks ago

We have an 8-year-old son who throws violent tantrums. He has always been “a handful” so these fits aren’t anything new, they’re less frequent but much more destructive. In the past, we had a...

Topics: Aggression, Consequences/Punishment, Disobedience/Defiance, Rebellious Behavior

Disciplining With Tickets When Grandma Comes to Town

Posted 4 weeks ago

I just got your book, "The Well Behaved Child," and today I began using tickets (and Alpha speech) for my just 5-year-old son who is very loving and sweet but would be considered a "high...

Ages: No Specific Age, Toddler (18MOS-3 years), Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old), Preschool (4-5 years), School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Alpha Speech, Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, Grandparents/Grandchildren, John's Discipline Methods, Manners, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Miscellaneous Editorial Columns, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior, Respect, Sibling Conflict, Socialization/Social Skills

Frustrating Food Drama with 5-Year-Old

Posted on 12/28/2021

My 5 year old says she’s hungry often during the day. When I offer her options she doesn’t want any of them. It’s getting quite frustrating, especially at bedtime.

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Food/Eating Problems, John's Discipline Methods, Mealtime/Eating, Parent Leadership and Authority

Put the Brakes on 2.5-Year-Old Thrower

Posted on 12/27/2021

My non verbal 2.5 year old is a thrower. Especially at the face. She will throw toys in my face. She will throw her food and cutlery at my 8 year old son in the face. I don’t know what to do,...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Aggression, Alpha Speech, Consequences/Punishment, Parent Leadership and Authority, Terrible Twos

Battle over devices

Posted on 12/22/2021

My son is 11 and this is his first year in middle school. He has to use an ipad for school and this thing has been nothing but a nightmare. He is currently grounded right now (confined to his room...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Electronics (Computers/Video Games/Television/Cell Phones)

Rollercoaster years.

Posted on 12/20/2021

My 3 year old grandson was a lovely, sweet, fun 2 year old. Is 3 known for being a bit rude? I used to facetime and have nice talks. Now he will not talk and if prodded by mom not to be rude,...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Grandparents/Grandchildren

Rocked His World

Posted on 12/15/2021

Hello. My husband and I have two kids, one 20-month old boy and one 2-month old girl. The younger one is an easy baby and the older one likes his baby sister (exhibited by kissing her all the...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Disobedience/Defiance, Father, Grandparents/Grandchildren, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior

Fear of the New

Posted on 12/15/2021

Our Foster son (8 years old) who we will be adopting in the next 6 months (working on paperwork and all the legal stuff that goes with it) has a very low self esteem and melts down and has a full...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Adoption/Foster Parent, Character/Values (teaching), Chores/Responsibilities, Extracurricular Activities/Hobbies, Homeschooling, Parent Leadership and Authority, Self-Esteem, Socialization/Social Skills

Finding Herself

Posted on 12/15/2021

Second question... We have 2 foster kiddos we're adopting. I have an 11 year old foster daughter who is really an amazing, respectful and happy girl. She really struggles with figuring out who...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Adoption/Foster Parent, Character/Values (teaching), Parent Leadership and Authority, Self-Esteem

What to do when he says, "no"

Posted on 12/10/2021

Our third son is turning 3 in about a week. He has started saying "no" when we tell him to do something, and then runs away when we try to discipline him. We have been resorting to spanking...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years), Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old)

Topics: Alpha Speech, Daycare/Preschool, Disobedience/Defiance

Getting to the finish line with potty training

Posted on 12/8/2021

Our 3 year old daughter has been doing N75 for 5 days and has progressed very well and is intimating in the toilet and rarely having accidents, maybe just a little urine in her panties before she...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years), Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old)

Topics: Toilet Training

I am Woman, Hear Me Roar---Even Though I'm Only 4!

Posted on 12/7/2021

I am at my wits end. I am doing my best to do the ticket system with my children. My 4 year old daughter has maybe made it 1 day, at least until bedtime, without losing all of her tickets since we...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, John's Discipline Methods, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior, Tantrums

Clarifying the Garden Kick

Posted on 12/4/2021

Does kicking out of the garden mean the child is confined to their new boring room for the duration of the time? Do you restrict them from playing outside with sibblings or friends? Can they...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years), Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years), Older Teen/High School (16-18 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, Electronics (Computers/Video Games/Television/Cell Phones), John's Discipline Methods, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Miscellaneous Editorial Columns, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior, Respect, Teenage Issues

Friends, Fun, and Four Year Olds

Posted on 11/28/2021

My question is about how much socialization with peers is needed for my four year old son? We plan on homeschooling our kids and therefore do not have our son enrolled in preschool. Because of the...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Homeschooling, Socialization/Social Skills

Leave Christmas Alone

Posted on 11/27/2021

Currently my daughter has lost all her toys until her behavior improves. If she hasn’t changed her behavior by Christmas, is it wrong not to allow her to open presents on Christmas Day but require...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Disobedience/Defiance, John's Discipline Methods, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior

Awakened Mom Wants Respectful 8 year old Son

Posted on 11/24/2021

I have a 7, almost 8 year old son, who has not ever been appropriately disciplined and has developed into a challenging and, dare I say, entitled child. He has little respect for me and when I...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Alpha Speech, Disobedience/Defiance, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior, Respect

8-Year-Old Ruling the Roost (Follow-up)

Posted on 11/24/2021

Okay in regards to my prior question. I purchased the book. Thank you. Can you please tell me some examples of what you mean right now so I can start turning the tables ASAP! Instead of...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Aggression, Alpha Speech, Arguments with Children, Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior

Reading in the Morning or Reading in the Evening? Raising a Reader with Learning Challenges

Posted on 11/18/2021

I am homeschool my 7 year old child/grandchild. His Mother was diagnosed at age 7 with dyslexia and an auditory processing disorder by Dr Lucia Karnes which made me confident the assessment was...

Ages: No Specific Age, School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years), Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years)

Topics: ADHD and other disorders, Character/Values (teaching), Developmental Issues (e.g. late talking), Grandparents/Grandchildren, Homeschooling, Learning Disabilities, Miscellaneous Editorial Columns, Parent Leadership and Authority, School Issues, Self-Esteem

8-Year-Old Ruling the Roost

Posted on 11/18/2021

Our 8 year old daughter is very challenging. Disrespectful. Her response to small inconveniences or demands is disproportionate/ over exaggerated to say the least. Rude to other children, when...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Alpha Speech, Disobedience/Defiance, John's Discipline Methods, Parent Leadership and Authority

Nip It. Nip It Good.

Posted on 11/17/2021

Hi ParentGuru, I have a question about our 5yr old son who has come home from prep (1st year of primary school here in Melbourne Australia) after an incident in which he threw another student's...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Bullies/Bullying, Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, John's Discipline Methods, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior, Respect, School Issues, Tantrums

4 year old working the system

Posted on 11/14/2021

Hello, I am just beginning the ticket strategy with my 4 yr old and I have a couple questions that I am unable to find the answer too. 1. If the very last ticket is lost while already getting...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years)

A Sock in the Crotch: Focus on the Sock, not the Crotch

Posted on 11/12/2021

I did not find this on the very long list of topics so here goes: got a call from the teacher of my 6-year old grandson who said he is super bright- math and reading ( not sure if this is relevant...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Aggression, School Issues

Some questions require medical expertise

Posted on 11/12/2021

My 16 yr old son has had encopresis for about 12 years. He developed severe constipation. Doctor tells us to use Miralax change diet drink more water eat more fiber, etc. My son refuses to...

Ages: Older Teen/High School (16-18 years)

Change Tactics to Curb 5-Year-Old's Outbursts

Posted on 11/11/2021

My otherwise mild-mannered son who just turned 5 has a habit of making vocal outbursts like a crazed lunatic or someone with mental problems. It's usually excited yelling or forced laughter...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Consequences/Punishment, Developmental Issues (e.g. late talking), Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out)

Change can happen but will it?

Posted on 11/6/2021

My 29 year old grandson is a higher functioning autistic boy. As long as I can remember, this boy will not stop stealing.He is always remorseful after the fact, but it is just a matter of time...

Ages: Young Adult (19-25 years)

Topics: Consequences/Punishment

Keep Potty Training Positive- Don't Punish For Accidents

Posted on 11/2/2021

Hi, our daughter is 2yrs 10mo old. We potty trained her 9 months ago using the “naked and $75” method from John Rosemond’s book Toilet Training Without Tantrums. Potty training clicked with her...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years), Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old), Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Alpha Speech, Bedwetting, Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Daycare/Preschool, John's Discipline Methods, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Miscellaneous Editorial Columns, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Toilet Training

Transition from Nap Time to Quiet Time

Posted on 11/2/2021

Hi, our daughter is 2yrs, 10mo old. What age is appropriate for naps to go away? Our daughter fights naps nearly every day. The problem is that if she doesn’t get a nap is she gets extremely...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years), Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old), Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Alpha Speech, Bedtime/Sleep, Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, John's Discipline Methods, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Miscellaneous Editorial Columns, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Play, Respect, Socialization/Social Skills, Tantrums, Terrible Twos