Questions

Why Is My 5 Year Old a Mean Girl?

Posted 1 week ago

Our 5-year-old daughter has been acting aggressively towards others (classmates in school AND her 7-year-old brother) when either she doesn't like what they do or they won't let her do whatever...

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Post Vacay Reset

Posted 1 week ago

We recently went on a trip that was 13 days long. There was lots of drive time as we went to see different friends, family, and attended a wedding. Before the trip I could see that our two kids (3...

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Never spar with a picky eater.

Posted 2 weeks ago

My daughter (3 yrs.) has become a picky eater. Before she would occasionally be picky but most of the time did pretty decent with what we gave her. But she has recently been a very picky eater. I...

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Nighttime Potty Training a 4-Year-Old

Posted 2 weeks ago

My daughter is 4 and I've been putting off nighttime potty training until the school year ends because sleep deprivation turns her into a bear. Once school is over, I plan to start with John's...

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Moody Blues

Posted 3 weeks ago

Our 10-year-old son has started having huge mood swings. He gets easily angry, grumpy, and irritable. What is the best way to handle mood swings? We provide consequences for misbehavior, but how...

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5 YO GIRL SELF-STIMULATING

Posted 3 weeks ago

Hi John, Your work has been of immense value for our family! We have two little girls (5 and 2). The 5 y/o has been touching her vagina quite frequently. It started to concern us a few...

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Don't micromanage a 19 year old.

Posted 3 weeks ago

My son is almost 19, planning to attend college away from home in the fall. I've been trying for years to limit his tv and phone/screen time. I've been told he's too old for this change. I...

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Time to get their attention

Posted 4 weeks ago

Hi I wrote in 10 days ago and never heard back. We’re struggling with bedtime. We have 2 girls, ages 5 and 3. We moved them into the same bedroom about a month ago. We read another response to...

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How to Deal with 13-Year-Old’s Misbehavior at Home

Posted 4 weeks ago

Do you recommend the Ticket system for a 13-year-old girl who is not getting along with a younger sibling, and is very stubborn about getting her way? She does well in school and is respectful...

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Frustration Stifles Change

Posted on 4/14/2024

I am feeling a great sense of failure because I've been trying to apply John’s principles for most of my child's life and this is where we are: <uL> <il>• 16-year-old son is addicted to his...

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Son and Mom Problem

Posted on 4/9/2024

Hi. 13-Year-old boy. Home school, avid reader, no screens, movies on weekend. Tennis player. Plays outside. I love everything Rosemond. But I have never been great at putting it into effect. My...

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Should My Teen Miss Prom?

Posted on 4/9/2024

What is your advice regarding grounding teenagers such that they miss major milestone events or rites of passage? I would greatly like to avoid punishments such as missing prom or graduation;...

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Micro Mom-Ager Neighbor

Posted on 3/30/2024

We live on a street where there are a lot of kids. My boys, 9 and 11 years old, are outside all the time playing and my house tends to be the place where all the kids play. If my kids or other...

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The Grass Really Isn’t Greener on the Other Side

Posted on 3/25/2024

My 10-year-old daughter seems always to think the grass is greener somewhere else. For example, we homeschool, which she enjoys, but often expresses her wish to return to regular school, and when...

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Don't talk so much

Posted on 3/21/2024

My 4 year old daughter has been having problems listening and following directions, particularly at her after school program. She gets written up at least once a week and has been suspended from...

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My Daughter is Refusing Foods at Mealtime

Posted on 3/21/2024

Hello, my 13-month-old is refusing to eat what we are serving her at lunch or dinner. She has no problems with the eggs in the morning even when I add vegetables or meats. She will either just...

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Challenges to challenging behaviors.

Posted on 3/20/2024

Our 5.5 year old boy consistently whines, cries or throws mild tantrums at disappointments. We recognize this is inappropriate, but have struggled to have victory in this area. Typically, when...

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Not Listening the First Time

Posted on 3/20/2024

We believe in the necessity of our children obeying the first time they are told-without challenge, delay or excuse. However, we also wish to walk the tightrope of a loving, nourishing home,...

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Legal questions need legal answers

Posted on 3/20/2024

Our almost 7 year old son was caught fingering a 5 year old boy cousin in the butt. Our son said they both were doing this with each other and smelling their finger. Our son deeply regrets the...

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POSITIVE PARENTING SOLUTIONS?

Posted on 3/19/2024

Hi John, What are your thoughts on Positive Parenting Solutions? Thank you. Linda

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Upping the Ante Not Working with Misbehaving 5YO

Posted on 3/17/2024

We have a 5 year old who continues to disobey. We tell her “go upstairs it’s time to brush your teeth.” Or “It’s time to clean up your legos.” And she’ll say, “No!” If we up the ante and say,...

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11 yo GIRL HAVING LOTS OF SCHOOL-RELATED BEHAVIOR PROBLEMS

Posted on 3/12/2024

I have an 11 yo daughter whose behavior has been digressing since September of 2023. She was attending a private Christian school. She did well the first 5 weeks then started exhibiting behaviors...

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Ask Me No Questions and I’ll Tell You No Lies

Posted on 3/8/2024

Lately, I’ve noticed my 6-year-old daughter telling lies. One day she was playing with her baby sister, and I suddenly heard the baby cry like she was in pain, so I figured she hurt herself in...

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Time to Show you Mean Business

Posted on 3/7/2024

Hi! Today, after telling my 9 year old son no, he could not take Pokemon cards to school, he snuck them in his backpack and took them anyway. The teacher called me. She also told me he brought a...

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Address Marital Issues First

Posted on 3/7/2024

How do you handle an out-of-control 16-year-old son when your husband is a "gentle" parent who uses non-stop, condescending "teacher talk" to discipline, and shoots down my attempts at "scary"...

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Handling the death of a parent.

Posted on 3/5/2024

Hello, My 15 year daughter's mother passed away. Her mother and I split a long time ago. I'm so sad that my daughter has to go through this so young. My daughter does have a "step mom" so...

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Bluey Blues

Posted on 3/3/2024

I've discovered the Australian kids' show, Bluey. My 7-year-old boy knows about it and has seen some episodes. I'm skeptical of all things aimed at children. I've probably watched 8-10 episodes...

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Choices for Children?

Posted on 2/28/2024

Hello, listening to John's podcast. Great stuff. When is it permissible to allow a child a choice? I understand John speaks against 'democratic' parenting but would be good to hear a podcast...

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"Special Tantrum Place" for Tantrums

Posted on 2/28/2024

My son (21 months) is in full blown “terrible twos.” He does lots of throwing fits. When they happen he gets a swat on the bottom and has to sit in his bed until he will be sweet and say he’s...

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12 yr old boy acting up at school, then covering it up

Posted on 2/27/2024

Our 12 y/o son, who attends a small Christian school, was disciplined at school for crude jesters, at the lunch table in regards to a banana. In his meeting with principle, he was to write letter...

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Grandparent's observation.

Posted on 2/27/2024

My almost 4 year old(in one month) Grand Daughter vigorously fights her parents over many things. In the morning, she fights over the choice of clothes and getting dressed(30-45 mins). She often...

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Fill His Glass

Posted on 2/23/2024

My 9-year-old son is very negative lately. He seems focused on the "bad" parts of the world. He is worried and frustrated about big problems in the world like destroying the environment, for...

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Hide and seek marriage.

Posted on 2/22/2024

I am married but in a lot of ways feel like a single mother. Our 2 kids are quite busy toddlers. My husband often works late (not because he has to but because he wants to) and when he is home he...

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DOES JOHN HAVE ANY RECOMMENDATIONS FOR COUNSELOR TRAINING?

Posted on 2/21/2024

Hello. My youngest will start high school in the fall, so I'm thinking that I may go back to work in a few years which means it's a good time to start looking into a few options now. I'm very much...

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Disruptive Diner

Posted on 2/21/2024

Our youngest child is 5 and was adopted as an infant (not a newborn). He has strong food preferences. Our other boys (biological) eat well; they can be picky at times, but we don't fix special...

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14 YO GIRL NEEDS CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT CLASSES?

Posted on 2/20/2024

My stepdaughter is 14. She makes good decisions but has anger issues. Yesterday I caught her climbing over a gate to the jacuzzi in our condo complex — we have a key, but she didn’t want to get...

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Parenting role confusion.

Posted on 2/20/2024

In his podcast, John often asserts that mothers are prone to gentle parenting and erroneous thinking that their children should "like" them. Since husbands/fathers should be leading, what advice...

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14 year old daughter is rude and mean

Posted on 2/17/2024

Recently I had asked a question concerning my 14 yr old daughter's manipulitive behavior. She now has been living with her dad primarily for almost 3 months. My family (outside members as well)...

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Child Sneaking out of Room for Snacks

Posted on 2/17/2024

When using the Doctor Method and sending your kids to bed early, what do you do when your kid is then so well rested, wakes up before everyone else, and rummages through the kitchen? My 5-year-old...

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Require Independent Play

Posted on 2/17/2024

We are trying to promote our kids to be more independent with regards to their play. They are all boys ages 9, 7 and 5. They can play independently, but still want me to play with them and often...

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Big Girl Voice

Posted on 2/14/2024

Re the most recent question about the 5 yr. old whining, interrupting. What would the advice be for a 26-month-old, who basically does the same thing? Time outs don’t seem to affect her.

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Podcast Question

Posted on 2/10/2024

My husband and I love John’s materials. We introduced all our kids to John’s approach. Our daughter is having great success Just wondering, is John playing the intro to the “Because I said...

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Teaching Manners to a Five-Year-Old

Posted on 2/7/2024

During a recent visit to a private school we are considering sending our daughter to, I found it difficult to have a conversation with the school staff due to my daughter's constant whining and...

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11 GIRL ACTING BRASSY

Posted on 2/5/2024

My 11 year old daughter has recently been in trouble for swearing at a teacher, saying “f*** you” because she was embarrassed after her own disobedience to requests to be quiet resulted in a more...

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Fostering Responsible Decision Making

Posted on 2/3/2024

Our 11 y/o son is in 5th grade at a private Christian school and we pay for him to have weekly trumpet lessons. He doesn't really practice though. I told him that if he wants to keep having mom...

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Lying 2.5-Year-Old??

Posted on 1/30/2024

My 2.5 year old daughter has started lying and it is quickly becoming a big issue in our home. I know that John says something like, “Ask no questions, they’ll tell you lies.” So I have tried to...

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Mom and Grandma Working Together

Posted on 1/30/2024

My 26 month old granddaughter whom I watch 3x a week is pretty well behaved, naps without fussing, picks up toys. She has occasional outbursts when is refused something , but a very short 2-3...

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Figure out how to not take it personally.

Posted on 1/29/2024

Hi, we have 4 children. Our oldest is 9 and adopted through foster care. Has been with us since a baby. She has had intermittent food issues like eating until she throws up as a toddler, but that...

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Keep the Joy, Lose the Chatter

Posted on 1/25/2024

I have a 7 year old daughter, she should have been named Joy. Always happy, loves people. However, she has a tendency to talk incessantly, and never wants to be alone. She has friends, and cousins...

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The Doctor Comes to Call

Posted on 1/24/2024

I have twin three-year-old girls (& a 6yo girl). For many reasons I have co-slept with the twins (husband’s 48-hour shift work, breastfeeding, etc.). I have slowly worked up to the point where we...

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