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Managing high conflict parenting.

Posted 3 days ago

Per parenting plan 9y/o son & 12y/o daughter may contact dad at will. Recently, ex demanded I make sure the kids call every day, then started ordering them to call at certain times. He will...

Change your parenting direction

Posted 3 days ago

My son who is 8 is being disruptive before/during schooltime. He thinks it is funny. He tried to stuff someone's lunch into someone else's lunchbox (not even his own) yesterday. He takes things...

Embracing 'Season 1' of Your Child's Life

Posted 3 weeks ago

My 6-month-old baby boy constantly wants to be picked up and held. Whenever I try to set him down, he fusses until I hold him again. How can I help redirect his attention and encourage him to...

Getting creative with your space

Posted 4 weeks ago

My four-year-old daughter shares a bedroom with her seventeen-year-old sister. Can you recommend an alternative consequence for tickets that would be as effective as sending her to her room for...

Calm Consequences: Teaching Accountability

Posted on 12/26/2024

I am a single mom of 5-year-old twin boys. They are generally well-behaved, thanks to reading your books multiple times, but I’ve noticed they often don’t follow through on instructions. For...

Mom Frustrated With 6YO Not Following Directives

Posted on 12/26/2024

Hello, I'm having issues with my 6 year old following directions and doing things the first time she's asked. I have made her a check list to help her organize her tasks which has helped. If I...

Guidance on Disciplining Autistic Child

Posted on 12/16/2024

I have a 7-year-old daughter who is autistic and a slow learner, but she is capable in her own way. She has been slower to learn how to talk, but she has understood the word 'no' for a long time....

How to hold 5 yro's accountable

Posted on 12/14/2024

I am a single mom of twin boys that are 5. Their father and I have been in court most of the last year in a custody battle. My boys are typically well behaved thanks to reading your books...

Give Them an Inch...

Posted on 12/8/2024

We are in the process of resetting a slew of bad behaviors (sibling conflict, avoiding responsibility are currently the focus). I'm seeing an increase in defiance/disobedience, both directly and...

The Cost of Being the Boss

Posted on 12/8/2024

We have tried to make sure that our children know that my husband and I are the bosses in this home. We work on them waiting their turn to talk, saying yes sir and yes ma’am, please and thank you,...

Disciplining Autistic 7YO

Posted on 12/8/2024

I have a 7 year old girl. She is autistic and is a slow learner but isn't incapable. She has been slow in learning how to talk but has known and understood the word no for a long time. I'm having...

Tattling vs important information- 4 yro

Posted on 12/3/2024

At what point should we discipline for tattle telling? Our 4 year old loves to tell us when our 1-year old is doing something "wrong." My problem is that sometimes the information she gives me is...

Managing Toddler Aggression with Calm Leadership

Posted on 12/1/2024

Our 2-year-old son has been struggling with aggressive behaviors such as hitting, pulling hair, pushing, poking, grabbing (to the point of making his sister scream), and biting when he is...

Managing Daytime Wetting in Children

Posted on 11/30/2024

My 7-year-old daughter has recently started having daytime accidents where her pants are slightly wet—not full accidents, just a little damp. This only happens during the day; she doesn’t wet the...

Create opportunities for personal responsibility.

Posted on 11/29/2024

Hello, my daughter is 8 years old and was diagnosed with being on the autistic spectrum this summer. She’s very mean to her younger sister, 6. She gets angry at the slightest thing. Almost always...

POTTY TRAINING WITH 22 MONTH OLD

Posted on 11/22/2024

Please help us with potty training! We used "Naked and $75" with our oldest child and it worked great. Our next child, however (22 months) is really struggling. We've been doing it for 6 weeks...

From 2 year old bully to well behaved boy

Posted on 11/19/2024

Our 2 yr son has been struggling with lots of hitting, pulling hair, pushing, poking, grabbing (until his sister is screaming), biting, etc. towards anyone who displeases him. His 3 yr sister gets...

Should I be concerned about what my children think of ME!!!!!!

Posted on 11/16/2024

What should the response be when my 6 year old daughter says "you dont love me," or "I don't think you love me" when something is taken away from her or she's punished?

4 BOYS ARE BOYS; THEREFORE, THEY ARE MESSY

Posted on 11/13/2024

I’m happy to report that the villain/victim drama has been resolved, with incidents only once a week. I hear whispers of “Please, let’s work this out so we don’t have to go sit for an hour.” I’m...

8 YEAR OLD SLOB

Posted on 11/8/2024

My 9 year old daughter is a slob. She leaves cabinets open, clothes all over the floor, toys everywhere, items from the fridge on the counter, etc. She is otherwise a pleasant and obedient,...

Time for a visit from a coach

Posted on 11/5/2024

I am a single mom of 4. My childrens ears have officially stopped working and it's as if I'm not giving any instructions at all. The youngest (1.5) is now picking up on some bad behaviors. How do...

Change of focus is required

Posted on 11/3/2024

Our 4.5 year old (only child) daughter is incredibly intelligent, chatty, bright and social. We enrolled her in the local play school for socialization, and she goes to a local day home one day a...

TOILET TRAINING SNAFUS NO BIG DEAL

Posted on 10/28/2024

We started training my now 21 month old son at 19 months. We had him trained during naps and he's been dry overnight several times as well. However, for about the past two weeks he's been waking...

Misbehavior at School Prompted Note From Principal

Posted on 10/28/2024

I received the following from our the principal today regarding his behavior at school and need help. I'm sorry to send this on a Monday but I was quite taken by Lee's behavior this morning. We...

SIBLINGS IN SAME BEDROOM

Posted on 10/26/2024

Within the past few months, we transitioned our 4.5 year old daughter and our currently 23-month old son to a set of bunk beds (has stairs, not a ladder) in preparation for our new baby being...

Guidance for Managing Son's Aggressive Behavior at School

Posted on 10/25/2024

Hello. We have a 4-year-old son who has been hitting other students, throwing toys, and ignoring the teacher’s instructions. He had four incidents in two days and was suspended for one day from...

10 yr old with a Guilty Conscience

Posted on 10/23/2024

My 10-year-old son is apologizing profusely. If we correct him, he tends to say "I'm sorry" many times, even after we acknowledged the apology. I told him that I will acknowledge the first...

GRANDMA IS RIGHT, BUT....

Posted on 10/22/2024

Good am! My middle son in Cheyenne Wyoming asked us to babysit 3 weeks since her mother who watches him is having back surgery. I said yes too quickly, but should work out. It is an hour drive...

4 YO AGRESSIVE IN SCHOOL

Posted on 10/18/2024

Hello. We have a 4yr old son who is hitting other students, throwing toys and ignoring teacher's instructions. He has 4 incidents in 2 days and has been suspended for one day from school. In one...

Game on at nap time.

Posted on 10/16/2024

My three year old grandson, whom I watch twice a week, often runs from me or hides behind a chair when I try to take him up for his nap or put him to bed. He also does it to my daughter, but not...

20 MONTH OLD REBELLING AGAINST TOILET TRAINING

Posted on 10/14/2024

Hi I have a 20 month old daughter and have spent 5 days doing naked75. During this time she would randomly sit on the potty when asked but most of the time she would refuse. When she did sit on it...

5 YO Needs to Act His Age

Posted on 10/10/2024

Hello, our just turned 5 year old is wonderful in school and even won an award for being the most kind in his class. However at home, he whines, acts like he can’t do things, and cries about...

Parents are the star of the show

Posted on 9/28/2024

5 year old daughter habitually lies. Doesn’t take care of the things she owns. We have taken away everything in her room to give it back when we’ve seen progress. Shows no respect to older...

Mass Confusion Has Taken Over!

Posted on 9/27/2024

I need a reset with our boys, ages 11, 9, 6 & 5. After a season of intense caring for our baby and 2-year-old daughter, things have become a disaster. The top misbehaviors in the house are...

A PLETHORA OF PROBLEMS WITH 6 YO BOY

Posted on 9/26/2024

Lately we are struggling with our 5 year old. It feels like there are many issues and it’s hard to know where to start. When we tell him it’s time to clean up, he’ll say “I’m tired” or will move...

19 YO THINKS SHE'S ADHD

Posted on 9/26/2024

I have a 19-year daughter who has been told she may be ADHD. She looked up the symptoms online and believes she now needs medication. I told her maybe she could use cognitive therapy. She told...

13 YO STEALING MONEY FROM PARENTS

Posted on 9/25/2024

My 13 year old son is stealing money from us. Both from my purse and our envelope system. I was suspicious for a long time, but now I am confident it's him. My guess it's to spend money on junk...

FRAGILE PRE-TEEN RELATIONSHIPS

Posted on 9/23/2024

My 11 year old daughter has had a falling out with one of her friends from church. She can usually resolve conflicts easily, but this one is much harder because it involved the other girl telling...

3 YO WAKES UP BEFORE SUNRISE AND WANTS TO ROCK 'N' ROLL!

Posted on 9/22/2024

Early morning wakings are becoming a problem for our 34 month old. He is waking up at 430/5 and waking up his 5 year old brother (they share a room). He naps at daycare from 1230-2 and his bedtime...

Daughter needs the Dr.'s help

Posted on 9/18/2024

I have a 5-yr old daughter disrupting her class on a daily basis. Her teacher has asked that we speak with her as it has become a problem as her teacher is constantly having to stop and start...

3 yr old poop pattern or indication it's time to go!!

Posted on 9/18/2024

Re your answer about potty training my 33 month granddaughter. The thing is she does not poop every day (usually every other)and does not have a pattern such as after breakfast, lunch etc. If...

3 YO SWATS THE AIR INSTEAD OF HITTING

Posted on 9/14/2024

My 3.5-year-old son has always been a strong-willed child. About 6 months ago, we started using your discipline methods which have been great. Before that, we relied heavily on spanking but it...

The Ticket System

Posted on 9/13/2024

We are using John's Ticket System. Should my 4-year-old lose all 5 tickets before lunchtime? Is it reasonable to confine said 4-year-old to his room for the remainder of the day with the exception...

KIDS DON'T DO THEIR CHORES

Posted on 9/11/2024

Hi My question relates to chores and tasks and how to handle matters when they are not completed. We have x3 kids (8, 7, 5) who each have 3 chores each to do daily. Regarding chores; many...

SWIM LESSONS...OR NOT?

Posted on 9/11/2024

Our soon-to-be 4yo son has been taking a swim lesson once a week at a local swim school for 7 months. He is sometimes nervous in new situations, but showed no hesitancy about his first lesson and...

WATCHED VIDEO...WHAT NEXT?

Posted on 9/9/2024

I watched the 7 part video series and I’m wondering what to do if the child is still not complying after you follow those steps. Say I tell my 6 year old to get out of the trampoline and she says...

Nap-Time Struggles

Posted on 9/7/2024

We are struggling with nap-time. My 3 yr girl and 2 yr boy always take a nap in the afternoon. If they are at their grandparents’s house and are in separate rooms they go to sleep quickly. But if...

Look Out Boss, Here Comes the Baby!

Posted on 9/6/2024

I have a 6-year-old daughter and a 3-year-old son. My daughter is the typical first child who is bossy, little mama and directs her brother frequently on what to do, not to do etc. She’s a...

4YO's Behavior Wreaking Havoc

Posted on 9/5/2024

Our 4yr old son went from a local daycare where the children were allowed to run wild and is now in a private Montessori school. He will not respond to redirection, ignores instructions & lashes...

Carry On!

Posted on 9/1/2024

We have six kids ranging from 15-5. The oldest is a girl and the last 5 are boys. We are also homeschooling, so we are together ALL the time. It's hard for me to discipline her because I DON'T...

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