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Patience with Potty Training

Posted 2 days ago

We started potty training our 27 month old boy last week using John’s ‘naked and $75’ method. It was going pretty well until about day 6. He has totally regressed. He has accidents about 50% of...

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9 YO Daughter In Need Of Wake Up Call

Posted 3 days ago

My 9 year old daughter is defiant and refuses to go to her room when disciplined. She is too big and strong for me to carry her and she won’t stay even if I manage to get her there. She feels...

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Picky Eater Solution...Stay the Course!

Posted 4 days ago

Hello, I have a question about my 7 year old daughter who likes to go through phases of being extremely picky with her food. Majority of the time she eats what is put in front of her even...

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22 month old poop issue

Posted 6 days ago

My 22 month old daughter has started pooping her bed in the mornings. She’s done it the last 3 mornings and it’s not phasing her in the least. She has a potty in her room and has been very...

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Nixing Negative Talk

Posted 6 days ago

My 13 year old son is Negative Nellie and complains about everything. And by everything I mean everything. This behavior really started in February of this year when we sold our home but has...

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Reining in Mouthy Eleven Year Old

Posted 1 week ago

Hello, John and coaches, I really need help with my eleven year old. She just is so mentally exhausting to me and my husband. She is extremely strong willed and argues everything with me. I am...

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Okay to Throw the Game Plan out the Window?

Posted 1 week ago

My husband is a sports nut....I am NOT. To his credit, he sees the insanity kids' sports has become and tends to be very level headed about things. Our 11 year old son plays rec (not the super...

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Grow a Man by Growing Flowers

Posted 1 week ago

Hi. After being at a 4 hour playdate, my 10 yr old still makes me feel bad for not playing with him when he gets home. How do I handle a 10 yr old boy who needs to be entertained constantly? Is it...

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What a healthy marriage looks like to a child

Posted 1 week ago

Dr. Rosemond, Could you please describe the qualities of a husband and wife marriage that increases a child’s respect for adult authority, and the most common pitfalls of marriage that erodes a...

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Figuring things out isn't easy.

Posted 1 week ago

I have been married for more than 25 years. My husband came with a daughter from his first marriage and we have two of our own. He is very permissive-extremely guilt ridden and operates from the...

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21 Month won't sit on potty chair

Posted 1 week ago

Hello! We’ve read a couple of John’s books and are trying “Naked and $75” to potty train our 21 month old. We introduced the potty this morning and started. We’re using a potty bell and...

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'Tis the Season of Leaving and Cleaving

Posted 2 weeks ago

My son has joined my practice which was always our plan. He brought his girlfriend (also a dr & now is wife) back. They lived with us for 2 years. I trained them, shared my practice & they kept...

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Bed Time Potty Woes

Posted 2 weeks ago

Our 3 year old son has been toilet trained since he was 20 months old thanks to your amazing N75 method. However something new has popped up... in an effort to avoid bed or going somewhere he...

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"Mouthy" 5 y/o

Posted 2 weeks ago

My daughter is 5 1/2 years old. She will be starting kindergarten in the fall. She has always put things in her mouth (fingers, toys, pens) - anything she has in her hands she puts in her mouth....

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Preparing children for Grandma's death

Posted 2 weeks ago

We have a 2.5 year old and a 5.5 year old; also have a niece and nephew that are 7 and 11 years old. My mother is dying of a terminal cancer and is now on hospice. We have been slowly telling the...

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4 yo Won't Play Independently

Posted 2 weeks ago

This is a follow up to my question. Four year old will not play by herself. I absolutely realize I need to tell her instead of encouragen or ask! My hope is to have a little more analytical...

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4 year old won't play by herself

Posted 2 weeks ago

I have two children. A two year old and four year old. I have followed Dr. Rosemond’s advice from the start with the two year old and there is a night and day difference between their demeanors...

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Potty Bell Dependent

Posted 2 weeks ago

My daughter is 3 years and 4 months and has been semi-toilet-trained for almost a year. She goes in the potty when the potty bell rings but otherwise has accidents. She doesn't seem to care about...

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Sibling conflict and ticket system

Posted 2 weeks ago

My 3yo daughter and 5yo son fight almost constantly. (We also have a 2 month old baby girl.) We started the ticket system a week ago and we are doing 5 tickets per day - one set for both of them,...

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17 yo Girl Can't "Roll" With 23 yo

Posted 2 weeks ago

I have just recently discovered that my 17 daughter has been in a secret relationship with a 23 year old man who is an abuser of Methamphetamines. She has never used drugs (to my knowledge) nor...

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6 yo Don't Fall for the Drama

Posted 2 weeks ago

When my 6yr old son gets really upset with himself, he has started saying “I hate myself and I wish I was never born.” My son is the middle child of four who is always in trouble. We use the...

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Managing One-on-One Time

Posted 2 weeks ago

My 4 children are 6, 4, 2, and 6 months. I am kept pretty busy during the day with just feeding and naps and taking care of the house. My children ask for me to play with them often, or to spend...

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Address marriage issues first.

Posted 2 weeks ago

My husband is a soldier who suffers from PTSD and probably TBI from his time in Combat. He is getting worse and has always refused to get help. When our kids were little they didn’t understand a...

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Following up with 12 y/o's Sensitivity Issues

Posted 2 weeks ago

Thank you for your response to my question about my 12 year old daughters sensitivity "issues". Later that day, she threw a huge fit over her smart phone and computer as well as us not...

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Childproofing at Grandparent's House

Posted 3 weeks ago

When our 18 month old grandchild comes to visit and stay several nights should we have to remove all our accent pieces on tables and throughout the house? Many things are no-nos but I don't know...

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Screaming, and Crying and Tantrums, Oh, My!

Posted 3 weeks ago

4 year old daughter suddenly having 30-45 mins tantrums when she doesn’t want to do something. Kicks, screams bloody murder, throws herself around to the point of hurting herself or me, will not...

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Zero Tolerance for Unprovoked Assaults

Posted 3 weeks ago

My 7yo son has recently started shoving and aggressively tackling other kids when they’re playing games. He got tagged in tag, so he shoved the guy. The middle guy caught the ball in keep-away, so...

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When a Child's Frustration Spills Over

Posted 3 weeks ago

My 7yo son was doing a worksheet at school and made a mistake that he could still see after trying to erase it, so he asked for another worksheet. Since there was a substitute teacher, and there...

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12 y/o sensitivities most likely manipulative behavior

Posted 3 weeks ago

My almost 12 year old daughter has been having issues with visual/hearing/touch sensitivities that started when she was 9. These issues have gotten to the point of disrupting not only her life,...

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Disobedience in twins

Posted 3 weeks ago

Please help!! My husband and I have been struggling for quite some time with our 4.5 year old boy/girl twins. They have endless, hyper energy and really always have. I am a stay at home mom and...

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Toddler using inappropriate word

Posted 3 weeks ago

Hi there, my 33 month old unfortunately picked up a bad word- from me. I said it when I realized I missed an important appointment, in which my toddler was in next room... and heard me. I feel...

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Wiping after restroom use

Posted 3 weeks ago

Hi there, when is it appropriate for my 33 month old to begin wiping himself after a bm? We are currently potty training, and I’ve been wiping him. My only concern is he will start a Mother’s Day...

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9 year old boy needs mom to say it one time!

Posted 3 weeks ago

I sure appreciated the response from Katherine Saltzberg (Leadership is Always Plan A) to my question. Can Katherine or someone else please read my initial question and then expand on her comment...

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Teen Awakening

Posted 4 weeks ago

Hi--I am hoping John will answer this question--I reread Teen Proofing, and you talk about kids experimenting/using drugs can be a great opportunity for you and for them--for them to make mistakes...

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18 Month Old Wants Constant Attention

Posted 4 weeks ago

Our almost 18 month old has started following me around the house most of the day trying to demand my attention. She doesn’t want to play on her own or fall for my distractions. She has started...

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15yro defiant, angry,

Posted 4 weeks ago

I have a 15 year old son who has extreme fits of rage when he doesn’t get his way, which is entitlement. When he is in a rage he throws and breaks my things, curses me violently and threatens...

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Toddler tantrums at the store

Posted 4 weeks ago

Hi there, how do I tell my 33 month old no at the store. Is there a way to avoid a tantrum? Do I just snatch the item away and exit the store as quickly as I can? It has been a lot more difficult...

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6yro pouts

Posted 4 weeks ago

My 6 year old son is generally well-behaved. He does have one behavior that I‘m at a lost to correct. He pouts when he is disciplined – by pouting I mean the skin around his eyes turns red, he...

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16 yro struggling when the going get tough

Posted 1 month ago

I have a 16 year old daughter. She has a high GPA but struggles with things become difficult. For example, she doesn't want to go through the SAT study guide because it seems difficult versus...

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The Terrible Three's

Posted on 6/15/2018

My 33 month old has recently begun yelling all of his responses. He gets frustrated very easily and says, “Stop! Stop it, mommy!” and “Goooosh!” "No!" is his favorite word, and now he yells it....

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Leadership is always Plan A!

Posted on 6/15/2018

For the past couple of years, my husband and I have been using "charts" with our two kids, now ages 7 (girl) and 9 (boy). The charts were used primarily for when the kids "forgot" to do their...

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One Problem at a Time

Posted on 6/15/2018

Dear Sir / Madam, I am a homeschool mother of three children, a daughter aged 9, a son aged 6 and another daughter who just turned 2. My husband is a software engineer and gets home at around...

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Early Riser

Posted on 6/14/2018

We are, and have been, dealing with a host of behavior issues with our "strong willed" 6-year-old daughter (who, by the way, is apparently an angel and wonderful role model in school). One of the...

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Is whining too general to list as a Target Misbehavior?

Posted on 6/13/2018

Can you put whining on a ticket system as a target behavior or does it need to be more specific?

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5 year old in boring bedroom is enough

Posted on 6/13/2018

I've recently read "The Well-Behaved Child" and have decided to implement the ticket system with both my 5 and 6 yo. I was doing a watered down version of this system already with what I called...

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Tattling

Posted on 6/12/2018

We are still using the ticket system with our children (ages 10, 13, 13, 15) even though we want to eventually move away from it and begin to think along the lines of parenting teens. For now, do...

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Attention-Seeking Behavior Disguised as Lack of Confidence

Posted on 6/12/2018

My 8 yr old son is hard on himself and can be quite stubborn. It's a crazy mix of attributes that my husband and I are having a hard time navigating. If he misses 1 spelling word, he shuts...

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Masculinity

Posted on 6/11/2018

My husband and I I have a 14 year old son. We have raised him in a Biblically centered home. My husband is a wonderful father to our son. He has always made it a point to try to take him on...

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Potty Training after Illness

Posted on 6/10/2018

We started toilet training in early March using N75, when our daughter was 22 mos (now 25 mos). She's made great progress with bladder control - rarely has wet accidents, and seemed to be doing...

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No interest in extracurricular activities.

Posted on 6/9/2018

My 11 year old son does not want to participate in any extra curricular activities. He wants to attend school and that is all. I have tried to get him interested in sports, but he starts crying...

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