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Everyone Needs a Good Night's Sleep

Posted 5 days ago

Ever since being potty-trained at 19 months, our now-22mo wakes up crying 2-3 times a night. At first she was asking to go potty at night, and we would put her on the potty, give her water, and...

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Just give her some time!

Posted 1 week ago

Hello! Our daughter (4.5 yrs) (and her younger sister) recently started going to their grandmother (1 - 2 times a week for 4 hours each). In the beginning she enjoyed going but now she tells...

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Be the Alpha Female

Posted 1 week ago

Our 5 yo son is very well-behaved at school (he just started kindergarten 6 weeks ago) but his behavior has worsened by extremes at home. Especially at bedtime, if I don't snuggle him in his bed...

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Be a Leader, Not a Suggester

Posted 1 week ago

Should I make my daughter do volunteer work? She needs service hours for confirmation but mostly needs an eye opener about helping others. I found a horse therapy stable that will let kids over 12...

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5 yo kicking must be nipped in the bud

Posted 1 week ago

We recently adopted a 9 month Little boy. We have a three-year-old and five-year-old boy who love their new brother very much but have had some behavior issues since adopting him. I think it would...

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Sleep issues with 9 m/o adoptee

Posted 1 week ago

We recently adopted a nine-month-old boy. He’s been delightful and sweet during the day but has trouble going down to sleep for naps and nighttime. He also wakes up several times at night and...

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5 Year Old Using Anger to Manipulate

Posted 1 week ago

Hello, it’s been a bit since my last question. New ages, new problems. My son will be five in 1.5 months. We are having trouble with his anger. At least 5 times a day if he doesn’t get what he...

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3 years old whines and cries

Posted 1 week ago

How do I get my newly turned 3 year old to stop whining and crying when it comes time for chores and picking up after herself?

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Teach Tweenager How to Manage Anger

Posted 1 week ago

Hi There, My daughter will be 11 yo on February, she is such a sweet/sensetive girl who likes to please others, but when she becomes angry she can not control it , she melts down for a while then...

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Church Expectations

Posted 2 weeks ago

This is a question about age-appropriate expectations in Church. We have 6 children ages 10, 8, 6, 5, 3, and 1. I have told the older kids that, unless you are a baby or a toddler - which they...

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"Curious Questions"

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hello, My boys are 9, 7, and 4. I understand they are curious but they are constantly asking questions and asking for things which feels overwhelming. When they ask for things, I usually give...

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Stubborn Toddler

Posted 2 weeks ago

We have a toddler potty training. He was 21 months old when we started. We read "toilet training without tantrums" before starting. We are now starting our third month, and he just doesn't seem to...

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Nip Disrespectful Behavior in the Bud

Posted 2 weeks ago

I home school my 7-year-old son. We are working on obeying and being respectful. Often when I tell him something he responds disrespectfully. He will yell back at me or say something mean and then...

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17 YO Girl Plays Blame Game

Posted 2 weeks ago

This was my last question and needed to help answer this question: John, I have read many of your books and listen to your podcast regularly. I am a Christian and agree with your biblical...

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Disrespectful 7-Year-Old

Posted 2 weeks ago

We are using the discipline strategies taught in Well-Behaved Child. I home school 7 and 5 year old boys. My 7 year old responds to me with disrespectful remarks. For example: "You are so mean, I...

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Posted 2 weeks ago

How can a parent help a child with selective mutism?

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Toddlers in "Time Out" can create More "Tired Out" Parents

Posted 2 weeks ago

For a 2 year old who is able to climb out of a playpen (and makes a game of it if the parent tries to keep them in), what else would make a suitable time-out area? We live in a rented...

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Sassy Toddler

Posted 3 weeks ago

Ever since I started implementing a 5 minute time-out for specific misbehaviors (such as throwing food or hitting his sister) after his second birthday, my 2 year old son has started showing...

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First Born Still Wants Center Stage

Posted 3 weeks ago

Our 27 month old daughter seems to have had a tough time with the transition of adding our baby to our family 6 months ago. She seems to love being the center of attention, and hates when any...

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Link Between Vaccines, Autism, and ADHD

Posted 3 weeks ago

If any, what is the relationship between the amount of vaccines school children or babies are required to take AND autism, ADHD, or or similar conditions? Thank you

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One week potty training

Posted 3 weeks ago

Hi there, My daughter will be 2 on October 5th, I have been potty training her for a week now, she is dry during the day, I put her on potty every hour, she is doing great. Sometimes she asks me...

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Custody Decision For 17 YO

Posted 3 weeks ago

John, I have read many of your books and listen to your podcast regularly. I am a Christian and agree with your biblical parenting principles. However, I am divorce from an atheist and he is...

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Too Many Expectations for 9-Year-Old

Posted 3 weeks ago

My daughter is 9, she is very respectful (although disobeying and arguing are not respectful) and has great manners ("yes ma'am", "yes, sir"). She has given me a run for my money her whole life...

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When to Intervene in School Issues

Posted 3 weeks ago

My almost 10-year-old son came home in hysterical tears yesterday. His side of the story is that at school he saw someone’s school ID on the floor, picked it up, and asked, “Whose ID is this?” and...

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Adult Daughter Not Helping Around the House

Posted 3 weeks ago

Hello, I have a question about an older child living at home. Our daughter lives with us and is in her senior year of college. She is a very sweet person, respectful to us and works hard in school...

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5 year old won’t stop chatting in noisy classroom setting

Posted 4 weeks ago

Hi. My son just entered kindergarten at a small parochial school. The teacher has 20 kids, more than she's had. She has told all the parents the class is chatty. She has tried four or five...

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Discipline Heartily(with Infusions of Affection)

Posted 4 weeks ago

Good Morning, I am a single dad of 3 boys ages 7 and 3 yo twins. Recently one of the twin boys has been acting out at preschool and at home. He wont listen to instruction, throw toys, hit his...

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2 Year Old Potty Training Going Backwards

Posted 4 weeks ago

Hello! Our daughter is now 26 months and we started toilet training 4 months ago at 22 months. She got on to toilet training pretty quickly and within a few days she used her potty and stayed...

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Sibling Rivalry Not Improving

Posted 4 weeks ago

Hello! Our daughter (26 months) has been hitting, scratching, biting etc her sister (almost 4.5 years old). At first we told her a firm no but now the incidents have increased and we put her in...

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Odd Behavior is Normal

Posted 4 weeks ago

Hi there, our son just turned 4 in August. Recently, when we scold him, he begins to slap himself. He does this in public too. Is there anything we can do about this? Thank you!

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Timeline for Picky Eaters

Posted 4 weeks ago

At what age is it recommended to start Dr. Rosemond's technique for picky eaters?

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Potty Training 21 month old

Posted 1 month ago

I started potty training my 21 month old son a week ago. For a few months he was indicating that he had just or was in the process of peeing or pooping (in his diaper), every single time...

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Occasional Angry Outbursts

Posted 1 month ago

My 7 year old son is a good kid. He’s generally kind, polite and respectful. But there are times (only happens at home) when he doesn’t get his way and I see this rage well up in him. He starts to...

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Upcoming Divorce

Posted 1 month ago

After 11 yrs of marriage, my husband and I have decided to go our separate ways. However, before we file for divorce, sell the house, etc., etc. We have a ton of debt to pay off. And with the cost...

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Homework Not A Parent Problem

Posted 1 month ago

Our son is in 6th grade and gets good grades. However, each night it's a struggle to get him to complete his homework. Any suggestions on how to deal with his procrastination? Thanks.

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Name Calling Not OK For Young Boy

Posted on 9/20/2019

Hello, I received an email from my child's teacher today. This is what it said. "Hi, I wanted to let you know that R had to be spoken to about hurting a child's feelings on Wednesday. He was...

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3 y/o and 1 y/o siblings learning to play together

Posted on 9/18/2019

My son is 3 years old and my daughter is 1 year old. My son is really good about playing by himself and lining up his cars when he plays; however, my daughter really likes to bug him. She...

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Parenting Strategies Not Paying Off

Posted on 9/18/2019

I have been the children's director for 20+ years at our church. Most of our parents use the book "Shepherding a Child's Heart" by Paul Tripp. I feel like parents are explaining themselves to...

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Co-parent conflict creates chaos.

Posted on 9/17/2019

My partner and I share custody of his ten year old son. His son is now in 5th grade and is really having to step up with homework and classwork, which he is not doing. We only have him every other...

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How to Discipline at Home for Misbehavior at School

Posted on 9/16/2019

Hello, our 4-year-old scratched another student at school today because he wouldn’t be his friend. How do we discipline at home for school misbehavior? Thank you!

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Dinner Time Battle of the Wills

Posted on 9/16/2019

My 3 year old daughter has developed a bad habit at dinner time. Although she’s usually pretty good to try new foods, every now and then she will - for some unknown reason - hold a bite of food in...

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Enforcing Consquences

Posted on 9/15/2019

I have read Well Behaved Child. We are dealing with our 7 year old granddaughter (we have legal custody since July) that has high misbehaviors. We are doing the chart. Our one concern is keeping...

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Grandparent Etiquette

Posted on 9/15/2019

I am a single mom with a 6-year-old girl. Both sets of grandparents live close by, and she is very close to both of them. I am trying to teach her that when we visit, she is to say hello,...

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Behavior getting worse not better

Posted on 9/15/2019

I just started reading the well behaved child. I have a 6 year old girl and a 10 year old boy. Their behavior has gotten worse. My daughter comes out of her room constantly after having been...

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Stay The Course and Work On One New Behavior at at Time

Posted on 9/13/2019

2-yo Bedtime Tyrant. I have been doing exactly what you guys told me. she still wakes up at night finds herself on her bed, she goes down again to sleep on the floor behind the door, I keep...

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Poop Issues with Toddler

Posted on 9/12/2019

Hello again, Soo update on my daughter and N75. We started a week ago and she has had ZERO pee or poop accidents for the first 3 days (she was tearful during her first poop in the potty) she...

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Difficult Topic

Posted on 9/10/2019

My sweet seven year old son's birth father recently commuted suicide. I did not tell him. I know I will eventually have to. Any suggestions on when and how I should? He had some contact until age...

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Just a few reminders on potty training!

Posted on 9/9/2019

Hello again, We have started potty training our 24 month old and she is doing awesome except she seems to fear going poop in the potty. We have been keeping her naked and her toilet is easily...

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Sleeping in your own bed.

Posted on 9/7/2019

Our 11 year old son has been afraid of sleeping in his room alone for essentially since he moved from his crib to a big bed. He and his older sister (now 13) shared a bedroom for several years...

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