Questions

Mountains out of Molehills

Posted 2 days ago

Our 12-year-old 6th-grade daughter is raising concerns (both ours and at least one of her teachers') with violence in her writing. Last fall she asked me to read over a fictional short story she...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior, School Issues

Solution to a messy morning.

Posted 3 days ago

We wear uniforms to school and without fail 2 to 3 times a week my 5 1/2-year-old girl spills something from breakfast or toothpaste on a large noticeable portion of her uniform. An easy fix to...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Chores/Responsibilities

Anger Begets Anger

Posted 3 days ago

I need advice on losing my temper with my kids. They are 3 and 6 and occasionally I lose my temper- scream at them, sometimes use a swear word and am just mean to them. Yes they have done...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years), School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority

Liberating the Playmate Dad

Posted 5 days ago

My daughter wants me to play with her constantly. I have an overwhelming sense of guilt when I say no, and so I usually say yes, even at the expense of my own well-being. But I reason that this is...

Terrific Three's Not So Terrific

Posted 1 week ago

My just turned 3 year old has gradually started to not listen more and more when asked to do simple things like brush teeth, put on coat, get buckled in car seat, etc. Do I use a ticket system...

Liberating the Playmate Dad

Posted 1 week ago

I read the column by Dinah Bucholz, Stop Paying Attention to Your Kids. I'm struggling because this is my downfall. My daughter wants me to play with her constantly. I have an overwhelming sense...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Chores/Responsibilities, Extracurricular Activities/Hobbies, Father, Only Children, Parent Leadership and Authority

"Parental Empowerment Conquers Medical Experiments"

Posted 1 week ago

My kids are considering putting my grandson 6yrs on medication, for being hyper and not paying attention at school. Do you know what after effects this will bring?

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: ADHD and other disorders, Grandparents/Grandchildren, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems

Intro To The Parent-Centered Family

Posted 1 week ago

I have a four year old whom I am wondering is just being a kid....she does seek our attention but we have daily reading together and about 30 min play of the afternoon. I stay home with her and...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Bedtime/Sleep, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior

Move 9 yo Son into Parents' Bedroom?

Posted 1 week ago

Son is 9 years old and has a sister age 7 and brother age 1. About one month prior to brother's birth, son's upstairs bedroom was converted to a nursery and son's bedroom was moved downstairs (all...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Bedtime/Sleep

A Mother's Defeat????

Posted 1 week ago

Part of John Rosemond's advice is to stay calm. It sounds simple, but I've read the well behaved child and making the terrible twos terrific, but I still can't figure out how to stay calm. I tried...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Toilet Training

Who's the Boss? 3-Year-Old Monitors Younger Sibling

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hello! Our oldest daughter (3.5 years) watches over our youngest (1.5). For instance, whenever our youngest is doing something harmful or dangerous our oldest calls me. Lately she also started...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years), Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old)

Topics: Chores/Responsibilities, Mothers

Some problems require more intense attention.

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hello, My question involves a 15 year old with a tragic story. She lost her father at 2 and a half to a freak accident on the job and then three years later she lost her mother to skin cancer. ...

Ages: Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years)

Topics: Disobedience/Defiance

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hello, I have a question that was asked on 12/16 that has still not been answered.. This is the second time recently that a question hasn't been answered in over 2 weeks. Is there something I...

N75 with 18 month old

Posted 2 weeks ago

We are on day 5 of N75 with our 18 month old son, and we're wondering if any of this is sinking in with him. He is a smart kid, but extremely opinionated and stubborn. He refuses to stay put on...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Toilet Training

3 Year Old Terror at Bedtime

Posted 2 weeks ago

My 3 year old is a terror at bedtime! She used to go down great, then 1 night everything changed. I lay with her in bed, if I get up before she is asleep she screams and gets out of bed. While I'm...

Ages: Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old)

Topics: Bedtime/Sleep

Should You Worry About a Shy Kid?

Posted 2 weeks ago

My 10 year old daughter is shy and has trouble making friends. She can handle one on one situations, but she shuts down in a group. (and one on one is rarely the case as she has two sisters near...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: School Issues, Shyness

Soaking wet toddler at night worries Mom

Posted 2 weeks ago

My husband and I started N75 with our 18-month-old son yesterday, and as I was starting this question, my son had his first success going pee in the potty. It's been nonstop accidents up to this...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Bedwetting, Toilet Training

Outside Influences

Posted 2 weeks ago

I have 5 kids ranging from 3mo to 7 years old. Both sets of grandparents live local and are involved. One set is often I overreaching. They hold some Christian beliefs. They recently told our...

Ages: No Specific Age

Topics: Character/Values (teaching)

Too many toys overwhelm Mom of 2 and 4 year old

Posted 2 weeks ago

We have toys and stuff animal overload. From the year and now Christmas has put us over the top! I have a two year old and four year old. Do I include them in the decluttering process? How do you...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years), Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Extracurricular Activities/Hobbies, Grandparents/Grandchildren

14 year old farmer's son is disrespectful to Mother

Posted 2 weeks ago

My son, who turned 14 in November, has become very disrespectful to his mother. We live on a farm and the place is not clean to his liking. He thinks his mother is lazy, won't pick up after...

Ages: Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years)

Topics: Chores/Responsibilities, Consequences/Punishment, Disobedience/Defiance, Manners, Mothers, Rebellious Behavior, Sibling Conflict, Teenage Issues

Emancipation is never easy

Posted 3 weeks ago

I am divorced and remarried for 16 years. My ex cheated on me multiple times. Since our divorce which was a 3rd marriage he has been married 3x since. His most recent wife is 30 years his jr and a...

Ages: Young Adult (19-25 years)

Topics: Arguments with Children, Divorce/Custody, Father

Pre-Schooler Potty Accidents

Posted 3 weeks ago

HI there, My 4.5 year old has been fully potty-trained from around 2+ with occasional pee leaks. During christmas dinner at a friend's house, he had a full-on poo accident in his pants - he was...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Toilet Training

Eyebrows: Hair Today, Gone Tomorrow

Posted 3 weeks ago

Recently my 12 year old daughter has started pulling out her eyebrow hairs to the point of it being extremely noticeable. Says she is aware she is doing it but can’t seem to stop. She can not...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: ADHD and other disorders, Consequences/Punishment

children not listening

Posted 4 weeks ago

Hello. A tiny bit about us: I had 5 children in 4.5 years: 3 girls then twin boys, now 6, 4.5, 3, & 18 mos (x2). I stay at home and do not work. The 6 yr old is in Kinder and other two girls...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years), Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old), Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, Rebellious Behavior, Sibling Conflict, Tantrums

Mom overwhelmed!

Posted 4 weeks ago

I feel overwhelmed. My husband doesn't listen to me, he won't talk about how to solve problems and only talks about work. We live with my mom for financial reasons and she undermines any...

Ages: No Specific Age

Topics: Grandparents/Grandchildren, Mothers

One more thing

Posted 4 weeks ago

Hi I’ve been apart of my step family for a little over 3 years. I have 3 children from a previous relationship. My oldest daughter is 14, my son 11 and my daughter 9. My husband has a 14 year old...

Step IN TIME!

Posted 4 weeks ago

I am apart of a step family. I am having trouble with my step children not accepting me. I feel like this is highly due to how their mother feels about me even though she wanted the divorce she...

Ages: No Specific Age

Topics: Parent Leadership and Authority, Step-Families

Seperation Anxiety

Posted 4 weeks ago

Our kindergartner (6 year old boy) cries and clings to our leg every morning at school drop off. His teacher notes that he is fine within a minute of our departure. He also cried and clung to us...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Parent Leadership and Authority, School Issues

Consequences

Posted on 12/19/2018

OK, I have a question concerning consequences using the system Dr. Rosemond has advocated for decades and that we used successfully with our oldest two (now delightful and responsible older...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years), School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Consequences/Punishment

Communication

Posted on 12/18/2018

The John Rosemond books and this site have been helpful to me in regards to how I interact with my children. I would like to make our home a marriage centered home, but my husband and I have a...

Ages: No Specific Age

Topics: Marriage Issues

Potty Training at Preschool

Posted on 12/16/2018

We started potty training my son 5 weeks ago when he was almost 23 months old using the "Naked and $75" method. We were so pleased/surprised that within a week or so he seemed to get it! He has...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Toilet Training

Posted on 12/16/2018

Hello, My question today is regarding my daughter's school. She is having serious behavior problems in school (she's currently in a behavior school and the only girl in a class of 5-6...

Fears about son's fears.

Posted on 12/15/2018

My son just turned 12 and was once such a happy child. Now he asks me questions that I’m not sure how to answer. He says he is not happy and doesn’t feel like he belongs in his body. He thinks...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Anxieties, Fears

Mom frustrated with resistant 13-year-old daughter

Posted on 12/14/2018

My 13 year old daughter has always had an issue with team sports .She is having self esteem issues and wants to lose weight .She participates in horse riding once a week as the distance is usually...

Ages: Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years)

Topics: Anxieties, Fears, Extracurricular Activities/Hobbies, Teenage Issues

Preferences at 17 months.

Posted on 12/13/2018

My 17 month old daughter sometimes doesn’t let my husband hold her and last night when I was snuggling her on the couch and my husband laid down next to me she started trying to hit him and push...

Ages: Birth to 18MOS

Topics: Father

Discipline Drama

Posted on 12/13/2018

I have a 2.5 (boy) and 3.5 (girl) year old, and my girl constantly is taking things from her brother. He doesn’t tend to fight back much. I’m wondering when I can expect my daughter to stop...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years), Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old)

Topics: Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), John's Discipline Methods, Manners, Parent Leadership and Authority, Sibling Conflict

Now what?

Posted on 12/13/2018

Hey thank you for the answer I needed..I have taken her phone permanently only reason she had a phone is because her dad lives out of town and I work far from where I’m at and he bought her a...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, Divorce/Custody, John's Discipline Methods, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior

Where's That Wonderful Daughter?

Posted on 12/12/2018

My 8-year-old daughter has been a wonderful child until about a month ago. She’s lying a lot, not doing what we ask her to do, and she talks back. I have asked her what is wrong, and she tells me...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Chores/Responsibilities, Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, Electronics (Computers/Video Games/Television/Cell Phones), Lying, Mothers

Preschooler Craves Attention

Posted on 12/12/2018

Hello. I am happy to report that following the advice I’ve received my four year old is now playing independently most of the day or happily with her younger sister. My issue is that when we have...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Socialization/Social Skills

16 year old lacks motivation

Posted on 12/9/2018

My son has become increasingly argumentative and disrespectful. He only seems to care about material things. He is now 16 years old and he is working with a job coach to help him with getting a...

Ages: Older Teen/High School (16-18 years)

Topics: Allowances, Chores/Responsibilities, Teenage Issues

The Headless Choresmen

Posted on 12/7/2018

Having completed "Parenting by the Book" , I sadly realize I have done my children no favors by doing so much for them. They are now 7 and 11 and need to be reminded to do every little thing. We...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Chores/Responsibilities, Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out)

Put some Harsh in their Mellow

Posted on 12/7/2018

Our son recently turned 11. Having just finished "Parenting by the book" and almost done "Teenproofing" I am certain we started too late with "Gramma's rules" while we fumbled through time outs,...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, Parent Leadership and Authority

Caution: Child in Charge

Posted on 12/6/2018

Our recently-turned 11-year-old boy is really hating school this year. He seems to think he knows what he needs to learn for his future and the rest is a waste of his time. He is a very bright...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, School Issues

11 year old not paying attention to parents

Posted on 12/6/2018

I just reviewed a questions from another subscriber using a ticket system with a 7 year old to nip multiple behaviors in the bud. In the answer I read "You cannot disciple or discipline a child...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Arguments with Children, Chores/Responsibilities, Consequences/Punishment, Disobedience/Defiance, Parent Leadership and Authority

Fitting In

Posted on 12/5/2018

Hi have a soon to be 13 year old. He is in a new school, his old school was a Christian school. It has been somewhat of a struggle in middle school. From being the new student and being exposed to...

Ages: Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), School Issues, Social Issues (fighting/arguing with friends), Teenage Issues

Bedwetting

Posted on 12/5/2018

I have been reading your questions about bed wetting for older children 4-5 years old. We have not used pull ups since spring. My son is a deep sleeper and using a pad and bell alarm for 8...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Bedwetting

Little Slugger

Posted on 12/4/2018

Not sure if you can see my previous questions but my daughter 22 months is still hitting. In fact it’s getting worse. She really only hits me, occasionally my husband. Last suggestion was to put...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Aggression, Consequences/Punishment, Developmental Issues (e.g. late talking), Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, Parent Leadership and Authority, Socialization/Social Skills

Left Out in the Cold

Posted on 12/3/2018

Our son will be 3 in January and refuses to wear a jacket in the winter months. At times, we have forced him and other times we have allowed him to wear a sweater/vest in the hopes that he would...

Ages: Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old)

Topics: Consequences/Punishment, Parent Leadership and Authority

FOMO=NOMO

Posted on 12/3/2018

4 year old boy with FOMO (fear of missing out) Our 4 year old son melts down any time it’s time to leave somewhere fun (school, tennis, friends house, etc) is there anything I can do to nip this...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Consequences/Punishment, Tantrums