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How much screen time for pre teen boy?

Posted 3 days ago

How long should a 11 1/5 year boy be allowed on electronics for pleasure a day.

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7-Year-Old Struggling in School

Posted 5 days ago

A good friend who I really respect recommended that I read your articles. I have really appreciated your advice and wanted to hear your perspective on our specific situation. Our son is 7 years...

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Task avoider

Posted 1 week ago

Hi, John and Team! My husband and I cannot get our 17 yo old son to complete the most basic of tasks regarding his room! On a daily basis, we expect him to make his bed, keep dirty clothes in...

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Intense anger and giving up

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My 3 year old had open heart surgery last May - and we've been amazed at how quickly his development has skyrocketed since. I have previously just chalked this up to developmental delays resulting...

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Encouraging Peace

Posted 1 week ago

My son is 19 and is living at home while attending college. His father has a narcissistic personality disorder. He lives and works in another state but travels home every other week. There is...

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Discipline Now, Get Along Later

Posted 1 week ago

My husband and our 4 year old daughter do not "get along" very well and today we found out we are having our 3rd child that is another girl! (We have one boy, and now two girls). Does John have...

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The Bedtime Snack Dilemma

Posted 1 week ago

Hi! Lately my children (ages 5, 8, and 10) have started saying they’re hungry again an hour after dinner and right before bed. I’m certain it’s not a bedtime delay strategy because they still do...

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Use family meetings to address and solve problems.

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hello - I need some advice for dealing with moody and temperamental behavior in my 14 year old. I've read Teen Proofing and recognize that I may be a micromanager and am trying to step back and...

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5 yo boy who has life isn't fair attitude

Posted 2 weeks ago

Our third child just turned 5 years old. He has a victim mentality and we would like advice on helping him out of this mind set. He is the only one of our children who regularly says "that's not...

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Being Disrespectful is Worse than Rap Music

Posted 2 weeks ago

My 16 year old son listens to rap & when we realized it was explicit, we put controls on his phone. He still listens to some very negative stuff. He has always been very strong willed & is...

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Pertaining to Private Parts and the Six-Year Old

Posted 2 weeks ago

My six year old son and next door neighbor (also six year old boy) are great playmates. Recently, they and their dads were outside playing. The dads were talking about the landscaping and noticed...

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8-Year-Old Needs Attitude Adjustment

Posted 2 weeks ago

I have an eight year old granddaughter who comes to visit me for spring break, Christmas break, and summer. She lives out of state and her mother likes John Rosemond's wisdom, so we work together....

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Fostering responsible decision making in your teen

Posted 3 weeks ago

Dear Mr. John. My almost fourteen years old is a very musical talented boy. He can play piano and guitar by ear. However, he barely play the instruments, or practice enough to learn a complete...

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Eight year old does what she wants when grandma says "No"

Posted 3 weeks ago

I have an eight year old granddaughter who will ask if she can do something, or I tell her she can't do something and she turns right around nonchalantly and does it anyway. What can I do?

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It's a nailbiter

Posted 3 weeks ago

My granddaughter is very nervous and bites fingernails and toenails until they bleed. Is there anything I can do to prevent this? Do you have any insight as to the cause?

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Dating Advice

Posted 3 weeks ago

My nineteen year old son, who is being treated for depression and anxiety is dating an 18 year old girl. They both live at home. My son is a freshman in college. The girlfriend is a senior in high...

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21 month old steals sister's toys

Posted 3 weeks ago

Lately our 21 month old seems to make it his mission to steal toys away from his 3.5 year old sister. While I realize that he doesn’t really understand sharing, it feels like all I do all day is...

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Respect isn't Optional

Posted 3 weeks ago

I have a 9 year old son, and unfortunately his father and I have divorced. I moved (with my son) a little over 2 hours away to be closer to my family. It was an extremely hard decision, and I...

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Respect isn't Optional

Posted 3 weeks ago

Hello- I am so glad I subscribed to Parent Guru! I love reading all the questions/answers!! So I have a 9 year old son and unfortunately his father and I have divorced. I moved (with my son)...

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Panic and run

Posted 4 weeks ago

My 7 year old step son developed a fear of his younger siblings approaching him. After his appointment (he went with his mom at) about his chapped lips that have been bothering him for a while now...

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Attention Addict at 3

Posted 4 weeks ago

Our 3.5 year old daughter’s behavior is very out of control when we visit relatives. She thinks it’s her opportunity to get as much attention from the adults as she possibly can (especially...

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How We Can Help

Posted 4 weeks ago

Good afternoon, We have an adopted boy in our Christian School that has had trouble working in a classroom environment. He does not seem to have learning disabilities, but if lessons seem...

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8-Year-Old Needs a Wake-Up Call

Posted on 12/20/2020

My 8-year old daughter has been really struggling with the same few bad habits for months. For one, she almost never obeys or follows directions the first time she’s told. She’s not disrespectful,...

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Understanding an emerging 3 year old.

Posted on 12/17/2020

I am continuing to have problems with my 3.5 year old. There are two in particular that I want to address: 1. Not listening to commands 2. Whining when not getting his way 1. This is by far...

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Don't Ask, Do Tell

Posted on 12/16/2020

My 4 year old daughter refuses to listen to instructions given to her. Not always, but usually when it comes to dinner, cleaning up her room, and doing things that she needs to do. When she does...

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Ways to help your child figure out friendships.

Posted on 12/16/2020

My now 9 years old daughter has a friend at school who was her "best friend" .But this girl blows hot and cold whenever this other girl Ava gets in the middle of them and pretty much takes away...

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Shyness Not A Character Defect

Posted on 12/13/2020

My daughter (age 16) is extremely shy and always has been. Recently due to my divorce situation, we had to relocate and so making friends has been a struggle. However, I have observed her...

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Honest Conversations

Posted on 12/12/2020

My nephew has confided in my son (11yr old- cousin), that he is Bisexual. His parents have recently divorced- March will be 2 years (mother left) and my brother is a single parent of 4 children....

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Two Year Old is a Whole Different Animal!

Posted on 12/11/2020

Good morning. My husband and I have six children, ranging 3 months to 9 years. Our first son Ryan Samuel is 2 years old as of October 4. He is a whole different animal compared to the girls. We...

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Mealtime Mania

Posted on 12/10/2020

Our youngest daughter is ten years old. She will not sit at the dinner table without scowling, covering her ears or slamming her hand on the table because she thinks her father chews too loudly....

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Eight-year old Eccentricities

Posted on 12/10/2020

My 8 year old daughter periodically does strange and destructive things (for example she has chewed on her dresser, etched her initials into her bathroom faucet, drew on the wall). I’ve always...

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She needs to stop talking.

Posted on 12/9/2020

Hello. Our recently turned 5 year old daughter talks nonstop, if we let her. She is very extroverted and appears to verbalize every thought that comes into her mind. Valid questions and...

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Sibling Relationship Stuck in Rough Water

Posted on 12/7/2020

We have a 21 year old son, who is still in college. He has severe animus toward his 17 year old sister, and has had it for the past 6-8 years. Little sister, for all practical purposes, is very...

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Loss of Grandfather Angers 13 year old Granddaughter

Posted on 12/5/2020

My 13 year old grandchild has been mad about everything since her grandfather died last year. Her grades are suffering and she has no interest in anything except playing on her phone. She has...

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Difficult is Not Bad

Posted on 12/2/2020

I am homeschooling my Grandson, who is in first grade. He is a bright child, but not motivated for school. He has struggled with handwriting and anything which requires manual dexterity, or fine...

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"EAT!"

Posted on 11/25/2020

Our kids 6.5 yrs and 4.5 yrs used to watch the iPad with meals; we broke that habit by letting them color or read books, but we have to say ‘eat’ constantly for them to eat. The youngest stands...

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Nap Time and Potty Training

Posted on 11/22/2020

When potty training, you say in your book to put diapers on them at nighttime at first, while trying diaperless a couple of nights a week. So, what do I do at nap time? My twin boys are 29 months...

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Two-Year-Old Shows His Ugly Side

Posted on 11/20/2020

My 24 month old is usually pretty good. I previously used time outs to train him out of hitting and food throwing. However, he will get into this “drunk” state, where he is simultaneously...

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Daughter's Dating Unsettling For Parent

Posted on 11/18/2020

Do you have any advice on teen dating? Specifically how to handle an unhealthy relationship that you are watching your teen daughter engage in?

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'Naked & $75' is a Process Not a Magic Formula

Posted on 11/18/2020

We're a week into toilet training our 20 month old twins, and I simply don't feel like we're making much progress. We're committed to staying the course and will do just that, but with having only...

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20 Month Son Only Wants Mama

Posted on 11/18/2020

Recently my son (20 months old) is reluctant to do anything without me. He cries the whole time if my husband takes him to a park. And earlier today he refused to go outside in our front yard with...

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It's Her Problem to Solve

Posted on 11/14/2020

My daughter is struggling in school since grade 2. She's in French immersion. She has failed three tests in a row so far because she didn't study for them.. Her teacher says that she seems to...

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Toilet training day 3

Posted on 11/14/2020

We toilet trained our oldest at 28 months in two weeks using N75. Now years later, we are on day 3 of N75 with our boy/girl twins who are 20 months old, and I'm already projecting this is going to...

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Creating Space

Posted on 11/14/2020

Hello. I have 5 children (8, 6.5, 5, 3 & 3). We have the 8 yr old in her own room, but the 6.5yr and 5 yr olds share one room and the twin 3 yr olds share another room. What type of advice do...

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Children's Currency

Posted on 11/14/2020

Any advice on what discipline system is best used for children in school most of the day? My two oldest (8 & 6.5 girls) could use more "ticketed days," but they are at school from 7:30 - 3:30...

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Ticket System and Consequences

Posted on 11/9/2020

Thank you so much for your response! It was extremely helpful. I was reading more on the ticket system and had a question about the consequence my son should receive when he loses a single ticket....

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Who pays for what - the college years

Posted on 11/8/2020

19 yr old in college on substantial scholarship not taking her academics seriously and, given the trajectory, will lose the scholarship come year's end. From her history, I think she's just a...

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