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iScreen, uScreen, We all Scream 4 more Screens

Posted 4 days ago

Notwithstanding the answer to my preview question, my 11-year-old son exhibits an addiction to computers and we restrict his exposure because of this. Currently, we have one computer in the house...

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Sneaky Pooper

Posted 5 days ago

I submitted a question a short time ago and received an answer, but my daughter's behavior has escalated. The current problem is this: She has taken to pooping in her room and hiding it behind...

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Sibling Conflict and Bizarre Behavior

Posted 6 days ago

One day at church, my husband noticed my 11 YO daughter pinching her hand when he stopped our daughters having a silent squabble in the pew. Her younger sister is 16 months younger and often they...

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Homeschool Blues

Posted 1 week ago

I homeschool my 13 year old son. We are fairly new to our current city and have recently made friends by joining a local co-op. My son was asked, by his new friends, to join an additional co-op....

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Regression on Toilet Training

Posted 1 week ago

My son is 2 1/2 years old. As John's book suggested we potty trained him before 2 and while we hit some bumps in the road it was successful. He really had accidents until the last two weeks. ...

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Grumble Troubles

Posted 1 week ago

Our son is 5.5 yo and has often had a negative attitude, but in the past few weeks has taken a turn for the worse. He regularly grumbles and complains throughout the day and when given routine...

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Potty training not working?

Posted 1 week ago

We have been working to potty train our 3 1/2 year old son for a week now, since last monday. He seemed to be getting better by Thursday. He would be a little in his underwear, but hold it, and...

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Teaching Values to Teenagers

Posted 1 week ago

Good morning, How do I address a difference in values with my 18 year old son? He will graduate in 2 months so still lives at home. He is materialistic and very focused on brands and "image". He...

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Marriage Hurting Due to Children

Posted 1 week ago

HI there, I am really feeling the weight of childrearing recently. I'm a stay home mum. My husband and I only ever fight about the children - and nothing much else..usually when I get a worked up...

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Let Go or No?

Posted 1 week ago

My 16 year old son wants to live with his dad in another state for his junior and senior years of high school. I’m reluctantly willing to let him go. How do I navigate this transition?

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Standing up to a Bully

Posted 1 week ago

My son is 7th grade and at a new school. Middle school has been hard. Today a very big boy in his class who he normally is friends with pushed him in the hall because he was trying to show out in...

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Nighttime Potty Training

Posted 1 week ago

I have decided to start potty training my 18 month old daughter soon using the N75 method. I feel pretty prepared but my question is around sleeping. She currently sleeps in a crib and I don't...

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3 Year Old Terror at Bedtime 'Part 2'

Posted 1 week ago

My 3 year old daughter continues to yell and scream at the top of her lungs at bedtime if someone does not lay with her. I will kiss, hug, tuck in and then leave. Before I'm out the door, she is...

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Technology Addiction

Posted 1 week ago

I have a 13 year old son who has had a smart phone for one year. He is an academically hard working, popular kid who enjoys being with his friends and playing baseball and football. However, his...

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Continued Accidents at 4.5 y/o

Posted 1 week ago

My 4 1/2 year old daughter knows how to use the potty, and she usually does pretty well unless she's in her room for afternoon quiet time (right next to the bathroom). At first, we thought it was...

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Doing it Right Means Staying the Course

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hello, We recently asked a question about our seven year old son who was refusing to stay in his room after losing all his daily strikes. We were told to make him 'an offer he hopefully can't...

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Mom, Make The Next Play

Posted 2 weeks ago

I am happy to say that the meeting went well and again and my son has agreed to make some changes. He even offered what he could do to make changes. With that being said, the rules he made for...

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Defiant 4 Year Old - Exhausted Mom

Posted 2 weeks ago

How do I get my son to listen to me without it ending in a screaming match? Sometimes he's a wonderful listener, but other times he will flat out refuse to do what I've told him. If I put him in...

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'Children Challenging Chores'

Posted 2 weeks ago

I am troubled with the completion of chores issue. I like to get stuff done then play and have attempted to teach my kids the same values or strategies but..... being kids of course they choose...

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4.5 year old push/hit/tantrum

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hi there, We have been working with my 4.5 year old son with hitting/pushing and tantruming behaviours. His tantrums include loud wailing when he doesn’t like what he’s told to do. We’ve kicked...

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Life After College is Too Comfortable- Time to Adult

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hello, My stepson in 23 and a recent college graduate with a communication degree. His father and I have been married 2 years ago. His parents are concerned about his seemingly lack of...

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In Control Without Controlling

Posted 2 weeks ago

We seem to be stuck on screen time issues in our house. Our kids, 11 and 7, are allowed 20 minutes a day after they have completed all their chores. This is markedly less time than many children...

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Better late than never

Posted 2 weeks ago

Our son is 3 1/2, and we are way late to potty training. Today we started the N75 plan. He went this morning in the potty. Later, after a little pee in his underwear, he sat on the potty for quite...

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Airplane anxiety

Posted 2 weeks ago

Our 10-year-old child has difficulty with air travel. Her nausea, primarily caused by anxiety over her past nausea during air travel, starts in the car on the way to the airport. She gets very...

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Prevailing not Travailing

Posted 2 weeks ago

My 14 year old daughter was mad at me about a consequence I gave her after clearly telling her what the expectations were. She knew what the rules were and broke them so I gave her the...

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Parental Reason is a Dish Best Served Cold

Posted 2 weeks ago

What do you recommend for two little ones ages 3 and 4 for not wanting to eat what I fix for meals? This has just started and we want to nip it as soon as we can. Do we make them sit until they...

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Odd "Girl" Out - 6, 5 and 3 Year Old Struggle to Play Together

Posted 2 weeks ago

When my 3 girls are together (ages 6, 5, 3) they will often only want to play 2 at a time,and leave the third one out. Also, because of this the 3 year old wants to follow them around to get...

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How much is enough?

Posted 2 weeks ago

I am wondering what you would say would normally expect to be included for a schedule for a 3 year old staying at home. I have my older 2 in school for parts of the day, and I have my younger...

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Kindergarten Homework Hassles

Posted 2 weeks ago

I have a young kindergartner (won't turn six until this summer), although he is doing good enough in kinder, he is very easily distracted - bright light distraction. During school and homework at...

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Bullying at Preschool

Posted 2 weeks ago

My almost 5 year old boy is in preschool 2.5 days a week. Last year, he was always enthusiastic about going to preschool but this year, he has encountered 2 boys (one of them is his cousin) - who...

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15 Month Old Hitting

Posted 3 weeks ago

Our 15 month old daughter has started hitting about a week ago. It started with our dog. We show her "gentle" with the dog and she gets it initially but eventually will hit him. She will hit us...

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In Control without Controlling

Posted 3 weeks ago

We seem to be stuck on screen time issues in our house. Our kids, 11 and 7 are allowed 20 min a day once they have completed all their chores. Markedly less than many children are allowed (as my...

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Preschooler learning to be a real friend

Posted 3 weeks ago

My 4 year old son is in a 3 day a week preschool. He is in the same class with a girl that he has been friends with since he was born. Apparently he has become very possessive over her during free...

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The terrible twos!

Posted 3 weeks ago

Hello! Our youngest daughter is 19 months old and for the past weeks she has not been a happy camper at all. She used to play nicely but now she is crying for literally everything! Whenever...

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Potty Training Consistency

Posted 3 weeks ago

We have started back with the potty bell/timer since I got the response below (a little over 2 weeks) and have made no progress. He hates the timer and every time it goes off he says "no potty!!"...

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Put Tantrums In Their Place

Posted 3 weeks ago

We have a 3 year old who throws temper tantrums but we can’t send him to his room because he won’t stay and goes on & on with no way to keeping him put. How do you deal with such high emotions and...

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Ask them no questions, and they will tell you no lies!

Posted 3 weeks ago

Dear John and team, almost 2 years ago I posted a question about my daughter lying about this and that and just generally not wanting to give a straight answer. We were advised to "ask no...

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Meaningful or Logical?

Posted 3 weeks ago

Having a hard time with my 3.5 year old boy and what would be a logical consequence - every morning and after nap time he struggles with getting out of bed reasonably. He usually wails and...

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Higher Level Thinking Skills

Posted 3 weeks ago

My 7 year old son has a problem solving problem. Any task he performs can make him melt down. I am sure that when he was younger I would jump in and solve his problem, but I have been very...

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Lowering the Boom

Posted 3 weeks ago

I have been seeking help from this site for a long time and would appreciate you looking through our history for insight and understanding. My now seven year old son is still having behavior...

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Hitting 2 year old

Posted 1 month ago

My 24 month old is having a huge problem with hitting and throwing tantrums. He has hit me in the face multiple times and hits others when he does not get his way. He is potty trained and hits...

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Two Year Old Can't Get Enough of Mom

Posted 1 month ago

My two year old wants to sit on me all day. If I'm sitting down he climbs on top of me. If I'm doing the dishes then he tugs at me to sit down or climbs up to see what I'm doing. Is there a way I...

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2 year old confused about bathroom routine when visiting family

Posted 1 month, 2 days ago

Hello, We potty trained our daughter 3 weeks ago (using your methods) right after she turned two. She caught on immediately, within 30minutes of us all going through her room getting rid of all...

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Sometimes kids are weird

Posted 1 month, 2 days ago

My 6 year old still puts things in his mouth, toys, icicles from the bottom of the car. We've explained why he needs to stop this behaviour, but don't know how to effectively stop the behaviour....

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Difficult Conversation Must Happen

Posted 1 month, 3 days ago

Dear John, I've been a follower of yours for almost 20 years now. You have helped me to see that I can strike a balance between the "new psychobabble" and God's Truth. I am forced to balance...

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Trim Teen Talk Time?

Posted on 2/22/2019

My son will be 16 In a month. When he was younger, he and I (his mother) would have 'talk time' - when we would lie in bed before he went to sleep to talk, share, etc. We stopped doing that a...

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Picky picky picky!

Posted on 2/22/2019

My two year old grandson will only eat yogurt and cheese at my house and is picky at his grandad's as well. He does drink milk and juice. If I put out fruit or other foods, he won't even try...

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Grandma needs answers for 6 year old who won't stop to use the potty

Posted on 2/22/2019

My 6 year old grand-daughter still has accidents because she doesn't want to stop playing. Thankfully, it's just #1 and not poop. I only have her and her sister occasionally and can not discuss...

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Grandmother's standards.

Posted on 2/22/2019

My two grand-daughters live with their dad now that my daughter is dead. Their dad is a pathological liar and my daughter would get very upset when the girls "exaggerated" or out right lied to...

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Toying With Grandma

Posted on 2/22/2019

My six-year-old granddaughter is terrible about helping her sister put up toys. She always has been. Before my daughter died, she was trying hard to get her to obey without all the drama, and the...

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