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Tickets for "Dis"ing

Posted 2 days ago

I would like to start using the ticket system (again!) with our older 2 kids who are 5.5 years old and 4 years. How can I effectively explain the behavior of disrespect to our kids so they have...

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Following Rules

Posted 2 days ago

My 5 year old just started kindergarten and she has made a few friends - one that she just adores. This morning when I dropped her off for school she couldn't find her best friend and she was...

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Withholding Birthday From 7 Year Old

Posted 2 days ago

Hi, My 7 year old daughter has a perfect word that describes her actions towards her home school and chores, and that word is lollygag. I have frustrations with this and have for awhile. I had to...

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Entitled, Self-Centered 14 YO Boy

Posted 4 days ago

I have a question re. how to handle my son's awful behavior. He is 14 years old. His Father and I switched custody 6 months ago through mediation, following a lawsuit that my son requested because...

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How to Deal With Potty Accidents at Home

Posted 1 week ago

My two and a half year old has been potty training for 7 months. She does great when out. When we are home she pees on herself and says nothing. This is ONLY happening at home. What are we to do???

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Helping a Preschooler Go Potty Without Mom

Posted 1 week ago

Hi! I have a boy who will be 5 next month and he won't go to the bathroom by himself. I thought it was kind of cute when he always wanted to go with me and now I recognize the error of my ways. I...

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Toilet Training on the Run

Posted 1 week ago

We are following N75 with our 23-month-old. It is only day four, so I know I need to be patient. We are still having more accidents than successes, but are sticking with it as I know it's still...

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How to Spend Time with Spoiled Grandchildren

Posted 1 week ago

We have followed you for 39 years!! Congrats! Time for a grandparent question. Our son who is 38 yr old married has 2 children, 3 and 1 yr. He and his wife have decided not to set boundaries...

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How to Encourage Dyslexic Child

Posted 1 week ago

Hello, My child is in second grade and is severely dyslexic. She has an IEP and also receives specific dyslexia tutoring outside of school. Her classroom teacher is very strict and she is...

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Teen Proofing with Cell Phones

Posted 1 week ago

I am currently reading John's book Teen Proofing. In chapter 3 he discusses the six C-words, curfew, cash, car, cohorts, conflict, and consequences. He gives detailed explanations of how he and...

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Six year old needs a leader.

Posted 1 week ago

My son just turned 6 and started Kindergarten at a really great private school that has high expectations for kind behavior. His behavior in the classroom is very good, but he's having a bit of...

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Revisiting the teen driving issue.

Posted 1 week ago

Our son had no major violations for six months and we agreed to pay for drivers Ed. He is nearing completion and set to test for his license in October. We currently drive him to career tech...

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4 yro not listening

Posted 1 week ago

Good afternoon. I am still struggling with my 4 year old son. He has a lot of trouble listening to directions, no matter what consequences have been put in place. We've taken away privileges, put...

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Change takes time.

Posted 1 week ago

Our 4.5 y.o. grandson has recently started having issues with rage and uncontrollable tantrums. Today, in the midst of one of his outbursts (tired and angry about having to leave a fun-filled day...

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phone use for 23 yo

Posted 1 week ago

HI, My husband and I have been married 2 years. I have 2 boys, 15 and 17, who live with us half the time. He has 2 boys, 23 and 20, who are rarely at our house because they are in college. All 4...

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7 yo "won't" go to sleep without parents in bed

Posted 1 week ago

My 7-year old (almost 8) will not sleep without mom or dad laying with her until she is asleep. She says she is afraid she will not be able to go to sleep. If we stay with her until she is asleep,...

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Normal Sexual Behaviors for 6 YO

Posted 1 week ago

I have seen by 6, almost 7 year old daughter touching herself several times when i have walked in her room. Is this normal for sucha young age?

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4 yro hurting 1 yro brother

Posted 1 week ago

I have a 4 year old girl and 1 year old boy. The older child has hurt her little brother, and meant it. She pushed his head down onto his tray, and she pulled his foot out from under him, for...

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Parenting Teen on Autism Spectrum

Posted 2 weeks ago

Currently raising 5th 13 year old, other children’s ages 18-31, have read Teen Proofing several times and purchased book for friends. What Teen Proofing publication can John recommend to help me...

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Preschooler Hitting at School

Posted 2 weeks ago

My son is 4 years old and started a new school. He attended this schools summer camp to get adjusted to a new place and the teacher prior o starting the school year. School has been in session...

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Strong willed v. needing leadership.

Posted 2 weeks ago

I'm a single mother of a strong-willed 6 years old daughter. Her Dad hasn't been around much. We divorced when my daughter was almost 2 yrs because of substance abuse. Recently, the paternal...

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Never feed fear.

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hi there. My 10 year old son is very fearful of thunderstorms. He panics before they happen and is a mess when a bad one is going on. He loses a lot of sleep during a storm. Any thoughts?

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Routine Chart for Toddler

Posted 2 weeks ago

Routine daily tasks are a struggle with my 23 month old. Brushing teeth, putting her hair up, taking it down, scrubbing in the bath, washing her hair, and when I have to do them all at bedtime...

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Teen Dating

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hello -- Do you have any collection of articles about teen dating? (it did not seem to be listed as a subject) Any overall rules of thumb to apply? We have a 16 year old boy that is getting...

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Posted 2 weeks ago

My daughter has a three year old son. For many reasons the father has never been involved in his life since pregnancy and on. He did not want to and his financial support was not needed. This fact...

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11 m, 3.5 and 7yrs Road-trip Remedies

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hello! We have three usually well behaved children who were all raised on the Parenting By the Book philosophy. They sleep in their own beds, do normal age appropriate chores, have normal sibling...

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Book Trouble

Posted 2 weeks ago

My almost 4 year old tears books, as in the covers off or page(s) out of books. We have removed all books from his room. We have found that when we do find a book that is torn it is a result of...

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3 yo Disturbing Family Sleep

Posted 3 weeks ago

HI there. We have a 3 yr. 5 mo. old little girl who is waking up around 5:00am and proceeds to go around waking up her sisters (twins age 6 and a 5 year old). Our rule has always been stay in...

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19 mo potty training

Posted 3 weeks ago

My 19 month old is using the Naked and 75 method and in my mind making great progress. We are 3 weeks into training. For the first week she was having accidents around the house and was not...

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Girl Boy Clothes

Posted 3 weeks ago

My 4 year old granddaughter say she wants to be a boy and her mother has started letting her wear “boy” clothes. What advice would you give me as to how to deal with this? I am very upset and need...

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4 year old's hitting has gone on way too long

Posted 3 weeks ago

My son is 4 years old and does not listen to direction and hits at home and school ( mom, younger sister, school friends and teachers and occasionally dad). This behavior has been going on for at...

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4 YO Boy Says He is a Girl

Posted 3 weeks ago

Our 4 year old son has recently been saying he is a girl. This began shortly after watching several episodes of Dora the Explorer. All of his siblings are older and don’t live at home. He is...

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13 year old abusing computer privileges

Posted 3 weeks ago

I'm having a technology issue with my almost 13 year old. We have placed guidelines and restrictions on her computer use but she continues to abuse her privileges. She went all summer with no...

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Tantrums in 4 YO boy

Posted 3 weeks ago

I’ve read many of the tantrums questions - how to deal when the child is 4-5. My child is 4 and throws multiple tantrums with plenty of disrepect - and demands that he needs to pee, he’s scared,...

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18m & 6 yrs Daughters Dealing with Dad's Death

Posted 3 weeks ago

Does John have any writings on children dealing with the death of a parent? My 37yo husband suffered a heart attack and passed away while we were on a family vacation last month (totally...

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NIGHTTIME=NICETIME for spouses who enforce a child's bedtime

Posted 4 weeks ago

We have a 9 yo girl and 7 yo boy. Bedtime is usually supposed to be at 8pm. In the last several months, both of them, though mainly our daughter, has slowly pushed that back to 9, sometimes 10pm,...

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Food throwing toddler

Posted 4 weeks ago

My 19 month old throws food defiantly and we are so tired of this battle that’s been occurring for almost 1 yr now, we have tried taking food away immediately, saying “no food stays on your tray”...

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Adult Children Moving Back Home

Posted 4 weeks ago

What would be your set of household rules for 2 adult children living with you (one recently returned home after living 2 years with friends who is currently working part time and finishing school...

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Toliet training

Posted 4 weeks ago

The potty training program is not working. I've been doing it for about a week with my 23 month old. The first two days he peed in the potty 2x each day. Since then he hasn't peed in the potty...

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Middle School Behaviors

Posted 4 weeks ago

Is there a section on this site for teachers? Where can I find information about dealing with behaviors in a school setting specifically middle school?

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Hitting needs to be Nipped in the Bud

Posted on 8/22/2018

My 4 year old daughter has begun hitting. At first, I had given time outs, but when the frequency started to increase over the last few weeks, I wanted to nip this in the bud. I set up a 7 day...

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Parent anxiety can be contagious to 8 yo

Posted on 8/22/2018

Our 8-year-old son is headed back to school tomorrow, and we just got word that one of his favorite elementary teachers has been arrested for third-degree sexual abuse. We believe in the “Tell him...

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Throwing fits at bedtime

Posted on 8/22/2018

Hello! Our eldest daughter started throwing wild tantrums when we put her to bed. Since 1.5 week after we go through our usual bedtime routine and when we are set to leave her room, she jumps...

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Bored kindergartener?

Posted on 8/22/2018

Hi- I have a “just turned” 5yo that has just started kindergarten about 1 month ago. He mostly comes home on “green” but he has had 5 days below green over the last month. The teacher emailed...

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Daughter is fearful about going to kindergarten

Posted on 8/22/2018

We thought going to the open house tonight would help, but it didn't seem to - our daughter is anxious about kindergarten. All summer she has vacillated between being a bit nervous and downright...

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Almost five year old and having anger issues

Posted on 8/21/2018

My son is almost 5. We just recently discovered this website and books and have had some luck with the charts (still only 2 weeks in, so success can’t quite be claimed yet)! While some behaviors...

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Mom of twin girls isn't having fun being a Mom.

Posted on 8/20/2018

Hi team Rosemond, I need a pep talk. My twins are 4 years old in December, both girls. They have been raised Rosemond style from the start and are good kids. However, for whatever reason, I...

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The Cost of Working

Posted on 8/20/2018

I have a 9 year old in school and a 2 year old foster child that we are adopting who was placed with us in February. When she was placed with us I cut back my workload to try and spend as much...

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When should a bystander intervene?

Posted on 8/19/2018

While entering a grocery store last week, I saw a mother leaving the store, pushing a stroller with her son (age 3?). She was clearly angry with the boy as she was pushing him. Then she stopped,...

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Thoughts on ADHD and Discipline

Posted on 8/19/2018

Where can I find John's thoughts on disciplining children with ADHD? I remember reading in one of his books that they can learn how to behave with the same disciplinary methods used with "normal"...

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