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10 year old and 8 year old participating in sibling rivalry

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My son (age 10)and my daughter (age 8) argue and fight but it is mostly my son who antagonizes his sister and she ends up telling on him to us. It happens ALL day long. I try to not take sides but...

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6 year old boy won't wipe after using the bathroom

Posted 4 days ago

My 3 month shy of 7 year old boy won’t wipe when he goes to the bathroom which results in poop in his underwear. I’ve taught him how to wipe, but he says he doesn’t like it. I make him clean out...

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Mom Wants to Put a Lid on Potty Talk

Posted 4 days ago

My 5 year old son has frequently been using the following words out of context: butt, fart, toot, booger etc. He gets on these trash talking rants. He’s laughing and joking most of the time....

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Escape artist refuses to nap

Posted 4 days ago

My 2 year old recently discovered she can crawl out of her crib. Now she refuses to take a nap. I repeatedly put her back in her crib, and she crawls back out. Any suggestions? Should I put lock...

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Alpha Speech Payoff!

Posted 4 days ago

Not a question today but a praise report! Today at the park, in alpha speech, I told my son we would be leaving in 5 minutes. When the 5 minutes were up, I said “we are leaving”, my son...

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Back on track, potty training

Posted 4 days ago

My 27-month daughter was potty trained 2 months ago and was doing great. She was not having accidents. 2 weeks ago I gave birth to our second daughter and now my 2-yr old is having accidents. ...

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Setting Self Aside--A Teen's Family Obligation

Posted 1 week ago

My husband works out of town every other week. He is out of town for the Easter holiday. He does not have a relationship with my older son, who is living at home during this college semester. He...

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Parent Worried About Autism

Posted 1 week ago

4-year old, dad not involved since his birth. 8 months ago my child saw a video about pregnant ladies and since then he pretends to be pregnant. he knows he is a boy and that cannot happen but...

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How to request a consultation with John Rosemond

Posted 1 week ago

So my daughter and son-in-law have read the book John recommended and have agreed to a consultation with him. I will be paying for this consult. How do we proceed? He wanted to speak with both of...

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Almost 4 year old refuses to poop in the toilet

Posted 1 week ago

My grandson will be 4 the end of May. He has been partially potty trained for over a year, but will have bowel movements in his pants, then run to the bathroom and dump it in the toilet. If told...

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Create a Toy Library to Foster Resourcefulness

Posted 1 week ago

Our 3.5 year old daughter has been difficult with finding things to play with by herself. She’ll say things like “I’m bored” or “what time is it right now?” Because she wants me to tell her what...

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Toddler Needs Help Working Through Separation Anxiety

Posted 1 week ago

My 15 month old daughter will cry and cry if my husband and I wont pick her up or give her all of our attention. This isn't feasible since we have things we have to get done. How can we help her...

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4 Y/O Won't Greet People Kindly

Posted 2 weeks ago

My 4 year old son does not greet people. He gives them a scowl or growls at them. He sometimes hides behind me. I’ve told him so many times that he can’t make mean faces at people. It takes him...

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Personal Coaching

Posted 2 weeks ago

Our son is 5 1/2 years old. We signed him up for a private Christian school for kindergarten next year. They had room in their Pre-K, so we got him in to complete the year. Since he's been...

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Senior Picture Haircut Battle

Posted 2 weeks ago

My seventeen year old son has been growing his hair out. It is time for his senior pictures and I want him to get a haircut. His girlfriend likes his hair, therefore he is reluctant to cut it. How...

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19 Year-old Son's Girlfriend Glued to Her Phone

Posted 2 weeks ago

My nineteen-year-old son is living at home attending college during COVID. His girlfriend comes to visit on the weekends. She does not engage in conversation with me or make eye contact but is...

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Door-slamming, Window-banging, Stuff-throwing: Is This What Little Boys are Made of?

Posted 3 weeks ago

I have a high misbehaver and he has been on the ticket system for many months with two target misbehaviors of disobedience and fighting with his brother. I need some advice of how to switch him...

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Reducing Stress in an 8yr old Boy

Posted 3 weeks ago

Hello again! My 8 year old son was diagnosed with tics at age 3. A major trigger to these tics is anxiety. Having anxiety myself it is no surprise I’ve raised an anxious kid. That coupled with the...

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Potty Training

Posted 3 weeks ago

We are toilet training our 18 month old son. He has sat on the small potty many times, peed in it a few times, mostly he refuses to sit on it. He is clearly capable of what is being asked of him....

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Keep it Simple!

Posted on 3/10/2021

We have been doing the 6 block chart system with our 4 year old. We did the ticket system prior to this. He loses privileges on blocks 3 (LEGOs), 4 (Hot Wheels), and 5 (TV). He goes to his room on...

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New Approach Needed for Kindergartener

Posted on 3/10/2021

My six-year-old kindergartener has trouble sitting in his seat and paying attention in his school. His teacher reports that he will talk to himself under his breath during instruction time, get up...

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For 18 YO Good Actions Lead To Good Feelings

Posted on 3/10/2021

Our 18yr old son says that he is stressed out. He is finishing his senior year of high school which has not been a normal year with Covid and what politically has happened in the US, as well as...

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She's a Screamer!

Posted on 3/9/2021

My two year old daughter has developed a habit of screaming. She scream when doesn’t get what she wants or her brother takes something from her. How do I address this misbehavior? I know she is...

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Two year old screams while Mom is on the phone.

Posted on 3/9/2021

How do I get my two year old to not scream or ask questions while I’m on the phone?

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Public Nuisance

Posted on 3/7/2021

Hi! My daughter will be five in May. Her attention-seeking behavior when she's escalating are easy to deal with at home. We don't feed into it. However, when we're in public, it's a challenge....

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Potty training turns into playing

Posted on 3/6/2021

Hi! I have 2 new questions: Bath time is rough because our daughter wants to sit and play on the toilet instead of taking a bath. Bath time is part of our bedtime routine so I’m not sure how...

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Another electronic challenge

Posted on 3/6/2021

I have a 12 year old daughter who i think is addicted to electronics. She makes it known she is bothered by members of the family and doesn’t want to participate in anything family related. I used...

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Goal: Handle Homework Independently

Posted on 3/4/2021

I know I’ve read in one of your books or perhaps somewhere on your website a suggestion for how elementary school age kids can practice spelling words on their own. At the time, I didn’t have a...

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Put and End to Nagging Over Chores

Posted on 3/4/2021

Would love some feedback on chores for my 6 and 8 year olds. Every Saturday they are expected to each clean their own mirror and sink in the bathroom, clean either the play room or their bedroom...

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Home/School Divide

Posted on 3/4/2021

We are in the early stages of implementing John's Discipline strategies. So far, I definitely see improvement in our children's behavior, respect of our authority and each other. We have four...

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Yelling and spanking are ineffective parenting tools.

Posted on 3/4/2021

We live with my parents and our two kids (1, and almost 3). My mom particularly is mad about the "being calm" advice. She feels that I need to scold my almost 3-year-old and that there is no logic...

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Meltdowns, Scratches, and Wrestling Matches: Dealing With the Brothers 3

Posted on 3/1/2021

Over the past year, we have spent more time together as a family at home. While some of this has been good, we have also seen conflict between our oldest boys, ages 4 and 6, increase. Sometimes...

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Teen Boy Not So Sneaky

Posted on 2/28/2021

My teenage son keeps sneaking food and disobeying. He isn't allowed to eat in his room, yet he sneaks food in there fairly often. We just found a jar of brown sugar with a spoon in it. He has...

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Follow up questions - confidence during potty training

Posted on 2/28/2021

Parent guru question 2: Thanks for your last response. Our 25-month old daughter is successfully wearing shorts no underwear, and has had 0 accidents at home in 8 days! I have 2 new...

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How To Deal With Constant Complaining

Posted on 2/26/2021

I have seen a rise in grumbling, complaining, arguing (with each other and with us) from our older boys, ages 4 and 6. I submitted a separate question about the conflict between the boys, but...

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Encouraging Resourcefulness

Posted on 2/26/2021

My husband thinks I need to provide more structure for our 2, 4 and 6 year old. This has risen out of increasing complaints about boredom, fighting between the kids and increasing misbehavior...

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Stay the course - potty training

Posted on 2/24/2021

I am currently potty training my youngest, almost 19 months. I have purchased John's books on the terrible 2s and potty training and I have been trying to follow all the advice. It has been a week...

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Afraid of the potty

Posted on 2/24/2021

I am in the process of potty training a 3 year old. She is irrationally afraid of the potty, and seems to believe she will fall in even though she is using a small toddler-sized potty that she...

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Knowing When and How to Use Time-Out With Toddler

Posted on 2/22/2021

Hello, I just asked a question the other day about toddler hitting, pushing, etc. When he does this, he is not having a tantrum. He is actually laughing. I was suggested to implement a time...

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Too Soon for Discipline?

Posted on 2/22/2021

Is it too early to discipline a 13 month old? My son is hitting & screaming A LOT and I swat his little hands when he hits and it does not phase him... Little swats on his bum do not phase him...

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Confidence during potty training

Posted on 2/20/2021

We are potty training our 25-month old. I took a week off work to keep our daughter home from daycare to really get a good start. We read Toilet Training without Tantrums and are following Naked...

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Need more information

Posted on 2/19/2021

I have read four of the books. My son was diagnosed with ADHD and autism. We are working to get him off of ritalin and now give him a ton of omega 3, some probiotics, a multivitamin and a...

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Am I doing to much?

Posted on 2/18/2021

I have 3 children, soon to be 5, soon to be 4, soon to be 2. I have begun implementing alpha speech and tickets within the last month. I am still using the "offense" to lose tickets as not...

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4-Year-Old Hates Being Corrected

Posted on 2/18/2021

Hi! My 4.5 year old has a problem as of late being corrected. She runs away and hides in her room. When we check on her, she whines inaudibly or kind of yell/whines to be left alone. I don't...

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Developmental Delays and Potty Training

Posted on 2/16/2021

Toilet training follow up - soiling pants still. Our disabled (developmental delay, hearing loss, sensory processing delay) 4.5 year old daughter has been toilet training for about a month now. ...

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When Getting Dressed Becomes Game of Chase

Posted on 2/16/2021

Hi, my daughter, will turn 3 in 2 months recently started defying us when it comes to changing her clothes. Whenever she is told it’s time to do it, she thinks its some sort of game, runs away or...

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2-Year-Old's Aggressive Behavior Is Unacceptable

Posted on 2/15/2021

Hello! I have two kids. Boy: Almost 3 (in May) Girl: 1 and 2 months old Boy is hitting girl, knocks her over and laughs when he does it. How can I approach this adequately?

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Agony Principle explained

Posted on 2/15/2021

My husband and I are so encouraged by the information we are reading in your book "The Well Disciplined Child". Could you elaborate on the Agony Principle in regards to confining our 7 year old...

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2 yro sleeping with Mom and Dad HELP!

Posted on 2/15/2021

Our 26 1/2 month old daughter is still co-sleeping with my husband and me. Although we would like to move her out of our bed, we are struggling with the dynamic of how to move her into the room...

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Logic and a 4 Year Old Don't Go Together!

Posted on 2/12/2021

My 4 year old daughter is scared and I'm wondering if it's something we should be concerned about. She goes to bed fine (sleeps with the covers over her head because of her fears) but she ends up...

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