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5 YO Needs to Act His Age

Posted 4 days ago

Hello, our just turned 5 year old is wonderful in school and even won an award for being the most kind in his class. However at home, he whines, acts like he can’t do things, and cries about...

Seeking Effective Discipline Strategies for 5-Year-Old's Behavioral Challenges

Posted 4 days ago

Our 5-year-old daughter has developed troubling behaviors. She lies frequently, doesn’t take care of her belongings, disrespects her older brother, and complains when asked to do tasks. We've...

Parents are the star of the show

Posted 2 weeks ago

5 year old daughter habitually lies. Doesn’t take care of the things she owns. We have taken away everything in her room to give it back when we’ve seen progress. Shows no respect to older...

Mass Confusion Has Taken Over!

Posted 2 weeks ago

I need a reset with our boys, ages 11, 9, 6 & 5. After a season of intense caring for our baby and 2-year-old daughter, things have become a disaster. The top misbehaviors in the house are...

A PLETHORA OF PROBLEMS WITH 6 YO BOY

Posted 2 weeks ago

Lately we are struggling with our 5 year old. It feels like there are many issues and it’s hard to know where to start. When we tell him it’s time to clean up, he’ll say “I’m tired” or will move...

19 YO THINKS SHE'S ADHD

Posted 2 weeks ago

I have a 19-year daughter who has been told she may be ADHD. She looked up the symptoms online and believes she now needs medication. I told her maybe she could use cognitive therapy. She told...

13 YO STEALING MONEY FROM PARENTS

Posted 2 weeks ago

My 13 year old son is stealing money from us. Both from my purse and our envelope system. I was suspicious for a long time, but now I am confident it's him. My guess it's to spend money on junk...

FRAGILE PRE-TEEN RELATIONSHIPS

Posted 3 weeks ago

My 11 year old daughter has had a falling out with one of her friends from church. She can usually resolve conflicts easily, but this one is much harder because it involved the other girl telling...

3 YO WAKES UP BEFORE SUNRISE AND WANTS TO ROCK 'N' ROLL!

Posted 3 weeks ago

Early morning wakings are becoming a problem for our 34 month old. He is waking up at 430/5 and waking up his 5 year old brother (they share a room). He naps at daycare from 1230-2 and his bedtime...

Daughter needs the Dr.'s help

Posted 3 weeks ago

I have a 5-yr old daughter disrupting her class on a daily basis. Her teacher has asked that we speak with her as it has become a problem as her teacher is constantly having to stop and start...

3 YO SWATS THE AIR INSTEAD OF HITTING

Posted 1 month ago

My 3.5-year-old son has always been a strong-willed child. About 6 months ago, we started using your discipline methods which have been great. Before that, we relied heavily on spanking but it...

The Ticket System

Posted on 9/13/2024

We are using John's Ticket System. Should my 4-year-old lose all 5 tickets before lunchtime? Is it reasonable to confine said 4-year-old to his room for the remainder of the day with the exception...

Look Out Boss, Here Comes the Baby!

Posted on 9/12/2024

I have a 6-year-old daughter and a 3-year-old son. My daughter, like many first-borns, tends to be bossy and often takes on a "little mama" role, frequently telling her brother what to do and what...

KIDS DON'T DO THEIR CHORES

Posted on 9/11/2024

Hi My question relates to chores and tasks and how to handle matters when they are not completed. We have x3 kids (8, 7, 5) who each have 3 chores each to do daily. Regarding chores; many...

SWIM LESSONS...OR NOT?

Posted on 9/11/2024

Our soon-to-be 4yo son has been taking a swim lesson once a week at a local swim school for 7 months. He is sometimes nervous in new situations, but showed no hesitancy about his first lesson and...

WATCHED VIDEO...WHAT NEXT?

Posted on 9/9/2024

I watched the 7 part video series and I’m wondering what to do if the child is still not complying after you follow those steps. Say I tell my 6 year old to get out of the trampoline and she says...

Nap-Time Struggles

Posted on 9/7/2024

We are struggling with nap-time. My 3 yr girl and 2 yr boy always take a nap in the afternoon. If they are at their grandparents’s house and are in separate rooms they go to sleep quickly. But if...

Look Out Boss, Here Comes the Baby!

Posted on 9/6/2024

I have a 6-year-old daughter and a 3-year-old son. My daughter is the typical first child who is bossy, little mama and directs her brother frequently on what to do, not to do etc. She’s a...

4YO's Behavior Wreaking Havoc

Posted on 9/5/2024

Our 4yr old son went from a local daycare where the children were allowed to run wild and is now in a private Montessori school. He will not respond to redirection, ignores instructions & lashes...

Carry On!

Posted on 9/1/2024

We have six kids ranging from 15-5. The oldest is a girl and the last 5 are boys. We are also homeschooling, so we are together ALL the time. It's hard for me to discipline her because I DON'T...

Time to Put a Stop to 9 YO Whiner

Posted on 8/31/2024

Hello, my 9 year old son tends to whine a lot. Asking him to grab something for me has him stomping, fussing and dragging his feet. When asking him to come review his schoolwork or play a game...

TELL NEW TEACHER ABOUT PREVIOUS PROBLEMS?

Posted on 8/30/2024

Our 9 yrs old son was diagnosed a few years ago with ADHD. Mainly challenge to focus and lots of energy. We've read John's book, The Diseasing of America's Children, and have implemented many...

Demanding Eye Contact from a Toddler - Yes? No?

Posted on 8/29/2024

I’m currently reading the well behaved child. My son turns 3 in October. It says not to micromanage and say “look at me when I’m talking to you” but I would like my children to look at someone in...

Potty Gate question

Posted on 8/29/2024

My daughter is 19 months. On august 1st we started potty training. I can count on one hand the amount of times she has gone on the potty. She is able to understand commands. When we ask her where...

Building a parenting framework

Posted on 8/29/2024

I have a 19 month old daughter and a 35 month old son. I’m currently reading the well behaved child and reading the sibling rivalry part however it says 3.5 years and up for the tickets. My son...

B.O. & B.O.!

Posted on 8/29/2024

Hi, a common thread here with my questions but thought I'd ask the experts. My 5 year old grandson is still sleeping in his parents bed. I said something and I think they all realize it has to...

Is Age 8 Too Young to Do Homework Independently?

Posted on 8/26/2024

Hello. We have a just-turned 8 year old son who gets easily distracted. We have met with his teachers to rule out ADHD. My simple question is this: is 8 years old too young to hold them to a...

7 YOU SNEAKS FOOD

Posted on 8/23/2024

Adopted a girl out of foster care, two years ago. We did a garden-kick recently for a legion of problems. She is 7.5 YO and is well-fed in the daytime. She sneaks food at night. Last night she...

MORE SOCIOPATHIC BEHAVIOR FROM 15 YO GIRL

Posted on 8/23/2024

Thank you for your reply. I actually sent both parents a description of sociopathy after the thefts and asked that they send her to counseling. My husband agreed but his ex emphatically disagreed...

TODDLER POOPS AND POOPS AND POOPS IN HIS PANTS

Posted on 8/22/2024

My son is 27 months. We’ve been potty training since 19 months. He’s struggling with still pooping his underwear a lot. He poops very frequently so it’s not uncommon for me to wash out 4-6 pairs...

Address the parenting issue first.

Posted on 8/22/2024

My 14 yr old dtr is in rebellion. She displays good manners. But when she does not get her way she throws a tantrum and spews false accusations against her dad and I. Her IQ was eval'd at an...

A New Beginning!

Posted on 8/22/2024

My daughter is 8 (only child) and we have come to realize we have created a child centered household. We want to start changing our parenting and realize some obstinance may come with this new...

Should 8YO Be Allowed to Quit Soccer?

Posted on 8/22/2024

My 8 year old daughter wanted to sign up for her fourth year of soccer so we did so. After a handful of practices and a game she wants to quit. She says she hates everything about it and hates...

Taming the Terrible Twos

Posted on 8/21/2024

Our 2 yr son is very disrespectful and has a fiery temper. He loves to hit and say “no” whenever we cross his will or sometimes even when he thinks trouble is coming. The rebellious, defiant...

TERRIBLE TWOS IN TWO CHILDREN AT ONCE!!!

Posted on 8/20/2024

My 3 yr daughter and 2 yr son can be very emotional at times, especially my daughter. Sometimes she has melt downs over the silliest things. For example, I tuck her in for the night but I use the...

TEENAGER HAS A PERSONALITY DISORDER?

Posted on 8/20/2024

How can you tell the difference between normal teen rebellion and other personality disorders?

5 YO's Low Tolerance for Frustration is Frustrating Mom

Posted on 8/20/2024

Our 5 year old son has little control over his emotions. A year ago it was mainly struggling with perfectionism and crying about not doing something the “right” way, lately it’s a big outburst...

SOCIOPATHIC BEHAVIOR IN TEEN GIRL?

Posted on 8/19/2024

I need advise about a situation I am dealing with with my almost 15 yo stepdaughter. She has been exhibiting very bad behavior over the last 1-2 years including lying, stealing, sneaking out,...

TICKET SYSTEM WITH 3 CHILDREN SIMULTANEOUSLY?

Posted on 8/19/2024

We're about to start using the "tickets" system with our twin 3.5 year old girls and 5.5 year old boy, mainly targeting refusal to obey commands and talking back. My question is: if a child...

Be a Confident Leader

Posted on 8/19/2024

When using the tickets system with children (3-6 years old), how long should you give them to obey an instruction before a ticket is taken? Should you give them a minute or so grace period after...

Teaching Respect

Posted on 8/18/2024

My child lost all her tickets yesterday and then spent the remainder of the day in her room. I removed all the toys but I did leave several books. Today I found out that she had ripped the front...

Mom Concerned About Neighborhood Playtime Discord

Posted on 8/18/2024

I have four children in elementary school. They play with a neighborhood boy that is a few years older—so the neighbor boy is the oldest. I don’t get involved with their play, but I do...

10 & 12 year old brothers, "highly sensitive" and "strong willed"

Posted on 8/17/2024

I am on board with all the traditional discipline "like grandma did it." We have 5 children ranging in age now 24 down to 10. The 10-year-old son has all the signs of being what I understand to be...

Enter the Doctor

Posted on 8/15/2024

I have a 4-year-old who has been having sleeping problems which started about 4 months ago, out of the blue. He had been a good sleeper prior. He decided he was scared at night and didn't want to...

NEARLY 3 YO LITTLE GIRL WON'T POOP IN THE POTTY

Posted on 8/9/2024

My 33 month granddaughter pees on the toilet, and has few accidents. Either informs us she has to go or it happens when told every few hours that it’s time. Pooping is another story. She hides...

Raising a Good Sport

Posted on 8/8/2024

How do I help my 8-year-old cope with losing?

Grandparent views

Posted on 7/31/2024

HI, new 1 year old grandson. My daughter in law is very anxious in general, germophobia but a nice person. My question is - she holds the kid or my son or if I'm there basically a requirement if...

SON DISRESPECTING MOTHER FOLLOWING DIVORCE

Posted on 7/29/2024

I am a single mother since 3 years. His father did not visit our soon to be 10 year old after the separation. Our son started to become aggressive and disrespectful towards me. I arranged the...

Change starts with me.

Posted on 7/29/2024

Hi, What do I need to change /action I need to take in myself when my 16 year old daughter blatantly isolates to her room from me when I'm home does not make me explode in frustration? She...

14 yro in full blow rebellion

Posted on 7/27/2024

Our 14 yr daughter is completely out of control. We started seeing warning signs a couple years ago. She's been grounded in some form or fashion for at least 6 months of each of the last 2 years....

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