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Posted 5 days ago

Hello, my six year old son is struggling with his attitude and respect towards authority. We realized our leadership talk was poor, and have since adjusted. Additionally, we have "lowered the...

Talking to an 11 year old not working

Posted 1 week ago

I am having issues with my 11 yo son. He recently got his phone taken away for looking up inappropriate things. He also isn't able to play video games on the weekend unless his teacher signs a...

A Booklover's Guide to Agony

Posted 2 weeks ago

just received a call from our Head of School, informing me that our 8-year-old son threatened another child at school. This behavior is completely out of character for him. When we asked him about...

A Booklover's Guide to Agony

Posted 3 weeks ago

I just received a call from our Head of School stating our 8 year old son threatened another child at school. This is completely out of character for him and when asked about he said"he let his...

You are welcome...

Posted 3 weeks ago

Thank you for your quick response! I have been trying to back away from all of this but was feeling guilty because his dad has never been much of a disciplinarian. He admits he just wanted to be...

Step-mom blues

Posted 3 weeks ago

I have a 14 yr old stepson that lies, sneaks (had electronics taken away but snuck his school tablet into his room to look at inappropriate things), and has "run away" to his grandparents to get...

Aggressive 2yo

Posted 3 weeks ago

Dear John, My almost two year old daughter (20 months) has been showing aggression in her daycare class for the last couple of months and it’s escalating. It started with biting one child and...

Guidance on Son's Challenges

Posted 1 month ago

Our 4th child is 9 years old (we have 6 total), and was recently evaluated as having a few diagnosis issues via psychology office. One of them being "oppositional defiant disorder." We have been...

Little Miss Dependent

Posted on 2/9/2025

Our newly six-year-old daughter, an only child, constantly seeks our attention and prefers not to be alone when we’re home. She wants us to stay with her longer at bedtime, engage in...

4 YO Not Fazed By Consequences

Posted on 2/7/2025

I’m struggling to find compelling consequences for my 4 year old. We’ve tried taking away privileges like TV shows and toys, but she quickly moves on. We’ve tried time out, but the effects are...

Little Miss Dependent

Posted on 2/4/2025

Our just-turned-six-year-old daughter, an only child, wants our constant attention and does not want to be alone when we are at home. She wants us to stay with her longer when we put her to...

Helping Daughter Overcome Shyness and Build Confidence

Posted on 2/4/2025

Dear John my name is Tatiana Silva, and I reside in Nassau, Bahamas. We've had a conversation over the phone previously, and I continue to value and follow your work closely. I'm reaching out for...

When asking doesn't work

Posted on 2/1/2025

Most evenings when we ask my daughters to clean up (6.5 and 4.5 years old) the 4 year old does one or all of the following; whine, says she can't do it, says it's too much, gets distracted, slowly...

Keep It Simple

Posted on 1/28/2025

We reached out in October regarding our 4-year-old son's hitting peers and defiance towards teachers at school. Mr. Rosemond recommended, and we are implementing the "on-call" parent, picking him...

Parenting is not deterministic.

Posted on 1/28/2025

My 17 year old son is a senior in high school. I've been concerned that he only hangs out with girls. I'm concerned about his sexuality. I went through his texts without his knowledge and...

Addressing Disruptive Behavior in an 8-Year-Old

Posted on 1/26/2025

My 8-year-old son has been disruptive before and during school. He seems to think his behavior is funny. Yesterday, he tried to stuff someone else's lunch into a different lunchbox (not even his...

Teachable moments

Posted on 1/25/2025

Wonderful advice. Thank you so much! Your books are amazing; we love them. I just purchased and listened to The 7 Biggest Mistakes Parents Make. Our problem is that we were more "buddy buddy"...

Managing high conflict parenting.

Posted on 1/23/2025

Per parenting plan 9y/o son & 12y/o daughter may contact dad at will. Recently, ex demanded I make sure the kids call every day, then started ordering them to call at certain times. He will...

Change your parenting direction

Posted on 1/23/2025

My son who is 8 is being disruptive before/during schooltime. He thinks it is funny. He tried to stuff someone's lunch into someone else's lunchbox (not even his own) yesterday. He takes things...

Embracing 'Season 1' of Your Child's Life

Posted on 12/30/2024

My 6-month-old baby boy constantly wants to be picked up and held. Whenever I try to set him down, he fusses until I hold him again. How can I help redirect his attention and encourage him to...

Getting creative with your space

Posted on 12/29/2024

My four-year-old daughter shares a bedroom with her seventeen-year-old sister. Can you recommend an alternative consequence for tickets that would be as effective as sending her to her room for...

Calm Consequences: Teaching Accountability

Posted on 12/26/2024

I am a single mom of 5-year-old twin boys. They are generally well-behaved, thanks to reading your books multiple times, but I’ve noticed they often don’t follow through on instructions. For...

Mom Frustrated With 6YO Not Following Directives

Posted on 12/26/2024

Hello, I'm having issues with my 6 year old following directions and doing things the first time she's asked. I have made her a check list to help her organize her tasks which has helped. If I...

How to hold 5 yro's accountable

Posted on 12/14/2024

I am a single mom of twin boys that are 5. Their father and I have been in court most of the last year in a custody battle. My boys are typically well behaved thanks to reading your books...

Give Them an Inch...

Posted on 12/8/2024

We are in the process of resetting a slew of bad behaviors (sibling conflict, avoiding responsibility are currently the focus). I'm seeing an increase in defiance/disobedience, both directly and...

The Cost of Being the Boss

Posted on 12/8/2024

We have tried to make sure that our children know that my husband and I are the bosses in this home. We work on them waiting their turn to talk, saying yes sir and yes ma’am, please and thank you,...

Disciplining Autistic 7YO

Posted on 12/8/2024

I have a 7 year old girl. She is autistic and is a slow learner but isn't incapable. She has been slow in learning how to talk but has known and understood the word no for a long time. I'm having...

Tattling vs important information- 4 yro

Posted on 12/3/2024

At what point should we discipline for tattle telling? Our 4 year old loves to tell us when our 1-year old is doing something "wrong." My problem is that sometimes the information she gives me is...

Managing Daytime Wetting in Children

Posted on 11/30/2024

My 7-year-old daughter has recently started having daytime accidents where her pants are slightly wet—not full accidents, just a little damp. This only happens during the day; she doesn’t wet the...

Create opportunities for personal responsibility.

Posted on 11/29/2024

Hello, my daughter is 8 years old and was diagnosed with being on the autistic spectrum this summer. She’s very mean to her younger sister, 6. She gets angry at the slightest thing. Almost always...

POTTY TRAINING WITH 22 MONTH OLD

Posted on 11/22/2024

Please help us with potty training! We used "Naked and $75" with our oldest child and it worked great. Our next child, however (22 months) is really struggling. We've been doing it for 6 weeks...

From 2 year old bully to well behaved boy

Posted on 11/19/2024

Our 2 yr son has been struggling with lots of hitting, pulling hair, pushing, poking, grabbing (until his sister is screaming), biting, etc. towards anyone who displeases him. His 3 yr sister gets...

Should I be concerned about what my children think of ME!!!!!!

Posted on 11/16/2024

What should the response be when my 6 year old daughter says "you dont love me," or "I don't think you love me" when something is taken away from her or she's punished?

4 BOYS ARE BOYS; THEREFORE, THEY ARE MESSY

Posted on 11/13/2024

I’m happy to report that the villain/victim drama has been resolved, with incidents only once a week. I hear whispers of “Please, let’s work this out so we don’t have to go sit for an hour.” I’m...

8 YEAR OLD SLOB

Posted on 11/8/2024

My 9 year old daughter is a slob. She leaves cabinets open, clothes all over the floor, toys everywhere, items from the fridge on the counter, etc. She is otherwise a pleasant and obedient,...

Time for a visit from a coach

Posted on 11/5/2024

I am a single mom of 4. My childrens ears have officially stopped working and it's as if I'm not giving any instructions at all. The youngest (1.5) is now picking up on some bad behaviors. How do...

Change of focus is required

Posted on 11/3/2024

Our 4.5 year old (only child) daughter is incredibly intelligent, chatty, bright and social. We enrolled her in the local play school for socialization, and she goes to a local day home one day a...

TOILET TRAINING SNAFUS NO BIG DEAL

Posted on 10/28/2024

We started training my now 21 month old son at 19 months. We had him trained during naps and he's been dry overnight several times as well. However, for about the past two weeks he's been waking...

Misbehavior at School Prompted Note From Principal

Posted on 10/28/2024

I received the following from our the principal today regarding his behavior at school and need help. I'm sorry to send this on a Monday but I was quite taken by Lee's behavior this morning. We...

SIBLINGS IN SAME BEDROOM

Posted on 10/26/2024

Within the past few months, we transitioned our 4.5 year old daughter and our currently 23-month old son to a set of bunk beds (has stairs, not a ladder) in preparation for our new baby being...

10 yr old with a Guilty Conscience

Posted on 10/23/2024

My 10-year-old son is apologizing profusely. If we correct him, he tends to say "I'm sorry" many times, even after we acknowledged the apology. I told him that I will acknowledge the first...

GRANDMA IS RIGHT, BUT....

Posted on 10/22/2024

Good am! My middle son in Cheyenne Wyoming asked us to babysit 3 weeks since her mother who watches him is having back surgery. I said yes too quickly, but should work out. It is an hour drive...

4 YO AGRESSIVE IN SCHOOL

Posted on 10/18/2024

Hello. We have a 4yr old son who is hitting other students, throwing toys and ignoring teacher's instructions. He has 4 incidents in 2 days and has been suspended for one day from school. In one...

Game on at nap time.

Posted on 10/16/2024

My three year old grandson, whom I watch twice a week, often runs from me or hides behind a chair when I try to take him up for his nap or put him to bed. He also does it to my daughter, but not...

20 MONTH OLD REBELLING AGAINST TOILET TRAINING

Posted on 10/14/2024

Hi I have a 20 month old daughter and have spent 5 days doing naked75. During this time she would randomly sit on the potty when asked but most of the time she would refuse. When she did sit on it...

5 YO Needs to Act His Age

Posted on 10/10/2024

Hello, our just turned 5 year old is wonderful in school and even won an award for being the most kind in his class. However at home, he whines, acts like he can’t do things, and cries about...

Parents are the star of the show

Posted on 9/28/2024

5 year old daughter habitually lies. Doesn’t take care of the things she owns. We have taken away everything in her room to give it back when we’ve seen progress. Shows no respect to older...

Mass Confusion Has Taken Over!

Posted on 9/27/2024

I need a reset with our boys, ages 11, 9, 6 & 5. After a season of intense caring for our baby and 2-year-old daughter, things have become a disaster. The top misbehaviors in the house are...

A PLETHORA OF PROBLEMS WITH 6 YO BOY

Posted on 9/26/2024

Lately we are struggling with our 5 year old. It feels like there are many issues and it’s hard to know where to start. When we tell him it’s time to clean up, he’ll say “I’m tired” or will move...

19 YO THINKS SHE'S ADHD

Posted on 9/26/2024

I have a 19-year daughter who has been told she may be ADHD. She looked up the symptoms online and believes she now needs medication. I told her maybe she could use cognitive therapy. She told...

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