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Clash of the "Tot"ans

Posted 2 days ago

I have a two year old and four year old who are constantly bickering! I have limited toys to one bin a piece. They start imaginary play with each other which is great but that turns into she...

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5 yro tantrums

Posted 1 week ago

Hi there. We have an almost 6 year old girl who has horrific tantrums. They occur about once every two weeks. Is this normal? Our other kids tantrums were never this awful (even worse than the...

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5 year old boy behaves better at home than at school

Posted 2 weeks ago

My 5 year old son is in preschool, and we are working very hard on his behavior and manners. He still has tantrums which I am working hard to end. Lately, when he has a tantrum or is disrespectful...

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Sibling Rivalry or Sibling Abuse?

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hello! We have two daughters (3.5 years and 14 months). Lately we have seen increased incidents where the youngest bites or hits the oldest or the oldest pushes the youngest away (our oldest...

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Cranky Kindergartner

Posted 2 weeks ago

My 5 year old daughter started full day kindergarten one month ago. She comes home exhausted and cranky and her behavior is inappropriate. She is unkind to our family and demanding. She has melt...

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...when co-bedding becomes a problem...

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hello, My daughter is 5 years old. I am a single mom so it's just the two of us at home. At night, we read stories and say night prayers, and I typically either fall asleep next to her, or sing...

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5 year old peeing on bedroom carpet

Posted 2 weeks ago

Our son is 5 years old and in kindergarten. He has been potty trained for over 2.5years but in the past 4 months has been peeing on his carpeted bedroom floor. He pees into corners, baskets, and...

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Getting a 4 and 6 yr old help get ready for school bus

Posted 3 weeks ago

This year my 4 year old has joined my 6 year old in the morning school routine, as she is in 4K and the other in 1st grade. They take the bus to school together and they have a list of things to...

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Granddaughter Wishes to be a Boy

Posted 3 weeks ago

My 4 year old granddaughter’s parents think she may be transgender and are taking her to a specialist. She says she wants to be a boy, dress like a boy, wear her hair short like a boy. I’m worried...

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Tickets for "Dis"ing

Posted 1 month ago

I would like to start using the ticket system (again!) with our older 2 kids who are 5.5 years old and 4 years. How can I effectively explain the behavior of disrespect to our kids so they have...

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Following Rules

Posted 1 month ago

My 5 year old just started kindergarten and she has made a few friends - one that she just adores. This morning when I dropped her off for school she couldn't find her best friend and she was...

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Helping a Preschooler Go Potty Without Mom

Posted on 9/14/2018

Hi! I have a boy who will be 5 next month and he won't go to the bathroom by himself. I thought it was kind of cute when he always wanted to go with me and now I recognize the error of my ways. I...

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4 yro not listening

Posted on 9/11/2018

Good afternoon. I am still struggling with my 4 year old son. He has a lot of trouble listening to directions, no matter what consequences have been put in place. We've taken away privileges, put...

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Change takes time.

Posted on 9/10/2018

Our 4.5 y.o. grandson has recently started having issues with rage and uncontrollable tantrums. Today, in the midst of one of his outbursts (tired and angry about having to leave a fun-filled day...

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4 yro hurting 1 yro brother

Posted on 9/8/2018

I have a 4 year old girl and 1 year old boy. The older child has hurt her little brother, and meant it. She pushed his head down onto his tray, and she pulled his foot out from under him, for...

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Preschooler Hitting at School

Posted on 9/7/2018

My son is 4 years old and started a new school. He attended this schools summer camp to get adjusted to a new place and the teacher prior o starting the school year. School has been in session...

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Book Trouble

Posted on 9/2/2018

My almost 4 year old tears books, as in the covers off or page(s) out of books. We have removed all books from his room. We have found that when we do find a book that is torn it is a result of...

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4 YO Boy Says He is a Girl

Posted on 8/29/2018

Our 4 year old son has recently been saying he is a girl. This began shortly after watching several episodes of Dora the Explorer. All of his siblings are older and don’t live at home. He is...

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Girl Boy Clothes

Posted on 8/29/2018

My 4 year old granddaughter say she wants to be a boy and her mother has started letting her wear “boy” clothes. What advice would you give me as to how to deal with this? I am very upset and need...

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4 year old's hitting has gone on way too long

Posted on 8/29/2018

My son is 4 years old and does not listen to direction and hits at home and school ( mom, younger sister, school friends and teachers and occasionally dad). This behavior has been going on for at...

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Tantrums in 4 YO boy

Posted on 8/27/2018

I’ve read many of the tantrums questions - how to deal when the child is 4-5. My child is 4 and throws multiple tantrums with plenty of disrepect - and demands that he needs to pee, he’s scared,...

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Hitting needs to be Nipped in the Bud

Posted on 8/22/2018

My 4 year old daughter has begun hitting. At first, I had given time outs, but when the frequency started to increase over the last few weeks, I wanted to nip this in the bud. I set up a 7 day...

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Daughter is fearful about going to kindergarten

Posted on 8/22/2018

We thought going to the open house tonight would help, but it didn't seem to - our daughter is anxious about kindergarten. All summer she has vacillated between being a bit nervous and downright...

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Bored kindergartener?

Posted on 8/22/2018

Hi- I have a “just turned” 5yo that has just started kindergarten about 1 month ago. He mostly comes home on “green” but he has had 5 days below green over the last month. The teacher emailed...

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Almost five year old and having anger issues

Posted on 8/21/2018

My son is almost 5. We just recently discovered this website and books and have had some luck with the charts (still only 2 weeks in, so success can’t quite be claimed yet)! While some behaviors...

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Mom of twin girls isn't having fun being a Mom.

Posted on 8/20/2018

Hi team Rosemond, I need a pep talk. My twins are 4 years old in December, both girls. They have been raised Rosemond style from the start and are good kids. However, for whatever reason, I...

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Preschooler with an Attitude

Posted on 8/8/2018

Our 4, almost 5 year old has developed a very strong attitude problem lately. Everything that my husband or I tell her turns into her talking back. We have always told her “because I said so,” but...

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Address manners with 9 year old one at a time

Posted on 8/8/2018

I'm hoping for a response from Katherine Saltzberg, as I am referencing her response titled "5 year old table manners". In your response, you state that each bad habit needs to be tackled one...

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Overwhelmed Mom wants to take back her authority, but can't stop yelling

Posted on 8/7/2018

My son is extremely defiant and NOTHING we have tried thus far has made a difference. Spanking him has to be done several times over, and is always accompanied by screaming, blaming, back-talk,...

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Grandma custody of 4yro

Posted on 8/3/2018

My 4 year old Grandson who has always lived with me seems to be having some new concerns regarding his Mom. His Mom, has not seen him since Christmas Day, and has not contacted me to do so. Yes,...

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When does a parent need to intervene with siblings?

Posted on 8/1/2018

I regularly read your newsletter and have read several of your books. I've heard you discuss the importance of kids being responsible for keeping the family peace and using a ticket type system to...

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Making Punishment Memorable

Posted on 8/1/2018

My 4 year old son has an AMAZING IMAGINATION! Its actually something I love about him! He's almost never bored and can entertain himself almost endlessly. Its great--except when he's sent to his...

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Nip Out-of-Control Behavior in the Bud

Posted on 7/31/2018

How do I apply John Rosemond's recommendations with three completely out-of-control boys (ages 5, 7, 9)? They don't follow any of the rules, regard all property in the house as their own (tools,...

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Save the Hugs for After the Punishment Is Complete

Posted on 7/31/2018

Whenever my 5 year old daughter is reprimanded or punished in any way, she immediately asks for a hug. How should I respond?

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Picking up on Bad Behavior

Posted on 7/25/2018

My son, age 4, is very impressionable and quickly picks up and mimics bad behaviors he sees from other kids. Many kids in our church nursery are badly behaved at this age group and, one in...

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5 year old bothered by noise

Posted on 7/25/2018

My granddaughter is 5 1/2 yrs old. She has a movement disorder called Complex Motor Stereotypies and along with that is a sensitivity to loud noises. She will be going to kindergarten in a few...

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Grandparent protocol.

Posted on 7/23/2018

Would you please put some insight into the grandparent relationship with small children. As in 2 and 4. We are having a terrible time with them when returning home. No manners, not pleased with...

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How to effectively delay consequences for 5,6 yros

Posted on 7/7/2018

I’m struggling to understand how to enact delayed consequences as described in The “Nipping” Principle and could use some suggestions. It’s easy enough to do while on errands as both my 5 and...

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Preparing children for Grandma's death

Posted on 7/1/2018

We have a 2.5 year old and a 5.5 year old; also have a niece and nephew that are 7 and 11 years old. My mother is dying of a terminal cancer and is now on hospice. We have been slowly telling the...

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"Mouthy" 5 y/o

Posted on 7/1/2018

My daughter is 5 1/2 years old. She will be starting kindergarten in the fall. She has always put things in her mouth (fingers, toys, pens) - anything she has in her hands she puts in her mouth....

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4 yo Won't Play Independently

Posted on 7/1/2018

This is a follow up to my question. Four year old will not play by herself. I absolutely realize I need to tell her instead of encouragen or ask! My hope is to have a little more analytical...

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Sibling conflict and ticket system

Posted on 6/29/2018

My 3yo daughter and 5yo son fight almost constantly. (We also have a 2 month old baby girl.) We started the ticket system a week ago and we are doing 5 tickets per day - one set for both of them,...

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4 year old won't play by herself

Posted on 6/29/2018

I have two children. A two year old and four year old. I have followed Dr. Rosemond’s advice from the start with the two year old and there is a night and day difference between their demeanors...

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Managing One-on-One Time

Posted on 6/27/2018

My 4 children are 6, 4, 2, and 6 months. I am kept pretty busy during the day with just feeding and naps and taking care of the house. My children ask for me to play with them often, or to spend...

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Screaming, and Crying and Tantrums, Oh, My!

Posted on 6/23/2018

4 year old daughter suddenly having 30-45 mins tantrums when she doesn’t want to do something. Kicks, screams bloody murder, throws herself around to the point of hurting herself or me, will not...

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Disobedience in twins

Posted on 6/21/2018

Please help!! My husband and I have been struggling for quite some time with our 4.5 year old boy/girl twins. They have endless, hyper energy and really always have. I am a stay at home mom and...

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9 year old boy needs mom to say it one time!

Posted on 6/21/2018

I sure appreciated the response from Katherine Saltzberg (Leadership is Always Plan A) to my question. Can Katherine or someone else please read my initial question and then expand on her comment...

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Leadership is always Plan A!

Posted on 6/15/2018

For the past couple of years, my husband and I have been using "charts" with our two kids, now ages 7 (girl) and 9 (boy). The charts were used primarily for when the kids "forgot" to do their...

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Is whining too general to list as a Target Misbehavior?

Posted on 6/13/2018

Can you put whining on a ticket system as a target behavior or does it need to be more specific?

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5 year old in boring bedroom is enough

Posted on 6/13/2018

I've recently read "The Well-Behaved Child" and have decided to implement the ticket system with both my 5 and 6 yo. I was doing a watered down version of this system already with what I called...

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