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Choices for Children?
Posted 2 weeks ago
Hello, listening to John's podcast. Great stuff. When is it permissible to allow a child a choice? I understand John speaks against 'democratic' parenting but would be good to hear a podcast...
Read MoreGrandparent's observation.
Posted 3 weeks ago
My almost 4 year old(in one month) Grand Daughter vigorously fights her parents over many things. In the morning, she fights over the choice of clothes and getting dressed(30-45 mins). She often...
Read MoreDisruptive Diner
Posted 3 weeks ago
Our youngest child is 5 and was adopted as an infant (not a newborn). He has strong food preferences. Our other boys (biological) eat well; they can be picky at times, but we don't fix special...
Read MoreRequire Independent Play
Posted on 2/17/2024
We are trying to promote our kids to be more independent with regards to their play. They are all boys ages 9, 7 and 5. They can play independently, but still want me to play with them and often...
Read MoreChild Sneaking out of Room for Snacks
Posted on 2/17/2024
When using the Doctor Method and sending your kids to bed early, what do you do when your kid is then so well rested, wakes up before everyone else, and rummages through the kitchen? My 5-year-old...
Read MoreTeaching Manners to a Five-Year-Old
Posted on 2/7/2024
During a recent visit to a private school we are considering sending our daughter to, I found it difficult to have a conversation with the school staff due to my daughter's constant whining and...
Read MoreHow to use charts/tickets with 3 kids
Posted on 1/13/2024
How to decide to use chart or ticket system for 3 kids? 11 y/o and 9 y/o sons would have same misbehaviors #1 Do things 1st time asked #2 Clean up after yourself #3 Aggravating sibling (Sibling...
Read MoreTime for a Visit From the Doctor
Posted on 12/29/2023
I'm at a loss for direction. I tried lumping my kids together with a chart just to find how different they are. My 4 y/o loves to relentlessly antagonize my 5 y/o whiner, and my 7 y/o loves to...
Read MoreFOUR YEAR OLD PEE ISSUES
Posted on 12/7/2023
Lately our 4 year old seems to have some issues surrounding going to the bathroom. He will say things like “I saw the picture and it made me have to pee.” Or he sees something “girly” and it...
Read MoreStrut and Fret your Hour upon the Stage--when dealing with a 5-year old NAG
Posted on 12/3/2023
When my son (5) gets sent to his room for time out, he goes into his room and begins throwing demonic-style tantrums. He hits the door and screams at the top of his lungs. When he’s done, he comes...
Read MoreTurn to Tickets for Sibling Conflicts
Posted on 11/23/2023
I have 3 children (7, 5 & 4) who play very well together. They don't always get along well, and I'd like to do the chart system for them for the same behaviors (whining/tantrums, misusing...
Read MorePerfectionism and Kids
Posted on 11/7/2023
I have a 4-year-old son, 6-year-old daughter and 4-month-old. We are part of a homeschool co-op group that meets once a week. It isn’t a drop off co-op, so all parents stay the whole time. My...
Read MoreTickets. I’ve got your tickets!
Posted on 11/4/2023
Hello - we have been using some form of the ticketing system with our 5 year old daughter for about a year now. It doesn’t seem like we have made much progress. She is still consistently...
Read More4 year old confessions
Posted on 10/28/2023
Lately my 4 year old son seems plagued by his thoughts. He will keep coming up to us and say things like “My brain keeps saying a bad word” (which is usually the word “stupid”) or “My brain keeps...
Read MoreIt's Her Problem
Posted on 10/26/2023
Hello, My 5.5 year old daughter is praised for her behavior by all caregivers outside the home. At home, when I give her a command like “go brush your hair,” she will dawdle, say “not yet” or...
Read MoreWhen Bedwetting Returns
Posted on 10/19/2023
Our 4-year-old daughter has been potty trained for quite some time. We were successful with no accidents at nighttime wearing underwear. When we went on a few vacations this past summer, we used...
Read MoreCharacter over emotions for 5yo
Posted on 10/16/2023
Our 5 year old shows signs of anxiety, and especially separation anxiety. It started when he was two, we moved 5 homes in 6 months (transitioning from the mission field) Bedtimes can be...
Read More5yo being a 5 yo
Posted on 10/3/2023
Our 5 year old son is extremely emotional, and has no governor on his emotions. We don't expect him to have control over his emotions at this age, but we also do not know what is age-appropriate,...
Read More5YO Testing the Limits
Posted on 9/25/2023
Our 5 year old is incredibly contrary; at times he argues or complains about everything. He'll say he doesn't like what's for dinner before he knows what it is, for example. His tantrums have...
Read MoreTo Lie or Not to Lie...
Posted on 9/18/2023
Our 5-year-old son has been telling lies. Most of the time he admits to them when we are questioning him. How do we punish him for lying without dissuading him to confess the truth as he has been?
Read More3/4 yr old hitting/scratching
Posted on 9/8/2023
My (just turned) 4 year old has been hitting and scratching for a while now. It first began when she was at a day care that we think she may have had some physical/verbal abuse, but we're not sure...
Read MoreCannot serve two masters
Posted on 8/30/2023
Things are going better and God is helping us. I want to continue to stay on top of things and be a good leader for my kids. The issue is after a while, because of how life goes, I start letting...
Read MoreHow to Implement Chores With Young Children
Posted on 8/28/2023
Do you have any recommendations on what tasks that my 3 and 5-year-old can do and how to implement the routine of doing these tasks efficiently? I think they are old enough to start doing small,...
Read MoreChores, chores YES
Posted on 8/25/2023
I'm not good at consistently requiring my son's aged 5 and 3 to do any chores around the house. I think they are old enough to start doing regular small tasks but I'm not good at holding them to...
Read MoreHow to Purge the Toys
Posted on 8/25/2023
I have 2 boys aged 5 and 3 and a 1-year-old girl. We are trying to reduce the number of toys we have by gifting the toys we don't need anymore. However, I am finding it difficult to decide which...
Read More5 yo girl obsessed with sweets
Posted on 7/23/2023
Sugar/Candy Crazy! My daughter is 5 and she is fixated with sweets. It’s all she talks about (donuts, cakes, cookies, candy anything) and she’s old enough that we talk to her about healthy food...
Read MoreNot Always Smooth Sailing for 2 and 4YO
Posted on 7/13/2023
I am trying to determine age-appropriate behavioral expectations for a 4.5 year old. He is obedient and does small chores. He knows there are behaviors completely unacceptable (hitting, throwing...
Read MoreChange happens with commitment
Posted on 7/10/2023
Our 4.5 year old daughter has started having intense meltdowns - screaming and crying with most things bathroom: washing hands, brushing teeth, raising up or putting down toilet lid, flushing...
Read MoreLITTLE ONE TELLS DAD "I DON'T LOVE YOU"
Posted on 5/26/2023
Grandson tells Dad. "I don't Love you" He doesn't say that to mom or grandmom . or even me. dad & mom work crazy shifts so they are ships passing in the night. Dad is home most nights and is a...
Read MoreTeaching bedroom privacy
Posted on 5/15/2023
Hello, thank you for the parenting resources you have provided. We have 7 and 4 year old daughters. I am trying to implement Dr. Rosemond's parenting advice. My wife disagrees with things Dr....
Read MoreTeaching gratitude to 4.5 yo boy
Posted on 4/15/2023
I’m struggling to teach my 4.5 year old son gratefulness. We don’t have strong behavior issues, but he will often say things like “Why doesn’t this water have ice?” Or “Why is her piece bigger...
Read MoreHow Do I Resolve My Daughter's Potty Training Accidents?
Posted on 4/8/2023
Our 4-year-old daughter continues to have pee “accidents.” I’m putting that word in quotation because I don’t know why she pees herself, because she’s been potty trained since she was 25 months...
Read MoreHow Do I Teach My Children Manners?
Posted on 3/23/2023
Hello! I have three girls, ages (almost) 5, 7, and 9. I'd love to follow Mr. Rosemond's advice on teaching them one manner per week. How do you suggest I do this in practice? For example, one week...
Read MoreRemedy for Irritating Language
Posted on 3/12/2023
My son will be five in two months. He often says inappropriate things like "poo poo bum" or "I'm going to chop your leg off" or "I'm going to kill you“. He says them in response to not getting his...
Read MoreMaking Tickets Work
Posted on 3/2/2023
Hello - My wife and I have loved "The Well-Behaved Child". We implemented the ticketing for a 4 year old daughter and have noticed some improvements but there is more work to do. The consistent...
Read MoreUnsolicited Advice?
Posted on 2/26/2023
Our son and daughter in law were telling us their 4 year old son (our grandson) hits his mom when he gets angry. She said she puts him in his room and he kicks and screams and throws a fit and...
Read MoreTime to Turn the Tables on 4-Year-Old
Posted on 2/5/2023
My husband and I own and operate a private preschool. Our son is 4 1/2 years old is currently has been enrolled in our school since September 2021. Over the course of his enrollment, our son...
Read MoreA TYRANT IN THE MAKING
Posted on 1/23/2023
Any suggestions to tactfully tell your adult parenting children that they are making a monster out of their 4 year old by trying to coddle him at every snag in his day. They are using some...
Read MoreAttention-Getting Antics Working for 4YO
Posted on 1/12/2023
Our question is about punishment for our 4½ year old girl. Usually we ask her to stand in a circle on the floor, or we send her to her room for the rest of the night, or a fixed amount of time, no...
Read More4 year old crying episodes
Posted on 1/11/2023
My grandson is 4 to be 5 in May of this year 2023. He is in a pre K public school and has been since September of 2022. He has been , we think, behind in his personal growth. During the birth he...
Read Moremom worried 4 yo boy is lying
Posted on 12/30/2022
When do children know/understand what lies are? I have a 4 year old, who sometimes tells fantastical stories that I truly believe he thinks are real. But I know that he is malevolently lying about...
Read MoreDoes Chicken Little Make You a Little Chicken? A Four-Year Old's Tantrumizing
Posted on 12/29/2022
Constant power struggle with 4-year old. Our 4 year old son’s behavior has done a complete 180 within the last couple of weeks only at home. Preschool and daycare is constantly telling us he’s...
Read MoreWho's in Charge?
Posted on 12/29/2022
I have a 4 year old and a 15 month old. About 6 months ago he was misbehaving and we did the card system. It worked well. He is very good at school (just preschool 3 mornings a week) and with our...
Read MoreFears, Five Year Olds, and the Doctor
Posted on 12/12/2022
My daughter, age 5 1/2 recently started acting irrational. She refuses to get in the car and will unbuckle herself and jump out. This behavior started a week ago when she refused to sleep in her...
Read More5 yo disrupts bedtime for sibling
Posted on 12/9/2022
My two oldest share a room, unfortunately that is our only option at this time, my son is 6 and my daughter is 5. Every single night our son lays down quietly, stays in bed and does his best to go...
Read MoreThe Doctor is In
Posted on 11/29/2022
Help! Our daughter is 5 and has become defiant and disobedient. For example she will come to us and say "I know I'm not supposed to (enter action) but I did." She said she's being truthful by...
Read MorePest Control
Posted on 11/17/2022
Our 5-year-old daughter has come a long way with her behavior in the last year, but the top two biggest issues still are 1) her never ending pestering and annoying. She pesters and annoys those...
Read MoreSilly boy, listening is for kids
Posted on 11/13/2022
Our 4 year old was a pretty good listener right up to when he turned 4. We've weathered some big tantrums, which seem to mostly be in decline (frequency & length). Now, he has started to just "be...
Read MoreWhen It Comes to Clothes, 4-Year-Old Has a Mind of Her Own
Posted on 11/9/2022
HI! My daughter turns 4 in a month. She has a closet full of beautiful dresses but chooses the same 3 outfits of hand me down play clothes. Am I asking too much to choose her outfits? This was...
Read MorePotty Training Setbacks
Posted on 10/24/2022
My 4.5 year old has recently started having accidents in preschool. These include both poop and pee. It doesn't seem to bother her. At first the school nurse would clean her up and send her back...
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