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4 and 5 year old brothers tag team Mom

Posted 5 days ago

My older boy, age 5 has been on the ticket system for about 9 months. He starts the day with 3 tickets and his misbehaviors are screaming at us and not obeying us. My younger boy, 4 has recently...

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Love One Another

Posted 1 week ago

My son who is 5, loves to play with a certain 9-year old at the park. The kid's mother sits in her car the entire time while her son will sometimes curse at and scare other kids. My son doesn't...

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Miserable Meal Times

Posted 1 week ago

Our son makes mealtime miserable by yelling, complaining, and making a huge production out of eating what we serve. He also whines, begs, and screams about wanting us to "help him" eat his dinner...

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I'm Not Your Friend

Posted 2 weeks ago

My four year old has been telling her younger sister who is three that she will not play with her, be her best friend, etc. if she doesn’t play the way she wants or gives her the toy she is...

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Grandparent raising grandchild

Posted 2 weeks ago

I have finally gotten to a point legally where my daughter, who is the mother of the 5 year old I am raising has no visitation. It's been a long, hard, and expensive process but it is what it is...

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Will the Terror Ever Stop?

Posted 2 weeks ago

Our son who is almost 5 went back to throwing tantrums and have started hitting on a few occasions again. We're wondering if he'll ever stop. We have put him back on the 30 sticker program with a...

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5yr old not listening needs the good Dr.

Posted 3 weeks ago

My second child who is 5 years old is always very much in her own head. What I mean is that she seems to be thinking about a hundred different things all the time she is preoccupied with her...

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Word of the Moment

Posted 3 weeks ago

My 4 year old child has learned the word “kill”. He tells me he is going to kill me and his one year old sister. I don’t think he knows what he’s saying. I tried to explain it but he won’t stop. I...

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Following the Leader

Posted 3 weeks ago

My girls, ages 6,5 and 3, prefer to follow me around during their free time. They just like to watch what I’m doing and talk and sometimes be involved in what I’m doing. I wonder if I should send...

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Attention seeking or not?

Posted on 5/12/2019

How do you suggest handling this scenario. Your child (4) says something “not nice” directly in regards to you... I typically feel like it’s attention seeking but that’s just a guess. Do you...

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Fear Of Bugs

Posted on 5/10/2019

First of all, thank you for all of the advice you've given me on my last questions. Most of it has worked well. My 4 year old daughter has recently developed a fear of bugs. Every night at...

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Time for Change

Posted on 5/7/2019

My mom has been babysitting my son while I am at work since he was a baby. When my son turned 2.5 she opened a preschool. He always had behavior issues but now at 4.5, he is even more disruptive....

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Creating Opportunities for Freedom!

Posted on 5/5/2019

Regarding your article "Freedom lost on the children of today" I am inspired by the moms of the last generation - my parents, too, experienced a similar kind of thing growing up. Running around,...

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Hop off the Argument Merry Go Round

Posted on 5/5/2019

Hi there, My almost 5-year-old has come a long way from his 3-year-old self. I suppose maturity helps. He's no longer throwing tantrums (a.k.a crying loudly) or hitting when he doesn't get his...

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Morning Grumpies

Posted on 5/4/2019

Our son is just shy of turning 5 and attends a full day preschool. He is not always in the best of moods in the morning when I (mom) drop him off and is sometimes clingy. He receives good...

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Teacher Emails and When to Request a Conference

Posted on 5/1/2019

Hello, I received this email from my daughter's teacher today and am seeking your guidance. This all seems to have been precipitated by a tick bite (her first) that we took care of last week,...

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5 year old still pooping in his underwear

Posted on 4/17/2019

My 5.5 yo son poops in his underwear regularly, a couple of times a week. He is also responsible for cleaning it up every time. Other than pitching an obligatory fit, he doesn't seem to mind that....

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LOVE and LEAD, Even at Bedtime

Posted on 4/5/2019

Good morning, I need some advice on sleep for my 4 year old. She goes to daycare during the day. They make the children take a 2 hour nap. She does not nap on the weekends. We are struggling...

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Get Off the Repeating Merry-go-round

Posted on 4/4/2019

When I am telling my children to do smth, or not to do, I have to repeat it many times. I have to raise my voice, but I hate to scream. Or when I tell my son to do smth, he would repeat after me...

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Helping the Shy Child

Posted on 4/2/2019

Hello! Our oldest daughter is going on 4 next month. She has always been on the quiet side. The last week few weeks I have noticed that when we receive company or we go visit others that she...

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Distractible Kids - Frustrated Mom

Posted on 3/30/2019

Dear Rosemond and team, Im still having a tough time with the kids. I'll just write 2 questions in one - My almost 5 year old finally earned his 30 stickers (from no tantrums + aggression)..now...

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Strike a Balance

Posted on 3/26/2019

I’m having a difficult time with my nearly 6 year old son. It feels like we are butting heads all of the time. He has become increasingly more sensitive lately. Throwing huge tantrums, crying over...

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5 year old loves/hates martial arts class

Posted on 3/23/2019

My 5.5 year old son gets really angry before going to his martial arts class, which he loves. In the past 2 weeks he has thrown huge fits, soaked his uniform in the sink (he had to go to class...

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Sneaky Pooper

Posted on 3/21/2019

I submitted a question a short time ago and received an answer, but my daughter's behavior has escalated. The current problem is this: She has taken to pooping in her room and hiding it behind...

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Continued Accidents at 4.5 y/o

Posted on 3/13/2019

My 4 1/2 year old daughter knows how to use the potty, and she usually does pretty well unless she's in her room for afternoon quiet time (right next to the bathroom). At first, we thought it was...

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4.5 year old push/hit/tantrum

Posted on 3/12/2019

Hi there, We have been working with my 4.5 year old son with hitting/pushing and tantruming behaviours. His tantrums include loud wailing when he doesn’t like what he’s told to do. We’ve kicked...

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Parental Reason is a Dish Best Served Cold

Posted on 3/8/2019

What do you recommend for two little ones ages 3 and 4 for not wanting to eat what I fix for meals? This has just started and we want to nip it as soon as we can. Do we make them sit until they...

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Bullying at Preschool

Posted on 3/6/2019

My almost 5 year old boy is in preschool 2.5 days a week. Last year, he was always enthusiastic about going to preschool but this year, he has encountered 2 boys (one of them is his cousin) - who...

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Preschooler learning to be a real friend

Posted on 3/5/2019

My 4 year old son is in a 3 day a week preschool. He is in the same class with a girl that he has been friends with since he was born. Apparently he has become very possessive over her during free...

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Grandma needs answers for 6 year old who won't stop to use the potty

Posted on 2/22/2019

My 6 year old grand-daughter still has accidents because she doesn't want to stop playing. Thankfully, it's just #1 and not poop. I only have her and her sister occasionally and can not discuss...

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Sibling Rivalry

Posted on 2/19/2019

my daughters, age 5 and 2, constantly fight. I agree siblings need to settle their own quarrels; however, my 2 year old is still physically agressive (pulling hair, hitting), and sometimes I...

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Concerns from a Grandmother

Posted on 2/17/2019

I would like for Dr Rosemond to respond with his advice on a question I have already submitted 3 times concerning my 4 year old granddaughter. I understand the first two responses I received but...

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more consequences or more attitude?

Posted on 2/16/2019

Do you all have a list of different types of consequences for young kids? Currently we use a combination of the following for our kids (6, 5, 3, 20mos): spankings with a wooden spoon (sometimes...

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Youngsters 3.5 and 5.5 yo disturbing the peace

Posted on 2/15/2019

I have three boys, 5.5 and 3.5 years old, and an 8-month-old baby. The older two share a bedroom and are homeschooled. When they are not doing an instructed activity or chore, they disturb the...

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Separate but Equal

Posted on 2/10/2019

I have an introverted, sensitive (gentle and kind) four-year-old son and an extroverted, physically rambunctious two-year-old son. The two year old is physically aggressive (biting and hitting)...

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Are you equipped for change?

Posted on 2/8/2019

My daughter turned 4 this week. She is sweet and doesn’t require tons of discipline for the most part ( although the last two weeks have proven differently). It’s like she woke up a different...

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Suddenly defiant.

Posted on 2/8/2019

My daughter turned 4 this week. She is sweet and doesn’t require tons of discipline for the most part ( although the last two weeks have proven differently). It’s like she woke up a different...

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It's never too late for those who are aware!

Posted on 2/7/2019

I have been battling with my 4.5yr old son for a solid 2 years now. He hits, yells, and doesn’t listen to instructions even after multiple request. I have received advice from previous questions...

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Mom, the Meanie...

Posted on 2/5/2019

My 4yr old son recently has been saying to me he wants a new mom. This started after he was disciplined got mad at me and said I was a mean mom. How should I address this issue when my son says...

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Hitting plus tantrums

Posted on 2/5/2019

HI there, we've been intensively working with our now 4.5 year old boy who had many, many behavioural problems. He is now much more cooperative after sessions with a good parent coach. However,...

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Remove 5-Year-Old From Center Stage

Posted on 2/4/2019

For the first five years of our daughter’s life, we have made the mistake of being a child centered family. She now does not listen to, or respect adults. How do we make the change now to be a...

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She be Bossy says her Posse

Posted on 2/4/2019

Good Morning, My daughter, Anne is turning 4. She is very sweet and somewhat of a typical “first child” if you will. She also has a lot if personality. She has recently been telling me that her...

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Biting Self Out of Anger

Posted on 1/25/2019

My daughter is generally pretty even tempered. She is 4. She has her moments like any other child but overall minds and knows when she is right or wrong. Last night (for the second time) she got...

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Attention Addiction

Posted on 1/23/2019

Our son is 4 1/2 and is basically an only child as his older siblings are no longer living at home. Lately he seems to be having episodes of anxiety, and they seem to happen at various times. He...

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Solution to a messy morning.

Posted on 1/17/2019

We wear uniforms to school and without fail 2 to 3 times a week my 5 1/2-year-old girl spills something from breakfast or toothpaste on a large noticeable portion of her uniform. An easy fix to...

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Intro To The Parent-Centered Family

Posted on 1/10/2019

I have a four year old whom I am wondering is just being a kid....she does seek our attention but we have daily reading together and about 30 min play of the afternoon. I stay home with her and...

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Too many toys overwhelm Mom of 2 and 4 year old

Posted on 12/31/2018

We have toys and stuff animal overload. From the year and now Christmas has put us over the top! I have a two year old and four year old. Do I include them in the decluttering process? How do you...

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Pre-Schooler Potty Accidents

Posted on 12/26/2018

HI there, My 4.5 year old has been fully potty-trained from around 2+ with occasional pee leaks. During christmas dinner at a friend's house, he had a full-on poo accident in his pants - he was...

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children not listening

Posted on 12/23/2018

Hello. A tiny bit about us: I had 5 children in 4.5 years: 3 girls then twin boys, now 6, 4.5, 3, & 18 mos (x2). I stay at home and do not work. The 6 yr old is in Kinder and other two girls...

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