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Teens and Supplements

Posted 1 week ago

I am really enjoying John's book, Teen Proofing! Thanks, John! We have a brand new 12-year-old boy who has switched over from being kind, thoughtful, and sweet to being disrespectful,...

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Posted 2 weeks ago

My 16 year old has some very straight friends and some that are experimenting with drugs. I am suspicious all the time and have drug tested him which he has passed. The party house is across the...

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Parental Rights and Decisions

Posted on 1/8/2018

I had a big fight with my daughter, she snapped and started hitting me. My husband, who's her stepdad, was trying to stop her by grabbing her hands and pulling her away. I called the police...

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4 yro won't share

Posted on 1/5/2018

I host a few ladies and their kids at my house weekly. My four-year-old son (only child) usually starts off okay, but then loses his mind (yelling and telling the kids to leave) when they mess up...

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Pre-Schooler Stuck in Season 1

Posted on 1/1/2018

Hi there, i have a little 3.5 year old who is completely out of control. I admit we have let him run the house a little bit as he is a little spitfire and makes things unpleasant(ie screams as...

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Disrespect from a 13 y/o boy

Posted on 12/29/2017

My 13 yr old son is disrespectful to his Dad! My son knows how to push his buttons to the point my husband says hurtful words like "you're a bad human" and loses control and starts to yell. I do...

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The Phone is Not the Problem

Posted on 10/4/2017

So, in response to the answer to my question I have a few other questions. In the past few days a lot has transpired and my husband and I really had it out over my son. I understand a lot of his...

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Lower the Boom on 18 year old son

Posted on 10/1/2017

My son has just turned 18 and is a senior in high school. He had his first job this summer doing construction work with some people we know. He did well getting up early and they said that he...

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11 yr old Effort and Responsibility

Posted on 9/6/2017

I am the Dad of an 11 year old (6th grade). She is not giving good effort at school. My wife and I have told her it is her responsibility and she needs to get help from the teachers, study...

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Pay Your Way

Posted on 8/28/2017

Hello, I've been asking questions for a few years now about my daughter. I've read John's book "The Well Behaved Child." My question regarding my now 7 year old daughter is this: How do I...

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Stop Feeding the Beast

Posted on 8/28/2017

HI there, We are currently disciplining our 6 year old daughter for not eating her lunch most days. The problem she claims is that they turn on the TV during lunch so she doesn't eat. She also...

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16 Year Old Daughter's Continued Rebellion

Posted on 8/6/2017

I wrote a few months ago about my daughter who I caught drinking. It turns out that it wasn't a blip on the radar with her. Given her behavior of late (defensive, sneaky), I tracked her location...

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Never argue with a 5 year old.

Posted on 7/16/2017

My one and only gives the vibe she is superior to her classmates by contradicting them, telling them they are wrong or having show off behaviour. I'm afraid she will not have any friends, but am...

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Angry Outbursts from a 3-year-old

Posted on 5/21/2017

Every time I tell my 3 1/2 year old to do something (ex: put your cup up on the table more instead of on the edge, don't jump around in the kitchen, etc.) she crosses her arms and grunts. Or she...

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Argumentative 10 Year Old

Posted on 5/11/2017

We have been attempting to correct our 10 year old son's attitude. He argues with EVERYTHING, is so disrespectful, and always has to have the last word. He is also rude to his sister. We have...

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9 yo boy needs boom lowered

Posted on 4/13/2017

My youngest son is 9 years old. He has an older brother who is 11 years old. My 9 year has always had a temper/anger problem when things don't go his way. He reacts by having a tantrum. He has...

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Mouthy 3-year-old

Posted on 3/4/2017

Recently my 3 and a half -year-old has started negating various statements his dad and I make. Mostly this happens when he doesn't want to do something (It is bedtime/it is NOT bedtime), but also...

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Teen Meltdown

Posted on 2/22/2017

I read on here to take a time out before engaging with a teen and making a decision. Then once giving your decision, being a 'robot' when responding. We have an intelligent, 6ft, almost 15 yr old...

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Adult children continue to be parented.

Posted on 2/22/2017

Do you have any advise on how to recconect with an estranged adult child who is in their 30's? And yes, I made all the "giving your child self-esteem" mistakes in the 1980-2000 that you speak...

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Troubled Young Teen?

Posted on 2/5/2017

This question is in reference to the October 2016 question regarding my 13 year old's act of vandalism. Fast forward 8 months later. He has completed his punishment, but not without having to...

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Don't Ask, Do Tell!

Posted on 1/29/2017

I have a 13 year old who has always been defiant. She is bright, and a fantastic kid, but when she is asked to do something she doesn't wan, the fight is on. She will not do what I ask, or will...

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What I said...

Posted on 1/27/2017

My seven year old daughter has been correcting me lately. I'll tell her something like " I need you to bring your toys to your bedroom." And she will respond with "You mean stuffed animals." She...

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Distraught dad of tweens

Posted on 12/30/2016

Please help - i am the father of a 12 year old girl and a 10 year old boy. They are both spoilt brats who only care about their enjoyment. 1)They are very rude and dont listen. 2)They dont...

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16 year old Arguments

Posted on 12/29/2016

My 16 yo daughter will not talk to me when I approach her about an observation I have, a concern re: missed homework or grades. She shuts down immediately, says she doesn't want to talk about...

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16 year old Always Gets Her Way

Posted on 12/29/2016

How do I respond to my strong willed 16 yo dtr, who won't take no for an answer. Just today, I told her she could go to a friends for dinner after her drivers ed class today. But it is snowing...

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One Little Monkey on the Bed

Posted on 12/18/2016

Hello... We have two daughters...one turned two in September and our youngest will be one in February...within the past couple of days, our two year old has stopped listening to us.. After telling...

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7 Year Old Argues, Doesn't Follow Directions

Posted on 10/17/2016

My 7 (almost 8) year old son is a kind boy with a genuinely good heart. With that said, he argues with everything we say, pesters/antagonizes his 3 year old sister incessantly, and can't follow...

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Defiant 6 year old

Posted on 7/13/2016

I desperately need help with my almost seven year old girl who will not listen. Recent example- this morning she was told to get out of bed and she didn’t, then the tv (in our room, not hers) was...

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Underage Drinker Wannabe

Posted on 6/17/2016

My 14 years old son wants to taste alcohol regularly. He recently told us that he would buy vodka with his money (we indicated that if we ever have a doubt about him buying alcohol/drugs with the...

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14-Year-Old and Sex

Posted on 5/3/2016

Our 14 year old daughter was caught beginning to give oral sex to a 14 year old boy she likes. We are horrified. She has been raised in a Christian, 2-parent home and knows our values. I don't...

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15 1/2 year doesn't respect parents

Posted on 2/9/2016

our son 15 1/2 is very defiant. he seems to have no respect for authority.. especially to us, mom & dad. what can we do as parents to help him with this?

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9 yo Ignore the Drama

Posted on 1/28/2016

We have been using the ticket system for the last few weeks. It has worked very well with a significant increase in good behaviour. However last night our 9 year old became very frustrated...

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19 Year Old Home for the Holidays, addendum

Posted on 12/22/2015

This is an add-on to the previous question: I am taking the younger daughter to a college visit tomorrow. Would it be wise to ask her opinion concerning the need for apology, ways to bridge the...

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Need Encouragement...

Posted on 11/30/2015

This is a follow-up to my question of 9/9/15 about my 6.5yo kicked out of the garden. We did as you suggested and reduced her target behaviors to prompt obedience and no back-talk, and reduced her...

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How do I respond to teen's bad attitude?

Posted on 11/26/2015

Regarding snide remarks, backtalk and surliness from teens, I am having a difficult time distinguishing what to address and what to let drop. Looking back at your responses, I see where we should...

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Posted on 10/30/2015

Ps sorry additional part regarding my last question. Is it correct to explain to my child why the things he said are rude or offensive or just tell him its unacceptable and give a...

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It's God's Fault

Posted on 10/30/2015

Hi Melinda thank you for your recent advice. The situation with our 9 year old son has gotten worse since last night. Im at my wits end with him . I took him to a church meeting last night. He...

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Where did we go wrong?

Posted on 10/24/2015

Our 9 year old son has broken my heart. He told me yesterday that he hates God and church is so boring and also he hates me and wishes he was born in a different family. He said I am so...

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Money Woes

Posted on 10/14/2015

My son is nine years old and every year, for his birthday (and sometimes other special occasions), he receives large quantities of money. For example, he received about $250 for his birthday last...

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Posted on 10/9/2015

17 yr old update Since my last communication our 17 yr old has lived in her room. Comes out to eat when we are not in the house. If I knock on her door I am answered with an aggravated what!!...

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3 yo Arguing

Posted on 10/9/2015

I'd like to ask a question about developmental stages. My 3.5 year old has become very argumentative and almost surly in the last few months. If you say day, she says night, almost as if she has...

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Doesn't Get It

Posted on 9/19/2015

I have an almost 4 year old son who is becoming increasingly challenging to deal with during the day. It seems that unless we are out of the house, he is more demanding of my attention, quick to...

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Share and Share Alike

Posted on 9/18/2015

1st question: What do you recommend in terms of a 1 year old and a 4 year old sharing toys? They can't effectively play together because of their ages. He grabs hers, and she grabs whatever he is...

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3 year old Whiner

Posted on 8/27/2015

What do I do with a whining 3year old in public? When at home I put in time out- seems to work. What are your thoughts? ALSO My 3 yr old has started saying a "but....." Phrase when asked to...

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Four year old with a Bad Attitude

Posted on 8/4/2015

HI there, Thank you for your quick reply on my previous question about my 4 year old. I have re-started the ticket system targeting refusal to do what mummy/daddy tells her. Previously, I had...

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15 yo Disrespect--Should Parent Apologize?

Posted on 7/23/2015

My husband and stepdaughter (15) had an argument. She lives with us full time but violated a rule, was called out on it and she escalated with (what she thought) were hurtful statements. One of...

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Four Out of Control

Posted on 7/1/2015

HELP! We have a four year old that we are having major issues with. He is at daycare five days a week, but between daycare and home he is on the ticket program for not doing what he is told. He...

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4 yo Tantrums

Posted on 4/27/2015

dealing with 4 year old tantrums My daughter will be 4 in a month's time. She still has issues with tantrums. I am putting her in her room for the rest of the day if she tosses a fit, no matter...

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4 yo More Ticket Clarification

Posted on 4/22/2015

Naughty 4 yo part 3 Hi there, I've done your suggestions slightly modified with 3 target behaviours. Whining, refusal to listen, tantrums. With tantrums, she loses all 5 tickets n spends the...

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