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Early 4 year old riser waking up the house

Posted 2 weeks ago

We have been using the ticket system for a while now (~2 months) with our 4.5 year-old. It is common (a few times a week) for him to lose all five tickets by early-to-mid-morning (sometimes by...

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Fifteen-Month-Old Not Sleeping Through Night

Posted on 10/25/2018

Hello! Our youngest daughter is now almost 15 months. I came across John Rosemond's books almost 6 months ago, and realized that I needed to change the way I approached her sleep (she was...

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3 yro trying to continue the royal treatment

Posted on 10/7/2018

Our three year old daughter is anxious and crying when my husband and I want to step out for dinner for a few hours She likes our nanny and knows her since she was four months old, however she is...

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...when co-bedding becomes a problem...

Posted on 10/3/2018

Hello, My daughter is 5 years old. I am a single mom so it's just the two of us at home. At night, we read stories and say night prayers, and I typically either fall asleep next to her, or sing...

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7 yo "won't" go to sleep without parents in bed

Posted on 9/10/2018

My 7-year old (almost 8) will not sleep without mom or dad laying with her until she is asleep. She says she is afraid she will not be able to go to sleep. If we stay with her until she is asleep,...

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Routine Chart for Toddler

Posted on 9/5/2018

Routine daily tasks are a struggle with my 23 month old. Brushing teeth, putting her hair up, taking it down, scrubbing in the bath, washing her hair, and when I have to do them all at bedtime...

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NIGHTTIME=NICETIME for spouses who enforce a child's bedtime

Posted on 8/24/2018

We have a 9 yo girl and 7 yo boy. Bedtime is usually supposed to be at 8pm. In the last several months, both of them, though mainly our daughter, has slowly pushed that back to 9, sometimes 10pm,...

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Throwing fits at bedtime

Posted on 8/22/2018

Hello! Our eldest daughter started throwing wild tantrums when we put her to bed. Since 1.5 week after we go through our usual bedtime routine and when we are set to leave her room, she jumps...

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Stay in Bed!

Posted on 7/30/2018

We are having issues getting our almost 3 year old to go to sleep and stay in his room at nap time and bedtime. He recently transitioned out of a crib b/c he could climb out and now he comes out...

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Getting your child out of your bed

Posted on 7/23/2018

We have a 3.5 year old that is struggling with sleep habits. He was very sick for a few months and we let him sleep in our bed. Now we want him out of our bed! He has no trouble going to sleep...

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Bed Time Potty Woes

Posted on 7/2/2018

Our 3 year old son has been toilet trained since he was 20 months old thanks to your amazing N75 method. However something new has popped up... in an effort to avoid bed or going somewhere he...

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Early Riser

Posted on 6/14/2018

We are, and have been, dealing with a host of behavior issues with our "strong willed" 6-year-old daughter (who, by the way, is apparently an angel and wonderful role model in school). One of the...

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Bed wetting for 20 month old

Posted on 6/2/2018

So, I have been observing things for a bit and it turns out my daughter is definitely asleep when she wets her bed at night. So, how do we handle this? She’s 20 months, and we’ve been potty...

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Nighttime Toilet Training 19-month-old

Posted on 5/17/2018

I have a question about night training. My daughter is 19 months and doing really well with daytime potty training. Still has a few accidents but mostly going both #1 and #2 on her little potty....

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Time for Bed...All by Yourself

Posted on 5/13/2018

Our 3 years old daughter would not sleep by herself. Sometimes she does, but most of the time - no! We were trying to follow the recommendation from Dr. Rosemond’s book and it worked for short...

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toddlers and bedtime mayhem

Posted on 4/11/2018

My sons are two and three years old and we recently moved them into the same bedroom. This is the only room available at this time (my six month-old needs his own room). Bedtime went from a...

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Long nights

Posted on 3/29/2018

Dear parent guru, My wife Sarah and I have two darling children Pippa (3yo) and Bennett (10 months). Bennett has been sleeping well through the night, but Pippa has become too much to handle in...

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Mr Cranky Pants

Posted on 3/25/2018

Our 2.5 year old son is having tantrums a lot more frequently. And he consistently does this before naps and bedtime the last week. He states that "he isn't tired." I explain that he needs to rest...

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Lights Out for 16 Year Old?

Posted on 3/19/2018

Is it unreasonable to tell a 16-year-old boy he should have 'lights out' by 10:00? He works hard on school, despite not liking it, but often stays up until 1 or 2 a.m. doing homework or reading. ...

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Lost tickets by bedtime

Posted on 2/27/2018

We are creating the ticket system and one of our items is bedtime. We have lots of problems at bedtime. (Shower, PJ's, Teeth, Hair, Book, Bed) My concern is that the day is over so there is...

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Help With Teenage Bedtime/Curfew

Posted on 2/20/2018

I have a 15-year-old son who thinks he should be able to stay up until midnight during the weekday during school and have NO bedtime (curfew) on weekends! I totally disagree. His hours now are...

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Posted on 2/15/2018

When is the best time to transition my 2 year old from his crib to a bed? I’ve read that some parents let their children play in their rooms ... what is the balance between too much playing and...

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Sleep troubles with 5 yo

Posted on 1/31/2018

My 5 year old daughter has always been an excellent sleeper. We have never had a problem with the bedtime routine. She has always gone to sleep rather quickly without any issues. Within the last...

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Ticket System Questions

Posted on 1/12/2018

We are using the ticket system with our four year old son. Right now we are working on him being obedient and doing what we say to do when we say to do it. We run into problems when there is a...

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Revisiting Sleeping Dilemma with 9 Year Old

Posted on 12/21/2017

Hi. Can I use the ticket system for a 9yr old boy who won't sleep in his own bed? And can you tell me how the ticket system works? Thank You

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Sharing rooms...

Posted on 12/10/2017

Our 5 year-old daughter and 2 year-old son share a bedroom. By what age is it no longer appropriate for them to share? Our house has only two bedrooms, but we do have a plan in mind as to how...

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Preschoolers Early Risers

Posted on 12/6/2017

Our two older children, ages 4 and nearly 3, share a bedroom. In the mornings they like to get up very early (5am) and play together. My husband and I usually get up multiple times to tell them to...

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Mornings with a Grumpy Toddler

Posted on 11/20/2017

We have a 27 month old boy who wakes up grumpy every morning. He sleeps well all night long after going to bed around 7:30pm and wakes up at 6am. It takes him 20-30 minutes for him to be happy in...

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Grandma and 3-year old need some distance

Posted on 11/3/2017

Since joining, I have become a single Grandparent raising a 3.5 year old Grandson. My husband died in August. I frequently read Johns advice on putting the "marriage" first. However, there...

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3 year old boy should keep his lovie

Posted on 10/15/2017

I have read "The Well Behaved Child" and I have been implementing the ticket system for three days with my three year old son. Today he lost all of his tickets after a complete melt-down at...

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post nap crankiness with 2 year old twins

Posted on 10/8/2017

What is the right way to handle 2-year-old post-nap tantrums/crankiness? My 29 month old boy/girl twins often are extremely out of sorts when they wake from their afternoon nap. Today my daughter...

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Bedtime Horseplay

Posted on 10/4/2017

I have twin 9 year olds and a 6 year old girl that share a bed room. A few years ago when the 6 year old had her own room she pretty much went to bed as told with the exception of getting up a few...

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3 yo Nighttime Disturbances

Posted on 9/27/2017

Our almost 3 year old (33 months) is giving us such trouble during the night! She goes to bed as usual with routine and at usual time (~7:30pm). But she has been waking up once, twice, sometimes...

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Breaking a Bed Time Habit

Posted on 9/21/2017

Hi, my 9yr son will not sleep alone. I let him sleep with us but now I don't know how to break the habit. During day he is very independent, strong willed kid but at night he cries and throws a...

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2 yo sleep troubles

Posted on 9/18/2017

We have had our 2 year old grandson since birth and have finally started adoption proceedings. He is a Fetal Alcohol Effect baby and is dealing with a number of delays. We have a speech,...

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Calm Down Please!

Posted on 9/12/2017

My daughter is now 8 1/2 - through the years I have written to you about her personality - last year she was diagnosed with Dyslexia - which has explained where the low self esteem has come from....

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Toddler Anxiety After Displacement

Posted on 9/4/2017

Hi there, we were affected by Hurricane Harvey. Our house flooded by a few inches, but we still had to relocate until we're able to redo some parts of our house. My husband, 24 month old son, and...

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Go to Sleep!

Posted on 8/24/2017

My 26 month old boy/girl twins are suddenly experiencing sleep issues after we moved them from a shared to separate rooms soon after converting their cribs to toddler beds. They have been great...

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Testing 1, 2, 3!

Posted on 8/23/2017

What do you do when a 2 (almost 3 year old) doesn't listen? I try to only give directions once and then I try to act on it. If it's something like putting his shoes on I simply put them on him...

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Bedtime woes

Posted on 8/13/2017

My older son will be 5 next month and shares a room with my middle child, who is 3.5 years old this month. My almost-5 year old has started having nighttime fears and is coming out of his room a...

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15-year-old doesn't like being "un-hinged!"

Posted on 8/4/2017

We have an adopted son, almost 16 yo, who has been with us for 2 1/2 years. He spent most of his earlier life in an over-crowded orphanage, with very little male influence and little supervision....

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4 Year Old Bedwetting Trials

Posted on 8/3/2017

Our 4.5 year old son has been day time potty trained since 22 months but has NEVER been night time dry. He had his tonsils and adenoids out a few months ago and our pediatrician said that may help...

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Sleepng arragements that got out of hand.

Posted on 8/2/2017

I have 3yo twin boys. We are dealing with terrible sleep issues. They used to sleep through the night from 12 months to 2.5 years. We did have to do "cry it out" method at 12 months for one of...

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2-yo instigator needs the Doctor's orders

Posted on 7/16/2017

This is a follow up question to Toddler Bedtime Bedlam. We've been following the advise to calmly tell our 3 and 2 year old they must stay in bed every night, sometimes we go in up to 7 times a...

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Morning Mealtime Meltdowns: Four-Year-Old Edition

Posted on 7/11/2017

I'm afraid we've created a mealtime monster. My daughter just turned 4. She is not a morning person. She's also a suspected hypoglycemic. This has not been medically confirmed because when I...

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Adjusting to Toddler Bed

Posted on 7/10/2017

Hello, my 22 month old is now sleeping in his toddler bed. Of course, he is getting up frequently. We have a baby gate at his doorway. My question is- what do you do when he gets out of his bed?...

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Bedtime solution requires consistency.

Posted on 7/5/2017

My 9 year old daughter is afraid to sleep in her own room. She has comes to us numerous times before falling asleep. She will often have nightmares and come to us in the middle of the night. She...

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Breaking habit of 5yo sleeping with mom

Posted on 6/27/2017

For a variety of reasons, my 5 year old and I have been sleeping in the same bed for the last 7 months. We recently moved fro a 3 bedroom, 2.5 bathroom house to a 2 bedroom, 1 bathroom condo. I...

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Toddler Bedtime Bedlam

Posted on 6/20/2017

My boys ages 3 and 2 have started sharing a bedroom. The older boy was always a good sleeper and would stay in bed when he had his own room. Now however the younger boy who just transitioned from...

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2 Year Old Crib to Bed Transition

Posted on 6/8/2017

My two year old recently transitioned from crib to bed. The freedom seems to be more than he can handle and he has taken to destroying the bedroom he shares with his 3 year old brother. Of course...

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