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3 year old boy should keep his lovie

Posted 6 days ago

I have read "The Well Behaved Child" and I have been implementing the ticket system for three days with my three year old son. Today he lost all of his tickets after a complete melt-down at...

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post nap crankiness with 2 year old twins

Posted 1 week ago

What is the right way to handle 2-year-old post-nap tantrums/crankiness? My 29 month old boy/girl twins often are extremely out of sorts when they wake from their afternoon nap. Today my daughter...

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Bedtime Horseplay

Posted 2 weeks ago

I have twin 9 year olds and a 6 year old girl that share a bed room. A few years ago when the 6 year old had her own room she pretty much went to bed as told with the exception of getting up a few...

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3 yo Nighttime Disturbances

Posted 3 weeks ago

Our almost 3 year old (33 months) is giving us such trouble during the night! She goes to bed as usual with routine and at usual time (~7:30pm). But she has been waking up once, twice, sometimes...

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Breaking a Bed Time Habit

Posted 1 month ago

Hi, my 9yr son will not sleep alone. I let him sleep with us but now I don't know how to break the habit. During day he is very independent, strong willed kid but at night he cries and throws a...

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2 yo sleep troubles

Posted on 9/18/2017

We have had our 2 year old grandson since birth and have finally started adoption proceedings. He is a Fetal Alcohol Effect baby and is dealing with a number of delays. We have a speech,...

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Calm Down Please!

Posted on 9/12/2017

My daughter is now 8 1/2 - through the years I have written to you about her personality - last year she was diagnosed with Dyslexia - which has explained where the low self esteem has come from....

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Toddler Anxiety After Displacement

Posted on 9/4/2017

Hi there, we were affected by Hurricane Harvey. Our house flooded by a few inches, but we still had to relocate until we're able to redo some parts of our house. My husband, 24 month old son, and...

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Go to Sleep!

Posted on 8/24/2017

My 26 month old boy/girl twins are suddenly experiencing sleep issues after we moved them from a shared to separate rooms soon after converting their cribs to toddler beds. They have been great...

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Testing 1, 2, 3!

Posted on 8/23/2017

What do you do when a 2 (almost 3 year old) doesn't listen? I try to only give directions once and then I try to act on it. If it's something like putting his shoes on I simply put them on him...

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Bedtime woes

Posted on 8/13/2017

My older son will be 5 next month and shares a room with my middle child, who is 3.5 years old this month. My almost-5 year old has started having nighttime fears and is coming out of his room a...

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15-year-old doesn't like being "un-hinged!"

Posted on 8/4/2017

We have an adopted son, almost 16 yo, who has been with us for 2 1/2 years. He spent most of his earlier life in an over-crowded orphanage, with very little male influence and little supervision....

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4 Year Old Bedwetting Trials

Posted on 8/3/2017

Our 4.5 year old son has been day time potty trained since 22 months but has NEVER been night time dry. He had his tonsils and adenoids out a few months ago and our pediatrician said that may help...

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Sleepng arragements that got out of hand.

Posted on 8/2/2017

I have 3yo twin boys. We are dealing with terrible sleep issues. They used to sleep through the night from 12 months to 2.5 years. We did have to do "cry it out" method at 12 months for one of...

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2-yo instigator needs the Doctor's orders

Posted on 7/16/2017

This is a follow up question to Toddler Bedtime Bedlam. We've been following the advise to calmly tell our 3 and 2 year old they must stay in bed every night, sometimes we go in up to 7 times a...

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Morning Mealtime Meltdowns: Four-Year-Old Edition

Posted on 7/11/2017

I'm afraid we've created a mealtime monster. My daughter just turned 4. She is not a morning person. She's also a suspected hypoglycemic. This has not been medically confirmed because when I...

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Adjusting to Toddler Bed

Posted on 7/10/2017

Hello, my 22 month old is now sleeping in his toddler bed. Of course, he is getting up frequently. We have a baby gate at his doorway. My question is- what do you do when he gets out of his bed?...

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Bedtime solution requires consistency.

Posted on 7/5/2017

My 9 year old daughter is afraid to sleep in her own room. She has comes to us numerous times before falling asleep. She will often have nightmares and come to us in the middle of the night. She...

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Breaking habit of 5yo sleeping with mom

Posted on 6/27/2017

For a variety of reasons, my 5 year old and I have been sleeping in the same bed for the last 7 months. We recently moved fro a 3 bedroom, 2.5 bathroom house to a 2 bedroom, 1 bathroom condo. I...

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Toddler Bedtime Bedlam

Posted on 6/20/2017

My boys ages 3 and 2 have started sharing a bedroom. The older boy was always a good sleeper and would stay in bed when he had his own room. Now however the younger boy who just transitioned from...

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2 Year Old Crib to Bed Transition

Posted on 6/8/2017

My two year old recently transitioned from crib to bed. The freedom seems to be more than he can handle and he has taken to destroying the bedroom he shares with his 3 year old brother. Of course...

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Posted on 5/6/2017

how to address the issue of a child sleeping in bed with mother and father.

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Wild Monkey at Naptime

Posted on 5/1/2017

I try to make a regular one hour quiet time for my 3 year old daughter every afternoon but things usually end negatively. She has, from birth, been a high needs kiddo and playing by herself seems...

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2 1/2 yo Not Napping

Posted on 4/25/2017

Can you give me some tips on transitioning my son into his toddler bed? He's 30 months and always been a great sleeper. He's doing well with sleeping in his toddler bed at night, but naps are a...

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10 yo Insomnia

Posted on 4/21/2017

My son 10 yo has problem to fall asleep. I put him to bed around 8h30 -9h. He can't fall asleep till 11h00 midnight. I wake him up around 8 am to do go school and usually he is sleeping on his...

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2 1/2 yo Bedtime Troubles

Posted on 4/20/2017

Recently our 2 1\2 year old daughter has been wanting us to stay with her until she falls asleep. Normally she reads her books and we tuck her in and that's it. We have done this for about a week....

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2 Year Old Fight Sleep

Posted on 4/13/2017

Over the past month my almost 2 year old has radically started fighting sleep. For almost 2 years we've been able to lay her down in her crib for both naps and bedtime. Out of the blue she's...

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A Blustering 3-Year-Old and the Ticket System

Posted on 4/5/2017

We have four children. Our third child is a 3.5 year old boy. He is our most "spirited" child and has the vocabulary of a 6 year old. Our 2 older children (6 & 8) are more reserved. He is so...

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Heavy Sleeper & Bedwetting 5-year-old

Posted on 4/4/2017

My, now 5 1/2 year old, son was successfully potty trained at 21 months. Basically ever since, we have been trying to night train him but to no avail. He wears a pull up, which he hates doing...

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Mouthy 3-year-old

Posted on 3/4/2017

Recently my 3 and a half -year-old has started negating various statements his dad and I make. Mostly this happens when he doesn't want to do something (It is bedtime/it is NOT bedtime), but also...

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4 y/o Bedtime Monster

Posted on 2/14/2017

Our 4 year old great-grandson has been living with us for almost 8 months. He is fairly good during the day (unless he has not had a nap). He goes to preschool 3 days a week. And went to the...

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2 yr old screams during the night

Posted on 1/26/2017

Hello, My just-turned-two year old daughter sleeps through the night and has done so since she was at least six months. That being said, every so often, she wakes in the night and just screams...

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What's a Nanny To Do?

Posted on 1/11/2017

I am a nanny for two children, ages 4 1/5 (girl) & 8 1/5 (boy). They are brother and sister. The boy approaches the girl and rubs his private part against her. I told the parents and they said...

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Three-Year-Old Has "Trouble" Falling Asleep

Posted on 1/11/2017

When my now 3-year old son was sleeping in the crib, I'd sleep with him on his twin bed at nap time. Once we got rid of the crib (after he started jumping out), he expected - and still does - us...

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Tantrums at Two

Posted on 1/2/2017

I haven't allowed tv in 2 year old's life, and its been a wonderful thing. I recently started letting him watch a movie or two before bedtime. I admit I am dealing with a newborn and post partum...

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Typical Day?

Posted on 12/18/2016

Hello.. I have a two year old who will be turning three in September...what should our typical day look like? I also have a 10 month old as well. We are struggling finding a routine and...

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3 yo Won't Stay in Her Room

Posted on 12/5/2016

Our almost 4 year old daughter is a high misbehaving child and is on the ticket system. She does not stay in her room at naptime, bedtime, or when she loses all of her tickets, unless we lock the...

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4 1/2 mo Waking at Night

Posted on 11/28/2016

I need some guidance on how to get my 4 1/2 month old to sleep better during the night. I have been using the baby wise method of eat, wake, sleep during the day and trying to get him to have...

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A pokey 12-year-old

Posted on 10/30/2016

My 12 year old daughter is very slow in preparing herself to leave the house. Even when we wake her up very early, we will still have to wait for her at the door while she scuttle about getting...

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Sleepovers for a 6-year-old?

Posted on 10/2/2016

My husband and I are both from families where there was some sexual abuse. Neither of us were the victims, but we have seen up close how devastating this is. We now have 4 children..the oldest is...

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Morning Woes

Posted on 9/24/2016

HI there, I am having trouble with my 2 year old and 5 year old during wake time, amidst other discipline issues. Bedtime is much less dramatic now, most of the time we put them down separately...

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3 yo Refusing to Go to Bed

Posted on 9/20/2016

Our 3.5 year old is suddenly refusing to go to bed. She threw a few violent temper tantrums last weekend, and since then we have been able to avoid the crying, but have not been able to get her to...

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2 yo Won't Go to Bed

Posted on 9/20/2016

Our daughter is 2 1/2, almost 3 years old. I had a son 2 months ago. Our current struggle is with our daughter at bedtime. It takes her anywhere from 1-1 1/2 hours to fall asleep with a barrage...

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3 ½ year old Bedtime Battles

Posted on 9/15/2016

Our 3.5 year old is suddenly refusing to go to bed. She threw a few violent temper tantrums last weekend, and since then we have been able to avoid the crying, but have not been able to get her...

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13 Year Old Tantrums

Posted on 9/12/2016

My 13 year old son has taken to holding our entire house hostage at bedtime if he is upset about something. He will bang on doors, wake his brothers, and can be mildly destructive. Last night he...

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3-year-old bedtime battles

Posted on 9/10/2016

My son just turned 3 a month ago. He has never been a good sleeper all 3 years. We are so tired. We usually put him to sleep at 9 PM but he sleeps around 10. We have tried earlier but it never...

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6 Year Old Bedtime Bedlam

Posted on 9/6/2016

We have a six year old that misbehaves at bedtime. 'Defiant' is the best way to summarize her behavior - she turns on a dime at bedtime, actively disobeying what we tell her to do, and being mean...

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2 yo early bird

Posted on 8/19/2016

HI there, I have just put my 27 month old in a bed as he has been climbing out of the cot. However, he gets into his sister's bed at night or plays (not in his bed). Lots of talk and giggling...

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8 yo Frequent Urination

Posted on 8/10/2016

This is a follow up question. I've taken my daughter to the doctor and she just not have any medical reason for urinating so frequently so I have been firm while we are running errands about how...

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Bedtime experience.

Posted on 7/30/2016

How do you keep a toddler in his room, in his bed when he just wants to be close to his parents (sleeps on the landing of our stairs- our room is at the bottom of the stairs) ?

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