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When Food Issues Become Power Struggles

Posted 1 week ago

I asked a question about my 8 year old sneaking sweets - we have since carried out your suggestions - but it is not working. She looks for other ways to get sweets. We allowed her to buy some cup...

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2yo boy tosses food--what to do?

Posted on 8/13/2019

My son has just turned 2, but he has speech delays. Whenever he has finger foods, he crumbles them up onto the floor and tries to eat the crumbs off the floor. In his high chair, he eats...

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8 year old sneaking treats and lying about it

Posted on 7/24/2019

Hi there, my 8 yo daughter has been sneaking sweets and biscuits from the pantry - and throwing out/hiding her fruit and sometimes other stuff she doesn’t like from her packed lunches. She has...

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Miserable Meal Times

Posted on 6/6/2019

Our son makes mealtime miserable by yelling, complaining, and making a huge production out of eating what we serve. He also whines, begs, and screams about wanting us to "help him" eat his dinner...

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Helping the Toddler Who Refuses to Eat

Posted on 5/12/2019

Hello! Our youngest daughter is 21 months old and lately she starter refusing the food we serve at dinner. She only wants her liking. What to do at this age? Warm regards

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Picky picky picky!

Posted on 2/22/2019

My two year old grandson will only eat yogurt and cheese at my house and is picky at his grandad's as well. He does drink milk and juice. If I put out fruit or other foods, he won't even try...

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Junk Food Junkie

Posted on 11/6/2018

We have made some nutritional changes to the family diet at home. We are limiting sugar and providing healthier snacks and fruits and veggies for all of us. However, I have reason to believe...

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The Picky Eating Toddler

Posted on 10/23/2018

Our son is 26 months old, and eats fairly well except for dinner. Currently, he eats meals seated on booster seat at the table at the same time we eat. He loves fruits, will eat nearly all...

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Food throwing toddler

Posted on 8/24/2018

My 19 month old throws food defiantly and we are so tired of this battle that’s been occurring for almost 1 yr now, we have tried taking food away immediately, saying “no food stays on your tray”...

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Daughter Not Eating Packed Lunch

Posted on 7/19/2018

Hello, I have a follow up question to my last. My daughters teacher keeps informing me daily that my daughter “ didn’t like her lunch” (which is everyday now for a few weeks). I did learn a few...

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Picky Eater Solution...Stay the Course!

Posted on 7/13/2018

Hello, I have a question about my 7 year old daughter who likes to go through phases of being extremely picky with her food. Majority of the time she eats what is put in front of her even...

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Implementing the principles of leadership parenting.

Posted on 6/3/2018

We have 2 boys, ages 9 and 11. Our youngest is disrespectful, disobedient, uses unkind words with his older sibling and throws tantrums/damaging things in our home. His disobedience is constant....

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13 yo Food Fights

Posted on 5/30/2018

My child’s doctor wants her to be gluten free and sugar free. Super difficult, but seems to make a huge difference In her brain fog/memory. She’s much easier to talk to, gets her stuff done...

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Reforming Picky Eaters

Posted on 4/17/2018

We adopted 2 girls (ages 8 and 10 at the time) almost 5 years ago from an African country. They were incredibly picky eaters and refused to try new foods. I have been customizing our meals to...

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14 year old boy with food issues

Posted on 4/16/2018

what resources do you recommend for the parents of a 14 year old boy who is engaged in an eating pattern which is headed to anorexia. we have a medical doctor, dietitian, and a sports trainer...

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Addressing a Picky and Disruptive Eater

Posted on 3/9/2018

I have one boy, almost 4, who is a good eater and another, age 3, who is not. They eat together before my husband and I do and the bad eater cries about food he doesn't like, tries to pass food to...

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1 Year Old and Table Manners

Posted on 1/31/2018

My one year old has starting dropping food off side of high chair, yelling when she wants out, and sometimes refusing to eat what I have cooked. How do I teach her manners in her high chair?

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Nanny Won't Help with Eating Issue

Posted on 1/7/2018

In November I asked about my three old not eating well and my husband and I told her and enforces that if she didn’t eat it meant she wasn’t getting good sleep and her doctor said she must go...

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17 month old Picky Eater

Posted on 12/18/2017

I have a 17month old son who is very uninterested in eating most of the time. I am still nursing but I would like to start weening in the next month but I’m concerned because he doesn’t seem to...

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3 yr old trouble eating

Posted on 11/9/2017

My 3 year old doesn’t like to eat. She has always had trouble staying on the growth curve and is quite tall for her age and has never been an easy eater. Now she likes to talk non stop during...

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Sugar Junkie needs Intervention

Posted on 10/30/2017

My husband and I believe our daughter is addicted to sugar. We do keep limited amounts of cookies and chocolate in our house, and generally eat some dark chocolate after dinner. But, our daughter...

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Follow-up for sugar junkie

Posted on 10/30/2017

Just extra information about my daughter - she's nine-years-old. Our neighbors are very good friends and she feels at home in their house. I don't think she goes to other people's houses and digs...

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Calm Down Please!

Posted on 9/12/2017

My daughter is now 8 1/2 - through the years I have written to you about her personality - last year she was diagnosed with Dyslexia - which has explained where the low self esteem has come from....

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Pay Your Way

Posted on 8/28/2017

Hello, I've been asking questions for a few years now about my daughter. I've read John's book "The Well Behaved Child." My question regarding my now 7 year old daughter is this: How do I...

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Stop Feeding the Beast

Posted on 8/28/2017

HI there, We are currently disciplining our 6 year old daughter for not eating her lunch most days. The problem she claims is that they turn on the TV during lunch so she doesn't eat. She also...

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Mealtime Meltdowns Revisited

Posted on 8/23/2017

This is a follow up question to a previously asked question about my daughter's eating habits at breakfast. Things have gotten off track a bit with the start of Kindergarten for my son. Now that...

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Diet is a 4 letter word

Posted on 7/18/2017

I wrote before about my 7 year old son asking if he’s fat and complaining about his thighs. While I agree that it’s a teaching moment about treating others kindly, the truth is he probably does...

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Morning Mealtime Meltdowns: Four-Year-Old Edition

Posted on 7/11/2017

I'm afraid we've created a mealtime monster. My daughter just turned 4. She is not a morning person. She's also a suspected hypoglycemic. This has not been medically confirmed because when I...

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11-yr-old tummy troubles or just seeking attention?

Posted on 6/17/2017

Our 11 year old daughter began expressing stomach discomfort in early spring (i.e. VERY frequent complaining). In the absence of obvious illness (diarrhea, pain in night w/disrupted sleep, etc..),...

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Skip the Sippy for Bottle to Cup Transition

Posted on 6/5/2017

My almost 2 year old still wants to drink only from a bottle. I've tried several different styles of sippy cups, but she refuses to drink from them. I've tried holding out for a while to insist...

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Eight year old won't eat dinner

Posted on 4/19/2017

Food question. My 8 year old daughter hardly ever eats her dinner. For the first 6 years of her life I made too much a deal about it catering to her so she would eat. Now we just offer her...

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Sweet Stuff

Posted on 3/26/2017

HI there! Do you have any advice how much of the sweet stuff kids should be allowed? We generally do not eat chocolates, lollies or cakes on a regular basis. If we do, it would be the...

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Curing a 3-Year-Old Picky Eater

Posted on 3/9/2017

I've recently started the Tablespoon method for my very "picky" 3 year old boy. After a few tries, he's had one successful meal where he's eaten all three foods and gone on to get seconds....

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Toddler Throws Food

Posted on 1/29/2017

We love your advice and have been following the "Turning the Terrible Twos Terrific" with our 19 month old son however we have a food thrower. We feed him before we eat, he's at his own toddler...

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Distracted during meals.

Posted on 1/22/2017

We've read the article "Fail-Safe Formula for Getting Kids to Eat Everything". Our 3 year old takes his sweet time eating at every meal, irregardless of consequences, exciting things to do with...

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Fussy Infant

Posted on 11/22/2016

Greetings: We have a fussy 1 month old. He has gained 2 lbs since birth....now weighs 10 lbs. Screams and acts uncomfortable all day and most of night. Breast and bottle feeding, but doesn't...

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5 yo Thief?

Posted on 11/14/2016

Long story as short as possible-- Son (age 5) lost all his Halloween candy the day after Halloween because he left wrappers all over his bedroom. Two days later snuck into his sister's room...

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7 y/o Dinner Woes

Posted on 9/13/2016

I just had it out with my seven-year-old daughter (and I lost my cool, sorry to say). Every night, when we sit down to eat dinner, she does everything she can to avoid eating what I have prepared....

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clarification for overweight 15 year-old boy

Posted on 8/25/2016

I asked a question recently about wanting my child to make better eating choices and choosing to be more active. I failed to mention that he is 15 so I think this might change the answer a little....

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Mom wants overweight boy to make better choices

Posted on 8/24/2016

What can I do to help my overweight child make better eating and exercise choices without damagingnhisnselfnesteem?

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Severe Allergy

Posted on 8/1/2016

My 7-year-old son has a severe life-threatening peanut allergy. He cannot be around people eating peanuts (it's potentially airborne) and he certainly cannot eat food that I did not provide for...

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Little boys crazy for candy!

Posted on 6/27/2016

Is candy making my kids crazy? At our kids' ages, candy seemingly appears out of thin air when we take our children to events, church events particularly. While we are careful to keep them from...

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4 Year Old Eating Problems

Posted on 4/13/2016

My daughter will be 4 in a week and does not want to try new food or eat vegetables at all. It is my fault as I haven't been feeding her the best food up to this point as we're always on the go,...

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Meal Time Attitude

Posted on 4/11/2016

Recently we are having a problem with our daughters attitude at meal times. As soon as any food is placed in front of her she immediately starts jerking her body around,whining,grunting, making...

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Mother Wants to Stop Micromanaging

Posted on 2/23/2016

Micromanagement. I definitely do it. My husband does it. We catch ourselves, but need to rid ourselves of it. The problem is that I have a hard time knowing when I'm "parenting" and when I'm...

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4 Year Old Picky Eater

Posted on 2/10/2016

My soon-to-be 4 year old is an extremely picky eater. He screams and pitches a fit if he even sees a new food or non-preferred food on his plate. As a baby, he had horrible reflux and...

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6 year old refuses to eat sometimes

Posted on 2/2/2016

Our six year old son at times refuses to eat meals that we serve. If he refuses to eat dinner, we have been sending him to bed right away without eating. If it is breakfast or lunch, we send him...

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7 month old nippy while breastfeeding

Posted on 1/19/2016

How should I respond when my seven month old bites while breastfeeding to discourage the behavior?

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10 year old with Food Anxiety

Posted on 12/3/2015

My 10 year old daughter has developed anxieties or panic attacks when she eats lunch at school, mostly; but when they occur, eating seems to be involved. She is a thin, tall girl, very...

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20-mo Picky Eater

Posted on 10/22/2015

At what age is it ok to start this method: "Fail-safe Formula for Getting Kids to Eat Everything"? I have a 20 mo old who is starting to get pickier about what he eats at meal times and...

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