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Time to Toughen Up with Teen

Posted 4 days ago

Dear John, you answered my question about my 14 ye old being kicked out of garden for 6 months now and she may be a rebel and we shouldn't start zig zag but stay the course. I'm a wimpy guilty...

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Teens and the Telephone

Posted 6 days ago

I have noticed that parents writing in about problems with kids and phones are repeatedly told to take the device away and the child can have it when they can purchase their own device. I don't...

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Kicked Out of the Garden... Now What?

Posted 1 week ago

Dear John, 14 yr girl. Generally respectful and responsible and obedient. However, long history of deception and manipulation. Homeschooler who is presently kicked out of garden for numerous...

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15 yo boy "running off"

Posted 1 week ago

I have a fifteen year old son who likes to run off for hours at a time with no notice as to where he is going when he gets in trouble or mad. Unfortunately, my wife and I struggle with "should we...

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13 yo daughter needs to leave 'The Garden"!

Posted 1 week ago

Should there be consequences if my 13 year old step-daughter refuses to do her chores (clean up her room and door her laundry), leaves notes on her door telling me/us to STFO, refuses to eat when...

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15-Year-Old Drastic Mood Changes

Posted 3 weeks ago

My 15 year old son is showing signs of mood changes--less energy and motivation with school work (he is homeschooled), outbursts of anger and anxiety in social settings with large groups of...

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Disrespectful , Thieving Teen

Posted 4 weeks ago

I am a Mom of 4 kids ages 15 girl, 13 boy, 10 girl, 8 boy. My oldest, at around age 9 stared eye rolling and disrespectful behaviors & it has only gotten worse. I limit electronics/TV/social...

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High School Freshman Vaping

Posted on 10/10/2017

Hi! My 14 year old freshman has been telling me how he vapes in the high school bathroom with friends. My husband and I do not smoke or vape and we have made it very clear that he needs to wait...

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Teen Prefers to Live with Daily Pot Smoking Dad

Posted on 10/9/2017

My just turned 13 year old son wants to see what living with Dad would be like after living with me and Stepdad (and visiting Dad and StepMom) over his childhood. Dad has a stable career and nice...

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Old School Blues

Posted on 10/5/2017

My daughters were homeschooled, public schooled, homeschooled again, and back in public school right down the street. They were pretty happy with school but the oldest was always hard to get out...

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Micromanagement Out, Mentoring In

Posted on 9/24/2017

Our 15 yr old comes in and out of moodiness and maturity. He is doing well in some school classes amd not so well in others. Your advice has been very helpful to me. There is a girl that he is...

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Bedtime for a teen.

Posted on 9/19/2017

I have a 9th grade stepson whose bio mother passed when he was 2. I married his dad when he was 5 and consequently raised him. About 2 years ago he became a problem. He committed an act of...

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Excessive Complaints from Teenage Girl

Posted on 9/15/2017

Hi. My question is about my thirteen year old daughter and her constant complaining whenever shes asked to do something that she doesn't want to do. She will get all.emmotional and complain and...

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Two home dilemma.

Posted on 9/13/2017

My 14 year old son is having a difficult time with me getting remarried. We have given him space and even dated for 2 years before we married. He is mad and I have mistakenly let him get away...

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Teenage Girl Talks of Changing Gender

Posted on 9/9/2017

I have a grand daughter who is now announcing herself as a transmute. Her mother is in a lesbian relationship with a wonderful partner and they are marrying this year. My daughter has set some...

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Screens are Everywhere!

Posted on 9/6/2017

I have a soon to be 13 year old grandson I have been raising since he was an infant. He was diagnosed ADD in first grade but delayed medication until 4th grade. The medication has really helped....

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14 yr old peer pressure

Posted on 8/29/2017

My 14 year old daughter has an 'interesting' group of friends at her government school, who seem to be able to manipulate their parents. We are zoned for this school and cannot afford a private...

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When a Child Chooses the Wrong Friends

Posted on 8/29/2017

My 14-year-old son started in a new, academically-driven private school for high school. He became friends immediately with his peer group on the football team and we've allowed him some new...

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Challenges of the two parent home.

Posted on 7/24/2017

Hello, I have 2 boys, 14 and 16 years old. I am divorced from their father. Their father and I have a civil relationship regarding the boys. We have always disagreed in the general rearing of the...

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Sibling Conflict

Posted on 7/22/2017

Our 13-year-old son teases his eight year old sister to no end. She reacts dramatically to the teasing (he loves getting a rise out of her, so I'm sure her reaction is his reward). She'll scream...

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10 yo girl adores/imitates bad boy 14 yo brother

Posted on 7/2/2017

My 10-yr old daughter adores her 14-yr old brother. My son (the 14-yr old), however, is currently going through a period (I hope it's just a period) where he is being deceitful, sneaky, and...

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Shoplifting teen blames Mom

Posted on 7/2/2017

I'm feeling guilty. In the last couple of months my son has been in trouble with the police,(for shoplifting) and at school. Home life has been very difficult. I have made him take responsibility,...

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Teenagers, Technology and Life

Posted on 6/13/2017

With the deluge of technology in children's lives today, once the children reach their teens, including late teens, what would you consider to be fair usage rules in the home for both computers...

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Replace conversation with action.

Posted on 6/7/2017

Hi, my question is about my 13 year old daughter. I am unsure how to discipline and respond to certain types of little acts of disobedience. For example, she knows not to get her one-year-old...

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15 y/o Joy Riding

Posted on 6/4/2017

My 15 year old grandson takes family car out at night without permission, of course. Neighborhood policeman has told him the consequences and his parents have as well. They are beside...

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High Schoolers & the Internet

Posted on 5/10/2017

Please help me navigate the internet access issue for highschoolers. You say for them to do their homework in their own rooms (so they know they are responsible) but don't have TVs and internet...

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15 yo Slacker

Posted on 5/1/2017

My son (15) will be 16 in August; I'm a single mom he has 2 other brothers, 8,13; I juggle extracurricular activities for the 2 (15 & 12) with others peoples help; acquaintances, friends helping...

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Ahhh the joys of step-parenting.

Posted on 4/27/2017

I have 3 step daughters ages 10, 13, and 15. I never have had a sister but my nieces are close in age and the best of friends. My daughters won't share and are so mean to each other. Attitudes,...

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The 14 year old rules.

Posted on 4/25/2017

This is in reference to my last question regarding my 14 year old stepson. I couldn't agree more about the parents being on the same page. Plus I have read Johns" book Teen proofing. I have...

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Clues for teenage behaviors

Posted on 4/24/2017

attitude and/or behavior that would indicate a teen having an interest in or use of drugs or alchol.

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14 yo Out of Control

Posted on 4/22/2017

Four years ago I adopted an older child who is now almost 14 yrs. old. I am a single mother. He can be a delightful person, but I am seeing less and less of this. I keep him busy in a variety of...

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Single parent struggles.

Posted on 4/3/2017

I could probably be considered guilty of putting my kids in the center of the family. Giving too much consideration to their feelings... I'm a single parent of boy/girl twins that are 10 and...

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No parenting authority produces chaos.

Posted on 3/31/2017

My stepson is about to enter high school. He will be 15 in September. Last May he vandalized his "friends" house and fathers" car to the tune of 12,000.00 which we payed. He wrote foul language...

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Teenagers and Tone

Posted on 3/23/2017

I have 2 children a 15 year old boy (soon to be 16) and a 13 year old girl (soon to be 14). How do you handle the "tone" in their voice? I'm not good at being quick or creative with my...

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Disorganized parenting leads to...

Posted on 3/17/2017

I need help with my 15 year old daughter. I'm a single mom and I also have a 10 year old son. She has a boyfriend, and his parents are drunks and do not care where their son is or what he's...

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Half-Hearted 14-year-old student

Posted on 3/16/2017

We have a 14 year old son that is a freshmen in high school. We have been long followers of John Rosemond and have done our best not to mircromanage our son, especially when it comes to school and...

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Should I Proofread My Child's Work?

Posted on 3/14/2017

We have a 14 year old son who is in the middle of writing a research paper. He is generally responsible, does his own homework without being told, and gets good grades. We do not hover over him,...

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What's a School Counselor to Do?

Posted on 3/13/2017

Hi John, I'm a K-12 School Counselor and schools today have many challenges. One of them involves working with kids in junior high and high school who are failing, school is not working for...

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Discouraging Sexual Activity

Posted on 2/17/2017

We have a 15 year old daughter who continues to lie. She currently is grounded for a month, no social events, technology, etc. per the Rosemond Method. She appears to be feeling the pain of this...

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Motivating Better Grades

Posted on 2/16/2017

Hi! I am working on consequences that will "motivate" my 13 year old son to put in more effort at school. I am ready to take away everything (cell phone, electronics, tv, time with friends, etc)...

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Teenaged son not making the grade

Posted on 2/7/2017

My 13 year old son is bright but very lazy when it comes to school work and grades. Even though he tested as gifted, he does not want to put the time or effort in that is required to do well. We...

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Website Policy

Posted on 2/6/2017

So the saga with my DS continues. It has been 2.5 months of consequences & he has not gotten his act together with handing school work in on time & he has lost his precious phone & social...

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Troubled Young Teen?

Posted on 2/5/2017

This question is in reference to the October 2016 question regarding my 13 year old's act of vandalism. Fast forward 8 months later. He has completed his punishment, but not without having to...

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Don't Ask, Do Tell!

Posted on 1/29/2017

I have a 13 year old who has always been defiant. She is bright, and a fantastic kid, but when she is asked to do something she doesn't wan, the fight is on. She will not do what I ask, or will...

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Ask them no questions...

Posted on 1/21/2017

My 15 year old has been lying. Last month it was about getting homework done after a busy weekend of chorus performances when she actually was planning on asking a pushover teacher for an...

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Teen Love.

Posted on 1/19/2017

We have a 15 son who is deeply, madly in love with a 14 girl. We aren't thrilled about the relationship, but have come to realize that we are fighting a losing battle in regards to micromanaging...

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15 Year Old Grades Slipping

Posted on 1/15/2017

Dear Parenting Guru, I have a soon to be 15 year old son, a ninth grader. He is in a scholar program at a private school, and he has earned a partial scholarship based on his academic...

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Cell phone give and take

Posted on 1/14/2017

In the chapter in Teen Proofing about consequences, John does not mention electronics or cell phones. I know he does not feel that kids should have them in the first place, but for those of us...

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13 Year Old Vaping

Posted on 1/2/2017

Hi! I found a vape pen hidden in my 13 year old son's room and am at a loss as to how to handle this. I know he is very succeptible to peer pressure and wants very badly to fit in and with the...

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