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To Lie or Not to Lie...

Posted 1 week ago

Our 5-year-old son has been telling lies. Most of the time he admits to them when we are questioning him. How do we punish him for lying without dissuading him to confess the truth as he has been?

When will sharing 'click'

Posted 2 weeks ago

When I hear my two little people (2 and 15 months) arguing, fussing, yelling, etc. at each other in the play room, should I go investigate and discipline whoever is in the wrong (if one sibling...

3/4 yr old hitting/scratching

Posted 2 weeks ago

My (just turned) 4 year old has been hitting and scratching for a while now. It first began when she was at a day care that we think she may have had some physical/verbal abuse, but we're not sure...

WE GIVE MANY THANKS FOR THIS UNSOLICITED TESTIMONIAL

Posted 4 weeks ago

Thank you SO much for your advice. Things are going much better. A lot of the drama and stress has cut down. Both kids (2 and 15 months) are happier. I have been praying about it and seeking Godly...

Chores, chores YES

Posted on 8/25/2023

I'm not good at consistently requiring my son's aged 5 and 3 to do any chores around the house. I think they are old enough to start doing regular small tasks but I'm not good at holding them to...

Value systems call.

Posted on 8/10/2023

My nephew just turned 9. He is the oldest of 4 and they live four houses down from us. The youngest is a boy the same age as my son. He has been painting his nails along with his brothers nails...

Balancing Adult Responsibilities and Quality Time with Young Children

Posted on 8/9/2023

I hear so much about how kids grow up so fast, how we need to enjoy them when they are young, how they need more one-on-one time, etc. I agree that they grow up fast and that it is important to...

Parenting in Public

Posted on 8/9/2023

What do I do about disciplining and training bad behavior in public? In this confused world I don’t want people to think I’m being too strict, abusive, or unloving. But I have seen John’s stuff...

Get to Work!

Posted on 6/12/2023

The "K-12 to college" track offers few opportunities to try new trades and create things aside from computer programs. School runs all day as a daycare for two working parents, but most employers...

Overboard in the Offseason? Dad, Sports, and a 13-year Old

Posted on 5/31/2023

Husband takes our 13 yr old to a sport practice 3x/wk, conditioning 1x/wk, and a trainer 1x/wk which leaves one night/wk for a non-sport activity and one weekend day open. This sport is in its...

How to Stop Micro-Managing Playtime

Posted on 5/25/2023

In Mr. Rosemond's most recent podcast on 'The Good Mommy Club, he states that children shouldn't be told how to play because it comes naturally. I find myself micro-managing my daughters when I...

SMART PHONES, SOCIAL MEDIA, AND NARCISSISM

Posted on 5/8/2023

How can I teach my 16 year old daughter to think of others? We have just started limiting and putting boundaries on her phone time, which we know we were wrong in waiting to do. We try to model it...

Teaching gratitude to 4.5 yo boy

Posted on 4/15/2023

I’m struggling to teach my 4.5 year old son gratefulness. We don’t have strong behavior issues, but he will often say things like “Why doesn’t this water have ice?” Or “Why is her piece bigger...

What Do I Do if My Child Is the Bully?

Posted on 4/1/2023

What do you do when you find out your child is the bully? Recently, I read my 13-year-old son's text thread and learned he was verbally bullying another child. Reading further, he also...

How Do I Teach My Children Manners?

Posted on 3/23/2023

Hello! I have three girls, ages (almost) 5, 7, and 9. I'd love to follow Mr. Rosemond's advice on teaching them one manner per week. How do you suggest I do this in practice? For example, one week...

ADDRESSING ADULTS

Posted on 3/18/2023

I am wondering if my children should address adults outside of school by their first names. How should I address my neighbors and other adults in front of my children?

3 Year Old Doesn’t Understand Why Chinese Grandma Doesn’t Understand Him

Posted on 3/13/2023

My mother, who speaks Chinese only, finally came to the U.S. to meet the grandkids (3 & 1.5 years) in person. Previous contact was through Facetime only. The 3-year-old boy is verbally pretty...

OH, THE PEER PRESSURE PARENTS ARE UNDER, BEING SLOWLY CRUSHED

Posted on 3/9/2023

We understand that a child is best served by receiving personal attention for their first three years before starting regular daycare. However, could outside care still be beneficial by age two?...

THE VIDEO SERIES AND TEENS

Posted on 3/2/2023

Is it too late to start these 7 principles on teenagers?

Distress at the Dentist's and Choosing Church

Posted on 2/2/2023

Question about The Godfather Principle: We’re currently implementing this because of a rather rough (that’s an understatement) dentist visit. We read your response to the question about temper...

Anger Mismanagement

Posted on 1/4/2023

My 11.5 year old, quite academic son, is very respectful outside home and loved by his teachers. In past few years he is lacking anger management and becomes disrespectful (especially with mom)...

Be the Adult in the Room

Posted on 12/20/2022

Here goes the scenario, most of the time this happens while eating dinner, where one of my step kids will correct my "wording" or how I "phrased some words" I used in a sentence. I work all day...

10 Year Old with Violent Fits, Divorced Parents and "trifecta of diagnoses"

Posted on 10/13/2022

My 10 year old son has the adoptive trifecta of diagnoses: "on the autism spectrum", oppositional defiant disorder, and ADHD. Sometimes he has violent fits - although now they're down to 1 or 2...

10 YEAR OLD WITH DEMONS?

Posted on 10/5/2022

I have been asking questions and seeking advice for a time. Had a coach, but my husband discontinued service. Last time I wrote I mentioned, My husband said we should cut it at the root. He...

Five Years Old: The Age of Fine Whine

Posted on 9/21/2022

My youngest, who is 5 years old, is feeling left out, saying the neighborhood kids don’t want to play with him. However, I don’t blame them! He is very whiny, tattles constantly, and doesn't share...

10 YO BOY VIEWING PORN...I WONDER WHERE?

Posted on 8/17/2022

Our ten year old was caught looking at porn on his friend phone. yesterday. he also was caught on his school computer, last year. we tried to explain to him how wrong it was and took away all his...

FAMILY CONFLICT OVER DRINKING AND POT

Posted on 7/28/2022

As a kid, my dad & older brothers drank. My mom didn't, but allowed it. I started drinking at 17. My brothers smoke marijuana.I quit drinking at 28. I will occ. have a glass of wine, but not...

Stop Complaining!

Posted on 7/12/2022

I have a boy who just turned 8. We eat dinner and shortly after he complains he’s hungry (I fix good, homemade balanced meals). When I fix dinner, he complains he doesn’t like what we’re having....

Natural Consequences Are EffectiveTeachers

Posted on 7/9/2022

My 9 year old boy frequently acts like a baby and very odd in a socially unacceptable way like a feral child. When leaving his friends he will say “bye friends” in a silly voice. He also was...

3-Year-Old in Hyper Mode

Posted on 6/22/2022

My 3.5 year old will get hyper and annoying when he is overtired or overexcited. When he’s in a “hyper mode”, he’s running around, trying to roughhouse, jumping into people, being loud and...

Don't Dis R-E-S-P-E-C-T

Posted on 6/13/2022

Our 8 year old has grown increasingly disrespectful. He is perfect respectful to adults like teachers and parents of his friends, so it is primarily an issue at home. Often the disrespect is...

The Third Year of Life - A Time to Learn and Blossom

Posted on 5/24/2022

What chores and responsibilities should a 3.5 year old have? Should there be a designate “workbook/learning” time every day?

Time for a Reboot

Posted on 5/18/2022

Since the first email our son (8yrs) was operated on for septic arthritis 6 months ago. The pain returned 2weeks ago (now gone). His hip bone has a small weakness and he needs to ensure he has no...

Bedtime Monsters

Posted on 5/15/2022

My 9 year old won’t go to bed at night, constantly crying about monsters etc which has never been an issue before. It seems to be one thing after the other. If he could sleep in my bed he would...

DRAMATIC 7 YEAR OLD GIRL. YA THINK?

Posted on 4/21/2022

Hi there! We deal with a very ungrateful, dramatic 7 year old. Whenever we do something special - play with friends, ice cream, park play, or maybe a combination of the three, and we’re coming...

No Response is a Response: Let Them Be Silly

Posted on 4/21/2022

How do we teach our children to stop the constant silly talk/noises? One child is diagnosed with ADHD, autism, etc. I've set up a rule that the first 30 minutes after wakeup and the last 30...

It's Only Natural

Posted on 4/19/2022

My son, who turned 8 today…has something interesting going on. I have zero experience with male children. A few days ago, he left from the kitchen where I was preparing breakfast to get dressed. ...

Parents Need To Be on The Same Page

Posted on 4/14/2022

In order to apply garden kick, should both parents sit down with the child and go over all the consequences for breaking family rules? One issue with my daughter is phone, I had asked her phone...

Resistance precedes change.

Posted on 4/1/2022

I’m trying to tame the emotional outbursts in my home, among ALL its inhabitants. All I have found here and in Rosemond’s books is that this is a worthy goal. Can someone give me some hows please...

Don't Make a Mountain out of a Molehill--Part Two

Posted on 3/30/2022

Hi Lisa, Thank you very much for your answer to my question. Just thought I should also add what he told me few days ago when we spoke about his playing with his penis, he admitted that he...

Middle of the Night Snacks Prolonging Mealtime Battles

Posted on 3/20/2022

In September I asked for advice on my picky 2-year-old. For 6 months, I have consistently tried the methods recommended. I didn't fuss over meals, just gave him small amounts of whatever I made,...

It's Not About the Makeup: Time for a Garden Kick

Posted on 3/20/2022

15-year old daughter very obsessed with make-up. Used our Amazon account to buy makeup Products without our knowing till I looked up order history. Took away all her makeup products, went...

Parent vs. Grandparent Relationships

Posted on 2/15/2022

My husband and I love the John Rosemond way of parenting. We set rules and expect our kids to follow them. When my parents come around, they completely baby them because they "feel bad" and think...

Little Runaway

Posted on 2/10/2022

Our 11 yr old son has been spending a lot of time in room due to behavior and losing tickets. He decided yesterday after losing his tickets that he had enough and was running away. He has said...

Bedtime Blues

Posted on 2/1/2022

Hello there. Since he was very little, my little one had been going to be bed between 7:30 to 8 pm, preceded by him willingly going to the bathtub when told, playing/being washed in the tub, being...

R.E.S.P.E.C.T

Posted on 1/30/2022

We have a 10 year old son and an 8 year old daughter. Our daughter has a genetic disease and is mildly delayed in language and cognitive skills, but she attends school and is in a regular...

Parent Apologies: Choosing Relationship Over Being Right with Adult Child

Posted on 1/19/2022

This question builds off of a prior one answered by Gretchen Slover. Last summer, my 18-year-old daughter lost about 15-20 pounds. She was at about 130 at her peak and in good shape. My ex-wife...

Silly Bedtime Brothers

Posted on 1/18/2022

Our older two boys, 5 and 7, go crazy at bedtime. They are silly, which is fine, but in being silly they make messes and are often disrespectful. After going to bed, we can hear them laughing and...

Mom Wants to Put a Lid on Son's Potty Talk

Posted on 1/17/2022

Hello, We have a 4.5 year old son. He has been using the word "poop" in everything. Trying to be funny. Or trying to get a rise? Depends. Here are a couple of examples.. I am 33 weeks pregnant...

Importance of Presenting a United Parenting Front

Posted on 1/2/2022

This may be a complicated question: I have a question about my and my husband's parenting styles. I come from a conservative background, my parents were old school and traditional. Lots of...

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