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Teaching Values to Teenagers

Posted 5 days ago

Good morning, How do I address a difference in values with my 18 year old son? He will graduate in 2 months so still lives at home. He is materialistic and very focused on brands and "image". He...

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Life After College is Too Comfortable- Time to Adult

Posted 1 week ago

Hello, My stepson in 23 and a recent college graduate with a communication degree. His father and I have been married 2 years ago. His parents are concerned about his seemingly lack of...

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How much is enough?

Posted 2 weeks ago

I am wondering what you would say would normally expect to be included for a schedule for a 3 year old staying at home. I have my older 2 in school for parts of the day, and I have my younger...

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Preschooler learning to be a real friend

Posted 2 weeks ago

My 4 year old son is in a 3 day a week preschool. He is in the same class with a girl that he has been friends with since he was born. Apparently he has become very possessive over her during free...

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Ask them no questions, and they will tell you no lies!

Posted 3 weeks ago

Dear John and team, almost 2 years ago I posted a question about my daughter lying about this and that and just generally not wanting to give a straight answer. We were advised to "ask no...

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Higher Level Thinking Skills

Posted 3 weeks ago

My 7 year old son has a problem solving problem. Any task he performs can make him melt down. I am sure that when he was younger I would jump in and solve his problem, but I have been very...

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Separate but Equal

Posted on 2/10/2019

I have an introverted, sensitive (gentle and kind) four-year-old son and an extroverted, physically rambunctious two-year-old son. The two year old is physically aggressive (biting and hitting)...

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Posted on 2/7/2019

Would you advise telling your son that God didn’t create him as gay? I told him this initially, but I don’t want to make all of our conversations revolve around this. We told him he cannot date...

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She be Bossy says her Posse

Posted on 2/4/2019

Good Morning, My daughter, Anne is turning 4. She is very sweet and somewhat of a typical “first child” if you will. She also has a lot if personality. She has recently been telling me that her...

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Adult Daughter Troubles

Posted on 2/3/2019

Hi John, Thank you for your many books and tapes. I've listened to and read almost all of them. My daughter is adopted from Ukraine. We brought her home 2 days before her first birthday. ...

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Flowers for V-D for wife and daughter?

Posted on 1/31/2019

I buy my wife flowers for Valentine's Day and I'd like to buy some for my daughter as well, as an annual tradition. Are there any concerns with that, such as putting her on the same level as my...

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Avoid Making Mountains out of Molehills

Posted on 1/18/2019

Our 12-year-old daughter is raising concerns (both ours and at least one of her teachers') with violence in her writing. Last fall she asked me to read over a fictional short story she had written...

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Outside Influences

Posted on 1/1/2019

I have 5 kids ranging from 3mo to 7 years old. Both sets of grandparents live local and are involved. One set is often I overreaching. They hold some Christian beliefs. They recently told our...

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Now what?

Posted on 12/13/2018

Hey thank you for the answer I needed..I have taken her phone permanently only reason she had a phone is because her dad lives out of town and I work far from where I’m at and he bought her a...

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Caution: Child in Charge

Posted on 12/6/2018

Our recently-turned 11-year-old boy is really hating school this year. He seems to think he knows what he needs to learn for his future and the rest is a waste of his time. He is a very bright...

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Fitting In

Posted on 12/5/2018

Hi have a soon to be 13 year old. He is in a new school, his old school was a Christian school. It has been somewhat of a struggle in middle school. From being the new student and being exposed to...

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Have You Hugged Someone Today?

Posted on 11/8/2018

my dad sometimes continually suggests that my 2.5 year old son should come and give him a hug or come sit in his lap when we are at their house visiting. They live maybe a mile away, so we see...

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To Curfew or Not To Curfew

Posted on 11/7/2018

My 18 yr old daughter attends college but lives at home. She makes stellar grades and is attending on a merit scholarship. She does chores around the house. She is a responsible person. My...

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Where Lego Ends, Tickets Begin

Posted on 10/28/2018

We just started using the ticket system on our 6 year old son yesterday. Following is an example of this morning, which we're not quite sure how to handle. Our son is busy playing with his Lego...

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The Pestering Teen...

Posted on 10/22/2018

We are struggling with my 14 year old son. He constantly pesters sister dad and myself. We take away all electronic devices and that does not solve the problem. He is getting more stubborn every...

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Taming the Class Clown

Posted on 10/15/2018

My son is 8 years old and I'm trying the "out of the garden" to correct some behaviors. He's already corrected two of them but having trouble with his 3rd misbehavior which is having a good day at...

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Is Mom Micro-managing?

Posted on 10/15/2018

I just found my 14 y/o daughter has been hiding an electronic tablet in her room. She uses it "for homework and to talk to friends via instagram". She brought it from her dads house. She says I...

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Growing an Independent Three Year Old

Posted on 10/6/2018

Hello! Our daughter is three and a half years old, and we have noticed that she plays very little independently. When I start cooking, she wants to sit on the counter and help; when I do...

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5 year old boy behaves better at home than at school

Posted on 10/4/2018

My 5 year old son is in preschool, and we are working very hard on his behavior and manners. He still has tantrums which I am working hard to end. Lately, when he has a tantrum or is disrespectful...

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Exposure to Exposure

Posted on 9/26/2018

Hello. I read so many articles about what to do after a child or teen has been exposed and then becomes addicted to pornography. What are some steps to protect my child from interacting with...

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Empathy, an important skill to be practiced

Posted on 9/23/2018

How can I assist my child in developing empathy?

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Following Rules

Posted on 9/19/2018

My 5 year old just started kindergarten and she has made a few friends - one that she just adores. This morning when I dropped her off for school she couldn't find her best friend and she was...

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11 m, 3.5 and 7yrs Road-trip Remedies

Posted on 9/3/2018

Hello! We have three usually well behaved children who were all raised on the Parenting By the Book philosophy. They sleep in their own beds, do normal age appropriate chores, have normal sibling...

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Bored kindergartener?

Posted on 8/22/2018

Hi- I have a “just turned” 5yo that has just started kindergarten about 1 month ago. He mostly comes home on “green” but he has had 5 days below green over the last month. The teacher emailed...

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working parents with a 3 yro

Posted on 8/14/2018

Our girl will be 3 beginning of November. She is going to Montessori School 5 days a week from 9am till 5:30pm. We are dance teachers, we teach adults at our own Argentine Tango Studio, so most...

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Unmotivated Teenage Boy

Posted on 8/12/2018

My teenage son is not interested in engaging in anything that requires effort. He gives up on everything he tries after just one attempt and after much coaxing and prodding, refuses to try again....

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Address manners with 9 year old one at a time

Posted on 8/8/2018

I'm hoping for a response from Katherine Saltzberg, as I am referencing her response titled "5 year old table manners". In your response, you state that each bad habit needs to be tackled one...

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Puberty/Lingerie

Posted on 8/2/2018

I found young girls bras and panties in my 13 year old son's closet. I then noticed some of my clothes were missing, bra panties, camisols, tops. I attempted to talk to him about this but he won't...

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Picking up on Bad Behavior

Posted on 7/25/2018

My son, age 4, is very impressionable and quickly picks up and mimics bad behaviors he sees from other kids. Many kids in our church nursery are badly behaved at this age group and, one in...

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Okay to Throw the Game Plan out the Window?

Posted on 7/8/2018

My husband is a sports nut....I am NOT. To his credit, he sees the insanity kids' sports has become and tends to be very level headed about things. Our 11 year old son plays rec (not the super...

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'Tis the Season of Leaving and Cleaving

Posted on 7/3/2018

My son has joined my practice which was always our plan. He brought his girlfriend (also a dr & now is wife) back. They lived with us for 2 years. I trained them, shared my practice & they kept...

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16 yro struggling when the going get tough

Posted on 6/17/2018

I have a 16 year old daughter. She has a high GPA but struggles with things become difficult. For example, she doesn't want to go through the SAT study guide because it seems difficult versus...

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Attention-Seeking Behavior Disguised as Lack of Confidence

Posted on 6/12/2018

My 8 yr old son is hard on himself and can be quite stubborn. It's a crazy mix of attributes that my husband and I are having a hard time navigating. If he misses 1 spelling word, he shuts...

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Tummy Issues

Posted on 6/3/2018

Hello, I'm looking for advice on what to say to my daughter when she she asks me if she's fat. She is 8, and not fat at all. She is tall for her age and has a healthy athletic body as she...

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4 yo Using Mean Words and Potty Mouth

Posted on 5/30/2018

"I'm stupid/you're stupid/that's stupid, dumb, poop face, butt..." These are all words we do not condone our son saying. However, he works them in every chance he gets. How do we get our son to...

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Teaching Modesty

Posted on 5/8/2018

What is the best way to teach modesty? Our son is six and much too curious. He has very little filter and is much need of guidance we really do not k ow the best way go give. Thank you for your...

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Appropriate Response to Inappropriate Video Games?

Posted on 5/6/2018

Our 8-year-old son is seeing kids play graphic video games on portable gaming units. The most recent title was “Call of Duty,” with which we are familiar. We talked about the violence and realism...

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Selfish at Six

Posted on 4/30/2018

Hi again, I have another question about our children, this time about our 6 year old girl. She seems to have come into the world well-equipped with a particularly strong selfish streak. I know...

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Annoying behaviors among family

Posted on 4/25/2018

I just found out my sister and her kids do not like having us visit because my daughter is always getting into their things and is too nosy. She is too touchy they said as well. I don't know how...

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And the Oscar Goes To....

Posted on 4/24/2018

Our 4 year old son is an attention addict in public. He will do whatever it takes to get good or bad attention. He interrupts adult conversations, says and does over the top silly nonsensical...

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Stealing Edibles

Posted on 4/24/2018

Hi there. My 10 year old son is struggling with "taking candy / food / vitamins / etc" when people are not looking. There are items we do not let him eat without permission and he is just...

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One of the 7 Deadly Needs...The Need to be Right

Posted on 4/23/2018

My daughter is 8 years old and has to be in control and right about everything. If she gets in trouble at home or even misses a question on a test at school, she will not admit that she made a...

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The Better Half

Posted on 4/19/2018

I have 2 step-daughters, ages 11 and 8, who spend half of their time with us and half with their mom. We don’t allow them to use any form of social media and have explained to them the dangers....

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Posted on 4/19/2018

Our eight-year-old daughter used to get along really well with our son who is now three, but lately it’s gotten really bad. Sometime she says she wishes he was still a baby because now he “annoys...

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Attitude Adjustment

Posted on 3/30/2018

My 4 yo son recently started a habit of gloating over other people’s misfortune. When his brother stumbled and fell, he laughed. When I accidentally dropped something on the floor and I said...

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