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Sibling Rivalry

Posted 4 days ago

my daughters, age 5 and 2, constantly fight. I agree siblings need to settle their own quarrels; however, my 2 year old is still physically agressive (pulling hair, hitting), and sometimes I...

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Separate but Equal

Posted 1 week ago

I have an introverted, sensitive (gentle and kind) four-year-old son and an extroverted, physically rambunctious two-year-old son. The two year old is physically aggressive (biting and hitting)...

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It's never too late for those who are aware!

Posted 2 weeks ago

I have been battling with my 4.5yr old son for a solid 2 years now. He hits, yells, and doesn’t listen to instructions even after multiple request. I have received advice from previous questions...

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Hitting plus tantrums

Posted 2 weeks ago

HI there, we've been intensively working with our now 4.5 year old boy who had many, many behavioural problems. He is now much more cooperative after sessions with a good parent coach. However,...

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"You May NOT Hit Mommy!"

Posted 3 weeks ago

My 18 month girl just started hitting me and laughing and scratching my face tonight when I was putting on her pajamas! She has never done this to me before, she tried to hit my husband once (a...

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Biting Self Out of Anger

Posted on 1/25/2019

My daughter is generally pretty even tempered. She is 4. She has her moments like any other child but overall minds and knows when she is right or wrong. Last night (for the second time) she got...

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Little Slugger

Posted on 12/4/2018

Not sure if you can see my previous questions but my daughter 22 months is still hitting. In fact it’s getting worse. She really only hits me, occasionally my husband. Last suggestion was to put...

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Longing for a peaceful home

Posted on 11/23/2018

What is your advice for a child who refuses to stay in their room? Up until recently we had been locking our daughter’s door when she had lost all her tickets on the ticket system. This last...

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6 year old's Target Misbehaviors must be concrete and specific

Posted on 10/29/2018

We have been doing the chart system for a week now with our 6 year old son targeting disrespect/defiance and disobedience. We started out with 8 squares a day. There have only been a few days when...

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Out of Control 7yr old

Posted on 10/27/2018

Hi, my husband and I would appreciate some advice on our situation with our 7 year old daughter. Her medication has become ineffective recently and we are at our wits end with what to do with...

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A Six Year old's School Struggles

Posted on 10/22/2018

Our 6 yo girl went to school this year and she faced three problems there: First, she doesn’t recognize teachers’ authority (although she has due respect to us parents). This problem is further...

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4 yo Kicking the Door in Timeout

Posted on 10/22/2018

I am having some behavioral issues with my very strong willed four year old daughter. She has become very sassy and disrespectful - sticking her tongue out at me, refusing to following...

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21 mo hitter

Posted on 10/16/2018

My 21 mon old has started hitting, I know this is common but I want her to stop and know it’s not ok. It is primarily me the mother anytime she gets frustrated, which is often. I feel it has...

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No Tolerance For Hitting

Posted on 10/11/2018

My grandson is the perfect student inside the classroom. However, when allowed outside to play, especially team sports such as basketball, he becomes very aggressive. He hits when something...

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Sibling Rivalry or Sibling Abuse?

Posted on 10/4/2018

Hello! We have two daughters (3.5 years and 14 months). Lately we have seen increased incidents where the youngest bites or hits the oldest or the oldest pushes the youngest away (our oldest...

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4 yro not listening

Posted on 9/11/2018

Good afternoon. I am still struggling with my 4 year old son. He has a lot of trouble listening to directions, no matter what consequences have been put in place. We've taken away privileges, put...

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4 yro hurting 1 yro brother

Posted on 9/8/2018

I have a 4 year old girl and 1 year old boy. The older child has hurt her little brother, and meant it. She pushed his head down onto his tray, and she pulled his foot out from under him, for...

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Preschooler Hitting at School

Posted on 9/7/2018

My son is 4 years old and started a new school. He attended this schools summer camp to get adjusted to a new place and the teacher prior o starting the school year. School has been in session...

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Book Trouble

Posted on 9/2/2018

My almost 4 year old tears books, as in the covers off or page(s) out of books. We have removed all books from his room. We have found that when we do find a book that is torn it is a result of...

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4 year old's hitting has gone on way too long

Posted on 8/29/2018

My son is 4 years old and does not listen to direction and hits at home and school ( mom, younger sister, school friends and teachers and occasionally dad). This behavior has been going on for at...

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Tantrums in 4 YO boy

Posted on 8/27/2018

I’ve read many of the tantrums questions - how to deal when the child is 4-5. My child is 4 and throws multiple tantrums with plenty of disrepect - and demands that he needs to pee, he’s scared,...

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Hitting needs to be Nipped in the Bud

Posted on 8/22/2018

My 4 year old daughter has begun hitting. At first, I had given time outs, but when the frequency started to increase over the last few weeks, I wanted to nip this in the bud. I set up a 7 day...

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Almost five year old and having anger issues

Posted on 8/21/2018

My son is almost 5. We just recently discovered this website and books and have had some luck with the charts (still only 2 weeks in, so success can’t quite be claimed yet)! While some behaviors...

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taking back authority over 7yo

Posted on 8/12/2018

I recently discovered Mr. Rosemond's books. My husband and I are now implementing his ideas with our 7 year old son who gets easily frustrated when he doesn't get his way, ignores our demands,...

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Aggressive Preschooler

Posted on 8/8/2018

My 3.5yr old son shows signs of aggression/not being able to control emotions/feeling when he doesn't get his way; it's mostly when I say the word 'No.' So this happens a lot. It is usually him...

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Overwhelmed Mom wants to take back her authority, but can't stop yelling

Posted on 8/7/2018

My son is extremely defiant and NOTHING we have tried thus far has made a difference. Spanking him has to be done several times over, and is always accompanied by screaming, blaming, back-talk,...

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Zero Tolerance for Unprovoked Assaults

Posted on 6/23/2018

My 7yo son has recently started shoving and aggressively tackling other kids when they’re playing games. He got tagged in tag, so he shoved the guy. The middle guy caught the ball in keep-away, so...

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15yro defiant, angry,

Posted on 6/19/2018

I have a 15 year old son who has extreme fits of rage when he doesn’t get his way, which is entitlement. When he is in a rage he throws and breaks my things, curses me violently and threatens...

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Teaching Time for Touchy 7 yo boy

Posted on 6/7/2018

my 7 year old son got in trouble at school for grabbing the private parts of another boy. Similar things have happened before and we've been working on a solution. For the last 3 months he had to...

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4 yo Aggressive to Dad

Posted on 5/30/2018

Last night, my son (4.5 years old) was brushing his teeth and proceeded to spit the toothpaste in my husband's/his father's face (and laugh). The day before, he spit on his phone, tried to run him...

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siblings fighting-4 and 7 yro

Posted on 5/19/2018

Hi there, My 7 year old girl and 4 year old boy have been fighting and fighting - and all of a sudden, its fighting ALL THE TIME. My husband and I went away for 10 days and left them with my...

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Angry 7 y/o

Posted on 5/15/2018

I am writing today about my middle daughter, 7 years old. She has been a high misbehavior since she was 5. She has been on your charts and we have removed her from the garden in the past as...

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4 year old has begun hitting Mom

Posted on 5/9/2018

My 4 year old son is a sweetheart, super affectionate and is constantly saying to everyone around them "I am proud of you" and "you're too cute" just to put into perspective his nature. My husband...

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Moms

Posted on 5/8/2018

Have custody of a now, 4 year old Grandson. Mom abandoned him at about 18 months old, moved to Florida to make porn. Returned after that didn't work for her. My husband and I refused to allow...

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7 yro needs to know who to listen to

Posted on 4/27/2018

Hi - we have a 9 year old boy who has special needs and 7 year old boy/girl twins. The boys get along well but our daughter is very jealous of her brothers. The main issue is she can be very mean,...

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6.5 yro needs to understand who is in control

Posted on 4/26/2018

My son who is 6.5 years old, has always had a competitive nature. From wanting to win in games, being first out the door, first in line...first, first, first, win, win, win...it's exhausting. I...

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What to do when a toddler hits answer

Posted on 4/4/2018

Hi there. I recently sent a question about what to do when toddlers hit. The response told me to refer to the website /book under that question, but I can’t find it anywhere when searched on my...

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13 year old Fighting in School

Posted on 3/26/2018

Our 13-year-old son is getting in trouble regularly at school, he is constantly arguing/fighting with a class mate he’s had problems with for 3 years. His classmate is very convert in his daily...

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Set the standard and hold them to it.

Posted on 3/18/2018

Hi there, Thank you for all the advice you have given me re: my out of control 3.5 yo son. He’s been kicked out of the garden for hitting mum - and successfully strung together 28 days of not...

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13 yo Not Responding to Effective Discipline

Posted on 2/12/2018

13 year old daughter seems to not care about anything at all. we have grounded her according to John's book, we have done "tickets", she is extremely moody, mean and nasty to family and calls her...

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Tickets or chart?

Posted on 1/30/2018

Our 3 (almost 4) year old son has 2 major misbehaviors: hitting (especially Mom and 5 year old sister) and completely refusing to do what he is told. I have cleaned out his room and he has spent 2...

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Out of control 4 yr. old

Posted on 1/28/2018

We have been using the chart system for our 4 year old son for 2 weeks. The 2 target misbehaviors are disobedience and tantrums. However, if he kicks us, hits us, threatens us, calls us names,...

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Pincher

Posted on 1/22/2018

My one year old has a new love for pinching. She looks me square in the eyes, pinches me, and grunts. Then she waits for a response. I’ve tried time out with pillow in between us calmly telling...

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Two year old boy hitting

Posted on 1/17/2018

Hi there. One of our 2 year old twin boys (they turned two on October 31st) has recently started showing more aggression when he pitches fits. In the past, he would throw himself to the floor,...

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Disobedient 4 YO

Posted on 1/17/2018

Our oldest continues to not listen when we instruct her to do something. She either does not do what we ask, complains that it is too hard, or screams. She is four. We typically reprimand by...

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3.5 year old boy hitting his mother

Posted on 1/16/2018

Hi there, thank you for your response on my previous question re: out of control 3.5 year old boy. We have now started to move him OUT of the centre of the family but it's not been easy. We...

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Angry daughter needs dose of reality.

Posted on 1/8/2018

Good day, we have tried lots of different things,this is the way she is now, alway angry, I dont know what to do except her bio dad to be with her now. What would be your recommendation for me, in...

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Parental Rights and Decisions

Posted on 1/8/2018

I had a big fight with my daughter, she snapped and started hitting me. My husband, who's her stepdad, was trying to stop her by grabbing her hands and pulling her away. I called the police...

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4 yro won't share

Posted on 1/5/2018

I host a few ladies and their kids at my house weekly. My four-year-old son (only child) usually starts off okay, but then loses his mind (yelling and telling the kids to leave) when they mess up...

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Pre-Schooler Stuck in Season 1

Posted on 1/1/2018

Hi there, i have a little 3.5 year old who is completely out of control. I admit we have let him run the house a little bit as he is a little spitfire and makes things unpleasant(ie screams as...

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