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To Retain or Not to Retain

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My daughter is in 3rd grade at a Christian private school. She has struggled since kindergarten to keep up, but we helped her along, with tutoring and occupational therapy to help her with the...

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Indulgent Grandparents

Posted 5 days ago

My 6 year old son has been spending more time with my parents without me present for special time. When I’m not there he has a level of indulgence that I think is probably common at grandparent’s...

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Be the Mean Mum!

Posted 6 days ago

My 8 year old son has came back from spending the weekend with his dad and dad's family. He said I’m a strict mean mum because his 8 year old cousin has an iPhone, TikTok and YouTube channel...

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10 year old and 8 year old participating in sibling rivalry

Posted 1 week ago

My son (age 10) and my daughter (age 8) argue and fight, but it is mostly my son who antagonizes his sister and she ends up telling on him to us. It happens ALL day long. I try to not take sides...

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7 year old boy not able to see his dad often.

Posted 1 week ago

Our grandson, age 7, sees his dad very little. The result of an affair, his wife refuses to let our son see this child. Our grandson knows he has a half brother and sister that get to see their...

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Teach your values or someone else will.

Posted 1 week ago

My daughter has been asking more specific questions regarding babies and how specifically they get into mom's bellies. Do you have any resources/tips in discussing sex with your 10 year old...

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6 year old boy won't wipe after using the bathroom

Posted 1 week ago

My 3 month shy of 7 year old boy won’t wipe when he goes to the bathroom which results in poop in his underwear. I’ve taught him how to wipe, but he says he doesn’t like it. I make him clean out...

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Reducing Stress in an 8yr old Boy

Posted on 3/17/2021

Hello again! My 8 year old son was diagnosed with tics at age 3. A major trigger to these tics is anxiety. Having anxiety myself it is no surprise I’ve raised an anxious kid. That coupled with the...

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New Approach Needed for Kindergartener

Posted on 3/10/2021

My six-year-old kindergartener has trouble sitting in his seat and paying attention in his school. His teacher reports that he will talk to himself under his breath during instruction time, get up...

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Goal: Handle Homework Independently

Posted on 3/4/2021

I know I’ve read in one of your books or perhaps somewhere on your website a suggestion for how elementary school age kids can practice spelling words on their own. At the time, I didn’t have a...

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Put and End to Nagging Over Chores

Posted on 3/4/2021

Would love some feedback on chores for my 6 and 8 year olds. Every Saturday they are expected to each clean their own mirror and sink in the bathroom, clean either the play room or their bedroom...

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Home/School Divide

Posted on 3/4/2021

We are in the early stages of implementing John's Discipline strategies. So far, I definitely see improvement in our children's behavior, respect of our authority and each other. We have four...

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Meltdowns, Scratches, and Wrestling Matches: Dealing With the Brothers 3

Posted on 3/1/2021

Over the past year, we have spent more time together as a family at home. While some of this has been good, we have also seen conflict between our oldest boys, ages 4 and 6, increase. Sometimes...

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Encouraging Resourcefulness

Posted on 2/26/2021

My husband thinks I need to provide more structure for our 2, 4 and 6 year old. This has risen out of increasing complaints about boredom, fighting between the kids and increasing misbehavior...

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How To Deal With Constant Complaining

Posted on 2/26/2021

I have seen a rise in grumbling, complaining, arguing (with each other and with us) from our older boys, ages 4 and 6. I submitted a separate question about the conflict between the boys, but...

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Agony Principle explained

Posted on 2/15/2021

My husband and I are so encouraged by the information we are reading in your book "The Well Disciplined Child". Could you elaborate on the Agony Principle in regards to confining our 7 year old...

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5th Grader Returning to Bad Habits

Posted on 2/8/2021

My son is in the 5th grade and hasn’t been completing any of his school work. We grounded him for a month. We took away everything away besides a few outfits and he was to stay in his room except...

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8 year old Caught Cheating (Again)

Posted on 1/31/2021

My 8 year old daughter was just caught cheating on a school assignment for the second time. The first time, she had filled in false numbers on her reading log to make it look like she had read...

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What's a Grandma to Do?

Posted on 1/31/2021

Hello. I raised my now 35-year-old son using John Rosemond’s methods, and he turned out great! Much to my dismay, however, he and his wife are not interested in raising their sons, 5 and 7, with...

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Foster Child Struggles With Sleep

Posted on 1/29/2021

I have a 6 yr old foster child who comes out of his bedroom 20-30 or more a night. He refuses to stay in his room. We have tried all kinds of consequences and nothing seems to work. He even laughs...

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Boys' Behavior is Ruining the Morning Routine

Posted on 1/28/2021

My boys are on the ticket system for disobedience and fighting. They have chores every morning after breakfast before we start homeschool and things are going off the rails so to speak with the...

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Flush it away

Posted on 1/27/2021

My 6 year old has been putting small poops down the bathroom sink drain and bathtub. This has just started as far as we know and usually occurs during his nighttime shower time which he does...

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10 yr old needs homework help and help being successful in a "zoom" classroom.

Posted on 1/25/2021

I read Dr Rosemonds book "The Well-Behaved Child" and have 2 questions regarding not helping kids with homework. Our now 10 yr old son was behind in school before covid hit. He barely made it past...

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It's All About Leadership and Love

Posted on 1/25/2021

Hello, we are over in the UK, back in full lock down, schools closed. I struggle with consistency, tiredness and forgetfulness. Even worse I feel humiliated and pathetic because I struggle with...

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Squirrel! - Follow up

Posted on 1/22/2021

Re: Squirrel Thank you for your helpful response to my earlier question about my easily distractible 6 year old. All good reminders. We have done all these things (admittedly probably not as...

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She's (M)Asking for Trouble

Posted on 1/21/2021

My 9 year old daughter called me dumb this morning because we had a disagreement about the way you put on a mask. I was very upset and blew up and lost it on her. She was right about the mask and...

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Squirrel!

Posted on 1/19/2021

I have a 6 year old who struggles to stay focused on ANY given task. It doesnt seem to be deliberate or naughty in nature, rather more like chasing a butterfly or a puppy chasing a squirrel. He...

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How much screen time for pre teen boy?

Posted on 1/17/2021

How long should a 11 1/5 year boy be allowed on electronics for pleasure a day.

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7-Year-Old Struggling in School

Posted on 1/15/2021

A good friend who I really respect recommended that I read your articles. I have really appreciated your advice and wanted to hear your perspective on our specific situation. Our son is 7 years...

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Getting Tough With 8-Year Olds Behaviors

Posted on 1/13/2021

Me again! I feel like I’m asking weekly questions during this season of parenting. I’ve written about my sneaky 8-year old and I just need some clarification. I’ve read The Well-Behaved Child and...

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The Bedtime Snack Dilemma

Posted on 1/9/2021

Hi! Lately my children (ages 5, 8, and 10) have started saying they’re hungry again an hour after dinner and right before bed. I’m certain it’s not a bedtime delay strategy because they still do...

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Pertaining to Private Parts and the Six-Year Old

Posted on 1/2/2021

My six year old son and next door neighbor (also six year old boy) are great playmates. Recently, they and their dads were outside playing. The dads were talking about the landscaping and noticed...

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8-Year-Old Needs Attitude Adjustment

Posted on 1/1/2021

I have an eight year old granddaughter who comes to visit me for spring break, Christmas break, and summer. She lives out of state and her mother likes John Rosemond's wisdom, so we work together....

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It's a nailbiter

Posted on 12/29/2020

My granddaughter is very nervous and bites fingernails and toenails until they bleed. Is there anything I can do to prevent this? Do you have any insight as to the cause?

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Eight year old does what she wants when grandma says "No"

Posted on 12/29/2020

I have an eight year old granddaughter who will ask if she can do something, or I tell her she can't do something and she turns right around nonchalantly and does it anyway. What can I do?

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Respect isn't Optional

Posted on 12/26/2020

Hello- I am so glad I subscribed to Parent Guru! I love reading all the questions/answers!! So I have a 9 year old son and unfortunately his father and I have divorced. I moved (with my son)...

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Panic and run

Posted on 12/22/2020

My 7 year old step son developed a fear of his younger siblings approaching him. After his appointment (he went with his mom at) about his chapped lips that have been bothering him for a while now...

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How We Can Help

Posted on 12/21/2020

Good afternoon, We have an adopted boy in our Christian School that has had trouble working in a classroom environment. He does not seem to have learning disabilities, but if lessons seem...

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8-Year-Old Needs a Wake-Up Call

Posted on 12/20/2020

My 8-year old daughter has been really struggling with the same few bad habits for months. For one, she almost never obeys or follows directions the first time she’s told. She’s not disrespectful,...

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Ways to help your child figure out friendships.

Posted on 12/16/2020

My now 9 years old daughter has a friend at school who was her "best friend" .But this girl blows hot and cold whenever this other girl Ava gets in the middle of them and pretty much takes away...

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Mealtime Mania

Posted on 12/10/2020

Our youngest daughter is ten years old. She will not sit at the dinner table without scowling, covering her ears or slamming her hand on the table because she thinks her father chews too loudly....

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Eight-year old Eccentricities

Posted on 12/10/2020

My 8 year old daughter periodically does strange and destructive things (for example she has chewed on her dresser, etched her initials into her bathroom faucet, drew on the wall). I’ve always...

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Difficult is Not Bad

Posted on 12/2/2020

I am homeschooling my Grandson, who is in first grade. He is a bright child, but not motivated for school. He has struggled with handwriting and anything which requires manual dexterity, or fine...

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"EAT!"

Posted on 11/25/2020

Our kids 6.5 yrs and 4.5 yrs used to watch the iPad with meals; we broke that habit by letting them color or read books, but we have to say ‘eat’ constantly for them to eat. The youngest stands...

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Creating Space

Posted on 11/14/2020

Hello. I have 5 children (8, 6.5, 5, 3 & 3). We have the 8 yr old in her own room, but the 6.5yr and 5 yr olds share one room and the twin 3 yr olds share another room. What type of advice do...

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It's Her Problem to Solve

Posted on 11/14/2020

My daughter is struggling in school since grade 2. She's in French immersion. She has failed three tests in a row so far because she didn't study for them.. Her teacher says that she seems to...

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Children's Currency

Posted on 11/14/2020

Any advice on what discipline system is best used for children in school most of the day? My two oldest (8 & 6.5 girls) could use more "ticketed days," but they are at school from 7:30 - 3:30...

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Ticket System and Consequences

Posted on 11/9/2020

Thank you so much for your response! It was extremely helpful. I was reading more on the ticket system and had a question about the consequence my son should receive when he loses a single ticket....

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This Girl Just Wants to Have Fun

Posted on 11/4/2020

My 8 year old daughter is struggling at school. She just wants to have fun and be creative mostly...Anyway she has failed two tests so far and now her teacher is asking me to sit down because she...

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