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Solitary confinement

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What do I do when I kick my kids (6, 5, and 4) out of the garden and the LIKE it!! All three of my girls are upstairs in their room laughing and jumping on their beds. I took their bed frames...

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Are expectations proper for dawdling son?

Posted 3 days ago

Our two children attend a Montessori school and are both still in primary classrooms. This is my son’s third year, and he will bridge to lower elementary at the end of the school year. My son was...

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An Anxious Third Grader, Follow up

Posted 3 days ago

I'm replying to "Anxious Third Grader" that Sarah Hamaker wrote in response to my initial question. Hello Sarah, Thank you so much for your thoughtful response! I really appreciate it. I...

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Time for a coach.

Posted 4 days ago

Dear John, our 7 yr old son has been masturbating since he was 2. In the beginning we told him he was only allowed to do that in his room, but then he started doing it in front of anyone including...

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9 YO Girl Resistant To Visits With Dad

Posted 6 days ago

I have a 9 year old daughter. Her mom and I split when she was 3-1/2 years old. We have a court ordered shared parenting plan. I have visitation 1 day/night each week and every other weekend...

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10-Year-Old Boy Must Own School Problem

Posted 1 week ago

My 10-year-old son is having increasing difficulties keeping focus in school. The teacher brought it to our attention about 3 months ago. He has always taken a little longer to get homework and...

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An Anxious Third Grader

Posted 1 week ago

My nine-year-old son is experiencing anxiety and anger. My husband and I follow a traditional style of parenting and we are firm, have high standards for behavior, and are very loving. I believe...

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6YO Seeking Control

Posted 2 weeks ago

My son is 6 years old and is for the most part obedient, respectful and considerate. He is in kindergarten and I homeschool him. Over the past few weeks I've noticed a new pattern of, let's call...

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Parenting tug-o-war.

Posted 2 weeks ago

Follow up to last question... We had our ten year old fifth grader on restriction for six weeks. For us, restriction means no electronics, no sleepovers, no dirt bike, etc. In this time we saw...

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7 yo Bathroom Accidents

Posted 3 weeks ago

I'm looking for advice on what to do with my nearly 7 year old daughter who is still having daily pee and poo accidents and nightly bed-wetting. She has been checked out by a pediatrician and a...

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9 yo Chart Questions

Posted 3 weeks ago

I'm planning to use a weekly chart with my 9yo son. One of the target behaviors is "Refusing to do what your parents tell you to". So if I ask him to empty the dishwasher and he says he doesn't...

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Alternatives to ADD testing

Posted 3 weeks ago

My daughter is six and in the first grade. She will not turn seven until June. Thus far, we have had two teacher/parent conferences. The first conference in the fall, the teacher said she didn't...

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TWBC Charts

Posted 3 weeks ago

In the "Well-Behaved Child" book there is a caution with the Weekly Charts that very HM may be better to start with Daily Charts. I'm wondering if I start with Weekly Charts and find that my 9yo...

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9YO Won't Stay In Room

Posted 3 weeks ago

I've read "The Well-Behaved Child" and am starting to use some of the tools with my HM 9yo son. My problem is that when my son is sent to his bedroom for the day as a consequence he often comes...

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Mom was right to override tickets

Posted on 1/24/2018

HI there, Thank you for your prompt responses on my questions including taking back control and being a parent-centred family. The children have misbehaved so much (during the holidays) that I...

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Dismissed from kindergarten

Posted on 1/22/2018

My six year old son is being expelled from his Catholic kindergarten. He says another child told him to ask a girl if a grown up ever touched her privates. She went home told her mother. He was...

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Siblings are Both to Blame for Fighting

Posted on 1/20/2018

Our 13-year-old, soon to be 14-year-old, son teases his 9-year-old sister to no end. It causes our family a lot of strife. He teases her, she yells, lashes out, and then cries. I usually punish...

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How to Create a Parent-Centered Home with Young Children

Posted on 1/19/2018

I'm needing clarification on what it means to be a parent-centred home, rather than a child-centred home when we have youngish child of 3.5 and 6.5. Could you direct me to resources for guidance...

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Expelled from K5?

Posted on 1/17/2018

My now six year old son is again suspended from kindergarten. This time for saying bathroom words in class thinking it was funny.. They were not amused. We are waiting to see if he will be...

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6 YO Morning Monster

Posted on 1/4/2018

How can I decrease the morning whining? My 6 year old is a monster to get ready. She wont wake up, doesn't like to get dressed, wont eat her breakfast, etc. Everything we ask her to do is...

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Revisiting Sleeping Dilemma with 9 Year Old

Posted on 12/21/2017

Hi. Can I use the ticket system for a 9yr old boy who won't sleep in his own bed? And can you tell me how the ticket system works? Thank You

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4.5 year old reluctant about dance class

Posted on 12/10/2017

My daughter is 4.5 years old and has been taking dance lessons for about 3 months (once a week for an hour). So far, she's loved it and always looks forward to the next class. She has never said...

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Choosing Good Friends

Posted on 12/7/2017

Our 8 year old son is overall a good kid, but he has a good friend that brings out bad behavior when they're together. Our son recognizes that his friend can be a bad influence at times, and at...

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Changing up the Chart System

Posted on 12/4/2017

We do the Strike System with our 9 and 7 year olds and it is working pretty well. However, there is still a big, stressful issue when it comes to us telling the 9 year old to clean up her room or...

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Ramifications of saying "no" to school santa activity.

Posted on 11/29/2017

Dear Parent Guru, I received the below e-mail this afternoon from my daughter's teacher and was hoping to obtain your thoughts on the matter. Last year the same teacher started the secret...

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Daily Report

Posted on 11/12/2017

Our 9 year old son has been doing a daily report with his teacher for most of the school year. Last week my husband and I went on a week trip and the kids stayed at our home with their...

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8 Year Old Disruptive in Time Out

Posted on 11/10/2017

We have nearly 8-year-old boy/girl twins, a 3-year-old daughter, and a new baby girl due any day now. We started daily charts with our twins recently and are having some big struggles with our...

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The Homework Conundrum

Posted on 11/7/2017

I am completely on board with John's homework recommendations, but I have some struggles that have only intensified since Kindergarten. In my opinion, teachers are consistently asking the kids to...

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Create Daily Reports with Meaningful Consequences

Posted on 11/7/2017

My 10-year-old son, who is in fifth grade, is having some trouble at school. At this parent-teacher conference, his teacher expressed he is too talkative, rushing his work, and has poor...

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Potty Time is No Party

Posted on 11/6/2017

HI there - I have another question about my 6 year old - she has been allowed to develop some sloppy hygeine habits. Perhaps this is my fault for not supervising properly. Following on from not...

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Sugar Junkie needs Intervention

Posted on 10/30/2017

My husband and I believe our daughter is addicted to sugar. We do keep limited amounts of cookies and chocolate in our house, and generally eat some dark chocolate after dinner. But, our daughter...

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Follow-up for sugar junkie

Posted on 10/30/2017

Just extra information about my daughter - she's nine-years-old. Our neighbors are very good friends and she feels at home in their house. I don't think she goes to other people's houses and digs...

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9 yo and 7 yo Sibling Conflict

Posted on 10/29/2017

I have 3 kids. Twins, girl & boy - 9 and youngest girl is 7. They enjoy each others company, playing together well. But they get into conflict pretty much daily over small issues. My twins often...

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Overwhelmed Mom

Posted on 10/27/2017

Hi, I am a homeschooling mother of three girls ages 9, 7 and 3. I frequently feel so exhausted around my kids. I KNOW there is a better way, and I keep trying to get there... but I never quite...

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Stay the Course with 9 yo's School Issues

Posted on 10/23/2017

We are concerned about our 9 year old son (3rd grade), who is having problems doing work, staying on task (wonders around the room bothering classmates) and blurting out answers for the other kids...

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6 yr old girl needs to do better on chores

Posted on 10/20/2017

My 6 year old has school all day from 8:30-3:00pm, homework, piano practices and chores. She complains the most about her chores (she tidies up her room, unpacks and washes her lunch boxes) after...

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More two home problems

Posted on 10/19/2017

I have 8 & 10 year old stepsons and a 3 month old. When the baby was first born, the kids stayed with their mother for about a month before slowly resuming split custody. Before they returned to...

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3 year old boy should keep his lovie

Posted on 10/15/2017

I have read "The Well Behaved Child" and I have been implementing the ticket system for three days with my three year old son. Today he lost all of his tickets after a complete melt-down at...

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Ten Year Old With Anxiety

Posted on 10/12/2017

Hello! My daughter is 10 years old. She has quite a bit of anxiety (inherited I believe). Recently, she has been confronted with the task of working on a project with another, very difficult...

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Bedtime Horseplay

Posted on 10/4/2017

I have twin 9 year olds and a 6 year old girl that share a bed room. A few years ago when the 6 year old had her own room she pretty much went to bed as told with the exception of getting up a few...

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Follow-Up to Fighting Siblings

Posted on 10/2/2017

Thank you for your response to my first question. I have a follow up question, just to make sure we are striking a healthy balance of discipline. I'm pretty sure I have read 2 or 3 variations of...

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11 yr old lost all her blocks on chart!!!

Posted on 10/1/2017

My wife and I have an 11 year old and 9 year old daughter. We kicked our 9 year old out of the garden several weeks ago for school and home behavior issues. Our 11 year was put on weekly charts...

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6-Block Chart Program

Posted on 9/29/2017

My son is 9 1/2. Over the last few months we have implemented the daily 6 block chart program after reading The Well Behaved Child in response to the defiance and attitude we had been seeing...

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Regaining Authority

Posted on 9/28/2017

We moved back home while my husband is deployed and now I am having isses with my 7yo daughter. This is not the first time he's had to leave but when he does I feel like I am not taken seriously....

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First Time Offender

Posted on 9/28/2017

Received a call from my 5th graders school today he and another boy were making and folded paper craft (ninja star) at lunch. My son turned it into an inappropriate conversation about a private...

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10 yo and 8 yo Sibling Conflict

Posted on 9/23/2017

We have two boys (10 and 8). Our older son is generally passive and doesn't start problems, and the younger one is constantly doing whatever he can to annoy and cause problems, and it usually ends...

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Breaking a Bed Time Habit

Posted on 9/21/2017

Hi, my 9yr son will not sleep alone. I let him sleep with us but now I don't know how to break the habit. During day he is very independent, strong willed kid but at night he cries and throws a...

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When a Sibling Interferes With a Consequence

Posted on 9/21/2017

Our 6 year old son threw a huge tantrum after school in front of a lot of people, thus enforcing a consequence of all his toys being taken away as well as early bedtime. Our dilemma in following...

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6 year old boy with an attitude

Posted on 9/20/2017

We are having a hard time with our almost 6 year old son. This summer we started him on tickets for whining and not listening. Quickly the focus became on not listening only. It worked for a while...

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Calm Down Please!

Posted on 9/12/2017

My daughter is now 8 1/2 - through the years I have written to you about her personality - last year she was diagnosed with Dyslexia - which has explained where the low self esteem has come from....

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