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Withholding Birthday From 7 Year Old

Posted yesterday

Hi, My 7 year old daughter has a perfect word that describes her actions towards her home school and chores, and that word is lollygag. I have frustrations with this and have for awhile. I had to...

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How to Encourage Dyslexic Child

Posted 1 week ago

Hello, My child is in second grade and is severely dyslexic. She has an IEP and also receives specific dyslexia tutoring outside of school. Her classroom teacher is very strict and she is...

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Six year old needs a leader.

Posted 1 week ago

My son just turned 6 and started Kindergarten at a really great private school that has high expectations for kind behavior. His behavior in the classroom is very good, but he's having a bit of...

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7 yo "won't" go to sleep without parents in bed

Posted 1 week ago

My 7-year old (almost 8) will not sleep without mom or dad laying with her until she is asleep. She says she is afraid she will not be able to go to sleep. If we stay with her until she is asleep,...

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Normal Sexual Behaviors for 6 YO

Posted 1 week ago

I have seen by 6, almost 7 year old daughter touching herself several times when i have walked in her room. Is this normal for sucha young age?

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Strong willed v. needing leadership.

Posted 1 week ago

I'm a single mother of a strong-willed 6 years old daughter. Her Dad hasn't been around much. We divorced when my daughter was almost 2 yrs because of substance abuse. Recently, the paternal...

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Never feed fear.

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hi there. My 10 year old son is very fearful of thunderstorms. He panics before they happen and is a mess when a bad one is going on. He loses a lot of sleep during a storm. Any thoughts?

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11 m, 3.5 and 7yrs Road-trip Remedies

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hello! We have three usually well behaved children who were all raised on the Parenting By the Book philosophy. They sleep in their own beds, do normal age appropriate chores, have normal sibling...

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4 year old's hitting has gone on way too long

Posted 3 weeks ago

My son is 4 years old and does not listen to direction and hits at home and school ( mom, younger sister, school friends and teachers and occasionally dad). This behavior has been going on for at...

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18m & 6 yrs Daughters Dealing with Dad's Death

Posted 3 weeks ago

Does John have any writings on children dealing with the death of a parent? My 37yo husband suffered a heart attack and passed away while we were on a family vacation last month (totally...

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NIGHTTIME=NICETIME for spouses who enforce a child's bedtime

Posted 3 weeks ago

We have a 9 yo girl and 7 yo boy. Bedtime is usually supposed to be at 8pm. In the last several months, both of them, though mainly our daughter, has slowly pushed that back to 9, sometimes 10pm,...

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Parent anxiety can be contagious to 8 yo

Posted 4 weeks ago

Our 8-year-old son is headed back to school tomorrow, and we just got word that one of his favorite elementary teachers has been arrested for third-degree sexual abuse. We believe in the “Tell him...

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Thoughts on ADHD and Discipline

Posted on 8/19/2018

Where can I find John's thoughts on disciplining children with ADHD? I remember reading in one of his books that they can learn how to behave with the same disciplinary methods used with "normal"...

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6 yo Throwing Wits Ending Tantrums

Posted on 8/17/2018

I am at my wit’s end. My 6 year old is making life miserable for our household. She is very strong willed and gets very angry easily. At school she gets certificates for her “model behavior”....

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Lights out! on Agonizing, Nagging & Hovering

Posted on 8/13/2018

After reading one of John's books recently, it's been like a light bulb coming on for me. A very bright, harsh light bulb... There are so many ways I have been failing. I've been implementing...

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Screen time is all up to you!

Posted on 8/13/2018

I am at my wits end with screen time and Fort Night. I try and stay by a limited number of minutes and it’s never enough and always ends up in a huge battle . I give him an hour he takes five...

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taking back authority over 7yo

Posted on 8/12/2018

I recently discovered Mr. Rosemond's books. My husband and I are now implementing his ideas with our 7 year old son who gets easily frustrated when he doesn't get his way, ignores our demands,...

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What to Tackle First?

Posted on 8/9/2018

I am a recovering-yeller, and do not even have a 30-day chip under my belt. I have always been quick to anger and highly impulsive in my parenting "technique'. My son (9) is one of those...

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Address manners with 9 year old one at a time

Posted on 8/8/2018

I'm hoping for a response from Katherine Saltzberg, as I am referencing her response titled "5 year old table manners". In your response, you state that each bad habit needs to be tackled one...

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Separate ticket systems for two children?

Posted on 8/4/2018

Question regarding the ticket system. I have a 7 (boy) and 9 (girl) year old. Do I use 2 separate ticket systems, one for each? Or do I use one system for the both of them (they share 5 tickets)...

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Scary storyteller at six

Posted on 8/3/2018

Our 6 yo girl we adopted two years ago loves to have a lot of drama in her games: the dolls and other toys tend to be crying, to be in danger (drowning, being kidnapped by a stranger or by a...

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When does a parent need to intervene with siblings?

Posted on 8/1/2018

I regularly read your newsletter and have read several of your books. I've heard you discuss the importance of kids being responsible for keeping the family peace and using a ticket type system to...

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Nip Out-of-Control Behavior in the Bud

Posted on 7/31/2018

How do I apply John Rosemond's recommendations with three completely out-of-control boys (ages 5, 7, 9)? They don't follow any of the rules, regard all property in the house as their own (tools,...

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Fears of 6 yo Becomes Family Drama

Posted on 7/26/2018

My 6 year old daughter is going through a period of fear after seeing what she deemed a scary part in a movie (this was a Disney movie but she seems to be extremely sensitive and at times seems to...

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Daughter Not Eating Packed Lunch

Posted on 7/19/2018

Hello, I have a follow up question to my last. My daughters teacher keeps informing me daily that my daughter “ didn’t like her lunch” (which is everyday now for a few weeks). I did learn a few...

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9 YO Daughter In Need Of Wake Up Call

Posted on 7/14/2018

My 9 year old daughter is defiant and refuses to go to her room when disciplined. She is too big and strong for me to carry her and she won’t stay even if I manage to get her there. She feels...

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Picky Eater Solution...Stay the Course!

Posted on 7/13/2018

Hello, I have a question about my 7 year old daughter who likes to go through phases of being extremely picky with her food. Majority of the time she eats what is put in front of her even...

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Grow a Man by Growing Flowers

Posted on 7/8/2018

Hi. After being at a 4 hour playdate, my 10 yr old still makes me feel bad for not playing with him when he gets home. How do I handle a 10 yr old boy who needs to be entertained constantly? Is it...

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How to effectively delay consequences for 5,6 yros

Posted on 7/7/2018

I’m struggling to understand how to enact delayed consequences as described in The “Nipping” Principle and could use some suggestions. It’s easy enough to do while on errands as both my 5 and...

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Preparing children for Grandma's death

Posted on 7/1/2018

We have a 2.5 year old and a 5.5 year old; also have a niece and nephew that are 7 and 11 years old. My mother is dying of a terminal cancer and is now on hospice. We have been slowly telling the...

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6 yo Don't Fall for the Drama

Posted on 6/28/2018

When my 6yr old son gets really upset with himself, he has started saying “I hate myself and I wish I was never born.” My son is the middle child of four who is always in trouble. We use the...

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Address marriage issues first.

Posted on 6/27/2018

My husband is a soldier who suffers from PTSD and probably TBI from his time in Combat. He is getting worse and has always refused to get help. When our kids were little they didn’t understand a...

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Managing One-on-One Time

Posted on 6/27/2018

My 4 children are 6, 4, 2, and 6 months. I am kept pretty busy during the day with just feeding and naps and taking care of the house. My children ask for me to play with them often, or to spend...

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Zero Tolerance for Unprovoked Assaults

Posted on 6/23/2018

My 7yo son has recently started shoving and aggressively tackling other kids when they’re playing games. He got tagged in tag, so he shoved the guy. The middle guy caught the ball in keep-away, so...

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When a Child's Frustration Spills Over

Posted on 6/23/2018

My 7yo son was doing a worksheet at school and made a mistake that he could still see after trying to erase it, so he asked for another worksheet. Since there was a substitute teacher, and there...

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9 year old boy needs mom to say it one time!

Posted on 6/21/2018

I sure appreciated the response from Katherine Saltzberg (Leadership is Always Plan A) to my question. Can Katherine or someone else please read my initial question and then expand on her comment...

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6yro pouts

Posted on 6/18/2018

My 6 year old son is generally well-behaved. He does have one behavior that I‘m at a lost to correct. He pouts when he is disciplined – by pouting I mean the skin around his eyes turns red, he...

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Leadership is always Plan A!

Posted on 6/15/2018

For the past couple of years, my husband and I have been using "charts" with our two kids, now ages 7 (girl) and 9 (boy). The charts were used primarily for when the kids "forgot" to do their...

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Early Riser

Posted on 6/14/2018

We are, and have been, dealing with a host of behavior issues with our "strong willed" 6-year-old daughter (who, by the way, is apparently an angel and wonderful role model in school). One of the...

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Is whining too general to list as a Target Misbehavior?

Posted on 6/13/2018

Can you put whining on a ticket system as a target behavior or does it need to be more specific?

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5 year old in boring bedroom is enough

Posted on 6/13/2018

I've recently read "The Well-Behaved Child" and have decided to implement the ticket system with both my 5 and 6 yo. I was doing a watered down version of this system already with what I called...

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Attention-Seeking Behavior Disguised as Lack of Confidence

Posted on 6/12/2018

My 8 yr old son is hard on himself and can be quite stubborn. It's a crazy mix of attributes that my husband and I are having a hard time navigating. If he misses 1 spelling word, he shuts...

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Teaching Time for Touchy 7 yo boy

Posted on 6/7/2018

my 7 year old son got in trouble at school for grabbing the private parts of another boy. Similar things have happened before and we've been working on a solution. For the last 3 months he had to...

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6 year Old Fibs

Posted on 6/5/2018

We are concerned about lying in our six year old son. For example, if asked to do something and he doesn't do it, his reply will often be, "I didn't hear you". He likes to tease his little 3...

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When to Use the Chair of Wisdom

Posted on 6/4/2018

We have our 6 block daily charts set up for our 9 year old son. Since he is constantly defiant we decided that it is more than enough to just target disobedience as his one target misbehavior. A...

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Implementing the principles of leadership parenting.

Posted on 6/3/2018

We have 2 boys, ages 9 and 11. Our youngest is disrespectful, disobedient, uses unkind words with his older sibling and throws tantrums/damaging things in our home. His disobedience is constant....

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Tummy Issues

Posted on 6/3/2018

Hello, I'm looking for advice on what to say to my daughter when she she asks me if she's fat. She is 8, and not fat at all. She is tall for her age and has a healthy athletic body as she...

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Co-bedding with grandparents.

Posted on 5/30/2018

My parents are coming in one week. They didn’t see their grandchildren quite long time. And their visit will continue couple weeks. During their visit my son(6 years old) would stay in his...

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6 year old likes shaking hands

Posted on 5/27/2018

Continuing on concerning twin boys. One boy tends to shake hands over and over. Should we gently ask him to stop? It’s happened more when he’s excited about something he’s watching or waiting for....

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Prepping a 6 y/o for Surgery

Posted on 5/25/2018

What would be the best way to prepare a 6 year old boy for an upcoming surgery? Do I let him know about it a few days in advance? Tell him the morning of? He is a worrier, so I'm not sure how...

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