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Managing Daytime Wetting in Children

Posted 1 week ago

My 7-year-old daughter has recently started having daytime accidents where her pants are slightly wet—not full accidents, just a little damp. This only happens during the day; she doesn’t wet the...

Create opportunities for personal responsibility.

Posted 1 week ago

Hello, my daughter is 8 years old and was diagnosed with being on the autistic spectrum this summer. She’s very mean to her younger sister, 6. She gets angry at the slightest thing. Almost always...

8 YEAR OLD SLOB

Posted 1 month ago

My 9 year old daughter is a slob. She leaves cabinets open, clothes all over the floor, toys everywhere, items from the fridge on the counter, etc. She is otherwise a pleasant and obedient,...

Time for a visit from a coach

Posted on 11/5/2024

I am a single mom of 4. My childrens ears have officially stopped working and it's as if I'm not giving any instructions at all. The youngest (1.5) is now picking up on some bad behaviors. How do...

10 yr old with a Guilty Conscience

Posted on 10/23/2024

My 10-year-old son is apologizing profusely. If we correct him, he tends to say "I'm sorry" many times, even after we acknowledged the apology. I told him that I will acknowledge the first...

Mass Confusion Has Taken Over!

Posted on 9/27/2024

I need a reset with our boys, ages 11, 9, 6 & 5. After a season of intense caring for our baby and 2-year-old daughter, things have become a disaster. The top misbehaviors in the house are...

KIDS DON'T DO THEIR CHORES

Posted on 9/11/2024

Hi My question relates to chores and tasks and how to handle matters when they are not completed. We have x3 kids (8, 7, 5) who each have 3 chores each to do daily. Regarding chores; many...

Look Out Boss, Here Comes the Baby!

Posted on 9/6/2024

I have a 6-year-old daughter and a 3-year-old son. My daughter is the typical first child who is bossy, little mama and directs her brother frequently on what to do, not to do etc. She’s a...

Time to Put a Stop to 9 YO Whiner

Posted on 8/31/2024

Hello, my 9 year old son tends to whine a lot. Asking him to grab something for me has him stomping, fussing and dragging his feet. When asking him to come review his schoolwork or play a game...

TELL NEW TEACHER ABOUT PREVIOUS PROBLEMS?

Posted on 8/30/2024

Our 9 yrs old son was diagnosed a few years ago with ADHD. Mainly challenge to focus and lots of energy. We've read John's book, The Diseasing of America's Children, and have implemented many...

Is Age 8 Too Young to Do Homework Independently?

Posted on 8/26/2024

Hello. We have a just-turned 8 year old son who gets easily distracted. We have met with his teachers to rule out ADHD. My simple question is this: is 8 years old too young to hold them to a...

7 YOU SNEAKS FOOD

Posted on 8/23/2024

Adopted a girl out of foster care, two years ago. We did a garden-kick recently for a legion of problems. She is 7.5 YO and is well-fed in the daytime. She sneaks food at night. Last night she...

Should 8YO Be Allowed to Quit Soccer?

Posted on 8/22/2024

My 8 year old daughter wanted to sign up for her fourth year of soccer so we did so. After a handful of practices and a game she wants to quit. She says she hates everything about it and hates...

A New Beginning!

Posted on 8/22/2024

My daughter is 8 (only child) and we have come to realize we have created a child centered household. We want to start changing our parenting and realize some obstinance may come with this new...

Mom Concerned About Neighborhood Playtime Discord

Posted on 8/18/2024

I have four children in elementary school. They play with a neighborhood boy that is a few years older—so the neighbor boy is the oldest. I don’t get involved with their play, but I do...

Teaching Respect

Posted on 8/18/2024

My child lost all her tickets yesterday and then spent the remainder of the day in her room. I removed all the toys but I did leave several books. Today I found out that she had ripped the front...

10 & 12 year old brothers, "highly sensitive" and "strong willed"

Posted on 8/17/2024

I am on board with all the traditional discipline "like grandma did it." We have 5 children ranging in age now 24 down to 10. The 10-year-old son has all the signs of being what I understand to be...

Raising a Good Sport

Posted on 8/8/2024

How do I help my 8-year-old cope with losing?

SON DISRESPECTING MOTHER FOLLOWING DIVORCE

Posted on 7/29/2024

I am a single mother since 3 years. His father did not visit our soon to be 10 year old after the separation. Our son started to become aggressive and disrespectful towards me. I arranged the...

TWIN 7 YOS RUNNING THE HOUSE

Posted on 7/24/2024

My twins are 7yo b/g and when they aren't bickering with each other, they're making the rest of family life miserable by attempting to boss their 12yo sister sister around, or us, or otherwise...

BOYS WILL BE BOYS AND BOYS ARE WEIRD

Posted on 7/15/2024

We have a 7, 2 and 2 month old. All boys. Sometimes my 7 year old likes to shake his butt (or front side) in our 2 year olds' face. Usually while changing or rough housing. The boys share a room...

7 YO TAUNTS 2 YO

Posted on 7/15/2024

Our 7-year-old son is home for summer with our 2-year-old and 2-month-old. I've noticed him acting manipulative and greedy. For example, when the two-year-old gets up from his nap he will tell him...

CHILDREN HATE READING OUT LOUD TO THEIR PARENTS, AND I DON'T BLAME THEM

Posted on 7/15/2024

We have 3 boys, ages 7, 2 and 2 months. Our 7-year-old son has shown patterns of lying and gaslighting. It's very concerning. For example, he was reluctantly reading out loud at bedtime while his...

Troublemaking Siblings

Posted on 7/12/2024

Our two youngest children, when together, are troublemakers. They are 6 and 7, but when they are together they revert to large babies—don’t do their chores, lay around, giggle, tickling,...

Leadership is an antidote for emotionality

Posted on 7/11/2024

Our daughter, whom we have asked about before, is lying more often about small & big things, however we have noticed she pulls away from us and will hardly talk to us or open up. Whenever we...

Call the "Doctor" for Damsel in Distress

Posted on 7/7/2024

Our 7 yo daughter will act like a damsel in distress—getting fake hurt or acting like she can’t do something. My husband and I ignore it, or nonchalantly guide her to her room to ‘rest’. It has...

Time for a New Approach with 6YO

Posted on 7/6/2024

My son turns 6 next month and has hit a stage where if I use alpha speech and he doesn’t like what we’re doing, he follows me around whining or trying to convince me otherwise. If I tell him to go...

No fair rules and personal responsibility

Posted on 7/5/2024

My 10-year-old daughter is insolent and disobedient at home, especially towards my husband, her stepfather for the past year ("you're not my father"). She doesn't like the new rules that have been...

Recognizing the Value of Childhood Chores

Posted on 7/5/2024

Hi there! I am wanting to know what chores I should expect from my three daughters, 3.5yo twins and 6.5yo. They help out here and there, but Dad and I are tired of doing all the clean up and no...

GRANDMA EINSTEIN

Posted on 7/4/2024

Our children are in the ages of 5-10. Their grandmother (my mother-in-law) is employed by the school system, and acts like an expert in children’s health and mental health, although with no formal...

It's Always Something

Posted on 6/21/2024

Good day. My son (7.5) has come a long way on many behavioral issues. One infuriating thing we are still having trouble with is his tendency to break things. I get the impulse to "test"...

How to Build and Maintain Friendships

Posted on 6/15/2024

Hello, how do I help my 7-year-old daughter maintain good friendships? She is homeschooled, so our main source of friends is in church or our homeschool co-op. She is pretty outgoing, but I’ve...

Posted on 5/27/2024

Our son 10 yrs. began pulling his hair out 6 months ago. Simultaneously began w/ sadness/crying spells. Later became aggression/violence. Bloodwork revealed several nutrition deficiencies. After...

Swim Team Dilemma for 6YO

Posted on 5/18/2024

My 6 year old son is refusing to participate in swim team, because he says it’s hard and I want to quit. In the past we’ve allowed him to quit activities, and he was told he would do swim team and...

Normal to explore

Posted on 5/18/2024

In the past couple of days I’ve noticed my 6 year old daughter playing with her nipple, or sometimes it’s her belly button. When I see it I usually tell her to stop. Should I be concerned or...

Moody Blues

Posted on 4/27/2024

Our 10-year-old son has started having huge mood swings. He gets easily angry, grumpy, and irritable. What is the best way to handle mood swings? We provide consequences for misbehavior, but how...

Time to get their attention

Posted on 4/20/2024

Hi I wrote in 10 days ago and never heard back. We’re struggling with bedtime. We have 2 girls, ages 5 and 3. We moved them into the same bedroom about a month ago. We read another response to...

Micro Mom-Ager Neighbor

Posted on 3/30/2024

We live on a street where there are a lot of kids. My boys, 9 and 11 years old, are outside all the time playing and my house tends to be the place where all the kids play. If my kids or other...

The Grass Really Isn’t Greener on the Other Side

Posted on 3/25/2024

My 10-year-old daughter seems always to think the grass is greener somewhere else. For example, we homeschool, which she enjoys, but often expresses her wish to return to regular school, and when...

Legal questions need legal answers

Posted on 3/20/2024

Our almost 7 year old son was caught fingering a 5 year old boy cousin in the butt. Our son said they both were doing this with each other and smelling their finger. Our son deeply regrets the...

Not Listening the First Time

Posted on 3/20/2024

We believe in the necessity of our children obeying the first time they are told-without challenge, delay or excuse. However, we also wish to walk the tightrope of a loving, nourishing home,...

Ask Me No Questions and I’ll Tell You No Lies

Posted on 3/8/2024

Lately, I’ve noticed my 6-year-old daughter telling lies. One day she was playing with her baby sister, and I suddenly heard the baby cry like she was in pain, so I figured she hurt herself in...

Time to Show you Mean Business

Posted on 3/7/2024

Hi! Today, after telling my 9 year old son no, he could not take Pokemon cards to school, he snuck them in his backpack and took them anyway. The teacher called me. She also told me he brought a...

Bluey Blues

Posted on 3/3/2024

I've discovered the Australian kids' show, Bluey. My 7-year-old boy knows about it and has seen some episodes. I'm skeptical of all things aimed at children. I've probably watched 8-10 episodes...

Choices for Children?

Posted on 2/28/2024

Hello, listening to John's podcast. Great stuff. When is it permissible to allow a child a choice? I understand John speaks against 'democratic' parenting but would be good to hear a podcast...

Fill His Glass

Posted on 2/23/2024

My 9-year-old son is very negative lately. He seems focused on the "bad" parts of the world. He is worried and frustrated about big problems in the world like destroying the environment, for...

Require Independent Play

Posted on 2/17/2024

We are trying to promote our kids to be more independent with regards to their play. They are all boys ages 9, 7 and 5. They can play independently, but still want me to play with them and often...

Teaching Manners to a Five-Year-Old

Posted on 2/7/2024

During a recent visit to a private school we are considering sending our daughter to, I found it difficult to have a conversation with the school staff due to my daughter's constant whining and...

Fostering Responsible Decision Making

Posted on 2/3/2024

Our 11 y/o son is in 5th grade at a private Christian school and we pay for him to have weekly trumpet lessons. He doesn't really practice though. I told him that if he wants to keep having mom...

Figure out how to not take it personally.

Posted on 1/29/2024

Hi, we have 4 children. Our oldest is 9 and adopted through foster care. Has been with us since a baby. She has had intermittent food issues like eating until she throws up as a toddler, but that...

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