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Parenting differences after divorce.

Posted 1 week ago

I’m sad to hear my son has come from his Dads house talking about black magic, spirits, ghosts and watching the Simpsons movie. He is 7 and his innocence is being taken away and these things are...

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Answered previously

Posted 1 week ago

Sorry I forgot to add to the previous message, how do I help my son with these mixed messages and how do I also deal with behaviour and boundaries when he comes back from his Dad? He comes back...

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Dealing with 6-Year-Old's Backtalk and Lies

Posted 1 week ago

My husband and I are taking custody of a six year old little boy (no relation to us) who has been abandoned by his meth addicted mother, and his father whom he's never met is in prison for...

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Sibling Warfare

Posted 2 weeks ago

My 6 year old son is bullying and hitting his 4 year old brother behind my back and telling him not to tell and lying about it to me. The 4 year old is acting out in daycare, already being kicked...

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8 Year-Old's Anxiety Impacting Everyone's Sleep

Posted 3 weeks ago

My 8 year old has become anxious and it is impacting sleep. The anxiety appeared as school was approaching with precautions for covid and we prepared to sell our house. After a few nights of...

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Normal Kindergarten Boy

Posted on 9/21/2020

Our 5-year-old is struggling in kindergarten because of behavior. He runs around the classroom instead of staying in his seat, refuses to stay quiet (shouts) when the teacher is teaching and...

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Homeschool help for sick mom of 7-yo boy

Posted on 9/19/2020

I am a single parent with a 7 year old and 1 year old. I plan to relocate back to our home town once I buy a house, hopefully by Christmas unless covid and other unexpected issues arise that delay...

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Unwell Mom Struggles with Screen Time Abuse

Posted on 9/19/2020

I am really unwell at the moment and my son is being kept home from school, I also have a 1 year old. I am trying to look after both while I get through this illness. Discipline has slided and...

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Disrespectful 8-Year-Old

Posted on 9/19/2020

We have noticed more ungrateful and entitled behavior in my 8 year old son recently. During a trip to the zoo, he became upset and was rude and disrespectful when I would not buy him food and ice...

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It's my room

Posted on 9/10/2020

My 6 year old won’t allow her 3yr old brother in her room, especially if we are working on her homework. Unfortunately, there are times that I’m home alone and he needs to be with us. She try’s to...

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Actions Speak Louder Than Explanations

Posted on 8/30/2020

I have 2 questions: If a family has children of grade school age and want to begin using John's child rearing principals. What is the best way to begin? Sit the kids down and say "Things are...

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Don't Play The Lying Game

Posted on 8/29/2020

My 7-year-old daughter has begun to tell lies. She was an honest child but lately, she has been lying so much to get herself out of trouble. She has started playing with a neighbor who lies and...

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School Performance Ultimately Belongs to the Student

Posted on 8/20/2020

My son is going in the 3rd grade and so far has had great performance at school both with academics and behavior. When school went virtual in the spring, it was a horrible few months for both of...

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Books about Boys

Posted on 8/12/2020

Hi, My husband and I are going to be taking custody of a 6 year old boy whose mother is a meth addict and has exposed him to major drug use including overdose by outsiders. He is remarkably well...

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Backtalking 8-Year-Old

Posted on 8/10/2020

I have a question about the ticket system. We are using tickets to focus on talking back from our 8 year old. Often when he loses a ticket for talking back, he continues as he makes his way to...

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No Good Reason For 7-Year-Old's Threat

Posted on 7/30/2020

I got a call from our daycare provider today saying our 7-year-old told his best friend that he was going to bring in a real gun and shoot him because the friend had taken something that belonged...

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Follow through at all cost.

Posted on 7/18/2020

My daughter who is 8 years old has become accustomed to yelling and raising her voice when speaking to us her parents. We raise our voices in the house too so perhaps she gets that from us. But...

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Disrespect is Unacceptable

Posted on 7/12/2020

For our daughter's 10th birthday we let her have two friends sleepover. I asked her for a birthday dinner and breakfast request to have for the sleepover. Breakfast request was waffles with...

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Big Sister 11 wants some space from 8 year old brother

Posted on 6/24/2020

Thank you so much for the thoughtful and helpful ways you've equipped me as a parent since signing up to this site. I've come to understand that I should let my kids resolve issues they have with...

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Help! Quarantine Has Thrown a Kink in Our Schedule!

Posted on 6/23/2020

My husband has been working from home for the last few months and this has brought new challenges with our 5 and 6 year old boys. Prior to him working from home I had a routine of them playing in...

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Son hits himself when he loses TV privileges

Posted on 6/18/2020

When my son loses his tv privileges he starts hitting himself, screaming, saying he’s stupid, he hates himself etc and beginning he will do anything to earn tv back (I say no). There clearly is an...

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The Doctor Gets The Wiggles Out

Posted on 6/15/2020

Please can you give me some helpful pointers on how to deal with the issue of my 8 year son not sitting still for some activities. He's a nice, sensitive boy but I can't seem to understand why...

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Talking to Kids About Dyslexia

Posted on 6/11/2020

My son has a moderate case of dyslexia, and he is 10. Our daughter, who is 7, has a mild case of dyslexia. Our son, of course, knows he is dyslexic, however, we have not told our daughter she is...

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Tips for Purging Toys

Posted on 6/11/2020

My kids have too many toys, dolls and stuffed animals. They are ages 10, 7, 4, and 1. For the older three kids can I just get rid of things without their knowing, or do I need to talk to them...

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6 YO Girl Behaving Inappropriately with Friends and Lying About It

Posted on 6/2/2020

Private parts My 6 year old daughter and her friend, a boy have gotten in to trouble lately, because they keep trying to sneak off and pee in front of each other. I’m concerned because they...

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How to Achieve Peaceful Coexistence Between Children

Posted on 5/31/2020

I have a 6-year-old, and 2.5 year old. They are fighting A LOT. What’s the best way to discipline them? I try to let them work it out as much as I can, but it’s constant. Older child ripping toys...

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Complaining 6 year old

Posted on 5/27/2020

Hi, I have a 6 y.o. girl. She has days when she is happy with things, but most of the time she shows a negative attitude. Overall she is a good child. However, no matter what we do or don’t do...

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Teach instead of rescue.

Posted on 5/27/2020

My 11 year old daughter has noticed that her 8 year old brother is academically more able than she is, particularly in Maths. Over the years, we've repeatedly told her to celebrate her own...

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Curbing Unhealthy Snack Attacks

Posted on 5/18/2020

My son is an 8 years old only child. He wasn't a chubby baby, but he's becoming a chubby boy. He's getting a belly and love handles. He is 4'7" and weighs in at 95lbs. His food choices are high...

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Playing with Toy Guns- Keep It Simple

Posted on 5/2/2020

My son has taken an interest in gun play. He likes making guns with blocks of lego and sticks and playing with his nerf gun. I want him to enjoy this play but in a way that is fun and healthy,...

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Helping Kids Develop Good Habits Without Nagging

Posted on 4/14/2020

My 7 year old has a habit of leaving lights on when he leaves the room, leaving the toilet seat up, not flushing the toilet chain, leaving rubbish out, not putting his laundry in basket etc. How...

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7 year old craving constant attention

Posted on 4/14/2020

My 7 year old struggles to play by himself. He wants me to play with him all the time. For example he is always complaining he cannot find a Lego piece before he has actually looked, he needs help...

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Don't overthink it

Posted on 4/14/2020

I am diagnosed with depression, anxiety, OCD and CPTSD and grew up in a very dysfunctional, emotionally abusive and neglectful home. I struggled with post natal depression and never sought help...

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How to Nip Interrupting in the Bud

Posted on 4/1/2020

How would you train your 7 and 4 year olds from interrupting adult conversations?

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Hands Off!

Posted on 3/29/2020

My 7 year is always making stupid annoying loud noises and shouting and he keeps doing this in his 8 month old sisters face. He also constantly grabs her hands and smothers her. They seem to get...

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Co-parenting precautions

Posted on 3/29/2020

My 7 year old son has told me he watches films which are 12+, scary, include swearing, witchcraft (which goes against my Christian Faith) when he stays with his Dad. My son doesn’t seem very...

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10 yo struggles with low self-esteem & social anxiety

Posted on 3/22/2020

My 10 year old is dyslexic, and struggles with low self-esteem and social anxiety. How do I help him with his social anxiety? How do I help him with is low self esteem. Is there a book or two...

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Addressing Food Issues - Part 1

Posted on 3/22/2020

Our kids are 10, 6, 4, and 20 months. The 10, 6, and 4 year olds do not eat their dinners very well. Sometimes they don't eat at all and pick and complain about their food. I get tired of...

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6 Strikes in 1 At-bat

Posted on 3/15/2020

Hi John, my 9yr old daughter has taken to raising her voice, screaming, arguing, sarcasm and just downright disrespect when things aren't going her way. We have a target misbehavior chart and she...

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Take Charge of Bedtime Shenanigans

Posted on 3/12/2020

Feeling frustrated. I have a 6 year old, and 2 year old. They are hanging up on me! For example- I say it’s time for bed, and I tell them to come brush their teeth, the older one starts to...

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Children do not make good parents.

Posted on 3/11/2020

Hello; My son is getting worse as he gets older. He refuses to listen or obey. He talks back at every turn. We took his toys away over a week ago and told him he could get them back after his...

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Spiraling Seven Year Old

Posted on 3/2/2020

I would like some advice on how to handle our 7 year old son. Our family has had an extremely tough season. We had to re-home the dog my children grew up with (my sons best buddy) due to my sons...

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Sibling Must Work it Out!

Posted on 3/1/2020

I have two children: An 8-year-old girl and a 3-year-old boy. For the most part, they play really well on their own. Whenever my daughter doesn’t have school, however, we have conflict. My son...

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Refusal To Eat Leads To Worry

Posted on 2/29/2020

My 7 year old son and his 9 year old sister were playing around while brushing teeth and somehow his tooth brush jammed into the side of his mouth. He needed oral surgery for a herniated buccal...

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Siblings Must Work It Out!

Posted on 2/25/2020

I’ve got two kids, an almost 8 year old girl and a 3 year old boy. For the most part, they play really well on their own. Whenever she doesn’t have school, we have the most conflict. He loves...

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