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Early Riser

Posted 5 days ago

We are, and have been, dealing with a host of behavior issues with our "strong willed" 6-year-old daughter (who, by the way, is apparently an angel and wonderful role model in school). One of the...

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Is whining too general to list as a Target Misbehavior?

Posted 6 days ago

Can you put whining on a ticket system as a target behavior or does it need to be more specific?

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5 year old in boring bedroom is enough

Posted 6 days ago

I've recently read "The Well-Behaved Child" and have decided to implement the ticket system with both my 5 and 6 yo. I was doing a watered down version of this system already with what I called...

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Attention-Seeking Behavior Disguised as Lack of Confidence

Posted 1 week ago

My 8 yr old son is hard on himself and can be quite stubborn. It's a crazy mix of attributes that my husband and I are having a hard time navigating. If he misses 1 spelling word, he shuts...

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Teaching Time for Touchy 7 yo boy

Posted 1 week ago

my 7 year old son got in trouble at school for grabbing the private parts of another boy. Similar things have happened before and we've been working on a solution. For the last 3 months he had to...

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6 year Old Fibs

Posted 2 weeks ago

We are concerned about lying in our six year old son. For example, if asked to do something and he doesn't do it, his reply will often be, "I didn't hear you". He likes to tease his little 3...

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When to Use the Chair of Wisdom

Posted 2 weeks ago

We have our 6 block daily charts set up for our 9 year old son. Since he is constantly defiant we decided that it is more than enough to just target disobedience as his one target misbehavior. A...

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The Good, the Fat, and the Ugly

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hello, I'm looking for advice on what to say to my daughter when she she asks me if she's fat. She is 8, and not fat at all. She is tall for her age and has a healthy athletic body as she...

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Implementing the principles of leadership parenting.

Posted 2 weeks ago

We have 2 boys, ages 9 and 11. Our youngest is disrespectful, disobedient, uses unkind words with his older sibling and throws tantrums/damaging things in our home. His disobedience is constant....

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Co-bedding with grandparents.

Posted 2 weeks ago

My parents are coming in one week. They didn’t see their grandchildren quite long time. And their visit will continue couple weeks. During their visit my son(6 years old) would stay in his...

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6 year old likes shaking hands

Posted 3 weeks ago

Continuing on concerning twin boys. One boy tends to shake hands over and over. Should we gently ask him to stop? It’s happened more when he’s excited about something he’s watching or waiting for....

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Prepping a 6 y/o for Surgery

Posted 3 weeks ago

What would be the best way to prepare a 6 year old boy for an upcoming surgery? Do I let him know about it a few days in advance? Tell him the morning of? He is a worrier, so I'm not sure how...

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How to Start Chores

Posted 3 weeks ago

My children are 3, 5, and 7 years old and until now I have done everything around the house - chores, cleaning, laundry, you name it. Why?? Because I stay at home and thought it was my job to make...

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Twins

Posted on 5/19/2018

How do you feel about diagnosis of autism. 6 year old twin boys have been diagnosed. They function fairly well. They have received extra help. I’m their grandmother. I sometimes need help!!

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siblings fighting-4 and 7 yro

Posted on 5/19/2018

Hi there, My 7 year old girl and 4 year old boy have been fighting and fighting - and all of a sudden, its fighting ALL THE TIME. My husband and I went away for 10 days and left them with my...

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Table Manners Matter

Posted on 5/18/2018

Our 8 year old daughter has poor table manners. What is your suggestion on improving them? We have tried nagging (obviously unsuccessful), working on one thing at a time (worked for the first...

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Obedience over Exasperation

Posted on 5/18/2018

Hello! We are currently working on one misbehavior of 6 years old son. He comes home from school and would not do what he has to do- wash hands, change cloth, do homework, eat and after do...

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Grandson handling loss.

Posted on 5/16/2018

37 yr old daughter had massive heart attack in car with husband & 9.75 yr old son....she died several hours later without regaining consciousness. My grandson seems to be doing ok....returned...

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Angry 7 y/o

Posted on 5/15/2018

I am writing today about my middle daughter, 7 years old. She has been a high misbehavior since she was 5. She has been on your charts and we have removed her from the garden in the past as...

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The Witching Hour

Posted on 5/14/2018

ParentGuru, What can my wife and I do to help the children to be obedient and pleasing to be around during the hours of 6-8 PM? The children are ages 3-11. We find that at the end of the day...

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Get Along or Get Away

Posted on 5/13/2018

Hello! My 6 and 3 years old sometimes play well together just perfect, but sometimes it is just horribly. 6 years would do something that 3 years doesn’t like or they just can’t share one red...

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Block System Dilemma

Posted on 5/8/2018

Our boys do not stay in their rooms when they are told to and repeatedly come out until they work their way to an early bedtime and then continue coming out often times loud and disruptive until...

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Teaching Modesty

Posted on 5/8/2018

What is the best way to teach modesty? Our son is six and much too curious. He has very little filter and is much need of guidance we really do not k ow the best way go give. Thank you for your...

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Appropriate Response to Inappropriate Video Games?

Posted on 5/6/2018

Our 8-year-old son is seeing kids play graphic video games on portable gaming units. The most recent title was “Call of Duty,” with which we are familiar. We talked about the violence and realism...

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Selfish at Six

Posted on 4/30/2018

Hi again, I have another question about our children, this time about our 6 year old girl. She seems to have come into the world well-equipped with a particularly strong selfish streak. I know...

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7 yro needs to know who to listen to

Posted on 4/27/2018

Hi - we have a 9 year old boy who has special needs and 7 year old boy/girl twins. The boys get along well but our daughter is very jealous of her brothers. The main issue is she can be very mean,...

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6.5 yro needs to understand who is in control

Posted on 4/26/2018

My son who is 6.5 years old, has always had a competitive nature. From wanting to win in games, being first out the door, first in line...first, first, first, win, win, win...it's exhausting. I...

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Pre-teen demonstrates dishonesty and disobedience

Posted on 4/26/2018

Your response to my 4/18 statement is incorrect: “I see that you have asked one question in the forum, and that has been answered, so if you've asked other questions, we don't have a record of...

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Annoying behaviors among family

Posted on 4/25/2018

I just found out my sister and her kids do not like having us visit because my daughter is always getting into their things and is too nosy. She is too touchy they said as well. I don't know how...

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Mom's "No" is daughter's trigger.

Posted on 4/25/2018

Every single time I have to tell my 10 year old daughter "No" about anything she completely freaks out!! Last night she decided at 8pm she wanted Starbucks. I explained to her that I would be...

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Stealing Edibles

Posted on 4/24/2018

Hi there. My 10 year old son is struggling with "taking candy / food / vitamins / etc" when people are not looking. There are items we do not let him eat without permission and he is just...

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One of the 7 Deadly Needs...The Need to be Right

Posted on 4/23/2018

My daughter is 8 years old and has to be in control and right about everything. If she gets in trouble at home or even misses a question on a test at school, she will not admit that she made a...

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Cry Cry Cry

Posted on 4/21/2018

My 6 year old son cries at what seems like the drop of a hat! He will cry if he gets mad, if he's overwhelmed, if he's anxious, and if he does not get his way. Some of it seems to be...

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The Better Half

Posted on 4/19/2018

I have 2 step-daughters, ages 11 and 8, who spend half of their time with us and half with their mom. We don’t allow them to use any form of social media and have explained to them the dangers....

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6 YO Boy Must Turn Down The Volume

Posted on 4/19/2018

Good afternoon! My son is 6 years old, he is in kindergarten. We recently got a report card and it would be great except couple exceptions: -Works well with others; -uses appropriate words to...

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Attack big problem, smaller ones may fade away.

Posted on 4/19/2018

Good afternoon! In report card that we recently got before there is some problem - "following directions"- till January my son was good at that point, but in March he doesn't quite do it. Do you...

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Posted on 4/19/2018

Our eight-year-old daughter used to get along really well with our son who is now three, but lately it’s gotten really bad. Sometime she says she wishes he was still a baby because now he “annoys...

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Parents Know Best

Posted on 4/19/2018

Our daughter is in Kindergarten. Her school wants her assessed for support services. She is having behavior issues in class. (Which we are trying to have her held accountable for, but the school...

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10 yo, Punish for Truth Telling

Posted on 4/17/2018

My 10 year old son stole his little brothers candy he had saved to give to a friend to try and get invited to his birthday. He did tell us the truth but what kind of punishment for stealing and...

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Reforming Picky Eaters

Posted on 4/17/2018

We adopted 2 girls (ages 8 and 10 at the time) almost 5 years ago from an African country. They were incredibly picky eaters and refused to try new foods. I have been customizing our meals to...

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The Extracurricular Activities Freight Train

Posted on 4/17/2018

I'm trying to put a slow down on the extracurricular activities by asking them to choose one or two. How much input should they be allowed in deciding which ones? For example, I think they need...

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Learn about parent leadership then be a parent leader.

Posted on 4/10/2018

ParentGuru, Our son is 9. He lies and deceives his parents (us) and won’t obey us on most tasks, including his chores and schoolwork. He is a gifted student and homeschooled. How can we get...

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Addressing Self Esteem

Posted on 4/4/2018

It seems lately I'm constantly trying to undo the last 10 years worth of damage that I've created. I take full responsibility for that but the question is always how. My daughters 12 and 9 have...

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School Toy Story

Posted on 3/29/2018

Hi, I have a question regarding my almost 7 year old daughter. Last year she got kicked out of kindergarten after 3 suspensions in the first few months of school. She was then sent to a...

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Psychological Testing is a Must for Dyslexia

Posted on 3/28/2018

The elementary teacher of our 3rd grade son believes that he may have dyslexia. We would like to see about having him tested. We don't want to get to wrapped up with physiologists and possibly...

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No Clear Cut Answer for When to Blend a Family

Posted on 3/27/2018

hi there I have been dating my BF for about a year. I have never been around his kids yet although they do know of me and our children used to be friends before they moved away. My bf has spent a...

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Limits for Masterbating 7 YO

Posted on 3/26/2018

My daughter will be 8 next month. I have discovered that she has been masturbating when she goes to sleep and when she watches t.v. She did this a little when she was about 3 but I thought it...

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Kids Won't Stop What They're Doing to Use Bathroom

Posted on 3/24/2018

Hi there, How would you approach an almost 4 year old, and almost 7 year old regarding keeping their underwear clean and free of pee leaks. Both are not bothering to go when they need to and...

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Set the standard and hold them to it.

Posted on 3/18/2018

Hi there, Thank you for all the advice you have given me re: my out of control 3.5 yo son. He’s been kicked out of the garden for hitting mum - and successfully strung together 28 days of not...

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Active Shooter Drills Prompts Fears in 8 Year Old

Posted on 3/16/2018

Recently, our 8-year-old came home from school talking about whether the best way to run away from a “bad guy with a gun in school” was in a straight line or in a zig-zag fashion. Apparently the...

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