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Grandparent Etiquette

Posted 3 days ago

I am a single mom with a 6-year-old girl. Both sets of grandparents live close by, and she is very close to both of them. I am trying to teach her that when we visit, she is to say hello,...

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Behavior getting worse not better

Posted 3 days ago

I just started reading the well behaved child. I have a 6 year old girl and a 10 year old boy. Their behavior has gotten worse. My daughter comes out of her room constantly after having been...

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Enforcing Consquences

Posted 3 days ago

I have read Well Behaved Child. We are dealing with our 7 year old granddaughter (we have legal custody since July) that has high misbehaviors. We are doing the chart. Our one concern is keeping...

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Difficult Topic

Posted 1 week ago

My sweet seven year old son's birth father recently commuted suicide. I did not tell him. I know I will eventually have to. Any suggestions on when and how I should? He had some contact until age...

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Teaching Values to Kids

Posted 1 week ago

Hello; I have been here a lot thru the years. Still struggle with many of the problems I asked about. Mostly cuz my husband is not on the same page till he is slow going. Our newest hurdle is......

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Grandparent Etiquette and More

Posted 1 week ago

Hi. I am a single mom with a 6 year old girl. I have both sets of grandparents close and she is very close to both of them. My question is two fold. I am trying to teach her that when we visit,...

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When Food Issues Become Power Struggles

Posted 1 week ago

I asked a question about my 8 year old sneaking sweets - we have since carried out your suggestions - but it is not working. She looks for other ways to get sweets. We allowed her to buy some cup...

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Curing the School Blues

Posted 2 weeks ago

My second grader claims she hates school and her teacher. What can I do to help her love school and be positive?

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Parents Need to Be On The Same Page

Posted 2 weeks ago

My husband and I recently legally adopted our six and half year old nephew who has been living with us since he was 2.5. He did not know us prior to him coming to live with us. He comes from a...

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Encouraging Friendships

Posted 3 weeks ago

We have recently moved from US to Singapore for 3 years with my husband’s job. My 11 and 5 year old have made lots of friends and are settling in. My 9 year old son is happy to go to school and...

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7 yro needs a check up from the good old Dr.

Posted 3 weeks ago

I am starting my 3rd year of homeschooling my son who is now a 7 year old 2nd grader. And this year I’ve added my 5 year old kindergartener. I have struggled with the 7 year old obeying me...

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A Lying, Stealing Moment

Posted 3 weeks ago

Last night my 7-year-old confessed that she had opened a package and eaten some candy with her 11-year-old sibling that morning at the store. I had no idea this happened. I briefly discussed that...

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Morning Routine

Posted 3 weeks ago

Hi there. I have twin boys who turned 5 the end of July. They are starting school September 5. I want to establish a good routine for the mornings. I have been a stay at home since they were...

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Nipping Interrupting in the Bud

Posted 4 weeks ago

How to nip 4 and 7 year old siblings interrupting adults in the bud? Thank you:))))

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Instilling Your Values

Posted 4 weeks ago

I'm looking for some guidance on how to talk to my young children about gay marriage. My kids are 9 and 6 years old. They just informed me that their art teacher is a girl who just married a girl....

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7 year old yells at himself

Posted on 8/14/2019

I have a 7 year old boy with behavior problems but only towards me, his Mother. Whenever he is disrespectful and starts screaming at me I send him to his room for the rest of the day. While he is...

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Rules for Smartphone Use

Posted on 8/7/2019

My 10-year-old daughter has a smartphone - I know, I know, mistake #1. Her dad is overseas, so this allows her to FaceTime him. I'm trying to backtrack here because she has no motivation to do...

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Continuing Challenges with 6-Year-Old

Posted on 8/5/2019

Our 6-year-old daughter will go to school in a month. Some doctors say she has ADHD. We take much effort to prepare her for school as she is falling behind on knowledge that is required for...

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Premature Worry

Posted on 7/30/2019

Hello. I adopted my son, now 5 1/2, at birth, and I am a single working (teacher) mother. He is close to my brothers and my dad and has never expressed a desire for a dad and when asked, will...

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6 YO Girl Lies, Defies, & Connives

Posted on 7/26/2019

After reading The Well-Behaved Child last spring, I started my then 5yo daughter on the ticket system. It worked quite well. Generally, I was already doing many of things Dr. Rosemond suggested...

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A Strong Marriage is Your First Priority

Posted on 7/24/2019

This is the scinerao...we are sitting at the dinner table. My husband is reading "whatever the latest news is" on his phone. When our 6 yr. talks back to me or does not do what I have asked of...

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8 year old sneaking treats and lying about it

Posted on 7/24/2019

Hi there, my 8 yo daughter has been sneaking sweets and biscuits from the pantry - and throwing out/hiding her fruit and sometimes other stuff she doesn’t like from her packed lunches. She has...

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When only one child misbehaves should the other kids have to miss out?

Posted on 7/24/2019

We live in an apartment. During the working days I am at work all day long. We have three girls: 6-year old, 4-year old and 3-month old baby. The two older kids have been adopted three years ago...

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Hold 'em Accountable

Posted on 7/24/2019

Our 6 and 4-year-old girls have behavioral problems and suffer from consequences on a regular basis. We wonder how to deal with the situation when one girl is punished for bad behavior and another...

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Making an Imprint

Posted on 7/21/2019

Our two girls (6-year old and 4-year old) share one room. Today my wife told them to clean the table before dinner (where they made a mess while playing) and the girls just ignored her request. My...

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Needed: Parenting perspective adjustment

Posted on 7/17/2019

One follow up question. When do we seek counseling, if at all, and for whom (just her, just her parents-and separately at that since we’re divorced)? We’re both wondering if her out-of-control...

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Slaying the Whiny Monster

Posted on 7/16/2019

We have 4 children: a 9 year old boy, twin boys who are 6, and a 3 year old girl. This question is about one of the 6 year old twins. He whines, complains constantly, and falls...

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10-Year-Old Lying - One More Thing

Posted on 7/16/2019

My 10-year-old son has a problem with lying. We have not figured out a solution that completely eradicates this problem, yet. Most recently, we left him at home while we went grocery shopping...

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The Enemy of my Enemy is my Sibling

Posted on 7/14/2019

We have five children, and multiple questions, but I'll just focus on one here. My oldest son and daughter (ages 10 and 7) fight regularly. My son is a teaser, and my daughter is a screecher. ...

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8 yro needs to learn to give some R-E-S-P-E-C-T

Posted on 7/11/2019

I have 3 sons: 4,6,8. My oldest has been a challenge for us. He does well academically. There are some requests at school to have him listen or think through questions before asking. But these...

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Six year olds sometimes make bad decisions.

Posted on 7/10/2019

My 6 1/2 year old granddaughter killed a frog yesterday using a kitchen knife to mutilate it. This was in front of her 4 yr old brother. She has never shown that kind of violence and we are all...

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Great-grandparents who now parent.

Posted on 7/3/2019

what are the first steps in teaching a 6 yr. old boy how to entertain himself. For the last 3 years we have been raising our 6 yr old great grandson due to drug problems with his parents and...

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Special challenges for children of divorce.

Posted on 6/21/2019

Hi John and Team, My boyfriend and I share custody of his 10 year old son. We have his son for two four-week blocks in the summer and then every other weekend during the school year. We are...

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Take them apart from each other!

Posted on 6/21/2019

How do suggest handling the consequence of being sent to one’s room for whatever period of time when siblings share a room. Our 5 and 7 year old boys share a room and most often when there is...

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No Gun Play at School!

Posted on 6/21/2019

My 6-year-old keeps pretending he has a gun at school. We just got a second note from the school that our son was pretending to play with a gun (made out of paper) at school and scaring other...

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Beating the Bullies

Posted on 6/20/2019

Here’s a topic I’ve been struggling with that I just saw John address in a Facebook post – mean kids. My oldest son (9) was complaining about some kids at his summer camp saying things like...

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7-year-old Sunday School Woes

Posted on 6/20/2019

A 7 or 8 year old boy came to Sunday School for the first time and we suspect there are problems at home. I have not met him personally, but he was described as dark and negative. I do not know...

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Siblings and Summer

Posted on 6/18/2019

Hi! I have an 8 year old daughter and boy/girl twin 6 year olds. I am writting in because my kids have been fighting a lot and gotten physical; pushing, hair grabbing, kicking sometimes even...

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Well-Rounded Son

Posted on 5/30/2019

My 9 year-old son loves to read. He enjoys basketball and baseball. Should I encourage him to try other hobbies or instruments that involve doing things with his hands? If so, how?

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Following the Leader

Posted on 5/21/2019

My girls, ages 6,5 and 3, prefer to follow me around during their free time. They just like to watch what I’m doing and talk and sometimes be involved in what I’m doing. I wonder if I should send...

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Parent leadership trumps child leadership

Posted on 5/15/2019

Dear Rosemond and team, Recently (a few weeks ago), my son graduated from his 30 stickers (1 a day) for aggression and tantrums and got his things and privileges back. BUT the tantrums (it's...

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Frustrated over asking.

Posted on 5/15/2019

I have a 9 year old son who has a passive defiant attitude. He doesn't ever talk back or freak out when he doesn't get his way but will "ignore" what we ask him to do and act like he just forgot....

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Creating Opportunities for Freedom!

Posted on 5/5/2019

Regarding your article "Freedom lost on the children of today" I am inspired by the moms of the last generation - my parents, too, experienced a similar kind of thing growing up. Running around,...

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child sends mixed message

Posted on 5/5/2019

I have a personal friend that went through a bitter divorce approximately 6 years ago. She has 4 children ages 14, 13, 10.5 and 9.5. The three older ones are girls and the youngest a boy. The...

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Hop off the Argument Merry Go Round

Posted on 5/5/2019

Hi there, My almost 5-year-old has come a long way from his 3-year-old self. I suppose maturity helps. He's no longer throwing tantrums (a.k.a crying loudly) or hitting when he doesn't get his...

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Good decisions sometimes hurt.

Posted on 5/4/2019

Hi, Question: What advise can you give? I'm a female in a same-sex marriage and have an 8 year old. He doesn't want to live with me because of my instability with moving from place to place and...

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Teacher Emails and When to Request a Conference

Posted on 5/1/2019

Hello, I received this email from my daughter's teacher today and am seeking your guidance. This all seems to have been precipitated by a tick bite (her first) that we took care of last week,...

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Nail polish all over the counter again!

Posted on 4/28/2019

About a year ago my daughter and her friend accidentally spilled some nail polish on the counter and tried to cover it up and not tell us. She was punished by cleaning all the bathrooms in our...

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Get Off the Repeating Merry-go-round

Posted on 4/4/2019

When I am telling my children to do smth, or not to do, I have to repeat it many times. I have to raise my voice, but I hate to scream. Or when I tell my son to do smth, he would repeat after me...

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