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Time to Toughen Up with Teen

Posted 4 days ago

Dear John, you answered my question about my 14 ye old being kicked out of garden for 6 months now and she may be a rebel and we shouldn't start zig zag but stay the course. I'm a wimpy guilty...

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Kicked Out of the Garden... Now What?

Posted 1 week ago

Dear John, 14 yr girl. Generally respectful and responsible and obedient. However, long history of deception and manipulation. Homeschooler who is presently kicked out of garden for numerous...

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3 year old and Ticket System

Posted 1 week ago

I have a 3 year old son who has been on the ticket system for 6 weeks, and I feel extremely discouraged. Today during his check-up at the doctors office he refused to let the nurse weigh him or...

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Five year old uncooperative, and more

Posted 1 week ago

I am a preschool principal, I have a 5 year-old child who has problems. He has been with us since he was 4 (we have used many ways to discipline him but it doesn't work). He is able to...

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15 yo boy "running off"

Posted 1 week ago

I have a fifteen year old son who likes to run off for hours at a time with no notice as to where he is going when he gets in trouble or mad. Unfortunately, my wife and I struggle with "should we...

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Follow up about Disobedient 5 y/o

Posted 1 week ago

I am referring to my previous question about a 5 years old student in my preschool. The boy is not my son. I don't think that he has ADHD or Autism. When I spoke to the mother, she told me that...

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4 year old girl sticking out her tongue

Posted 1 week ago

My four year old daughter has recently started sticking her tongue out at her Dad and me. If we tell her to stop she does it more. The underlying sentiment is disrespectful, not silliness. Is this...

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13 yo daughter needs to leave 'The Garden"!

Posted 1 week ago

Should there be consequences if my 13 year old step-daughter refuses to do her chores (clean up her room and door her laundry), leaves notes on her door telling me/us to STFO, refuses to eat when...

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Online School is a Privilege Not a Right

Posted 2 weeks ago

We have homeschooled our 3 kids for all of their school years. Last year we enrolled our son (now 16.5) in online public schooling because he refused to be cooperative with school work. Online...

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16 yo Defiance

Posted 3 weeks ago

My wife and I are having trouble with our oldest 16 yr old son. He is very selfish, defiant and manipulative. My wife says I need to do something now but I am having trouble knowing the right way...

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4 yo girl defiant/disrespectful

Posted 3 weeks ago

In the last few months especially, my four year old daughter has escalated the frequency of disrespectful and defiant behavior. She has had a stubborn streak since age 2, and has a tendency for...

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Three Year Old Obedient... Except With Mom

Posted 3 weeks ago

Hello and thank you for your time. We have a 3-year-old who is, most of the time, a very good and obedient boy. Let me rephrase that: He listens to his father 100% of the time. With his mother,...

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Disrespectful , Thieving Teen

Posted 4 weeks ago

I am a Mom of 4 kids ages 15 girl, 13 boy, 10 girl, 8 boy. My oldest, at around age 9 stared eye rolling and disrespectful behaviors & it has only gotten worse. I limit electronics/TV/social...

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High School Freshman Vaping

Posted on 10/10/2017

Hi! My 14 year old freshman has been telling me how he vapes in the high school bathroom with friends. My husband and I do not smoke or vape and we have made it very clear that he needs to wait...

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The Phone is Not the Problem

Posted on 10/4/2017

So, in response to the answer to my question I have a few other questions. In the past few days a lot has transpired and my husband and I really had it out over my son. I understand a lot of his...

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Bedtime Horseplay

Posted on 10/4/2017

I have twin 9 year olds and a 6 year old girl that share a bed room. A few years ago when the 6 year old had her own room she pretty much went to bed as told with the exception of getting up a few...

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Lower the Boom on 18 year old son

Posted on 10/1/2017

My son has just turned 18 and is a senior in high school. He had his first job this summer doing construction work with some people we know. He did well getting up early and they said that he...

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6-Block Chart Program

Posted on 9/29/2017

My son is 9 1/2. Over the last few months we have implemented the daily 6 block chart program after reading The Well Behaved Child in response to the defiance and attitude we had been seeing...

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6 year old boy with an attitude

Posted on 9/20/2017

We are having a hard time with our almost 6 year old son. This summer we started him on tickets for whining and not listening. Quickly the focus became on not listening only. It worked for a while...

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5 yo lying with no remorse

Posted on 9/19/2017

We have a 5 year old daughter we are fostering. She's been with us for a little over 2 months. She is pleasant enough, but she has no remorse for things she does wrong (big or little). We've been...

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3yr old out of control

Posted on 9/14/2017

My husband and I are struggling with finding the right disciplinary action for our 3 year old daughter. She has many meltdowns and tests our authority on a regular basis. We have found that taking...

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Enough Talk?

Posted on 9/6/2017

Hello and Thank You for your help and guidance. We last asked a question in April. Here we are in September, back again and most appreciative. Our 7 year old was exposed to pornographic video on...

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11 yr old Effort and Responsibility

Posted on 9/6/2017

I am the Dad of an 11 year old (6th grade). She is not giving good effort at school. My wife and I have told her it is her responsibility and she needs to get help from the teachers, study...

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Daily Report Cards Help School Behaviors

Posted on 9/1/2017

I have a 7 year old who has been having problems at school and just recently we received a form from school saying that the school is requesting for social worker intervention, that is "the next...

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Off to a rocky start at Kindergarten!

Posted on 9/1/2017

For the 3rd time in 8 days my 5 year old has come home from Kindergarten with a bad report from the teacher. She's at a Catholic school, which we are very happy with, but she just can't seem to...

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3yr Twins and Ticket System

Posted on 9/1/2017

I've just read "The Well Behaved Child". I have 3yo twin boys. There are A LOT of things I want to work on but am taking your advice to only work on one at a time. I want to use the Ticket...

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AP Classes and Motivation

Posted on 8/31/2017

Hi! My son started high school a couple of weeks ago. He was placed in an advanced program where they start taking some AP classes in 9th grade. He has been against the program since we went to an...

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11 Year Old Is Disrespectful And "Plays the Victim"

Posted on 8/23/2017

My 11 year old daughter is playing the victim. Nothing is ever her fault and she takes no responsibility for anything. She's petulant, disrespectful and downright rude to peers, coaches, adults...

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Questions about the Ticket System

Posted on 8/21/2017

A couple of months ago, we started the ticket system on our 5 year old son. It has worked relatively well. There are 2 target behaviors: whining and not listening when he is asked to do...

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Why "why" doesn't really matter.

Posted on 8/21/2017

I have a 5 year old daughter who will start kindergarten in 4 days. I have used the 6 block chart for behavior issues with good success. For some reason, the last several weeks have seen her...

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10 Year Old's Life of Disobedience

Posted on 8/18/2017

My very bright 10-year-old son simply refuses to obey. He is child #2 of 4 kids. He seems to take up all of our parenting energy. He spent a lot of time in the office for the first half of grade...

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8 yo No Birthday Celebration While Punished?

Posted on 8/13/2017

This is follow up question that was answered by Tim Bonzagni regarding "8 yro hurting others using ticket system." After having the discussion with the 8 yro about hurting others and the lack...

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Almost 4yr old hitting mom and dad

Posted on 8/9/2017

My son is turning 4 in a couple of weeks and has recently started hitting his dad and I. We have been working on a 6-block chart for about 2 1/2 weeks mainly targeting disobeying and talking back....

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16 Year Old Daughter's Continued Rebellion

Posted on 8/6/2017

I wrote a few months ago about my daughter who I caught drinking. It turns out that it wasn't a blip on the radar with her. Given her behavior of late (defensive, sneaky), I tracked her location...

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15-year-old doesn't like being "un-hinged!"

Posted on 8/4/2017

We have an adopted son, almost 16 yo, who has been with us for 2 1/2 years. He spent most of his earlier life in an over-crowded orphanage, with very little male influence and little supervision....

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Terrible Transition to Three

Posted on 8/3/2017

My 3 year old is a bully. She is starting 1st pre-school soon, Picks on 2 year old sister (sleep in same room, in cribs but climbs out) uncontrollable screaming when not going her way, snatches...

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5 yo disrespect must be nipped in the bud

Posted on 7/31/2017

My 5 year old son is willfully disobedient, defiant and enters into a rage when disciplined. He will hit, kick and throw things at me and tells me he hates me and threatens to "cut my face off"...

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Too young for consequences?

Posted on 7/18/2017

My 20 month old son is doing typical 2 year old behaviors testing limits. More and more often he completely ignores my instructions. The past few days I have put him in his tantrum spot, his old...

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How to Stop Mommy-Hitting Toddler

Posted on 7/18/2017

Hi there, my 22 month old likes to slap/hit me when he's upset. At home I've started using timeout, which helps. What do I do when I do when he does it in public? I've read Making the Terrible...

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2yo testing limits

Posted on 7/16/2017

Hello, my 22 month old is testing his limits- hitting me, screaming when he needs help (he has a speech delay), spilling water from his cup and doing it again after being told not to, etc. I've...

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Dangerous 2 year old behavior

Posted on 7/8/2017

My 28-month-old regularly loosens his car seat straps by pushing the button between his legs and using the weight of his shoulders to loosen the straps. I tried making the straps very tight, but...

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10 yo girl adores/imitates bad boy 14 yo brother

Posted on 7/2/2017

My 10-yr old daughter adores her 14-yr old brother. My son (the 14-yr old), however, is currently going through a period (I hope it's just a period) where he is being deceitful, sneaky, and...

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Shoplifting teen blames Mom

Posted on 7/2/2017

I'm feeling guilty. In the last couple of months my son has been in trouble with the police,(for shoplifting) and at school. Home life has been very difficult. I have made him take responsibility,...

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3yr old Fits and Trouble Playing with Brother

Posted on 6/27/2017

My 3 year old is very big and strong for his age. When I have him go to his room for either timeout for a fit or for naptime he physically fights me now. He used to simply whimper and cry but then...

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Time for a parent coach.

Posted on 6/13/2017

Our daughter who is 4.5 is very strong willed and I feel at my wits end knowing how to deal with her. Often I am in tears when my husband comes home in the evening. Recently, i decided I'd had...

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3 yo Acting Like a 3 yo

Posted on 6/12/2017

Our 3.5 year old son is hitting, kicking and/or spitting combined with an endless amount of talking back when it comes to not getting his way. We've tried timeout, taking things that he loves away...

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Tweens Disrespectful Brats

Posted on 6/12/2017

It is the first day of summer vacation. I have a 9 and 11 year old boy. I work part time from home. My plan for the summer was to brainstorm a summer bucket list with them and then schedule some...

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8 Year Old Bucking Confinement

Posted on 6/9/2017

It's been several weeks with our 8 year old restricted to his room except for meals and early bedtime. He currently has to have 15 consecutive days without hitting or pushing anyone and he seems...

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Son Destroys Everything in Room During Punishment

Posted on 6/9/2017

When we send our son to his bedroom for punishment, he starts to destroy everything in the room. We tried other punishments but nothing seems to phase him. If we take away his limited screen...

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Being two is about defiance.

Posted on 5/30/2017

What do you suggest for when a two year old looks you defiantly in the eye and yells "no!"?

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