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Where's That Wonderful Daughter?

Posted 4 days ago

My 8-year-old daughter has been a wonderful child until about a month ago. She’s lying a lot, not doing what we ask her to do, and she talks back. I have asked her what is wrong, and she tells me...

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Put some Harsh in their Mellow

Posted 1 week ago

Our son recently turned 11. Having just finished "Parenting by the book" and almost done "Teenproofing" I am certain we started too late with "Gramma's rules" while we fumbled through time outs,...

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11 year old not paying attention to parents

Posted 1 week ago

I just reviewed a questions from another subscriber using a ticket system with a 7 year old to nip multiple behaviors in the bud. In the answer I read "You cannot disciple or discipline a child...

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Little Slugger

Posted 1 week ago

Not sure if you can see my previous questions but my daughter 22 months is still hitting. In fact it’s getting worse. She really only hits me, occasionally my husband. Last suggestion was to put...

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Longing for a peaceful home

Posted 3 weeks ago

What is your advice for a child who refuses to stay in their room? Up until recently we had been locking our daughter’s door when she had lost all her tickets on the ticket system. This last...

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School Age Attention Seeker

Posted on 11/5/2018

I have a 10 yo who says she is good at nothing, not intelligent, not good at school. She is not putting effort in nothing she is doing. She doesn't want to do her homeworks and doesn't care if...

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Dad's Not on Board

Posted on 11/4/2018

Hi there, Susan Morley recently answered a question I posed concerning my son who has been caught with vape materials. She recommended strict consequences which I want to impose. His father,...

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4 year old annoying big sister and more

Posted on 11/2/2018

HI there, What do you suggest I do with a 4 year old boy who is constantly annoying his 7-year old sister by making lots of noise when she's practicing the piano (it's in the living room and a...

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6 year old's Target Misbehaviors must be concrete and specific

Posted on 10/29/2018

We have been doing the chart system for a week now with our 6 year old son targeting disrespect/defiance and disobedience. We started out with 8 squares a day. There have only been a few days when...

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Where Lego Ends, Tickets Begin

Posted on 10/28/2018

We just started using the ticket system on our 6 year old son yesterday. Following is an example of this morning, which we're not quite sure how to handle. Our son is busy playing with his Lego...

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Out of Control 7yr old

Posted on 10/27/2018

Hi, my husband and I would appreciate some advice on our situation with our 7 year old daughter. Her medication has become ineffective recently and we are at our wits end with what to do with...

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Peers Will Make or Break 15 YO Girl

Posted on 10/24/2018

15 year old daughter confessed to me last night that she went to the park before school and had sex with a boy a few weeks ago. She has had her period, so she doesn't believe she is pregnant. She...

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The High School Experiment

Posted on 10/22/2018

I feel like I ask the same questions all the time. My 12th grader is stressing me out, he is barely making his grades in school coming in at B, C, D's and E's. He's a good kid but I suspect...

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4 yo Kicking the Door in Timeout

Posted on 10/22/2018

I am having some behavioral issues with my very strong willed four year old daughter. She has become very sassy and disrespectful - sticking her tongue out at me, refusing to following...

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GrandmaMa held hostage by the 4 year old

Posted on 10/18/2018

I am back peddling to hopefully resolve a problem I most Ilkely created! Just for transparency!,,,,,,,,, I am raising a 4.5 yr old Grandson. Due to circumstances far beyond our control...we...

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Don't Play Dumb With Me

Posted on 10/9/2018

My son is 8 years old and is having behavioral problems. One of his issues is playing dumb. He always acts like he doesn't know what he's supposed to be doing and is always leaving his belongings...

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3 year old can “obey all the way, right away, everyday”!

Posted on 10/4/2018

Hello! Our daughter is on tickets (3.5 years) and she has been doing pretty well the last couple of weeks. The only behavior that is on the tickets system is that she needs to obey us when we...

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Tickets for "Dis"ing

Posted on 9/19/2018

I would like to start using the ticket system (again!) with our older 2 kids who are 5.5 years old and 4 years. How can I effectively explain the behavior of disrespect to our kids so they have...

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Following Rules

Posted on 9/19/2018

My 5 year old just started kindergarten and she has made a few friends - one that she just adores. This morning when I dropped her off for school she couldn't find her best friend and she was...

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Rebellious 17 YO Daughter

Posted on 9/19/2018

my 17 year old daughter continues to lie to us. At age 15 she snuck out and bought a cell phone and lies have continued since then. She has stolen money from me. She just totaled the car we let...

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Entitled, Self-Centered 14 YO Boy

Posted on 9/17/2018

I have a question re. how to handle my son's awful behavior. He is 14 years old. His Father and I switched custody 6 months ago through mediation, following a lawsuit that my son requested because...

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4 yro not listening

Posted on 9/11/2018

Good afternoon. I am still struggling with my 4 year old son. He has a lot of trouble listening to directions, no matter what consequences have been put in place. We've taken away privileges, put...

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4 year old's hitting has gone on way too long

Posted on 8/29/2018

My son is 4 years old and does not listen to direction and hits at home and school ( mom, younger sister, school friends and teachers and occasionally dad). This behavior has been going on for at...

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NIGHTTIME=NICETIME for spouses who enforce a child's bedtime

Posted on 8/24/2018

We have a 9 yo girl and 7 yo boy. Bedtime is usually supposed to be at 8pm. In the last several months, both of them, though mainly our daughter, has slowly pushed that back to 9, sometimes 10pm,...

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taking back authority over 7yo

Posted on 8/12/2018

I recently discovered Mr. Rosemond's books. My husband and I are now implementing his ideas with our 7 year old son who gets easily frustrated when he doesn't get his way, ignores our demands,...

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Overwhelmed Mom wants to take back her authority, but can't stop yelling

Posted on 8/7/2018

My son is extremely defiant and NOTHING we have tried thus far has made a difference. Spanking him has to be done several times over, and is always accompanied by screaming, blaming, back-talk,...

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Nip Out-of-Control Behavior in the Bud

Posted on 7/31/2018

How do I apply John Rosemond's recommendations with three completely out-of-control boys (ages 5, 7, 9)? They don't follow any of the rules, regard all property in the house as their own (tools,...

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Three year old adapting to changes

Posted on 7/25/2018

Our daughter turned 3 in May and it was around that time that we became aware of John Rosemond's books. We learnt that we were not authoritative in our parenting style nor did we use alpha speech,...

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9 YO Daughter In Need Of Wake Up Call

Posted on 7/14/2018

My 9 year old daughter is defiant and refuses to go to her room when disciplined. She is too big and strong for me to carry her and she won’t stay even if I manage to get her there. She feels...

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Disobedience in twins

Posted on 6/21/2018

Please help!! My husband and I have been struggling for quite some time with our 4.5 year old boy/girl twins. They have endless, hyper energy and really always have. I am a stay at home mom and...

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15yro defiant, angry,

Posted on 6/19/2018

I have a 15 year old son who has extreme fits of rage when he doesn’t get his way, which is entitlement. When he is in a rage he throws and breaks my things, curses me violently and threatens...

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Teen Awakening

Posted on 6/19/2018

Hi--I am hoping John will answer this question--I reread Teen Proofing, and you talk about kids experimenting/using drugs can be a great opportunity for you and for them--for them to make mistakes...

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18 Month Old Wants Constant Attention

Posted on 6/19/2018

Our almost 18 month old has started following me around the house most of the day trying to demand my attention. She doesn’t want to play on her own or fall for my distractions. She has started...

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The Terrible Three's

Posted on 6/15/2018

My 33 month old has recently begun yelling all of his responses. He gets frustrated very easily and says, “Stop! Stop it, mommy!” and “Goooosh!” "No!" is his favorite word, and now he yells it....

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Early Riser

Posted on 6/14/2018

We are, and have been, dealing with a host of behavior issues with our "strong willed" 6-year-old daughter (who, by the way, is apparently an angel and wonderful role model in school). One of the...

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Teaching Time for Touchy 7 yo boy

Posted on 6/7/2018

my 7 year old son got in trouble at school for grabbing the private parts of another boy. Similar things have happened before and we've been working on a solution. For the last 3 months he had to...

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When to Use the Chair of Wisdom

Posted on 6/4/2018

We have our 6 block daily charts set up for our 9 year old son. Since he is constantly defiant we decided that it is more than enough to just target disobedience as his one target misbehavior. A...

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Implementing the principles of leadership parenting.

Posted on 6/3/2018

We have 2 boys, ages 9 and 11. Our youngest is disrespectful, disobedient, uses unkind words with his older sibling and throws tantrums/damaging things in our home. His disobedience is constant....

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Husband files for divorce after wife takes a stand with teens.

Posted on 6/1/2018

Dear John Rosemond, I wrote in a while ago on putting the marriage first. I was never able to get my husband on board which indeed caused a great deal of strife in our family, especially with...

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4 yo Aggressive to Dad

Posted on 5/30/2018

Last night, my son (4.5 years old) was brushing his teeth and proceeded to spit the toothpaste in my husband's/his father's face (and laugh). The day before, he spit on his phone, tried to run him...

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Just Do It

Posted on 5/29/2018

Have wanted to start training my now 20 month old for a while now, the problem is 90% of the time when you tell her to go on the potty she throws a fit. I have read toilet training with out...

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Table Manners Matter

Posted on 5/18/2018

Our 8 year old daughter has poor table manners. What is your suggestion on improving them? We have tried nagging (obviously unsuccessful), working on one thing at a time (worked for the first...

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The Witching Hour

Posted on 5/14/2018

ParentGuru, What can my wife and I do to help the children to be obedient and pleasing to be around during the hours of 6-8 PM? The children are ages 3-11. We find that at the end of the day...

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Block System Dilemma

Posted on 5/8/2018

Our boys do not stay in their rooms when they are told to and repeatedly come out until they work their way to an early bedtime and then continue coming out often times loud and disruptive until...

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21 month old just wants to have fun!

Posted on 5/7/2018

Our son is 21 months and really likes to run. This has manifested in two different ways. One, he really likes to be chased. He will do bad things on purpose so that my wife and I have to chase...

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what do I focus on for my 2yro

Posted on 5/7/2018

Our son is 21 months older and we’ve come up with a game plan for focusing on certain behaviors where we want to make progress. We’re focusing on our top three and we’re working on a plan for...

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3 yro crying uncontrollably

Posted on 5/3/2018

My 3 year old daughter sometimes cries so hard and long that she stops breathing for a few seconds. She usually does it when she is having a little tantrum, but it has also happened after hurting...

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A Toddler Bucket of Sass

Posted on 4/30/2018

My 16 month old shook her finger and said no no in a sassy way after my husband told her no when touching something she shouldn’t. How do I correct the sass back at this age appropriately?

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7 yro needs to know who to listen to

Posted on 4/27/2018

Hi - we have a 9 year old boy who has special needs and 7 year old boy/girl twins. The boys get along well but our daughter is very jealous of her brothers. The main issue is she can be very mean,...

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Pre-teen demonstrates dishonesty and disobedience

Posted on 4/26/2018

Your response to my 4/18 statement is incorrect: “I see that you have asked one question in the forum, and that has been answered, so if you've asked other questions, we don't have a record of...

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