Posted 5 days ago
my dad sometimes continually suggests that my 2.5 year old son should come and give him a hug or come sit in his lap when we are at their house visiting. They live maybe a mile away, so we see...
Read MorePosted on 10/4/2018
My 5 year old son is in preschool, and we are working very hard on his behavior and manners. He still has tantrums which I am working hard to end. Lately, when he has a tantrum or is disrespectful...
Read MorePosted on 10/4/2018
Hello! I would like to ask for your advice on how to work on instilling manners into our oldest daughter (3.5 years). We expect her to say please and thank you (like we expect that of...
Read MorePosted on 9/23/2018
How can I make my child respect our own family rules in public when we're out with other parents and their children seem to do what they want? I don't want to be judgmental towards the other...
Read MorePosted on 9/23/2018
How do I make my child say they're sorry when they hurt someone or did something wrong?
Read MorePosted on 9/19/2018
My 5 year old just started kindergarten and she has made a few friends - one that she just adores. This morning when I dropped her off for school she couldn't find her best friend and she was...
Read MorePosted on 9/4/2018
Hello -- Do you have any collection of articles about teen dating? (it did not seem to be listed as a subject) Any overall rules of thumb to apply? We have a 16 year old boy that is getting...
Read MorePosted on 8/8/2018
I'm hoping for a response from Katherine Saltzberg, as I am referencing her response titled "5 year old table manners". In your response, you state that each bad habit needs to be tackled one...
Read MorePosted on 5/30/2018
"I'm stupid/you're stupid/that's stupid, dumb, poop face, butt..." These are all words we do not condone our son saying. However, he works them in every chance he gets. How do we get our son to...
Read MorePosted on 5/27/2018
My son is almost 15 and has become friends with a girl in his homeschool co-op. What is the best way to communicate boundaries regarding public displays of affection at this stage of his life?
Read MorePosted on 5/26/2018
Preschool has been a wonderful thing for my 5-year old daughter. The two things that were a theme throughout the year, however, were that her teacher told me that my daughter often talked out of...
Read MorePosted on 5/18/2018
Our 8 year old daughter has poor table manners. What is your suggestion on improving them? We have tried nagging (obviously unsuccessful), working on one thing at a time (worked for the first...
Read MorePosted on 5/13/2018
Hello! My 6 and 3 years old sometimes play well together just perfect, but sometimes it is just horribly. 6 years would do something that 3 years doesn’t like or they just can’t share one red...
Read MorePosted on 3/10/2018
Hi, I'm wondering how I can teach my 10 year old to have a kind heart. Her 7 year old sister is always doing sweet things for her without prompting and she sees it modeled between her dad and I...
Read MorePosted on 1/10/2018
We have a hyperactive, strong-willed 5-year-old daughter (and we are learning to get on with this). We would like to know how to approach what we call “multiple offenses”. For instance,...
Read MorePosted on 1/1/2018
Hi there, i have a little 3.5 year old who is completely out of control. I admit we have let him run the house a little bit as he is a little spitfire and makes things unpleasant(ie screams as...
Read MorePosted on 9/4/2017
I have a 7 year old daughter who goes from 0-10 and screams loudly over tiny little things, and everyone rushes to her rescue (except us) when something happens. For instance, if she stubs her...
Read MorePosted on 8/21/2017
A couple of months ago, we started the ticket system on our 5 year old son. It has worked relatively well. There are 2 target behaviors: whining and not listening when he is asked to do...
Read MorePosted on 8/21/2017
I have a 5 year old daughter who will start kindergarten in 4 days. I have used the 6 block chart for behavior issues with good success. For some reason, the last several weeks have seen her...
Read MorePosted on 7/16/2017
Our college student, who holds down a full time job in the summer and a 20-hour part-time job during the school year when she lives on campus, seems incapable or unwilling to follow through on the...
Read MorePosted on 7/16/2017
My one and only gives the vibe she is superior to her classmates by contradicting them, telling them they are wrong or having show off behaviour. I'm afraid she will not have any friends, but am...
Read MorePosted on 7/6/2017
I have read quiet a bit of John's articles, books and listen to his podcasts. He doesn't talk about whining. Our kids drive us absolutely crazy with whining all day long. They complain...
Read MorePosted on 6/11/2017
Our grandchildren, preschool aged, do not eat dinner with their parents, and have not been reared to share a family meal. Consequently, when the family comes to our house for the occasional meal...
Read MorePosted on 5/21/2017
Every time I tell my 3 1/2 year old to do something (ex: put your cup up on the table more instead of on the edge, don't jump around in the kitchen, etc.) she crosses her arms and grunts. Or she...
Read MorePosted on 3/1/2017
Dear John, Our almost-15-yr-old son has been disobeying our rule of no Xbox on school nights but last week was a doozy. When we were away for the weekend, he got his 16-yr-old sister to drive...
Read MorePosted on 2/28/2017
Can you give me your advice on the use of the word "please" when addressing our children? Should we be avoiding this word when issuing instructions to the children, but otherwise it is fine? ...
Read MorePosted on 1/3/2017
Hello, I am doing a miserable job as a parent to my two boys (aged 5 and 3). They are out of hand entirely. We can't get through prayers at the dinner table without at least one of them being...
Read MorePosted on 11/3/2016
My son of 10 yo has autism. He speaks all the time. He interrupts us all the time and doesn't seem to see the signs of others when they are upset about it. When revising with my daughter, he...
Read MorePosted on 11/1/2016
Our 14-year-old son has recently begun using racial slurs in our home, and our efforts to address this issue with words isn't working. What kind of disciplinary action would be appropriate?...
Read MorePosted on 10/31/2016
My 5 year old daughter would rather talk/interact with adults than children her own age. I've always attributed it to her being an only child, despite socialization in daycare and preschool. Now...
Read MorePosted on 9/22/2016
I'm afraid that my 3 year old son has developed a bad habit of swearing, using the "D" word when he is frustrated. I don't think he is just trying to get my reaction either, as he says it when he...
Read MorePosted on 8/27/2016
What are your thoughts on asking if a family has guns in the house (and asking how they are locked up) before letting my children go over to play? Also, what are your thoughts on insisting...
Read MorePosted on 7/31/2016
Hi John- My 3.5 year old daughter is extremely shy with both other children and adults. My husband says he was this way as a child and he turned out just fine, so it's not something I am...
Read MorePosted on 5/30/2016
We've implemented the ticket system at our house with our almost 4 year old about 2 months ago. Our target behavior is "obey the 1st time." It's really great actually! It helped me to communicate...
Read MorePosted on 4/25/2016
My 10 year old daughter is disrespectful to me whenever she has friends over. Unless I remind her to treat me properly before her friends come over, she almost always finds a way to be...
Read MorePosted on 3/8/2016
My four year old girl can be quite contrary and I think I am handling it poorly. For example, this morning I told her to stop talking and eat her cereal. She said, “It’s not cereal, its...
Read MorePosted on 2/2/2016
Our six year old son at times refuses to eat meals that we serve. If he refuses to eat dinner, we have been sending him to bed right away without eating. If it is breakfast or lunch, we send him...
Read MorePosted on 1/14/2016
Hello, My eight year old daughter is 90% of the time a well behaved child who is pleasant to have around and works hard. The last few months she has started rolling her eyes when I speak...
Read MorePosted on 1/6/2016
Once in awhile I will ask my teen daughters to write a short note or give a call to their grandparents or aunt. Usually the letters are when they are thanking them for gifts and otherwise, they...
Read MorePosted on 11/10/2015
Our 4-year old son has been talking back and being disrespectful to me (his mother), his two preschool teachers, and his grandmother. He does not do this with his father. He is usually fairly...
Read MorePosted on 10/19/2015
My 9 year old is in Girl Scouts. We have a meeting once a month. Most of her friends from her class are in her group. She hangs out with one girl in particular whose behavior is unacceptable to...
Read MorePosted on 10/8/2015
I get irritated when I watch my son not using his manners like opening the door for people, if he is about to enter a store he doesn't wait for the person in front of him, or he won't say thank...
Read MorePosted on 7/8/2015
My husband and I are in an endless cycle that is tearing down our relationship. We have 3 boys 4,6 & 9. What I consider unpleasant but normal child behavior (constant interruptions, some degree...
Read MorePosted on 5/2/2015
My 4.5 yr old son often does not respond to adults (and often children) when they greet him or ask him a question. I will ask him a simple question (what do you want to eat at a restaurant) and he...
Read MorePosted on 4/19/2015
What should we do about a snappish teen? What used to be a rare occurrence is now more common than not. We'll ask a normal question and she will bark back an answer like she can't be bothered with...
Read MorePosted on 4/12/2015
Our teen is quick to criticize other's reactions instead of just taking care of the matter at hand. Here is a prime example: she accidentally knocks an item off the shelf. I let out a gasp with...
Read MorePosted on 2/25/2015
My 8 year old daughter frequently complains and whines. She is not disobedient. For example, if she is told to clean her room, she will complain loudly and bitterly and create a lot of drama, but...
Read MorePosted on 2/8/2015
Our 19 month old has just started slapping at us and his big sister (4 1/2 yrs). He is generally a very calm boy but has started using his words for 'no' and 'mine'. He slaps at us when he is...
Read MorePosted on 12/11/2014
I'm a single mom who travels for work. My parents watch the boys when I'm out of town. This morning when I saw my kids for the first time they breezed through the house barely saying hello to me....
Read MorePosted on 10/28/2014
I have two stepsons ages 8 and 5, who have behavioral problems. When they visit our home it is total chaos. They say they don't want to be at our house and just want to go back to their moms....
Read MoreShowing results 1-50 on page 1 of 2.
