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Why doesn't he hand in the homework?

Posted on 2/17/2023

We have a 12 year old son who is in the 7th grade (junior high) this year. He is a good kid who has lots of friends and is very active in sports and does quite well. Our problem this past school...

mom worried 4 yo boy is lying

Posted on 12/30/2022

When do children know/understand what lies are? I have a 4 year old, who sometimes tells fantastical stories that I truly believe he thinks are real. But I know that he is malevolently lying about...

Mentally Drained Mom Seeking Advice

Posted on 9/2/2022

We have a 9 year old girl, 6 year old boy, and 4.5 year old girl. I've read Parenting by The Book twice and The Well Behaved Child twice in the past month. Our 9 year old is the biggest challenge,...

Time for a Reboot

Posted on 5/18/2022

Since the first email our son (8yrs) was operated on for septic arthritis 6 months ago. The pain returned 2weeks ago (now gone). His hip bone has a small weakness and he needs to ensure he has no...

Fifteen-Year-Old Screen Addict

Posted on 4/18/2022

Our 15-year-old recently threw a fit, including punching, cursing and breaking things during the following incidents: 1) Took away make up after sneak purchase of $200 worth of make up without...

It's Not About the Makeup: Time for a Garden Kick

Posted on 3/20/2022

15-year old daughter very obsessed with make-up. Used our Amazon account to buy makeup Products without our knowing till I looked up order history. Took away all her makeup products, went...

Who Are You? (And what have you done with our daughter?)

Posted on 10/26/2021

Since June 2020, my daughter (who is now 14) has become someone I no longer recognize. When school was closed due to COVID-19, I made the terrible choice and let her have her phone 24/7, which has...

Little Liar

Posted on 10/21/2021

My 3.5 year old daughter has begun to lie all the time. She was always more prone to lying than her older brother, but lately it has been taken to the extreme. I have read Dr. Rosemond’s books and...

Ask Them No Questions, and They Will Tell You No Lies

Posted on 9/28/2021

Hi! My seven year old was trained to fall asleep (8pm) on his own and he knows he’s to stay in bed until 7am. He has been waking up in the night around 2am and often stays up for the rest of the...

Time for A Garden Kick

Posted on 8/27/2021

We have our 12 year old son's phone locked for certain reasons. If his grades slip below a B we lock it so he can only call family, if he is disrespectful or doesn't complete his chores, his...

8 year old Caught Cheating (Again)

Posted on 1/31/2021

My 8 year old daughter was just caught cheating on a school assignment for the second time. The first time, she had filled in false numbers on her reading log to make it look like she had read...

Getting Tough With 8-Year Olds Behaviors

Posted on 1/13/2021

Me again! I feel like I’m asking weekly questions during this season of parenting. I’ve written about my sneaky 8-year old and I just need some clarification. I’ve read The Well-Behaved Child and...

Teens and Technology: Education is Key for Safety

Posted on 10/14/2020

We have not allowed our 3 children ages 12, 14 and 15 to have cell phones. They also do not have Social Media accounts. They are allowed to text or FaceTime friends or cousins using our phones. ...

Dealing with 6-Year-Old's Backtalk and Lies

Posted on 10/9/2020

My husband and I are taking custody of a six year old little boy (no relation to us) who has been abandoned by his meth addicted mother, and his father whom he's never met is in prison for...

3D Snapshot of the Mien of a Tween: not a Pretty Picture

Posted on 9/23/2020

My 12 year old son is stealing money out of my purse. He has a long history of defiance, sneakiness, and lying. He is also disrespectful, and disobedient. We suspect he's been stealing money for...

Don't Play The Lying Game

Posted on 8/29/2020

My 7-year-old daughter has begun to tell lies. She was an honest child but lately, she has been lying so much to get herself out of trouble. She has started playing with a neighbor who lies and...

6 YO Girl Behaving Inappropriately with Friends and Lying About It

Posted on 6/2/2020

Private parts My 6 year old daughter and her friend, a boy have gotten in to trouble lately, because they keep trying to sneak off and pee in front of each other. I’m concerned because they...

Don't take it personally

Posted on 5/2/2020

My 14 year old got a phone for christmas this year much to my regret. We put guidelines and restrictions in place to monitor her. I have her phone after bedtime and in looking at her texting...

Misbehavior list increases

Posted on 4/14/2020

Please help! Our almost 5-year old daughter behaves terribly and we do not know where to start. We read the book Well-behaved Child but we also need individual consultation with you. A little...

Spiraling Seven Year Old

Posted on 3/2/2020

I would like some advice on how to handle our 7 year old son. Our family has had an extremely tough season. We had to re-home the dog my children grew up with (my sons best buddy) due to my sons...

Time for a Reset

Posted on 1/12/2020

Clarification to my follow up question: When you say impose consequences... often my consequences are extra chores. I do not know what else to offer as a consequence. They're too young to take...

Alpha Speech is Key for Getting Kids to Obey

Posted on 1/10/2020

I have 2 girls, 9 & 6. They will not obey. They’ll lie that they did something and I have to verify completion or it’s never done. I used the ticket system and I had to take away every privilege...

Managing Misbehavior on Vacation

Posted on 11/16/2019

After a long string of troubling incidents involving our 7yr old (soon to be 8) son, we decided to try John's "kicking out of the garden" strategy. We are going on vacation (gone 9 days) next...

Prevarications, Pranks and Privileges

Posted on 11/1/2019

My 5 year old child seems to be developing a habit for lying. Last night, he stayed with a friend and her two kids while I attended a meeting. On our way home, he told me this..."Zachary did...

When Food Issues Become Power Struggles

Posted on 9/5/2019

I asked a question about my 8 year old sneaking sweets - we have since carried out your suggestions - but it is not working. She looks for other ways to get sweets. We allowed her to buy some cup...

A Lying, Stealing Moment

Posted on 8/26/2019

Last night my 7-year-old confessed that she had opened a package and eaten some candy with her 11-year-old sibling that morning at the store. I had no idea this happened. I briefly discussed that...

6 YO Girl Lies, Defies, & Connives

Posted on 7/26/2019

After reading The Well-Behaved Child last spring, I started my then 5yo daughter on the ticket system. It worked quite well. Generally, I was already doing many of things Dr. Rosemond suggested...

8 year old sneaking treats and lying about it

Posted on 7/24/2019

Hi there, my 8 yo daughter has been sneaking sweets and biscuits from the pantry - and throwing out/hiding her fruit and sometimes other stuff she doesn’t like from her packed lunches. She has...

16 YO Boy Loses Job, Lies, & Vapes

Posted on 7/8/2019

Our 16 you son was fired from his first job today at a pet grooming shop. We know the owner as we've been taking our pets there for over 9 years. The owner called us to explain that our son had...

15 yo Daughter and Foolish Friends

Posted on 6/15/2019

15 year old daughter has been vaping, possible drinking & lying. She has put inappropriate photos referencing vaping, getting high and raiding our liquor cabinet on her Instagram only seen by...

Why 17 YO Boy Lied?

Posted on 5/17/2019

Last week my 17 year old son lied to us. Blatantly and obviously. Together we attended a school band event, the kids were allowed to stay for a DJ and dance. My son texted me and asked if it...

Nail polish all over the counter again!

Posted on 4/28/2019

About a year ago my daughter and her friend accidentally spilled some nail polish on the counter and tried to cover it up and not tell us. She was punished by cleaning all the bathrooms in our...

Where's That Wonderful Daughter?

Posted on 12/12/2018

My 8-year-old daughter has been a wonderful child until about a month ago. She’s lying a lot, not doing what we ask her to do, and she talks back. I have asked her what is wrong, and she tells me...

Dad's Not on Board

Posted on 11/4/2018

Hi there, Susan Morley recently answered a question I posed concerning my son who has been caught with vape materials. She recommended strict consequences which I want to impose. His father,...

Peers Will Make or Break 15 YO Girl

Posted on 10/24/2018

15 year old daughter confessed to me last night that she went to the park before school and had sex with a boy a few weeks ago. She has had her period, so she doesn't believe she is pregnant. She...

Is Mom Micro-managing?

Posted on 10/15/2018

I just found my 14 y/o daughter has been hiding an electronic tablet in her room. She uses it "for homework and to talk to friends via instagram". She brought it from her dads house. She says I...

Rebellious 17 YO Daughter

Posted on 9/19/2018

my 17 year old daughter continues to lie to us. At age 15 she snuck out and bought a cell phone and lies have continued since then. She has stolen money from me. She just totaled the car we let...

taking back authority over 7yo

Posted on 8/12/2018

I recently discovered Mr. Rosemond's books. My husband and I are now implementing his ideas with our 7 year old son who gets easily frustrated when he doesn't get his way, ignores our demands,...

6 year Old Fibs

Posted on 6/5/2018

We are concerned about lying in our six year old son. For example, if asked to do something and he doesn't do it, his reply will often be, "I didn't hear you". He likes to tease his little 3...

Pre-teen demonstrates dishonesty and disobedience

Posted on 4/26/2018

Your response to my 4/18 statement is incorrect: “I see that you have asked one question in the forum, and that has been answered, so if you've asked other questions, we don't have a record of...

10 yo, Punish for Truth Telling

Posted on 4/17/2018

My 10 year old son stole his little brothers candy he had saved to give to a friend to try and get invited to his birthday. He did tell us the truth but what kind of punishment for stealing and...

School Toy Story

Posted on 3/29/2018

Hi, I have a question regarding my almost 7 year old daughter. Last year she got kicked out of kindergarten after 3 suspensions in the first few months of school. She was then sent to a...

Adopted 5 yo's Past Trauma

Posted on 3/13/2018

Dr. Rosemond, My friend adopted a child 5 years ago from another country. She has been told by psychologists that he has Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and PTSD from the trauma he experienced...

5 yro trouble listening and lying

Posted on 2/10/2018

Our 5 year old daughter is home with our nanny 4 days per week with our 2 year old son. Her behavior has been poor lately and she has trouble listening and wants to be in charge. We transitioned...

Teens and driving.

Posted on 1/30/2018

We told our 16 1/2 year old son that he must maintain a C-average and have no major behavioral violations for 3 months in order to obtain his driver's license. He does online schooling at home...

Persistent Lying

Posted on 1/14/2018

I am having a continuous issue with my daughter lying about going to boys' houses. She always tells me she is going to a girl friend's but is really going to a boys. Our rules are 1. Be honest...

Too many chances leads to deceit.

Posted on 12/13/2017

My 15 year old asked if she could have Netflix. We told her we’d like to see her show us that she can manage her time better before we say yes. Gave her some thoughts on what we would like to...

Daily Report

Posted on 11/12/2017

Our 9 year old son has been doing a daily report with his teacher for most of the school year. Last week my husband and I went on a week trip and the kids stayed at our home with their...

The Phone is Not the Problem

Posted on 10/4/2017

So, in response to the answer to my question I have a few other questions. In the past few days a lot has transpired and my husband and I really had it out over my son. I understand a lot of his...

5 yo lying with no remorse

Posted on 9/19/2017

We have a 5 year old daughter we are fostering. She's been with us for a little over 2 months. She is pleasant enough, but she has no remorse for things she does wrong (big or little). We've been...

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