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Talking to an 11 year old not working

Posted 1 week ago

I am having issues with my 11 yo son. He recently got his phone taken away for looking up inappropriate things. He also isn't able to play video games on the weekend unless his teacher signs a...

Guidance on Son's Challenges

Posted 1 month ago

Our 4th child is 9 years old (we have 6 total), and was recently evaluated as having a few diagnosis issues via psychology office. One of them being "oppositional defiant disorder." We have been...

Little Miss Dependent

Posted on 2/4/2025

Our just-turned-six-year-old daughter, an only child, wants our constant attention and does not want to be alone when we are at home. She wants us to stay with her longer when we put her to...

When asking doesn't work

Posted on 2/1/2025

Most evenings when we ask my daughters to clean up (6.5 and 4.5 years old) the 4 year old does one or all of the following; whine, says she can't do it, says it's too much, gets distracted, slowly...

Keep It Simple

Posted on 1/28/2025

We reached out in October regarding our 4-year-old son's hitting peers and defiance towards teachers at school. Mr. Rosemond recommended, and we are implementing the "on-call" parent, picking him...

Teachable moments

Posted on 1/25/2025

Wonderful advice. Thank you so much! Your books are amazing; we love them. I just purchased and listened to The 7 Biggest Mistakes Parents Make. Our problem is that we were more "buddy buddy"...

Change your parenting direction

Posted on 1/23/2025

My son who is 8 is being disruptive before/during schooltime. He thinks it is funny. He tried to stuff someone's lunch into someone else's lunchbox (not even his own) yesterday. He takes things...

Getting creative with your space

Posted on 12/29/2024

My four-year-old daughter shares a bedroom with her seventeen-year-old sister. Can you recommend an alternative consequence for tickets that would be as effective as sending her to her room for...

How to hold 5 yro's accountable

Posted on 12/14/2024

I am a single mom of twin boys that are 5. Their father and I have been in court most of the last year in a custody battle. My boys are typically well behaved thanks to reading your books...

Should I be concerned about what my children think of ME!!!!!!

Posted on 11/16/2024

What should the response be when my 6 year old daughter says "you dont love me," or "I don't think you love me" when something is taken away from her or she's punished?

Time for a visit from a coach

Posted on 11/5/2024

I am a single mom of 4. My childrens ears have officially stopped working and it's as if I'm not giving any instructions at all. The youngest (1.5) is now picking up on some bad behaviors. How do...

Change of focus is required

Posted on 11/3/2024

Our 4.5 year old (only child) daughter is incredibly intelligent, chatty, bright and social. We enrolled her in the local play school for socialization, and she goes to a local day home one day a...

Misbehavior at School Prompted Note From Principal

Posted on 10/28/2024

I received the following from our the principal today regarding his behavior at school and need help. I'm sorry to send this on a Monday but I was quite taken by Lee's behavior this morning. We...

5 YO Needs to Act His Age

Posted on 10/10/2024

Hello, our just turned 5 year old is wonderful in school and even won an award for being the most kind in his class. However at home, he whines, acts like he can’t do things, and cries about...

Parents are the star of the show

Posted on 9/28/2024

5 year old daughter habitually lies. Doesn’t take care of the things she owns. We have taken away everything in her room to give it back when we’ve seen progress. Shows no respect to older...

Look Out Boss, Here Comes the Baby!

Posted on 9/6/2024

I have a 6-year-old daughter and a 3-year-old son. My daughter is the typical first child who is bossy, little mama and directs her brother frequently on what to do, not to do etc. She’s a...

4YO's Behavior Wreaking Havoc

Posted on 9/5/2024

Our 4yr old son went from a local daycare where the children were allowed to run wild and is now in a private Montessori school. He will not respond to redirection, ignores instructions & lashes...

Time to Put a Stop to 9 YO Whiner

Posted on 8/31/2024

Hello, my 9 year old son tends to whine a lot. Asking him to grab something for me has him stomping, fussing and dragging his feet. When asking him to come review his schoolwork or play a game...

Demanding Eye Contact from a Toddler - Yes? No?

Posted on 8/29/2024

I’m currently reading the well behaved child. My son turns 3 in October. It says not to micromanage and say “look at me when I’m talking to you” but I would like my children to look at someone in...

Building a parenting framework

Posted on 8/29/2024

I have a 19 month old daughter and a 35 month old son. I’m currently reading the well behaved child and reading the sibling rivalry part however it says 3.5 years and up for the tickets. My son...

Is Age 8 Too Young to Do Homework Independently?

Posted on 8/26/2024

Hello. We have a just-turned 8 year old son who gets easily distracted. We have met with his teachers to rule out ADHD. My simple question is this: is 8 years old too young to hold them to a...

MORE SOCIOPATHIC BEHAVIOR FROM 15 YO GIRL

Posted on 8/23/2024

Thank you for your reply. I actually sent both parents a description of sociopathy after the thefts and asked that they send her to counseling. My husband agreed but his ex emphatically disagreed...

Should 8YO Be Allowed to Quit Soccer?

Posted on 8/22/2024

My 8 year old daughter wanted to sign up for her fourth year of soccer so we did so. After a handful of practices and a game she wants to quit. She says she hates everything about it and hates...

Address the parenting issue first.

Posted on 8/22/2024

My 14 yr old dtr is in rebellion. She displays good manners. But when she does not get her way she throws a tantrum and spews false accusations against her dad and I. Her IQ was eval'd at an...

Taming the Terrible Twos

Posted on 8/21/2024

Our 2 yr son is very disrespectful and has a fiery temper. He loves to hit and say “no” whenever we cross his will or sometimes even when he thinks trouble is coming. The rebellious, defiant...

5 YO's Low Tolerance for Frustration is Frustrating Mom

Posted on 8/20/2024

Our 5 year old son has little control over his emotions. A year ago it was mainly struggling with perfectionism and crying about not doing something the “right” way, lately it’s a big outburst...

Be a Confident Leader

Posted on 8/19/2024

When using the tickets system with children (3-6 years old), how long should you give them to obey an instruction before a ticket is taken? Should you give them a minute or so grace period after...

Mom Concerned About Neighborhood Playtime Discord

Posted on 8/18/2024

I have four children in elementary school. They play with a neighborhood boy that is a few years older—so the neighbor boy is the oldest. I don’t get involved with their play, but I do...

Teaching Respect

Posted on 8/18/2024

My child lost all her tickets yesterday and then spent the remainder of the day in her room. I removed all the toys but I did leave several books. Today I found out that she had ripped the front...

10 & 12 year old brothers, "highly sensitive" and "strong willed"

Posted on 8/17/2024

I am on board with all the traditional discipline "like grandma did it." We have 5 children ranging in age now 24 down to 10. The 10-year-old son has all the signs of being what I understand to be...

Enter the Doctor

Posted on 8/15/2024

I have a 4-year-old who has been having sleeping problems which started about 4 months ago, out of the blue. He had been a good sleeper prior. He decided he was scared at night and didn't want to...

Raising a Good Sport

Posted on 8/8/2024

How do I help my 8-year-old cope with losing?

Change starts with me.

Posted on 7/29/2024

Hi, What do I need to change /action I need to take in myself when my 16 year old daughter blatantly isolates to her room from me when I'm home does not make me explode in frustration? She...

Troublemaking Siblings

Posted on 7/12/2024

Our two youngest children, when together, are troublemakers. They are 6 and 7, but when they are together they revert to large babies—don’t do their chores, lay around, giggle, tickling,...

When Phases and a New Baby Coming Collide

Posted on 7/9/2024

Hi, we transitioned my son to a full bed because he began climbing out of his crib, and it was becoming unsafe. He has always been a great independent sleeper. However, now he requires either me...

Taking a different path to change.

Posted on 7/8/2024

Asking for my sister-in-law: She took in our orphaned niece when she was 6, she is now 13. Niece was neglected and abused, just like her troubled mom who was adopted by my in-law’s as a teen....

Time for a New Approach with 6YO

Posted on 7/6/2024

My son turns 6 next month and has hit a stage where if I use alpha speech and he doesn’t like what we’re doing, he follows me around whining or trying to convince me otherwise. If I tell him to go...

No fair rules and personal responsibility

Posted on 7/5/2024

My 10-year-old daughter is insolent and disobedient at home, especially towards my husband, her stepfather for the past year ("you're not my father"). She doesn't like the new rules that have been...

Recognizing the Value of Childhood Chores

Posted on 7/5/2024

Hi there! I am wanting to know what chores I should expect from my three daughters, 3.5yo twins and 6.5yo. They help out here and there, but Dad and I are tired of doing all the clean up and no...

What mom says GOES!

Posted on 6/26/2024

Hello, I have a son who is 2.5 and my daughter who is 17 months. My son was a great listener when we were out and he was not in a stroller. If we say no or stop he would listen or come back to...

It's Always Something

Posted on 6/21/2024

Good day. My son (7.5) has come a long way on many behavioral issues. One infuriating thing we are still having trouble with is his tendency to break things. I get the impulse to "test"...

No pass for naughty behavior.

Posted on 5/28/2024

My 5 year old has apraxia of speech and does both speech therapy and OT. He is very smart but gets frustrated very easily when things are difficult. He will be starting Kindergarten at the school...

Why Is My 5 Year Old a Mean Girl?

Posted on 5/7/2024

Our 5-year-old daughter has been acting aggressively towards others (classmates in school AND her 7-year-old brother) when either she doesn't like what they do or they won't let her do whatever...

Post Vacay Reset

Posted on 5/5/2024

We recently went on a trip that was 13 days long. There was lots of drive time as we went to see different friends, family, and attended a wedding. Before the trip I could see that our two kids (3...

Moody Blues

Posted on 4/27/2024

Our 10-year-old son has started having huge mood swings. He gets easily angry, grumpy, and irritable. What is the best way to handle mood swings? We provide consequences for misbehavior, but how...

How to Deal with 13-Year-Old’s Misbehavior at Home

Posted on 4/19/2024

Do you recommend the Ticket system for a 13-year-old girl who is not getting along with a younger sibling, and is very stubborn about getting her way? She does well in school and is respectful...

Frustration Stifles Change

Posted on 4/14/2024

I am feeling a great sense of failure because I've been trying to apply John’s principles for most of my child's life and this is where we are: <uL> <il>• 16-year-old son is addicted to his...

Son and Mom Problem

Posted on 4/9/2024

Hi. 13-Year-old boy. Home school, avid reader, no screens, movies on weekend. Tennis player. Plays outside. I love everything Rosemond. But I have never been great at putting it into effect. My...

Should My Teen Miss Prom?

Posted on 4/9/2024

What is your advice regarding grounding teenagers such that they miss major milestone events or rites of passage? I would greatly like to avoid punishments such as missing prom or graduation;...

Don't talk so much

Posted on 3/21/2024

My 4 year old daughter has been having problems listening and following directions, particularly at her after school program. She gets written up at least once a week and has been suspended from...

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