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Early Riser

Posted 3 days ago

We are, and have been, dealing with a host of behavior issues with our "strong willed" 6-year-old daughter (who, by the way, is apparently an angel and wonderful role model in school). One of the...

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Setting the Expectation for Better Grades

Posted 1 week ago

My 11 yr old son has very average grades. He had 2 C's on his report card, and I did not pressure him or get involved with his schoolwork very much this past 6th grade year. Should I create more...

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If it Feels Good...

Posted 1 week ago

I am a stay at home mom who has 4 kids, ages 5, 4, 2, and 6 months. My 4 year old daughter started masturbating or "rolling," as we call it, around 2.5 years old. She seems to do this just when...

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Time to implement the Rosemond information.

Posted 1 week ago

Dear Parent Guru, My daughter, thirteen now, is our only girl, and she has 3 brothers. She is by far our hardest child to parent. She is strong willed, argumentative, lazy, and completely...

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Normal Preschooler!

Posted 3 weeks ago

Preschool has been a wonderful thing for my 5-year old daughter. The two things that were a theme throughout the year, however, were that her teacher told me that my daughter often talked out of...

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Prepping a 6 y/o for Surgery

Posted 3 weeks ago

What would be the best way to prepare a 6 year old boy for an upcoming surgery? Do I let him know about it a few days in advance? Tell him the morning of? He is a worrier, so I'm not sure how...

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Obedience over Exasperation

Posted on 5/18/2018

Hello! We are currently working on one misbehavior of 6 years old son. He comes home from school and would not do what he has to do- wash hands, change cloth, do homework, eat and after do...

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Leadership parenting is not always popular ...but worth it.

Posted on 5/7/2018

Hi again! I asked a question about my now-17-year-old son a couple of months ago. I followed the advice given, as well as that in John's book about teens and as result, surprise surprise, my son...

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Get everything in writing when it comes to loaning adult children money

Posted on 5/2/2018

Two and a half years ago my 37 year old daughter and her husband needed a car to move from New York to California since he had lost his job but had another in California. So I sold my daughter...

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Mom's "No" is daughter's trigger.

Posted on 4/25/2018

Every single time I have to tell my 10 year old daughter "No" about anything she completely freaks out!! Last night she decided at 8pm she wanted Starbucks. I explained to her that I would be...

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Rude Teen Needs Wake-Up Call

Posted on 4/20/2018

My son just turned 13. Since he started 7th grade in September he has been rude, disrespectful and mean. Its like he goes out of his way to make me, my 11 y/o son and 8 y/o daughter upset. Every...

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The Better Half

Posted on 4/19/2018

I have 2 step-daughters, ages 11 and 8, who spend half of their time with us and half with their mom. We don’t allow them to use any form of social media and have explained to them the dangers....

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Learn about parent leadership then be a parent leader.

Posted on 4/10/2018

ParentGuru, Our son is 9. He lies and deceives his parents (us) and won’t obey us on most tasks, including his chores and schoolwork. He is a gifted student and homeschooled. How can we get...

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John's Books Available in Spanish

Posted on 4/7/2018

We have 2 children, 5 years old and 2.5 years old. Both kids have had the same nanny since our oldest was 6 months old. She is wonderful and caring, loves the kids and is very dependable and good...

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Should I only read John's books?

Posted on 4/4/2018

hi - my church is recommending book called "Parenting: 14 Gospel Principles that can radically change your family" by Paul Tripp. I'm wondering if John is familiar with this book for philosophy...

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Ditch the Guilt!

Posted on 4/2/2018

This week I had a friend of mine and her child come to stay at my home from out of town. My 3 year old son and her son are the same age, and they have been enjoying playing together. On the third...

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School Toy Story

Posted on 3/29/2018

Hi, I have a question regarding my almost 7 year old daughter. Last year she got kicked out of kindergarten after 3 suspensions in the first few months of school. She was then sent to a...

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Strategy to break old parenting habits.

Posted on 3/29/2018

How do you avoid using behaviorist strategies in discipline with children? Old habits die hard. Would love to know some tips to avoiding bribing, etc children to obey.

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15 YO Mean to Sister

Posted on 3/21/2018

15 year old son is saying mean things about his sister at school and to boys in her grade.

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Adjusting to new family system

Posted on 3/21/2018

My son Carter is 13 and in 7th grade, he is suffering from anxiety and depression. I have recently gotten married, one year ago this month, and my husband has 3 other children (16 boy, 12 boy,...

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It's Only a Phase!

Posted on 3/21/2018

My 3 year old child started the ticket system with 5 tickets in October of 2017. By January of 2018 we had a changed child on our hands and we were able to put away the ticket system. All of...

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Emancipation Proclamation

Posted on 3/18/2018

My 22 year old son graduated recently with excellent grades and a degree in computer science. He’s moved home but shows no signs of wanting to find a job. He’s never had a job except for cutting...

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Set the standard and hold them to it.

Posted on 3/18/2018

Hi there, Thank you for all the advice you have given me re: my out of control 3.5 yo son. He’s been kicked out of the garden for hitting mum - and successfully strung together 28 days of not...

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Self Control?

Posted on 3/12/2018

Thank you for answering my question from earlier in the week. I appreciate Parent Guru & the role of the doctor in my life. My sons 3 qtr report came home on Thursday of course I knew he had...

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Sticky Fingers

Posted on 3/10/2018

Our 5 year old has been having a problem with thinking he can take things that belong to others in the house. Recently we found a pack of gum that we do not remember purchasing. We are pretty...

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Two out of Three

Posted on 3/5/2018

My 9+ year old talks back to teachers and classmates, calls other students names, won't follow directions of teachers and refuses to do what he's been told (one teacher captured it perfectly...

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Parent leaders regulate their emotions.

Posted on 3/5/2018

John Rosemond and staff, We recently got placed with a foster child in our home, 5 years old. We realized she isn’t as good at the ABCs as she should be, so I sat down to teach her. I wrote...

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Should parents intervene in 8yro friends

Posted on 3/1/2018

Hello- For the past 2 years, our 8 yo son has been in the same classroom as another boy and they have become friends (at school and play sports together). Our son has recently told us that this...

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Costly behavior

Posted on 2/28/2018

My 9yo son has broken household items in fits of anger over the years. Most recently a kitchen chair that he threw and a window that he punched. We have kicked him out of the garden and he has...

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Solitary confinement

Posted on 2/23/2018

What do I do when I kick my kids (6, 5, and 4) out of the garden and the LIKE it!! All three of my girls are upstairs in their room laughing and jumping on their beds. I took their bed frames...

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Tumultuous Trio

Posted on 2/23/2018

Where do we start? We have 3 girls age 6, 5, and 4. They are ALL out of control. Reading through the Well Behaved Child I'm overwhelmed with all the methods. My husband and I have started...

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Time for a coach.

Posted on 2/20/2018

Dear John, our 7 yr old son has been masturbating since he was 2. In the beginning we told him he was only allowed to do that in his room, but then he started doing it in front of anyone including...

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Indulging an adopted son.

Posted on 2/6/2018

Hi There. We have a 12 year old son whom we adopted at birth. After many years of waiting, we just adopted a newborn girl. Our son loves her very much and is very loving towards her. But, he...

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12 year old yelling regarding punishments

Posted on 2/1/2018

This is a follow up to the question on 10-17-17 concerning "yelling" from our 12 yr. old. I have thought over your response and realize my question was rushed and unclear. We have all the...

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Mom was right to override tickets

Posted on 1/24/2018

HI there, Thank you for your prompt responses on my questions including taking back control and being a parent-centred family. The children have misbehaved so much (during the holidays) that I...

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Mom lost in daughter's orbit

Posted on 1/23/2018

My daughter is five years old and while she has many wonderful qualities. She bright, articulate, and funny. There are certain behaviors however that drive me crazy! I have read the Well Behaved...

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How to Create a Parent-Centered Home with Young Children

Posted on 1/19/2018

I'm needing clarification on what it means to be a parent-centred home, rather than a child-centred home when we have youngish child of 3.5 and 6.5. Could you direct me to resources for guidance...

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Identifying the real problem.

Posted on 1/19/2018

I have a 15 year old son who makes really good grades in school. But he also is getting in trouble at school for various things with his "friends", one of which I do not like. My son has been...

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3.5 year old boy hitting his mother

Posted on 1/16/2018

Hi there, thank you for your response on my previous question re: out of control 3.5 year old boy. We have now started to move him OUT of the centre of the family but it's not been easy. We...

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Daughter choosing Dad

Posted on 1/13/2018

Now my daughter is with her biological father who rented an extended stay for himself and her close to school, so she can finish school now. It's her last year and she needs to start applying for...

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5 year old table manners

Posted on 1/10/2018

We have a hyperactive, strong-willed 5-year-old daughter (and we are learning to get on with this). We would like to know how to approach what we call “multiple offenses”. For instance,...

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Moving Towards Leadership Parenting

Posted on 1/10/2018

I'm a single mom of three. 14 yr boy, 11 yr boy/girl twins. My daughter seems to do everything to NOT do what I ask her to do. She eventually does it, but not before struggling to stand up or...

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Difficulties of divorce parenting.

Posted on 1/9/2018

In a recent column Dr. Rosemond mentioned that respect is something which is claimed by parents, rather than something that is earned or entitled. I would like clarification on this point as it...

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Parental Rights and Decisions

Posted on 1/8/2018

I had a big fight with my daughter, she snapped and started hitting me. My husband, who's her stepdad, was trying to stop her by grabbing her hands and pulling her away. I called the police...

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Family sick of 4 yo tyrant

Posted on 1/3/2018

My four year old son is ridiculous at home. He is constantly taking mean to all of us, does stuff on purpose he knows he not supposed too, is loud, annoys our dog constantly. We have done the...

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Pre-Schooler Stuck in Season 1

Posted on 1/1/2018

Hi there, i have a little 3.5 year old who is completely out of control. I admit we have let him run the house a little bit as he is a little spitfire and makes things unpleasant(ie screams as...

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3 YO "Catching" Whining Bug from 2 YO

Posted on 12/31/2017

My 2 year old boy has really developed a whiny attitude. I know this is normal for a 2 year old based on what I've read in Rosemonds book about the transition from 2 to 3 but it has also started...

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Disrespect from a 13 y/o boy

Posted on 12/29/2017

My 13 yr old son is disrespectful to his Dad! My son knows how to push his buttons to the point my husband says hurtful words like "you're a bad human" and loses control and starts to yell. I do...

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Revisiting Sleeping Dilemma with 9 Year Old

Posted on 12/21/2017

Hi. Can I use the ticket system for a 9yr old boy who won't sleep in his own bed? And can you tell me how the ticket system works? Thank You

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Time Out With Tickets?

Posted on 11/28/2017

We just started the ticket system with our three-year-old and five-year-old. We have done this with our five-year-old in the past and we appreciate how it works and how effective it can be....

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