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4 yro not listening

Posted 1 week ago

Good afternoon. I am still struggling with my 4 year old son. He has a lot of trouble listening to directions, no matter what consequences have been put in place. We've taken away privileges, put...

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Change takes time.

Posted 1 week ago

Our 4.5 y.o. grandson has recently started having issues with rage and uncontrollable tantrums. Today, in the midst of one of his outbursts (tired and angry about having to leave a fun-filled day...

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phone use for 23 yo

Posted 1 week ago

HI, My husband and I have been married 2 years. I have 2 boys, 15 and 17, who live with us half the time. He has 2 boys, 23 and 20, who are rarely at our house because they are in college. All 4...

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11 m, 3.5 and 7yrs Road-trip Remedies

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hello! We have three usually well behaved children who were all raised on the Parenting By the Book philosophy. They sleep in their own beds, do normal age appropriate chores, have normal sibling...

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Book Trouble

Posted 2 weeks ago

My almost 4 year old tears books, as in the covers off or page(s) out of books. We have removed all books from his room. We have found that when we do find a book that is torn it is a result of...

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18m & 6 yrs Daughters Dealing with Dad's Death

Posted 3 weeks ago

Does John have any writings on children dealing with the death of a parent? My 37yo husband suffered a heart attack and passed away while we were on a family vacation last month (totally...

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Mom of twin girls isn't having fun being a Mom.

Posted on 8/20/2018

Hi team Rosemond, I need a pep talk. My twins are 4 years old in December, both girls. They have been raised Rosemond style from the start and are good kids. However, for whatever reason, I...

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6 yo Throwing Wits Ending Tantrums

Posted on 8/17/2018

I am at my wit’s end. My 6 year old is making life miserable for our household. She is very strong willed and gets very angry easily. At school she gets certificates for her “model behavior”....

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working parents with a 3 yro

Posted on 8/14/2018

Our girl will be 3 beginning of November. She is going to Montessori School 5 days a week from 9am till 5:30pm. We are dance teachers, we teach adults at our own Argentine Tango Studio, so most...

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Screen time is all up to you!

Posted on 8/13/2018

I am at my wits end with screen time and Fort Night. I try and stay by a limited number of minutes and it’s never enough and always ends up in a huge battle . I give him an hour he takes five...

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Unmotivated Teenage Boy

Posted on 8/12/2018

My teenage son is not interested in engaging in anything that requires effort. He gives up on everything he tries after just one attempt and after much coaxing and prodding, refuses to try again....

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taking back authority over 7yo

Posted on 8/12/2018

I recently discovered Mr. Rosemond's books. My husband and I are now implementing his ideas with our 7 year old son who gets easily frustrated when he doesn't get his way, ignores our demands,...

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Overwhelmed Mom wants to take back her authority, but can't stop yelling

Posted on 8/7/2018

My son is extremely defiant and NOTHING we have tried thus far has made a difference. Spanking him has to be done several times over, and is always accompanied by screaming, blaming, back-talk,...

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Grandma custody of 4yro

Posted on 8/3/2018

My 4 year old Grandson who has always lived with me seems to be having some new concerns regarding his Mom. His Mom, has not seen him since Christmas Day, and has not contacted me to do so. Yes,...

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Nip Out-of-Control Behavior in the Bud

Posted on 7/31/2018

How do I apply John Rosemond's recommendations with three completely out-of-control boys (ages 5, 7, 9)? They don't follow any of the rules, regard all property in the house as their own (tools,...

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Three year old adapting to changes

Posted on 7/25/2018

Our daughter turned 3 in May and it was around that time that we became aware of John Rosemond's books. We learnt that we were not authoritative in our parenting style nor did we use alpha speech,...

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The magic wand of threats

Posted on 7/18/2018

I have a 13 year old step son. He's threatened suicide for 2 years now and now he's threatening to hurt others, including his mom, his father and me. We have him talking to a therapist and...

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9 YO Daughter In Need Of Wake Up Call

Posted on 7/14/2018

My 9 year old daughter is defiant and refuses to go to her room when disciplined. She is too big and strong for me to carry her and she won’t stay even if I manage to get her there. She feels...

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Nixing Negative Talk

Posted on 7/11/2018

My 13 year old son is Negative Nellie and complains about everything. And by everything I mean everything. This behavior really started in February of this year when we sold our home but has...

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Reining in Mouthy Eleven Year Old

Posted on 7/9/2018

Hello, John and coaches, I really need help with my eleven year old. She just is so mentally exhausting to me and my husband. She is extremely strong willed and argues everything with me. I am...

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Grow a Man by Growing Flowers

Posted on 7/8/2018

Hi. After being at a 4 hour playdate, my 10 yr old still makes me feel bad for not playing with him when he gets home. How do I handle a 10 yr old boy who needs to be entertained constantly? Is it...

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'Tis the Season of Leaving and Cleaving

Posted on 7/3/2018

My son has joined my practice which was always our plan. He brought his girlfriend (also a dr & now is wife) back. They lived with us for 2 years. I trained them, shared my practice & they kept...

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Preparing children for Grandma's death

Posted on 7/1/2018

We have a 2.5 year old and a 5.5 year old; also have a niece and nephew that are 7 and 11 years old. My mother is dying of a terminal cancer and is now on hospice. We have been slowly telling the...

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4 year old won't play by herself

Posted on 6/29/2018

I have two children. A two year old and four year old. I have followed Dr. Rosemond’s advice from the start with the two year old and there is a night and day difference between their demeanors...

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Following up with 12 y/o's Sensitivity Issues

Posted on 6/27/2018

Thank you for your response to my question about my 12 year old daughters sensitivity "issues". Later that day, she threw a huge fit over her smart phone and computer as well as us not...

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12 y/o sensitivities most likely manipulative behavior

Posted on 6/21/2018

My almost 12 year old daughter has been having issues with visual/hearing/touch sensitivities that started when she was 9. These issues have gotten to the point of disrupting not only her life,...

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9 year old boy needs mom to say it one time!

Posted on 6/21/2018

I sure appreciated the response from Katherine Saltzberg (Leadership is Always Plan A) to my question. Can Katherine or someone else please read my initial question and then expand on her comment...

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18 Month Old Wants Constant Attention

Posted on 6/19/2018

Our almost 18 month old has started following me around the house most of the day trying to demand my attention. She doesn’t want to play on her own or fall for my distractions. She has started...

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Leadership is always Plan A!

Posted on 6/15/2018

For the past couple of years, my husband and I have been using "charts" with our two kids, now ages 7 (girl) and 9 (boy). The charts were used primarily for when the kids "forgot" to do their...

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Early Riser

Posted on 6/14/2018

We are, and have been, dealing with a host of behavior issues with our "strong willed" 6-year-old daughter (who, by the way, is apparently an angel and wonderful role model in school). One of the...

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Setting the Expectation for Better Grades

Posted on 6/9/2018

My 11 yr old son has very average grades. He had 2 C's on his report card, and I did not pressure him or get involved with his schoolwork very much this past 6th grade year. Should I create more...

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If it Feels Good...

Posted on 6/8/2018

I am a stay at home mom who has 4 kids, ages 5, 4, 2, and 6 months. My 4 year old daughter started masturbating or "rolling," as we call it, around 2.5 years old. She seems to do this just when...

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Time to implement the Rosemond information.

Posted on 6/6/2018

Dear Parent Guru, My daughter, thirteen now, is our only girl, and she has 3 brothers. She is by far our hardest child to parent. She is strong willed, argumentative, lazy, and completely...

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Normal Preschooler!

Posted on 5/26/2018

Preschool has been a wonderful thing for my 5-year old daughter. The two things that were a theme throughout the year, however, were that her teacher told me that my daughter often talked out of...

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Prepping a 6 y/o for Surgery

Posted on 5/25/2018

What would be the best way to prepare a 6 year old boy for an upcoming surgery? Do I let him know about it a few days in advance? Tell him the morning of? He is a worrier, so I'm not sure how...

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Obedience over Exasperation

Posted on 5/18/2018

Hello! We are currently working on one misbehavior of 6 years old son. He comes home from school and would not do what he has to do- wash hands, change cloth, do homework, eat and after do...

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Leadership parenting is not always popular ...but worth it.

Posted on 5/7/2018

Hi again! I asked a question about my now-17-year-old son a couple of months ago. I followed the advice given, as well as that in John's book about teens and as result, surprise surprise, my son...

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Get everything in writing when it comes to loaning adult children money

Posted on 5/2/2018

Two and a half years ago my 37 year old daughter and her husband needed a car to move from New York to California since he had lost his job but had another in California. So I sold my daughter...

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Mom's "No" is daughter's trigger.

Posted on 4/25/2018

Every single time I have to tell my 10 year old daughter "No" about anything she completely freaks out!! Last night she decided at 8pm she wanted Starbucks. I explained to her that I would be...

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Rude Teen Needs Wake-Up Call

Posted on 4/20/2018

My son just turned 13. Since he started 7th grade in September he has been rude, disrespectful and mean. Its like he goes out of his way to make me, my 11 y/o son and 8 y/o daughter upset. Every...

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The Better Half

Posted on 4/19/2018

I have 2 step-daughters, ages 11 and 8, who spend half of their time with us and half with their mom. We don’t allow them to use any form of social media and have explained to them the dangers....

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Learn about parent leadership then be a parent leader.

Posted on 4/10/2018

ParentGuru, Our son is 9. He lies and deceives his parents (us) and won’t obey us on most tasks, including his chores and schoolwork. He is a gifted student and homeschooled. How can we get...

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John's Books Available in Spanish

Posted on 4/7/2018

We have 2 children, 5 years old and 2.5 years old. Both kids have had the same nanny since our oldest was 6 months old. She is wonderful and caring, loves the kids and is very dependable and good...

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Should I only read John's books?

Posted on 4/4/2018

hi - my church is recommending book called "Parenting: 14 Gospel Principles that can radically change your family" by Paul Tripp. I'm wondering if John is familiar with this book for philosophy...

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Ditch the Guilt!

Posted on 4/2/2018

This week I had a friend of mine and her child come to stay at my home from out of town. My 3 year old son and her son are the same age, and they have been enjoying playing together. On the third...

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School Toy Story

Posted on 3/29/2018

Hi, I have a question regarding my almost 7 year old daughter. Last year she got kicked out of kindergarten after 3 suspensions in the first few months of school. She was then sent to a...

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Strategy to break old parenting habits.

Posted on 3/29/2018

How do you avoid using behaviorist strategies in discipline with children? Old habits die hard. Would love to know some tips to avoiding bribing, etc children to obey.

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15 YO Mean to Sister

Posted on 3/21/2018

15 year old son is saying mean things about his sister at school and to boys in her grade.

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Adjusting to new family system

Posted on 3/21/2018

My son Carter is 13 and in 7th grade, he is suffering from anxiety and depression. I have recently gotten married, one year ago this month, and my husband has 3 other children (16 boy, 12 boy,...

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It's Only a Phase!

Posted on 3/21/2018

My 3 year old child started the ticket system with 5 tickets in October of 2017. By January of 2018 we had a changed child on our hands and we were able to put away the ticket system. All of...

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