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God's Anointing was an Annoyed Teen

Posted 5 days ago

16 year old does not want to attend church. Should we expect her go most of the time? We've told her she can take breaks because we understand our small church does not have teens her age, other...

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Uninvolved or Encouraging Independence?

Posted 1 week ago

I have 22 month old twins. Our house is very small, just under 900 square feet. About half of the house (2 rooms) is dedicated playspace for them, along with the living room when they're not in...

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It's Not Too Late!

Posted 1 week ago

Semi-independence has reared its ugly head in our youngest who goes off to college in the fall. Our mostly obedient and kindhearted daughter has basically grown a head so big we are surprised she...

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Soon to be 4 yro needs to know who's in control

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hello, what is a good discipline measure to use on my 3 year old son who is soon to be 4 years old? Time out does not seem to work anymore. He yells at us, slaps the walls, and outright tells us...

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2.5 year old won't share Grandma

Posted on 6/11/2019

2.5 year old only wants Grandma when she is around. Grandma lives out of state, so when we see her we are together for day/night at least a week. 2.5 yo only wants Grandma to take care of, play,...

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Going With Your Gut

Posted on 6/5/2019

I have a 17 yo daughter. I foolishly gave in to giving her an iPhone when she was 13. My husband died 4 years ago. Because of a rebellious attitude of her older sister, I realized these iPhones...

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I'm Not Your Friend

Posted on 6/3/2019

My four year old has been telling her younger sister who is three that she will not play with her, be her best friend, etc. if she doesn’t play the way she wants or gives her the toy she is...

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13yo struggles

Posted on 5/29/2019

My son is 13. He will be starting 8th grade this year. He got 5 detentions and two phone calls to the school from other parents saying he was bothering their kids. The detentions were for...

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Following the Leader

Posted on 5/21/2019

My girls, ages 6,5 and 3, prefer to follow me around during their free time. They just like to watch what I’m doing and talk and sometimes be involved in what I’m doing. I wonder if I should send...

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Parent leadership trumps child leadership

Posted on 5/15/2019

Dear Rosemond and team, Recently (a few weeks ago), my son graduated from his 30 stickers (1 a day) for aggression and tantrums and got his things and privileges back. BUT the tantrums (it's...

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Frustrated over asking.

Posted on 5/15/2019

I have a 9 year old son who has a passive defiant attitude. He doesn't ever talk back or freak out when he doesn't get his way but will "ignore" what we ask him to do and act like he just forgot....

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The 2 Year Old Bedtime Staller

Posted on 5/15/2019

Hi! My 22 month old daughter had started displaying stalling tactics to avoid bedtime and other undesirable activities. She wants to kiss all her toys goodnight, attempts to give more kisses and...

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Hop off the Argument Merry Go Round

Posted on 5/5/2019

Hi there, My almost 5-year-old has come a long way from his 3-year-old self. I suppose maturity helps. He's no longer throwing tantrums (a.k.a crying loudly) or hitting when he doesn't get his...

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3 Year Old Delaying Bedtime with Potty Breaks

Posted on 4/25/2019

Hello, my three year old has always slept well through the night and became potty trained pretty quickly. Unfortunately, until recently, he asks to use the restroom 2-3 times a night. He refuses...

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Adult daughter gone - now it is mom's time.

Posted on 4/15/2019

this concerns a 24 year old daughter. I'm disabled and although my daughter just moved out this past week I've been having issues with her telling me that it's not her "job" to help me for...

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Kicking An Angry 17 Year Old Out Of The Garden of Eden

Posted on 4/13/2019

Our 17 year old son is completely out of control. None of the consequences that we have given him have helped. His biggest problem is his angry outbursts. He has destroyed his relationship with...

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Strike a Balance

Posted on 3/26/2019

I’m having a difficult time with my nearly 6 year old son. It feels like we are butting heads all of the time. He has become increasingly more sensitive lately. Throwing huge tantrums, crying over...

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How to Nip Whining in the Bud

Posted on 3/24/2019

Hello, my 3-year-old whines quite a bit. Most of the times he jumps up and down when asking for something. He whines more when he doesn’t get what he wants, is sick, tired, etc. We tell him we’ll...

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3 Year Old Terror at Bedtime 'Part 2'

Posted on 3/13/2019

My 3 year old daughter continues to yell and scream at the top of her lungs at bedtime if someone does not lay with her. I will kiss, hug, tuck her in and then leave. Before I'm out the door,...

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Mom, Make The Next Play

Posted on 3/12/2019

I am happy to say that the meeting went well and again and my son has agreed to make some changes. He even offered what he could do to make changes. With that being said, the rules he made for...

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Doing it Right Means Staying the Course

Posted on 3/12/2019

Hello, We recently asked a question about our seven year old son who was refusing to stay in his room after losing all his daily strikes. We were told to make him 'an offer he hopefully can't...

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Better late than never

Posted on 3/11/2019

Our son is 3 1/2, and we are way late to potty training. Today we started the N75 plan. He went this morning in the potty. Later, after a little pee in his underwear, he sat on the potty for quite...

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Life After College is Too Comfortable- Time to Adult

Posted on 3/11/2019

Hello, My stepson in 23 and a recent college graduate with a communication degree. His father and I have been married 2 years ago. His parents are concerned about his seemingly lack of...

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Prevailing not Travailing

Posted on 3/9/2019

My 14 year old daughter was mad at me about a consequence I gave her after clearly telling her what the expectations were. She knew what the rules were and broke them so I gave her the...

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Kindergarten Homework Hassles

Posted on 3/7/2019

I have a young kindergartner (won't turn six until this summer), although he is doing good enough in kinder, he is very easily distracted - bright light distraction. During school and homework at...

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15 Month Old Hitting

Posted on 3/5/2019

Our 15 month old daughter has started hitting about a week ago. It started with our dog. We show her "gentle" with the dog and she gets it initially but eventually will hit him. She will hit us...

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In Control without Controlling

Posted on 3/5/2019

We seem to be stuck on screen time issues in our house. Our kids, 11 and 7 are allowed 20 min a day once they have completed all their chores. Markedly less than many children are allowed (as my...

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Meaningful or Logical?

Posted on 3/1/2019

Having a hard time with my 3.5 year old boy and what would be a logical consequence - every morning and after nap time he struggles with getting out of bed reasonably. He usually wails and...

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Lowering the Boom

Posted on 3/1/2019

I have been seeking help from this site for a long time and would appreciate you looking through our history for insight and understanding. My now seven year old son is still having behavior...

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Higher Level Thinking Skills

Posted on 3/1/2019

My 7 year old son has a problem solving problem. Any task he performs can make him melt down. I am sure that when he was younger I would jump in and solve his problem, but I have been very...

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Sibling Rivalry

Posted on 2/19/2019

my daughters, age 5 and 2, constantly fight. I agree siblings need to settle their own quarrels; however, my 2 year old is still physically agressive (pulling hair, hitting), and sometimes I...

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more consequences or more attitude?

Posted on 2/16/2019

Do you all have a list of different types of consequences for young kids? Currently we use a combination of the following for our kids (6, 5, 3, 20mos): spankings with a wooden spoon (sometimes...

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Separate but Equal

Posted on 2/10/2019

I have an introverted, sensitive (gentle and kind) four-year-old son and an extroverted, physically rambunctious two-year-old son. The two year old is physically aggressive (biting and hitting)...

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Mom, the Meanie...

Posted on 2/5/2019

My 4yr old son recently has been saying to me he wants a new mom. This started after he was disciplined got mad at me and said I was a mean mom. How should I address this issue when my son says...

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Remove 5-Year-Old From Center Stage

Posted on 2/4/2019

For the first five years of our daughter’s life, we have made the mistake of being a child centered family. She now does not listen to, or respect adults. How do we make the change now to be a...

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Kicked out of the Garden

Posted on 2/2/2019

My 9 yo daughter was kicked out of the garden a few days ago due to disobedience. By 10:00 this morning, she had lost all of the blocks on her behavior chart and was sent to her room for the rest...

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Multiple Kids, One Room?

Posted on 1/27/2019

OK, I'm going to try again with a different formulation. For decades Dr. Rosemond has been advocating tickets/blocks with isolation in a comparatively stripped down room as the end state for x...

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Discipline Drama Take 2

Posted on 1/20/2019

How do you get a 38month old child to comply? I have a little girl who says no to almost everything I tell/ask her to do. What do I do if she just doesn’t do It? Make her sit in her chair until...

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Avoid Making Mountains out of Molehills

Posted on 1/18/2019

Our 12-year-old daughter is raising concerns (both ours and at least one of her teachers') with violence in her writing. Last fall she asked me to read over a fictional short story she had written...

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Anger Begets Anger

Posted on 1/17/2019

I need advice on losing my temper with my kids. They are 3 and 6 and occasionally I lose my temper- scream at them, sometimes use a swear word and am just mean to them. Yes they have done...

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Liberating the Playmate Dad

Posted on 1/11/2019

I read the column by Dinah Bucholz, Stop Paying Attention to Your Kids. I'm struggling because this is my downfall. My daughter wants me to play with her constantly. I have an overwhelming sense...

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Intro To The Parent-Centered Family

Posted on 1/10/2019

I have a four year old whom I am wondering is just being a kid....she does seek our attention but we have daily reading together and about 30 min play of the afternoon. I stay home with her and...

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A Mother's Defeat????

Posted on 1/7/2019

Part of John Rosemond's advice is to stay calm. It sounds simple, but I've read the well behaved child and making the terrible twos terrific, but I still can't figure out how to stay calm. I tried...

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Step IN TIME!

Posted on 12/22/2018

I am apart of a step family. I am having trouble with my step children not accepting me. I feel like this is highly due to how their mother feels about me even though she wanted the divorce she...

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Seperation Anxiety

Posted on 12/21/2018

Our kindergartner (6 year old boy) cries and clings to our leg every morning at school drop off. His teacher notes that he is fine within a minute of our departure. He also cried and clung to us...

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Now what?

Posted on 12/13/2018

Hey thank you for the answer I needed..I have taken her phone permanently only reason she had a phone is because her dad lives out of town and I work far from where I’m at and he bought her a...

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Discipline Drama

Posted on 12/13/2018

I have a 2.5 (boy) and 3.5 (girl) year old, and my girl constantly is taking things from her brother. He doesn’t tend to fight back much. I’m wondering when I can expect my daughter to stop...

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Put some Harsh in their Mellow

Posted on 12/7/2018

Our son recently turned 11. Having just finished "Parenting by the book" and almost done "Teenproofing" I am certain we started too late with "Gramma's rules" while we fumbled through time outs,...

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11 year old not paying attention to parents

Posted on 12/6/2018

I just reviewed a questions from another subscriber using a ticket system with a 7 year old to nip multiple behaviors in the bud. In the answer I read "You cannot disciple or discipline a child...

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