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Mom of twin girls isn't having fun being a Mom.

Posted on 8/20/2018

Hi team Rosemond, I need a pep talk. My twins are 4 years old in December, both girls. They have been raised Rosemond style from the start and are good kids. However, for whatever reason, I...

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When should a bystander intervene?

Posted on 8/19/2018

While entering a grocery store last week, I saw a mother leaving the store, pushing a stroller with her son (age 3?). She was clearly angry with the boy as she was pushing him. Then she stopped,...

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Looking for an article...

Posted on 6/3/2018

I would like a copy of the article written for the Naples Daily News on January 1, 2017. Can you tell me how to get it?

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Spiritual Caregivers

Posted on 2/16/2018

Thanks for your column. Please keep it up. I pass many of them on to my children, two of whom are now parents. My question is about your statement that "no consistent body of research done...

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Problems with live-in adult stepdaughter continue

Posted on 2/10/2018

My 43 year old stepdaughter and her 9 year old daughter have been living with us for almost 3 years because her husband is an alcoholic and was violent when they were living in CA. They moved back...

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Thoughts on Love and Logic

Posted on 3/7/2017

How do you feel about the love and logic series/method? There has been a lot of discussion at my son's preschool about love and logic and I am curious about what your thoughts are. Thanks!

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Teaching Toddlers Independence

Posted on 11/20/2016

My son is 2 years old and we have been working on independent play. We have paired down toys and made sure they are creative ones you recommend and eliminated most tv. He does well playing alone...

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Definition of Psychiatry?

Posted on 8/13/2016

Thank you for the definition of Psychology (Post-Modern Religion by Faith). What is your definition of Psychiatry? It appears to me that psychology ranks children in the family as 1st class...

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Sleepovers?

Posted on 3/10/2016

My husband and I have decided that we do not want to allow our children to participate in sleep overs. We have moved to a new city and are just making new friends and meeting new families (it's a...

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Tiger Woods?

Posted on 1/24/2014

You wrote a great article "Toddler/Preschool Classes" Published January 9, 2007, that as a preschool teacher and parent educator I would like to share with our parents. The only problem is that...

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Booking info and John's calendar

Posted on 12/28/2013

Where can I find John's speaking calendar, parent retreat, or book him as a speaker or a school or other organization for 2014?

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Questions about Questions on ParentGuru

Posted on 11/6/2013

I have two questions... neither of which are parent/child related, more John Rosemond's books / Parent Guru related... 1. I have read "New Parent Power" and really enjoyed it - it's fabulous. ...

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Where to buy your books?

Posted on 11/1/2013

I need to buy some more of your books. Would you mind sharing with us whether it makes any difference on your end whether we buy your books from your website, from another online store, or from a...

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6 year old, "I hate myself!"

Posted on 10/16/2013

Good Afternoon, My son is six years old and extremely sensitive. He's polite very kind and pretty much a rule follower. He does express anger at times when things don't go his way but he's very...

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Blog

Posted on 10/16/2013

I really enjoyed your previous revival of the blog. Any plans to resume? Hopefully this is just while you are on sabbatical, and are merely resting up for some very eloquent rants!

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Kid hates camp

Posted on 7/23/2013

My 10-year-old son is having a miserable experience at the two-week camp we sent him to. He says he hates it there, that the other kids don't like him, and the counselor he was assigned to is...

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1 year old : allowing a child to cry

Posted on 4/23/2013

My son's girlfriend and I have differing viewpoints on whether it is okay to allow a 1 1/2 year old to cry if they are not hurt. I say it's okay. She gets so angry at me if I babysit and allow her...

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1 year old : I used an egg donor...when and how do I explain?

Posted on 3/16/2013

Due to infertility problems I used an egg donor to have our daughter. I realize I have quite some time until I explain this as our daughter is only 22 months old. I cannot help but already worry...

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4 year old : unbelieving unhappy spouse

Posted on 2/21/2013

48 year old male, married 18 years with 2 children 6 and 4. I have been reading your books and using your methods for over 15 years. I love your beliefs and methods. I am very happy and proud of...

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Presentation Skills

Posted on 12/20/2012

John I am 55 years old and have worked as a counselor and now I'm making a change and need to be able to make presentations to a group (rather than one-on-one which is all I have ever done). I see...

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1 year old : How many books is ok?

Posted on 6/11/2012

We are completely on board with limiting toys . . . but how many books should our 18-month-old son have available? Note that he LOVES books and can entertain himself for 40 minutes pulling out and...

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11 year old : change of behavior

Posted on 4/5/2012

My son who is 11 and is in 6th grade is emotionally immature but has always been academically advanced has started to try to get his friends to laugh by being rude to others, laughing at...

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12 year old : therapist

Posted on 4/5/2012

Can you recommend a therapist in the Rock Hill, SC area? Issues are anger related for a 12 year old. Thanks

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4 year old : clothing diva

Posted on 3/5/2012

Our 4 1/2 year old is very particular about outfits. i think it's more about the comfort than anything else. She has so many nice things that people have given her and she always has her few...

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Living with Children 2

Posted on 10/10/2011

        My twin boys will be 3 years old next month. They sleep in the same room. They've recently taken to getting out of their beds (together, although one seems to be the ringleader) every...

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Living with Children

Posted on 10/7/2011

Living with Children John Rosemond Copyright 2011, John K. Rosemond Full disclosure in four parts: First, I am not a tech-savvy person and never intend to become one. Second, I am convinced...

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1 year old : Sex Offender Gene?

Posted on 10/5/2011

The man who contributed his genetics that God used to create our beautiful son (he doesn't get the title of bio father) raped our son's biological mother. A doctor recently suggested to us that...

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2 year old : Audio Books

Posted on 8/12/2011

Do you have either your terrible twos book or the well behaved child in audio form? My husband spends a fair amount of time traveling and would love to 'read' your books while in the car but I...

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3 year old : 3 Year Old Lashes out at mom

Posted on 7/7/2011

Recently an mom told me the following: "My 3 year old daughter has been kinda lashing out a little with me. Maybe I am being too sensitive about it, but it seems like she is distancing herself a...

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It took 8 years, but it was worth it!

Posted on 2/26/2011

Hello! We just wanted to share an update with you about our son. We've tried our best to stay the course and follow your advice with our son since he was about 8. He is now almost 17. It's...

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Index in your books?

Posted on 2/25/2011

John, we have almost all of your books (except the teen ones, our children are 5.5 and 2.5), and I remember that I've read something about a certain behavior, but at the time, our children are not...

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Educational philosophy of Ernest Boyer

Posted on 1/27/2011

I'm intereted in your opinion regarding the educational philoshopies of Ernest Boyer. We are considering enrolling our rising kindergartner in a charter school that adheres to this philosophy and...

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Grateful Teacher

Posted on 1/26/2011

Hi John, I just want to pass along a thank you. I went to my 9 yr olds parent teacher conference ( I like being on the parent end much better than being on the kid end!) and we were talking about...

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Problem with kids having their own attached apartment?

Posted on 1/6/2011

We are considering purchasing a home that has the shape of a very long skinny ranch. The layout would make it so that we would be in a bedroom at one end of the home and our four under 11 years...

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Micro-managing

Posted on 12/6/2010

Hey John! I have a 3 and 5 year old. I believe me and my husband both tend to micro-manage their behavior. Could you give me your top 5 ways of avoiding this parenting style pitfall? I was...

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empty nester

Posted on 11/10/2010

Ok, so I raised six children and did my best. My husband and I have been married for 37 years and now find ourselves, literally, in trouble. The children are all on their own, with jobs, two are...

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Social problems question

Posted on 10/30/2010

To the person who asked the question titled "social problems". I have a lot of experience with the type of child that you describe and have a few questions that I would like you to prayerfully...

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Youthful Tendency Disorder

Posted on 10/12/2010

From the ever reputable The Onion - thought you'd enjoy this. Unfortunately, it sounds almost real. Kids with Youthful Tendency...

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Where's your blog?

Posted on 9/8/2008

Blog on parentguru.com is coming... stay tuned

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Foods and behavior

Posted on 8/23/2008

John, I agree with you on the ADD/ADHD thing. No kid in my class when I was in school ever was on any of those sorts of meds. However, back then, kids were eating foods made from scratch and a...

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Chinese high school: US educaitional ranking

Posted on 8/19/2008

I just watched a documentary about an elite Chinese high school, and it was certainly eye opening. I know you won't find any of this surprising... I don't recall seeing a single computer,...

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Prussian method

Posted on 7/29/2008

John from out in the midwest here. A book everyone concerned with public education needs to read YESTERDAY is "The Underground History of American Education" by John Taylor Gatto. Mr. Gatto is a...

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How to Have a New Kid By Friday - book

Posted on 4/24/2008

I read this book before I took your seminar, and it suggests having one child finish a siblings' chores (when not done properly and timely) and paying the child for that service from the allowance...

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John Rosemond: Cuddly Conservative

Posted on 4/9/2008

After reading your political views, I fell in love with you all over again!

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Is this true?

Posted on 7/23/2007

Is it true that you are not a licensed family psychologist? And that you "got in trouble" for making up newspaper columns?

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Too much spanking

Posted on 9/25/2006

We joined a new church about 2 years ago and all the folks there really follow Tedd Tripp's and Ezzo's books for Christian discipline. Most of the moms at my church believe that a spanking is the...

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Pokemon

Posted on 8/19/2006

As a parent, I'd like to know what you think about Pokemon cards and TV shows? As a Christian, do you see anything about them that is displeasing to God?

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Homework Resolutions

Posted on 8/18/2006

John, I LOVE your article on the homework resolutions! Would it be okay to give a copy of this article to my children's teachers? With three kids in school, I have no time to do all of the things...

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johnny jump-up

Posted on 7/16/2006

I have a very active six month old son. He is just learning to sit up, and the past few weeks has become very fussy--I think he has figured out that there are lots of things to do, but he is not...

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