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Solitary confinement

Posted 2 days ago

What do I do when I kick my kids (6, 5, and 4) out of the garden and the LIKE it!! All three of my girls are upstairs in their room laughing and jumping on their beds. I took their bed frames...

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Parents are Powerful Influences

Posted 6 days ago

Hi there, What is your advice on the 'cultural norms' that are now being presented to our children, even in schools, such as having two mommies or two daddies is totally ok and normal? How do...

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Money Matters

Posted 6 days ago

One more question... I like the idea of having allowance tied to being a member of the family and not contingent on doing chores. Also, chores are expected on command in our household with our...

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3 yo Pooping During Sleepy Time

Posted 3 weeks ago

Our 3-year old son is doing well with potty training in regards to staying dry and in undies all day, going when he needs to go on little or big potty, etc. But we have run into an issue with...

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Preparing for kindergarten

Posted 3 weeks ago

My son is 3. His birthday is in September. With the age requirement for kindergarten, he will be 5 turning 6 when he goes to kindergarten. Would you recommend we send him to preschool for 1 or 2...

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Tickets or chart?

Posted 3 weeks ago

Our 3 (almost 4) year old son has 2 major misbehaviors: hitting (especially Mom and 5 year old sister) and completely refusing to do what he is told. I have cleaned out his room and he has spent 2...

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Mom was right to override tickets

Posted on 1/24/2018

HI there, Thank you for your prompt responses on my questions including taking back control and being a parent-centred family. The children have misbehaved so much (during the holidays) that I...

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How to Create a Parent-Centered Home with Young Children

Posted on 1/19/2018

I'm needing clarification on what it means to be a parent-centred home, rather than a child-centred home when we have youngish child of 3.5 and 6.5. Could you direct me to resources for guidance...

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3 YO Refuses to Take Medicine

Posted on 1/19/2018

I have a 3yr 10mos grand daughter who has an infection but refuses to take her medicine. I've mixed it with ice cream to no avail. Any sage advise? SF Doug

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3.5 year old boy hitting his mother

Posted on 1/16/2018

Hi there, thank you for your response on my previous question re: out of control 3.5 year old boy. We have now started to move him OUT of the centre of the family but it's not been easy. We...

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Boys Will be Boys?

Posted on 1/12/2018

We have two boys. One just turned 4 and the other is turning 3 this month. They wrestle, fight, hit each other, push each other, etc half of the time happily and the other half angrily. We know...

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Perfect Time to Transition from Toddler Beds

Posted on 1/9/2018

Hi again, I have twin girls who just turned 3. We have continued to ride the crib wave and have put off transitioning to a big girl bed since they don't try to climb out. When do we need to move...

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Nanny Won't Help with Eating Issue

Posted on 1/7/2018

In November I asked about my three old not eating well and my husband and I told her and enforces that if she didn’t eat it meant she wasn’t getting good sleep and her doctor said she must go...

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3 yro problem getting toe nails clipped

Posted on 1/4/2018

My 3 1/2 year old hates having his toe nails clipped. His nails are getting too long and he cries and gets extremely upset when I try to clip them (usually after his bath). I've been able to cut...

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Pre-Schooler Stuck in Season 1

Posted on 1/1/2018

Hi there, i have a little 3.5 year old who is completely out of control. I admit we have let him run the house a little bit as he is a little spitfire and makes things unpleasant(ie screams as...

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3 yr old's behavior gets worse

Posted on 12/14/2017

So we've been doing this, sending him to bed early every night, and it almost seems like that's making it worse? The teacher is reporting more dirt eating than usual and he gets in the car after...

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4.5 year old reluctant about dance class

Posted on 12/10/2017

My daughter is 4.5 years old and has been taking dance lessons for about 3 months (once a week for an hour). So far, she's loved it and always looks forward to the next class. She has never said...

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Preschoolers Early Risers

Posted on 12/6/2017

Our two older children, ages 4 and nearly 3, share a bedroom. In the mornings they like to get up very early (5am) and play together. My husband and I usually get up multiple times to tell them to...

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False Diagnoses

Posted on 12/4/2017

HI John I enjoyed your article "Are many cases of autism wrongly diagnosed?" You were right on the mark when you said "kids grow out of these many of these things". An acquaintance's...

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Toilet Training with Diapers?

Posted on 11/30/2017

I have a 3 year old grand daughter who is halfway potty trained in that she urinates on the potty and often refuses to poop on the potty . In order for her teacher and often her parents to not...

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Time Out With Tickets?

Posted on 11/28/2017

We just started the ticket system with our three-year-old and five-year-old. We have done this with our five-year-old in the past and we appreciate how it works and how effective it can be....

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3 year old and Ticket System

Posted on 11/14/2017

I have a 3 year old son who has been on the ticket system for 6 weeks, and I feel extremely discouraged. Today during his check-up at the doctors office he refused to let the nurse weigh him or...

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3 yr old trouble eating

Posted on 11/9/2017

My 3 year old doesn’t like to eat. She has always had trouble staying on the growth curve and is quite tall for her age and has never been an easy eater. Now she likes to talk non stop during...

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Grandma and 3-year old need some distance

Posted on 11/3/2017

Since joining, I have become a single Grandparent raising a 3.5 year old Grandson. My husband died in August. I frequently read Johns advice on putting the "marriage" first. However, there...

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Overwhelmed Mom

Posted on 10/27/2017

Hi, I am a homeschooling mother of three girls ages 9, 7 and 3. I frequently feel so exhausted around my kids. I KNOW there is a better way, and I keep trying to get there... but I never quite...

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3 year old boy should keep his lovie

Posted on 10/15/2017

I have read "The Well Behaved Child" and I have been implementing the ticket system for three days with my three year old son. Today he lost all of his tickets after a complete melt-down at...

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Time for the Gate

Posted on 10/1/2017

1 month ago I asked about potty training for my developmentally normal 3 year old. We are continuing to help her feel the consequences of sneaking off to poop in her panties however she continues...

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3 yo Nighttime Disturbances

Posted on 9/27/2017

Our almost 3 year old (33 months) is giving us such trouble during the night! She goes to bed as usual with routine and at usual time (~7:30pm). But she has been waking up once, twice, sometimes...

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Consult a parent coach.

Posted on 9/25/2017

I am a single divorced mother of three year old twins. I have a home. My ex-husband, the Twins' father, lives with his parents. We have split custody. While at my home about six months ago one...

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Girl--Boy

Posted on 9/20/2017

My granddaughter just turned 3 and has been saying she wants to be a boy. She wants to wear just t-shirts and shorts and hates dresses. It's been going on for quite a while but seems to be getting...

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3yr old out of control

Posted on 9/14/2017

My husband and I are struggling with finding the right disciplinary action for our 3 year old daughter. She has many meltdowns and tests our authority on a regular basis. We have found that taking...

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Change her circumstances- She'll change her behavior.

Posted on 8/30/2017

My daughter is 3 5 months years old and is having potty training trouble. She showed great interest and the "classic" signs of readiness at 2 years old but then became very resistant and finally...

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Terrible Transition to Three

Posted on 8/3/2017

My 3 year old is a bully. She is starting 1st pre-school soon, Picks on 2 year old sister (sleep in same room, in cribs but climbs out) uncontrollable screaming when not going her way, snatches...

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Mom has authority - needs follow through.

Posted on 8/2/2017

How do you "make" your child listen? I have 3 year old twins boys that when I say "pick up your toys" or anything of the like they say "no, i will not pick up my toys". How do I make them? If...

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Sleepng arragements that got out of hand.

Posted on 8/2/2017

I have 3yo twin boys. We are dealing with terrible sleep issues. They used to sleep through the night from 12 months to 2.5 years. We did have to do "cry it out" method at 12 months for one of...

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Cry Baby 3 year old

Posted on 7/25/2017

Hi, I have a 3 and a half year old boy that I need help with. He has always been more sensitive than your average child (I also have a 5 and 2 year old girls so I do have a comparison of what...

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Chaos ensues when a 3 year old is in charge.

Posted on 7/10/2017

Hello Dr. Rosemond- I am a mother of two boys- age 1 and 3 (almost 4 on the 19th of July). It is the 4 year old I am writing to you about. I know much of his behavior is typical toddler...

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A 3 year old with too much control.

Posted on 6/30/2017

Two months ago, I started staying home with my 3.5 year old son. Since then, he has started refusing to poop. This makes the entire family miserable - he's extra difficult, only wants to lie on...

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Patient potty training.

Posted on 6/27/2017

My 21 month old son began potty training last week using the N75 method. He does not want to sit on the seat very long or use the small potty chair. So far training has been on the toilet. When...

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3yr old Fits and Trouble Playing with Brother

Posted on 6/27/2017

My 3 year old is very big and strong for his age. When I have him go to his room for either timeout for a fit or for naptime he physically fights me now. He used to simply whimper and cry but then...

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Nearly 3 year old Won't Poop in Potty

Posted on 6/19/2017

My almost 3 yr old son (bday in a few weeks) is still pooping in his pants. I read and followed Johns potty training book. The thing is he doesn't care about being messy. Poop running down his...

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Nearly 3 year old Won't Poop in Potty, Follow up

Posted on 6/19/2017

Re: Nearly 3 year old Won't Poop in Potty Clarifying question. I realize I left a few key pieces of information out of my question which I want to clarify so that the answer will feel more...

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Aggression and the Ticket System

Posted on 6/15/2017

My son will be 4 next month. The 2s and 3s were fairly uneventful for us- nothing beyond your typical discipline issues that were quickly nipped. Several weeks ago, however, he began getting angry...

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Punish the Whole Family?

Posted on 6/12/2017

My husband and I recently went on a trip for 2.5 weeks and left our almost 5 yr old and almost 3 yr old with our parents. Upon returning we are experiencing some grandparent detox. Aka--horribly...

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3 yo Acting Like a 3 yo

Posted on 6/12/2017

Our 3.5 year old son is hitting, kicking and/or spitting combined with an endless amount of talking back when it comes to not getting his way. We've tried timeout, taking things that he loves away...

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Frustrated Grandparents Want a Peaceful Family Dinner

Posted on 6/11/2017

Our grandchildren, preschool aged, do not eat dinner with their parents, and have not been reared to share a family meal. Consequently, when the family comes to our house for the occasional meal...

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Separation Anxiety for 3yo

Posted on 6/4/2017

To piggyback on my previous question, I need any advice on how to approach separation problems for my 3 (almost 4) year old son. My husband and I teach his Sunday School class every other week,...

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3 y/o Toliet Training Regression

Posted on 6/2/2017

I have two boys, ages 3 and 2. Both were potty trained around the same time a couple months ago. They have started sharing a bedroom since we recently moved and they have a little potty in their...

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3 1/2 yr old defiance

Posted on 5/30/2017

I have questions about two similar scenarios that are problems for my 3 and a half year old son. The first is that when he's around kids his own age for some sort of a program requiring group...

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Angry Outbursts from a 3-year-old

Posted on 5/21/2017

Every time I tell my 3 1/2 year old to do something (ex: put your cup up on the table more instead of on the edge, don't jump around in the kitchen, etc.) she crosses her arms and grunts. Or she...

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