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Curb Behavior With Alpha Speech

Posted 2 weeks ago

My son is 3-years-old and is a sweet boy and had a pretty good first two and a half years. Three months ago he started bluntly saying "No" to us and being more aggressive towards his brother, and...

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Adjusting to a New Pre School Can Be Hard

Posted 3 weeks ago

We are struggling with our 3-year-old at school. She started in PK-3 this year at a new school. The past 3 years she has been in daycare/pre-school. Where to begin... and by the way all of these...

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What Is A Normal 3 Year Old?

Posted on 8/19/2020

Our little boy turns 3 in a week. He is one of the youngest in his preschool class (cutoff is 9/1 and his birthday is 8/25) and some classmates have been 3 since last fall. I feel that he is...

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Be careful of putting time limits on behavior change

Posted on 8/10/2020

My son is 3yrs 4 months and when he is sent to his room as punishment, our house becomes a war zone. He tantrums, throws things at or kicks his door (if shut), refuses to stay in his room (if the...

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Toddler Wakes Up Multiple Times A Night...Exhausting!

Posted on 7/25/2020

My three year old has been up 6+ times in the night. It always starts out with him yelling "mama!" I've tried ignoring him but he wont stop until I come in and we live in close quarters and I cant...

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Wean him off the addiction of attention

Posted on 7/25/2020

My three year old hates being by himself. He seems to be a very social kid and would much rather talk to or play with someone than alone. That being said, his younger brother is too young to play...

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3-yo boy "can't" manage to put away his toys

Posted on 7/23/2020

My son routinely says "I can't" when asked to pick up his toys or clean up a mess he made and he will do everything possible to get out of doing his part! He is very stubborn and timeout, taking...

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Posted on 7/23/2020

Is it wrong to use an attachment toy like a stuffed "lovey" as a tool to get good behavior? Meaning, is it ok to take it away and not allow them the lovey at bedtime or when ever requested as...

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Toddler Tantrums and Disrespect

Posted on 7/23/2020

My three-year-old is extremely disrespectful, yells, "Noooooo!" says, "I can't," when told to clean up toys, and will kick and bang on the back of his bedroom door when placed in time out. I...

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Help! Our Daughter Keeps Her Sister up at Bedtime!

Posted on 7/20/2020

Our daughters are five and almost three and recently started sharing a room. So far, it has been a positive experience and both of them sleep better and wake up less often. However, when we...

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A Room With Her Sister

Posted on 7/18/2020

Hello! Our daughters are five and going on three. We got a bunk bed and since about 6 weeks they are not just sharing a bunk bed but also sharing a room. It has been a positive experience in...

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Cutting the Mealtime Cord

Posted on 7/18/2020

Hello! Our second and youngest daughter is going on three in a month. I am wondering about realistic expectations at the dinner table for her; especially if she is able to eat herself and can...

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Moms, Let Dad Be in Charge Too

Posted on 7/16/2020

My three year old son does not respect my husband's authority. If my husband attempts to do anything for/with him if my son is not in the mood, there are tantrums of epic proportions. He will also...

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Don't stop doing it!!!

Posted on 7/16/2020

Building on my last two questions, I have run into another issue regarding attention-seeking behavior from my three year old. My husband and I have created an environment that is parent-centered;...

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Concerned Over Thumbsucking

Posted on 7/11/2020

My amost 4 years old, born Oct 28, 2016 is sucking her two fingers especially at night. This is causing injury to her fingers and may affect her teeth. I can't get her to stop. She does it to...

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When Mom Makes a Mistake

Posted on 6/28/2020

What is the best way to recover after making a mistake? For instance, if 3 children are very close in age, and you punish the wrong child for something you later find out their sibling had done.

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Pooping "Beacuse I Want To"

Posted on 5/21/2020

My very bright 3.5 year old has been potty training for over a year--it's not that he doesn't get it (he got the pooping pretty quickly within a month) but it's about control. He's very spirited,...

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Three Snaps & out of the Spotlight

Posted on 5/20/2020

I have a just-turned 3-year-old son. He has a problem with needing constant attention. My husband and I routinely engage in our own activities around our son, and he can entertain himself well, so...

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The Frustration of Regression

Posted on 5/19/2020

Our daughter will be three next month. She has been doing great with potty training until recently. Our one year old just learned to walk so we’ve been praising him a lot more and he’s been...

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Wind Fear

Posted on 5/17/2020

Our 3and 1/2 year old is terrified of the wind and refuses to go outside. We have tried logic. Occasionally we get her outside and if she sees a lizard or cool bug she will be delighted and have...

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Conquering a Three-Year Old Quarantine Quagmire

Posted on 5/5/2020

my son is 3 yr and 3 month old,he was very careful and neat. recently he started to get very aggressive especially during the quarantine in the house. He has been staying home for a month now. He...

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Playing with Toy Guns- Keep It Simple

Posted on 5/2/2020

My son has taken an interest in gun play. He likes making guns with blocks of lego and sticks and playing with his nerf gun. I want him to enjoy this play but in a way that is fun and healthy,...

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Oh, Those Rebellious Threes!

Posted on 4/19/2020

Hello, my son just turned three two weeks ago. Almost the same time that his behaviors started to escalate with screaming, saying no when instructed to do things, and just outright rebellious. I...

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Potty Training Regression and Coronavirus

Posted on 3/31/2020

My 3 year old potty trained very fast right after his 3rd birthday. He has not had a problem being dry overnight, so we have always just used underwear. He’s been potty trained 3 months. Because...

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Same bedtime for the children

Posted on 3/22/2020

Our 4 year old, and 20 month year old boys share a room. We want to do the 5 minute check in with our 20 month old to get him to sleep in his crib, and not in our bed. However, the 4 year old...

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Alpha speech and consistency

Posted on 3/2/2020

We’ve had an overall improvement in our kids (boys ages 3 and 5) since starting the ticket system and changing the way we talk to them. Transition points are still incredibly difficult. For...

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3 years old doesn't pay attetion to stories.

Posted on 2/18/2020

My 3 year old has always had difficulty listening to stories. I know how terribly important it is to read to children daily so I keep reading, but he’s not paying attention. Is he still getting...

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Teaching 3 year old to listen the first time.

Posted on 2/9/2020

Is the targeted behavior (for the ticket system) “Refusing to do what we tell you to do” too general for 3.25 year old twins? We want to stomp out their habit of giving us push back/delaying/...

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Ticket system for twins sharing a room.

Posted on 2/1/2020

We are starting the ticket system with our 3 1/2 year old boy/girl twins. They share a room & are still in cribs (they could climb out but haven’t tried/wanted to yet). How do we go about putting...

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"Note to self"

Posted on 1/31/2020

I recently showed my 3 year old daughter a video of me nursing her when she was a baby. What I thought would be a sweet moment of her watching herself bonding with me as a baby didn't exactly...

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3 year old needs more time to adjust to playing at preschool

Posted on 1/13/2020

Hi! I have spoken with a coach via email, and was happy with the response. I recently spoke with my recently turned 3 year old son’s teachers, and had a chance to sit in on one of his church child...

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Aversion to potty

Posted on 1/10/2020

My son is 3.25 years old. We started toilet training a week ago and he has done well with the potty part, but he’s having issues with pooping on his potty chair. He did it just fine a couple...

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The Age-Gap Triplicate

Posted on 1/1/2020

My kids (11-girl, 10-girl, 3-boy) were driving me crazy with all the squabbling. Especially as the 3 year old gets older. All 3 kids are on the ticket system. I’ve read a lot of the q & a on here...

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Table Manners for Toddlers

Posted on 12/18/2019

What is the best process for teaching 2-year-olds to use eating utensils? They enjoy feeding themselves, but ignore their spoons and just dig in and eat with their hands. I have showed...

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Ending the Food Battle

Posted on 12/17/2019

We are having many battles over food in our house. We have boys ages five, three, and one. The older boys go to preschool and are usually going without an adequate breakfast. They are offered food...

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Shorten bedtime routine

Posted on 12/2/2019

Hello, I have two daughters - an almost 3 year old and a 6 year old. i am married to an airline pilot who needs to regularly be out of town for 4-5 days a week. We make it through the days pretty...

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Being in charge means...

Posted on 11/9/2019

How do you recommend dealing with whining and bad attitudes? We we using the ticket system with our 5 year old and it is helping with bigger bad behaviors. We are working to use Alpha speech and...

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Forcing a Preschooler to Nap

Posted on 11/8/2019

I am fortunate enough to work at a place that offers an onsite daycare. My 3 year old son goes to that daycare and has since he was 1. They are montessori and he has changes rooms as he has...

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Challenges of Ticket System for Mother of Four

Posted on 11/7/2019

Our oldest 4 children, ages 10, 8, 6, and 5, are all on the tickets system. They each start the day with 5 tickets. The first three tickets lost are "free", the 4th ticket costs them the...

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Navigating the Bedtime War Zone

Posted on 11/6/2019

When my daughter was 13 months old I decided to go back to work so we slept trained her. It took about 2-3 nights and she was sleeping through the night. A year later she started waking up...

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Resist excuses to wander at bedtime.

Posted on 10/22/2019

Our three and five-year-old boys who share a room started coming into our room at night. They usually say they are scared, or hungry. We have a 10-month-old who is newly adopted and not sleeping...

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Resetting The Dial Can Be Best Bet

Posted on 10/21/2019

What are the suggested number of target behaviors and daily tickets for children of the following ages: 1) boy age 5 - generally a low-misbehaver, main problem is tantrums, sometimes disobeys or...

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Tickets for 3 year olds?

Posted on 10/17/2019

We started the ticket system with our three and 5 year old boys about two months ago. I feel like our 3 year old may be too young for it. The afternoons are particularly rough because he has...

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Church Expectations

Posted on 10/6/2019

This is a question about age-appropriate expectations in Church. We have 6 children ages 10, 8, 6, 5, 3, and 1. I have told the older kids that, unless you are a baby or a toddler - which they...

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Sibling Rivalry Not Improving

Posted on 9/22/2019

Hello! Our daughter (26 months) has been hitting, scratching, biting etc her sister (almost 4.5 years old). At first we told her a firm no but now the incidents have increased and we put her in...

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3 y/o and 1 y/o siblings learning to play together

Posted on 9/18/2019

My son is 3 years old and my daughter is 1 year old. My son is really good about playing by himself and lining up his cars when he plays; however, my daughter really likes to bug him. She...

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Dinner Time Battle of the Wills

Posted on 9/16/2019

My 3 year old daughter has developed a bad habit at dinner time. Although she’s usually pretty good to try new foods, every now and then she will - for some unknown reason - hold a bite of food in...

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3 y/o Drama Queen

Posted on 9/5/2019

Every time we have to say goodbye to my 3 year old's friend, she cries like it's the end of the world and has a fit... We go on nightly walks with them and I have stopped because I do not want to...

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Wrestle Mania

Posted on 9/3/2019

We started the ticket system with our 3 year old a few weeks ago (along with working on changing our language to Alpha language). I think he gets it. He can verbalize the basics of the system and...

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