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Adoption questions

Posted 5 days ago

We have adopted 2 sons. They are 5 and 3 years old, and they came to us as babies (6 months and 3 1/2 months). They have never had any family member visits, or anyone in their lives other than my...

GRANDPARENT TRAVAILS REDUX

Posted on 8/23/2022

John, Hi, my sons are grown now, enjoyed your columns, WE have 1 grandson . His Dad, my son, was spoiled so it seems to be continuing unfortunately. Question: now that Roman is 3, doesn't...

Deciding how to grandparent.

Posted on 8/21/2022

Our grandson, turned 3, is starting to be a brat. Our son and daughter in law don't correct him. Daughter in law talks to him and never gets to the point. He doesn't go to bed at a regular...

3.5-Year-Old Pulling Mom's Chain

Posted on 7/24/2022

The card system is working for the 3.5 year old and he is (begrudgingly) becoming obedient! However, he will not perform for me! He swims for his swim coach, but freaks out and demands to be put...

Middle of the Night Potty Solution

Posted on 7/16/2022

My 3.5 year old has been potty trained since before he was 2. I read and generally used the Rosemond book. However, I didn’t do the night/nap training as my pediatrician said it was just...

3 YO SCREAMING OVER RANDOM STUFF AT BEDTIME

Posted on 7/6/2022

We have a 3.5 year old and each night, we have a routine that we go through with her - bath, put on pajamas, brush teeth, choose two books and read them, sing a couple of songs, and pray before...

When to Transition 3-Year-Old to 'Big Bed'?

Posted on 7/5/2022

My son just turned three. He slept two nights in his twin bed in the room with his older brother. On the third night he wanted to go back to his room and sleep in his baby bed because he could not...

Three-Year-Old's Sleep Patterns Changing

Posted on 6/22/2022

I believe my 3.5 year old is not getting enough sleep. He has toys in his room that he plays with during quiet time. He almost never naps anymore, but enjoys quiet time. Only recently has he...

Ticket System questions

Posted on 6/22/2022

I have some questions regarding the ticket system for a 3.5 year old. 1. What if he loses all of his tickets at the end of the day? One time he lost his last ticket but it was right before...

3-Year-Old in Hyper Mode

Posted on 6/22/2022

My 3.5 year old will get hyper and annoying when he is overtired or overexcited. When he’s in a “hyper mode”, he’s running around, trying to roughhouse, jumping into people, being loud and...

3 Year Old boy Testing the Limits

Posted on 6/20/2022

My 3.5 year old boy has responded very well to the card system! 3 cards lost and spend the rest of the day in your room. He also knows that hitting/kicking a person /the wall would be game over...

Bedtime woes

Posted on 6/16/2022

My almost 3 year old has transitioned into a big girl bed. The first couple of nights went so well it felt too good to be true, however, after a good couple of nights, my daughter has cried...

Reining in Mr. 3 year old

Posted on 6/12/2022

Wow! My normally good natured, well behaved 3 year old grandson has been an absolute tyrant today. He will not listen to his parents, laughs and acts like everything is funny. They keep trying...

Good Cop Bad Cop

Posted on 6/6/2022

Ongoing tiff with Husband. Example scenario: 3 1/2 year old daughter is harassing 1 1/2 year old daughter and is put in timeout in her room. Every time she's in timeout she's screaming and losing...

Swimming Upstream

Posted on 6/2/2022

My 3.5 year old is a bit timid when it comes to physical things. For example, he won’t go down a slide, but then when I just shove him down it he has fun. My problem is swimming. Now I have an 8...

The Terrible Threes: Taking a Powder with the Doctor

Posted on 5/25/2022

Threenagers worse than the terrible twos? My 3.5 yr old daughter is very disrespectful toward myself and my husband. She's frequently whining, throwing tantrums, and during those tantrums...

The Third Year of Life - A Time to Learn and Blossom

Posted on 5/24/2022

What chores and responsibilities should a 3.5 year old have? Should there be a designate “workbook/learning” time every day?

Don't Overthink Autism Diagnosis

Posted on 5/22/2022

My 2.5-year-old daughter has a working diagnosis of autism. I’m finding it incredibly difficult to get my head around it. I do not want to sound unsympathetic, but how did this happen? Why are so...

Bedtime Monsters

Posted on 5/15/2022

My 9 year old won’t go to bed at night, constantly crying about monsters etc which has never been an issue before. It seems to be one thing after the other. If he could sleep in my bed he would...

Posted on 5/15/2022

My 3.5 year old thinks he is running the show. He is bossy, and doing insubordination and attention seeking behaviors. I read your books and he was an easy toddler. But dad I forgot to use alpha...

Two-Year-Old's Tantrums

Posted on 4/29/2022

I have 3 sons: 3, 2.5 (fostered than adopted-been with us since 2 months old) and a 2 month old. I have two questions: 1. I work from home two days/week, and my mom and sister-in-law help...

No Response is a Response: Let Them Be Silly

Posted on 4/21/2022

How do we teach our children to stop the constant silly talk/noises? One child is diagnosed with ADHD, autism, etc. I've set up a rule that the first 30 minutes after wakeup and the last 30...

Let 3-Year-Old Know You Mean Business!

Posted on 4/19/2022

My child is 3 and a half and has started talking back and hitting. Putting him in his room doesn't help. He comes right out. Suggestions?

Tickets and Three year olds

Posted on 3/21/2022

We have a three-year-old daughter and have started using the ticket system. When the tickets run out on any given day and we must implement the agony principle by sending her to her room for the...

Middle of the Night Snacks Prolonging Mealtime Battles

Posted on 3/20/2022

In September I asked for advice on my picky 2-year-old. For 6 months, I have consistently tried the methods recommended. I didn't fuss over meals, just gave him small amounts of whatever I made,...

Saying "Bye-Bye" to Binkie

Posted on 2/25/2022

What age should children stop using a binkie? Our 3-year-old still loves his for night only. Any ideas how to approach taking it away?

How To Keep Your Child in His/Her Room

Posted on 2/1/2022

We are trying the ticket system with our 3 yr old son. Tonight, he went to bed early after throwing something at me (a major offense). At first we left his bedroom door open but he kept coming out...

Conquering 3-Year-Old's Ups and Downs (otherwise known as 'Bedtime Avoidance')

Posted on 1/30/2022

Any good ideas how to limit the I need a drink, I need to potty, I need....bedtime avoidance for 3 year olds?

Importance of Presenting a United Parenting Front

Posted on 1/2/2022

This may be a complicated question: I have a question about my and my husband's parenting styles. I come from a conservative background, my parents were old school and traditional. Lots of...

Disciplining With Tickets When Grandma Comes to Town

Posted on 12/29/2021

I just got your book, "The Well Behaved Child," and today I began using tickets (and Alpha speech) for my just 5-year-old son who is very loving and sweet but would be considered a "high...

What to do when he says, "no"

Posted on 12/10/2021

Our third son is turning 3 in about a week. He has started saying "no" when we tell him to do something, and then runs away when we try to discipline him. We have been resorting to spanking...

Getting to the finish line with potty training

Posted on 12/8/2021

Our 3 year old daughter has been doing N75 for 5 days and has progressed very well and is intimating in the toilet and rarely having accidents, maybe just a little urine in her panties before she...

Transition from Nap Time to Quiet Time

Posted on 11/2/2021

Hi, our daughter is 2yrs, 10mo old. What age is appropriate for naps to go away? Our daughter fights naps nearly every day. The problem is that if she doesn’t get a nap is she gets extremely...

Keep Potty Training Positive- Don't Punish For Accidents

Posted on 11/2/2021

Hi, our daughter is 2yrs 10mo old. We potty trained her 9 months ago using the “naked and $75” method from John Rosemond’s book Toilet Training Without Tantrums. Potty training clicked with her...

Welcome to the Terrible Twos!

Posted on 10/21/2021

My just turned two year old was always an excellent sleeper after 4 months old, happily going to bed and staying there even through transition to adult bed. The past 4 days he has refused to lay...

Little Liar

Posted on 10/21/2021

My 3.5 year old daughter has begun to lie all the time. She was always more prone to lying than her older brother, but lately it has been taken to the extreme. I have read Dr. Rosemond’s books and...

19 Month Old Laughs When Hitting and Pulling Mom's Hair

Posted on 9/24/2021

My 19 month old is very advanced for her age, other than her language which is on track. But she’s already entered her “terrible” two phase and she hits and pulls my hair and laughs about it. I...

Getting Started on the Ticket System

Posted on 9/14/2021

At what age is it appropriate to do 2 sets of tickets? One for sibling conflict and one for personal? How long should I wait to start their personal ones? We just started sibling conflict about a...

Who's in Charge?

Posted on 8/21/2021

My issue is that I have two boys ages 6 and 3. Both will not stay in place on timeout or stay in their bedroom on timeout when my husband is not home. Do you have any recommendations?

Consistency is the key to success

Posted on 8/10/2021

I have a 6 yo daughter and 3 yo son. Daughter is often "mean" to son verbally. His 3 yr old talkativeness bothers her, and she frequently shouts at him ("be quiet!" etc.) My and wife's approach...

Convert Nap Time to Quiet Time As Toddler Outgrows Naps

Posted on 7/17/2021

My just turned 2 year old toddler is refusing naps. She has been out of routine since the clocks have changed and as we have just moved and not been at home for nap times so I’ve let her sleep in...

A Bad Day at The Zoo or Sensory Processing Disorder?

Posted on 7/3/2021

My 4 year old son has been seeing an occupational therapist to help with his behavioral issues. She suggested that my son has a sensory processing disorder to explain why he will listen to...

Mom Feels 3-Year-Old Asks For Permission in Excess

Posted on 7/1/2021

Hi, my daughter 3 yrs old, needs us to tell her or ‘give permission’ for most of the things she does. The cookie would be right in front of her and she would say ‘I want the cookie’. Going to pee...

Tickets, Strikes and Keeping the Peace

Posted on 6/22/2021

I’ve attempted using the ticket system, but I’m getting confused. I have a 4 yr old and 7yr old. They fight, and argue about EVERYTHING. I put 3 tickets on the fridge- no tattling, no disturbing...

Taming 5 year Old Stubbornness

Posted on 6/21/2021

My 5 year old daughters stubbornness cannot be tamed and I’m not sure what to do. I completely emptied her room 10 days ago. She had 2 blankets and a pillow and that’s it. She had shown great...

Mom Needs Nighttime Nightmare To End!

Posted on 5/25/2021

I have a 5 yr old, 3 yr old and 1 yr old - all boys - who share a room. We have a 2 bedroom house so there is no other option - we have a parent room and a boy room. The 1 yr old used to share our...

Early Intervention Resources

Posted on 5/22/2021

Hi, It is so hard to tell who the scammers are and who are legitimate in the "medical" realm. I have a friend who has a son who has all the classic symptoms of actual autism, but his Dr. has not...

2 year old Hair Cut Anxiety

Posted on 5/21/2021

Hello, my son is 2 years and 3 months old. He has not had a full evaluation for autism yet but is showing signs and is nonverbal. He is in desperate need of a haircut but anytime we have taken him...

Toddler On The Run Needs To Stop In His Tracks

Posted on 5/20/2021

My 3 year old has started running away from me when we’re out, and also opening the front door and walking out. How should I handle this?

The Preschooler: in her Untamed Primal Glory--Part 2

Posted on 5/19/2021

Hi, I am submitting a follow-up response in regard to my question from 5/6/21 entitled "The Preschooler: in her Untamed Primal Glory". This was answered by Mike Smart. Thank you for your...

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