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Terrible Three's

Posted 2 days ago

Hi there, my 33 month old has recently began yelling all of his responses. He gets frustrated very easily and says, “stop! stop it mommy!” “Goooosh!” No, is his favorite word, and now, he yells...

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5 year old in boring bedroom is enough

Posted 4 days ago

I've recently read "The Well-Behaved Child" and have decided to implement the ticket system with both my 5 and 6 yo. I was doing a watered down version of this system already with what I called...

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Screaming Pre-Preschooler

Posted 1 week ago

Our 3 year old tends to scream when things don't go his way. If he is asked to do or not do something that is against his liking it is not unusual to hear one loud scream, and depending on his...

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Co-bedding with grandparents.

Posted 2 weeks ago

My parents are coming in one week. They didn’t see their grandchildren quite long time. And their visit will continue couple weeks. During their visit my son(6 years old) would stay in his...

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How to Start Chores

Posted 3 weeks ago

My children are 3, 5, and 7 years old and until now I have done everything around the house - chores, cleaning, laundry, you name it. Why?? Because I stay at home and thought it was my job to make...

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Potty Training Regression After New Baby

Posted 3 weeks ago

My middle son, just turned age 3, has been potty trained since before age 2 successfully. However, in the last few weeks he has started pooping his pants again almost daily. We have a 5 month...

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Day Care Potty Issue

Posted 3 weeks ago

My son, who is 3.5, has been potty trained at home and out in public since his third birthday (later than you recommend, but we only just found you and became apostles about 4 or 5 months ago. We...

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Toilet Tantrums

Posted on 5/18/2018

Our recently turned 3 year old son who has been toilet trained for almost a year is now wetting his pants on purpose when he does not get his way. This happens sometimes in the car and at home and...

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The Witching Hour

Posted on 5/14/2018

ParentGuru, What can my wife and I do to help the children to be obedient and pleasing to be around during the hours of 6-8 PM? The children are ages 3-11. We find that at the end of the day...

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Get Along or Get Away

Posted on 5/13/2018

Hello! My 6 and 3 years old sometimes play well together just perfect, but sometimes it is just horribly. 6 years would do something that 3 years doesn’t like or they just can’t share one red...

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Time for Bed...All by Yourself

Posted on 5/13/2018

Our 3 years old daughter would not sleep by herself. Sometimes she does, but most of the time - no! We were trying to follow the recommendation from Dr. Rosemond’s book and it worked for short...

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3 yro crying uncontrollably

Posted on 5/3/2018

My 3 year old daughter sometimes cries so hard and long that she stops breathing for a few seconds. She usually does it when she is having a little tantrum, but it has also happened after hurting...

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Grandparents who want to help.

Posted on 4/20/2018

We have a beautiful, very intelligent 3 year old grandson. He is an only child and has 4 older cousins (over 15). Recently he has exhibited violent outbursts and tantrums. He becomes...

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Shy at 3 is ok.

Posted on 4/19/2018

I am concerned about 3 years old daughter. She is in preschool twice a week. She likes to go to school very much But there is a problem- she is quiet and never talks in school. The teacher says...

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Introducing Half Siblings

Posted on 4/13/2018

How do I introduce a half sister to a three year old child? He does not understand that Jj (father of both children) is even his Dad. Jj is not present in his life nor the sister's life. The...

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toddlers and bedtime mayhem

Posted on 4/11/2018

My sons are two and three years old and we recently moved them into the same bedroom. This is the only room available at this time (my six month-old needs his own room). Bedtime went from a...

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Ditch the Guilt!

Posted on 4/2/2018

This week I had a friend of mine and her child come to stay at my home from out of town. My 3 year old son and her son are the same age, and they have been enjoying playing together. On the third...

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Starting Tickets

Posted on 3/29/2018

What is a good way to introduce the ticket system to a 3 yo?

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Should you spank a preschooler?

Posted on 3/29/2018

When is spanking appropriate with a 3yo?

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Mom's in Charge...Even Outside Home

Posted on 3/26/2018

We took charge and had to move on from N75 to the last chapter in Dr. Rosemond's book. We put them in separate bathroom and told them to tell us when they went. They did. Then when they had an...

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It's Only a Phase!

Posted on 3/21/2018

My 3 year old child started the ticket system with 5 tickets in October of 2017. By January of 2018 we had a changed child on our hands and we were able to put away the ticket system. All of...

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Set the standard and hold them to it.

Posted on 3/18/2018

Hi there, Thank you for all the advice you have given me re: my out of control 3.5 yo son. He’s been kicked out of the garden for hitting mum - and successfully strung together 28 days of not...

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Share Tickets for Fighting Siblings

Posted on 3/14/2018

I'm not sure how to handle a conflict between my two toddler boys. The younger one has a life mission of provoking the older to get into trouble or start a fight with him and will then play the...

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Who's in Charge?

Posted on 3/12/2018

We started potty training our girl twins who are a little over three years old and 4 months (yes, we tried before and it wasn't successful and should have gone with my intuition and trained them...

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Addressing a Picky and Disruptive Eater

Posted on 3/9/2018

I have one boy, almost 4, who is a good eater and another, age 3, who is not. They eat together before my husband and I do and the bad eater cries about food he doesn't like, tries to pass food to...

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Solitary confinement

Posted on 2/23/2018

What do I do when I kick my kids (6, 5, and 4) out of the garden and the LIKE it!! All three of my girls are upstairs in their room laughing and jumping on their beds. I took their bed frames...

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Parents are Powerful Influences

Posted on 2/19/2018

Hi there, What is your advice on the 'cultural norms' that are now being presented to our children, even in schools, such as having two mommies or two daddies is totally ok and normal? How do...

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Money Matters

Posted on 2/19/2018

One more question... I like the idea of having allowance tied to being a member of the family and not contingent on doing chores. Also, chores are expected on command in our household with our...

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3 yo Pooping During Sleepy Time

Posted on 1/31/2018

Our 3-year old son is doing well with potty training in regards to staying dry and in undies all day, going when he needs to go on little or big potty, etc. But we have run into an issue with...

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Preparing for kindergarten

Posted on 1/30/2018

My son is 3. His birthday is in September. With the age requirement for kindergarten, he will be 5 turning 6 when he goes to kindergarten. Would you recommend we send him to preschool for 1 or 2...

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Tickets or chart?

Posted on 1/30/2018

Our 3 (almost 4) year old son has 2 major misbehaviors: hitting (especially Mom and 5 year old sister) and completely refusing to do what he is told. I have cleaned out his room and he has spent 2...

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Mom was right to override tickets

Posted on 1/24/2018

HI there, Thank you for your prompt responses on my questions including taking back control and being a parent-centred family. The children have misbehaved so much (during the holidays) that I...

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How to Create a Parent-Centered Home with Young Children

Posted on 1/19/2018

I'm needing clarification on what it means to be a parent-centred home, rather than a child-centred home when we have youngish child of 3.5 and 6.5. Could you direct me to resources for guidance...

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3 YO Refuses to Take Medicine

Posted on 1/19/2018

I have a 3yr 10mos grand daughter who has an infection but refuses to take her medicine. I've mixed it with ice cream to no avail. Any sage advise? SF Doug

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3.5 year old boy hitting his mother

Posted on 1/16/2018

Hi there, thank you for your response on my previous question re: out of control 3.5 year old boy. We have now started to move him OUT of the centre of the family but it's not been easy. We...

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Boys Will be Boys?

Posted on 1/12/2018

We have two boys. One just turned 4 and the other is turning 3 this month. They wrestle, fight, hit each other, push each other, etc half of the time happily and the other half angrily. We know...

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Perfect Time to Transition from Toddler Beds

Posted on 1/9/2018

Hi again, I have twin girls who just turned 3. We have continued to ride the crib wave and have put off transitioning to a big girl bed since they don't try to climb out. When do we need to move...

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Nanny Won't Help with Eating Issue

Posted on 1/7/2018

In November I asked about my three old not eating well and my husband and I told her and enforces that if she didn’t eat it meant she wasn’t getting good sleep and her doctor said she must go...

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3 yro problem getting toe nails clipped

Posted on 1/4/2018

My 3 1/2 year old hates having his toe nails clipped. His nails are getting too long and he cries and gets extremely upset when I try to clip them (usually after his bath). I've been able to cut...

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Pre-Schooler Stuck in Season 1

Posted on 1/1/2018

Hi there, i have a little 3.5 year old who is completely out of control. I admit we have let him run the house a little bit as he is a little spitfire and makes things unpleasant(ie screams as...

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3 yr old's behavior gets worse

Posted on 12/14/2017

So we've been doing this, sending him to bed early every night, and it almost seems like that's making it worse? The teacher is reporting more dirt eating than usual and he gets in the car after...

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4.5 year old reluctant about dance class

Posted on 12/10/2017

My daughter is 4.5 years old and has been taking dance lessons for about 3 months (once a week for an hour). So far, she's loved it and always looks forward to the next class. She has never said...

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Preschoolers Early Risers

Posted on 12/6/2017

Our two older children, ages 4 and nearly 3, share a bedroom. In the mornings they like to get up very early (5am) and play together. My husband and I usually get up multiple times to tell them to...

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False Diagnoses

Posted on 12/4/2017

HI John I enjoyed your article "Are many cases of autism wrongly diagnosed?" You were right on the mark when you said "kids grow out of these many of these things". An acquaintance's...

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Toilet Training with Diapers?

Posted on 11/30/2017

I have a 3 year old grand daughter who is halfway potty trained in that she urinates on the potty and often refuses to poop on the potty . In order for her teacher and often her parents to not...

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Time Out With Tickets?

Posted on 11/28/2017

We just started the ticket system with our three-year-old and five-year-old. We have done this with our five-year-old in the past and we appreciate how it works and how effective it can be....

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3 year old and Ticket System

Posted on 11/14/2017

I have a 3 year old son who has been on the ticket system for 6 weeks, and I feel extremely discouraged. Today during his check-up at the doctors office he refused to let the nurse weigh him or...

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3 yr old trouble eating

Posted on 11/9/2017

My 3 year old doesn’t like to eat. She has always had trouble staying on the growth curve and is quite tall for her age and has never been an easy eater. Now she likes to talk non stop during...

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Grandma and 3-year old need some distance

Posted on 11/3/2017

Since joining, I have become a single Grandparent raising a 3.5 year old Grandson. My husband died in August. I frequently read Johns advice on putting the "marriage" first. However, there...

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Overwhelmed Mom

Posted on 10/27/2017

Hi, I am a homeschooling mother of three girls ages 9, 7 and 3. I frequently feel so exhausted around my kids. I KNOW there is a better way, and I keep trying to get there... but I never quite...

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