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Mass Confusion Has Taken Over!
Posted 2 weeks ago
I need a reset with our boys, ages 11, 9, 6 & 5. After a season of intense caring for our baby and 2-year-old daughter, things have become a disaster. The top misbehaviors in the house are...
Read More3 YO SWATS THE AIR INSTEAD OF HITTING
Posted 1 month ago
My 3.5-year-old son has always been a strong-willed child. About 6 months ago, we started using your discipline methods which have been great. Before that, we relied heavily on spanking but it...
Read MoreNap-Time Struggles
Posted on 9/7/2024
We are struggling with nap-time. My 3 yr girl and 2 yr boy always take a nap in the afternoon. If they are at their grandparents’s house and are in separate rooms they go to sleep quickly. But if...
Read MoreBe a Confident Leader
Posted on 8/19/2024
When using the tickets system with children (3-6 years old), how long should you give them to obey an instruction before a ticket is taken? Should you give them a minute or so grace period after...
Read MoreToddler guidance and independence
Posted on 7/11/2024
We recently found out that Baby #3 is on the way. We are trying to conquer the terrible twos with our son and conquer some issues with our 3 yr daughter. She has had a sneaky, disrespectful...
Read MoreRecognizing the Value of Childhood Chores
Posted on 7/5/2024
Hi there! I am wanting to know what chores I should expect from my three daughters, 3.5yo twins and 6.5yo. They help out here and there, but Dad and I are tired of doing all the clean up and no...
Read MorePost Vacay Reset
Posted on 5/5/2024
We recently went on a trip that was 13 days long. There was lots of drive time as we went to see different friends, family, and attended a wedding. Before the trip I could see that our two kids (3...
Read MoreNever spar with a picky eater.
Posted on 5/4/2024
My daughter (3 yrs.) has become a picky eater. Before she would occasionally be picky but most of the time did pretty decent with what we gave her. But she has recently been a very picky eater. I...
Read MoreTime to get their attention
Posted on 4/20/2024
Hi I wrote in 10 days ago and never heard back. We’re struggling with bedtime. We have 2 girls, ages 5 and 3. We moved them into the same bedroom about a month ago. We read another response to...
Read MoreThe Doctor Comes to Call
Posted on 1/24/2024
I have twin three-year-old girls (& a 6yo girl). For many reasons I have co-slept with the twins (husband’s 48-hour shift work, breastfeeding, etc.). I have slowly worked up to the point where we...
Read MoreCutting the apron strings 3yo
Posted on 11/5/2023
Our daughter is an only child, and I am a stay at home wife. She turned three in June and we are starting to have some difficulties separating her from our interactions as husband and wife during...
Read MoreChores, chores YES
Posted on 8/25/2023
I'm not good at consistently requiring my son's aged 5 and 3 to do any chores around the house. I think they are old enough to start doing regular small tasks but I'm not good at holding them to...
Read MoreHow to Purge the Toys
Posted on 8/25/2023
I have 2 boys aged 5 and 3 and a 1-year-old girl. We are trying to reduce the number of toys we have by gifting the toys we don't need anymore. However, I am finding it difficult to decide which...
Read MoreTODDLER REPEATING HIMSELF INCESSANTLY
Posted on 8/24/2023
I have 3 kids- 4, 3, 10 months. The current struggle we are having is with our just turned 3 year old son. Come to think of it, this has been an issue since he could speak. Our son will ask a...
Read MoreTWO YOUNG CHILDREN AND MOM GO NUTS AT BEDTIME
Posted on 6/15/2023
I have a 3 year old boy and 6 year old girl. We just recently moved into a new home and they now share a room. We’ve been at the new house for approx 4 weeks now and bedtime is insane. I take them...
Read MoreMaking Alpha Speech Work & Starting Tickets
Posted on 4/6/2023
I want to start using the ticket system with my 3 year old, and I know which behavior I want to target first, not doing as I ask. Like when I tell him to stop doing something, or go to the...
Read MoreWhen To Begin Nighttime Potty Training
Posted on 4/3/2023
What age or when should we implement night training for potty training?
Read More2-Year- Old Potty Training Regression is Normal
Posted on 3/31/2023
Potty trained regression!? Our son turned two at the end of february. We potty trained him exactly how the book says at about 22 months, naked & 75! And he conquered potty training really well in...
Read More3 Year Old Doesn’t Understand Why Chinese Grandma Doesn’t Understand Him
Posted on 3/13/2023
My mother, who speaks Chinese only, finally came to the U.S. to meet the grandkids (3 & 1.5 years) in person. Previous contact was through Facetime only. The 3-year-old boy is verbally pretty...
Read MoreWhen 'Because I said so' isn't stopping the conversation
Posted on 3/12/2023
We have a twelve-year old son that has trouble taking no for an answer. The question is asked, we say "no", and the "why" comes out. We follow that with "because I said so". He refuses to take...
Read MoreWhat to Do When a Child Won’t Stay In Timeout?
Posted on 2/23/2023
I work with families whose children have behavioral issues, and I use a lot of your parenting strategies. I have a case in which I'm not sure what to do. The child is 3 years old and refuses to...
Read MoreProgress isn't Linear
Posted on 2/16/2023
After a wonderful 2 hours of the morning, my son was sent to his room again around 8am for jumping on and scratching his dad while dad and the baby were on the couch. However, we had to go to a...
Read More3 YEAR OLD BITING, REDUX
Posted on 2/10/2023
My 3 year old son has many of the misbehaviors possible for his age. Before I found your books I assumed he would "grow out of them" and now I laugh at my past self for thinking that. Hitting...
Read More3 YO BITING
Posted on 2/9/2023
My son will be 3 in 10 days. Hitting and biting has become a large problem since my second son was born 5 months ago. It seems he hits the baby when the baby to get attention. He also hits and...
Read More3 YO BITING REDUX
Posted on 2/9/2023
I put my just about 3 year old in his room for the first time today for hitting his 5 month old brother. He keeps opening the door and/or coming out of the room. Each time he does, I bring him...
Read MorePicky Eater
Posted on 2/8/2023
Hi there! I’m so excited to be a member of ParentGuru. You were recommended by a good friend of mine who loves you and your books! How do you recommend handling kids refusing or being...
Read MorePotty training and responsibility
Posted on 12/29/2022
Is it ok to discipline a 4-year old for a potty accident? We potty trained our daughter at 25-months old. She turns 4 next week and she rarely has accidents anymore. However, strangely, today...
Read MoreAdoption questions
Posted on 9/27/2022
We have adopted 2 sons. They are 5 and 3 years old, and they came to us as babies (6 months and 3 1/2 months). They have never had any family member visits, or anyone in their lives other than my...
Read MoreGRANDPARENT TRAVAILS REDUX
Posted on 8/23/2022
John, Hi, my sons are grown now, enjoyed your columns, WE have 1 grandson . His Dad, my son, was spoiled so it seems to be continuing unfortunately. Question: now that Roman is 3, doesn't...
Read MoreDeciding how to grandparent.
Posted on 8/21/2022
Our grandson, turned 3, is starting to be a brat. Our son and daughter in law don't correct him. Daughter in law talks to him and never gets to the point. He doesn't go to bed at a regular...
Read More3.5-Year-Old Pulling Mom's Chain
Posted on 7/24/2022
The card system is working for the 3.5 year old and he is (begrudgingly) becoming obedient! However, he will not perform for me! He swims for his swim coach, but freaks out and demands to be put...
Read MoreMiddle of the Night Potty Solution
Posted on 7/16/2022
My 3.5 year old has been potty trained since before he was 2. I read and generally used the Rosemond book. However, I didn’t do the night/nap training as my pediatrician said it was just...
Read More3 YO SCREAMING OVER RANDOM STUFF AT BEDTIME
Posted on 7/6/2022
We have a 3.5 year old and each night, we have a routine that we go through with her - bath, put on pajamas, brush teeth, choose two books and read them, sing a couple of songs, and pray before...
Read MoreWhen to Transition 3-Year-Old to 'Big Bed'?
Posted on 7/5/2022
My son just turned three. He slept two nights in his twin bed in the room with his older brother. On the third night he wanted to go back to his room and sleep in his baby bed because he could not...
Read MoreThree-Year-Old's Sleep Patterns Changing
Posted on 6/22/2022
I believe my 3.5 year old is not getting enough sleep. He has toys in his room that he plays with during quiet time. He almost never naps anymore, but enjoys quiet time. Only recently has he...
Read MoreTicket System questions
Posted on 6/22/2022
I have some questions regarding the ticket system for a 3.5 year old. 1. What if he loses all of his tickets at the end of the day? One time he lost his last ticket but it was right before...
Read More3-Year-Old in Hyper Mode
Posted on 6/22/2022
My 3.5 year old will get hyper and annoying when he is overtired or overexcited. When he’s in a “hyper mode”, he’s running around, trying to roughhouse, jumping into people, being loud and...
Read More3 Year Old boy Testing the Limits
Posted on 6/20/2022
My 3.5 year old boy has responded very well to the card system! 3 cards lost and spend the rest of the day in your room. He also knows that hitting/kicking a person /the wall would be game over...
Read MoreBedtime woes
Posted on 6/16/2022
My almost 3 year old has transitioned into a big girl bed. The first couple of nights went so well it felt too good to be true, however, after a good couple of nights, my daughter has cried...
Read MoreReining in Mr. 3 year old
Posted on 6/12/2022
Wow! My normally good natured, well behaved 3 year old grandson has been an absolute tyrant today. He will not listen to his parents, laughs and acts like everything is funny. They keep trying...
Read MoreGood Cop Bad Cop
Posted on 6/6/2022
Ongoing tiff with Husband. Example scenario: 3 1/2 year old daughter is harassing 1 1/2 year old daughter and is put in timeout in her room. Every time she's in timeout she's screaming and losing...
Read MoreSwimming Upstream
Posted on 6/2/2022
My 3.5 year old is a bit timid when it comes to physical things. For example, he won’t go down a slide, but then when I just shove him down it he has fun. My problem is swimming. Now I have an 8...
Read MoreThe Terrible Threes: Taking a Powder with the Doctor
Posted on 5/25/2022
Threenagers worse than the terrible twos? My 3.5 yr old daughter is very disrespectful toward myself and my husband. She's frequently whining, throwing tantrums, and during those tantrums...
Read MoreThe Third Year of Life - A Time to Learn and Blossom
Posted on 5/24/2022
What chores and responsibilities should a 3.5 year old have? Should there be a designate “workbook/learning” time every day?
Read MoreDon't Overthink Autism Diagnosis
Posted on 5/22/2022
My 2.5-year-old daughter has a working diagnosis of autism. I’m finding it incredibly difficult to get my head around it. I do not want to sound unsympathetic, but how did this happen? Why are so...
Read MoreBedtime Monsters
Posted on 5/15/2022
My 9 year old won’t go to bed at night, constantly crying about monsters etc which has never been an issue before. It seems to be one thing after the other. If he could sleep in my bed he would...
Read MorePosted on 5/15/2022
My 3.5 year old thinks he is running the show. He is bossy, and doing insubordination and attention seeking behaviors. I read your books and he was an easy toddler. But dad I forgot to use alpha...
Read MoreTwo-Year-Old's Tantrums
Posted on 4/29/2022
I have 3 sons: 3, 2.5 (fostered than adopted-been with us since 2 months old) and a 2 month old. I have two questions: 1. I work from home two days/week, and my mom and sister-in-law help...
Read MoreNo Response is a Response: Let Them Be Silly
Posted on 4/21/2022
How do we teach our children to stop the constant silly talk/noises? One child is diagnosed with ADHD, autism, etc. I've set up a rule that the first 30 minutes after wakeup and the last 30...
Read MoreLet 3-Year-Old Know You Mean Business!
Posted on 4/19/2022
My child is 3 and a half and has started talking back and hitting. Putting him in his room doesn't help. He comes right out. Suggestions?
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