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Shorten bedtime routine

Posted 1 week ago

Hello, I have two daughters - an almost 3 year old and a 6 year old. i am married to an airline pilot who needs to regularly be out of town for 4-5 days a week. We make it through the days pretty...

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Being in charge means...

Posted on 11/9/2019

How do you recommend dealing with whining and bad attitudes? We we using the ticket system with our 5 year old and it is helping with bigger bad behaviors. We are working to use Alpha speech and...

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Forcing a Preschooler to Nap

Posted on 11/8/2019

I am fortunate enough to work at a place that offers an onsite daycare. My 3 year old son goes to that daycare and has since he was 1. They are montessori and he has changes rooms as he has...

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Challenges of Ticket System for Mother of Four

Posted on 11/7/2019

Our oldest 4 children, ages 10, 8, 6, and 5, are all on the tickets system. They each start the day with 5 tickets. The first three tickets lost are "free", the 4th ticket costs them the...

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Navigating the Bedtime War Zone

Posted on 11/6/2019

When my daughter was 13 months old I decided to go back to work so we slept trained her. It took about 2-3 nights and she was sleeping through the night. A year later she started waking up...

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Resist excuses to wander at bedtime.

Posted on 10/22/2019

Our three and five-year-old boys who share a room started coming into our room at night. They usually say they are scared, or hungry. We have a 10-month-old who is newly adopted and not sleeping...

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Resetting The Dial Can Be Best Bet

Posted on 10/21/2019

What are the suggested number of target behaviors and daily tickets for children of the following ages: 1) boy age 5 - generally a low-misbehaver, main problem is tantrums, sometimes disobeys or...

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Tickets for 3 year olds?

Posted on 10/17/2019

We started the ticket system with our three and 5 year old boys about two months ago. I feel like our 3 year old may be too young for it. The afternoons are particularly rough because he has...

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Church Expectations

Posted on 10/6/2019

This is a question about age-appropriate expectations in Church. We have 6 children ages 10, 8, 6, 5, 3, and 1. I have told the older kids that, unless you are a baby or a toddler - which they...

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Sibling Rivalry Not Improving

Posted on 9/22/2019

Hello! Our daughter (26 months) has been hitting, scratching, biting etc her sister (almost 4.5 years old). At first we told her a firm no but now the incidents have increased and we put her in...

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3 y/o and 1 y/o siblings learning to play together

Posted on 9/18/2019

My son is 3 years old and my daughter is 1 year old. My son is really good about playing by himself and lining up his cars when he plays; however, my daughter really likes to bug him. She...

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Dinner Time Battle of the Wills

Posted on 9/16/2019

My 3 year old daughter has developed a bad habit at dinner time. Although she’s usually pretty good to try new foods, every now and then she will - for some unknown reason - hold a bite of food in...

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3 y/o Drama Queen

Posted on 9/5/2019

Every time we have to say goodbye to my 3 year old's friend, she cries like it's the end of the world and has a fit... We go on nightly walks with them and I have stopped because I do not want to...

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Wrestle Mania

Posted on 9/3/2019

We started the ticket system with our 3 year old a few weeks ago (along with working on changing our language to Alpha language). I think he gets it. He can verbalize the basics of the system and...

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Benefits of Boredom

Posted on 8/22/2019

Is boredom good or bad for toddlers? I've read differing opinions. I'm referring to free, unstructured, tv-free time in a yard or playroom setting. Some have said it leaves them...

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Beware of TMI

Posted on 8/21/2019

How would you answer a 3 year old grandson when he ask where his mommy is, when mommy walked away 5 months ago and we dont know if or when she will come back into the picture. Child lives in a...

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Concerns About Child's Adjustment to New Sibling

Posted on 8/21/2019

Our 3-year-old daughter has a brother coming early January. I am pretty nervous about how she will react and if I have what it takes to continue to make her feel secure. My brother came when I was...

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Wild Child

Posted on 8/17/2019

We recently started he ticket system with our 3 and 5 year old children. It has worked well with our 5 year old but our three year old has lost all his tickets multiple times. Often, the loss of...

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Clarification on N75

Posted on 7/25/2019

I've recently started potty training my daughter (we're on day 2) who will be 3 in September. We are using the N75 method, but I needed some clarification on a few things. We set a timer and sit...

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When only one child misbehaves should the other kids have to miss out?

Posted on 7/24/2019

We live in an apartment. During the working days I am at work all day long. We have three girls: 6-year old, 4-year old and 3-month old baby. The two older kids have been adopted three years ago...

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The Great Outdoors

Posted on 7/22/2019

First of all, thank for all the previous advice I've been given. It has all been helpful. This may be a silly question, but I was wondering what is an appropriate age to send my kids outside to...

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Focus on the How Rather than the Why

Posted on 7/14/2019

My (almost) 3 year old girl has been potty trained for 8 months. She wears underwear during the day and a pull up at night. For the past 2-3 days she has been having frequent pee and poop...

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Trouble with Transitions at Preschool

Posted on 7/10/2019

A follow up to my previous question... we have had several informal conferences with the director of my 3 y/o son’s preschool. It seems like everything is fine until he is asked to do something...

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Adjusting to Preschool Can Be Tough

Posted on 7/4/2019

My almost 3-year-old son has been attending the same Montessori-based preschool for the past year. 90-95% of the AM drop-offs have been difficult for him resulting in a meltdown. His teacher...

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Tips for Taming Automatic Flusher Fears

Posted on 6/4/2019

Hello, we are very grateful to have our 3 year old well potty trained. Unfortunately, we have run into a little problem. He is deathly terrified of automatic flush toilets. He will cry, scream,...

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I'm Not Your Friend

Posted on 6/3/2019

My four year old has been telling her younger sister who is three that she will not play with her, be her best friend, etc. if she doesn’t play the way she wants or gives her the toy she is...

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Following the Leader

Posted on 5/21/2019

My girls, ages 6,5 and 3, prefer to follow me around during their free time. They just like to watch what I’m doing and talk and sometimes be involved in what I’m doing. I wonder if I should send...

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Creating Opportunities for Freedom!

Posted on 5/5/2019

Regarding your article "Freedom lost on the children of today" I am inspired by the moms of the last generation - my parents, too, experienced a similar kind of thing growing up. Running around,...

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3 Year Old Delaying Bedtime with Potty Breaks

Posted on 4/25/2019

Hello, my three year old has always slept well through the night and became potty trained pretty quickly. Unfortunately, until recently, he asks to use the restroom 2-3 times a night. He refuses...

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Jesus Loves the Little Children Through Grandparents

Posted on 4/14/2019

I am a step grandparent. We have a three year old grandson who is being raised in a progressive, liberal, agnostic environment. The household is run by the toddler and to say it is matriarch ruled...

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Toilet Training Times Two Continued!

Posted on 4/7/2019

To clarify on the former question: Our 3 y.o. son was completely out of diapers for several months (with hardly any success) when we bought Rosemond's book. Before we had the chance to read it, he...

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How to Nip Whining in the Bud

Posted on 3/24/2019

Hello, my 3-year-old whines quite a bit. Most of the times he jumps up and down when asking for something. He whines more when he doesn’t get what he wants, is sick, tired, etc. We tell him we’ll...

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Toilet Training Times Two!

Posted on 3/19/2019

Another potty training question. We started “training” our 3.5 year old son close to a year and a half ago. We tried all sorts of stupid things; diapers were allowed for any excuse we thought of,...

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Potty training not working?

Posted on 3/18/2019

We have been working to potty train our 3 1/2 year old son for a week now, since last monday. He seemed to be getting better by Thursday. He would be a little in his underwear, but hold it, and...

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3 Year Old Terror at Bedtime 'Part 2'

Posted on 3/13/2019

My 3 year old daughter continues to yell and scream at the top of her lungs at bedtime if someone does not lay with her. I will kiss, hug, tuck her in and then leave. Before I'm out the door,...

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Better late than never

Posted on 3/11/2019

Our son is 3 1/2, and we are way late to potty training. Today we started the N75 plan. He went this morning in the potty. Later, after a little pee in his underwear, he sat on the potty for quite...

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Parental Reason is a Dish Best Served Cold

Posted on 3/8/2019

What do you recommend for two little ones ages 3 and 4 for not wanting to eat what I fix for meals? This has just started and we want to nip it as soon as we can. Do we make them sit until they...

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Put Tantrums In Their Place

Posted on 3/2/2019

We have a 3 year old who throws temper tantrums but we can’t send him to his room because he won’t stay and goes on & on with no way to keeping him put. How do you deal with such high emotions and...

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Meaningful or Logical?

Posted on 3/1/2019

Having a hard time with my 3.5 year old boy and what would be a logical consequence - every morning and after nap time he struggles with getting out of bed reasonably. He usually wails and...

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Transition From Servant to Teacher

Posted on 2/20/2019

Three year old temper tantrums, what is the resolution? When he doesn't get what he wants or disobeys, he goes off on a tangent only to calm down when he gets what he wants or is distracted.

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Sibling Rivalry

Posted on 2/19/2019

my daughters, age 5 and 2, constantly fight. I agree siblings need to settle their own quarrels; however, my 2 year old is still physically agressive (pulling hair, hitting), and sometimes I...

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more consequences or more attitude?

Posted on 2/16/2019

Do you all have a list of different types of consequences for young kids? Currently we use a combination of the following for our kids (6, 5, 3, 20mos): spankings with a wooden spoon (sometimes...

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Youngsters 3.5 and 5.5 yo disturbing the peace

Posted on 2/15/2019

I have three boys, 5.5 and 3.5 years old, and an 8-month-old baby. The older two share a bedroom and are homeschooled. When they are not doing an instructed activity or chore, they disturb the...

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Mom's Got a lot on her Plate

Posted on 2/9/2019

Our daughter (3.5) has been a fairly good eater: from olives to avocados to salmon, everything was fine with her. But lately I noticed that she hardly eats anything at dinner (just dinner, not...

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Discipline Drama Take 2

Posted on 1/20/2019

How do you get a 38month old child to comply? I have a little girl who says no to almost everything I tell/ask her to do. What do I do if she just doesn’t do It? Make her sit in her chair until...

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Who's the Boss? 3-Year-Old Monitors Younger Sibling

Posted on 1/6/2019

Hello! Our oldest daughter (3.5 years) watches over our youngest (1.5). For instance, whenever our youngest is doing something harmful or dangerous our oldest calls me. Lately she also started...

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3 Year Old Terror at Bedtime

Posted on 1/4/2019

My 3 year old is a terror at bedtime! She used to go down great, then 1 night everything changed. I lay with her in bed, if I get up before she is asleep she screams and gets out of bed. While I'm...

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children not listening

Posted on 12/23/2018

Hello. A tiny bit about us: I had 5 children in 4.5 years: 3 girls then twin boys, now 6, 4.5, 3, & 18 mos (x2). I stay at home and do not work. The 6 yr old is in Kinder and other two girls...

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Discipline Drama

Posted on 12/13/2018

I have a 2.5 (boy) and 3.5 (girl) year old, and my girl constantly is taking things from her brother. He doesn’t tend to fight back much. I’m wondering when I can expect my daughter to stop...

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Left Out in the Cold

Posted on 12/3/2018

Our son will be 3 in January and refuses to wear a jacket in the winter months. At times, we have forced him and other times we have allowed him to wear a sweater/vest in the hopes that he would...

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