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Doctor Makes House Call for 5 yo

Posted 2 weeks ago

My 5 year old son Dane is currently enrolled in Pre-K at a Catholic elementary school. He loves school once he gets there and has great behavior in the classroom, High praises from his teacher,...

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FOMO=NOMO

Posted 2 weeks ago

4 year old boy with FOMO (fear of missing out) Our 4 year old son melts down any time it’s time to leave somewhere fun (school, tennis, friends house, etc) is there anything I can do to nip this...

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Longing for a peaceful home

Posted 3 weeks ago

What is your advice for a child who refuses to stay in their room? Up until recently we had been locking our daughter’s door when she had lost all her tickets on the ticket system. This last...

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6 year old's Target Misbehaviors must be concrete and specific

Posted on 10/29/2018

We have been doing the chart system for a week now with our 6 year old son targeting disrespect/defiance and disobedience. We started out with 8 squares a day. There have only been a few days when...

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Out of Control 7yr old

Posted on 10/27/2018

Hi, my husband and I would appreciate some advice on our situation with our 7 year old daughter. Her medication has become ineffective recently and we are at our wits end with what to do with...

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5 yro tantrums

Posted on 10/7/2018

Hi there. We have an almost 6 year old girl who has horrific tantrums. They occur about once every two weeks. Is this normal? Our other kids tantrums were never this awful (even worse than the...

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5 year old boy behaves better at home than at school

Posted on 10/4/2018

My 5 year old son is in preschool, and we are working very hard on his behavior and manners. He still has tantrums which I am working hard to end. Lately, when he has a tantrum or is disrespectful...

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Use John's ABC or DRC Method for Issues at School?

Posted on 9/24/2018

My son is currently in the 4th grade. At the beginning of the school year, we implemented the "ABC's of Effective Homework Management" and as expected, our son has been slacking on his homework...

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Tantrums in 4 YO boy

Posted on 8/27/2018

I’ve read many of the tantrums questions - how to deal when the child is 4-5. My child is 4 and throws multiple tantrums with plenty of disrepect - and demands that he needs to pee, he’s scared,...

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6 yo Throwing Wits Ending Tantrums

Posted on 8/17/2018

I am at my wit’s end. My 6 year old is making life miserable for our household. She is very strong willed and gets very angry easily. At school she gets certificates for her “model behavior”....

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taking back authority over 7yo

Posted on 8/12/2018

I recently discovered Mr. Rosemond's books. My husband and I are now implementing his ideas with our 7 year old son who gets easily frustrated when he doesn't get his way, ignores our demands,...

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Preschooler with an Attitude

Posted on 8/8/2018

Our 4, almost 5 year old has developed a very strong attitude problem lately. Everything that my husband or I tell her turns into her talking back. We have always told her “because I said so,” but...

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Overwhelmed Mom wants to take back her authority, but can't stop yelling

Posted on 8/7/2018

My son is extremely defiant and NOTHING we have tried thus far has made a difference. Spanking him has to be done several times over, and is always accompanied by screaming, blaming, back-talk,...

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4 yo behavior more important than emotions

Posted on 8/1/2018

I regularly read your newsletter, books and read QandA's on your website. You often talk about expecting our kiddos to control their emotions. I totally agree!! I regular tell my kids that if THEY...

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Three year old adapting to changes

Posted on 7/25/2018

Our daughter turned 3 in May and it was around that time that we became aware of John Rosemond's books. We learnt that we were not authoritative in our parenting style nor did we use alpha speech,...

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9 YO Daughter In Need Of Wake Up Call

Posted on 7/14/2018

My 9 year old daughter is defiant and refuses to go to her room when disciplined. She is too big and strong for me to carry her and she won’t stay even if I manage to get her there. She feels...

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How to effectively delay consequences for 5,6 yros

Posted on 7/7/2018

I’m struggling to understand how to enact delayed consequences as described in The “Nipping” Principle and could use some suggestions. It’s easy enough to do while on errands as both my 5 and...

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Screaming, and Crying and Tantrums, Oh, My!

Posted on 6/23/2018

4 year old daughter suddenly having 30-45 mins tantrums when she doesn’t want to do something. Kicks, screams bloody murder, throws herself around to the point of hurting herself or me, will not...

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Toddler tantrums at the store

Posted on 6/18/2018

Hi there, how do I tell my 33 month old no at the store. Is there a way to avoid a tantrum? Do I just snatch the item away and exit the store as quickly as I can? It has been a lot more difficult...

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6yro pouts

Posted on 6/18/2018

My 6 year old son is generally well-behaved. He does have one behavior that I‘m at a lost to correct. He pouts when he is disciplined – by pouting I mean the skin around his eyes turns red, he...

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The Terrible Three's

Posted on 6/15/2018

My 33 month old has recently begun yelling all of his responses. He gets frustrated very easily and says, “Stop! Stop it, mommy!” and “Goooosh!” "No!" is his favorite word, and now he yells it....

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Who's In Charge?

Posted on 6/4/2018

I asked a question recently related to potty training and part of the answer was that I needed to reestablish myself as the head of the household. And that is so true!!! I have had an in going...

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18m old has too many tantrums

Posted on 6/2/2018

Our daughter is 18months old and is/has been a happy and affectionate child, rarely crying/fussing. In the past week or two she has begun tantrums and intentional testing of us, and we are...

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Just Do It

Posted on 5/29/2018

Have wanted to start training my now 20 month old for a while now, the problem is 90% of the time when you tell her to go on the potty she throws a fit. I have read toilet training with out...

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Get Along or Get Away

Posted on 5/13/2018

Hello! My 6 and 3 years old sometimes play well together just perfect, but sometimes it is just horribly. 6 years would do something that 3 years doesn’t like or they just can’t share one red...

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3 yro crying uncontrollably

Posted on 5/3/2018

My 3 year old daughter sometimes cries so hard and long that she stops breathing for a few seconds. She usually does it when she is having a little tantrum, but it has also happened after hurting...

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2 yo Tantrums

Posted on 4/21/2018

Hi again, I am the mother of 3 children whom I love very much. A delightful 6 year old girl, a wonderfully compliant and sensitive 4 year old boy and a 2 year and 9 month old girl who is what...

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4 yo Tantrums

Posted on 4/16/2018

My four year old son has, much to my embarrassment, been a very demanding child who screams, cries, or yells with a tantrum. This happens when he doesn’t get the toy he wants, cereal he desires,...

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Tantrumming 5 year old

Posted on 4/14/2018

My 5-year-old, who is an otherwise happy, well-behaved child, cries at the drop of a hat if she perceives something has gone wrong or may go wrong soon (especially if she can't find something)....

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2.5 year old tantrum must be contained and not punished

Posted on 3/25/2018

What is the appropriate reaction/action or punishment for a 2.5 year old that is throwing a tantrum and then it escalates into hitting or pushing myself or his nanny or his 5 year old...

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Mr Cranky Pants

Posted on 3/25/2018

Our 2.5 year old son is having tantrums a lot more frequently. And he consistently does this before naps and bedtime the last week. He states that "he isn't tired." I explain that he needs to rest...

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It's Only a Phase!

Posted on 3/21/2018

My 3 year old child started the ticket system with 5 tickets in October of 2017. By January of 2018 we had a changed child on our hands and we were able to put away the ticket system. All of...

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Two Year Old Throwing Fits in Public

Posted on 3/8/2018

Hello, I have a two year old foster child who is usually very well behaved. Lately, he has been throwing tiny fits (usually in public). For example, today at the gym he was playing in the kids...

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Craving mom

Posted on 1/21/2018

My almost 3 year old girl has seemed to have anxiety/fear since a very young age and it's building to unhealthy limits. At a young age, I would try to drop her off at church nursery, but she would...

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Disobedient 4 YO

Posted on 1/17/2018

Our oldest continues to not listen when we instruct her to do something. She either does not do what we ask, complains that it is too hard, or screams. She is four. We typically reprimand by...

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Family sick of 4 yo tyrant

Posted on 1/3/2018

My four year old son is ridiculous at home. He is constantly taking mean to all of us, does stuff on purpose he knows he not supposed too, is loud, annoys our dog constantly. We have done the...

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3 YO "Catching" Whining Bug from 2 YO

Posted on 12/31/2017

My 2 year old boy has really developed a whiny attitude. I know this is normal for a 2 year old based on what I've read in Rosemonds book about the transition from 2 to 3 but it has also started...

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Toddler throws items and hits things when frustrated.

Posted on 12/25/2017

Hi there, my 27 month old throws items when he gets frustrated. He also attempts to hit something when he doesn’t have anything to throw. We’ve taught him not to hit us or others, so now he hits...

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How long to allow a screaming toddler to scream.

Posted on 12/25/2017

In regards to the "tantrum room", how long is it okay to leave a screaming toddler in there? And how do you get them to stay in there? Should I be locking my daughter in or should I just...

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You've Tried Everything. Now What?

Posted on 11/22/2017

I have four kids, ages 5, 4, 3, and 2. My 4 year old is having terrible fits. He is also regressing in his potty training and wets his pants several times a day. The things that he throws fits...

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Free to Disagree, Not Disobey

Posted on 11/13/2017

My 4.5 year-old-son has whining meltdown 3-5 times a day, usually when he 1) is told he can't have something, 2) it's time to stop doing something, or 3) there is some representation of...

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Perfectionist 10 Year Old

Posted on 11/3/2017

My eldest daughter is a perfectionist. She is a very organized person and is doing well in school. However, whenever she can't solve a homework problem or she struggles with new song on the piano,...

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19 month old Screaming, 4 y/o Bothering

Posted on 10/23/2017

I need help!! My 19 month old has recently found her "voice". She is screaming this horrible high pitched scream when she can't communicate. Like a typical toddler she is quite bossy and gets...

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Taming the Toddler Tantrums

Posted on 10/9/2017

Hi there, my 25 month old son is starting to have more tantrums at home and especially in public. I have heard of a tantrum spot where they can express themselves, alone. My question is- how long...

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post nap crankiness with 2 year old twins

Posted on 10/8/2017

What is the right way to handle 2-year-old post-nap tantrums/crankiness? My 29 month old boy/girl twins often are extremely out of sorts when they wake from their afternoon nap. Today my daughter...

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3yr old out of control

Posted on 9/14/2017

My husband and I are struggling with finding the right disciplinary action for our 3 year old daughter. She has many meltdowns and tests our authority on a regular basis. We have found that taking...

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Same problem, same directive.

Posted on 9/2/2017

How do I get my 6yo boy to stop the constant whining/crying when he doesn't get his way, gets frustrated, and fighting with his 2 sisters. Help.... It's driving me nuts!!

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Being consistent.

Posted on 8/21/2017

Our 9 year old daughter has a legion of home and school misbehaviors (primarilly tantrums/hitting at home and agression/defiance at school) that have been occuring for years. After reading "The...

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Toddler training

Posted on 8/6/2017

My husband and I are looking for advice on how to discipline our 16 month old. He is a very energetic toddler, running around and getting into everything he can. We have a baby gate up to stop him...

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Terrible Transition to Three

Posted on 8/3/2017

My 3 year old is a bully. She is starting 1st pre-school soon, Picks on 2 year old sister (sleep in same room, in cribs but climbs out) uncontrollable screaming when not going her way, snatches...

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