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Caution: Child in Charge

Posted 1 week ago

Our recently-turned 11-year-old boy is really hating school this year. He seems to think he knows what he needs to learn for his future and the rest is a waste of his time. He is a very bright...

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Fitting In

Posted 1 week ago

Hi have a soon to be 13 year old. He is in a new school, his old school was a Christian school. It has been somewhat of a struggle in middle school. From being the new student and being exposed to...

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Educational Feel Good Programs

Posted 1 month ago

What are your thoughts on NEDRP? Restorative practices in education......seems to me like catering to already entitled and spoiled children......building a relationship.....blah blah blah.....Why...

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Out of Control 7yr old

Posted on 10/27/2018

Hi, my husband and I would appreciate some advice on our situation with our 7 year old daughter. Her medication has become ineffective recently and we are at our wits end with what to do with...

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Peers Will Make or Break 15 YO Girl

Posted on 10/24/2018

15 year old daughter confessed to me last night that she went to the park before school and had sex with a boy a few weeks ago. She has had her period, so she doesn't believe she is pregnant. She...

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A Six Year old's School Struggles

Posted on 10/22/2018

Our 6 yo girl went to school this year and she faced three problems there: First, she doesn’t recognize teachers’ authority (although she has due respect to us parents). This problem is further...

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The High School Experiment

Posted on 10/22/2018

I feel like I ask the same questions all the time. My 12th grader is stressing me out, he is barely making his grades in school coming in at B, C, D's and E's. He's a good kid but I suspect...

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Taming the Class Clown

Posted on 10/15/2018

My son is 8 years old and I'm trying the "out of the garden" to correct some behaviors. He's already corrected two of them but having trouble with his 3rd misbehavior which is having a good day at...

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Don't Play Dumb With Me

Posted on 10/9/2018

My son is 8 years old and is having behavioral problems. One of his issues is playing dumb. He always acts like he doesn't know what he's supposed to be doing and is always leaving his belongings...

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Parenting perspective adjustment.

Posted on 10/6/2018

My 8 year old son is giving us a few issues. He primarily lives with my husband and I, and goes to his fathers every Friday and every other weekend. He is allowed to do whatever he wants which...

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Forgetful Schooler

Posted on 9/24/2018

Hi there, how can I discipline a 7 year old girl who is always forgetting instructions to be completed? I would giver her 2 or 3 instructions and she completes 1 or 2 of them, or completes all but...

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Use John's ABC or DRC Method for Issues at School?

Posted on 9/24/2018

My son is currently in the 4th grade. At the beginning of the school year, we implemented the "ABC's of Effective Homework Management" and as expected, our son has been slacking on his homework...

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Following Rules

Posted on 9/19/2018

My 5 year old just started kindergarten and she has made a few friends - one that she just adores. This morning when I dropped her off for school she couldn't find her best friend and she was...

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Six year old needs a leader.

Posted on 9/12/2018

My son just turned 6 and started Kindergarten at a really great private school that has high expectations for kind behavior. His behavior in the classroom is very good, but he's having a bit of...

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4 yro not listening

Posted on 9/11/2018

Good afternoon. I am still struggling with my 4 year old son. He has a lot of trouble listening to directions, no matter what consequences have been put in place. We've taken away privileges, put...

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Middle School Behaviors

Posted on 8/23/2018

Is there a section on this site for teachers? Where can I find information about dealing with behaviors in a school setting specifically middle school?

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Bored kindergartener?

Posted on 8/22/2018

Hi- I have a “just turned” 5yo that has just started kindergarten about 1 month ago. He mostly comes home on “green” but he has had 5 days below green over the last month. The teacher emailed...

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2 year old's Preschool teacher demands he wear pullups

Posted on 8/15/2018

After reading Toilet Training without Tantrums by Rosemond, we went straight to underwear with our 2.5 year old. He has transitioned to another class at daycare, and the teacher feels he isn't...

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When a Child's Frustration Spills Over

Posted on 6/23/2018

My 7yo son was doing a worksheet at school and made a mistake that he could still see after trying to erase it, so he asked for another worksheet. Since there was a substitute teacher, and there...

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Attention-Seeking Behavior Disguised as Lack of Confidence

Posted on 6/12/2018

My 8 yr old son is hard on himself and can be quite stubborn. It's a crazy mix of attributes that my husband and I are having a hard time navigating. If he misses 1 spelling word, he shuts...

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Setting the Expectation for Better Grades

Posted on 6/9/2018

My 11 yr old son has very average grades. He had 2 C's on his report card, and I did not pressure him or get involved with his schoolwork very much this past 6th grade year. Should I create more...

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Teaching Time for Touchy 7 yo boy

Posted on 6/7/2018

my 7 year old son got in trouble at school for grabbing the private parts of another boy. Similar things have happened before and we've been working on a solution. For the last 3 months he had to...

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Son Expelled Again--Mom Seeks Help

Posted on 5/27/2018

I have been seeking help from this site for a while. We may have benefited from a parent coach but could not afford one. My son has been expelled from his second Catholic School. We were left...

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Normal Preschooler!

Posted on 5/26/2018

Preschool has been a wonderful thing for my 5-year old daughter. The two things that were a theme throughout the year, however, were that her teacher told me that my daughter often talked out of...

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Teacher took the Book of Chrome----off the hook at home??

Posted on 4/28/2018

My 14 year old son Is about to finish the eighth grade. His school issues each student a chromebook for classroom use. Today, I received an email saying that my son had been caught watching videos...

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6.5 yro needs to understand who is in control

Posted on 4/26/2018

My son who is 6.5 years old, has always had a competitive nature. From wanting to win in games, being first out the door, first in line...first, first, first, win, win, win...it's exhausting. I...

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6 YO Boy Must Turn Down The Volume

Posted on 4/19/2018

Good afternoon! My son is 6 years old, he is in kindergarten. We recently got a report card and it would be great except couple exceptions: -Works well with others; -uses appropriate words to...

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Attack big problem, smaller ones may fade away.

Posted on 4/19/2018

Good afternoon! In report card that we recently got before there is some problem - "following directions"- till January my son was good at that point, but in March he doesn't quite do it. Do you...

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Parents Know Best

Posted on 4/19/2018

Our daughter is in Kindergarten. Her school wants her assessed for support services. She is having behavior issues in class. (Which we are trying to have her held accountable for, but the school...

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School Toy Story

Posted on 3/29/2018

Hi, I have a question regarding my almost 7 year old daughter. Last year she got kicked out of kindergarten after 3 suspensions in the first few months of school. She was then sent to a...

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13 year old Fighting in School

Posted on 3/26/2018

Our 13-year-old son is getting in trouble regularly at school, he is constantly arguing/fighting with a class mate he’s had problems with for 3 years. His classmate is very convert in his daily...

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Self Control?

Posted on 3/12/2018

Thank you for answering my question from earlier in the week. I appreciate Parent Guru & the role of the doctor in my life. My sons 3 qtr report came home on Thursday of course I knew he had...

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5th Grader Must Respond

Posted on 3/10/2018

How do I get my son to take responsibility for his actions, his chores and his homework? I have tried everything from reverse psychology to taking privileges away from him and nothing seems to...

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4yro anxiety/disobedience

Posted on 3/8/2018

Hello again I had just written to you last week about my sons anxiety. Well ever since this constant anxiety he’s been having and we have been doing what you said and I️t has helped. However he...

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8yro not finishing school work

Posted on 3/7/2018

My 8 year old son doesn't use his time wisely at school to get his papers done. So when most of the other kids never have homework, my son does quite often. I'm preparing to start a weekly chart...

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Prayer comes first.

Posted on 3/7/2018

We are taking my son to Christian family counselor in my area next week. Please pray for us as I listen to John and do not trust psychologists, and do not believe they have anything in common with...

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Two out of Three

Posted on 3/5/2018

My 9+ year old talks back to teachers and classmates, calls other students names, won't follow directions of teachers and refuses to do what he's been told (one teacher captured it perfectly...

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Are expectations proper for dawdling son?

Posted on 2/21/2018

Our two children attend a Montessori school and are both still in primary classrooms. This is my son’s third year, and he will bridge to lower elementary at the end of the school year. My son was...

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5 yro needs too much attention in school

Posted on 2/19/2018

I have a 5 year old son who began kindergarten this fall. His teacher has reported several times that he requires a lot of one on one guidance to complete tasks in the classroom. She has also...

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10-Year-Old Boy Must Own School Problem

Posted on 2/16/2018

My 10-year-old son is having increasing difficulties keeping focus in school. The teacher brought it to our attention about 3 months ago. He has always taken a little longer to get homework and...

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Parenting tug-o-war.

Posted on 2/7/2018

Follow up to last question... We had our ten year old fifth grader on restriction for six weeks. For us, restriction means no electronics, no sleepovers, no dirt bike, etc. In this time we saw...

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Dismissed from kindergarten

Posted on 1/22/2018

My six year old son is being expelled from his Catholic kindergarten. He says another child told him to ask a girl if a grown up ever touched her privates. She went home told her mother. He was...

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Craving mom

Posted on 1/21/2018

My almost 3 year old girl has seemed to have anxiety/fear since a very young age and it's building to unhealthy limits. At a young age, I would try to drop her off at church nursery, but she would...

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Expelled from K5?

Posted on 1/17/2018

My now six year old son is again suspended from kindergarten. This time for saying bathroom words in class thinking it was funny.. They were not amused. We are waiting to see if he will be...

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3 yr old's behavior gets worse

Posted on 12/14/2017

So we've been doing this, sending him to bed early every night, and it almost seems like that's making it worse? The teacher is reporting more dirt eating than usual and he gets in the car after...

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Manipulation or Depression?

Posted on 12/7/2017

Manipulation or True Depression that needs help? My 15 year old son has for the last couple years been not very happy and lately very depressed. We assume because he's losing his electronics...

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You are trying to do what?

Posted on 12/4/2017

Hi. My 13 year old daughter has asked to speak with a counselor for her anxiety issues and depression issues. She has made statements of doing possible self harm. We are looking into someone...

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Smoking Weed

Posted on 12/4/2017

I have heard that it is so common along kids in college to smoke weed, it is absolutely normal for this generation. How to react if i know my child does smoke it and has find it as her relaxing...

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Ramifications of saying "no" to school santa activity.

Posted on 11/29/2017

Dear Parent Guru, I received the below e-mail this afternoon from my daughter's teacher and was hoping to obtain your thoughts on the matter. Last year the same teacher started the secret...

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Did my child really do that?

Posted on 11/28/2017

I just got a call from the Kindergarten counselor. Apparently my 5YO son touched a female classmate inappropriately on the playground before the Thanksgiving break. She told her mom, mom called...

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