Questions
Does Chicken Little Make You a Little Chicken? A Four-Year Old's Tantrumizing
Posted on 12/29/2022
Constant power struggle with 4-year old. Our 4 year old son’s behavior has done a complete 180 within the last couple of weeks only at home. Preschool and daycare is constantly telling us he’s...
Read MoreRaising Believers
Posted on 8/30/2022
We just started the ticket system and we have one target misbehavior for our 4 year old. Following directions. For example, when he loses a ticket because he doesn’t listen when we ask him to...
Read MoreThe Compass Points South: A 15-Year-Old’s Craving for Independence
Posted on 8/29/2022
I have a 15 year old daughter that I used to call my "compass" as she was such an easy child to raise. But, the last 2 years have been difficult. Now, I haven't spoken to her for 3 days because I...
Read More3.5-Year-Old Pulling Mom's Chain
Posted on 7/24/2022
The card system is working for the 3.5 year old and he is (begrudgingly) becoming obedient! However, he will not perform for me! He swims for his swim coach, but freaks out and demands to be put...
Read MoreTime for a Reboot
Posted on 5/18/2022
Since the first email our son (8yrs) was operated on for septic arthritis 6 months ago. The pain returned 2weeks ago (now gone). His hip bone has a small weakness and he needs to ensure he has no...
Read MoreParents Need To Be on The Same Page
Posted on 4/14/2022
In order to apply garden kick, should both parents sit down with the child and go over all the consequences for breaking family rules? One issue with my daughter is phone, I had asked her phone...
Read MoreIt's Not About the Makeup: Time for a Garden Kick
Posted on 3/20/2022
15-year old daughter very obsessed with make-up. Used our Amazon account to buy makeup Products without our knowing till I looked up order history. Took away all her makeup products, went...
Read MoreParental Leadership is Critical
Posted on 3/10/2022
Good afternoon, My 5, almost 6, year old son is struggling, in school and at home, with impulse control and tantrums. Today, he got in trouble at school for spitting on the carpet and another...
Read MoreDeconstructing the Monster: the 3D's at age 10
Posted on 3/3/2022
We are ready to reset with our 10-year-old son so that he understands we mean what we say and even more, understands consequences. How do we do that in a way that will work (sort of feeling like...
Read MoreLittle Runaway
Posted on 2/10/2022
Our 11 yr old son has been spending a lot of time in room due to behavior and losing tickets. He decided yesterday after losing his tickets that he had enough and was running away. He has said...
Read MoreHow To Keep Your Child in His/Her Room
Posted on 2/1/2022
We are trying the ticket system with our 3 yr old son. Tonight, he went to bed early after throwing something at me (a major offense). At first we left his bedroom door open but he kept coming out...
Read MoreYou're in Charge Now
Posted on 1/21/2022
Okay so I’m ready to administer a discipline plan for my daughter. My questions are; 1. How much is too much? I’m ready to take a lot of her favorite things away. But, what about life...
Read MorePosted on 12/30/2021
We have an 8-year-old son who throws violent tantrums. He has always been “a handful” so these fits aren’t anything new, they’re less frequent but much more destructive. In the past, we had a...
Read MoreDisciplining With Tickets When Grandma Comes to Town
Posted on 12/29/2021
I just got your book, "The Well Behaved Child," and today I began using tickets (and Alpha speech) for my just 5-year-old son who is very loving and sweet but would be considered a "high...
Read MoreRocked His World
Posted on 12/15/2021
Hello. My husband and I have two kids, one 20-month old boy and one 2-month old girl. The younger one is an easy baby and the older one likes his baby sister (exhibited by kissing her all the...
Read MoreI am Woman, Hear Me Roar---Even Though I'm Only 4!
Posted on 12/7/2021
I am at my wits end. I am doing my best to do the ticket system with my children. My 4 year old daughter has maybe made it 1 day, at least until bedtime, without losing all of her tickets since we...
Read MoreClarifying the Garden Kick
Posted on 12/4/2021
Does kicking out of the garden mean the child is confined to their new boring room for the duration of the time? Do you restrict them from playing outside with sibblings or friends? Can they...
Read MoreLeave Christmas Alone
Posted on 11/27/2021
Currently my daughter has lost all her toys until her behavior improves. If she hasn’t changed her behavior by Christmas, is it wrong not to allow her to open presents on Christmas Day but require...
Read MoreAwakened Mom Wants Respectful 8 year old Son
Posted on 11/24/2021
I have a 7, almost 8 year old son, who has not ever been appropriately disciplined and has developed into a challenging and, dare I say, entitled child. He has little respect for me and when I...
Read More8-Year-Old Ruling the Roost (Follow-up)
Posted on 11/24/2021
Okay in regards to my prior question. I purchased the book. Thank you. Can you please tell me some examples of what you mean right now so I can start turning the tables ASAP! Instead of...
Read MoreNip It. Nip It Good.
Posted on 11/17/2021
Hi ParentGuru, I have a question about our 5yr old son who has come home from prep (1st year of primary school here in Melbourne Australia) after an incident in which he threw another student's...
Read MoreFive Year Old Slugger
Posted on 11/1/2021
Hello! We have a 5 year old who has been having some big problems hitting his parents and tutor. Although we have been using the ticket system for several months, his yelling and physicality have...
Read MoreBossy 4-Year-Old Not Giving Up
Posted on 10/30/2021
Four year old thinks he’s the boss. He’s physically abusive, has no respect for anyone’s sleep including his two younger brothers and is completely defiant. Everything is an argument. Once...
Read MoreWho Are You? (And what have you done with our daughter?)
Posted on 10/26/2021
Since June 2020, my daughter (who is now 14) has become someone I no longer recognize. When school was closed due to COVID-19, I made the terrible choice and let her have her phone 24/7, which has...
Read MoreNo Gratitude Leads To Bad Attitude
Posted on 10/23/2021
My son will be 16 in April. He has for several months started having lots of attitude. He gets very angry when he is disciplined and rebels. He yells and curses at us. We took away his social...
Read MoreTime to Drop Back and Reboot with 4 Year Old
Posted on 10/12/2021
I started the ticket chart with my then 4 year old son back in May for his disobedience. I have since added other behaviors like name calling, stomping his feet when mad and arguing with me. It...
Read MoreTeen Changing Clothes After Leaving the House
Posted on 10/8/2021
15 year old daughter on video wearing short shorts at school. Our expectation has always been that pants are worn to school. She is changing clothes at school then changing back before she comes home.
Read MoreFrustrated Grandparent Is Not Alone
Posted on 9/26/2021
Hello. I raised my now 35-year-old son using John Rosemond’s methods, and he turned out great! Unfortunately for my two grandsons aged almost 6 and almost 8, my son and his wife are not...
Read MoreDefine "Disciplined"
Posted on 9/23/2021
Whenever we have friends or family over or we’re at an event with other kids our 4 year old daughter very rarely engages in playing with the children and constantly wants to be where the adults...
Read MoreTime for A Garden Kick
Posted on 8/27/2021
We have our 12 year old son's phone locked for certain reasons. If his grades slip below a B we lock it so he can only call family, if he is disrespectful or doesn't complete his chores, his...
Read MoreGranny is Tired of 7 Year Olds Nightly Walks
Posted on 8/21/2021
My granddaughter lives with me, along with her two children The 7 year old boy is a tough case. His mother and I do NOT parent anything alike. This boy gets up almost every night and roams the...
Read MoreHow to take my parenting responsibilities back from an 8 yro.
Posted on 8/19/2021
We have 2 boys, a 2yr and 8 yr old. We struggle a lot with the latter since we can remember. His defiance, disrespect, angry reactions, moaning and loud crying seem to be at an all time high....
Read MoreThe Doctor can Help!
Posted on 8/7/2021
My son is 6. He recently has been throwing screaming fits and occasionally outright refusing to do things such as get dressed or wash himself in the bath. We feel like we cannot “make” him do...
Read MoreDo What You Can Do
Posted on 7/30/2021
My stepsons are 12 and 14. We also have a 4 and 2 year old. Their mother has been generally uncooperative and at times hostile to us, and treats the boys very differently. She doesn’t seem to like...
Read MoreConvert Nap Time to Quiet Time As Toddler Outgrows Naps
Posted on 7/17/2021
My just turned 2 year old toddler is refusing naps. She has been out of routine since the clocks have changed and as we have just moved and not been at home for nap times so I’ve let her sleep in...
Read MoreTickets, Strikes and Keeping the Peace
Posted on 6/22/2021
I’ve attempted using the ticket system, but I’m getting confused. I have a 4 yr old and 7yr old. They fight, and argue about EVERYTHING. I put 3 tickets on the fridge- no tattling, no disturbing...
Read MoreTaming 5 year Old Stubbornness
Posted on 6/21/2021
My 5 year old daughters stubbornness cannot be tamed and I’m not sure what to do. I completely emptied her room 10 days ago. She had 2 blankets and a pillow and that’s it. She had shown great...
Read MoreHang in There!
Posted on 6/1/2021
When using the kicked out of garden method for target behaviors, do you have the child stay in the room? (We are assuming you do.) We have a 10-year-old boy who has been stealing things and lying...
Read MoreConsultation Inquiry
Posted on 5/12/2021
Hello, This question is about my child's disobedience. In my opinion, he is a very independent type A 5 year old. He always wans to be the boss. I have been trying the methods mentioned on the...
Read MoreDoor-slamming, Window-banging, Stuff-throwing: Is This What Little Boys are Made of?
Posted on 3/19/2021
I have a high misbehaver and he has been on the ticket system for many months with two target misbehaviors of disobedience and fighting with his brother. I need some advice of how to switch him...
Read MoreWhen Getting Dressed Becomes Game of Chase
Posted on 2/16/2021
Hi, my daughter, will turn 3 in 2 months recently started defying us when it comes to changing her clothes. Whenever she is told it’s time to do it, she thinks its some sort of game, runs away or...
Read More5th Grader Returning to Bad Habits
Posted on 2/8/2021
My son is in the 5th grade and hasn’t been completing any of his school work. We grounded him for a month. We took away everything away besides a few outfits and he was to stay in his room except...
Read MoreWhy Do My Kids Hate Getting Dressed So Much?
Posted on 2/7/2021
Why do my kids hate getting dressed so much?! They are 2 and 5. It inevitably causes a battle, and when we finally depart someone is crying. I can’t get the diaper changed or clothes on, and the 5...
Read MoreGrandson Needs to be Held More Accountable
Posted on 1/15/2021
I just pulled an old John article out of my drawer that I have had for years. It was about how therapy can be detrimental to a child and rarely works. Also talked about kids emotions and feelings...
Read MoreEight year old does what she wants when grandma says "No"
Posted on 12/29/2020
I have an eight year old granddaughter who will ask if she can do something, or I tell her she can't do something and she turns right around nonchalantly and does it anyway. What can I do?
Read More8-Year-Old Needs a Wake-Up Call
Posted on 12/20/2020
My 8-year old daughter has been really struggling with the same few bad habits for months. For one, she almost never obeys or follows directions the first time she’s told. She’s not disrespectful,...
Read MoreAvoid Micromanaging Tweens Peer Group
Posted on 12/15/2020
What should I do if my daughters only friends are bad influences on her and not people I want her being friends with? One is a lesbian, one has anxiety issues and they both are obsessed with Tik...
Read MoreTwo Year Old is a Whole Different Animal!
Posted on 12/11/2020
Good morning. My husband and I have six children, ranging 3 months to 9 years. Our first son Ryan Samuel is 2 years old as of October 4. He is a whole different animal compared to the girls. We...
Read MoreTeens and Technology: Education is Key for Safety
Posted on 10/14/2020
We have not allowed our 3 children ages 12, 14 and 15 to have cell phones. They also do not have Social Media accounts. They are allowed to text or FaceTime friends or cousins using our phones. ...
Read MoreParenting a Disrespectful Teen with Divorced Parents
Posted on 10/10/2020
Almost two years ago my husband left (affair) and we are in a very difficult divorce. We are not friendly and don’t communicate other than texting. We have four children together and have 50/50...
Read MoreShowing results 1-50 on page 1 of 4.