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Wrestle Mania

Posted 2 weeks ago

We started the ticket system with our 3 year old a few weeks ago (along with working on changing our language to Alpha language). I think he gets it. He can verbalize the basics of the system and...

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Retreats with Dr. Rosemond

Posted 3 weeks ago

Will there be any parent retreats in 2020 on the east coast? We would be interested.

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A Strong Marriage is Your First Priority

Posted on 7/24/2019

This is the scinerao...we are sitting at the dinner table. My husband is reading "whatever the latest news is" on his phone. When our 6 yr. talks back to me or does not do what I have asked of...

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Strike a Balance

Posted on 3/26/2019

I’m having a difficult time with my nearly 6 year old son. It feels like we are butting heads all of the time. He has become increasingly more sensitive lately. Throwing huge tantrums, crying over...

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Doing it Right Means Staying the Course

Posted on 3/12/2019

Hello, We recently asked a question about our seven year old son who was refusing to stay in his room after losing all his daily strikes. We were told to make him 'an offer he hopefully can't...

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Lowering the Boom

Posted on 3/1/2019

I have been seeking help from this site for a long time and would appreciate you looking through our history for insight and understanding. My now seven year old son is still having behavior...

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Higher Level Thinking Skills

Posted on 3/1/2019

My 7 year old son has a problem solving problem. Any task he performs can make him melt down. I am sure that when he was younger I would jump in and solve his problem, but I have been very...

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Liberating the Playmate Dad

Posted on 1/11/2019

I read the column by Dinah Bucholz, Stop Paying Attention to Your Kids. I'm struggling because this is my downfall. My daughter wants me to play with her constantly. I have an overwhelming sense...

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Emancipation is never easy

Posted on 12/29/2018

I am divorced and remarried for 16 years. My ex cheated on me multiple times. Since our divorce which was a 3rd marriage he has been married 3x since. His most recent wife is 30 years his jr and a...

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Preferences at 17 months.

Posted on 12/13/2018

My 17 month old daughter sometimes doesn’t let my husband hold her and last night when I was snuggling her on the couch and my husband laid down next to me she started trying to hit him and push...

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Dad's Not on Board

Posted on 11/4/2018

Hi there, Susan Morley recently answered a question I posed concerning my son who has been caught with vape materials. She recommended strict consequences which I want to impose. His father,...

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4 YO Boy Says He is a Girl

Posted on 8/29/2018

Our 4 year old son has recently been saying he is a girl. This began shortly after watching several episodes of Dora the Explorer. All of his siblings are older and don’t live at home. He is...

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18m & 6 yrs Daughters Dealing with Dad's Death

Posted on 8/26/2018

Does John have any writings on children dealing with the death of a parent? My 37yo husband suffered a heart attack and passed away while we were on a family vacation last month (totally...

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What a healthy marriage looks like to a child

Posted on 7/7/2018

Dr. Rosemond, Could you please describe the qualities of a husband and wife marriage that increases a child’s respect for adult authority, and the most common pitfalls of marriage that erodes a...

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Husband and 19 yr old step son have no relationship

Posted on 6/4/2018

My husband and 19 year old son seem to have absolutely no relationship. (My husband adopted my kids) I’ve been urging them for years to go do stuff together, whatever. 2 weeks ago, our counselor...

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Husband files for divorce after wife takes a stand with teens.

Posted on 6/1/2018

Dear John Rosemond, I wrote in a while ago on putting the marriage first. I was never able to get my husband on board which indeed caused a great deal of strife in our family, especially with...

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9 YO Girl Resistant To Visits With Dad

Posted on 2/18/2018

I have a 9 year old daughter. Her mom and I split when she was 3-1/2 years old. We have a court ordered shared parenting plan. I have visitation 1 day/night each week and every other weekend...

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Craving mom

Posted on 1/21/2018

My almost 3 year old girl has seemed to have anxiety/fear since a very young age and it's building to unhealthy limits. At a young age, I would try to drop her off at church nursery, but she would...

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Daughter choosing Dad

Posted on 1/13/2018

Now my daughter is with her biological father who rented an extended stay for himself and her close to school, so she can finish school now. It's her last year and she needs to start applying for...

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Disrespect from a 13 y/o boy

Posted on 12/29/2017

My 13 yr old son is disrespectful to his Dad! My son knows how to push his buttons to the point my husband says hurtful words like "you're a bad human" and loses control and starts to yell. I do...

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Holiday Shuffle

Posted on 11/28/2017

This question is regarding the upcoming Christmas season and how to handle my mom and my in-laws. My husband and I have disagreements about how to handle both of our families during this time of...

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The Phone is Not the Problem

Posted on 10/4/2017

So, in response to the answer to my question I have a few other questions. In the past few days a lot has transpired and my husband and I really had it out over my son. I understand a lot of his...

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Never argue with a 5 year old.

Posted on 7/16/2017

My one and only gives the vibe she is superior to her classmates by contradicting them, telling them they are wrong or having show off behaviour. I'm afraid she will not have any friends, but am...

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Posted on 5/6/2017

how to address the issue of a child sleeping in bed with mother and father.

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Troubled Young Teen?

Posted on 2/5/2017

This question is in reference to the October 2016 question regarding my 13 year old's act of vandalism. Fast forward 8 months later. He has completed his punishment, but not without having to...

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Help With Ongoing Tantrums

Posted on 1/21/2017

Our 9-year old daughter has been prone to tantrums all of her life. The trigger is usually not getting her way--not getting to do what she wants, wear what she wants, etc...and these have usually...

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New shoes problems

Posted on 1/9/2017

One of our 9-year-old twins is very particular on how clothing items fit. I took her shoe shopping and she picked out two pairs of shoes: sneakers and church shoes (at the store I asked her to be...

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Out of control 5 and 3 y/o boys

Posted on 1/3/2017

Hello, I am doing a miserable job as a parent to my two boys (aged 5 and 3). They are out of hand entirely. We can't get through prayers at the dinner table without at least one of them being...

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Dad's NOT a Buddy!

Posted on 11/2/2016

Disrespect from my 4 year old daughter When my husband asked my 4 year old son tonight who is buddy was, my DAUGHTER (who is his twin sister) SAID, "he is mommy's buddy, not yours. You don't...

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Mom, Dad and Discipline Disagreements

Posted on 9/17/2016

My husband is inconsistent with discipline when he chooses to discipline. He has created a monster in our 8 year old daughter. Everyone sees this but him. When she was younger and I would...

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No Game

Posted on 4/12/2016

Recently, 3 of my 4 children participated in a "game" with their 18-year-old soon-to-be step-brother. The "game" consisted of binding the hands of the children, 1-male (8) and 2-females (6 & 5),...

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husband/wife not on same page

Posted on 3/4/2016

Is there a way to get my husband on board with the ticket system for our son? He says the bible says spare the rod... So the only discipline he needs is a spanking when my husband is angry enough.

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17 year old Serial Texter

Posted on 9/7/2015

My daughter is 17. We gave her an iPhone when she was 14. The 1st Month she had it, she texted a few guys 16,000 times in a month. My mouth hit the floor in amazement and disgust. What I...

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3 Boys, Chaotic Household

Posted on 7/8/2015

My husband and I are in an endless cycle that is tearing down our relationship. We have 3 boys 4,6 & 9. What I consider unpleasant but normal child behavior (constant interruptions, some degree...

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Night Music

Posted on 1/24/2015

My wife and I are struggling a bit to be on the same page in the management of our almost 15 yr old daughter. She doesn't have a phone or tablet, although I let her use mine for supervised...

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16 YO Drug Use

Posted on 12/23/2014

Recently I called the police on my son. I called the police for two reasons: 1) my son ordered some drug paraphernalia via mail that I found, opened and confiscated; 2) because my son got very...

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Dating Again

Posted on 10/29/2014

I am a divorced father of a 5 year old girl. I have had primary custody of our daughter for 1 ½ years- however the actual divorce judgment was signed a mere 2 months ago. (My daughter doesn't...

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Father Alienating Self from his Children

Posted on 9/27/2014

My husband is a good man & works very hard for his family but as his 'reward' he drinks beer nightly & although he is not physically abusive, he has become more verbally abusive & has no filter in...

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14 yo living with irresponsible dad

Posted on 9/18/2014

To Mr. John Rosemond: I have a 14 year old by my first marriage who told me, my current husband, and my ex-husband that he "hated our rules, our house, everything!" and wanted to move out of our...

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high school boy back with dad

Posted on 9/18/2014

Hi Dr. Rosemond, I am back! First of all, do you prefer being referred to as "Dr. Rosemond" or "John" or other? If you recall from the history of my previous questions, I had a major conflict...

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Posted on 8/27/2014

My almost three year old son lives with his mother. He visits overnight once a week and every other weekend... I cannot say this to my husband, but the little guy's "mommy" is trying to make "her...

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Blended family freedom

Posted on 8/26/2014

I need advice. We have a blended family, he had two, I had one, and we had two together. Tonight, my stepson (14) said he no longer wanted to come to our house. He's "done with us and our house"....

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6 1/2 yo Mother versus Father

Posted on 8/3/2014

I have twin 6.5 year old girls. My husband and I have different parenting styles. I expect my girls to listen to me the first time I ask something - he is more tolerant of asking repeatedly. I get...

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The Social Life of a 6 Year Old

Posted on 6/7/2014

I'm getting a complex and feeling like I must be a really mean parent. Perhaps I am. Could you please let me know if I have done the right thing? My daughter who is six has been invited to another...

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Cut the Sweets!

Posted on 5/29/2014

Hi there, My daughter is 9, I have noticed in the last year that she is becoming "thicker". Growing out of ALL of her size 10 shorts and pants, I can see that she eats quite a bit ( especially...

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16 yo disrespectful after visits with dad

Posted on 4/28/2014

My 16 year old daughter came home from weekend visitation with her father (diagnosed sociopath). As usual, upon return she is very cool and distant. When I went to the living room to visit with...

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Teens and Spirituality

Posted on 4/26/2014

Dr. Rosemond: I have an eighteen year old daughter who has lived the last five years (approximately) with her mom and step-father and she is getting ready to graduate. On one level or another I...

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