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8 yro needs to learn to give some R-E-S-P-E-C-T

Posted 1 week ago

I have 3 sons: 4,6,8. My oldest has been a challenge for us. He does well academically. There are some requests at school to have him listen or think through questions before asking. But these...

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16 YO Boy Loses Job, Lies, & Vapes

Posted 1 week ago

Our 16 you son was fired from his first job today at a pet grooming shop. We know the owner as we've been taking our pets there for over 9 years. The owner called us to explain that our son had...

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It's Not Too Late!

Posted 1 week ago

Semi-independence has reared its ugly head in our youngest who goes off to college in the fall. Our mostly obedient and kindhearted daughter has basically grown a head so big we are surprised she...

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Soon to be 4 yro needs to know who's in control

Posted 3 weeks ago

Hello, what is a good discipline measure to use on my 3 year old son who is soon to be 4 years old? Time out does not seem to work anymore. He yells at us, slaps the walls, and outright tells us...

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No Gun Play at School!

Posted 4 weeks ago

My 6-year-old keeps pretending he has a gun at school. We just got a second note from the school that our son was pretending to play with a gun (made out of paper) at school and scaring other...

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Take them apart from each other!

Posted 4 weeks ago

How do suggest handling the consequence of being sent to one’s room for whatever period of time when siblings share a room. Our 5 and 7 year old boys share a room and most often when there is...

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4 and 5 year old brothers tag team Mom

Posted on 6/12/2019

My older boy, age 5 has been on the ticket system for about 9 months. He starts the day with 3 tickets and his misbehaviors are screaming at us and not obeying us. My younger boy, 4 has recently...

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He has got one ticket to ride!

Posted on 6/6/2019

What do we do when our son loses a ticket (currently our ticket system is for disrespectful behavior - specifically for talking back, name calling and/or mocking) and on his way to timeout he does...

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Dealing with One-Year-Old's Challenging Behavior

Posted on 6/6/2019

Hi I have a 12 month old, and have recently finished Making the Terrible two's terrific. He seems to be staring tantrums when he has items taken from him, eg the car keys because I have to use...

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I'm Not Your Friend

Posted on 6/3/2019

My four year old has been telling her younger sister who is three that she will not play with her, be her best friend, etc. if she doesn’t play the way she wants or gives her the toy she is...

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13yo struggles

Posted on 5/29/2019

My son is 13. He will be starting 8th grade this year. He got 5 detentions and two phone calls to the school from other parents saying he was bothering their kids. The detentions were for...

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5yr old not listening needs the good Dr.

Posted on 5/24/2019

My second child who is 5 years old is always very much in her own head. What I mean is that she seems to be thinking about a hundred different things all the time she is preoccupied with her...

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Word of the Moment

Posted on 5/21/2019

My 4 year old child has learned the word “kill”. He tells me he is going to kill me and his one year old sister. I don’t think he knows what he’s saying. I tried to explain it but he won’t stop. I...

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Why 17 YO Boy Lied?

Posted on 5/17/2019

Last week my 17 year old son lied to us. Blatantly and obviously. Together we attended a school band event, the kids were allowed to stay for a DJ and dance. My son texted me and asked if it...

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Attention seeking or not?

Posted on 5/12/2019

How do you suggest handling this scenario. Your child (4) says something “not nice” directly in regards to you... I typically feel like it’s attention seeking but that’s just a guess. Do you...

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Hop off the Argument Merry Go Round

Posted on 5/5/2019

Hi there, My almost 5-year-old has come a long way from his 3-year-old self. I suppose maturity helps. He's no longer throwing tantrums (a.k.a crying loudly) or hitting when he doesn't get his...

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Nothing major.

Posted on 5/4/2019

My son is in 7th grade. He is at a new school. He has gotten into a little trouble here and there. Talking in class, nothing major. He recently said a boy in PE hit him with a ball and he hit him...

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Nail polish all over the counter again!

Posted on 4/28/2019

About a year ago my daughter and her friend accidentally spilled some nail polish on the counter and tried to cover it up and not tell us. She was punished by cleaning all the bathrooms in our...

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Kicking An Angry 17 Year Old Out Of The Garden of Eden

Posted on 4/13/2019

Our 17 year old son is completely out of control. None of the consequences that we have given him have helped. His biggest problem is his angry outbursts. He has destroyed his relationship with...

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Distractible Kids - Frustrated Mom

Posted on 3/30/2019

Dear Rosemond and team, Im still having a tough time with the kids. I'll just write 2 questions in one - My almost 5 year old finally earned his 30 stickers (from no tantrums + aggression)..now...

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How Coaching Works

Posted on 3/27/2019

Thank you for the response and I’m so sorry for your loss. Can you clarify how the private parenting coaches work and how much it is and for what amount of time? I’ve been reading The Well Behaved...

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Strike a Balance

Posted on 3/26/2019

I’m having a difficult time with my nearly 6 year old son. It feels like we are butting heads all of the time. He has become increasingly more sensitive lately. Throwing huge tantrums, crying over...

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Sneaky Pooper

Posted on 3/21/2019

I submitted a question a short time ago and received an answer, but my daughter's behavior has escalated. The current problem is this: She has taken to pooping in her room and hiding it behind...

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Battle Weary

Posted on 3/21/2019

I have 18 month old twins, a boy and a girl. They haven't yet developed verbal skills; they don't recognize "no", or even their own names. I've been told that this is common among twins at this...

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'Children Challenging Chores'

Posted on 3/12/2019

I am troubled with the completion of chores issue. I like to get stuff done then play and have attempted to teach my kids the same values or strategies but..... being kids of course they choose...

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Doing it Right Means Staying the Course

Posted on 3/12/2019

Hello, We recently asked a question about our seven year old son who was refusing to stay in his room after losing all his daily strikes. We were told to make him 'an offer he hopefully can't...

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Prevailing not Travailing

Posted on 3/9/2019

My 14 year old daughter was mad at me about a consequence I gave her after clearly telling her what the expectations were. She knew what the rules were and broke them so I gave her the...

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Meaningful or Logical?

Posted on 3/1/2019

Having a hard time with my 3.5 year old boy and what would be a logical consequence - every morning and after nap time he struggles with getting out of bed reasonably. He usually wails and...

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Lowering the Boom

Posted on 3/1/2019

I have been seeking help from this site for a long time and would appreciate you looking through our history for insight and understanding. My now seven year old son is still having behavior...

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Toying With Grandma

Posted on 2/22/2019

My six-year-old granddaughter is terrible about helping her sister put up toys. She always has been. Before my daughter died, she was trying hard to get her to obey without all the drama, and the...

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Puberty and Lingerie Continues to be a problem

Posted on 2/21/2019

We are continuing to have a problem with my son, now 14, and girls clothes. I noticed some of my items missing recently, black camisole and a black slip. I found a bag in his closet filled with...

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7 year old boy needs leadership to solve the problem

Posted on 2/20/2019

We are using the Strike System with our two children. Our seven year old boy often receives all of his strikes as he is a High Misbehaver (currently) and is sent to his room. However, he will not...

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Sibling Rivalry

Posted on 2/19/2019

my daughters, age 5 and 2, constantly fight. I agree siblings need to settle their own quarrels; however, my 2 year old is still physically agressive (pulling hair, hitting), and sometimes I...

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more consequences or more attitude?

Posted on 2/16/2019

Do you all have a list of different types of consequences for young kids? Currently we use a combination of the following for our kids (6, 5, 3, 20mos): spankings with a wooden spoon (sometimes...

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Youngsters 3.5 and 5.5 yo disturbing the peace

Posted on 2/15/2019

I have three boys, 5.5 and 3.5 years old, and an 8-month-old baby. The older two share a bedroom and are homeschooled. When they are not doing an instructed activity or chore, they disturb the...

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7th grade boy and school tech use

Posted on 2/15/2019

My 7th grader boy is at a new school. He has gotten a detention for looking at baseball videos on his computer during class. So I grounded him and took everything away..once off being grounded he...

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Why Should Children Listen?

Posted on 2/11/2019

I received a response from Sarah Hamaker, thank you. I'm writing in response to your response. As I said in my 1st note, this situation has been going on since our 14 year old was probably about...

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Separate but Equal

Posted on 2/10/2019

I have an introverted, sensitive (gentle and kind) four-year-old son and an extroverted, physically rambunctious two-year-old son. The two year old is physically aggressive (biting and hitting)...

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Suddenly defiant.

Posted on 2/8/2019

My daughter turned 4 this week. She is sweet and doesn’t require tons of discipline for the most part ( although the last two weeks have proven differently). It’s like she woke up a different...

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The Terrible 12's

Posted on 2/7/2019

A few months have passed. This school year seems to have been a big step for my now 12 year old. We have been struggling most of the school year and just got his grades for the second quarter. The...

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Mom, the Meanie...

Posted on 2/5/2019

My 4yr old son recently has been saying to me he wants a new mom. This started after he was disciplined got mad at me and said I was a mean mom. How should I address this issue when my son says...

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Hitting plus tantrums

Posted on 2/5/2019

HI there, we've been intensively working with our now 4.5 year old boy who had many, many behavioural problems. He is now much more cooperative after sessions with a good parent coach. However,...

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Teenage drama

Posted on 2/5/2019

My 14 year old son had a very rough transition to high school this year. Although he has the ability, he is not performing well and has failed two classes last semester. This semester is not...

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Kicked out of the Garden

Posted on 2/2/2019

My 9 yo daughter was kicked out of the garden a few days ago due to disobedience. By 10:00 this morning, she had lost all of the blocks on her behavior chart and was sent to her room for the rest...

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The Defiant Young Adult

Posted on 1/31/2019

My son turns 18 tomorrow. He seems to think this means he can do whatever he wants, including not doing what I ask. He is picking his girlfriend up at the airport this evening and I told him he...

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"You May NOT Hit Mommy!"

Posted on 1/29/2019

My 18 month girl just started hitting me and laughing and scratching my face tonight when I was putting on her pajamas! She has never done this to me before, she tried to hit my husband once (a...

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7.5 yo girl pulling mom's strings

Posted on 1/29/2019

HI, I've been working on forgetfulness for a while on my 7.5 year old daughter. She is given an instruction, but VERY often either fails to complete it or does an incomplete job of it. This has...

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Multiple Kids, One Room?

Posted on 1/27/2019

OK, I'm going to try again with a different formulation. For decades Dr. Rosemond has been advocating tickets/blocks with isolation in a comparatively stripped down room as the end state for x...

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Discipline Drama Take 2

Posted on 1/20/2019

How do you get a 38month old child to comply? I have a little girl who says no to almost everything I tell/ask her to do. What do I do if she just doesn’t do It? Make her sit in her chair until...

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