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Airplane anxiety

Posted 1 week ago

Our 10-year-old child has difficulty with air travel. Her nausea, primarily caused by anxiety over her past nausea during air travel, starts in the car on the way to the airport. She gets very...

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Attention Addiction

Posted on 1/23/2019

Our son is 4 1/2 and is basically an only child as his older siblings are no longer living at home. Lately he seems to be having episodes of anxiety, and they seem to happen at various times. He...

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Fears about son's fears.

Posted on 12/15/2018

My son just turned 12 and was once such a happy child. Now he asks me questions that I’m not sure how to answer. He says he is not happy and doesn’t feel like he belongs in his body. He thinks...

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Mom frustrated with resistant 13-year-old daughter

Posted on 12/14/2018

My 13 year old daughter has always had an issue with team sports .She is having self esteem issues and wants to lose weight .She participates in horse riding once a week as the distance is usually...

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Hesitant Preschooler

Posted on 11/29/2018

Our son who will be 3 in January is very outgoing and social when he's in preschool but becomes very hesitant when we go into new settings (birthday parties or soccer for example) and will refuse...

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3 yro trying to continue the royal treatment

Posted on 10/7/2018

Our three year old daughter is anxious and crying when my husband and I want to step out for dinner for a few hours She likes our nanny and knows her since she was four months old, however she is...

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...when co-bedding becomes a problem...

Posted on 10/3/2018

Hello, My daughter is 5 years old. I am a single mom so it's just the two of us at home. At night, we read stories and say night prayers, and I typically either fall asleep next to her, or sing...

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6 Year Fearful of Being Alone

Posted on 9/19/2018

I’m looking for some feedback on how to handle our 6 year old boy’s fear of being alone. It started about a year ago and seemed to have lessened after a few months but has resurfaced recently with...

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Never feed fear.

Posted on 9/5/2018

Hi there. My 10 year old son is very fearful of thunderstorms. He panics before they happen and is a mess when a bad one is going on. He loses a lot of sleep during a storm. Any thoughts?

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18m & 6 yrs Daughters Dealing with Dad's Death

Posted on 8/26/2018

Does John have any writings on children dealing with the death of a parent? My 37yo husband suffered a heart attack and passed away while we were on a family vacation last month (totally...

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Daughter is fearful about going to kindergarten

Posted on 8/22/2018

We thought going to the open house tonight would help, but it didn't seem to - our daughter is anxious about kindergarten. All summer she has vacillated between being a bit nervous and downright...

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Parent anxiety can be contagious to 8 yo

Posted on 8/22/2018

Our 8-year-old son is headed back to school tomorrow, and we just got word that one of his favorite elementary teachers has been arrested for third-degree sexual abuse. We believe in the “Tell him...

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Grandma custody of 4yro

Posted on 8/3/2018

My 4 year old Grandson who has always lived with me seems to be having some new concerns regarding his Mom. His Mom, has not seen him since Christmas Day, and has not contacted me to do so. Yes,...

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Stay in Bed!

Posted on 7/30/2018

We are having issues getting our almost 3 year old to go to sleep and stay in his room at nap time and bedtime. He recently transitioned out of a crib b/c he could climb out and now he comes out...

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Fears of 6 yo Becomes Family Drama

Posted on 7/26/2018

My 6 year old daughter is going through a period of fear after seeing what she deemed a scary part in a movie (this was a Disney movie but she seems to be extremely sensitive and at times seems to...

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5 year old bothered by noise

Posted on 7/25/2018

My granddaughter is 5 1/2 yrs old. She has a movement disorder called Complex Motor Stereotypies and along with that is a sensitivity to loud noises. She will be going to kindergarten in a few...

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21 Month won't sit on potty chair

Posted on 7/4/2018

Hello! We’ve read a couple of John’s books and are trying “Naked and $75” to potty train our 21 month old. We introduced the potty this morning and started. We’re using a potty bell and...

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Preparing children for Grandma's death

Posted on 7/1/2018

We have a 2.5 year old and a 5.5 year old; also have a niece and nephew that are 7 and 11 years old. My mother is dying of a terminal cancer and is now on hospice. We have been slowly telling the...

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6 yo Don't Fall for the Drama

Posted on 6/28/2018

When my 6yr old son gets really upset with himself, he has started saying “I hate myself and I wish I was never born.” My son is the middle child of four who is always in trouble. We use the...

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When a Child's Frustration Spills Over

Posted on 6/23/2018

My 7yo son was doing a worksheet at school and made a mistake that he could still see after trying to erase it, so he asked for another worksheet. Since there was a substitute teacher, and there...

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Prepping a 6 y/o for Surgery

Posted on 5/25/2018

What would be the best way to prepare a 6 year old boy for an upcoming surgery? Do I let him know about it a few days in advance? Tell him the morning of? He is a worrier, so I'm not sure how...

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Moms

Posted on 5/8/2018

Have custody of a now, 4 year old Grandson. Mom abandoned him at about 18 months old, moved to Florida to make porn. Returned after that didn't work for her. My husband and I refused to allow...

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Tantrumming 5 year old

Posted on 4/14/2018

My 5-year-old, who is an otherwise happy, well-behaved child, cries at the drop of a hat if she perceives something has gone wrong or may go wrong soon (especially if she can't find something)....

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Teen Depressed or Just a Normal Teen?

Posted on 4/2/2018

My 17yo daughter claims to be anxious and depressed due to lack of best friends. She was homeschooled until junior year, when she enrolled in the local community college full time. She's getting...

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Active Shooter Drills Prompts Fears in 8 Year Old

Posted on 3/16/2018

Recently, our 8-year-old came home from school talking about whether the best way to run away from a “bad guy with a gun in school” was in a straight line or in a zig-zag fashion. Apparently the...

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Early Riser, Fearful Playtime

Posted on 3/11/2018

Our almost 6 year old is an early riser. He is to stay in his room until 6 am and is then allowed to come down and play quietly. Lately he has been coming down and waking up mom and dad because...

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4yro anxiety/disobedience

Posted on 3/8/2018

Hello again I had just written to you last week about my sons anxiety. Well ever since this constant anxiety he’s been having and we have been doing what you said and I️t has helped. However he...

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Anxiety in a 4 yr. old

Posted on 2/27/2018

Hello!! My son is four and will be five in May. He has started experiencing some horrible anxiety or something. For awhile he asked us constantly if we were going to have a tornado, because there...

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Stay Calm with Anxious Toddler

Posted on 2/24/2018

Our 20 month old son is potty trained since January. This week he got constipated. We used Pedia-lax to get him to poop. However, the last time we used it (Pedia-lax) he was clearly not...

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An Anxious Third Grader, Follow up

Posted on 2/21/2018

I'm replying to "Anxious Third Grader" that Sarah Hamaker wrote in response to my initial question. Hello Sarah, Thank you so much for your thoughtful response! I really appreciate it. I...

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5 yro needs too much attention in school

Posted on 2/19/2018

I have a 5 year old son who began kindergarten this fall. His teacher has reported several times that he requires a lot of one on one guidance to complete tasks in the classroom. She has also...

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An Anxious Third Grader

Posted on 2/15/2018

My nine-year-old son is experiencing anxiety and anger. My husband and I follow a traditional style of parenting and we are firm, have high standards for behavior, and are very loving. I believe...

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Two Year Old Having Panic Attacks at Bedtime

Posted on 1/29/2018

I have a 2.5 year old girl who has never had a sleeping issue in her in life. She has always napped for 3-3.5 hours in the afternoon and around 10-11 hours at night. She transitioned into a big...

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Craving mom

Posted on 1/21/2018

My almost 3 year old girl has seemed to have anxiety/fear since a very young age and it's building to unhealthy limits. At a young age, I would try to drop her off at church nursery, but she would...

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Teens dealing with "a constant barrage of negative things"

Posted on 11/18/2017

Hello! This is not exactly a child-rearing question but it pertains to everything about being a parent. How do we keep from drowning in the pain we witness our children going through? I have a...

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Overwhelmed Mom

Posted on 10/27/2017

Hi, I am a homeschooling mother of three girls ages 9, 7 and 3. I frequently feel so exhausted around my kids. I KNOW there is a better way, and I keep trying to get there... but I never quite...

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Ten Year Old With Anxiety

Posted on 10/12/2017

Hello! My daughter is 10 years old. She has quite a bit of anxiety (inherited I believe). Recently, she has been confronted with the task of working on a project with another, very difficult...

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Go to Sleep!

Posted on 8/24/2017

My 26 month old boy/girl twins are suddenly experiencing sleep issues after we moved them from a shared to separate rooms soon after converting their cribs to toddler beds. They have been great...

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Bedtime woes

Posted on 8/13/2017

My older son will be 5 next month and shares a room with my middle child, who is 3.5 years old this month. My almost-5 year old has started having nighttime fears and is coming out of his room a...

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7 Year Old's Nihilistic Talk

Posted on 8/11/2017

I have a 7 year old son who just happily started second grade. He is extremely bright and normal in every way. No major discipline problems, no unexplained behavior. Sometimes he complains...

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!1 Year Old Trouble Adjusting

Posted on 7/22/2017

My son is 11 yo. He has autism. Tonight he told me that he should not live because he will never be able to achieve his dreams, that he will not be able to have a wife and children because he...

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Diet is a 4 letter word

Posted on 7/18/2017

I wrote before about my 7 year old son asking if he’s fat and complaining about his thighs. While I agree that it’s a teaching moment about treating others kindly, the truth is he probably does...

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9 yo Worry Wart

Posted on 7/5/2017

Our 9 year old daughter is worrying about everything! This started a few months ago. She worries about liking boys, wrong thoughts about other people's race or weight, thoughts about kissing or...

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11-yr-old tummy troubles or just seeking attention?

Posted on 6/17/2017

Our 11 year old daughter began expressing stomach discomfort in early spring (i.e. VERY frequent complaining). In the absence of obvious illness (diarrhea, pain in night w/disrupted sleep, etc..),...

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7 year old trying not to be mean

Posted on 6/15/2017

What do you suggest to help a 7 year old girl to resist "mean girl" behavior when that's what she's seeing among her peers? Mean girl meaning whispering, sassy talk, exclusion, etc. We encourage...

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Separation Anxiety for 3yo

Posted on 6/4/2017

To piggyback on my previous question, I need any advice on how to approach separation problems for my 3 (almost 4) year old son. My husband and I teach his Sunday School class every other week,...

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Losing Grandpa

Posted on 5/24/2017

It is difficult to type this but I find myself in a situation I have never had to face. My husband and I have been parents to out Grandchild since his mom left about 20 months ago. During her...

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11 yo, Depressed, Won't Do School Work

Posted on 5/15/2017

We read him the riot act and lowered the boom. It's the first time our son (11) has been grounded. He has been refusing to do his school work. He sits and stares at his math book for hours, even...

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4 yo Doesn't Want to Go to School

Posted on 4/23/2017

Hi Gurus, Our 4-year-old has been very upset about going to school (pre-k) lately - tonight she was crying and saying she doesn't want to go to school, ever ever ever. She attends an after-school...

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6 year old's disturbing comments

Posted on 3/31/2017

Our fairly happy 6 year (almost) 7 year old has said a few disturbing things recently. About a week ago out of the blue he told me that he has thoughts of hurting/killing someone with a knife. ...

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