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Kindergarten Homework Hassles

Posted on 3/7/2019

I have a young kindergartner (won't turn six until this summer), although he is doing good enough in kinder, he is very easily distracted - bright light distraction. During school and homework at...

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The Terrible 12's

Posted on 2/7/2019

A few months have passed. This school year seems to have been a big step for my now 12 year old. We have been struggling most of the school year and just got his grades for the second quarter. The...

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Teenage drama

Posted on 2/5/2019

My 14 year old son had a very rough transition to high school this year. Although he has the ability, he is not performing well and has failed two classes last semester. This semester is not...

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8 y/o Boy Distracted Easily At School

Posted on 1/30/2019

We have an 8yo boy. His teacher let us know he “often gets distracted in the middle of a task, needs multiple reminders to turn in work, write down his homework, and to focus on the task at...

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School Age Attention Seeker

Posted on 11/5/2018

I have a 10 yo who says she is good at nothing, not intelligent, not good at school. She is not putting effort in nothing she is doing. She doesn't want to do her homeworks and doesn't care if...

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5th Grader Must Respond

Posted on 3/10/2018

How do I get my son to take responsibility for his actions, his chores and his homework? I have tried everything from reverse psychology to taking privileges away from him and nothing seems to...

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Alternatives to ADD testing

Posted on 2/3/2018

My daughter is six and in the first grade. She will not turn seven until June. Thus far, we have had two teacher/parent conferences. The first conference in the fall, the teacher said she didn't...

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The Homework Conundrum

Posted on 11/7/2017

I am completely on board with John's homework recommendations, but I have some struggles that have only intensified since Kindergarten. In my opinion, teachers are consistently asking the kids to...

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Create Daily Reports with Meaningful Consequences

Posted on 11/7/2017

My 10-year-old son, who is in fifth grade, is having some trouble at school. At this parent-teacher conference, his teacher expressed he is too talkative, rushing his work, and has poor...

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11 yr old Effort and Responsibility

Posted on 9/6/2017

I am the Dad of an 11 year old (6th grade). She is not giving good effort at school. My wife and I have told her it is her responsibility and she needs to get help from the teachers, study...

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AP Classes and Motivation

Posted on 8/31/2017

Hi! My son started high school a couple of weeks ago. He was placed in an advanced program where they start taking some AP classes in 9th grade. He has been against the program since we went to an...

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Six year old girl needs to play!

Posted on 8/23/2017

I am having trouble balancing my 6 year old's responsibilities at home. She started school this year (prep) - the year before grade 1. She's at school from 8:30am - 3pm. By the time we arrive...

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Son Obsessed with Pokemon

Posted on 5/17/2017

Hello! Our son is obsessed! Obsessed with one thing at a time to the point of not completing school work to do it. Right now it's Pokemon. He has a screen time limit - one 30 min show after...

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High Schoolers & the Internet

Posted on 5/10/2017

Please help me navigate the internet access issue for highschoolers. You say for them to do their homework in their own rooms (so they know they are responsible) but don't have TVs and internet...

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8 Year Old Refuses Homework

Posted on 4/19/2017

My daughter 8 yo, she is not doing her homework by herself. I have to remind her to do them and she is always complaining and trying to find something else to do and she can pass 2 hours on one...

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Half-Hearted 14-year-old student

Posted on 3/16/2017

We have a 14 year old son that is a freshmen in high school. We have been long followers of John Rosemond and have done our best not to mircromanage our son, especially when it comes to school and...

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Should I Proofread My Child's Work?

Posted on 3/14/2017

We have a 14 year old son who is in the middle of writing a research paper. He is generally responsible, does his own homework without being told, and gets good grades. We do not hover over him,...

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12 yo Social Life Taking Over Grades

Posted on 2/13/2017

My 12 yo daughter has gone from straight A's in elementary school to C's & D's in middle school. It's not because she can't do the work, she chooses not to. Her friends and social life seem to be...

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Teenaged son not making the grade

Posted on 2/7/2017

My 13 year old son is bright but very lazy when it comes to school work and grades. Even though he tested as gifted, he does not want to put the time or effort in that is required to do well. We...

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Teaching motivation.

Posted on 1/18/2017

My 16 year old son has struggled with learning disabilities throughout his academic career. Despite years of private tutoring, homeschooling, and 4 years at a private school specifically for...

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16 year old Bad Time Manager

Posted on 12/29/2016

I need help regarding the evening routine for my 16 year old daughter, after getting home from her sport, which is usually 5 pm, during the week. She has ADHD and says she needs to decompress...

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11 yo Won't Do Schoolwork

Posted on 12/20/2016

My 11 year old son attends a catholic school where is has always done well. He started sixth grade this year and now has several teachers and an increased homework load that includes long term...

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8 yo, No Quick Fixes for Discipline Problems

Posted on 11/21/2016

Our 8 1/2 year old daughter has not changed any of her undesirable behaviors. These include being irresponsible with schoolwork, unkind to her sister, ruining her clothes/ most other items,...

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Micromanaging 15-Year-Old

Posted on 11/17/2016

Another follow up to 15 y o homeschooler. I know on Friday I am supposed to make sure everything is turned in & he did well. Here is the question; for his online class he had something due last...

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Micromanaging 15-Year-Old Follow-Up

Posted on 11/17/2016

So I just had my epiphany. Even though this child is homeschooled he does one class online & 3 classes at a co-op, 1 day a week. I guess I should totally butt out of those, is that...

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12-yo Rude, Lazy, Disrespectful

Posted on 10/6/2016

12yr old son-7th grade-Goes to Christian school-Last week got detention for disrupting class,this week got another detention for talking back to teacher-he's VERY lazy with homework (barely...

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Homework Help for Child Below Grade Level

Posted on 9/27/2016

Should rules for a fostering to adopt child who is severely behind in grade level have a different set of rules for daily homework help than what you have set forth in you books?

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14-year-old homework hassles

Posted on 8/19/2016

My son is 14 and has ADHD. He takes medication daily since Kindergarten. He has trouble focusing in school. He constantly has missing assignments and claims he has no homework. The teachers do a...

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11-year-old Homeschooler Test Anxiety

Posted on 8/5/2016

Hello! I have an 11 year old son who is homeschooled. Everything is going fairly well with his schooling except for his tests. Whenever it is time for a test, he will start to cry and...

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6 yo Not Practicing Violin

Posted on 5/24/2016

My six year old daughter does not play her violin during her practice time. Her teacher made her a stack of flashcards with different songs and exercises for her to work through. My daughter...

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K5 Homework?!

Posted on 4/26/2016

Lately, I have been reading some articles and 'studies' that indicate that homework in elementary school essentially does more harm than good. Homework in middle and high school is beneficial, but...

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Posted on 3/30/2016

My spouse picks up the kids (ages 6 & 8) from their afterschool program one day a week. This week he confirmed with kids they had their homework, lunch boxes, etc. before leaving. After arriving...

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8 yo girl doesn't turn in math homework

Posted on 2/22/2016

I need help in determining if my 8 year-old daughter's struggles in school are a discipline/behavioral issue or if she really is having trouble understanding the work. She is in third grade. We...

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12 year old not motivated to improve school performance

Posted on 2/2/2016

My 12 year old son in 7th grade has had all privileges restricted essentially since September of this school year. Furthermore, he has endured the natural consequences of not being allowed to play...

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9 yo Ignore the Drama

Posted on 1/28/2016

We have been using the ticket system for the last few weeks. It has worked very well with a significant increase in good behaviour. However last night our 9 year old became very frustrated...

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Posted on 10/30/2015

I would like advice on how to address grades with my 11-year old son. During the past few years he has been on the A/B honor roll or just shy from it. This year his grades are inconsistent. One...

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Tween won't do chores!

Posted on 10/14/2015

Our 11-year-old son is resists everything we tell him to do. Example: he has to walk the dogs in the morning, and hates to do it. He feels that his sister, who is 7-years-old, has much less...

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8 year old School Work Responsibility

Posted on 9/12/2015

Our grandson is eight. He's in third grade. He is not completing his work in class. He's not bringing home his homework at times. He has a homework assignment book and doesn't fill it out...

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8 yo Not Doing Homework

Posted on 9/3/2015

We switched my daughter to a year round school. The school starts around July 13th. She did reasonable since the beginning. However, she is sliding back recently. I noticed that when she was...

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7 yo Homework Help?

Posted on 8/8/2015

Hello. My wife and I are going to start ticket tomorrow. We have 3.5 yr old boy girl twins and a 7 year old going into 2nd grade. My 7yo does a lot of whining when doing homework. He...

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7 year old Not Completing Schoolwork

Posted on 5/7/2015

What do I expect from a 7 year old girl? My daughter does not finish her school work on regular bases. She may finish it one day but not the other. She may do some but not all. The teacher said...

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10 year old refuses to do homework

Posted on 5/6/2015

My 10 year old has always struggle in school in regards to reaching grade level. He has always did his homework and does the best he can I class. The last 5 months it seems as though he has just...

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14 year old doesn't care about school

Posted on 3/2/2015

Our 14-year-old daughter is bright but lazy when it comes to school. She doesn’t make the effort to do well; she rarely studies and frequently doesn’t turn in homework or finish in-class projects....

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7 year old homework burden

Posted on 2/9/2015

My husband and I are seniors (69, 64yrs.) who adopted our twin grandchildren from birth. They are now 7 yrs. old and in 2nd grade. My concern/complaint is the type and amount of homework they are...

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9 Year Old Unmotivated in School

Posted on 1/8/2015

I have a 9 year old son 3rd grade. He is one of three triplets, if it makes a difference. He has had a decline in grades recently, kind of a slow decline over the school year. All B and C's...

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13 Year old homeschooling Part 2

Posted on 10/30/2014

Follow up to homeschooling reluctant 13 year old....Per your suggestion, we presented to our son that we would no longer nag, remind or bother him about his school work. He would be expected to...

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Homework Hassles for Parents of 3rd Grader

Posted on 10/28/2014

Our daughter is in the 3rd grade. We have been following recommendations in John's book regarding personal responsibility with school homework for 7 weeks now. I have set limits for homework,...

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No Homework

Posted on 10/22/2014

Our ten-year-old fourth grader is still refusing (see last year's questions) to bring home or do his reading and spelling homework. It has been almost 9 weeks of school and we just had an early...

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14yo Grades and Overwork

Posted on 9/30/2014

My 14 year old son just recently started his freshman year at a private Jesuit all boys High School where approximately 60% of applicants are accepted. He appears to love it and all his teachers. ...

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