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TRANSGENDER TEENS AT FAMILY GATHERING

Posted 4 weeks ago

My children are 13, 11 and 8 years old. We are Christian, and being so, believe in treating others with respect, even when we don't agree with the other's lifestyle. We will be attending a...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Teenage Issues

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Dealing With Teenager's Attitude

Posted on 4/11/2022

My 12-year-old daughter is not motivated to do school anymore. She is in 6th grade and has always been homeschooled. But now, she is just "dead in the water" and paddling no where. She constantly...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Teenage Issues

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Don't bite off more than you can chew

Posted on 4/8/2022

I have a tickets question. Is it still workable to use tickets on three different children and use two target misbehavior issues? I could even reduce it to two children, but I was thinking it...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: John's Discipline Methods

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12 Year Old Daughter Unmotivated to do School Work

Posted on 4/6/2022

My 12 year old daughter is not motivated to do school anymore. She is in 6th grade and has always been home-schooled. But now, she is just "dead in the water" and paddling no where. She just lays...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Chores/Responsibilities, Homeschooling, School Issues, Teenage Issues

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It's Not About the Makeup: Time for a Garden Kick

Posted on 3/20/2022

15-year old daughter very obsessed with make-up. Used our Amazon account to buy makeup Products without our knowing till I looked up order history. Took away all her makeup products, went...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years), Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years), Older Teen/High School (16-18 years)

Topics: Arguments with Children, Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Disobedience/Defiance, John's Discipline Methods, Lying, Manners, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Miscellaneous Editorial Columns, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior, Respect, School Issues, Social Issues (fighting/arguing with friends), Teenage Issues

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Don't Make a Mountain out of a Molehill

Posted on 3/18/2022

Ten year old son plays with his penis at bedtime. I go to his room at night time and finds him asleep with his hand in his pants. I've told him how wrong this is. Hoe can I get him to stop? He...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years), School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Bedtime/Sleep, Developmental Issues (e.g. late talking), Gender, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Miscellaneous Editorial Columns, Mothers

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Focus on Ability

Posted on 3/1/2022

Do you handle children with high-functioning autism differently than siblings who are also on The Program (daily/weekly charts)? We find we are having to "overlook" certain behaviors that would...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: ADHD and other disorders, Consequences/Punishment, Parent Leadership and Authority

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Corporal punishment dilemma

Posted on 2/18/2022

Hello. We have three boys. They are 6, 10 and 11. We adopted them out of foster care about 3 years ago. When necessary as a tool to discipline our kids (and train them to make better choices next...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years), School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Consequences/Punishment

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Parent vs. Grandparent Relationships

Posted on 2/15/2022

My husband and I love the John Rosemond way of parenting. We set rules and expect our kids to follow them. When my parents come around, they completely baby them because they "feel bad" and think...

Ages: No Specific Age, School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years), Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Father, Grandparents/Grandchildren, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Miscellaneous Editorial Columns, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Socialization/Social Skills

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Little Runaway

Posted on 2/10/2022

Our 11 yr old son has been spending a lot of time in room due to behavior and losing tickets. He decided yesterday after losing his tickets that he had enough and was running away. He has said...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Rebellious Behavior

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Busyness expectations.

Posted on 1/28/2022

Dear John, we have an 11 yr old son. We have always instilled in our children about doing their best at any task they set out to do whether it’s school, school, his tennis practice..etc. From the...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Extracurricular Activities/Hobbies

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Anxiety taking the wheel

Posted on 1/19/2022

My 12-year-old niece is experiencing out-of-control anxiety. She says thoughts keep repeating themselves over and over in her head. She's even experienced anxiety about having anxiety. My sister...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Anxieties, Fears

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Shy 7 Year Old

Posted on 12/31/2021

My 7 year old first-grader has trouble joining into social situations. He plays well with his 5 year old brother, but with peers, he goes off on his own, and will tell stories to himself (I...

Ages: No Specific Age, Preschool (4-5 years), School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Extracurricular Activities/Hobbies, John's Discipline Methods, Manners, Miscellaneous Editorial Columns, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Play, Self-Esteem, Shyness, Social Issues (fighting/arguing with friends), Socialization/Social Skills

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Battle over devices

Posted on 12/22/2021

My son is 11 and this is his first year in middle school. He has to use an ipad for school and this thing has been nothing but a nightmare. He is currently grounded right now (confined to his room...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Electronics (Computers/Video Games/Television/Cell Phones)

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Finding Herself

Posted on 12/15/2021

Second question... We have 2 foster kiddos we're adopting. I have an 11 year old foster daughter who is really an amazing, respectful and happy girl. She really struggles with figuring out who...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Adoption/Foster Parent, Character/Values (teaching), Parent Leadership and Authority, Self-Esteem

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Clarifying the Garden Kick

Posted on 12/4/2021

Does kicking out of the garden mean the child is confined to their new boring room for the duration of the time? Do you restrict them from playing outside with sibblings or friends? Can they...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years), Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years), Older Teen/High School (16-18 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, Electronics (Computers/Video Games/Television/Cell Phones), John's Discipline Methods, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Miscellaneous Editorial Columns, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior, Respect, Teenage Issues

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Reading in the Morning or Reading in the Evening? Raising a Reader with Learning Challenges

Posted on 11/18/2021

I am homeschool my 7 year old child/grandchild. His Mother was diagnosed at age 7 with dyslexia and an auditory processing disorder by Dr Lucia Karnes which made me confident the assessment was...

Ages: No Specific Age, School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years), Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years)

Topics: ADHD and other disorders, Character/Values (teaching), Developmental Issues (e.g. late talking), Grandparents/Grandchildren, Homeschooling, Learning Disabilities, Miscellaneous Editorial Columns, Parent Leadership and Authority, School Issues, Self-Esteem

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Time for A Garden Kick

Posted on 8/27/2021

We have our 12 year old son's phone locked for certain reasons. If his grades slip below a B we lock it so he can only call family, if he is disrespectful or doesn't complete his chores, his...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years), Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years), Older Teen/High School (16-18 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Father, John's Discipline Methods, Lying, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Miscellaneous Editorial Columns, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior, Respect, School Issues, Teenage Issues

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"Anything for Attention and The Most Annoying Thing Ever"

Posted on 8/11/2021

I have a seven year old boy who is a copycat. There are adults around him who clear their throat, so now he is clearing his throat. It has become a habit and when he gets mad, he exaggerates it...

Ages: No Specific Age, Preschool (4-5 years), School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Alpha Speech, Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Disobedience/Defiance, John's Discipline Methods, Manners, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Respect, Socialization/Social Skills

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Do What You Can Do

Posted on 7/30/2021

My stepsons are 12 and 14. We also have a 4 and 2 year old. Their mother has been generally uncooperative and at times hostile to us, and treats the boys very differently. She doesn’t seem to like...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Aggression, Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), John's Discipline Methods, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior, Step-Families

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Coping with the pain of losing a parent

Posted on 7/19/2021

My daughter recently died of brain cancer. Her husband works full time and I am with the kids (ages 8, 9, 11 and 15) most of the time. I would like to know how to help them through the grieving...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years), Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years)

Topics: Grandparents/Grandchildren, Miscellaneous Editorial Columns

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To Ballet, Or Not to Ballet?

Posted on 6/24/2021

I'm a homeschooling mom of two (ages almost 10 and 11). My daughters are involved in a Christian ballet school as an extra curricular activity. They have been going to ballet for about three...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Extracurricular Activities/Hobbies, Parent Leadership and Authority

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Too Much?

Posted on 4/26/2021

I have two daughters, ages 9 and 11. I have noticed that they have a short attention span when it comes to their free-time activities. For example, they may play with Legos for 20 minutes and...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Chores/Responsibilities, Electronics (Computers/Video Games/Television/Cell Phones), Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Parent Leadership and Authority

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Coaching Kids Through Frustrations

Posted on 4/23/2021

My 11-year-old boy has Aspergers . He gets frustrated easily. What should I do?

Ages: No Specific Age, School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years), Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years), Older Teen/High School (16-18 years)

Topics: ADHD and other disorders, Alpha Speech, Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Father, Manners, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Miscellaneous Editorial Columns, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Self-Esteem, Social Issues (fighting/arguing with friends), Socialization/Social Skills, Teenage Issues

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A "Hairy" Problem

Posted on 4/21/2021

I have a sixth grade girl who is constantly, yes constantly, playing with her long hair. Playing means pulling it in front of her face and separating it, examining each individual hair, examining...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Parent Leadership and Authority, Teenage Issues

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Another electronic challenge

Posted on 3/6/2021

I have a 12 year old daughter who i think is addicted to electronics. She makes it known she is bothered by members of the family and doesn’t want to participate in anything family related. I used...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Electronics (Computers/Video Games/Television/Cell Phones)

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Fearful 11 Year Old Wearing Family Out

Posted on 2/7/2021

Our middle child who is 11, has had fears about bedtime and going to and staying asleep, on and off for the past few years. We’ve never let her sleep in our bed but have let her sleep on the floor...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Anxieties, Fears, Bedtime/Sleep

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How much screen time for pre teen boy?

Posted on 1/17/2021

How long should a 11 1/5 year boy be allowed on electronics for pleasure a day.

Ages: School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Electronics (Computers/Video Games/Television/Cell Phones)

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Avoid Micromanaging Tweens Peer Group

Posted on 12/15/2020

What should I do if my daughters only friends are bad influences on her and not people I want her being friends with? One is a lesbian, one has anxiety issues and they both are obsessed with Tik...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years), Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years), Older Teen/High School (16-18 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Electronics (Computers/Video Games/Television/Cell Phones), John's Discipline Methods, Manners, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Miscellaneous Editorial Columns, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior, Respect, Social Issues (fighting/arguing with friends), Socialization/Social Skills, Teenage Issues

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Honest Conversations

Posted on 12/12/2020

My nephew has confided in my son (11yr old- cousin), that he is Bisexual. His parents have recently divorced- March will be 2 years (mother left) and my brother is a single parent of 4 children....

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years), Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Divorce/Custody, Teenage Issues

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Difficult is Not Bad

Posted on 12/2/2020

I am homeschooling my Grandson, who is in first grade. He is a bright child, but not motivated for school. He has struggled with handwriting and anything which requires manual dexterity, or fine...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: ADHD and other disorders, Character/Values (teaching), Developmental Issues (e.g. late talking), Grandparents/Grandchildren, Homeschooling, Homework, Learning Disabilities, Parent Leadership and Authority, School Issues, Single Parents

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Keep Delicate Conversations As Simple as Possible

Posted on 10/22/2020

Hello! I am wondering how, when the topic comes up, should I address same sex relationships with my kids (mainly my 8 year old son for now; I also have a 4 year old daughter). We are Catholic...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years), Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years), Older Teen/High School (16-18 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Father, Manners, Miscellaneous Editorial Columns, Parent Leadership and Authority, Respect, School Issues, Social Issues (fighting/arguing with friends), Socialization/Social Skills

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Exhausted Mom of 11-Year-Old Needs Help

Posted on 10/19/2020

I am a mother of an 11yr old daughter. I am a wife and caregiver to a disabled Veteran with mental and physical health problems. My faith is the only thing keeping me going right now. I am having...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Disobedience/Defiance, John's Discipline Methods, Parent Leadership and Authority

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Teens and Technology: Education is Key for Safety

Posted on 10/14/2020

We have not allowed our 3 children ages 12, 14 and 15 to have cell phones. They also do not have Social Media accounts. They are allowed to text or FaceTime friends or cousins using our phones. ...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years), Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years), Older Teen/High School (16-18 years), Young Adult (19-25 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Chores/Responsibilities, Consequences/Punishment, Disobedience/Defiance, Electronics (Computers/Video Games/Television/Cell Phones), Homeschooling, John's Discipline Methods, Lying, Miscellaneous Editorial Columns, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior, Respect, Socialization/Social Skills, Teenage Issues

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Parenting a Disrespectful Teen with Divorced Parents

Posted on 10/10/2020

Almost two years ago my husband left (affair) and we are in a very difficult divorce. We are not friendly and don’t communicate other than texting. We have four children together and have 50/50...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years), Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years), Older Teen/High School (16-18 years)

Topics: Arguments with Children, Character/Values (teaching), Chores/Responsibilities, Consequences/Punishment, Depression/Self-Harm, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, Divorce/Custody, Father, John's Discipline Methods, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior, Respect, Single Parents, Teenage Issues

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3D Snapshot of the Mien of a Tween: not a Pretty Picture

Posted on 9/23/2020

My 12 year old son is stealing money out of my purse. He has a long history of defiance, sneakiness, and lying. He is also disrespectful, and disobedient. We suspect he's been stealing money for...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Disobedience/Defiance, Lying, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems

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Disrespectful 8-Year-Old

Posted on 9/19/2020

We have noticed more ungrateful and entitled behavior in my 8 year old son recently. During a trip to the zoo, he became upset and was rude and disrespectful when I would not buy him food and ice...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Arguments with Children, Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, John's Discipline Methods, Manners, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior, Respect, Socialization/Social Skills

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What to Do About Screen Addiction?

Posted on 7/5/2020

My 11-year-old son is obsessed with screens. If we tell him to do something while he is on his phone or iPad he huffs and puffs or we are told, “in a minute." Then he only gets 2 out of 3 chores...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years), Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years), Older Teen/High School (16-18 years)

Topics: Bedtime/Sleep, Character/Values (teaching), Chores/Responsibilities, Consequences/Punishment, Disobedience/Defiance, Electronics (Computers/Video Games/Television/Cell Phones), John's Discipline Methods, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Socialization/Social Skills, Teenage Issues

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Big Sister 11 wants some space from 8 year old brother

Posted on 6/24/2020

Thank you so much for the thoughtful and helpful ways you've equipped me as a parent since signing up to this site. I've come to understand that I should let my kids resolve issues they have with...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Arguments with Children, Sibling Conflict

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Emotional Intelligence Begins With Good Manners

Posted on 6/14/2020

Are you familiar with the term 2e kids? Or twice exceptional? Our 10 year old son appears to fall into this category. He is at above average intelligence, but his emotional iq is lacking and a...

Ages: No Specific Age, Toddler (18MOS-3 years), Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old), Preschool (4-5 years), School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years), Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years), Older Teen/High School (16-18 years)

Topics: ADHD and other disorders, Anxieties, Fears, Character/Values (teaching), Homeschooling, Learning Disabilities, Manners, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, School Issues, Self-Esteem, Shyness, Social Issues (fighting/arguing with friends), Socialization/Social Skills

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Talking to Kids About Dyslexia

Posted on 6/11/2020

My son has a moderate case of dyslexia, and he is 10. Our daughter, who is 7, has a mild case of dyslexia. Our son, of course, knows he is dyslexic, however, we have not told our daughter she is...

Ages: No Specific Age, School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: ADHD and other disorders, Anxieties, Fears, Character/Values (teaching), Developmental Issues (e.g. late talking), Learning Disabilities, Mothers, School Issues, Self-Esteem

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Parenting Material is for Parents, Not Kids.

Posted on 6/1/2020

Is it ok to go through your material with our 12 year old son listening? It seems like he would understand better this way?

Ages: School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years), Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years)

Topics: Arguments with Children, Character/Values (teaching), John's Discipline Methods, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Miscellaneous Editorial Columns, Parent Leadership and Authority, Teenage Issues

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Disrespectful Tween

Posted on 5/22/2020

My 11 year old daughter gets upset when I correct her and calls me names in her heart not aloud; but she later tells me those rude things and apologises. (The most recent name she called me...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years), Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Disobedience/Defiance, John's Discipline Methods, Manners, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior, Socialization/Social Skills, Teenage Issues

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Curbing Unhealthy Snack Attacks

Posted on 5/18/2020

My son is an 8 years old only child. He wasn't a chubby baby, but he's becoming a chubby boy. He's getting a belly and love handles. He is 4'7" and weighs in at 95lbs. His food choices are high...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Food/Eating Problems, Manners, Mealtime/Eating, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Socialization/Social Skills

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Co-Parenting precautions continued

Posted on 3/29/2020

My 7 year old son has picked up on some terrible slang while with his father. Everything is “banging mate” as one example. It sounds horrendous. How do I stop this?

Ages: No Specific Age, Preschool (4-5 years), School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years), Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Divorce/Custody, Father, Manners, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior, Single Parents, Socialization/Social Skills, Step-Families

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Pre-Teen: A Lingering Fever

Posted on 3/24/2020

We are having some trouble with our 12 year old son. I can see how things have progressed and how we haven't quite followed the Rosemond plan. He is very rude with his sisters, he talks back a lot...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Consequences/Punishment, Disobedience/Defiance, Rebellious Behavior, Tantrums

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Children, Vitamins and The Doctor

Posted on 3/11/2020

Any tips on getting 12 and 8 year olds to take supplements? We’ve tried everything to mask the taste but it seems more of a power struggle. Thanks!

Ages: No Specific Age, School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years), Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years)

Topics: Arguments with Children, Character/Values (teaching), Food/Eating Problems, John's Discipline Methods, Mealtime/Eating, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Miscellaneous Editorial Columns, Parent Leadership and Authority

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OCD or just feeling special?

Posted on 2/28/2020

My 11 year old daughter has several ocd like behaviors. I have started to work on a few of them after reading and hearing your podcasts. My question is should I do them all at once or one at a...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Anxieties, Fears, Miscellaneous Editorial Columns

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Chaos that calls for a coach.

Posted on 2/25/2020

My soon to be 11 year old daughter “accidentally” hurts my just turned four year old son. I finally got her to confess that she sometimes hurts her brother and then tells us it was an accident....

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Consequences/Punishment, Parent Leadership and Authority

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Pre- teen sent to principal's office

Posted on 2/19/2020

My 11 y/o daughter was just sent to the principal's office for carving a middle finger out of an eraser and saying that it represented her teacher. Princial said that she and other kids are...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance

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