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Time to Show you Mean Business
Posted 1 week ago
Hi! Today, after telling my 9 year old son no, he could not take Pokemon cards to school, he snuck them in his backpack and took them anyway. The teacher called me. She also told me he brought a...
Read More"Special Tantrum Place" for Tantrums
Posted 2 weeks ago
My son (21 months) is in full blown “terrible twos.” He does lots of throwing fits. When they happen he gets a swat on the bottom and has to sit in his bed until he will be sweet and say he’s...
Read MoreDisruptive Diner
Posted 3 weeks ago
Our youngest child is 5 and was adopted as an infant (not a newborn). He has strong food preferences. Our other boys (biological) eat well; they can be picky at times, but we don't fix special...
Read MoreChild Sneaking out of Room for Snacks
Posted on 2/17/2024
When using the Doctor Method and sending your kids to bed early, what do you do when your kid is then so well rested, wakes up before everyone else, and rummages through the kitchen? My 5-year-old...
Read MoreHelp for HIgh Self-esteem Seizures
Posted on 1/24/2024
Six-year-old daughter has been kicked out of the garden twice for nighttime issues: screaming, throwing things, manipulating us to try to sleep with her or give her x,y,z. She was “kicked out” at...
Read MoreResponding to opposing viewpoints
Posted on 1/9/2024
A while back my kids had done wrong and so I spanked them, prayed with them, hugged them and told them that I love them. That’s how my parents did with me. A person I am close to said I should...
Read MoreVictimhood by a 10 yro
Posted on 1/6/2024
Our son regularly makes excuses, assigns blame elsewhere, etc. when it comes to taking responsibilities for his decisions. He often plays the "poor me" or victim card. What are your best...
Read MoreTime for a Visit From the Doctor
Posted on 12/29/2023
I'm at a loss for direction. I tried lumping my kids together with a chart just to find how different they are. My 4 y/o loves to relentlessly antagonize my 5 y/o whiner, and my 7 y/o loves to...
Read MoreStrut and Fret your Hour upon the Stage--when dealing with a 5-year old NAG
Posted on 12/3/2023
When my son (5) gets sent to his room for time out, he goes into his room and begins throwing demonic-style tantrums. He hits the door and screams at the top of his lungs. When he’s done, he comes...
Read More"Fit Places" for a two year old
Posted on 11/26/2023
At what age can I start using tickets? I tried for a while with my 2.5 year old but she just chewed/folded/tore them up and thought they were toys. So far time out and pictures taped to the fridge...
Read MoreTurn to Tickets for Sibling Conflicts
Posted on 11/23/2023
I have 3 children (7, 5 & 4) who play very well together. They don't always get along well, and I'd like to do the chart system for them for the same behaviors (whining/tantrums, misusing...
Read MoreOverspending Lunch Account
Posted on 11/16/2023
My son's school is using a new foodservice company. There have been some bumps as they navigate how to configure it. As of now 5-12 grades are allowed to bill whatever they want to the family...
Read MorePerfectionism and Kids
Posted on 11/7/2023
I have a 4-year-old son, 6-year-old daughter and 4-month-old. We are part of a homeschool co-op group that meets once a week. It isn’t a drop off co-op, so all parents stay the whole time. My...
Read MoreTickets. I’ve got your tickets!
Posted on 11/4/2023
Hello - we have been using some form of the ticketing system with our 5 year old daughter for about a year now. It doesn’t seem like we have made much progress. She is still consistently...
Read MoreClimbing Toddlers
Posted on 11/1/2023
I have two very busy little people (2.5 and 1.5). They are very curious and love to explore but can also be naughty at times. Christmas time will be coming soon and I love to decorate for it. But...
Read MoreIt's Her Problem
Posted on 10/26/2023
Hello, My 5.5 year old daughter is praised for her behavior by all caregivers outside the home. At home, when I give her a command like “go brush your hair,” she will dawdle, say “not yet” or...
Read More9 YEAR OLD PRACTICING TO BECOME A CLOWN
Posted on 10/18/2023
My 9 year old son is in 4th grade. He has always been good with others but a strong-willed challenger at home. My husband and I always felt that that meant we were doing our job, with good reports...
Read MoreAdjusting the Attitude
Posted on 10/13/2023
Are there any Rosemond certified therapists on the island of Oahu? I've read several of John's books and am still having trouble with my 2 kids, especially my soon to be 13 yrs old son. He was a...
Read More1st Grade Son Prefers Silly Play
Posted on 10/8/2023
My 1st grade son who has always preferred oral "silly" play including making rasberry sounds, whistling, and staccato outbursts of word like but unintelligible syllables, and exaggerated laughter,...
Read More5YO Testing the Limits
Posted on 9/25/2023
Our 5 year old is incredibly contrary; at times he argues or complains about everything. He'll say he doesn't like what's for dinner before he knows what it is, for example. His tantrums have...
Read More7 YEAR OLD HAS NO DESIRE TO LISTEN TO REASON
Posted on 9/12/2023
We have a 7.5yo son with a habit of yelling/screaming/whining at us when we attempt to talk to him at times when he is misbehaving or breaking family rules. We can barely get the first words out...
Read MoreTODDLER TESTING ANXIOUS MOM?
Posted on 8/16/2023
My child (2) has suddenly started testing all sorts of areas that I thought we had conquered. She started purposely peeing on the floor, throwing food out of the high chair, pulling her hair...
Read MoreTattletale Two-Year-Old
Posted on 8/9/2023
My daughter (2 yr) has trouble with being a tattletale. Off and on all day she tells me what her brother (1 yr) is doing. It’s true that a lot of the time when she says he is doing something wrong...
Read MoreDefiant 7 year old needs a visit from the good old Dr.
Posted on 8/4/2023
We have a 7 year old girl who has the strongest will I have ever encountered. She is defiant, she is physical towards her older sister(who is her polar opposite) and I am at my wits end. We have...
Read MorePRIVATE COACHING IS SOMETIMES THE WAY TO GO
Posted on 7/29/2023
Our middle son, age 7, has been a challenge since he was a baby. We met a few years ago with a John Rosemond Parent coach about him and it was helpful, but we still have some areas where we...
Read MoreMany discipline problems require a coach
Posted on 7/28/2023
As I'm sure you can see, we have submitted many questions over the years. Some things have improved. We have been more consistent with offering consequences and following through. However, we...
Read MoreHead Hurter
Posted on 7/12/2023
When my 22-month-old son is told no, he will usually obey but he will take his fist and hit the side of his head (hard!) repeatedly or will start running until he falls and then will bang his head...
Read MoreA 9-yr old, 3D's and the PKR
Posted on 6/16/2023
We are having issues with our almost 9 year old son, the oldest of 3 boys. He is increasingly disrespectful, stirring up trouble with his brothers, being physically violent with us and his...
Read MoreQuestion About 7 Biggest Mistakes Video Series
Posted on 4/28/2023
Is the video series “7 Biggest Mistakes parents make” on Disc or is it a “streamed” series?
Read MoreTechnology and the Preteen Boy
Posted on 4/26/2023
Aloha, I want to use the weekly ticket system, or throwing the child out of the garden, to discipline my 12 year old son (6th grade). The problem lies in that much of the homework now is given...
Read MoreNot getting his way head banger.
Posted on 3/16/2023
Hi, My 18 month old son will bang his head against me when I am carrying him if he is angry or does not get his way. For example after playing outside, I will announce it is time to go inside and...
Read MoreKIDS RUINING SPRING BREAK VACATION
Posted on 3/15/2023
We are on Spring Break and our kids have not been listening/obeying. Thus, we took away dinners out and got a babysitter and also removed their privilege of playing tennis because that was where...
Read MoreWhat to Do When a Child Won’t Stay In Timeout?
Posted on 2/23/2023
I work with families whose children have behavioral issues, and I use a lot of your parenting strategies. I have a case in which I'm not sure what to do. The child is 3 years old and refuses to...
Read MoreProgress isn't Linear
Posted on 2/16/2023
After a wonderful 2 hours of the morning, my son was sent to his room again around 8am for jumping on and scratching his dad while dad and the baby were on the couch. However, we had to go to a...
Read MoreDistress at the Dentist's and Choosing Church
Posted on 2/2/2023
Question about The Godfather Principle: We’re currently implementing this because of a rather rough (that’s an understatement) dentist visit. We read your response to the question about temper...
Read MoreAnger Mismanagement
Posted on 1/4/2023
My 11.5 year old, quite academic son, is very respectful outside home and loved by his teachers. In past few years he is lacking anger management and becomes disrespectful (especially with mom)...
Read More6 yr old fits
Posted on 1/4/2023
My daughter is 6 years old. When her father and I speak to her about her behaviour she interrupts us by saying "I know, I know, I know". She is constantly talking back! she's hit me before and I...
Read MoreDoes Chicken Little Make You a Little Chicken? A Four-Year Old's Tantrumizing
Posted on 12/29/2022
Constant power struggle with 4-year old. Our 4 year old son’s behavior has done a complete 180 within the last couple of weeks only at home. Preschool and daycare is constantly telling us he’s...
Read MoreFears, Five Year Olds, and the Doctor
Posted on 12/12/2022
My daughter, age 5 1/2 recently started acting irrational. She refuses to get in the car and will unbuckle herself and jump out. This behavior started a week ago when she refused to sleep in her...
Read MoreThe Doctor is In
Posted on 11/29/2022
Help! Our daughter is 5 and has become defiant and disobedient. For example she will come to us and say "I know I'm not supposed to (enter action) but I did." She said she's being truthful by...
Read MorePest Control
Posted on 11/17/2022
Our 5-year-old daughter has come a long way with her behavior in the last year, but the top two biggest issues still are 1) her never ending pestering and annoying. She pesters and annoys those...
Read More10 Year Old with Violent Fits, Divorced Parents and "trifecta of diagnoses"
Posted on 10/13/2022
My 10 year old son has the adoptive trifecta of diagnoses: "on the autism spectrum", oppositional defiant disorder, and ADHD. Sometimes he has violent fits - although now they're down to 1 or 2...
Read More10 YEAR OLD WITH DEMONS?
Posted on 10/5/2022
I have been asking questions and seeking advice for a time. Had a coach, but my husband discontinued service. Last time I wrote I mentioned, My husband said we should cut it at the root. He...
Read More"PERSNIKETY" 32 MONTH OLD RUNS THE HOUSE
Posted on 9/29/2022
We have a very particular 32 month old. We've followed John's teachings for our other two from toddlerhood but this kid has us scratching our heads. This child of ours had a rough start to life;...
Read MoreMentally Drained Mom Seeking Advice
Posted on 9/2/2022
We have a 9 year old girl, 6 year old boy, and 4.5 year old girl. I've read Parenting by The Book twice and The Well Behaved Child twice in the past month. Our 9 year old is the biggest challenge,...
Read MoreRaising Believers
Posted on 8/30/2022
We just started the ticket system and we have one target misbehavior for our 4 year old. Following directions. For example, when he loses a ticket because he doesn’t listen when we ask him to...
Read More2 YEAR OLD TOO STRONG FOR MOM
Posted on 8/16/2022
We have a 2-year-old that refuses to listen and his favorite answer is no. For example, just this morning I was trying to get him ready to go to daycare and I asked him to sit down so I could...
Read MoreTime to Reel In 5-Year-Old
Posted on 8/16/2022
We have a 5 year old who has come a long way with behavior but lately hasn't been great at listening when told to do something. She will almost pretend we didn't say it or will just say "I will in...
Read MoreSometimes all you need is a hug and a dutch door.
Posted on 8/13/2022
When my 4 year old son loses all his privileges for the day, we cannot get him to stay in his room. What is something we can try? We calmly put him back in his room each time he runs out, but it...
Read MoreGet Creative
Posted on 7/24/2022
Greetings! Our usually cheerful and happy 4yo daughter does not seem to react normally to punishment. At first she gets upset and cries, but very shortly into a time out or being sent to her room...
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