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When will sharing 'click'
Posted 2 weeks ago
When I hear my two little people (2 and 15 months) arguing, fussing, yelling, etc. at each other in the play room, should I go investigate and discipline whoever is in the wrong (if one sibling...
Read More2 yo girl bullies little brother
Posted on 6/27/2023
My daughter (2) has been biting her brother (1). It’s not just a nibble. It’s a hard chomp that leaves him sobbing and with teeth marks on his arm or wherever she bit him. She also pushes him,...
Read MoreA 9-yr old, 3D's and the PKR
Posted on 6/16/2023
We are having issues with our almost 9 year old son, the oldest of 3 boys. He is increasingly disrespectful, stirring up trouble with his brothers, being physically violent with us and his...
Read MoreHow to Stop Micro-Managing Playtime
Posted on 5/25/2023
In Mr. Rosemond's most recent podcast on 'The Good Mommy Club, he states that children shouldn't be told how to play because it comes naturally. I find myself micro-managing my daughters when I...
Read More13YO Thinks She's All That and A Bag of Chips
Posted on 1/4/2023
My 13 year old has been very mean to her sisters for a while now. She is very smart and quick witted. She is constantly talking down to her sisters, belittling them and making one of them cry. We...
Read MoreDon't Dis R-E-S-P-E-C-T
Posted on 6/13/2022
Our 8 year old has grown increasingly disrespectful. He is perfect respectful to adults like teachers and parents of his friends, so it is primarily an issue at home. Often the disrespect is...
Read MoreGood Cop Bad Cop
Posted on 6/6/2022
Ongoing tiff with Husband. Example scenario: 3 1/2 year old daughter is harassing 1 1/2 year old daughter and is put in timeout in her room. Every time she's in timeout she's screaming and losing...
Read MoreCo-parenting has its challenges
Posted on 4/1/2022
I share custody of my 2 year old daughter. Her father has a 5 year old from a previous relationship. We are on good terms and spend time with the girls together when possible. The issue is the 5...
Read MoreHow to Stop Toddler From Hitting Younger Sibling
Posted on 3/11/2022
Hi. Our oldest daughter is 3yrs 2mo old. Our youngest daughter is 11mo. Within the past month or so, our oldest daughter has started hitting and pushing our youngest daughter. Oftentimes this...
Read MoreSix Year Old Loves to Scream
Posted on 2/20/2022
My 6 year old has screaming fits nearly every day usually related to being told to do something he doesn't want to or when he is mad at his brother. We have gone back to making him go to his room...
Read MoreR.E.S.P.E.C.T
Posted on 1/30/2022
We have a 10 year old son and an 8 year old daughter. Our daughter has a genetic disease and is mildly delayed in language and cognitive skills, but she attends school and is in a regular...
Read More10-Year-Old's Hitting Needs to Hit the Road for Good
Posted on 1/28/2022
We are currently using the ticket system to deal with two target behaviors. Hitting is not one of them. My 10-year-old daughter hit her four-year-old sister. This behavior does not happen very...
Read MorePerfect time for a reset
Posted on 1/18/2022
Our 9yo girls currently rule the roost. They speak to us flippantly, complain constantly, whine and pester after receiving a "no" answer, expect others to fetch/carry for them, ignore directives...
Read MoreIf I Could Save Time in a Battle---When Siblings Collide
Posted on 1/14/2022
When doing the conference room for sibling conflict what do you do if all they do is yell and fight while in there? Currently I just add more time when they start fighting. Sometimes it helps...
Read MoreDisciplining With Tickets When Grandma Comes to Town
Posted on 12/29/2021
I just got your book, "The Well Behaved Child," and today I began using tickets (and Alpha speech) for my just 5-year-old son who is very loving and sweet but would be considered a "high...
Read MoreGetting Started on the Ticket System
Posted on 9/14/2021
At what age is it appropriate to do 2 sets of tickets? One for sibling conflict and one for personal? How long should I wait to start their personal ones? We just started sibling conflict about a...
Read MoreBossy Miss 6
Posted on 8/17/2021
Hi there! My 6 year old (Miss 6) tends to hugely overreact. It's not tantrums, per say, so the tantrum spot is not utilised. It's more anger and "wordiness." (Miss 6: "I asked sister THREE...
Read MoreTickets, Strikes and Keeping the Peace
Posted on 6/22/2021
I’ve attempted using the ticket system, but I’m getting confused. I have a 4 yr old and 7yr old. They fight, and argue about EVERYTHING. I put 3 tickets on the fridge- no tattling, no disturbing...
Read More10 year old and 8 year old participating in sibling rivalry
Posted on 4/10/2021
My son (age 10) and my daughter (age 8) argue and fight, but it is mostly my son who antagonizes his sister and she ends up telling on him to us. It happens ALL day long. I try to not take sides...
Read MoreMeltdowns, Scratches, and Wrestling Matches: Dealing With the Brothers 3
Posted on 3/1/2021
Over the past year, we have spent more time together as a family at home. While some of this has been good, we have also seen conflict between our oldest boys, ages 4 and 6, increase. Sometimes...
Read MoreBoys' Behavior is Ruining the Morning Routine
Posted on 1/28/2021
My boys are on the ticket system for disobedience and fighting. They have chores every morning after breakfast before we start homeschool and things are going off the rails so to speak with the...
Read More21 month old steals sister's toys
Posted on 12/28/2020
Lately our 21 month old seems to make it his mission to steal toys away from his 3.5 year old sister. While I realize that he doesn’t really understand sharing, it feels like all I do all day is...
Read MoreSibling Relationship Stuck in Rough Water
Posted on 12/7/2020
We have a 21 year old son, who is still in college. He has severe animus toward his 17 year old sister, and has had it for the past 6-8 years. Little sister, for all practical purposes, is very...
Read MoreTaming Hitting Between Younger Siblings
Posted on 11/4/2020
My two year old and my 4 year old are constantly hitting each other what should I do ?
Read MoreCurb Behavior With Alpha Speech
Posted on 10/6/2020
My son is 3-years-old and is a sweet boy and had a pretty good first two and a half years. Three months ago he started bluntly saying "No" to us and being more aggressive towards his brother, and...
Read MoreSibling Warfare
Posted on 10/2/2020
My 6 year old son is bullying and hitting his 4 year old brother behind my back and telling him not to tell and lying about it to me. The 4 year old is acting out in daycare, already being kicked...
Read MoreIt's my room
Posted on 9/10/2020
My 6 year old won’t allow her 3yr old brother in her room, especially if we are working on her homework. Unfortunately, there are times that I’m home alone and he needs to be with us. She try’s to...
Read More2-Year-Old and 4-Year-Old Can't Get Along
Posted on 8/20/2020
My 2 year old and my 4 year old seem to not be able to stay with each other for 5 min with out fitting over something ... should I say something or let them work it out because it seem like a...
Read MoreBig Sister 11 wants some space from 8 year old brother
Posted on 6/24/2020
Thank you so much for the thoughtful and helpful ways you've equipped me as a parent since signing up to this site. I've come to understand that I should let my kids resolve issues they have with...
Read MoreHelp! Quarantine Has Thrown a Kink in Our Schedule!
Posted on 6/23/2020
My husband has been working from home for the last few months and this has brought new challenges with our 5 and 6 year old boys. Prior to him working from home I had a routine of them playing in...
Read MoreHow to Achieve Peaceful Coexistence Between Children
Posted on 5/31/2020
I have a 6-year-old, and 2.5 year old. They are fighting A LOT. What’s the best way to discipline them? I try to let them work it out as much as I can, but it’s constant. Older child ripping toys...
Read MoreTeach instead of rescue.
Posted on 5/27/2020
My 11 year old daughter has noticed that her 8 year old brother is academically more able than she is, particularly in Maths. Over the years, we've repeatedly told her to celebrate her own...
Read MoreSibling Must Work it Out!
Posted on 3/1/2020
I have two children: An 8-year-old girl and a 3-year-old boy. For the most part, they play really well on their own. Whenever my daughter doesn’t have school, however, we have conflict. My son...
Read MoreSiblings Must Work It Out!
Posted on 2/25/2020
I’ve got two kids, an almost 8 year old girl and a 3 year old boy. For the most part, they play really well on their own. Whenever she doesn’t have school, we have the most conflict. He loves...
Read More10 Year Old Testing Boundaries
Posted on 2/8/2020
I have been using the alpha speech. I make mistakes sometimes, escalating my voice because I'm frustrated. On the most part I'm pretty consistent. I noticed in alpha speech you do no use...
Read MoreThe Age-Gap Triplicate
Posted on 1/1/2020
My kids (11-girl, 10-girl, 3-boy) were driving me crazy with all the squabbling. Especially as the 3 year old gets older. All 3 kids are on the ticket system. I’ve read a lot of the q & a on here...
Read MoreKerfuffling Kids
Posted on 11/28/2019
Hi! I have a 9 year old daughter and boy/girl twin 7 year olds. The twins tend to play really nicely together. They are also in the same class and the same group on the swim team. My 9 year old...
Read MoreThe Taming of the Crew
Posted on 10/23/2019
I need help understanding the difference between sibling rivalry and sibling abuse. I know I'm supposed to punish both children equally when they fight, but what about in a situation where the...
Read MoreResetting The Dial Can Be Best Bet
Posted on 10/21/2019
What are the suggested number of target behaviors and daily tickets for children of the following ages: 1) boy age 5 - generally a low-misbehaver, main problem is tantrums, sometimes disobeys or...
Read MoreSibling Rivalry Not Improving
Posted on 9/22/2019
Hello! Our daughter (26 months) has been hitting, scratching, biting etc her sister (almost 4.5 years old). At first we told her a firm no but now the incidents have increased and we put her in...
Read More3 y/o and 1 y/o siblings learning to play together
Posted on 9/18/2019
My son is 3 years old and my daughter is 1 year old. My son is really good about playing by himself and lining up his cars when he plays; however, my daughter really likes to bug him. She...
Read MoreToddler Trouble
Posted on 8/10/2019
What do I do to toddler sister who pushes down sister who is learning to sit and stand?
Read MoreThe Enemy of my Enemy is my Sibling
Posted on 7/14/2019
We have five children, and multiple questions, but I'll just focus on one here. My oldest son and daughter (ages 10 and 7) fight regularly. My son is a teaser, and my daughter is a screecher. ...
Read MoreSiblings and Summer
Posted on 6/18/2019
Hi! I have an 8 year old daughter and boy/girl twin 6 year olds. I am writting in because my kids have been fighting a lot and gotten physical; pushing, hair grabbing, kicking sometimes even...
Read MoreI'm Not Your Friend
Posted on 6/3/2019
My four year old has been telling her younger sister who is three that she will not play with her, be her best friend, etc. if she doesn’t play the way she wants or gives her the toy she is...
Read More14 month old harming Mom and family members
Posted on 5/28/2019
My 14 month old baby has started scratching my face, and pulling my hair when upset. In the past few days she has also started pinching and biting her 4 yo sister and 5 yo brother (who are very...
Read MoreKicking An Angry 17 Year Old Out Of The Garden of Eden
Posted on 4/13/2019
Our 17 year old son is completely out of control. None of the consequences that we have given him have helped. His biggest problem is his angry outbursts. He has destroyed his relationship with...
Read MoreSibling Conflict and Bizarre Behavior
Posted on 3/20/2019
One day at church, my husband noticed my 11 YO daughter pinching her hand when he stopped our daughters having a silent squabble in the pew. Her younger sister is 16 months younger and often they...
Read MoreSibling Rivalry
Posted on 2/19/2019
my daughters, age 5 and 2, constantly fight. I agree siblings need to settle their own quarrels; however, my 2 year old is still physically agressive (pulling hair, hitting), and sometimes I...
Read MoreSeparate but Equal
Posted on 2/10/2019
I have an introverted, sensitive (gentle and kind) four-year-old son and an extroverted, physically rambunctious two-year-old son. The two year old is physically aggressive (biting and hitting)...
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