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11 yro having trouble following directions

Posted 1 week ago

The private school my children attend requires the use of tablets instead of books. My son has had trouble using it properly. It was stripped of all access to games and online media; however, he...

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Teens and Supplements

Posted 1 week ago

I am really enjoying John's book, Teen Proofing! Thanks, John! We have a brand new 12-year-old boy who has switched over from being kind, thoughtful, and sweet to being disrespectful,...

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9 yo Chart Questions

Posted 3 weeks ago

I'm planning to use a weekly chart with my 9yo son. One of the target behaviors is "Refusing to do what your parents tell you to". So if I ask him to empty the dishwasher and he says he doesn't...

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Appropriate Chores for Preschooler

Posted on 1/5/2018

What chores are appropriate for a four-year-old to start doing on a regular basis?

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4 yo with Imaginary Friend

Posted on 12/27/2017

My four year old daughter, in the last year, has a habit of not taking responsibility for actions. Instead she makes up a story about the event. Recently, she made up an "bad twin" named Maya (not...

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Follow up about Disobedient 5 y/o

Posted on 11/13/2017

I am referring to my previous question about a 5 years old student in my preschool. The boy is not my son. I don't think that he has ADHD or Autism. When I spoke to the mother, she told me that...

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Create Daily Reports with Meaningful Consequences

Posted on 11/7/2017

My 10-year-old son, who is in fifth grade, is having some trouble at school. At this parent-teacher conference, his teacher expressed he is too talkative, rushing his work, and has poor...

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Shift Your Focus

Posted on 10/23/2017

I need some guidance with my two youngest children. I am a stay at home mother of four children. I currently have two in full time elementary school and two at home. The kids at home are 4 and...

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6 yr old girl needs to do better on chores

Posted on 10/20/2017

My 6 year old has school all day from 8:30-3:00pm, homework, piano practices and chores. She complains the most about her chores (she tidies up her room, unpacks and washes her lunch boxes) after...

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Lower the Boom on 18 year old son

Posted on 10/1/2017

My son has just turned 18 and is a senior in high school. He had his first job this summer doing construction work with some people we know. He did well getting up early and they said that he...

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Excessive Complaints from Teenage Girl

Posted on 9/15/2017

Hi. My question is about my thirteen year old daughter and her constant complaining whenever shes asked to do something that she doesn't want to do. She will get all.emmotional and complain and...

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Six year old girl needs to play!

Posted on 8/23/2017

I am having trouble balancing my 6 year old's responsibilities at home. She started school this year (prep) - the year before grade 1. She's at school from 8:30am - 3pm. By the time we arrive...

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Testing 1, 2, 3!

Posted on 8/23/2017

What do you do when a 2 (almost 3 year old) doesn't listen? I try to only give directions once and then I try to act on it. If it's something like putting his shoes on I simply put them on him...

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Questions about the Ticket System

Posted on 8/21/2017

A couple of months ago, we started the ticket system on our 5 year old son. It has worked relatively well. There are 2 target behaviors: whining and not listening when he is asked to do...

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16 Year Old Daughter's Continued Rebellion

Posted on 8/6/2017

I wrote a few months ago about my daughter who I caught drinking. It turns out that it wasn't a blip on the radar with her. Given her behavior of late (defensive, sneaky), I tracked her location...

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15-year-old doesn't like being "un-hinged!"

Posted on 8/4/2017

We have an adopted son, almost 16 yo, who has been with us for 2 1/2 years. He spent most of his earlier life in an over-crowded orphanage, with very little male influence and little supervision....

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Appropriate After School Schedule

Posted on 7/29/2017

What is an appropriate afterschool game plan for a 1st grader and 3rd grader? Can you give me some advice on how to handle homework, chores, and bedtime for this age? What type of expectations...

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Time for a parent coach.

Posted on 6/13/2017

Our daughter who is 4.5 is very strong willed and I feel at my wits end knowing how to deal with her. Often I am in tears when my husband comes home in the evening. Recently, i decided I'd had...

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Teenagers, Technology and Life

Posted on 6/13/2017

With the deluge of technology in children's lives today, once the children reach their teens, including late teens, what would you consider to be fair usage rules in the home for both computers...

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Replace conversation with action.

Posted on 6/7/2017

Hi, my question is about my 13 year old daughter. I am unsure how to discipline and respond to certain types of little acts of disobedience. For example, she knows not to get her one-year-old...

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9 year old has tantrums & hits and bites the teacher

Posted on 5/15/2017

9 year old is second of 4 children all of which are very intelligent. This 9 year old started throwing temper tantrums at home and school in Kindergarten. He was put in IEP because of behavior...

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6 year old constantly forgets to do routine responsibilities

Posted on 5/14/2017

HI there, I need advice regarding my almost 6 year old. I am having issues with not doing the everything little things that she already knows to do i.e. please take your clothes out of the...

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15 yo Slacker

Posted on 5/1/2017

My son (15) will be 16 in August; I'm a single mom he has 2 other brothers, 8,13; I juggle extracurricular activities for the 2 (15 & 12) with others peoples help; acquaintances, friends helping...

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9 yo boy needs boom lowered

Posted on 4/13/2017

My youngest son is 9 years old. He has an older brother who is 11 years old. My 9 year has always had a temper/anger problem when things don't go his way. He reacts by having a tantrum. He has...

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16 yo Wants Hormone Therapy to Change Sex

Posted on 3/22/2017

What is your take on transgender teenagers who want to undergo hormone therapy. Beautiful 16 year old, highly intelligent girl wants to take testosterone to become a boy before going to college...

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7 year old Slacker

Posted on 3/13/2017

I have a 7 yr old son. He will do anything to get out of work. He has fallen asleep in the Kitchen while everyone went to bed because he didn't want to sweep and mop the kitchen floor (which is...

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Troubled Young Teen?

Posted on 2/5/2017

This question is in reference to the October 2016 question regarding my 13 year old's act of vandalism. Fast forward 8 months later. He has completed his punishment, but not without having to...

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Don't Ask, Do Tell!

Posted on 1/29/2017

I have a 13 year old who has always been defiant. She is bright, and a fantastic kid, but when she is asked to do something she doesn't wan, the fight is on. She will not do what I ask, or will...

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Teaching Teen Money Management

Posted on 1/12/2017

Our teenaged daughter is a hard worker and is great about saving her money. But she is about to blow it all on an exorbitantly priced prom dress to the tune of $500. As parents we feel it is our...

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Tackling Minor Issues

Posted on 12/31/2016

My wife and I are discussing smaller issues in our household that we want to train our children in. Examples of these issues are leaving lights on when leaving a room, shutting door during rest...

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Distraught dad of tweens

Posted on 12/30/2016

Please help - i am the father of a 12 year old girl and a 10 year old boy. They are both spoilt brats who only care about their enjoyment. 1)They are very rude and dont listen. 2)They dont...

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19 yo Telling Parents Off

Posted on 12/20/2016

Same daughter - More issues. This is related to the daughter that I have asked about in previous posts. She continues to be distant in her relationship. She will never return a "I love you" and...

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Angst update

Posted on 12/18/2016

Teenage girl and her angst I spoke to her later that day and let her know that I would be going to her game. The, "I am done listening to you" continues. I agree with the alarm. she has...

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Teenage girl and her angst

Posted on 12/9/2016

I have a 16 yr old daughter, who tells me, when I start to give her information about something in general," I don't want to listen to you." She gets up, walks to her room closes the door." This...

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Parenting Adult Children, Follow Up

Posted on 12/1/2016

To follow up on my last question (Parenting Adult Children). When my son admitted he started smoking cigarettes about 2 months ago and says he does not do it very often, my husband told him he...

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Three year old won't cooperate

Posted on 10/31/2016

My daughter is 3 years old; she will turn 4 in January 2017. Every morning she throws an all out fit about getting dressed and putting on her socks and shoes. We pick her clothes out the night...

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Forgetfulness or defiance.

Posted on 10/26/2016

HI there, I have a question regarding my very imaginative 5 year old who is sometimes very much in her head that she doesn't hear certain instructions. We have taken care of the defiance issue for...

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5 y/o son "hates" soccer

Posted on 10/22/2016

My husband enrolled our just-turned 5 year old son in fall soccer. I know John's stance on organized sports, but husband really wanted to do this. Anyway, as it turns out, son hates it. I am...

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12-yo Rude, Lazy, Disrespectful

Posted on 10/6/2016

12yr old son-7th grade-Goes to Christian school-Last week got detention for disrupting class,this week got another detention for talking back to teacher-he's VERY lazy with homework (barely...

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Too Late

Posted on 10/5/2016

Our daughter recently graduated from college and did well and has a good paying job. She lives with us ( 1.5 months now) but is actively looking for her own place closer to work. She has never...

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Husband and Wife Disagree on Allowance Tied to Chores

Posted on 9/7/2016

My husband and I cannot seem to agree on an issue concerning our children. It involves not tying their allowance to their chores. I have read numerous articles of Rosemond's articles/books that...

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Passive-Aggressive Teen

Posted on 8/17/2016

How do we deal with passive aggressive behavior in an older teen? She will verbally comply with a request but then not follow through like "bring the trash down when you head downstairs," or "come...

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15 Year Old More Focused on Self Than Family

Posted on 8/15/2016

My question-Should I hold off on the talent nurturing (train up a child the way), I think I need to do one activity per child. Encouraging talent in my teen 15 years 2morrw 08/16/2016 (he loves...

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Completing chores can be difficult....

Posted on 7/26/2016

We are having a very difficult time with a certain 7 year old young lady who has been getting very sulky, cranky, and whiny about her chores. These are chores that generally take about 15 min...

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Posted on 6/8/2016

My son (4.5 years old) is on behavior tickets. On of his behaviors is "refusing to do what you are told". He does fairly well EXCEPT... I feel like he frequently takes too long to comply...

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Autistic child and chores.

Posted on 6/8/2016

My son 9 yo who has autism shows big tantrum when I ask him to do the recycling. It's hard for him to break down the boxes. He says it's not fair that he has to do it. I tell him that it is his...

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Tween has Violent Outbursts

Posted on 6/3/2016

I am single mom. My 11 year-old son gets very angry about situations with his friends that he can't control and instead of working things out with his peers tries to shove me around and destroy...

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6 yo Not Practicing Violin

Posted on 5/24/2016

My six year old daughter does not play her violin during her practice time. Her teacher made her a stack of flashcards with different songs and exercises for her to work through. My daughter...

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13 yo Boredom

Posted on 4/2/2016

We have a very bored 13 year old on our hands. It is now the school holidays and he is bored, bored,bored. It is not the boredom itself that we are worried about. It is the fact that he shows no...

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teen boys leave out wet towels

Posted on 3/14/2016

Hang up your towel....for crying out loud! Seriously--I can't be the only parent at my wits end about kids not hanging up a towel after bathing/drying off. I know this isn't HUGE as far as...

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