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Where's That Wonderful Daughter?

Posted 4 days ago

My 8-year-old daughter has been a wonderful child until about a month ago. She’s lying a lot, not doing what we ask her to do, and she talks back. I have asked her what is wrong, and she tells me...

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16 year old lacks motivation

Posted 1 week ago

My son has become increasingly argumentative and disrespectful. He only seems to care about material things. He is now 16 years old and he is working with a job coach to help him with getting a...

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The Headless Choresmen

Posted 1 week ago

Having completed "Parenting by the Book" , I sadly realize I have done my children no favors by doing so much for them. They are now 7 and 11 and need to be reminded to do every little thing. We...

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11 year old not paying attention to parents

Posted 1 week ago

I just reviewed a questions from another subscriber using a ticket system with a 7 year old to nip multiple behaviors in the bud. In the answer I read "You cannot disciple or discipline a child...

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School Age Attention Seeker

Posted on 11/5/2018

I have a 10 yo who says she is good at nothing, not intelligent, not good at school. She is not putting effort in nothing she is doing. She doesn't want to do her homeworks and doesn't care if...

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GrandmaMa held hostage by the 4 year old

Posted on 10/18/2018

I am back peddling to hopefully resolve a problem I most Ilkely created! Just for transparency!,,,,,,,,, I am raising a 4.5 yr old Grandson. Due to circumstances far beyond our control...we...

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Don't Play Dumb With Me

Posted on 10/9/2018

My son is 8 years old and is having behavioral problems. One of his issues is playing dumb. He always acts like he doesn't know what he's supposed to be doing and is always leaving his belongings...

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Growing an Independent Three Year Old

Posted on 10/6/2018

Hello! Our daughter is three and a half years old, and we have noticed that she plays very little independently. When I start cooking, she wants to sit on the counter and help; when I do...

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Getting a 4 and 6 yr old help get ready for school bus

Posted on 9/24/2018

This year my 4 year old has joined my 6 year old in the morning school routine, as she is in 4K and the other in 1st grade. They take the bus to school together and they have a list of things to...

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Routine Chart for Toddler

Posted on 9/5/2018

Routine daily tasks are a struggle with my 23 month old. Brushing teeth, putting her hair up, taking it down, scrubbing in the bath, washing her hair, and when I have to do them all at bedtime...

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working parents with a 3 yro

Posted on 8/14/2018

Our girl will be 3 beginning of November. She is going to Montessori School 5 days a week from 9am till 5:30pm. We are dance teachers, we teach adults at our own Argentine Tango Studio, so most...

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Lights out! on Agonizing, Nagging & Hovering

Posted on 8/13/2018

After reading one of John's books recently, it's been like a light bulb coming on for me. A very bright, harsh light bulb... There are so many ways I have been failing. I've been implementing...

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Unmotivated Teenage Boy

Posted on 8/12/2018

My teenage son is not interested in engaging in anything that requires effort. He gives up on everything he tries after just one attempt and after much coaxing and prodding, refuses to try again....

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Clingy Daughter

Posted on 8/9/2018

Hello, Our 2-year-old daughter is getting more clingy than before-she used to be so already- following me from room to room. She even doesn’t only want to play by my side, but also wants to sit...

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Three year old adapting to changes

Posted on 7/25/2018

Our daughter turned 3 in May and it was around that time that we became aware of John Rosemond's books. We learnt that we were not authoritative in our parenting style nor did we use alpha speech,...

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9 year old boy needs mom to say it one time!

Posted on 6/21/2018

I sure appreciated the response from Katherine Saltzberg (Leadership is Always Plan A) to my question. Can Katherine or someone else please read my initial question and then expand on her comment...

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Husband files for divorce after wife takes a stand with teens.

Posted on 6/1/2018

Dear John Rosemond, I wrote in a while ago on putting the marriage first. I was never able to get my husband on board which indeed caused a great deal of strife in our family, especially with...

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How to Start Chores

Posted on 5/25/2018

My children are 3, 5, and 7 years old and until now I have done everything around the house - chores, cleaning, laundry, you name it. Why?? Because I stay at home and thought it was my job to make...

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Obedience over Exasperation

Posted on 5/18/2018

Hello! We are currently working on one misbehavior of 6 years old son. He comes home from school and would not do what he has to do- wash hands, change cloth, do homework, eat and after do...

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Chore In-completion

Posted on 5/7/2018

Our son will not complete any chore he asked to do. He will start a chore, (cleaning fish tanks and cleaning horse stalls) after being told many times but he doesn't complete it thoroughly after...

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Pre-teen demonstrates dishonesty and disobedience

Posted on 4/26/2018

Your response to my 4/18 statement is incorrect: “I see that you have asked one question in the forum, and that has been answered, so if you've asked other questions, we don't have a record of...

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Preparing for College

Posted on 4/11/2018

How can I prepare my son for college? I'm trying to pass more responsibility to him to help encourage him to become more independant and self sufficient.

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Emancipation Proclamation

Posted on 3/18/2018

My 22 year old son graduated recently with excellent grades and a degree in computer science. He’s moved home but shows no signs of wanting to find a job. He’s never had a job except for cutting...

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5th Grader Must Respond

Posted on 3/10/2018

How do I get my son to take responsibility for his actions, his chores and his homework? I have tried everything from reverse psychology to taking privileges away from him and nothing seems to...

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8yro not finishing school work

Posted on 3/7/2018

My 8 year old son doesn't use his time wisely at school to get his papers done. So when most of the other kids never have homework, my son does quite often. I'm preparing to start a weekly chart...

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Two out of Three

Posted on 3/5/2018

My 9+ year old talks back to teachers and classmates, calls other students names, won't follow directions of teachers and refuses to do what he's been told (one teacher captured it perfectly...

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Clean Up Blues

Posted on 2/27/2018

My 4.5 year old son loves to build and create things, but he loathes deconstructing any of his treasured creations. Train tracks and Lincoln Logs can keep him occupied creatively for a long time,...

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11 yro having trouble following directions

Posted on 2/16/2018

The private school my children attend requires the use of tablets instead of books. My son has had trouble using it properly. It was stripped of all access to games and online media; however, he...

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Teens and Supplements

Posted on 2/15/2018

I am really enjoying John's book, Teen Proofing! Thanks, John! We have a brand new 12-year-old boy who has switched over from being kind, thoughtful, and sweet to being disrespectful,...

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9 yo Chart Questions

Posted on 2/3/2018

I'm planning to use a weekly chart with my 9yo son. One of the target behaviors is "Refusing to do what your parents tell you to". So if I ask him to empty the dishwasher and he says he doesn't...

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Appropriate Chores for Preschooler

Posted on 1/5/2018

What chores are appropriate for a four-year-old to start doing on a regular basis?

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4 yo with Imaginary Friend

Posted on 12/27/2017

My four year old daughter, in the last year, has a habit of not taking responsibility for actions. Instead she makes up a story about the event. Recently, she made up an "bad twin" named Maya (not...

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Follow up about Disobedient 5 y/o

Posted on 11/13/2017

I am referring to my previous question about a 5 years old student in my preschool. The boy is not my son. I don't think that he has ADHD or Autism. When I spoke to the mother, she told me that...

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Create Daily Reports with Meaningful Consequences

Posted on 11/7/2017

My 10-year-old son, who is in fifth grade, is having some trouble at school. At this parent-teacher conference, his teacher expressed he is too talkative, rushing his work, and has poor...

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Shift Your Focus

Posted on 10/23/2017

I need some guidance with my two youngest children. I am a stay at home mother of four children. I currently have two in full time elementary school and two at home. The kids at home are 4 and...

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6 yr old girl needs to do better on chores

Posted on 10/20/2017

My 6 year old has school all day from 8:30-3:00pm, homework, piano practices and chores. She complains the most about her chores (she tidies up her room, unpacks and washes her lunch boxes) after...

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Lower the Boom on 18 year old son

Posted on 10/1/2017

My son has just turned 18 and is a senior in high school. He had his first job this summer doing construction work with some people we know. He did well getting up early and they said that he...

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Excessive Complaints from Teenage Girl

Posted on 9/15/2017

Hi. My question is about my thirteen year old daughter and her constant complaining whenever shes asked to do something that she doesn't want to do. She will get all.emmotional and complain and...

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Six year old girl needs to play!

Posted on 8/23/2017

I am having trouble balancing my 6 year old's responsibilities at home. She started school this year (prep) - the year before grade 1. She's at school from 8:30am - 3pm. By the time we arrive...

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Testing 1, 2, 3!

Posted on 8/23/2017

What do you do when a 2 (almost 3 year old) doesn't listen? I try to only give directions once and then I try to act on it. If it's something like putting his shoes on I simply put them on him...

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Questions about the Ticket System

Posted on 8/21/2017

A couple of months ago, we started the ticket system on our 5 year old son. It has worked relatively well. There are 2 target behaviors: whining and not listening when he is asked to do...

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16 Year Old Daughter's Continued Rebellion

Posted on 8/6/2017

I wrote a few months ago about my daughter who I caught drinking. It turns out that it wasn't a blip on the radar with her. Given her behavior of late (defensive, sneaky), I tracked her location...

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15-year-old doesn't like being "un-hinged!"

Posted on 8/4/2017

We have an adopted son, almost 16 yo, who has been with us for 2 1/2 years. He spent most of his earlier life in an over-crowded orphanage, with very little male influence and little supervision....

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Appropriate After School Schedule

Posted on 7/29/2017

What is an appropriate afterschool game plan for a 1st grader and 3rd grader? Can you give me some advice on how to handle homework, chores, and bedtime for this age? What type of expectations...

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Time for a parent coach.

Posted on 6/13/2017

Our daughter who is 4.5 is very strong willed and I feel at my wits end knowing how to deal with her. Often I am in tears when my husband comes home in the evening. Recently, i decided I'd had...

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Teenagers, Technology and Life

Posted on 6/13/2017

With the deluge of technology in children's lives today, once the children reach their teens, including late teens, what would you consider to be fair usage rules in the home for both computers...

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Replace conversation with action.

Posted on 6/7/2017

Hi, my question is about my 13 year old daughter. I am unsure how to discipline and respond to certain types of little acts of disobedience. For example, she knows not to get her one-year-old...

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9 year old has tantrums & hits and bites the teacher

Posted on 5/15/2017

9 year old is second of 4 children all of which are very intelligent. This 9 year old started throwing temper tantrums at home and school in Kindergarten. He was put in IEP because of behavior...

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6 year old constantly forgets to do routine responsibilities

Posted on 5/14/2017

HI there, I need advice regarding my almost 6 year old. I am having issues with not doing the everything little things that she already knows to do i.e. please take your clothes out of the...

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15 yo Slacker

Posted on 5/1/2017

My son (15) will be 16 in August; I'm a single mom he has 2 other brothers, 8,13; I juggle extracurricular activities for the 2 (15 & 12) with others peoples help; acquaintances, friends helping...

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