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5 YO's Low Tolerance for Frustration is Frustrating Mom
Posted 3 weeks ago
Our 5 year old son has little control over his emotions. A year ago it was mainly struggling with perfectionism and crying about not doing something the “right” way, lately it’s a big outburst...
Read MoreCall the "Doctor" for Damsel in Distress
Posted on 7/7/2024
Our 7 yo daughter will act like a damsel in distress—getting fake hurt or acting like she can’t do something. My husband and I ignore it, or nonchalantly guide her to her room to ‘rest’. It has...
Read MoreIt's Always Something
Posted on 6/21/2024
Good day. My son (7.5) has come a long way on many behavioral issues. One infuriating thing we are still having trouble with is his tendency to break things. I get the impulse to "test"...
Read MoreNever spar with a picky eater.
Posted on 5/4/2024
My daughter (3 yrs.) has become a picky eater. Before she would occasionally be picky but most of the time did pretty decent with what we gave her. But she has recently been a very picky eater. I...
Read MoreShould My Teen Miss Prom?
Posted on 4/9/2024
What is your advice regarding grounding teenagers such that they miss major milestone events or rites of passage? I would greatly like to avoid punishments such as missing prom or graduation;...
Read MoreMicro Mom-Ager Neighbor
Posted on 3/30/2024
We live on a street where there are a lot of kids. My boys, 9 and 11 years old, are outside all the time playing and my house tends to be the place where all the kids play. If my kids or other...
Read MoreNot Listening the First Time
Posted on 3/20/2024
We believe in the necessity of our children obeying the first time they are told-without challenge, delay or excuse. However, we also wish to walk the tightrope of a loving, nourishing home,...
Read MoreHelp for HIgh Self-esteem Seizures
Posted on 1/24/2024
Six-year-old daughter has been kicked out of the garden twice for nighttime issues: screaming, throwing things, manipulating us to try to sleep with her or give her x,y,z. She was “kicked out” at...
Read MoreHow to use charts/tickets with 3 kids
Posted on 1/13/2024
How to decide to use chart or ticket system for 3 kids? 11 y/o and 9 y/o sons would have same misbehaviors #1 Do things 1st time asked #2 Clean up after yourself #3 Aggravating sibling (Sibling...
Read MoreTime for a Visit From the Doctor
Posted on 12/29/2023
I'm at a loss for direction. I tried lumping my kids together with a chart just to find how different they are. My 4 y/o loves to relentlessly antagonize my 5 y/o whiner, and my 7 y/o loves to...
Read MoreHow much to expect from toddlers
Posted on 12/5/2023
How do I know where to draw the line between what to expect for proper behavior and what is too advanced for the kids (girl 2.5 and boy 1.5) to learn? My husband and I have high standards of what...
Read MoreTickets. I’ve got your tickets!
Posted on 11/4/2023
Hello - we have been using some form of the ticketing system with our 5 year old daughter for about a year now. It doesn’t seem like we have made much progress. She is still consistently...
Read MoreTroubled Teen/Perplexed Parents
Posted on 10/30/2023
Hello, We have a problem dealing with our 15 yr old son's violent behavior when we take his phone or he gets grounded. He has been caught taking his older brother's car late at night (without...
Read MoreAn Inconvenient Phobia
Posted on 10/27/2023
Our oldest daughter just turned six. She’s always had a hard time at the doctor & dentist. At almost 3, she was put under to put caps on her front teeth, and when one of them developed an abscess...
Read More9 YEAR OLD PRACTICING TO BECOME A CLOWN
Posted on 10/18/2023
My 9 year old son is in 4th grade. He has always been good with others but a strong-willed challenger at home. My husband and I always felt that that meant we were doing our job, with good reports...
Read More1st Grade Son Prefers Silly Play
Posted on 10/8/2023
My 1st grade son who has always preferred oral "silly" play including making rasberry sounds, whistling, and staccato outbursts of word like but unintelligible syllables, and exaggerated laughter,...
Read More2YO's Fascination with Fido's Bowl
Posted on 9/11/2023
My son is 2 weeks away from turning 2. He plays in the dog bowl of food and water multiple times a day. We have told him not to and have calmly put him in timeout but he’s not seeming to get it or...
Read MoreTesting 1 2 3
Posted on 8/17/2023
My children (2 and 1) are very used to having their grandparents around all the time since we currently live together while we try to find a house. My parents are away for about 10 days and the...
Read MoreMom and 2yo girl in Great Transition
Posted on 7/15/2023
How do I transition my daughter (2 yr) to the next season? Right now we are in the first season, I think John calls it the season of servitude or something like that. But I know she has to take...
Read MoreNot Always Smooth Sailing for 2 and 4YO
Posted on 7/13/2023
I am trying to determine age-appropriate behavioral expectations for a 4.5 year old. He is obedient and does small chores. He knows there are behaviors completely unacceptable (hitting, throwing...
Read MoreBook Etiquette and Two Year Olds
Posted on 6/27/2023
My daughter (2) has done pretty well in being gentle with books. But recently she has started tearing pages and biting books. It doesn’t matter if they are normal books or board books, she is hard...
Read More2 yo girl bullies little brother
Posted on 6/27/2023
My daughter (2) has been biting her brother (1). It’s not just a nibble. It’s a hard chomp that leaves him sobbing and with teeth marks on his arm or wherever she bit him. She also pushes him,...
Read More15 YO THINKS HE HAS IT ALL FIGURED OUT...FANCY THAT!
Posted on 6/26/2023
15 yr old is adamant his 13 yr old brother is a liar and will bring it up every chance he gets. 13 yr old was packing for a camp last week and told me he still needed swim trunks. I thought...
Read MoreWarts and All
Posted on 6/2/2023
My 6 year old son has some warts on his hands. He pitched a fit at the pediatric dermatologist today while getting his warts frozen off. He began screaming before the procedure even began. The...
Read MoreDiscipline at home for behavior at school
Posted on 4/19/2023
We have already raised our 4 daughters, the youngest is 24. We are currently, for some incredible reasons, in our third month of fostering to adopt a young child. Things at home are slowly...
Read MoreBeFuddled Father Facing Four Females
Posted on 4/10/2023
Hello, I know you don't know the history at all with my step-daughters. However, we gave out Easter candy to our 3 daughters (2 step-daughter and one is my own). The 16 year old step-daughter...
Read MoreMaking Tickets Work
Posted on 3/2/2023
Hello - My wife and I have loved "The Well-Behaved Child". We implemented the ticketing for a 4 year old daughter and have noticed some improvements but there is more work to do. The consistent...
Read More4 year old crying episodes
Posted on 1/11/2023
My grandson is 4 to be 5 in May of this year 2023. He is in a pre K public school and has been since September of 2022. He has been , we think, behind in his personal growth. During the birth he...
Read MorePuppy challenge
Posted on 1/9/2023
We got a puppy in July, and while the dog is great I’m not able to get my kids to stay off of him, mainly my son (6yrs). He seems to think he is a stuffed animal or a toy and plays way too rough....
Read MoreSilly boy, listening is for kids
Posted on 11/13/2022
Our 4 year old was a pretty good listener right up to when he turned 4. We've weathered some big tantrums, which seem to mostly be in decline (frequency & length). Now, he has started to just "be...
Read MoreLet's talk about sex
Posted on 11/9/2022
My 14 yr old daughter has been talking/FaceTiming with a 14 yr old boy from school and it has been sweet and innocent until this last week. They have been asking each other questions about sex. To...
Read Morechildminder refuses to watch 9 yo boy
Posted on 10/24/2022
What is a good consequence when you pay for your 9 year old to go to holiday clubs and childminder so you can work but they misbehave and complain so much they don’t want to be there that staff...
Read More10 Year Old with Violent Fits, Divorced Parents and "trifecta of diagnoses"
Posted on 10/13/2022
My 10 year old son has the adoptive trifecta of diagnoses: "on the autism spectrum", oppositional defiant disorder, and ADHD. Sometimes he has violent fits - although now they're down to 1 or 2...
Read MoreNeed more banger Info please!
Posted on 9/14/2022
We read the Q&A on "10 month boy bangs head" which is exactly what our son does except he's now 18 months old and has been doing it for so long he literally has a unicorn bump growing on his head....
Read More7 year old and The Ticket to Controlling Their Own Behavior
Posted on 8/25/2022
My 7 yr. old daugher is the youngest of (2) kids, and her anger at home has a short fuse. Every time our 9 yr. old son engages her (as siblings do), she explodes and starts hitting and screaming...
Read MoreSometimes all you need is a hug and a dutch door.
Posted on 8/13/2022
When my 4 year old son loses all his privileges for the day, we cannot get him to stay in his room. What is something we can try? We calmly put him back in his room each time he runs out, but it...
Read MoreEnforcement is difficult.
Posted on 8/11/2022
My son is 12 years old and has been confined to his bedroom for the past month and a half for getting F’s in school. My husband thought he was acting suspicious so he peeked in his window and...
Read MoreGet Creative
Posted on 7/24/2022
Greetings! Our usually cheerful and happy 4yo daughter does not seem to react normally to punishment. At first she gets upset and cries, but very shortly into a time out or being sent to her room...
Read MoreStop Complaining!
Posted on 7/12/2022
I have a boy who just turned 8. We eat dinner and shortly after he complains he’s hungry (I fix good, homemade balanced meals). When I fix dinner, he complains he doesn’t like what we’re having....
Read MoreNatural Consequences Are EffectiveTeachers
Posted on 7/9/2022
My 9 year old boy frequently acts like a baby and very odd in a socially unacceptable way like a feral child. When leaving his friends he will say “bye friends” in a silly voice. He also was...
Read More6 YO PEEING HER PANTS
Posted on 7/8/2022
Our 6yr Girl has has recently started peeing her pants because she refuses to stop playing and use the restroom. She has admitted that she is just being "lazy" and thought she could hold it. ...
Read More9 year old's Frequent Night Time Urinating Best Evaluated by Pediatrician
Posted on 6/26/2022
My 9-year-old frequently gets out of bed to go to the toilet at night. I don’t mind but our house is laid out that he has to leave his bedroom, come down the stairs, past our living room, dining...
Read MoreTween in need of self respect
Posted on 6/26/2022
Hi there, I have an 11 year old who is a pretty good tween most of the time - independently does her homework, and is helpful around the house, respectful with teachers and peers. However with...
Read More3-Year-Old in Hyper Mode
Posted on 6/22/2022
My 3.5 year old will get hyper and annoying when he is overtired or overexcited. When he’s in a “hyper mode”, he’s running around, trying to roughhouse, jumping into people, being loud and...
Read MoreLazy Bones needs to Play
Posted on 6/21/2022
I have a twelve year old son. My concern is that he is incredibly lazy. He has no ambition to do anything. He finishes what we require of him and takes up his spot on the couch. Sometimes he reads...
Read MoreSwimming Upstream
Posted on 6/2/2022
My 3.5 year old is a bit timid when it comes to physical things. For example, he won’t go down a slide, but then when I just shove him down it he has fun. My problem is swimming. Now I have an 8...
Read MoreDon't Overthink Autism Diagnosis
Posted on 5/22/2022
My 2.5-year-old daughter has a working diagnosis of autism. I’m finding it incredibly difficult to get my head around it. I do not want to sound unsympathetic, but how did this happen? Why are so...
Read MoreTime for a Reboot
Posted on 5/18/2022
Since the first email our son (8yrs) was operated on for septic arthritis 6 months ago. The pain returned 2weeks ago (now gone). His hip bone has a small weakness and he needs to ensure he has no...
Read More7-Year-Old's Annoying Antics
Posted on 4/27/2022
My daughter (almost 7) is becoming unbearable. She constantly makes an annoying voice and noises JUST with me (but will control it after spending a lot of time in her room and having privileges...
Read MoreNo Response is a Response: Let Them Be Silly
Posted on 4/21/2022
How do we teach our children to stop the constant silly talk/noises? One child is diagnosed with ADHD, autism, etc. I've set up a rule that the first 30 minutes after wakeup and the last 30...
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