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Adopted 5 yo's Past Trauma

Posted 1 week ago

Dr. Rosemond, My friend adopted a child 5 years ago from another country. She has been told by psychologists that he has Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and PTSD from the trauma he experienced...

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Sticky Fingers

Posted 1 week ago

Our 5 year old has been having a problem with thinking he can take things that belong to others in the house. Recently we found a pack of gum that we do not remember purchasing. We are pretty...

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Time for a coach.

Posted 1 month, 1 day ago

Dear John, our 7 yr old son has been masturbating since he was 2. In the beginning we told him he was only allowed to do that in his room, but then he started doing it in front of anyone including...

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Posted on 2/15/2018

When is the best time to transition my 2 year old from his crib to a bed? I’ve read that some parents let their children play in their rooms ... what is the balance between too much playing and...

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Posted on 1/22/2018

My one year old has a new love for pinching. She looks me square in the eyes, pinches me, and grunts. Then she waits for a response. I’ve tried time out with pillow in between us calmly telling...

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Dismissed from kindergarten

Posted on 1/22/2018

My six year old son is being expelled from his Catholic kindergarten. He says another child told him to ask a girl if a grown up ever touched her privates. She went home told her mother. He was...

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3 YO Refuses to Take Medicine

Posted on 1/19/2018

I have a 3yr 10mos grand daughter who has an infection but refuses to take her medicine. I've mixed it with ice cream to no avail. Any sage advise? SF Doug

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Expelled from K5?

Posted on 1/17/2018

My now six year old son is again suspended from kindergarten. This time for saying bathroom words in class thinking it was funny.. They were not amused. We are waiting to see if he will be...

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Pre-Schooler Stuck in Season 1

Posted on 1/1/2018

Hi there, i have a little 3.5 year old who is completely out of control. I admit we have let him run the house a little bit as he is a little spitfire and makes things unpleasant(ie screams as...

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3 YO "Catching" Whining Bug from 2 YO

Posted on 12/31/2017

My 2 year old boy has really developed a whiny attitude. I know this is normal for a 2 year old based on what I've read in Rosemonds book about the transition from 2 to 3 but it has also started...

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At What Age to Sit in the Pews?

Posted on 12/25/2017

Hi there, my 27 month old is quiet during mass. We don’t sit in the pews, but instead set up a corner in the back of the church where he can color, play with his trains, etc. We sit on the floor...

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Create Daily Reports with Meaningful Consequences

Posted on 11/7/2017

My 10-year-old son, who is in fifth grade, is having some trouble at school. At this parent-teacher conference, his teacher expressed he is too talkative, rushing his work, and has poor...

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Bedtime Horseplay

Posted on 10/4/2017

I have twin 9 year olds and a 6 year old girl that share a bed room. A few years ago when the 6 year old had her own room she pretty much went to bed as told with the exception of getting up a few...

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11 yr old lost all her blocks on chart!!!

Posted on 10/1/2017

My wife and I have an 11 year old and 9 year old daughter. We kicked our 9 year old out of the garden several weeks ago for school and home behavior issues. Our 11 year was put on weekly charts...

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What to Do About Screaming?

Posted on 9/4/2017

I have a 7 year old daughter who goes from 0-10 and screams loudly over tiny little things, and everyone rushes to her rescue (except us) when something happens. For instance, if she stubs her...

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Should Mom address home behavior or Math grade first?

Posted on 9/2/2017

Our 11 yr old daughter (6th grade) has some small/medium behaviors at home we would like to get under control with a Weekly Chart, but also is having trouble in Math at school (C)...other subjects...

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No More Lies

Posted on 8/28/2017

Hello Again, While I appreciate the quick reply to my last question, it didn't address the primary question in the post. The issue wasn't eating in the cafeteria. That was a result of the...

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8 yr old not fair sis gets everything/sad

Posted on 8/22/2017

My 8 year old grandson is often a gregarious, fun loving child who loves sports. My son and daugher-in-law, who both work full time, have provided a fairly structured home life with routines for...

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Toddler training

Posted on 8/6/2017

My husband and I are looking for advice on how to discipline our 16 month old. He is a very energetic toddler, running around and getting into everything he can. We have a baby gate up to stop him...

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Terrible Transition to Three

Posted on 8/3/2017

My 3 year old is a bully. She is starting 1st pre-school soon, Picks on 2 year old sister (sleep in same room, in cribs but climbs out) uncontrollable screaming when not going her way, snatches...

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Require respect from college-age daughter

Posted on 7/16/2017

Our college student, who holds down a full time job in the summer and a 20-hour part-time job during the school year when she lives on campus, seems incapable or unwilling to follow through on the...

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Chaos ensues when a 3 year old is in charge.

Posted on 7/10/2017

Hello Dr. Rosemond- I am a mother of two boys- age 1 and 3 (almost 4 on the 19th of July). It is the 4 year old I am writing to you about. I know much of his behavior is typical toddler...

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Posted on 7/6/2017

I have read quiet a bit of John's articles, books and listen to his podcasts. He doesn't talk about whining. Our kids drive us absolutely crazy with whining all day long. They complain...

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9 yo Sensitivity to Clothes and ADHD

Posted on 7/6/2017

My son who is 9yr old has had sensitivity issues for a long time. Tags rubbing on the back of his neck, tight clothing, loose clothing etc drives him crazy. His two other siblings don't...

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A 3 year old with too much control.

Posted on 6/30/2017

Two months ago, I started staying home with my 3.5 year old son. Since then, he has started refusing to poop. This makes the entire family miserable - he's extra difficult, only wants to lie on...

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15 y/o Joy Riding

Posted on 6/4/2017

My 15 year old grandson takes family car out at night without permission, of course. Neighborhood policeman has told him the consequences and his parents have as well. They are beside...

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19 yo Narcissist Revisited

Posted on 5/24/2017

We need more help in dealing with the daughter that I have asked questions about in the past. She is continuing her pattern of bitterness. She made no contact with me on a recent birthday and no...

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Angry Outbursts from a 3-year-old

Posted on 5/21/2017

Every time I tell my 3 1/2 year old to do something (ex: put your cup up on the table more instead of on the edge, don't jump around in the kitchen, etc.) she crosses her arms and grunts. Or she...

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Hard Rocker

Posted on 5/9/2017

Our 5 year old adopted child was born drug addicted, had a trach and gtube for first 4 years of her life. In NICU for first 6 months. To comfort herself she rocks back and forth, slams her back...

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Wild Monkey at Naptime

Posted on 5/1/2017

I try to make a regular one hour quiet time for my 3 year old daughter every afternoon but things usually end negatively. She has, from birth, been a high needs kiddo and playing by herself seems...

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Time to Throw out The "Time-Out"

Posted on 4/27/2017

What approach is best when a 27 month old gets up and giggles when put in a time out chair? I have put him back in, but he keeps laughing.... I'm only putting him in time out for a very short...

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How Much Attention?

Posted on 4/25/2017

Love your radio program and love your philosophy. But I'm concerned about something you said. It is that parents don't have to and shouldn't focus their attention on their child but on each other...

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3 Year Old Mouthing Off

Posted on 4/12/2017

My son who just turned 3 puts everything/anything in his mouth. It's been going on for about a year but it's become an obsession lately. When we're outside it's rocks, sticks, dirt, acorns. Inside...

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A Blustering 3-Year-Old and the Ticket System

Posted on 4/5/2017

We have four children. Our third child is a 3.5 year old boy. He is our most "spirited" child and has the vocabulary of a 6 year old. Our 2 older children (6 & 8) are more reserved. He is so...

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16 yo Wants Hormone Therapy to Change Sex

Posted on 3/22/2017

What is your take on transgender teenagers who want to undergo hormone therapy. Beautiful 16 year old, highly intelligent girl wants to take testosterone to become a boy before going to college...

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7 yo Micromanaging Allergies?

Posted on 3/18/2017

Concerning my previous question, I tried to talk to my husband about removing the toys from my 7 year old's bedroom for acts of violence. But my husband will not allow this and still dismisses my...

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What to do with a busy 8 year old.

Posted on 3/13/2017

My daughter is 8yo. She always move, always interrupt people can't stay sit. When she does homework, it's long, she does't sit, she side track, go and do something else. I have to tell her to...

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Siblings and borrowing.

Posted on 3/12/2017

Our teenaged daughters know they are not to borrow clothes from one another without asking. The college daughter continually violates this, taking things without asking back to her dorm and even...

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5 and 3 1/2 yo boys over the top silly

Posted on 3/8/2017

I have a five year old son and 3 1/2 year old son. I am very familiar with and have read several of Rosemond's books, most recently, The Well Behaved Child. I use the ticket system with both...

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Teen sex.

Posted on 2/7/2017

our 16 year old son has become sexually active with his girlfriend. This began last summer, they broke up for 4 months, but have resumed their relationship this past week. They were both virgins...

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Neglecting hygiene at 11.

Posted on 1/25/2017

We have a particularly disgusting problem happening in our home. Our 11 year old is practicing zero hygiene including: not using soap or shampoo in the shower (just standing under the spray), not...

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Can you change your adult child's destructive behavior?

Posted on 1/23/2017

What is the order of priority to hold adult children (21 age) accountable to who live at home while attending college? We have a 21 year old daughter who was kicked out of college for drugs. ...

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Get Rid of All the Psychiatrists?

Posted on 1/23/2017

John, I listen to your radio shows and believe every word you speak. Is there a possibly your show can include actions we citizens can take to eradicate psychiatry and psychology from American...

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How to Hire a Parent Coach

Posted on 1/20/2017

Hi, My wife and I are thinking of hiring a coach. Is there a place on the website that shows all the coaches or do we simply just fill out the form and wait for someone to contact us?...

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New shoes problems

Posted on 1/9/2017

One of our 9-year-old twins is very particular on how clothing items fit. I took her shoe shopping and she picked out two pairs of shoes: sneakers and church shoes (at the store I asked her to be...

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Different ages playing together

Posted on 1/9/2017

I have a close friend, and our combined 6 kids play together often 1-2x a week at least. Each kid has a partner 2 6 year olds, 1 4 year old (November) 1 3 year old (June bday) two 1 year olds. ...

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11 Year Old Bra Issues

Posted on 1/3/2017

My 11 year old daughter needs to start wearing a bra but is refusing. She has always had sensory issues with clothes, ie socks, tight-fitting clothes such as jeans, shoes even, very particular...

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2 yo Destructive and Attention Seeking

Posted on 1/2/2017

I just brought home a newborn, and my two year old seems to be having trouble adjusting. Before, he would go outside and play on his own. I knew I would need this trend to continue as I would have...

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19 yo Telling Parents Off

Posted on 12/20/2016

Same daughter - More issues. This is related to the daughter that I have asked about in previous posts. She continues to be distant in her relationship. She will never return a "I love you" and...

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