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6 yro has trouble occupying herself

Posted on 3/25/2019

Our 6-year-old daughter does not like to occupy herself. When we ask her to play by herself, she keeps coming from her room asking us to play with her or asking us to be with her. But when she is...

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How to Nip Whining in the Bud

Posted on 3/24/2019

Hello, my 3-year-old whines quite a bit. Most of the times he jumps up and down when asking for something. He whines more when he doesn’t get what he wants, is sick, tired, etc. We tell him we’ll...

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Sibling Conflict and Bizarre Behavior

Posted on 3/20/2019

One day at church, my husband noticed my 11 YO daughter pinching her hand when he stopped our daughters having a silent squabble in the pew. Her younger sister is 16 months younger and often they...

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Mom, Make The Next Play

Posted on 3/12/2019

I am happy to say that the meeting went well and again and my son has agreed to make some changes. He even offered what he could do to make changes. With that being said, the rules he made for...

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In Control without Controlling

Posted on 3/5/2019

We seem to be stuck on screen time issues in our house. Our kids, 11 and 7 are allowed 20 min a day once they have completed all their chores. Markedly less than many children are allowed (as my...

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Meaningful or Logical?

Posted on 3/1/2019

Having a hard time with my 3.5 year old boy and what would be a logical consequence - every morning and after nap time he struggles with getting out of bed reasonably. He usually wails and...

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Youngsters 3.5 and 5.5 yo disturbing the peace

Posted on 2/15/2019

I have three boys, 5.5 and 3.5 years old, and an 8-month-old baby. The older two share a bedroom and are homeschooled. When they are not doing an instructed activity or chore, they disturb the...

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Prepare to lead before leading.

Posted on 2/11/2019

My 11-year-old son tells lies and avoids the truth even when he knows he's been caught, he will argue every point he disagrees with, he will disobey punishment by simply walking away. We do not...

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The Terrible 12's

Posted on 2/7/2019

A few months have passed. This school year seems to have been a big step for my now 12 year old. We have been struggling most of the school year and just got his grades for the second quarter. The...

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7.5 yo girl pulling mom's strings

Posted on 1/29/2019

HI, I've been working on forgetfulness for a while on my 7.5 year old daughter. She is given an instruction, but VERY often either fails to complete it or does an incomplete job of it. This has...

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Multiple Kids, One Room?

Posted on 1/27/2019

OK, I'm going to try again with a different formulation. For decades Dr. Rosemond has been advocating tickets/blocks with isolation in a comparatively stripped down room as the end state for x...

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"Parental Empowerment Conquers Medical Experiments"

Posted on 1/10/2019

My kids are considering putting my grandson 6yrs on medication, for being hyper and not paying attention at school. Do you know what after effects this will bring?

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Doctor Makes House Call for 5 yo

Posted on 12/3/2018

My 5 year old son Dane is currently enrolled in Pre-K at a Catholic elementary school. He loves school once he gets there and has great behavior in the classroom, High praises from his teacher,...

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Trauma Causes Diabetes?

Posted on 11/26/2018

I recently went to a conference that had a trauma counselor speak. A lot of it was psychology. She said psychology used to not be a measurable science, but after new studies it now is. She said...

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Another one ousted from the garden.

Posted on 11/20/2018

We need help kicking our 5 year-old daughter out of the garden. She is a high misbehaver and has been on the ticket system for a long time. Her target behavior has been refusing to do what we tell...

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Out of Control 7yr old

Posted on 10/27/2018

Hi, my husband and I would appreciate some advice on our situation with our 7 year old daughter. Her medication has become ineffective recently and we are at our wits end with what to do with...

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Don't Play Dumb With Me

Posted on 10/9/2018

My son is 8 years old and is having behavioral problems. One of his issues is playing dumb. He always acts like he doesn't know what he's supposed to be doing and is always leaving his belongings...

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How to Spend Time with Spoiled Grandchildren

Posted on 9/13/2018

We have followed you for 39 years!! Congrats! Time for a grandparent question. Our son who is 38 yr old married has 2 children, 3 and 1 yr. He and his wife have decided not to set boundaries...

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Normal Sexual Behaviors for 6 YO

Posted on 9/9/2018

I have seen by 6, almost 7 year old daughter touching herself several times when i have walked in her room. Is this normal for sucha young age?

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11 m, 3.5 and 7yrs Road-trip Remedies

Posted on 9/3/2018

Hello! We have three usually well behaved children who were all raised on the Parenting By the Book philosophy. They sleep in their own beds, do normal age appropriate chores, have normal sibling...

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Overwhelmed Mom wants to take back her authority, but can't stop yelling

Posted on 8/7/2018

My son is extremely defiant and NOTHING we have tried thus far has made a difference. Spanking him has to be done several times over, and is always accompanied by screaming, blaming, back-talk,...

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Scary storyteller at six

Posted on 8/3/2018

Our 6 yo girl we adopted two years ago loves to have a lot of drama in her games: the dolls and other toys tend to be crying, to be in danger (drowning, being kidnapped by a stranger or by a...

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4 yo Won't Play Independently

Posted on 7/1/2018

This is a follow up to my question. Four year old will not play by herself. I absolutely realize I need to tell her instead of encouragen or ask! My hope is to have a little more analytical...

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6 yo Don't Fall for the Drama

Posted on 6/28/2018

When my 6yr old son gets really upset with himself, he has started saying “I hate myself and I wish I was never born.” My son is the middle child of four who is always in trouble. We use the...

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Childproofing at Grandparent's House

Posted on 6/25/2018

When our 18 month old grandchild comes to visit and stay several nights should we have to remove all our accent pieces on tables and throughout the house? Many things are no-nos but I don't know...

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The Terrible Three's

Posted on 6/15/2018

My 33 month old has recently begun yelling all of his responses. He gets frustrated very easily and says, “Stop! Stop it, mommy!” and “Goooosh!” "No!" is his favorite word, and now he yells it....

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6 year Old Fibs

Posted on 6/5/2018

We are concerned about lying in our six year old son. For example, if asked to do something and he doesn't do it, his reply will often be, "I didn't hear you". He likes to tease his little 3...

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Screaming Pre-Preschooler

Posted on 6/5/2018

Our 3 year old tends to scream when things don't go his way. If he is asked to do or not do something that is against his liking it is not unusual to hear one loud scream, and depending on his...

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Run Away 2 Year Old

Posted on 6/5/2018

We have a two year old boy (turned 2 in March) and he is always on the go. So much so that we don't go out to restaurants or a lot of other public places because he just wants to run off. And then...

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Twin won't stop hurling toys

Posted on 5/31/2018

Dear Dr. Rosemond and staff, Thank you for your previous advice on hitting. As you may recall, we have twin boys who are 2 1/2 years old. After using the "quick time out" method, both of our...

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4 yo Using Mean Words and Potty Mouth

Posted on 5/30/2018

"I'm stupid/you're stupid/that's stupid, dumb, poop face, butt..." These are all words we do not condone our son saying. However, he works them in every chance he gets. How do we get our son to...

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Normal Preschooler!

Posted on 5/26/2018

Preschool has been a wonderful thing for my 5-year old daughter. The two things that were a theme throughout the year, however, were that her teacher told me that my daughter often talked out of...

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Cry Cry Cry

Posted on 4/21/2018

My 6 year old son cries at what seems like the drop of a hat! He will cry if he gets mad, if he's overwhelmed, if he's anxious, and if he does not get his way. Some of it seems to be...

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Assignment Complete!

Posted on 4/18/2018

ParentGuru, I have completed my first assignment of reading The Well-Behaved Child. Please explain why you have not answered my questions.

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Tantrumming 5 year old

Posted on 4/14/2018

My 5-year-old, who is an otherwise happy, well-behaved child, cries at the drop of a hat if she perceives something has gone wrong or may go wrong soon (especially if she can't find something)....

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Playing Doctor

Posted on 4/8/2018

My five and a half year old son was caught playing doctor with another boy same age. The friend told his mom they kissed each other’s penises. My son said this was true. The boy also told his mom...

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Ditch the Guilt!

Posted on 4/2/2018

This week I had a friend of mine and her child come to stay at my home from out of town. My 3 year old son and her son are the same age, and they have been enjoying playing together. On the third...

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Limits for Masterbating 7 YO

Posted on 3/26/2018

My daughter will be 8 next month. I have discovered that she has been masturbating when she goes to sleep and when she watches t.v. She did this a little when she was about 3 but I thought it...

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Adopted 5 yo's Past Trauma

Posted on 3/13/2018

Dr. Rosemond, My friend adopted a child 5 years ago from another country. She has been told by psychologists that he has Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and PTSD from the trauma he experienced...

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Sticky Fingers

Posted on 3/10/2018

Our 5 year old has been having a problem with thinking he can take things that belong to others in the house. Recently we found a pack of gum that we do not remember purchasing. We are pretty...

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Time for a coach.

Posted on 2/20/2018

Dear John, our 7 yr old son has been masturbating since he was 2. In the beginning we told him he was only allowed to do that in his room, but then he started doing it in front of anyone including...

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Play/Sleep

Posted on 2/15/2018

When is the best time to transition my 2 year old from his crib to a bed? I’ve read that some parents let their children play in their rooms ... what is the balance between too much playing and...

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Pincher

Posted on 1/22/2018

My one year old has a new love for pinching. She looks me square in the eyes, pinches me, and grunts. Then she waits for a response. I’ve tried time out with pillow in between us calmly telling...

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Dismissed from kindergarten

Posted on 1/22/2018

My six year old son is being expelled from his Catholic kindergarten. He says another child told him to ask a girl if a grown up ever touched her privates. She went home told her mother. He was...

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3 YO Refuses to Take Medicine

Posted on 1/19/2018

I have a 3yr 10mos grand daughter who has an infection but refuses to take her medicine. I've mixed it with ice cream to no avail. Any sage advise? SF Doug

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Expelled from K5?

Posted on 1/17/2018

My now six year old son is again suspended from kindergarten. This time for saying bathroom words in class thinking it was funny.. They were not amused. We are waiting to see if he will be...

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Pre-Schooler Stuck in Season 1

Posted on 1/1/2018

Hi there, i have a little 3.5 year old who is completely out of control. I admit we have let him run the house a little bit as he is a little spitfire and makes things unpleasant(ie screams as...

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3 YO "Catching" Whining Bug from 2 YO

Posted on 12/31/2017

My 2 year old boy has really developed a whiny attitude. I know this is normal for a 2 year old based on what I've read in Rosemonds book about the transition from 2 to 3 but it has also started...

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At What Age to Sit in the Pews?

Posted on 12/25/2017

Hi there, my 27 month old is quiet during mass. We don’t sit in the pews, but instead set up a corner in the back of the church where he can color, play with his trains, etc. We sit on the floor...

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Create Daily Reports with Meaningful Consequences

Posted on 11/7/2017

My 10-year-old son, who is in fifth grade, is having some trouble at school. At this parent-teacher conference, his teacher expressed he is too talkative, rushing his work, and has poor...

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