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Posted on 7/24/2022

Greetings! Our usually cheerful and happy 4yo daughter does not seem to react normally to punishment. At first she gets upset and cries, but very shortly into a time out or being sent to her room...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Electronics (Computers/Video Games/Television/Cell Phones), Father, John's Discipline Methods, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Spanking

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Ticket System questions

Posted on 6/22/2022

I have some questions regarding the ticket system for a 3.5 year old. 1. What if he loses all of his tickets at the end of the day? One time he lost his last ticket but it was right before...

Ages: Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old)

Topics: Alpha Speech, Consequences/Punishment, John's Discipline Methods, Parent Leadership and Authority, Spanking

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19 Month Old Laughs When Hitting and Pulling Mom's Hair

Posted on 9/24/2021

My 19 month old is very advanced for her age, other than her language which is on track. But she’s already entered her “terrible” two phase and she hits and pulls my hair and laughs about it. I...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years), Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old)

Topics: Aggression, Alpha Speech, Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Daycare/Preschool, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), John's Discipline Methods, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Miscellaneous Editorial Columns, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Social Issues (fighting/arguing with friends), Socialization/Social Skills, Spanking, Tantrums, Terrible Twos

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4 year old terrorist wearing out her family

Posted on 9/23/2021

Our 4 year old daughter has become a complete terrorist. She has always been difficult and challenging but it’s only getting worse by the day. We have always been strict parents and have...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Aggression, Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, Respect, Spanking, Tantrums

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Lock Up

Posted on 6/15/2021

I am reading through John’s terrific 2 book and he mentions using child locks on kitchen cabinet doors etc but I am in rented accommodation and not allowed to put fitted child locks on the kitchen...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), John's Discipline Methods, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Parent Leadership and Authority, Spanking, Terrible Twos

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Public Nuisance

Posted on 3/7/2021

Hi! My daughter will be five in May. Her attention-seeking behavior when she's escalating are easy to deal with at home. We don't feed into it. However, when we're in public, it's a challenge....

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Spanking

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Alpha Speech is Needed - 3 Year Old Never Satisfied

Posted on 1/6/2021

Hello, We have 3yo twins, boy and girl. So let’s say there are good days and bad days: good days means he is in good mood, smiling, playing, and behaving - this is 20-30% of the time. The bad...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years), Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old), Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Alpha Speech, Arguments with Children, Bedtime/Sleep, Daycare/Preschool, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, Father, Food/Eating Problems, John's Discipline Methods, Mealtime/Eating, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Miscellaneous Editorial Columns, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Social Issues (fighting/arguing with friends), Spanking, Tantrums, Terrible Twos

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End Micromanagement of Grades by Lowering the Boom

Posted on 10/15/2019

I have two sons (13 and 14 years old) and one step son (12 years old). They've gone to a Christian school their whole lives and are all saved. My issue is with my 13 year old. He is very smart as...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years), Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years), Older Teen/High School (16-18 years)

Topics: Arguments with Children, Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Electronics (Computers/Video Games/Television/Cell Phones), Extracurricular Activities/Hobbies, Father, Homework, John's Discipline Methods, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rewards, School Issues, Spanking, Teenage Issues

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Dinner Time Battle of the Wills

Posted on 9/16/2019

My 3 year old daughter has developed a bad habit at dinner time. Although she’s usually pretty good to try new foods, every now and then she will - for some unknown reason - hold a bite of food in...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years), Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old)

Topics: Arguments with Children, Food/Eating Problems, Mealtime/Eating, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rewards, Spanking

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Wild Child

Posted on 8/17/2019

We recently started he ticket system with our 3 and 5 year old children. It has worked well with our 5 year old but our three year old has lost all his tickets multiple times. Often, the loss of...

Ages: Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old)

Topics: Consequences/Punishment, Disobedience/Defiance, John's Discipline Methods, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Parent Leadership and Authority, Spanking, Tantrums

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2 year old's Preschool teacher demands he wear pullups

Posted on 8/15/2018

After reading Toilet Training without Tantrums by Rosemond, we went straight to underwear with our 2.5 year old. He has transitioned to another class at daycare, and the teacher feels he isn't...

Ages: Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old)

Topics: Bedwetting, School Issues, Spanking, Toilet Training

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Overwhelmed Mom wants to take back her authority, but can't stop yelling

Posted on 8/7/2018

My son is extremely defiant and NOTHING we have tried thus far has made a difference. Spanking him has to be done several times over, and is always accompanied by screaming, blaming, back-talk,...

Ages: No Specific Age, Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old), Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Aggression, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, John's Discipline Methods, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior, Spanking, Tantrums

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Should you spank a preschooler?

Posted on 3/29/2018

When is spanking appropriate with a 3yo?

Ages: Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old)

Topics: Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Spanking

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Spanking

Posted on 3/30/2016

My spouse picks up the kids (ages 6 & 8) from their afterschool program one day a week. This week he confirmed with kids they had their homework, lunch boxes, etc. before leaving. After arriving...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Homework, Marriage Issues, Spanking

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4 yo Driving Mom Crazy!

Posted on 3/22/2016

I am at a loss at what my exact question is, because pretty much all of my just-turned-four-year-old's behavior is confusing me. Suddenly in the past several months, every I say is wrong; if I say...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Aggression, Disobedience/Defiance, Spanking, Tantrums

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Four Year old not listening

Posted on 3/31/2015

My four year old son is having a very difficult time listening to adults and doing what we say. About three weeks ago we started having him go to his room right after dinner because he was not...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Consequences/Punishment, Disobedience/Defiance, Parent Leadership and Authority, Spanking

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3 yo tantrums and defiance

Posted on 4/30/2014

My daughter (35 months old) is usually an obedient and a happy child who is eager to please. She seems to have come out of the terrible twos. She has recently started family daycare just once a...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Disobedience/Defiance, Spanking, Tantrums

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