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9 yo boy needs boom lowered

Posted on 4/13/2017

My youngest son is 9 years old. He has an older brother who is 11 years old. My 9 year has always had a temper/anger problem when things don't go his way. He reacts by having a tantrum. He has...

Jekyll and Hyde almost 4 y/o boy

Posted on 4/7/2017

Please help. My son is 3 years old and will be 4 in three weeks. His behavior is getting out of hand. He doesn't behave like this anywhere else but home. He has three older sisters and he hits...

A Blustering 3-Year-Old and the Ticket System

Posted on 4/5/2017

We have four children. Our third child is a 3.5 year old boy. He is our most "spirited" child and has the vocabulary of a 6 year old. Our 2 older children (6 & 8) are more reserved. He is so...

Disobedience or Addiction?

Posted on 3/1/2017

Dear John, Our almost-15-yr-old son has been disobeying our rule of no Xbox on school nights but last week was a doozy. When we were away for the weekend, he got his 16-yr-old sister to drive...

Teen Meltdown

Posted on 2/22/2017

I read on here to take a time out before engaging with a teen and making a decision. Then once giving your decision, being a 'robot' when responding. We have an intelligent, 6ft, almost 15 yr old...

12 yo Rage Out of Control

Posted on 2/13/2017

My 12 year old son has occasional anger issues and when he gets spun up (usually after I say no to him about something unreasonable) he gets into an extreme almost rage type anger. He has...

Aggressive Kindergartener

Posted on 2/9/2017

Hi, My son is 6-years old and is in kindergarten. He's been having a hard time controlling his temper. We are able to help him at home but at school he's been getting into trouble. He gets so...

Troubled Young Teen?

Posted on 2/5/2017

This question is in reference to the October 2016 question regarding my 13 year old's act of vandalism. Fast forward 8 months later. He has completed his punishment, but not without having to...

6 yo Won't Stay in His Room

Posted on 1/11/2017

We are having problems knowing how to deal with our 6yo foster son (1 of 4 foster children) who has tantrums (yelling, throwing things, kicking, defiant and sometimes laughing as he disobeys,...

2 yo Driving Mom Nuts

Posted on 1/3/2017

My 2.5 year old has gone from defiant to extremely defiant in the last month or so. I seem not to be able to tackle or settle any problems, before another one and another one comes up! 1)...

8 yo, No Quick Fixes for Discipline Problems

Posted on 11/21/2016

Our 8 1/2 year old daughter has not changed any of her undesirable behaviors. These include being irresponsible with schoolwork, unkind to her sister, ruining her clothes/ most other items,...

Teenager Hitting Mom

Posted on 11/17/2016

what would be your advised on teenager's behavior who is hitting her mother...Not always, just once but as a mother I found it very harmful and all I could do is just stopped talking to her.

5 yo No Christmas Presents?

Posted on 11/14/2016

We have a daughter (she will be 6 in a few weeks) who has been exhibiting bad behavior for a long time. The biggest issues are hitting (mom and dad included), spitting on people, name calling,...

Teen exiting the Garden of Eden

Posted on 11/4/2016

This is my third question about my 14-year-old son. A few days ago he got into a fistfight with another child and made the child cry, although he says the other child started it. Today he was...

Tough at 13

Posted on 10/13/2016

Hi! My 13 year old son spends a lot of time riding bikes and fishing around our neighborhood with a group of other boys. Today he physically attacked one of the other boys (pushing, shoving,...

Preschool Provoker

Posted on 10/3/2016

I have an almost 3 year old boy who is in a 2 day a week preschool. He has been bitten at school twice in the last 2 weeks by the same student. My son is very stubborn and strong willed. Each...

Ten year old with multiple issues

Posted on 10/1/2016

Adopted Female child age 10; neglect and multiple traumas, sexual abuse. She is in complete safety for 4+ years now, yet she is Hypersensitive, intense, social issues, cannot get along with...

18 month old hitter

Posted on 9/7/2016

My 18 month old has started hitting when she doesn't get her way. She hits my husband and I, as well as other kids her age. How can I discourage this?

3 yo trouble keeping hands to self

Posted on 9/3/2016

I enrolled my son in a Mother's Day Out program one day a week when he turned 3 back in March. He doesn't have any siblings, so I felt like he would benefit from socializing and being around...

14 year old outburst

Posted on 9/2/2016

Our 14-year old son (who has been given an ADHD/PDD-NOS diagnosis) just had a violent outburst because he forgot to make his bed this morning which meant he couldn't have his 20 minutes of...

Five year old with school struggles.

Posted on 8/23/2016

My son started Kindergarten last week and has a rough time adjusting. He is showing signs of aggression towards his classmates. We kicked him out of Eden last week when he hit his neighbor because...

Out-of-Control Kindergartner

Posted on 8/21/2016

I am a kindergarten teacher and have a student with anger management issues. When he has to clean up what he's playing with or something doesn't go his way, he gets out of control...throws chair,...

Advice While Under Others' Care?

Posted on 8/3/2016

Hi There, We have 6-year-old boy/girl twins and a nearly 2-year-old daughter. We've had so much trouble with our son for longer than we like to remember. He's incredibly defiant, obstinate,...

Pre-schooler bed wetting at night and defiant behavior

Posted on 7/19/2016

My son is 41/2 years old. I have not been able to night train him. I finally put him back in pampers after trying underpants since he was three. At two he wore pullups to bed and was day trained....

5 yo Hitting Parents

Posted on 7/14/2016

My five-year-old son constantly hits, punches, kicks, etc. Most of the time it comes when he is asked to do something, especially if it is something he does not want to do. The hitting has been...

Bigger ticket item for 4 year old.

Posted on 6/29/2016

I have been using the ticket system for 3ish months now with my son who turned 4 last week. His target behavior is "obeying the first time". While he's not perfect, he's gotten SOO MUCH BETTER!!...

Is it working?

Posted on 6/11/2016

I have been working for some time with the ticket system, mostly targeting listening to adults. The exception being he loses all tickets for hitting. My son is not responding well. I expected it...

Tween has Violent Outbursts

Posted on 6/3/2016

I am single mom. My 11 year-old son gets very angry about situations with his friends that he can't control and instead of working things out with his peers tries to shove me around and destroy...

No Game

Posted on 4/12/2016

Recently, 3 of my 4 children participated in a "game" with their 18-year-old soon-to-be step-brother. The "game" consisted of binding the hands of the children, 1-male (8) and 2-females (6 & 5),...

4 Year Old Bad Behavior at Preschool

Posted on 3/31/2016

My son, 4, has had a spotty record at school for not listening, “peer aggression” (the school’s words) amongst other things. As a result, I instilled the ticket system for talking back and not...

4 yo Driving Mom Crazy!

Posted on 3/22/2016

I am at a loss at what my exact question is, because pretty much all of my just-turned-four-year-old's behavior is confusing me. Suddenly in the past several months, every I say is wrong; if I say...

4 yo Daily Report Cards Still Not Working

Posted on 3/18/2016

This question is in response to "4 yo daily report cards not working". The problem we have been having is our daughter doesn't seem to "get it". She does not get the cause and effect concept. We...

4 yo Diagnosed with Autism

Posted on 3/18/2016

Dinah, we had her last neurologist appointment this morning. John had said in a previous question of mine to have her developmental/ mental status evaluated before continuing. We are told she is...

4 yo Daily Report Cards Not Working

Posted on 3/15/2016

I wrote a few questions about my daughters report cards for school, She is getting nowhere with it. Her behavior is out of control there and getting worse. This is the second school that she has...

2 yo Aggressive

Posted on 3/8/2016

We have a 5 year old daughter, 4 year old son, 2 year old son and a 7 month old baby girl. To say our 2 year old is a handful would be an understatement. We are concerned by how relentlessly he...

9 yo Knife Drama

Posted on 2/13/2016

Hi Dina Thanks for your response regarding our 9 year old with the knife. We will certainly follow what you have said. However as his angry outburst could have seriously injured his mom we feel...

Pushing and Shoving

Posted on 1/26/2016

My 2.5 year old daughter has started to push, shove and hit intentionally. She has always been a little aggressive, but she learned and I haven't worried about this in over year. However, about...

4 yo, 5 yo Animal Cruelty

Posted on 1/11/2016

My 2 boys, 4yrs and 5 yrs old, were in my bedroom for a while. I thought they were just being sneaky and innocent fun, so I left them for a while. When they opened the door they said, "The cat did...

Need Encouragement...

Posted on 11/30/2015

This is a follow-up to my question of 9/9/15 about my 6.5yo kicked out of the garden. We did as you suggested and reduced her target behaviors to prompt obedience and no back-talk, and reduced her...

3 yo Garden Kick?

Posted on 11/16/2015

Hello; My almost four year old great grandson/adopted son is becoming a big problem. He refuses to do what he is told. Talks back screams spits hits, and throws things and runs away. This also...

18 month old head -banger

Posted on 11/12/2015

I have an 18 month old son that has started head banging out of anger. If he doesn't get his way, he will immediately bash his head- into the table, chair, floor, wall, whatever he is near. Most...

Nip it...Now

Posted on 10/30/2015

Our five year old son is punching his parents when he's angry. He is the youngest of four boys, his three brothers are triplets. He also had continued to have a difficult time separating from mom...

Almost 3 Ticket System?

Posted on 10/19/2015

My son will be 3 years old in mid-December. He is a very smart little guy and able to tell me days later why a certain punishment happened. ( For example: he can tell me a certain toy was taken...

3 yo Unrepentant

Posted on 10/16/2015

Hi: My 3.7 year old adopted son is somewhat aggressive. The thing that concerns me most is he says he feels no remorse or compassion when someone gets hurt. What can I do to help him.

21-mo Biter

Posted on 10/16/2015

My grandson is 21 months old. He has been in a daycare facility since he was 6 weeks old. In the last 6 months or so, he has been biting other children and/or workers. He has, also, bitten his...

4 yo Anger Management

Posted on 10/10/2015

Our son recently turned four, and we have seen an increased amount of aggression in him. At times, it is directed towards peers (at preschool) for no particular reason, such as throwing a toy. At...

Share and Share Alike

Posted on 9/18/2015

1st question: What do you recommend in terms of a 1 year old and a 4 year old sharing toys? They can't effectively play together because of their ages. He grabs hers, and she grabs whatever he is...

Toddler Aggression at School

Posted on 9/17/2015

We have a 2-1/2 year old daughter who attends day care. She has always been well-behaved at school and never had a time out, until a few weeks ago, when the teachers reported to us that she has...

6 yr old hits Mom

Posted on 9/12/2015

I need an appropriate consequence for a 6.5yo who hits or kicks her mother. The child is already kicked out of the garden for other behaviors. We've tried extra chores and putting her in her room...

9 year old Frustration

Posted on 9/2/2015

My son is almost 9 years old. He has had a problem with expressing his frustration for years now. He tends to break objects, yell or become disrespectful only when he gets past his breaking point....

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