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4 year old's hitting has gone on way too long

Posted on 8/29/2018

My son is 4 years old and does not listen to direction and hits at home and school ( mom, younger sister, school friends and teachers and occasionally dad). This behavior has been going on for at...

Tantrums in 4 YO boy

Posted on 8/27/2018

I’ve read many of the tantrums questions - how to deal when the child is 4-5. My child is 4 and throws multiple tantrums with plenty of disrepect - and demands that he needs to pee, he’s scared,...

Hitting needs to be Nipped in the Bud

Posted on 8/22/2018

My 4 year old daughter has begun hitting. At first, I had given time outs, but when the frequency started to increase over the last few weeks, I wanted to nip this in the bud. I set up a 7 day...

Almost five year old and having anger issues

Posted on 8/21/2018

My son is almost 5. We just recently discovered this website and books and have had some luck with the charts (still only 2 weeks in, so success can’t quite be claimed yet)! While some behaviors...

taking back authority over 7yo

Posted on 8/12/2018

I recently discovered Mr. Rosemond's books. My husband and I are now implementing his ideas with our 7 year old son who gets easily frustrated when he doesn't get his way, ignores our demands,...

Aggressive Preschooler

Posted on 8/8/2018

My 3.5yr old son shows signs of aggression/not being able to control emotions/feeling when he doesn't get his way; it's mostly when I say the word 'No.' So this happens a lot. It is usually him...

Overwhelmed Mom wants to take back her authority, but can't stop yelling

Posted on 8/7/2018

My son is extremely defiant and NOTHING we have tried thus far has made a difference. Spanking him has to be done several times over, and is always accompanied by screaming, blaming, back-talk,...

Zero Tolerance for Unprovoked Assaults

Posted on 6/23/2018

My 7yo son has recently started shoving and aggressively tackling other kids when they’re playing games. He got tagged in tag, so he shoved the guy. The middle guy caught the ball in keep-away, so...

15yro defiant, angry,

Posted on 6/19/2018

I have a 15 year old son who has extreme fits of rage when he doesn’t get his way, which is entitlement. When he is in a rage he throws and breaks my things, curses me violently and threatens...

Teaching Time for Touchy 7 yo boy

Posted on 6/7/2018

my 7 year old son got in trouble at school for grabbing the private parts of another boy. Similar things have happened before and we've been working on a solution. For the last 3 months he had to...

4 yo Aggressive to Dad

Posted on 5/30/2018

Last night, my son (4.5 years old) was brushing his teeth and proceeded to spit the toothpaste in my husband's/his father's face (and laugh). The day before, he spit on his phone, tried to run him...

siblings fighting-4 and 7 yro

Posted on 5/19/2018

Hi there, My 7 year old girl and 4 year old boy have been fighting and fighting - and all of a sudden, its fighting ALL THE TIME. My husband and I went away for 10 days and left them with my...

Angry 7 y/o

Posted on 5/15/2018

I am writing today about my middle daughter, 7 years old. She has been a high misbehavior since she was 5. She has been on your charts and we have removed her from the garden in the past as...

4 year old has begun hitting Mom

Posted on 5/9/2018

My 4 year old son is a sweetheart, super affectionate and is constantly saying to everyone around them "I am proud of you" and "you're too cute" just to put into perspective his nature. My husband...

Moms

Posted on 5/8/2018

Have custody of a now, 4 year old Grandson. Mom abandoned him at about 18 months old, moved to Florida to make porn. Returned after that didn't work for her. My husband and I refused to allow...

7 yro needs to know who to listen to

Posted on 4/27/2018

Hi - we have a 9 year old boy who has special needs and 7 year old boy/girl twins. The boys get along well but our daughter is very jealous of her brothers. The main issue is she can be very mean,...

6.5 yro needs to understand who is in control

Posted on 4/26/2018

My son who is 6.5 years old, has always had a competitive nature. From wanting to win in games, being first out the door, first in line...first, first, first, win, win, win...it's exhausting. I...

What to do when a toddler hits answer

Posted on 4/4/2018

Hi there. I recently sent a question about what to do when toddlers hit. The response told me to refer to the website /book under that question, but I can’t find it anywhere when searched on my...

13 year old Fighting in School

Posted on 3/26/2018

Our 13-year-old son is getting in trouble regularly at school, he is constantly arguing/fighting with a class mate he’s had problems with for 3 years. His classmate is very convert in his daily...

Set the standard and hold them to it.

Posted on 3/18/2018

Hi there, Thank you for all the advice you have given me re: my out of control 3.5 yo son. He’s been kicked out of the garden for hitting mum - and successfully strung together 28 days of not...

13 yo Not Responding to Effective Discipline

Posted on 2/12/2018

13 year old daughter seems to not care about anything at all. we have grounded her according to John's book, we have done "tickets", she is extremely moody, mean and nasty to family and calls her...

Tickets or chart?

Posted on 1/30/2018

Our 3 (almost 4) year old son has 2 major misbehaviors: hitting (especially Mom and 5 year old sister) and completely refusing to do what he is told. I have cleaned out his room and he has spent 2...

Out of control 4 yr. old

Posted on 1/28/2018

We have been using the chart system for our 4 year old son for 2 weeks. The 2 target misbehaviors are disobedience and tantrums. However, if he kicks us, hits us, threatens us, calls us names,...

Pincher

Posted on 1/22/2018

My one year old has a new love for pinching. She looks me square in the eyes, pinches me, and grunts. Then she waits for a response. I’ve tried time out with pillow in between us calmly telling...

Two year old boy hitting

Posted on 1/17/2018

Hi there. One of our 2 year old twin boys (they turned two on October 31st) has recently started showing more aggression when he pitches fits. In the past, he would throw himself to the floor,...

Disobedient 4 YO

Posted on 1/17/2018

Our oldest continues to not listen when we instruct her to do something. She either does not do what we ask, complains that it is too hard, or screams. She is four. We typically reprimand by...

3.5 year old boy hitting his mother

Posted on 1/16/2018

Hi there, thank you for your response on my previous question re: out of control 3.5 year old boy. We have now started to move him OUT of the centre of the family but it's not been easy. We...

Angry daughter needs dose of reality.

Posted on 1/8/2018

Good day, we have tried lots of different things,this is the way she is now, alway angry, I dont know what to do except her bio dad to be with her now. What would be your recommendation for me, in...

Parental Rights and Decisions

Posted on 1/8/2018

I had a big fight with my daughter, she snapped and started hitting me. My husband, who's her stepdad, was trying to stop her by grabbing her hands and pulling her away. I called the police...

4 yro won't share

Posted on 1/5/2018

I host a few ladies and their kids at my house weekly. My four-year-old son (only child) usually starts off okay, but then loses his mind (yelling and telling the kids to leave) when they mess up...

Pre-Schooler Stuck in Season 1

Posted on 1/1/2018

Hi there, i have a little 3.5 year old who is completely out of control. I admit we have let him run the house a little bit as he is a little spitfire and makes things unpleasant(ie screams as...

Toddler throws items and hits things when frustrated.

Posted on 12/25/2017

Hi there, my 27 month old throws items when he gets frustrated. He also attempts to hit something when he doesn’t have anything to throw. We’ve taught him not to hit us or others, so now he hits...

Ill-Behaved Grandchildren

Posted on 9/25/2017

My 4 yr old grandson is already in trouble in school for bullying. A classmate didn't want to go to school because he was afraid he was going to get hurt by my grandson again, who has apparently...

3yr old out of control

Posted on 9/14/2017

My husband and I are struggling with finding the right disciplinary action for our 3 year old daughter. She has many meltdowns and tests our authority on a regular basis. We have found that taking...

Kindergartner frustrated by new immersion class

Posted on 9/11/2017

My 5 1/2 year old boy is having a hard time transitioning into a spanish immersion kindergarten. He's acting out by being very disruptive and sometimes "play hitting"/horsing around. We had...

Daily Report Cards Help School Behaviors

Posted on 9/1/2017

I have a 7 year old who has been having problems at school and just recently we received a form from school saying that the school is requesting for social worker intervention, that is "the next...

Almost 4yr old hitting mom and dad

Posted on 8/9/2017

My son is turning 4 in a couple of weeks and has recently started hitting his dad and I. We have been working on a 6-block chart for about 2 1/2 weeks mainly targeting disobeying and talking back....

How to Stop Mommy-Hitting Toddler

Posted on 7/18/2017

Hi there, my 22 month old likes to slap/hit me when he's upset. At home I've started using timeout, which helps. What do I do when I do when he does it in public? I've read Making the Terrible...

8 yro hurting others using ticket system

Posted on 7/11/2017

Our 8 year old son has had some instances of badly hurting others. He's aggressively hurt kids at school twice and the school has intervened. In both instances, we have punished him at home as...

3 yo Hitting

Posted on 7/6/2017

My boys are 11 months apart just turned 3 and 2. The older boy has taken to hitting and kicking the younger one lately. At first it wasn't too bad and I tried not to make an issue of it. I would...

3yr old Fits and Trouble Playing with Brother

Posted on 6/27/2017

My 3 year old is very big and strong for his age. When I have him go to his room for either timeout for a fit or for naptime he physically fights me now. He used to simply whimper and cry but then...

Aggression and the Ticket System

Posted on 6/15/2017

My son will be 4 next month. The 2s and 3s were fairly uneventful for us- nothing beyond your typical discipline issues that were quickly nipped. Several weeks ago, however, he began getting angry...

3 yo Acting Like a 3 yo

Posted on 6/12/2017

Our 3.5 year old son is hitting, kicking and/or spitting combined with an endless amount of talking back when it comes to not getting his way. We've tried timeout, taking things that he loves away...

ADHD Meds and Discipline

Posted on 6/9/2017

We have a 9yr old son who is on ADHD meds. We tried to take him off his medication with guidance from the doctors and he was an absolute train wreck. He was hitting everyone, cussing, spitting...

hitting, kicking, tantrums w/ 3 year old

Posted on 5/31/2017

i just asked you a question regarding my almost 3 year old ( will be 3 in July) - just some more information regarding the tantrums. They are unpredictable so practice runs may not work. I have...

Angry Outbursts from a 3-year-old

Posted on 5/21/2017

Every time I tell my 3 1/2 year old to do something (ex: put your cup up on the table more instead of on the edge, don't jump around in the kitchen, etc.) she crosses her arms and grunts. Or she...

Bullying ten year old girl

Posted on 5/16/2017

My 10 year-old daughter has been verbally mean to one of her friends on and off for many years. She will say mean things about this person's weight or other issues right to her face sometimes...

9 year old has tantrums & hits and bites the teacher

Posted on 5/15/2017

9 year old is second of 4 children all of which are very intelligent. This 9 year old started throwing temper tantrums at home and school in Kindergarten. He was put in IEP because of behavior...

3 yr old hitting Grandma

Posted on 5/15/2017

I have a 3 year old Grandson my husband and I are "parents" of. He just turned 3 and within the last month he has started wanting to "hit". Not real sure where this behavior has come from other...

14 yo Out of Control

Posted on 4/22/2017

Four years ago I adopted an older child who is now almost 14 yrs. old. I am a single mother. He can be a delightful person, but I am seeing less and less of this. I keep him busy in a variety of...

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