"A child who can't take "no" for an answer always has parents who can't say it and mean it. "

School Age (6-10 years)

John's Most Recent Articles

Parents, Stop Trying to Referee Kids' Fights

Posted on 6/27/2018

Q: We have a boy, 6, and a girl, 9, who fight constantly about everything under the sun. My husband and I have a good marriage. We hardly ever have a serious disagreement about anything, so it’s...

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Don’t Go Down the Road of ADHD Testing

Posted on 4/17/2018

Q: Our son, age 8, did fine in school in first grade, but has struggled in second. We’ve taken your advice and not helped much with his homework other than occasional and brief “consultations.”...

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Weighing the Options of Repeating Kindergarten

Posted on 3/28/2018

Q: Even though he had an early-August birthday, we started our son in Kindergarten this past Fall at a private Christian school. They did some testing prior to the start of the school year and...

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Don't Tolerate Sassy Behavior

Posted on 11/15/2017

Q: Our 8-year-old has suddenly developed a very sassy mouth. She picked this up from a new neighborhood friend who speaks to her mother in a very disrespectful tone, like she’s the girl’s...

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Micromanaging Weakens Child's Success in School

Posted on 8/22/2017

Q: Our son attends first grade at the local public school. At the beginning of the school year, all the parents were basically told that we are expected to go to the school’s parent website every...

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Put a Lid on Materialistic Excess for Kid With Sticky Fingers

Posted on 7/19/2017

Q: We’ve just been informed that our 7-year-old son has been effectively “expelled” from the private school he attended last year because of repeated instances of stealing small items from...

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Do Your Homework Before Choosing a School

Posted on 5/30/2017

Q: We have just moved and are seeking a new school for our two children – 6- and 8-year-old boys. They are smart, respectful of adults, and creative. We know that sounds like typical bragging, but...

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Do Classroom Reward Systems Undermine Parental Authority?

Posted on 5/18/2017

<b>Q. My daughter's kindergarten teacher is using a reward system to manage classroom behavior. Children earn smiley faces for good behavior and can trade them in for prizes at the end of the...

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What to Do About a Poor Report Card

Posted on 1/24/2017

<i><b>How to transform bad grades into a learning experience -- and into better results.</b></i> When your child brings home disappointing grades, don't panic, and don't lose your cool. Studies...

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Comfort, Not Counseling, Is the Treatment for Nightmares

Posted on 12/21/2016

Q: Our 5-year-old has suddenly started waking up with nightmares. He's not able to describe them with any clarity, however, so we don't know what the content of them is. The most he's able to...

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Recent Questions

Thoughts on ADHD and Discipline

Posted 2 days ago

Where can I find John's thoughts on disciplining children with ADHD? I remember reading in one of his books that they can learn how to behave with the same disciplinary methods used with "normal"...

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6 yo Throwing Wits Ending Tantrums

Posted 4 days ago

I am at my wit’s end. My 6 year old is making life miserable for our household. She is very strong willed and gets very angry easily. At school she gets certificates for her “model behavior”....

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Lights out! on Agonizing, Nagging & Hovering

Posted 1 week ago

After reading one of John's books recently, it's been like a light bulb coming on for me. A very bright, harsh light bulb... There are so many ways I have been failing. I've been implementing...

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Screen time is all up to you!

Posted 1 week ago

I am at my wits end with screen time and Fort Night. I try and stay by a limited number of minutes and it’s never enough and always ends up in a huge battle . I give him an hour he takes five...

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taking back authority over 7yo

Posted 1 week ago

I recently discovered Mr. Rosemond's books. My husband and I are now implementing his ideas with our 7 year old son who gets easily frustrated when he doesn't get his way, ignores our demands,...

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What to Tackle First?

Posted 1 week ago

I am a recovering-yeller, and do not even have a 30-day chip under my belt. I have always been quick to anger and highly impulsive in my parenting "technique'. My son (9) is one of those...

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Address manners with 9 year old one at a time

Posted 1 week ago

I'm hoping for a response from Katherine Saltzberg, as I am referencing her response titled "5 year old table manners". In your response, you state that each bad habit needs to be tackled one...

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Separate ticket systems for two children?

Posted 2 weeks ago

Question regarding the ticket system. I have a 7 (boy) and 9 (girl) year old. Do I use 2 separate ticket systems, one for each? Or do I use one system for the both of them (they share 5 tickets)...

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Scary storyteller at six

Posted 2 weeks ago

Our 6 yo girl we adopted two years ago loves to have a lot of drama in her games: the dolls and other toys tend to be crying, to be in danger (drowning, being kidnapped by a stranger or by a...

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When does a parent need to intervene with siblings?

Posted 2 weeks ago

I regularly read your newsletter and have read several of your books. I've heard you discuss the importance of kids being responsible for keeping the family peace and using a ticket type system to...

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