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School Age (6-10 years)

John's Most Recent Articles

Don't Tolerate Sassy Behavior

Posted 1 week ago

Q: Our 8-year-old has suddenly developed a very sassy mouth. She picked this up from a new neighborhood friend who speaks to her mother in a very disrespectful tone, like she’s the girl’s...

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Micromanaging Weakens Child's Success in School

Posted on 8/22/2017

Q: Our son attends first grade at the local public school. At the beginning of the school year, all the parents were basically told that we are expected to go to the school’s parent website every...

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Put a Lid on Materialistic Excess for Kid With Sticky Fingers

Posted on 7/19/2017

Q: We’ve just been informed that our 7-year-old son has been effectively “expelled” from the private school he attended last year because of repeated instances of stealing small items from...

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Do Your Homework Before Choosing a School

Posted on 5/30/2017

Q: We have just moved and are seeking a new school for our two children – 6- and 8-year-old boys. They are smart, respectful of adults, and creative. We know that sounds like typical bragging, but...

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Do Classroom Reward Systems Undermine Parental Authority?

Posted on 5/18/2017

<b>Q. My daughter's kindergarten teacher is using a reward system to manage classroom behavior. Children earn smiley faces for good behavior and can trade them in for prizes at the end of the...

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What to Do About a Poor Report Card

Posted on 1/24/2017

<i><b>How to transform bad grades into a learning experience -- and into better results.</b></i> When your child brings home disappointing grades, don't panic, and don't lose your cool. Studies...

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Comfort, Not Counseling, Is the Treatment for Nightmares

Posted on 12/21/2016

Q: Our 5-year-old has suddenly started waking up with nightmares. He's not able to describe them with any clarity, however, so we don't know what the content of them is. The most he's able to...

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Parent Help With Homework Is a Generally Bad Thing

Posted on 9/13/2016

Amanda Johnson, a second-grade teacher in Laramie, Wyoming, has caused quite a stir both among her colleagues and constituents and—because her educational incorrectness was covered by national...

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Selecting the Right Private School

Posted on 8/16/2016

Q: We are looking for a private school for our 4-year-old. Regardless of the school we ultimately choose, we want to keep him there through eighth grade at least. We live in an suburban area so...

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Medicine Doesn't Cure Misbehavior

Posted on 7/26/2016

Q: Our son is a rising second-grader at a private school. Last year, his behavior was often disruptive and sometimes even downright defiant—problems his first grade teacher did not have with him....

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Recent Questions

Daily Report

Posted 1 week ago

Our 9 year old son has been doing a daily report with his teacher for most of the school year. Last week my husband and I went on a week trip and the kids stayed at our home with their...

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8 Year Old Disruptive in Time Out

Posted 1 week ago

We have nearly 8-year-old boy/girl twins, a 3-year-old daughter, and a new baby girl due any day now. We started daily charts with our twins recently and are having some big struggles with our...

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The Homework Conundrum

Posted 2 weeks ago

I am completely on board with John's homework recommendations, but I have some struggles that have only intensified since Kindergarten. In my opinion, teachers are consistently asking the kids to...

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Create Daily Reports with Meaningful Consequences

Posted 2 weeks ago

My 10-year-old son, who is in fifth grade, is having some trouble at school. At this parent-teacher conference, his teacher expressed he is too talkative, rushing his work, and has poor...

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Potty Time is No Party

Posted 2 weeks ago

HI there - I have another question about my 6 year old - she has been allowed to develop some sloppy hygeine habits. Perhaps this is my fault for not supervising properly. Following on from not...

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Sugar Junkie needs Intervention

Posted 3 weeks ago

My husband and I believe our daughter is addicted to sugar. We do keep limited amounts of cookies and chocolate in our house, and generally eat some dark chocolate after dinner. But, our daughter...

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9 yo and 7 yo Sibling Conflict

Posted 3 weeks ago

I have 3 kids. Twins, girl & boy - 9 and youngest girl is 7. They enjoy each others company, playing together well. But they get into conflict pretty much daily over small issues. My twins often...

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Overwhelmed Mom

Posted 3 weeks ago

Hi, I am a homeschooling mother of three girls ages 9, 7 and 3. I frequently feel so exhausted around my kids. I KNOW there is a better way, and I keep trying to get there... but I never quite...

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Stay the Course with 9 yo's School Issues

Posted on 10/23/2017

We are concerned about our 9 year old son (3rd grade), who is having problems doing work, staying on task (wonders around the room bothering classmates) and blurting out answers for the other kids...

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6 yr old girl needs to do better on chores

Posted on 10/20/2017

My 6 year old has school all day from 8:30-3:00pm, homework, piano practices and chores. She complains the most about her chores (she tidies up her room, unpacks and washes her lunch boxes) after...

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