"A father's contribution to his children is primarily a measure of how much he adores their mother. "

School Age (6-10 years)

John's Most Recent Articles

Parents Can Recover From Not Getting Over the 'Hump of Parenting'

Posted on 10/20/2020

Q: In a recent column, you identified toddlerhood as “the hump of parenting.” As a grandmother who managed to raise five kids who were out of the house in their early twenties and are responsible...

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Helping a Child Worried About Death

Posted on 8/18/2020

Q: We have a five-year-old who obsesses about dying. This has been going on for six months, ever since a child in the neighborhood died of a congenital genetic condition. Our son knew the boy and...

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Time to Shake Things up When It Comes to Your Child's Education

Posted on 8/11/2020

Q: Our nine-year-old has just learned he is not going back to school on schedule in the fall. Instead, he will be doing distance learning by computer and home instruction. We had to do this for...

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Don’t Jump Down the ADHD Rabbit Hole With 8-Year-Old

Posted on 6/23/2020

Q: Our son, age 8, has been diagnosed with attention deficit disorder. His IQ is well above average but his actual performance in the classroom is problematic. He has difficulty paying attention...

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Why Small Classrooms Are Overrated

Posted on 5/5/2020

No rational person would argue that the smaller the class size, the better, right?” asked the radio talk show host. “I think I’m a rational person,” I said, “and I can offer proof...

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In Defense of Homeschooling

Posted on 4/28/2020

In his November 1863 address at Gettysburg, Abraham Lincoln proclaimed that the men who lost their lives on that battlefield had done so in order that “government of the people, by the people and...

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Father's Visitation With Child Should Be Allowed

Posted on 1/15/2020

Q: Our ten-year-old granddaughter lives with us. We have custody of her but her father, our son, is now asking us for visitation privileges. I probably don’t need to tell you that both he and his...

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Tame Child's Disruptive Behavior at Holiday Get-Togethers

Posted on 12/3/2019

Q: I’m already dreading the holidays. Our eight-year-old is a very excitable child and our family is expected to attend numerous holiday get-togethers at the homes of family members. When he’s...

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It Is Not Necessary to Help Your Child With Homework

Posted on 11/26/2019

After a recent talk in South Florida, women came up to me in droves asking, “How much should I help my children with their schoolwork?” That not one man asked the question...

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In Today's Parenting, Feelings Trump the Truth

Posted on 11/19/2019

Okay, it’s time to set the record straight, confront the gorilla in the proverbial room, call a spade a spade, and so on and so forth. I recently published a column on “The...

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Recent Questions

"EAT!" 50 Times

Posted yesterday

Our kids 6.5 yrs and 4.5 yrs used to watch the iPad with meals; we broke that habit by letting them color or read books, but we have to say ‘eat’ constantly for them to eat. The youngest stands...

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Creating Space

Posted 1 week ago

Hello. I have 5 children (8, 6.5, 5, 3 & 3). We have the 8 yr old in her own room, but the 6.5yr and 5 yr olds share one room and the twin 3 yr olds share another room. What type of advice do...

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It's Her Problem to Solve

Posted 1 week ago

My daughter is struggling in school since grade 2. She's in French immersion. She has failed three tests in a row so far because she didn't study for them.. Her teacher says that she seems to...

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Children's Currency

Posted 1 week ago

Any advice on what discipline system is best used for children in school most of the day? My two oldest (8 & 6.5 girls) could use more "ticketed days," but they are at school from 7:30 - 3:30...

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Ticket System and Consequences

Posted 2 weeks ago

Thank you so much for your response! It was extremely helpful. I was reading more on the ticket system and had a question about the consequence my son should receive when he loses a single ticket....

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This Girl Just Wants to Have Fun

Posted 3 weeks ago

My 8 year old daughter is struggling at school. She just wants to have fun and be creative mostly...Anyway she has failed two tests so far and now her teacher is asking me to sit down because she...

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10 Year Old Regresses in Behavior

Posted 3 weeks ago

My son is 10 years old and is going through a major regression. He knows all of the rules and has been doing great but with some recent changes to his schedule he's falling right back to where he...

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Keep Delicate Conversations As Simple as Possible

Posted on 10/22/2020

Hello! I am wondering how, when the topic comes up, should I address same sex relationships with my kids (mainly my 8 year old son for now; I also have a 4 year old daughter). We are Catholic...

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Parenting differences after divorce.

Posted on 10/11/2020

I’m sad to hear my son has come from his Dads house talking about black magic, spirits, ghosts and watching the Simpsons movie. He is 7 and his innocence is being taken away and these things are...

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Answered previously

Posted on 10/11/2020

Sorry I forgot to add to the previous message, how do I help my son with these mixed messages and how do I also deal with behaviour and boundaries when he comes back from his Dad? He comes back...

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