"Children learn whatever you teach them, whether you've intended for them to learn it or not. "

School Age (6-10 years)

John's Most Recent Articles

Don’t Go Down the Road of ADHD Testing

Posted 5 days ago

Q: Our son, age 8, did fine in school in first grade, but has struggled in second. We’ve taken your advice and not helped much with his homework other than occasional and brief “consultations.”...

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Weighing the Options of Repeating Kindergarten

Posted 3 weeks ago

Q: Even though he had an early-August birthday, we started our son in Kindergarten this past Fall at a private Christian school. They did some testing prior to the start of the school year and...

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Don't Tolerate Sassy Behavior

Posted on 11/15/2017

Q: Our 8-year-old has suddenly developed a very sassy mouth. She picked this up from a new neighborhood friend who speaks to her mother in a very disrespectful tone, like she’s the girl’s...

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Micromanaging Weakens Child's Success in School

Posted on 8/22/2017

Q: Our son attends first grade at the local public school. At the beginning of the school year, all the parents were basically told that we are expected to go to the school’s parent website every...

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Put a Lid on Materialistic Excess for Kid With Sticky Fingers

Posted on 7/19/2017

Q: We’ve just been informed that our 7-year-old son has been effectively “expelled” from the private school he attended last year because of repeated instances of stealing small items from...

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Do Your Homework Before Choosing a School

Posted on 5/30/2017

Q: We have just moved and are seeking a new school for our two children – 6- and 8-year-old boys. They are smart, respectful of adults, and creative. We know that sounds like typical bragging, but...

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Do Classroom Reward Systems Undermine Parental Authority?

Posted on 5/18/2017

<b>Q. My daughter's kindergarten teacher is using a reward system to manage classroom behavior. Children earn smiley faces for good behavior and can trade them in for prizes at the end of the...

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What to Do About a Poor Report Card

Posted on 1/24/2017

<i><b>How to transform bad grades into a learning experience -- and into better results.</b></i> When your child brings home disappointing grades, don't panic, and don't lose your cool. Studies...

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Comfort, Not Counseling, Is the Treatment for Nightmares

Posted on 12/21/2016

Q: Our 5-year-old has suddenly started waking up with nightmares. He's not able to describe them with any clarity, however, so we don't know what the content of them is. The most he's able to...

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Parent Help With Homework Is a Generally Bad Thing

Posted on 9/13/2016

Amanda Johnson, a second-grade teacher in Laramie, Wyoming, has caused quite a stir both among her colleagues and constituents and—because her educational incorrectness was covered by national...

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Recent Questions

Parents Know Best

Posted 3 days ago

Our daughter is in Kindergarten. Her school wants her assessed for support services. She is having behavior issues in class. (Which we are trying to have her held accountable for, but the school...

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10 yo, Punish for Truth Telling

Posted 5 days ago

My 10 year old son stole his little brothers candy he had saved to give to a friend to try and get invited to his birthday. He did tell us the truth but what kind of punishment for stealing and...

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Reforming Picky Eaters

Posted 5 days ago

We adopted 2 girls (ages 8 and 10 at the time) almost 5 years ago from an African country. They were incredibly picky eaters and refused to try new foods. I have been customizing our meals to...

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The Extracurricular Activities Freight Train

Posted 5 days ago

I'm trying to put a slow down on the extracurricular activities by asking them to choose one or two. How much input should they be allowed in deciding which ones? For example, I think they need...

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Learn about parent leadership then be a parent leader.

Posted 1 week ago

ParentGuru, Our son is 9. He lies and deceives his parents (us) and won’t obey us on most tasks, including his chores and schoolwork. He is a gifted student and homeschooled. How can we get...

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Addressing Self Esteem

Posted 2 weeks ago

It seems lately I'm constantly trying to undo the last 10 years worth of damage that I've created. I take full responsibility for that but the question is always how. My daughters 12 and 9 have...

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School Toy Story

Posted 3 weeks ago

Hi, I have a question regarding my almost 7 year old daughter. Last year she got kicked out of kindergarten after 3 suspensions in the first few months of school. She was then sent to a...

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Psychological Testing is a Must for Dyslexia

Posted 3 weeks ago

The elementary teacher of our 3rd grade son believes that he may have dyslexia. We would like to see about having him tested. We don't want to get to wrapped up with physiologists and possibly...

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No Clear Cut Answer for When to Blend a Family

Posted 3 weeks ago

hi there I have been dating my BF for about a year. I have never been around his kids yet although they do know of me and our children used to be friends before they moved away. My bf has spent a...

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Limits for Masterbating 7 YO

Posted 3 weeks ago

My daughter will be 8 next month. I have discovered that she has been masturbating when she goes to sleep and when she watches t.v. She did this a little when she was about 3 but I thought it...

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