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Keep Facts About 'Donor Dad' Mum Until Child Is 15

Posted on 10/25/2017

Q: My son just turned 5 and is starting to ask various questions about parents including why some people have two parents and he only has one. About two months before he turned two, his "donor"...

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Custody Issue: Teen Acts Aggressively Towards Mother

Posted on 1/12/2016

Q: My ex-husband and I have pretty much fifty-fifty custody of our 15-year-old son, who has become infected with his father’s disrespect for me. When he’s with me, he makes it very clear that he...

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Not All Outcomes Are Equal

Posted on 2/17/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Equality under the law is a uniquely American principle, one that no freedom-loving person would oppose, but the manner in which said principle is...

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3-Year-Old Girl Missing Dad

Posted on 8/2/2011

Tot's distress isn't about missing dad Q. My daughter will be 3 years old soon. Her father was primary caretaker until she was around 20 months, then he left and she hasn't seen him since. I...

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Son From a Previous Marriage

Posted on 10/26/2010

Who should tell son of half-brother? Q: My ex-husband and I aren't friendly. Ours was his second marriage. His first marriage produced a child, but when he and his first wife divorced, he...

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Boys Need Fathers, Not Friends

Posted on 11/17/2009

TODAY'S MALES NEED FATHERS, NOT FRIENDS I recently spent some time with a friend who has three children. My buddy is a college-educated responsible guy who has never failed to do right by his...

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13-Year-Old Girl Obsessed with Boys Needs Male Role Model

Posted on 10/27/2009

GIRLS NEED POSITIVE MALE ATTENTION IN LIVES Q. My 13-year- old daughter seems obsessed with boys. She will talk to a boy on the phone one time and then tell me that he's her new boyfriend....

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Mom Disciplines 15-Year-Old Daughter, But Ex Does Not Follow Through

Posted on 10/13/2009

MOM DISCIPLINES DAUGHTER, THEN DIVORCED DAD IGNORES IT Q. My 15-year-old daughter's grades have dropped this year, and I have taken away most of her privileges. But she spends a few nights a...

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6-Year-Old Boy Interest in War-Like Games

Posted on 10/28/2008

INTEREST IN WAR-LIKE GAMES NOT UNUSUAL FOR BOYS Q: My happy 6-year-old son has started incorporating death and war-like games into his play. He has never been a mean-spirited child, but his dad...

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13-Year-Old Girl Disappointed with Dad

Posted on 8/12/2008

DAUGHTER'S DISAPPOINTED WITH DAD Q. My 13-year-old daughter's father is irresponsible. He frequently cancels visits and is often obviously lying about the reasons. Nonetheless, I've told her...

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Recent Questions

Speak less, act more...

Posted yesterday

I'm a divorced mother of two boys, 7 & 9. My sons will stall unendingly with anything that isn't really fun. It makes it really hard to ever accomplish doing anything. ex. we need to leave by...

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4 yo girl defiant/disrespectful

Posted on 10/27/2017

In the last few months especially, my four year old daughter has escalated the frequency of disrespectful and defiant behavior. She has had a stubborn streak since age 2, and has a tendency for...

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Symptoms of shared custody?

Posted on 10/27/2017

Can you please speak to the symptoms of when a shared custody situation is tougher on a young child or leading to "acting out" for a child? My 4-year old daughter is on a 2-2-3 custody schedule,...

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Co-parenting woes.

Posted on 10/27/2017

Tonight I spoke with my ex-husband about disciplining our 4-year old daughter, of whom we share 50/50 custody. That's another question for another message. He said that in the midst of the...

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Teen Prefers to Live with Daily Pot Smoking Dad

Posted on 10/9/2017

My just turned 13 year old son wants to see what living with Dad would be like after living with me and Stepdad (and visiting Dad and StepMom) over his childhood. Dad has a stable career and nice...

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Consult a parent coach.

Posted on 9/25/2017

I am a single divorced mother of three year old twins. I have a home. My ex-husband, the Twins' father, lives with his parents. We have split custody. While at my home about six months ago one...

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Two home dilemma.

Posted on 9/13/2017

My 14 year old son is having a difficult time with me getting remarried. We have given him space and even dated for 2 years before we married. He is mad and I have mistakenly let him get away...

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Thriving at four - between two families.

Posted on 8/21/2017

Our soon to be 4 grandson now has a parenting contract between our son and the child's mother. They were never married. The contract was made by the biological mother and my son's new wife, who...

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Bullying or Belittling?

Posted on 8/10/2017

Sibling Bullying vs. Belittling Our 12 and 10 ½ year old sons are very different kids. We call the oldest “the lawyer.” He’s an over-achiever, good in sports, and highly...

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Challenges of the two parent home.

Posted on 7/24/2017

Hello, I have 2 boys, 14 and 16 years old. I am divorced from their father. Their father and I have a civil relationship regarding the boys. We have always disagreed in the general rearing of the...

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