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Aggression

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Custody Issue: Teen Acts Aggressively Towards Mother

Posted on 1/12/2016

Q: My ex-husband and I have pretty much fifty-fifty custody of our 15-year-old son, who has become infected with his father’s disrespect for me. When he’s with me, he makes it very clear that he...

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Jealous Sibling and Words of Wisdom for Toddler's Parents

Posted on 6/23/2015

Living with Children John Rosemond Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: My 24-month-old is constantly wanting to be in her newborn baby brother’s face, poking and touching him. How can...

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Roadblocks to Success in Classroom Discipline

Posted on 10/14/2014

A first-grade teacher asks what she can do about a girl in her class who is completely undisciplined. After nearly two months of this teacher’s best efforts, the child’s behavior is no...

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Defiant behavior at school

Posted on 5/13/2014

Q: For the past few months, our usually compliant 4-year-old son has been having problems with defiant behavior at school. He often refuses to do what he is told by the teacher. What concerns us...

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Explaining School Shootings

Posted on 10/29/2013

A radio talk show recently called to ask how parents should explain school shootings to their kids. My answer: It depends. I prefer, for the most part, for parents to say nothing unless...

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Kicking Out of the Garden of Eden [Explained]

Posted on 10/6/2013

Kicking the child out of the Garden of Eden John's "Garden of Eden" statement: Other Q and A or articles about this method may be searched by using the keyword "Garden" Below is detailed...

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Yelling - Not Good for Parent or Child

Posted on 7/16/2013

"I'm a yeller," she said, she being the mother of three young children. "No," I replied, "you're not. There is no genetic predisposition toward yelling, and no biochemical or...

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7 year old twins fighting

Posted on 1/8/2013

Q: How can we help our 7-year-old twin girls stop fighting? They constantly provoke and antagonize each other. We thought this was just normal sibling conflict, but it seems to be developing into...

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Boys goofing around

Posted on 1/1/2013

Q: Our son is in Kindergarten at a small private school. Most of the children in his class are boys. From the beginning, he's been somewhat of a behavior problem. Each time we get a notice from...

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One Year Old Slapping Parents and Screaming

Posted on 11/8/2011

Punishment may fail with toddlers, but try a firm 'no' Q: My 1-year-old has started slapping us. He also screams a lot, often for no reason, or at least we can't figure out the reason. He won't...

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Recent Questions

What to do when a toddler hits answer

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hi there. I recently sent a question about what to do when toddlers hit. The response told me to refer to the website /book under that question, but I can’t find it anywhere when searched on my...

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13 year old Fighting in School

Posted 3 weeks ago

Our 13-year-old son is getting in trouble regularly at school, he is constantly arguing/fighting with a class mate he’s had problems with for 3 years. His classmate is very convert in his daily...

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Set the standard and hold them to it.

Posted on 3/18/2018

Hi there, Thank you for all the advice you have given me re: my out of control 3.5 yo son. He’s been kicked out of the garden for hitting mum - and successfully strung together 28 days of not...

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13 yo Not Responding to Effective Discipline

Posted on 2/12/2018

13 year old daughter seems to not care about anything at all. we have grounded her according to John's book, we have done "tickets", she is extremely moody, mean and nasty to family and calls her...

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Tickets or chart?

Posted on 1/30/2018

Our 3 (almost 4) year old son has 2 major misbehaviors: hitting (especially Mom and 5 year old sister) and completely refusing to do what he is told. I have cleaned out his room and he has spent 2...

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Out of control 4 yr. old

Posted on 1/28/2018

We have been using the chart system for our 4 year old son for 2 weeks. The 2 target misbehaviors are disobedience and tantrums. However, if he kicks us, hits us, threatens us, calls us names,...

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Pincher

Posted on 1/22/2018

My one year old has a new love for pinching. She looks me square in the eyes, pinches me, and grunts. Then she waits for a response. I’ve tried time out with pillow in between us calmly telling...

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Two year old boy hitting

Posted on 1/17/2018

Hi there. One of our 2 year old twin boys (they turned two on October 31st) has recently started showing more aggression when he pitches fits. In the past, he would throw himself to the floor,...

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Disobedient 4 YO

Posted on 1/17/2018

Our oldest continues to not listen when we instruct her to do something. She either does not do what we ask, complains that it is too hard, or screams. She is four. We typically reprimand by...

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3.5 year old boy hitting his mother

Posted on 1/16/2018

Hi there, thank you for your response on my previous question re: out of control 3.5 year old boy. We have now started to move him OUT of the centre of the family but it's not been easy. We...

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