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Aggression

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Custody Issue: Teen Acts Aggressively Towards Mother

Posted on 1/12/2016

Q: My ex-husband and I have pretty much fifty-fifty custody of our 15-year-old son, who has become infected with his father’s disrespect for me. When he’s with me, he makes it very clear that he...

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Jealous Sibling and Words of Wisdom for Toddler's Parents

Posted on 6/23/2015

Living with Children John Rosemond Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: My 24-month-old is constantly wanting to be in her newborn baby brother’s face, poking and touching him. How can...

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Roadblocks to Success in Classroom Discipline

Posted on 10/14/2014

A first-grade teacher asks what she can do about a girl in her class who is completely undisciplined. After nearly two months of this teacher’s best efforts, the child’s behavior is no...

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Defiant behavior at school

Posted on 5/13/2014

Q: For the past few months, our usually compliant 4-year-old son has been having problems with defiant behavior at school. He often refuses to do what he is told by the teacher. What concerns us...

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Explaining School Shootings

Posted on 10/29/2013

A radio talk show recently called to ask how parents should explain school shootings to their kids. My answer: It depends. I prefer, for the most part, for parents to say nothing unless...

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Kicking Out of the Garden of Eden [Explained]

Posted on 10/6/2013

Kicking the child out of the Garden of Eden John's "Garden of Eden" statement: Other Q and A or articles about this method may be searched by using the keyword "Garden" Below is detailed...

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Yelling - Not Good for Parent or Child

Posted on 7/16/2013

"I'm a yeller," she said, she being the mother of three young children. "No," I replied, "you're not. There is no genetic predisposition toward yelling, and no biochemical or...

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7 year old twins fighting

Posted on 1/8/2013

Q: How can we help our 7-year-old twin girls stop fighting? They constantly provoke and antagonize each other. We thought this was just normal sibling conflict, but it seems to be developing into...

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Boys goofing around

Posted on 1/1/2013

Q: Our son is in Kindergarten at a small private school. Most of the children in his class are boys. From the beginning, he's been somewhat of a behavior problem. Each time we get a notice from...

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One Year Old Slapping Parents and Screaming

Posted on 11/8/2011

Punishment may fail with toddlers, but try a firm 'no' Q: My 1-year-old has started slapping us. He also screams a lot, often for no reason, or at least we can't figure out the reason. He won't...

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Recent Questions

Sibling Rivalry

Posted 3 days ago

my daughters, age 5 and 2, constantly fight. I agree siblings need to settle their own quarrels; however, my 2 year old is still physically agressive (pulling hair, hitting), and sometimes I...

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Separate but Equal

Posted 1 week ago

I have an introverted, sensitive (gentle and kind) four-year-old son and an extroverted, physically rambunctious two-year-old son. The two year old is physically aggressive (biting and hitting)...

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It's never too late for those who are aware!

Posted 2 weeks ago

I have been battling with my 4.5yr old son for a solid 2 years now. He hits, yells, and doesn’t listen to instructions even after multiple request. I have received advice from previous questions...

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Hitting plus tantrums

Posted 2 weeks ago

HI there, we've been intensively working with our now 4.5 year old boy who had many, many behavioural problems. He is now much more cooperative after sessions with a good parent coach. However,...

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"You May NOT Hit Mommy!"

Posted 3 weeks ago

My 18 month girl just started hitting me and laughing and scratching my face tonight when I was putting on her pajamas! She has never done this to me before, she tried to hit my husband once (a...

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Biting Self Out of Anger

Posted on 1/25/2019

My daughter is generally pretty even tempered. She is 4. She has her moments like any other child but overall minds and knows when she is right or wrong. Last night (for the second time) she got...

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Little Slugger

Posted on 12/4/2018

Not sure if you can see my previous questions but my daughter 22 months is still hitting. In fact it’s getting worse. She really only hits me, occasionally my husband. Last suggestion was to put...

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Longing for a peaceful home

Posted on 11/23/2018

What is your advice for a child who refuses to stay in their room? Up until recently we had been locking our daughter’s door when she had lost all her tickets on the ticket system. This last...

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6 year old's Target Misbehaviors must be concrete and specific

Posted on 10/29/2018

We have been doing the chart system for a week now with our 6 year old son targeting disrespect/defiance and disobedience. We started out with 8 squares a day. There have only been a few days when...

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Out of Control 7yr old

Posted on 10/27/2018

Hi, my husband and I would appreciate some advice on our situation with our 7 year old daughter. Her medication has become ineffective recently and we are at our wits end with what to do with...

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