"In the eyes of a child, parents are "mean" when the child discovers that they mean what they say. "

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In a Family, Parents' Relationship Comes First

Posted on 12/28/2016

I recently asked a married couple who have three kids, none of whom are yet teens, “Who are the most important people in your family?” Like all good moms and dads of this brave new...

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Recent Questions

Never argue with a 5 year old.

Posted on 7/16/2017

My one and only gives the vibe she is superior to her classmates by contradicting them, telling them they are wrong or having show off behaviour. I'm afraid she will not have any friends, but am...

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Co-sleeping?

Posted on 5/6/2017

how to address the issue of a child sleeping in bed with mother and father.

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Troubled Young Teen?

Posted on 2/5/2017

This question is in reference to the October 2016 question regarding my 13 year old's act of vandalism. Fast forward 8 months later. He has completed his punishment, but not without having to...

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Help With Ongoing Tantrums

Posted on 1/21/2017

Our 9-year old daughter has been prone to tantrums all of her life. The trigger is usually not getting her way--not getting to do what she wants, wear what she wants, etc...and these have usually...

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New shoes problems

Posted on 1/9/2017

One of our 9-year-old twins is very particular on how clothing items fit. I took her shoe shopping and she picked out two pairs of shoes: sneakers and church shoes (at the store I asked her to be...

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Out of control 5 and 3 y/o boys

Posted on 1/3/2017

Hello, I am doing a miserable job as a parent to my two boys (aged 5 and 3). They are out of hand entirely. We can't get through prayers at the dinner table without at least one of them being...

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Dad's NOT a Buddy!

Posted on 11/2/2016

Disrespect from my 4 year old daughter When my husband asked my 4 year old son tonight who is buddy was, my DAUGHTER (who is his twin sister) SAID, "he is mommy's buddy, not yours. You don't...

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Mom, Dad and Discipline Disagreements

Posted on 9/17/2016

My husband is inconsistent with discipline when he chooses to discipline. He has created a monster in our 8 year old daughter. Everyone sees this but him. When she was younger and I would...

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No Game

Posted on 4/12/2016

Recently, 3 of my 4 children participated in a "game" with their 18-year-old soon-to-be step-brother. The "game" consisted of binding the hands of the children, 1-male (8) and 2-females (6 & 5),...

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husband/wife not on same page

Posted on 3/4/2016

Is there a way to get my husband on board with the ticket system for our son? He says the biblevsays spare the rod... So the only disapline he needs is a spanking when my husband is angry enough.

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