"As children grow older, parents must give them greater freedom, including greater freedom to make mistakes. "

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In a Family, Parents' Relationship Comes First

Posted on 12/28/2016

I recently asked a married couple who have three kids, none of whom are yet teens, “Who are the most important people in your family?” Like all good moms and dads of this brave new...

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Fathers as Important to Parenting as Mothers

Posted on 1/18/1987

I've been a father for 18 years, so I know a few things about fatherhood. I know, for instance, that fathers are just as important as mothers to the raising of children. I also know fathers don't...

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Parenting a Disrespectful Teen with Divorced Parents

Posted 1 week ago

Almost two years ago my husband left (affair) and we are in a very difficult divorce. We are not friendly and don’t communicate other than texting. We have four children together and have 50/50...

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Entitled teen woes.

Posted on 8/29/2020

My daughter is 17, a good student, and active in extracurricular activities. Her teachers often say what a pleasure she is to have in their class. Her mother and I split almost two years ago and...

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Explaining marital problems to a 4 year old.

Posted on 8/21/2020

About 5 days ago, my 4 year old son and I escaped a domestic violence situation. My husband is now in a behavioral health hospital for the unforeseen future and we have been staying at my dad’s...

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Parents Need to Be On The Same Page

Posted on 7/23/2020

What if both parents in the home are not on the same page, can bad behavior be corrected?

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Moms, Let Dad Be in Charge Too

Posted on 7/16/2020

My three year old son does not respect my husband's authority. If my husband attempts to do anything for/with him if my son is not in the mood, there are tantrums of epic proportions. He will also...

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dad on very different page

Posted on 7/2/2020

Do you have any advice for a parent who is the primary disciplinarian in a 2-parent household? For example, after my daughter receives punishment from me for a misbehavior, her dad will often...

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Encouraging an adult child to be dependent.

Posted on 4/25/2020

Hi and thank you. Adult daughter has her own car she paid and her own insurance she pays. Father still will not let her drive by herself. He takes her to work and picks her up. She drives her car...

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Co-Parenting precautions continued

Posted on 3/29/2020

My 7 year old son has picked up on some terrible slang while with his father. Everything is “banging mate” as one example. It sounds horrendous. How do I stop this?

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Relationship Reboot

Posted on 12/9/2019

This is a Part II to an early question submitted about a very strong-willed and increasingly mouthy 16-year old daughter. Please bear with someone who has subscribed for YEARS without submitting...

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It Takes a Man to Teach a Boy to be a Man

Posted on 11/28/2019

I read John's June articles on fathering and see the pattern he sees all the time: grown-up sons who amount to nothing. I have 3 boys ages 9, 7, and 4 and want much better for them. There are...

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