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Grandparents/Grandchildren

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Today's Grandparent's Deserve Well-Behaved Grandchildren

Posted on 2/23/2016

A recent article on grandparenting.com says that many baby boomers are experiencing difficulties in their relationships with adult children, including “not enough time together, not enough regular...

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Grandparents Raising Grandson

Posted on 12/29/2015

Q: Our daughter died last year—long, sad story—leaving behind a 2-year-old boy. The father—not named on the birth certificate—is not and never has been a factor in the child’s life and gave us...

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Grandma Needs Advice

Posted on 5/12/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: My husband and I need your advice. We are parents to one adult daughter who has three children ages 10, 7, and 4. They live about three hours away...

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Pull-Ups & Adoption Age

Posted on 9/16/2014

Q: My 23-month-old son does well with potty training when we’re at home. We use a “potty bell” and he goes every 90 minutes or so. When we’re away from home, however, he seems clueless. He...

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8 year old Grandson is Lying

Posted on 6/17/2014

Q: We are very concerned about our 8-year-old grandson’s lying. He always pleads innocence and wonders plaintively why no one ever believes him. When someone confronts him with some misdeed...

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Grandparent Boundaries

Posted on 7/30/2013

Q: Our daughter and son-in-law have consented to be the guardians of our first grandchild, due in a few months. In preparation for this momentous event, we want to understand what our boundaries...

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Nanny Interaction

Posted on 7/9/2013

A mom asked me a most interesting and currently pertinent question the other day: "How much one-on-one interaction should take place been a nanny and a child under her supervision?" The...

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3-Year-Old Boy Being Raised by Grandparents

Posted on 8/16/2011

Q. My 3-year-old grandson lives with his grandmother and me. He sees and speaks to his mother on the phone only occasionally. His birth father has never been in the picture. In fact, we don't know...

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Telling 3 YO about real parents

Posted on 8/15/2011

Q: My 3-year-old grandson lives with his grandmother and me. He calls me "Poppa" and his grandmother "Nanna." He sees and speaks to his mother on the phone only occasionally. His birth-father...

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Grandchildren's Behavior at Grandparents' House

Posted on 12/7/2010

Talk to adult kids about grandkids Q. Whenever our two adult children, their spouses and our four school-age grandchildren (tweenagers, all) visit us, chaos reigns. The children are wild. They...

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Recent Questions

Daily Report

Posted on 11/12/2017

Our 9 year old son has been doing a daily report with his teacher for most of the school year. Last week my husband and I went on a week trip and the kids stayed at our home with their...

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Rejected by adult children.

Posted on 11/11/2017

It is embarrassing to admit that we have seemed to blow it as parents, but it sure appears to be the case! I have contacted you about our daughter that has pretty much cut us off and blame us for...

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Grandma and 3-year old need some distance

Posted on 11/3/2017

Since joining, I have become a single Grandparent raising a 3.5 year old Grandson. My husband died in August. I frequently read Johns advice on putting the "marriage" first. However, there...

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Little Meanie

Posted on 10/6/2017

Both sets of my 3 year old's grandparents live out of state. When they come to visit they typically stay for several days at our home. Last time his grandmother was in town my son sternly told her...

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Teenage Girl Talks of Changing Gender

Posted on 9/9/2017

I have a grand daughter who is now announcing herself as a transmute. Her mother is in a lesbian relationship with a wonderful partner and they are marrying this year. My daughter has set some...

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Screens are Everywhere!

Posted on 9/6/2017

I have a soon to be 13 year old grandson I have been raising since he was an infant. He was diagnosed ADD in first grade but delayed medication until 4th grade. The medication has really helped....

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When grandma interferes...

Posted on 8/31/2017

My parents live a few doors down from us and they and my kids (2 and 4) are all crazy about each other and love to spend time together. However, my mother has often tried to undermine my authority...

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Protecting Great Grandson

Posted on 8/6/2017

We have had legal guardianship of our great-grandson for the last 2 years. He is now 4 years old. The grandfather is disabled and both his parents are drug addicts. My question is should we...

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A grandmother's worries.

Posted on 6/19/2017

I am a grandmother of 2 wonderful kids- an almost 5 year old and a 21 month old. The problem is his mom and dad are not on the same discipline page. Dad undermines whatever mom says. He gives in...

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A Habit to Break?

Posted on 6/11/2017

My 7 year old grandson had developed a habit of wiggling his hands when he gets excited, such as during soccer games or while playing or during an exciting part of a movie. I don't think he is...

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