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Grandparents/Grandchildren

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Today's Grandparent's Deserve Well-Behaved Grandchildren

Posted on 2/23/2016

A recent article on grandparenting.com says that many baby boomers are experiencing difficulties in their relationships with adult children, including “not enough time together, not enough regular...

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Grandparents Raising Grandson

Posted on 12/29/2015

Q: Our daughter died last year—long, sad story—leaving behind a 2-year-old boy. The father—not named on the birth certificate—is not and never has been a factor in the child’s life and gave us...

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Grandma Needs Advice

Posted on 5/12/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: My husband and I need your advice. We are parents to one adult daughter who has three children ages 10, 7, and 4. They live about three hours away...

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Pull-Ups & Adoption Age

Posted on 9/16/2014

Q: My 23-month-old son does well with potty training when we’re at home. We use a “potty bell” and he goes every 90 minutes or so. When we’re away from home, however, he seems clueless. He...

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8 year old Grandson is Lying

Posted on 6/17/2014

Q: We are very concerned about our 8-year-old grandson’s lying. He always pleads innocence and wonders plaintively why no one ever believes him. When someone confronts him with some misdeed...

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Grandparent Boundaries

Posted on 7/30/2013

Q: Our daughter and son-in-law have consented to be the guardians of our first grandchild, due in a few months. In preparation for this momentous event, we want to understand what our boundaries...

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Nanny Interaction

Posted on 7/9/2013

A mom asked me a most interesting and currently pertinent question the other day: "How much one-on-one interaction should take place been a nanny and a child under her supervision?" The...

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3-Year-Old Boy Being Raised by Grandparents

Posted on 8/16/2011

Q. My 3-year-old grandson lives with his grandmother and me. He sees and speaks to his mother on the phone only occasionally. His birth father has never been in the picture. In fact, we don't know...

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Telling 3 YO about real parents

Posted on 8/15/2011

Q: My 3-year-old grandson lives with his grandmother and me. He calls me "Poppa" and his grandmother "Nanna." He sees and speaks to his mother on the phone only occasionally. His birth-father...

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Grandchildren's Behavior at Grandparents' House

Posted on 12/7/2010

Talk to adult kids about grandkids Q. Whenever our two adult children, their spouses and our four school-age grandchildren (tweenagers, all) visit us, chaos reigns. The children are wild. They...

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Recent Questions

Grandson handling loss.

Posted 1 week ago

37 yr old daughter had massive heart attack in car with husband & 9.75 yr old son....she died several hours later without regaining consciousness. My grandson seems to be doing ok....returned...

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Moms

Posted 2 weeks ago

Have custody of a now, 4 year old Grandson. Mom abandoned him at about 18 months old, moved to Florida to make porn. Returned after that didn't work for her. My husband and I refused to allow...

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Grandparents who want to help.

Posted on 4/20/2018

We have a beautiful, very intelligent 3 year old grandson. He is an only child and has 4 older cousins (over 15). Recently he has exhibited violent outbursts and tantrums. He becomes...

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Introducing Half Siblings

Posted on 4/13/2018

How do I introduce a half sister to a three year old child? He does not understand that Jj (father of both children) is even his Dad. Jj is not present in his life nor the sister's life. The...

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Should Grandma allow visits from absent parents?

Posted on 3/30/2018

Have custody of 4 yr old Grandson. Mother nor father have matured to the point where he would live with them. As time has progressed, the time between visits has increased. Last visit from...

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Daily Report

Posted on 11/12/2017

Our 9 year old son has been doing a daily report with his teacher for most of the school year. Last week my husband and I went on a week trip and the kids stayed at our home with their...

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Rejected by adult children.

Posted on 11/11/2017

It is embarrassing to admit that we have seemed to blow it as parents, but it sure appears to be the case! I have contacted you about our daughter that has pretty much cut us off and blame us for...

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Grandma and 3-year old need some distance

Posted on 11/3/2017

Since joining, I have become a single Grandparent raising a 3.5 year old Grandson. My husband died in August. I frequently read Johns advice on putting the "marriage" first. However, there...

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Little Meanie

Posted on 10/6/2017

Both sets of my 3 year old's grandparents live out of state. When they come to visit they typically stay for several days at our home. Last time his grandmother was in town my son sternly told her...

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Teenage Girl Talks of Changing Gender

Posted on 9/9/2017

I have a grand daughter who is now announcing herself as a transmute. Her mother is in a lesbian relationship with a wonderful partner and they are marrying this year. My daughter has set some...

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