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Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

John's Most Recent Articles

No Perfectly Reliable Form of Discipline With a Toddler

Posted 4 weeks ago

As just about everyone who has lived with a child for more than two years knows, the most potentially dangerous thing one can say to a toddler is “no.” That single syllable strikes deep into the...

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10-Month-Old Tosses Food for Mealtime Fun

Posted on 8/4/2020

Q: Our 10-month-old son has recently discovered the joys of throwing finger food on the floor at mealtimes. He doesn’t seem to care if I feed it to him myself, one piece at a time, but isn't it...

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How to Prevent the Terrible Twos From Becoming the Terrifying Threes

Posted on 7/21/2020

One of my books, “Making the ‘Terrible’ Twos Terrific!”, has recently become a best-seller in China, of all places. Seriously! What sorts of problems are Chinese parents having with their...

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Here's a Real Head Banger Issue

Posted on 7/14/2020

Q: When my two-year-old gets angry, he sometimes gets down and bangs his head on the floor. This happens two or three times a week, generally speaking. He’s not bruised himself, yet, but I don’t...

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Some Benchmarks on Toilet Training

Posted on 6/9/2020

“There’s no one-size-fits-all model of childrearing for all the world’s parents,” opines Alma Gottlieb, Professor Emerita of Anthropology at the University of Illinois. Gottlieb was quoted in an...

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What to Do About an Aggressive 3-Year-Old

Posted on 4/21/2020

Q: My three-year-old son tends to react physically when he's mad at a preschool classmate instead of talking it out and letting the teachers intervene. We have encouraged him to use words when...

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When It Comes to Phases, Don't Make Mountains out of Molehills

Posted on 2/25/2020

Q: Our daughter, our first and only, is just short of three-and-one-half. She has recently started coming into our room in the middle of the night and making a request of one sort or another. She...

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Toilet Training Is Not Rocket Science

Posted on 9/26/2018

Talking today’s mother through her first experience with toilet training is akin to talking someone off a ledge. Both situations involve massive anxiety, high drama and lots of yelling and...

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Debunking Hot Potty Training Myths

Posted on 8/14/2018

“Potty training is a nightmare.” So begins advice from Meghan Leahy, advice columnist for The Washington Post. More accurately, potty training has, of late, BECOME a nightmare, thanks to advice of...

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I Spy Toilet-Training Atrocities

Posted on 7/10/2018

Strolling through my go-to grocery store the other day, I happened down the Baby Products aisle where I spied packages of toilet-training pants featuring pictures of happy children who looked at...

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Recent Questions

Night Time Dryness Takes Patience

Posted 4 days ago

Hello, I understand that there isn’t really nighttime potty training, and that’s fine. She often wakes up soaked, and happily helps me strip the bed and put the linens in the washer. We’re still...

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Adjusting to a New Pre School Can Be Hard

Posted 5 days ago

We are struggling with our 3-year-old at school. She started in PK-3 this year at a new school. The past 3 years she has been in daycare/pre-school. Where to begin... and by the way all of these...

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Night Time Potty Training Takes Time

Posted 1 week ago

My 2 year old daughter wets her bed almost everyday and she has only Been potty trained in the day time for 2 months should I put a night time diaper ?

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A Fine Whine?

Posted 1 week ago

Looking for help for whining for our 28mo. We have tried saying "that's whining. We can't hear whining. Use your happy voice." and even the raising eyebrows suggestion, for the last 7 or so...

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Time To Introduce The Potty Gate

Posted 1 week ago

We have been potty training my 22 month old for 2 months (8.5 weeks).He will only use the toilet if I catch him before he pees in his pants and have him go sit on it. If he needs to go before the...

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Daytime vs Nighttime Dryness

Posted 2 weeks ago

My 2 year old daughter has been potty trained for 2 months now and is still wetting the bed at night how long should I give her until I use the blanket with a buzzer to wake her up when she pees ?

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Road to accident freedom

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hello! My two year old is recently potty trained using Naked and $75. He is doing so well with peeing on the potty at home, but we have two issues. He will not tell me when he needs to poop. He...

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Curing the Bedtime Blues

Posted 3 weeks ago

Our almost 2.5-year-old daughter started to refuse to go to sleep. She doesn’t take naps at home anymore (only at daycare) and was fully sleep trained before age one. It all started with her...

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Welcome to the Terrible Twos!

Posted on 8/30/2020

When I get ready in the morning I let my 21 month old play with cotton balls and bandaids and other non harmful bathroom supplies. When I was done I told him to pick up the the cotton balls (he...

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2-Year-Old and 4-Year-Old Can't Get Along

Posted on 8/20/2020

My 2 year old and my 4 year old seem to not be able to stay with each other for 5 min with out fitting over something ... should I say something or let them work it out because it seem like a...

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