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Rebellious Behavior

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Parents Should Sweat the Small Stuff

Posted on 6/7/2016

Q: While exploring your website, I ran across a column you wrote a while back about a 13-year-old who wanted a Mohawk haircut. You told the parents not to allow it, pointing out that if you give...

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Figuring things out isn't easy.

Posted 1 week ago

I have been married for more than 25 years. My husband came with a daughter from his first marriage and we have two of our own. He is very permissive-extremely guilt ridden and operates from the...

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17 yo Girl Can't "Roll" With 23 yo

Posted 2 weeks ago

I have just recently discovered that my 17 daughter has been in a secret relationship with a 23 year old man who is an abuser of Methamphetamines. She has never used drugs (to my knowledge) nor...

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15yro defiant, angry,

Posted 4 weeks ago

I have a 15 year old son who has extreme fits of rage when he doesn’t get his way, which is entitlement. When he is in a rage he throws and breaks my things, curses me violently and threatens...

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6yro pouts

Posted 4 weeks ago

My 6 year old son is generally well-behaved. He does have one behavior that I‘m at a lost to correct. He pouts when he is disciplined – by pouting I mean the skin around his eyes turns red, he...

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The Terrible Three's

Posted on 6/15/2018

My 33 month old has recently begun yelling all of his responses. He gets frustrated very easily and says, “Stop! Stop it, mommy!” and “Goooosh!” "No!" is his favorite word, and now he yells it....

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Almost 18 yo boy in for "rude awakening"

Posted on 6/3/2018

My grandson is giving my daughter and husband and fit and keep asking me for advice because I took your training, but this seems beyond me. He will be 18 in September and is totally repudiating...

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3 yro crying uncontrollably

Posted on 5/3/2018

My 3 year old daughter sometimes cries so hard and long that she stops breathing for a few seconds. She usually does it when she is having a little tantrum, but it has also happened after hurting...

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7 yro needs to know who to listen to

Posted on 4/27/2018

Hi - we have a 9 year old boy who has special needs and 7 year old boy/girl twins. The boys get along well but our daughter is very jealous of her brothers. The main issue is she can be very mean,...

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Living at home or on campus for rebellious teen?

Posted on 4/12/2018

Our eldest is my step-daughter and she is graduating high school in May, and beginning a university program in town in summer. She has planned to live on campus, but is now feeling anxious and...

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Teen Resists Mom's Parenting; Chooses to Live with Dad

Posted on 4/6/2018

I have a 13 year old who lives primarily with me (mom and stepdad and half siblings.) She visits with her dad, stepmom, and other half siblings every other weekend. For the past several years, she...

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