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Rebellious Behavior

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Parents Should Sweat the Small Stuff

Posted on 6/7/2016

Q: While exploring your website, I ran across a column you wrote a while back about a 13-year-old who wanted a Mohawk haircut. You told the parents not to allow it, pointing out that if you give...

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3 yro crying uncontrollably

Posted 3 weeks ago

My 3 year old daughter sometimes cries so hard and long that she stops breathing for a few seconds. She usually does it when she is having a little tantrum, but it has also happened after hurting...

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7 yro needs to know who to listen to

Posted 4 weeks ago

Hi - we have a 9 year old boy who has special needs and 7 year old boy/girl twins. The boys get along well but our daughter is very jealous of her brothers. The main issue is she can be very mean,...

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Living at home or on campus for rebellious teen?

Posted on 4/12/2018

Our eldest is my step-daughter and she is graduating high school in May, and beginning a university program in town in summer. She has planned to live on campus, but is now feeling anxious and...

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Teen Resists Mom's Parenting; Chooses to Live with Dad

Posted on 4/6/2018

I have a 13 year old who lives primarily with me (mom and stepdad and half siblings.) She visits with her dad, stepmom, and other half siblings every other weekend. For the past several years, she...

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Power struggle with a teen.

Posted on 4/1/2018

Hello my 13 year old daughter pierced her ears at home after I told her I thought she was too young to have a second piercing. I have stripped her of all electronics and taken away her jewelry. I...

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WWJR do?

Posted on 3/17/2018

My son is a junior in college and lives on campus which is about 40 minutes from our home. He gets good grades and has worked a part-time job the last couple of years. Up until recently he was...

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8 Year Old Too "Curious"

Posted on 3/13/2018

When my son was 5, he tried to search for "girls pee pee" and other related terms on his tablet, which luckily was on the child setting. We talked to him the best we could even though he denied it...

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Sass in the Second Stage

Posted on 3/12/2018

Hello, I'm confused about why in the second stage of parenting, ages 10 to 13, it appears that if a child yells at their parents or is disrespectful, there is an immediate consequence. For...

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4yro anxiety/disobedience

Posted on 3/8/2018

Hello again I had just written to you last week about my sons anxiety. Well ever since this constant anxiety he’s been having and we have been doing what you said and I️t has helped. However he...

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An 11-year old Queen?

Posted on 2/21/2018

I home school our 11 year old daughter. She refuses to do any work if she does not feel like it. I will send her to her room and she will not go. I inform her that there will be a consequence if...

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