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John's Most Recent Articles

How To Stop Kids From Living Out Soap Operas

Posted 4 weeks ago

Will my profession, psychology, ever get it? Beginning in the 1960s, the psychological mainstream asserted that nearly all child mental health problems were caused by parents who...

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Parenting Quiz: True or False?

Posted on 6/29/2021

We interrupt this weekly column with a three-question quiz, following which you will find the correct answers. 1. True or False? Telling a child that her feelings concerning a decision you...

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The Better the Husband, the Better the Dad

Posted on 6/15/2021

Several columns past, I took to my bully pulpit and excoriated men who are married with children for being fathers first and husbands a distant second (maybe even third behind sports fans). My...

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Kids Don’t Need Curing, They Need Correcting

Posted on 5/18/2021

No small number of today’s parents view their children through psychological lenses, especially when it comes to misbehavior. Instead of regarding a given misbehavior as simply an error that needs...

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The Futility of Reasoning With Children

Posted on 5/4/2021

Many if not most if not almost all of today’s parents believe in magic words. They do so because the mental health professional community has for fifty years or so told them that children can be...

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Be the Best Father by Being the Best Husband You Can Be

Posted on 4/27/2021

Guys! Guys! Look, your wives, bless their hearts, are having enough trouble putting their children and priorities into proper perspective without you adding to the muddle. Keep it straight,...

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The Drama of a Child's Feelings

Posted on 4/20/2021

One of the more unfortunate consequences of relying on advice from mental health “experts” concerning parenting matters has been a one-dimensional understanding of child discipline. Because of the...

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Mom, Stop Checking Kid’s Homework

Posted on 4/6/2021

Many times have I warned parents of the pitfalls of micromanaging their children’s academic responsibilities lest said children deduce that the responsibilities in question are not theirs at all...

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Micromanagers Are Their Own Worst Enemies

Posted on 3/30/2021

To most folks, micromanagement has to do with tasks or performance. The micromanaging parent, for example, is generally thought of as one who hovers over a child’s homework or academics in...

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Smartphone Addiction Is Real

Posted on 3/10/2021

Concerning my prior use of the word “addiction” in association with smart phones and children (including teens), some people think I am speaking figuratively. To set the record straight: No, I am...

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Recent Questions

Consult Medical Doctor for Questions About Medication

Posted 6 days ago

Our 22 yr-old son started taking Vyvance and Adderall early on in college after someone introduced him to the “benefits”. He has been listening to John Rosemond recently and concluded himself that...

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Early Intervention Resources

Posted on 5/22/2021

Hi, It is so hard to tell who the scammers are and who are legitimate in the "medical" realm. I have a friend who has a son who has all the classic symptoms of actual autism, but his Dr. has not...

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Solutions do not always solve the problem.

Posted on 5/11/2021

A oppositional/defiant great grandchild is living with me temporarily with his mom and his 4 year old sister, who is a total delight. I usually let the mother deal with her son, even though I did...

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Coaching Kids Through Frustrations

Posted on 4/23/2021

My 11-year-old boy has Aspergers . He gets frustrated easily. What should I do?

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Parent Worried About Autism

Posted on 4/4/2021

4-year old, dad not involved since his birth. 8 months ago my child saw a video about pregnant ladies and since then he pretends to be pregnant. he knows he is a boy and that cannot happen but...

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How to request a consultation with John Rosemond

Posted on 4/1/2021

So my daughter and son-in-law have read the book John recommended and have agreed to a consultation with him. I will be paying for this consult. How do we proceed? He wanted to speak with both of...

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Door-slamming, Window-banging, Stuff-throwing: Is This What Little Boys are Made of?

Posted on 3/19/2021

I have a high misbehaver and he has been on the ticket system for many months with two target misbehaviors of disobedience and fighting with his brother. I need some advice of how to switch him...

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Put and End to Nagging Over Chores

Posted on 3/4/2021

Would love some feedback on chores for my 6 and 8 year olds. Every Saturday they are expected to each clean their own mirror and sink in the bathroom, clean either the play room or their bedroom...

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Can grandparents fix grandchildren?

Posted on 2/4/2021

One of my adult children and their spouse have chosen to never spank their children. I would characterize them as child focused, but do intervene and try correct bad behavior when it happens...

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Creating a Gratitude Attitude

Posted on 1/29/2021

My son is generally a good eater and has got out of bad behaviour when it comes to the food he is given because He doesn’t have to eat if he doesn’t want to, but he is not allowed to give his...

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Audio

Setting The Gate

Posted on 5/16/2014

Boundaries establish leadership.

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Seasons of Parenting Audio File

Posted on 1/1/2014

John Rosemond discusses the Seasons of Parenting that parents encounter and how your job as a parent changes throughout your child's life. Of course, John's typical common-sense and humourous...

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Parenting According to Grandma Audio File

Posted on 1/1/2014

You’ll enjoy a first-hand feel for John’s relaxed and humorous speaking style, plus you’ll come away with all the helpful, practical advice you need to restore commonsense and sanity to your ...

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Assuming the Power of Parenthood Audio File

Posted on 1/1/2011

This is one of John's most dynamic talks to date. If it's time for you to assume the power of parenthood in your life, this is the Audio to listen to!

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Parenting By The Book Audio File

Posted on 1/1/2010

*Contains Christian Content Parenting is not “psychological.” It is down-to-earth. It is common sense. Best of all, it is based on the Bible; God’s Word. Listen as John Rosemond presents a...

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Parenting the Strong Willed Child Audio File

Posted on 1/1/2010

John Rosemond shares his common sense approach to problems encountered by parents of children of all ages. This recording was produced in San Diego, CA, and is the newly updated audio version of...

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Leadership Parenting Audio File

Posted on 1/1/2008

In this talk, John Rosemond elaborates on Leadership speech, how important it is to your parenting and gives examples and gives real-life anecdotes, all in his typical humorous and...

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Videos

Parenting Retreat

Posted on 5/17/2014

What do past attendees say about John Rosemond's Parenting Retreats. For the next Retreat see Upcoming Events

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Tell

Posted on 5/16/2014

Tell: do you "Tell" your kids or do you ask, negotiate, beg, and scream.

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