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John's Most Recent Articles

The Realities of Parenting

Posted 1 week ago

PARENTING REALITY, PART ONE: It is all but inevitable that after rattling off a list of provocative, sociopathic stuff his or her child is doing and usually has been doing for quite some time, a...

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More Musings Over Morning Coffee

Posted 3 weeks ago

More musings over morning coffee: FROM THE TRUTH VS. “YOUR TRUTH” DEPARTMENT: The former is grounded in verifiable facts; the latter is the deceptive product of emotion. The...

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A Few Thoughts Over Morning Coffee

Posted on 9/18/2018

A few thoughts over morning coffee… From the Feedback Department: Certain recent columns of mine have drawn a spike in reader responses, both pro and con. My comments on the...

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The Problem of Parent-Child Codependency

Posted on 8/22/2018

An early childhood educator of thirty-eight years standing left a message asking if I had advice for encouraging cooperation from parents. She reports what every veteran teacher (defined as having...

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Putting Child First Can Ruin Marriage

Posted on 8/8/2018

Q: I am stepfather to my wife’s only child, age 8, from her first marriage. My wife always and in every way puts her son before our marriage. We went through counseling several years ago and...

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Friendship Isn't a Vital Aspect of Parenthood

Posted on 8/1/2018

When Baby Boomers get together we often talk about our observations of parenting in these postmodern times, one of which is that today’s parents seem, as a rule, to want to be liked by their...

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Kids Acting Up? Relax, It's Normal

Posted on 7/24/2018

Most of the stuff today's parents worry about - and let's face facts...the worrier in question, the worrier supreme, is almost always the mother (not because of some weakness, but simply because...

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Happy Campers: Why Summer Camps Are Good for Children

Posted on 7/17/2018

If your child isn't attending an organized camping program this summer, he or she may be missing out on opportunities for growth in a several areas. There are now more than 14,000 day and...

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Let’s Revisit ‘Psychological Thinking’

Posted on 7/17/2018

I call it “psychological thinking,” referring to the tendency among parents of the last fifty years or so to attribute bad behavior on the part of a child to so-called “issues” that are thought to...

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Adults, Children Must Maintain Relationship Boundaries

Posted on 6/20/2018

A column of mine that originally appeared in January of 2017 has been circulating on the Internet ever since, accumulating over a million hits to date. In a nutshell, its message is simply that...

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Recent Questions

Turn-around Time

Posted 3 weeks ago

What is the expected turn around time on having a question answered? I asked one a week ago and haven’t gotten a reply. Just making sure it didn’t get lost in the shuffle somewhere... thanks, Ashley

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Respecting family rules when out with other families' children do what they want

Posted 1 month ago

How can I make my child respect our own family rules in public when we're out with other parents and their children seem to do what they want? I don't want to be judgmental towards the other...

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Teaching a Child to Say "I'm Sorry"

Posted 1 month ago

How do I make my child say they're sorry when they hurt someone or did something wrong?

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Throwing fits at bedtime

Posted on 8/22/2018

Hello! Our eldest daughter started throwing wild tantrums when we put her to bed. Since 1.5 week after we go through our usual bedtime routine and when we are set to leave her room, she jumps...

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When discipline doesn't work

Posted on 8/8/2018

My son doesn't respond to most of the punishments we give because they have been given repeatedly. I have never sent him to bed without dinner, though there have been many times the situation was...

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Overwhelmed Mom wants to take back her authority, but can't stop yelling

Posted on 8/7/2018

My son is extremely defiant and NOTHING we have tried thus far has made a difference. Spanking him has to be done several times over, and is always accompanied by screaming, blaming, back-talk,...

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Nothing is new under the sun.

Posted on 8/2/2018

What is your opinion of the nurtured heart approach of parenting?

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What a healthy marriage looks like to a child

Posted on 7/7/2018

Dr. Rosemond, Could you please describe the qualities of a husband and wife marriage that increases a child’s respect for adult authority, and the most common pitfalls of marriage that erodes a...

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Looking for an article...

Posted on 6/3/2018

I would like a copy of the article written for the Naples Daily News on January 1, 2017. Can you tell me how to get it?

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Chore In-completion

Posted on 5/7/2018

Our son will not complete any chore he asked to do. He will start a chore, (cleaning fish tanks and cleaning horse stalls) after being told many times but he doesn't complete it thoroughly after...

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Audio

Setting The Gate

Posted on 5/16/2014

Boundaries establish leadership.

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Seasons of Parenting Audio File

Posted on 1/1/2014

John Rosemond discusses the Seasons of Parenting that parents encounter and how your job as a parent changes throughout your child's life. Of course, John's typical common-sense and humourous...

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Parenting According to Grandma Audio File

Posted on 1/1/2014

You’ll enjoy a first-hand feel for John’s relaxed and humorous speaking style, plus you’ll come away with all the helpful, practical advice you need to restore commonsense and sanity to your ...

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Assuming the Power of Parenthood Audio File

Posted on 1/1/2011

This is one of John's most dynamic talks to date. If it's time for you to assume the power of parenthood in your life, this is the Audio to listen to!

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Parenting By The Book Audio File

Posted on 1/1/2010

*Contains Christian Content Parenting is not “psychological.” It is down-to-earth. It is common sense. Best of all, it is based on the Bible; God’s Word. Listen as John Rosemond presents a...

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Parenting the Strong Willed Child Audio File

Posted on 1/1/2010

John Rosemond shares his common sense approach to problems encountered by parents of children of all ages. This recording was produced in San Diego, CA, and is the newly updated audio version of...

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Leadership Parenting Audio File

Posted on 1/1/2008

In this talk, John Rosemond elaborates on Leadership speech, how important it is to your parenting and gives examples and gives real-life anecdotes, all in his typical humorous and...

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Videos

Parenting Retreat

Posted on 5/17/2014

What do past attendees say about John Rosemond's Parenting Retreats. For the next Retreat see Upcoming Events

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Tell

Posted on 5/16/2014

Tell: do you "Tell" your kids or do you ask, negotiate, beg, and scream.

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Eighteen Years of Entitlement

Posted on 1/19/2010

In your parenting, your should have a vision and a plan to attain your vision. Are your children on a "Eighteen Year Entitlement Plan"?

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