Posted on 1/17/2018
Four sentences into her Wall Street Journal article on recent research into spanking (“Spanking for Misbehavior? It Causes More!” December 17, 2017), the author, Susan Pinker, makes two grievous...
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Recently, a mother asked how she and her husband could make their 16-year-old son stop talking disrespectfully to them. So far, she said, they'd complained, threatened and occasionally taken his...
Read MorePosted on 9/8/2015
Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our first, a girl, just turned three and has suddenly started throwing tantrums. She can begin a tantrum when she’s alone in her room if something...
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Q: I’ve been trying for two months with little to no success to get your “ticket” system to work on my 4-year-old daughter. The target behaviors are ignoring me when I tell her to do...
Read MorePosted on 4/28/2014
"Strikes" is a variation on Tickets for children six and older. You still need a short list of target misbehaviors, posted on the refrigerator or bulletin board (see the description and example of...
Read MorePosted on 4/28/2014
Daily and Weekly Report Cards are a variation on Daily and Weekly Charts, the difference being that they target school misbehavior and performance. Daily Report Cards are generally suitable for...
Read MorePosted on 4/28/2014
Shortly after I finished graduate school, a friend of mine shared with me a book called Indirect Hypnosis, written by Milton Erickson, a most unorthodox psychiatrist if ever there was one....
Read MorePosted on 4/28/2014
In football, "piling on" occurs when defensive players continue to fall on top of an offensive player after he's been tackled. Because it's unnecessary as well as dangerous, piling on is...
Read MorePosted on 4/28/2014
Occasionally a behavior problem is so BIG that nothing short of what I call "nuclear discipline" will do. Your great-grandparents called it "lowering the boom." Regardless of terminology, the...
Read MorePosted on 4/28/2014
I developed "Tickets" in response to the observation that time-out only works with children who are already fairly well behaved. (Then again, just about any demonstration of parental disapproval...
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My 5-year-old, who is an otherwise happy, well-behaved child, cries at the drop of a hat if she perceives something has gone wrong or may go wrong soon (especially if she can't find something)....
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Hello. Our daughter is turning three this week. She is starting to show some resistance to my and my husband's authority. Usually this noncompliance involves refusing to pick up toys before bed,...
Read MorePosted 2 weeks ago
We have 2 children, 5 years old and 2.5 years old. Both kids have had the same nanny since our oldest was 6 months old. She is wonderful and caring, loves the kids and is very dependable and good...
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This week I had a friend of mine and her child come to stay at my home from out of town. My 3 year old son and her son are the same age, and they have been enjoying playing together. On the third...
Read MorePosted on 3/21/2018
My 3 year old child started the ticket system with 5 tickets in October of 2017. By January of 2018 we had a changed child on our hands and we were able to put away the ticket system. All of...
Read MorePosted on 3/14/2018
I'm not sure how to handle a conflict between my two toddler boys. The younger one has a life mission of provoking the older to get into trouble or start a fight with him and will then play the...
Read MorePosted on 3/10/2018
Our 5 year old has been having a problem with thinking he can take things that belong to others in the house. Recently we found a pack of gum that we do not remember purchasing. We are pretty...
Read MorePosted on 3/8/2018
I'm preparing using the tickets system with my son who will be 4 years old in 2 months. He is very defiant, so I would like his 1 misbehavior that we focus on first to be Doing What He's Told. But...
Read MorePosted on 2/23/2018
What do I do when I kick my kids (6, 5, and 4) out of the garden and the LIKE it!! All three of my girls are upstairs in their room laughing and jumping on their beds. I took their bed frames...
Read MorePosted on 2/23/2018
Where do we start? We have 3 girls age 6, 5, and 4. They are ALL out of control. Reading through the Well Behaved Child I'm overwhelmed with all the methods. My husband and I have started...
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