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John's Most Recent Articles

Co-Sleeping Is Detrimental to Marriage

Posted 1 week ago

A New York writer named Jonathan Daniel Stern, writing in the August 7, 2019, issue of the e-zine “Fatherly,” laments that co-sleeping has destroyed his marriage. As best as I can figure, Stern...

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Comfort, Not Counseling, Is the Treatment for Nightmares

Posted on 12/21/2016

Q: Our 5-year-old has suddenly started waking up with nightmares. He's not able to describe them with any clarity, however, so we don't know what the content of them is. The most he's able to...

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Rescue Yourself and Your Child With Bedtime Routine

Posted on 5/11/2016

Q: My daughter, who just turned three, has a surge of energy after dinner and can take hours to fall asleep. I try putting her down around 8 o’clock, but there are nights when she doesn’t fall...

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More on Attachment Parenting

Posted on 8/18/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond In a recent column, I referred to “attachment parenting babble,” which is to say, I called a spade a spade. The column in question concerned...

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Making a Change

Posted on 8/4/2015

This is a story about how quickly parents, if they are determined enough, can make significant change in parenting policy. The family in question consists of two boys, ages 9 and 8,...

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Bedtime Fears

Posted on 3/10/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: About six months ago, our four-year old daughter began complaining of being afraid to be alone at bedtime. Upon questioning, she told us she was...

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Teens & Sleep

Posted on 9/2/2014

New research finds that teens whose school days begin later than the national norm of approximately eight o’clock achieve at higher levels than teens who start school earlier. The researchers in...

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"The Doctor" Makes House Calls

Posted on 4/28/2014

Shortly after I finished graduate school, a friend of mine shared with me a book called Indirect Hypnosis, written by Milton Erickson, a most unorthodox psychiatrist if ever there was one....

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Too Old to Cuddle?

Posted on 4/15/2014

Q: My 11-year old son, an only child, continues to ask me to "snuggle" with him and scratch his back at bed time. This is a time for us to read aloud, chat about concerns or questions, and say...

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3 Year Old has bedtime problems

Posted on 1/22/2013

Q: For the past several weeks, our just-turned 3-year-old has been waking up and coming into our room at all hours of the night with the usual excuses. He's scared, hungry, thirsty, lonely, can't...

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Recent Questions

Stay The Course and Work On One New Behavior at at Time

Posted 1 week ago

2-yo Bedtime Tyrant. I have been doing exactly what you guys told me. she still wakes up at night finds herself on her bed, she goes down again to sleep on the floor behind the door, I keep...

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Sleeping in your own bed.

Posted 1 week ago

Our 11 year old son has been afraid of sleeping in his room alone for essentially since he moved from his crib to a big bed. He and his older sister (now 13) shared a bedroom for several years...

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Don't give up!

Posted 1 week ago

Few days ago, I posted a question regarding my 23 month old who is strongly refusing to sleep on her own, and Kaye Wilson answered my question under the 2-yo Bedtime Tyrant title. I have been...

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2-yo Bedtime Tyrant

Posted 2 weeks ago

We are having a serious problem with my toddler, my third child, 23 month old, who is a totally different character and personality than my other two. We were on a vacation /trip on July, we...

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The way we were

Posted 3 weeks ago

My twin boys are 5. Our bedtime routine consists of dinner, bath, pjs, I read one book each then lights off and goodnight. It used to work good but then the boys got sick and kept passing strep...

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Getting Back on Track

Posted on 6/20/2019

Two weeks ago, our power went out at 3 am and the bang of the transformer blowing jolted everyone awake. Since then, our son (5.5 years old) has called us into his room in the middle of the night...

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Nap Time With Twins

Posted on 6/9/2019

Hello. I have twins who are 20 months old. At nap time and bed time, one twin falls asleep readily. However, the other twin fights sleep. She doesn't cry or seem too upset. She just sits...

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The 2 Year Old Bedtime Staller

Posted on 5/15/2019

Hi! My 22 month old daughter had started displaying stalling tactics to avoid bedtime and other undesirable activities. She wants to kiss all her toys goodnight, attempts to give more kisses and...

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Fear Of Bugs

Posted on 5/10/2019

First of all, thank you for all of the advice you've given me on my last questions. Most of it has worked well. My 4 year old daughter has recently developed a fear of bugs. Every night at...

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3 Year Old Delaying Bedtime with Potty Breaks

Posted on 4/25/2019

Hello, my three year old has always slept well through the night and became potty trained pretty quickly. Unfortunately, until recently, he asks to use the restroom 2-3 times a night. He refuses...

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