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John's Most Recent Articles

Comfort, Not Counseling, Is the Treatment for Nightmares

Posted on 12/21/2016

Q: Our 5-year-old has suddenly started waking up with nightmares. He's not able to describe them with any clarity, however, so we don't know what the content of them is. The most he's able to...

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Rescue Yourself and Your Child With Bedtime Routine

Posted on 5/11/2016

Q: My daughter, who just turned three, has a surge of energy after dinner and can take hours to fall asleep. I try putting her down around 8 o’clock, but there are nights when she doesn’t fall...

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More on Attachment Parenting

Posted on 8/18/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond In a recent column, I referred to “attachment parenting babble,” which is to say, I called a spade a spade. The column in question concerned...

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Making a Change

Posted on 8/4/2015

This is a story about how quickly parents, if they are determined enough, can make significant change in parenting policy. The family in question consists of two boys, ages 9 and 8,...

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Bedtime Fears

Posted on 3/10/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: About six months ago, our four-year old daughter began complaining of being afraid to be alone at bedtime. Upon questioning, she told us she was...

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Teens & Sleep

Posted on 9/2/2014

New research finds that teens whose school days begin later than the national norm of approximately eight o’clock achieve at higher levels than teens who start school earlier. The researchers in...

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"The Doctor" Makes House Calls

Posted on 4/28/2014

Shortly after I finished graduate school, a friend of mine shared with me a book called Indirect Hypnosis, written by Milton Erickson, a most unorthodox psychiatrist if ever there was one....

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Too Old to Cuddle?

Posted on 4/15/2014

Q: My 11-year old son, an only child, continues to ask me to "snuggle" with him and scratch his back at bed time. This is a time for us to read aloud, chat about concerns or questions, and say...

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3 Year Old has bedtime problems

Posted on 1/22/2013

Q: For the past several weeks, our just-turned 3-year-old has been waking up and coming into our room at all hours of the night with the usual excuses. He's scared, hungry, thirsty, lonely, can't...

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3-Year-Old Boys Bedtime Issues

Posted on 10/18/2011

How to quiet down boys' bedtime antics Q: My twin boys will be 3 next month. They sleep in the same room. They've recently taken to getting out of their beds (together, although one seems to be...

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Recent Questions

Lights Out for 16 Year Old?

Posted 2 days ago

Is it unreasonable to tell a 16-year-old boy he should have 'lights out' by 10:00? He works hard on school, despite not liking it, but often stays up until 1 or 2 a.m. doing homework or reading. ...

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Lost tickets by bedtime

Posted 3 weeks ago

We are creating the ticket system and one of our items is bedtime. We have lots of problems at bedtime. (Shower, PJ's, Teeth, Hair, Book, Bed) My concern is that the day is over so there is...

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Help With Teenage Bedtime/Curfew

Posted 1 month, 1 day ago

I have a 15-year-old son who thinks he should be able to stay up until midnight during the weekday during school and have NO bedtime (curfew) on weekends! I totally disagree. His hours now are...

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Posted on 2/15/2018

When is the best time to transition my 2 year old from his crib to a bed? I’ve read that some parents let their children play in their rooms ... what is the balance between too much playing and...

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Sleep troubles with 5 yo

Posted on 1/31/2018

My 5 year old daughter has always been an excellent sleeper. We have never had a problem with the bedtime routine. She has always gone to sleep rather quickly without any issues. Within the last...

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Ticket System Questions

Posted on 1/12/2018

We are using the ticket system with our four year old son. Right now we are working on him being obedient and doing what we say to do when we say to do it. We run into problems when there is a...

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Revisiting Sleeping Dilemma with 9 Year Old

Posted on 12/21/2017

Hi. Can I use the ticket system for a 9yr old boy who won't sleep in his own bed? And can you tell me how the ticket system works? Thank You

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Sharing rooms...

Posted on 12/10/2017

Our 5 year-old daughter and 2 year-old son share a bedroom. By what age is it no longer appropriate for them to share? Our house has only two bedrooms, but we do have a plan in mind as to how...

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Preschoolers Early Risers

Posted on 12/6/2017

Our two older children, ages 4 and nearly 3, share a bedroom. In the mornings they like to get up very early (5am) and play together. My husband and I usually get up multiple times to tell them to...

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Mornings with a Grumpy Toddler

Posted on 11/20/2017

We have a 27 month old boy who wakes up grumpy every morning. He sleeps well all night long after going to bed around 7:30pm and wakes up at 6am. It takes him 20-30 minutes for him to be happy in...

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