"A child without rules is like a fish out of water. "

Bedtime/Sleep

John's Most Recent Articles

When It Comes to Phases, Don't Make Mountains out of Molehills

Posted on 2/25/2020

Q: Our daughter, our first and only, is just short of three-and-one-half. She has recently started coming into our room in the middle of the night and making a request of one sort or another. She...

Read More

Co-Sleeping Is Detrimental to Marriage

Posted on 9/11/2019

A New York writer named Jonathan Daniel Stern, writing in the August 7, 2019, issue of the e-zine “Fatherly,” laments that co-sleeping has destroyed his marriage. As best as I can figure, Stern...

Read More

Comfort, Not Counseling, Is the Treatment for Nightmares

Posted on 12/21/2016

Q: Our 5-year-old has suddenly started waking up with nightmares. He's not able to describe them with any clarity, however, so we don't know what the content of them is. The most he's able to...

Read More

Rescue Yourself and Your Child With Bedtime Routine

Posted on 5/11/2016

Q: My daughter, who just turned three, has a surge of energy after dinner and can take hours to fall asleep. I try putting her down around 8 o’clock, but there are nights when she doesn’t fall...

Read More

More on Attachment Parenting

Posted on 8/18/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond In a recent column, I referred to “attachment parenting babble,” which is to say, I called a spade a spade. The column in question concerned...

Read More

Making a Change

Posted on 8/4/2015

This is a story about how quickly parents, if they are determined enough, can make significant change in parenting policy. The family in question consists of two boys, ages 9 and 8,...

Read More

Bedtime Fears

Posted on 3/10/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: About six months ago, our four-year old daughter began complaining of being afraid to be alone at bedtime. Upon questioning, she told us she was...

Read More

Teens & Sleep

Posted on 9/2/2014

New research finds that teens whose school days begin later than the national norm of approximately eight o’clock achieve at higher levels than teens who start school earlier. The researchers in...

Read More

"The Doctor" Makes House Calls

Posted on 4/28/2014

Shortly after I finished graduate school, a friend of mine shared with me a book called Indirect Hypnosis, written by Milton Erickson, a most unorthodox psychiatrist if ever there was one....

Read More

Too Old to Cuddle?

Posted on 4/15/2014

Q: My 11-year old son, an only child, continues to ask me to "snuggle" with him and scratch his back at bed time. This is a time for us to read aloud, chat about concerns or questions, and say...

Read More
View All Articles

Recent Questions

Potty Training Regression and Coronavirus

Posted 5 days ago

My 3 year old potty trained very fast right after his 3rd birthday. He has not had a problem being dry overnight, so we have always just used underwear. He’s been potty trained 3 months. Because...

Read More

Same bedtime for the children

Posted 2 weeks ago

Our 4 year old, and 20 month year old boys share a room. We want to do the 5 minute check in with our 20 month old to get him to sleep in his crib, and not in our bed. However, the 4 year old...

Read More

Nap time becomes resting time

Posted 2 weeks ago

My 20 month old will not take naps, unless he is nursing on me and falls asleep. Then he wants to only sleep on me, or he wakes up crying. He has done this is full like span. I am exhausted,...

Read More

Nursing at bedtime

Posted 2 weeks ago

We have four children ages 10, 6, 4, and 20 months. The 20 month year old will not go to sleep by himself. I am nursing him to sleep at night. I need him to just go to sleep in his crib, so I...

Read More

Are Family Beds Healthy for the Marriage?

Posted on 2/8/2020

John's "Thought of the Day" said that good parents take very good care of their marriage. I wonder how he feels about "co-sleeping" with a new baby and if that is harmful to the marriage. I want...

Read More

Family beds - are they healthy?

Posted on 2/3/2020

John's thought of the day saying that good parents take very good care of their marriage! I am wondering how he feels about "co sleeping" w/ a new baby, if that is harmful to the marriage or not....

Read More

Exhausted no more

Posted on 1/28/2020

Hello! Our youngest daughter (2.5 yrs) has for a long time been an early riser. It used to be 6am but now sometimes could also be 5:30am. The early mornings are exhausting us a little;...

Read More

Changed my mind

Posted on 1/19/2020

Hello! Our second daughter (2.5 yrs) says no to certain things, e.g. I do not want to have the blankets on at bedtime, or no I am not finishing my dinner, or no I am not going outside. We tell...

Read More

Solving Baby Sleep Issue

Posted on 1/18/2020

Not sure if this is your expertise or not but our 10 month old has been giving us some grief at night with sleep. He generally does okay when we let him cry to sleep but some nights he wakes up...

Read More

A Toddler Terror

Posted on 1/2/2020

Hi! After raising four children myself, I can say that my 2.5 year old grandson, Hudson, is on the far end of the active, aggressive, physical, energetic, testing, bouncing-off-the-walls and...

Read More
View All Questions