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Bedtime/Sleep

John's Most Recent Articles

Comfort, Not Counseling, Is the Treatment for Nightmares

Posted on 12/21/2016

Q: Our 5-year-old has suddenly started waking up with nightmares. He's not able to describe them with any clarity, however, so we don't know what the content of them is. The most he's able to...

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Rescue Yourself and Your Child With Bedtime Routine

Posted on 5/11/2016

Q: My daughter, who just turned three, has a surge of energy after dinner and can take hours to fall asleep. I try putting her down around 8 o’clock, but there are nights when she doesn’t fall...

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More on Attachment Parenting

Posted on 8/18/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond In a recent column, I referred to “attachment parenting babble,” which is to say, I called a spade a spade. The column in question concerned...

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Making a Change

Posted on 8/4/2015

This is a story about how quickly parents, if they are determined enough, can make significant change in parenting policy. The family in question consists of two boys, ages 9 and 8,...

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Bedtime Fears

Posted on 3/10/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: About six months ago, our four-year old daughter began complaining of being afraid to be alone at bedtime. Upon questioning, she told us she was...

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Teens & Sleep

Posted on 9/2/2014

New research finds that teens whose school days begin later than the national norm of approximately eight o’clock achieve at higher levels than teens who start school earlier. The researchers in...

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"The Doctor" Makes House Calls

Posted on 4/28/2014

Shortly after I finished graduate school, a friend of mine shared with me a book called Indirect Hypnosis, written by Milton Erickson, a most unorthodox psychiatrist if ever there was one....

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Too Old to Cuddle?

Posted on 4/15/2014

Q: My 11-year old son, an only child, continues to ask me to "snuggle" with him and scratch his back at bed time. This is a time for us to read aloud, chat about concerns or questions, and say...

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3 Year Old has bedtime problems

Posted on 1/22/2013

Q: For the past several weeks, our just-turned 3-year-old has been waking up and coming into our room at all hours of the night with the usual excuses. He's scared, hungry, thirsty, lonely, can't...

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3-Year-Old Boys Bedtime Issues

Posted on 10/18/2011

How to quiet down boys' bedtime antics Q: My twin boys will be 3 next month. They sleep in the same room. They've recently taken to getting out of their beds (together, although one seems to be...

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Recent Questions

Fear Of Bugs

Posted 1 week ago

First of all, thank you for all of the advice you've given me on my last questions. Most of it has worked well. My 4 year old daughter has recently developed a fear of bugs. Every night at...

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3 Year Old Delaying Bedtime with Potty Breaks

Posted 3 weeks ago

Hello, my three year old has always slept well through the night and became potty trained pretty quickly. Unfortunately, until recently, he asks to use the restroom 2-3 times a night. He refuses...

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LOVE and LEAD, Even at Bedtime

Posted on 4/5/2019

Good morning, I need some advice on sleep for my 4 year old. She goes to daycare during the day. They make the children take a 2 hour nap. She does not nap on the weekends. We are struggling...

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Strike a Balance

Posted on 3/26/2019

I’m having a difficult time with my nearly 6 year old son. It feels like we are butting heads all of the time. He has become increasingly more sensitive lately. Throwing huge tantrums, crying over...

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3 Year Old Terror at Bedtime 'Part 2'

Posted on 3/13/2019

My 3 year old daughter continues to yell and scream at the top of her lungs at bedtime if someone does not lay with her. I will kiss, hug, tuck her in and then leave. Before I'm out the door,...

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Nighttime Potty Training

Posted on 3/13/2019

I have decided to start potty training my 18 month old daughter soon using the N75 method. I feel pretty prepared but my question is around sleeping. She currently sleeps in a crib and I don't...

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Meaningful or Logical?

Posted on 3/1/2019

Having a hard time with my 3.5 year old boy and what would be a logical consequence - every morning and after nap time he struggles with getting out of bed reasonably. He usually wails and...

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Putting Night Terrors To Bed

Posted on 2/20/2019

My 7 year old daughter is scared of dying, similar to the story John tells of his daughter, Amy, when she was young. The fears come at bedtime. I don't know if Amy did this, but our Irene says...

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Early Bird Turns Cranky

Posted on 2/12/2019

Good Evening, Our seven year old son has always been up with the birds (in WA that is anywhere between 4.30am-5.00am). On the plus side, he goes to sleep at 6.30pm without any trouble. We have...

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Shhh! She's Reading...

Posted on 2/1/2019

We have been reading to our 14 month old daughter since 2 months of age. She has a bookshelf full of board books that she likes to flip through during the day and prefers them to toys. Our...

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