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John's Most Recent Articles

When It Comes to Phases, Don't Make Mountains out of Molehills

Posted on 2/25/2020

Q: Our daughter, our first and only, is just short of three-and-one-half. She has recently started coming into our room in the middle of the night and making a request of one sort or another. She...

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Co-Sleeping Is Detrimental to Marriage

Posted on 9/11/2019

A New York writer named Jonathan Daniel Stern, writing in the August 7, 2019, issue of the e-zine “Fatherly,” laments that co-sleeping has destroyed his marriage. As best as I can figure, Stern...

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Comfort, Not Counseling, Is the Treatment for Nightmares

Posted on 12/21/2016

Q: Our 5-year-old has suddenly started waking up with nightmares. He's not able to describe them with any clarity, however, so we don't know what the content of them is. The most he's able to...

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Rescue Yourself and Your Child With Bedtime Routine

Posted on 5/11/2016

Q: My daughter, who just turned three, has a surge of energy after dinner and can take hours to fall asleep. I try putting her down around 8 o’clock, but there are nights when she doesn’t fall...

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More on Attachment Parenting

Posted on 8/18/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond In a recent column, I referred to “attachment parenting babble,” which is to say, I called a spade a spade. The column in question concerned...

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Making a Change

Posted on 8/4/2015

This is a story about how quickly parents, if they are determined enough, can make significant change in parenting policy. The family in question consists of two boys, ages 9 and 8,...

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Bedtime Fears

Posted on 3/10/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: About six months ago, our four-year old daughter began complaining of being afraid to be alone at bedtime. Upon questioning, she told us she was...

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Teens & Sleep

Posted on 9/2/2014

New research finds that teens whose school days begin later than the national norm of approximately eight o’clock achieve at higher levels than teens who start school earlier. The researchers in...

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"The Doctor" Makes House Calls

Posted on 4/28/2014

Shortly after I finished graduate school, a friend of mine shared with me a book called Indirect Hypnosis, written by Milton Erickson, a most unorthodox psychiatrist if ever there was one....

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Too Old to Cuddle?

Posted on 4/15/2014

Q: My 11-year old son, an only child, continues to ask me to "snuggle" with him and scratch his back at bed time. This is a time for us to read aloud, chat about concerns or questions, and say...

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Recent Questions

The Bedtime Snack Dilemma

Posted 1 week ago

Hi! Lately my children (ages 5, 8, and 10) have started saying they’re hungry again an hour after dinner and right before bed. I’m certain it’s not a bedtime delay strategy because they still do...

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Alpha Speech is Needed - 3 Year Old Never Satisfied

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hello, We have 3yo twins, boy and girl. So let’s say there are good days and bad days: good days means he is in good mood, smiling, playing, and behaving - this is 20-30% of the time. The bad...

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Nap Time and Potty Training

Posted on 11/22/2020

When potty training, you say in your book to put diapers on them at nighttime at first, while trying diaperless a couple of nights a week. So, what do I do at nap time? My twin boys are 29 months...

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Two-Year-Old Shows His Ugly Side

Posted on 11/20/2020

My 24 month old is usually pretty good. I previously used time outs to train him out of hitting and food throwing. However, he will get into this “drunk” state, where he is simultaneously...

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20 Month Son Only Wants Mama

Posted on 11/18/2020

Recently my son (20 months old) is reluctant to do anything without me. He cries the whole time if my husband takes him to a park. And earlier today he refused to go outside in our front yard with...

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Transitions Require Planning and Patience

Posted on 9/30/2020

Here's a question about a 1-year-old who has always slept in his mom's bed and got to breastfeed as often as he likes: How to get him to sleep in a crib? We live in a two-bedroom apartment with...

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8 Year-Old's Anxiety Impacting Everyone's Sleep

Posted on 9/27/2020

My 8 year old has become anxious and it is impacting sleep. The anxiety appeared as school was approaching with precautions for covid and we prepared to sell our house. After a few nights of...

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Curing the Bedtime Blues

Posted on 9/7/2020

Our almost 2.5-year-old daughter started to refuse to go to sleep. She doesn’t take naps at home anymore (only at daycare) and was fully sleep trained before age one. It all started with her...

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Night Owl Habit

Posted on 8/28/2020

Still a daily struggle here and school is about to start. I gave in and allowed the computer back, but I cannot get this kid on a schedule of getting up for the day and sleeping at night. He is...

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Toddler Wakes Up Multiple Times A Night...Exhausting!

Posted on 7/25/2020

My three year old has been up 6+ times in the night. It always starts out with him yelling "mama!" I've tried ignoring him but he wont stop until I come in and we live in close quarters and I cant...

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