"The ultimate goal of raising children is to help them out of our lives and into successful lives of their own. "

Preschool (4-5 years)

John's Most Recent Articles

The Pre-K Debate

Posted on 8/28/2018

It has long been known, but only spoken of in hushed tones by university professors sitting in darkened rooms wearing Fat Elvis masks, that pre-Kindergarten “jump-start” (aka, “push-down”)...

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Use Patient Guidance With Son Who Prefers Solitary Play

Posted on 6/7/2017

Q: Our 4-year-old prefers solitary play over play with other children. It’s been this way from early on when I began arranging play dates for him. When those really didn’t work, I enrolled him in...

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Comfort, Not Counseling, Is the Treatment for Nightmares

Posted on 12/21/2016

Q: Our 5-year-old has suddenly started waking up with nightmares. He's not able to describe them with any clarity, however, so we don't know what the content of them is. The most he's able to...

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Use Godfather Principle to Nip Fear of Doctor in the Bud

Posted on 9/20/2016

Q: Over the past year or so, our 5-year-old has developed an extreme fear of going to the doctor or dentist. This came on suddenly, without a precipitating incident. The crying begins when we...

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Selecting the Right Private School

Posted on 8/16/2016

Q: We are looking for a private school for our 4-year-old. Regardless of the school we ultimately choose, we want to keep him there through eighth grade at least. We live in an suburban area so...

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Approaches to Dinner with 4-year-old

Posted on 7/14/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our 4-year-old daughter will not eat dinner, no matter what. At most, she takes a few bites of what I fix and then says she doesn’t like it. This has...

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Bedtime Fears

Posted on 3/10/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: About six months ago, our four-year old daughter began complaining of being afraid to be alone at bedtime. Upon questioning, she told us she was...

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Losing Tickets on the Ticket System

Posted on 12/16/2014

Q: I’ve been trying for two months with little to no success to get your “ticket” system to work on my 4-year-old daughter. The target behaviors are ignoring me when I tell her to do...

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Newly Academic Nature of Most Preschools

Posted on 11/25/2014

Courtesy of my friend and parent coach Janet Carter (www.ourchildishways.com), comes an interesting story: The parents of a 4-year-old girl went to a preschool parent conference to...

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Simple Curiosity?

Posted on 8/19/2014

Q: Our 5-year-old grandson sees his 5-year-old female first cousin from time to time. After they play for a while, he tells her he wants to “touch” her. This has happened twice in recent...

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Recent Questions

Sibling Rivalry

Posted 3 days ago

my daughters, age 5 and 2, constantly fight. I agree siblings need to settle their own quarrels; however, my 2 year old is still physically agressive (pulling hair, hitting), and sometimes I...

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Concerns from a Grandmother

Posted 5 days ago

I would like for Dr Rosemond to respond with his advice on a question I have already submitted 3 times concerning my 4 year old granddaughter. I understand the first two responses I received but...

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Youngsters 3.5 and 5.5 yo disturbing the peace

Posted 1 week ago

I have three boys, 5.5 and 3.5 years old, and an 8-month-old baby. The older two share a bedroom and are homeschooled. When they are not doing an instructed activity or chore, they disturb the...

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Separate but Equal

Posted 1 week ago

I have an introverted, sensitive (gentle and kind) four-year-old son and an extroverted, physically rambunctious two-year-old son. The two year old is physically aggressive (biting and hitting)...

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Are you equipped for change?

Posted 2 weeks ago

My daughter turned 4 this week. She is sweet and doesn’t require tons of discipline for the most part ( although the last two weeks have proven differently). It’s like she woke up a different...

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Suddenly defiant.

Posted 2 weeks ago

My daughter turned 4 this week. She is sweet and doesn’t require tons of discipline for the most part ( although the last two weeks have proven differently). It’s like she woke up a different...

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It's never too late for those who are aware!

Posted 2 weeks ago

I have been battling with my 4.5yr old son for a solid 2 years now. He hits, yells, and doesn’t listen to instructions even after multiple request. I have received advice from previous questions...

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Mom, the Meanie...

Posted 2 weeks ago

My 4yr old son recently has been saying to me he wants a new mom. This started after he was disciplined got mad at me and said I was a mean mom. How should I address this issue when my son says...

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Hitting plus tantrums

Posted 2 weeks ago

HI there, we've been intensively working with our now 4.5 year old boy who had many, many behavioural problems. He is now much more cooperative after sessions with a good parent coach. However,...

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Remove 5-Year-Old From Center Stage

Posted 2 weeks ago

For the first five years of our daughter’s life, we have made the mistake of being a child centered family. She now does not listen to, or respect adults. How do we make the change now to be a...

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