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Preschool (4-5 years)

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Use Patient Guidance With Son Who Prefers Solitary Play

Posted on 6/7/2017

Q: Our 4-year-old prefers solitary play over play with other children. It’s been this way from early on when I began arranging play dates for him. When those really didn’t work, I enrolled him in...

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Comfort, Not Counseling, Is the Treatment for Nightmares

Posted on 12/21/2016

Q: Our 5-year-old has suddenly started waking up with nightmares. He's not able to describe them with any clarity, however, so we don't know what the content of them is. The most he's able to...

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Use Godfather Principle to Nip Fear of Doctor in the Bud

Posted on 9/20/2016

Q: Over the past year or so, our 5-year-old has developed an extreme fear of going to the doctor or dentist. This came on suddenly, without a precipitating incident. The crying begins when we...

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Selecting the Right Private School

Posted on 8/16/2016

Q: We are looking for a private school for our 4-year-old. Regardless of the school we ultimately choose, we want to keep him there through eighth grade at least. We live in an suburban area so...

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Approaches to Dinner with 4-year-old

Posted on 7/14/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our 4-year-old daughter will not eat dinner, no matter what. At most, she takes a few bites of what I fix and then says she doesn’t like it. This has...

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Bedtime Fears

Posted on 3/10/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: About six months ago, our four-year old daughter began complaining of being afraid to be alone at bedtime. Upon questioning, she told us she was...

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Losing Tickets on the Ticket System

Posted on 12/16/2014

Q: I’ve been trying for two months with little to no success to get your “ticket” system to work on my 4-year-old daughter. The target behaviors are ignoring me when I tell her to do...

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Newly Academic Nature of Most Preschools

Posted on 11/25/2014

Courtesy of my friend and parent coach Janet Carter (www.ourchildishways.com), comes an interesting story: The parents of a 4-year-old girl went to a preschool parent conference to...

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Simple Curiosity?

Posted on 8/19/2014

Q: Our 5-year-old grandson sees his 5-year-old female first cousin from time to time. After they play for a while, he tells her he wants to “touch” her. This has happened twice in recent...

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Sassy Children

Posted on 7/8/2014

Q: The "sassiness" that I have heard so much about from my friends started a few months ago with my 5-year-old daughter. She will say things to me that I actually find myself tongue-tied on how or...

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Recent Questions

3 year old boy should keep his lovie

Posted 2 days ago

I have read "The Well Behaved Child" and I have been implementing the ticket system for three days with my three year old son. Today he lost all of his tickets after a complete melt-down at...

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Ill-Behaved Grandchildren

Posted 3 weeks ago

My 4 yr old grandson is already in trouble in school for bullying. A classmate didn't want to go to school because he was afraid he was going to get hurt by my grandson again, who has apparently...

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6 year old boy with an attitude

Posted 3 weeks ago

We are having a hard time with our almost 6 year old son. This summer we started him on tickets for whining and not listening. Quickly the focus became on not listening only. It worked for a while...

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5 yo lying with no remorse

Posted 4 weeks ago

We have a 5 year old daughter we are fostering. She's been with us for a little over 2 months. She is pleasant enough, but she has no remorse for things she does wrong (big or little). We've been...

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Kindergartner frustrated by new immersion class

Posted on 9/11/2017

My 5 1/2 year old boy is having a hard time transitioning into a spanish immersion kindergarten. He's acting out by being very disruptive and sometimes "play hitting"/horsing around. We had...

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13 year old, 5 year old Squabbles

Posted on 9/9/2017

Hi ☺my question is about sibling conflict between my thirteen-year-old daughter and five-year-old son. They are constantly fighting! And they are basically just rude and disrespectful towards each...

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Off to a rocky start at Kindergarten!

Posted on 9/1/2017

For the 3rd time in 8 days my 5 year old has come home from Kindergarten with a bad report from the teacher. She's at a Catholic school, which we are very happy with, but she just can't seem to...

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When grandma interferes...

Posted on 8/31/2017

My parents live a few doors down from us and they and my kids (2 and 4) are all crazy about each other and love to spend time together. However, my mother has often tried to undermine my authority...

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Mealtime Meltdowns Revisited

Posted on 8/23/2017

This is a follow up question to a previously asked question about my daughter's eating habits at breakfast. Things have gotten off track a bit with the start of Kindergarten for my son. Now that...

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Questions about the Ticket System

Posted on 8/21/2017

A couple of months ago, we started the ticket system on our 5 year old son. It has worked relatively well. There are 2 target behaviors: whining and not listening when he is asked to do...

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