"How do you get a child to do what he's told the first time he's told? Don't ever repeat yourself. "

Preschool (4-5 years)

John's Most Recent Articles

A Proven Solution to 5-Year-Old’s Eating ‘Issues’

Posted on 3/12/2019

Q: My 5-year-old has had eating issues since he was an infant. When I introduced solid food at six months, he began rejecting most vegetables. His feeding problems have worsened since then to the...

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The Great Pre-K Debate

Posted on 8/28/2018

It has long been known, but only spoken of in hushed tones by university professors sitting in darkened rooms wearing Fat Elvis masks, that pre-Kindergarten “jump-start” (aka, “push-down”)...

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Use Patient Guidance With Son Who Prefers Solitary Play

Posted on 6/7/2017

Q: Our 4-year-old prefers solitary play over play with other children. It’s been this way from early on when I began arranging play dates for him. When those really didn’t work, I enrolled him in...

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Comfort, Not Counseling, Is the Treatment for Nightmares

Posted on 12/21/2016

Q: Our 5-year-old has suddenly started waking up with nightmares. He's not able to describe them with any clarity, however, so we don't know what the content of them is. The most he's able to...

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Use Godfather Principle to Nip Fear of Doctor in the Bud

Posted on 9/20/2016

Q: Over the past year or so, our 5-year-old has developed an extreme fear of going to the doctor or dentist. This came on suddenly, without a precipitating incident. The crying begins when we...

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Selecting the Right Private School

Posted on 8/16/2016

Q: We are looking for a private school for our 4-year-old. Regardless of the school we ultimately choose, we want to keep him there through eighth grade at least. We live in an suburban area so...

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Approaches to Dinner with 4-year-old

Posted on 7/14/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our 4-year-old daughter will not eat dinner, no matter what. At most, she takes a few bites of what I fix and then says she doesn’t like it. This has...

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Bedtime Fears

Posted on 3/10/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: About six months ago, our four-year old daughter began complaining of being afraid to be alone at bedtime. Upon questioning, she told us she was...

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Losing Tickets on the Ticket System

Posted on 12/16/2014

Q: I’ve been trying for two months with little to no success to get your “ticket” system to work on my 4-year-old daughter. The target behaviors are ignoring me when I tell her to do...

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Newly Academic Nature of Most Preschools

Posted on 11/25/2014

Courtesy of my friend and parent coach Janet Carter (www.ourchildishways.com), comes an interesting story: The parents of a 4-year-old girl went to a preschool parent conference to...

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Recent Questions

5 year old still pooping in his underwear

Posted 1 week ago

My 5.5 yo son poops in his underwear regularly, a couple of times a week. He is also responsible for cleaning it up every time. Other than pitching an obligatory fit, he doesn't seem to mind that....

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LOVE and LEAD, Even at Bedtime

Posted 3 weeks ago

Good morning, I need some advice on sleep for my 4 year old. She goes to daycare during the day. They make the children take a 2 hour nap. She does not nap on the weekends. We are struggling...

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Get Off the Repeating Merry-go-round

Posted 3 weeks ago

When I am telling my children to do smth, or not to do, I have to repeat it many times. I have to raise my voice, but I hate to scream. Or when I tell my son to do smth, he would repeat after me...

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Helping the Shy Child

Posted 3 weeks ago

Hello! Our oldest daughter is going on 4 next month. She has always been on the quiet side. The last week few weeks I have noticed that when we receive company or we go visit others that she...

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Distractible Kids - Frustrated Mom

Posted 3 weeks ago

Dear Rosemond and team, Im still having a tough time with the kids. I'll just write 2 questions in one - My almost 5 year old finally earned his 30 stickers (from no tantrums + aggression)..now...

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Strike a Balance

Posted on 3/26/2019

I’m having a difficult time with my nearly 6 year old son. It feels like we are butting heads all of the time. He has become increasingly more sensitive lately. Throwing huge tantrums, crying over...

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5 year old loves/hates martial arts class

Posted on 3/23/2019

My 5.5 year old son gets really angry before going to his martial arts class, which he loves. In the past 2 weeks he has thrown huge fits, soaked his uniform in the sink (he had to go to class...

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Sneaky Pooper

Posted on 3/21/2019

I submitted a question a short time ago and received an answer, but my daughter's behavior has escalated. The current problem is this: She has taken to pooping in her room and hiding it behind...

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Continued Accidents at 4.5 y/o

Posted on 3/13/2019

My 4 1/2 year old daughter knows how to use the potty, and she usually does pretty well unless she's in her room for afternoon quiet time (right next to the bathroom). At first, we thought it was...

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4.5 year old push/hit/tantrum

Posted on 3/12/2019

Hi there, We have been working with my 4.5 year old son with hitting/pushing and tantruming behaviours. His tantrums include loud wailing when he doesn’t like what he’s told to do. We’ve kicked...

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