"The ultimate goal of raising children is to help them out of our lives and into successful lives of their own. "

Preschool (4-5 years)

John's Most Recent Articles

A Proven Solution to 5-Year-Old’s Eating ‘Issues’

Posted on 3/12/2019

Q: My 5-year-old has had eating issues since he was an infant. When I introduced solid food at six months, he began rejecting most vegetables. His feeding problems have worsened since then to the...

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The Great Pre-K Debate

Posted on 8/28/2018

It has long been known, but only spoken of in hushed tones by university professors sitting in darkened rooms wearing Fat Elvis masks, that pre-Kindergarten “jump-start” (aka, “push-down”)...

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Use Patient Guidance With Son Who Prefers Solitary Play

Posted on 6/7/2017

Q: Our 4-year-old prefers solitary play over play with other children. It’s been this way from early on when I began arranging play dates for him. When those really didn’t work, I enrolled him in...

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Comfort, Not Counseling, Is the Treatment for Nightmares

Posted on 12/21/2016

Q: Our 5-year-old has suddenly started waking up with nightmares. He's not able to describe them with any clarity, however, so we don't know what the content of them is. The most he's able to...

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Use Godfather Principle to Nip Fear of Doctor in the Bud

Posted on 9/20/2016

Q: Over the past year or so, our 5-year-old has developed an extreme fear of going to the doctor or dentist. This came on suddenly, without a precipitating incident. The crying begins when we...

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Selecting the Right Private School

Posted on 8/16/2016

Q: We are looking for a private school for our 4-year-old. Regardless of the school we ultimately choose, we want to keep him there through eighth grade at least. We live in an suburban area so...

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Approaches to Dinner with 4-year-old

Posted on 7/14/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our 4-year-old daughter will not eat dinner, no matter what. At most, she takes a few bites of what I fix and then says she doesn’t like it. This has...

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Bedtime Fears

Posted on 3/10/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: About six months ago, our four-year old daughter began complaining of being afraid to be alone at bedtime. Upon questioning, she told us she was...

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Losing Tickets on the Ticket System

Posted on 12/16/2014

Q: I’ve been trying for two months with little to no success to get your “ticket” system to work on my 4-year-old daughter. The target behaviors are ignoring me when I tell her to do...

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Newly Academic Nature of Most Preschools

Posted on 11/25/2014

Courtesy of my friend and parent coach Janet Carter (www.ourchildishways.com), comes an interesting story: The parents of a 4-year-old girl went to a preschool parent conference to...

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Ending the Blame Game

Posted 3 days ago

My 5 year old son regularly blames others for his own mistakes, and for anything that he doesn't want to do. For example, this morning when I told him to help me with the dishes he pitched a...

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4 and 5 year old brothers tag team Mom

Posted 1 week ago

My older boy, age 5 has been on the ticket system for about 9 months. He starts the day with 3 tickets and his misbehaviors are screaming at us and not obeying us. My younger boy, 4 has recently...

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Love One Another

Posted 2 weeks ago

My son who is 5, loves to play with a certain 9-year old at the park. The kid's mother sits in her car the entire time while her son will sometimes curse at and scare other kids. My son doesn't...

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Discipline is not Always Convenient

Posted 2 weeks ago

When our son hits, we send him to his room for the entire day. However, his hitting tends to happen towards dinner/bedtime so we sentence him to his room the next day. Inevitably, it falls on a...

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Miserable Meal Times

Posted 2 weeks ago

Our son makes mealtime miserable by yelling, complaining, and making a huge production out of eating what we serve. He also whines, begs, and screams about wanting us to "help him" eat his dinner...

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I'm Not Your Friend

Posted 2 weeks ago

My four year old has been telling her younger sister who is three that she will not play with her, be her best friend, etc. if she doesn’t play the way she wants or gives her the toy she is...

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Grandparent raising grandchild

Posted 3 weeks ago

I have finally gotten to a point legally where my daughter, who is the mother of the 5 year old I am raising has no visitation. It's been a long, hard, and expensive process but it is what it is...

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Will the Terror Ever Stop?

Posted 3 weeks ago

Our son who is almost 5 went back to throwing tantrums and have started hitting on a few occasions again. We're wondering if he'll ever stop. We have put him back on the 30 sticker program with a...

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5yr old not listening needs the good Dr.

Posted 3 weeks ago

My second child who is 5 years old is always very much in her own head. What I mean is that she seems to be thinking about a hundred different things all the time she is preoccupied with her...

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Word of the Moment

Posted on 5/21/2019

My 4 year old child has learned the word “kill”. He tells me he is going to kill me and his one year old sister. I don’t think he knows what he’s saying. I tried to explain it but he won’t stop. I...

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