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A Look at the Biggest Mistakes Parents Make

Posted on 2/18/2019

A journalist recently asked me for the single biggest mistake being made by today’s parents. I was tempted to say, “Having children,” but stopped myself because even if I’d followed up with “Just...

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Adults, Children Must Maintain Relationship Boundaries

Posted on 6/20/2018

A column of mine that originally appeared in January of 2017 has been circulating on the Internet ever since, accumulating over a million hits to date. In a nutshell, its message is simply that...

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Putting Focus on Marriage is not Always Easy

Posted on 7/21/2017

Several years ago, during a break in a workshop I was conducting in Baton Rouge, La., a fellow approached me and said, "After reading you, we took your advice and put our marriage first. We are...

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It's Common Sense to Put Marriage First

Posted on 3/1/2016

I never cease to be amazed at the reactions people sometimes have to things I say. Most recently, a significant number of folks—women, all—were outraged over something I posted online: In a...

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21-Year-Old Needs Walking Papers

Posted on 2/26/2013

Q: My husband and I have a 21-year-old daughter from his first marriage. She was suspended from college for bad grades and is waiting out her time until she can go back. Meanwhile, she works for...

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Micromanaging Mom and Uninvolved Father

Posted on 11/29/2011

The micromanager mom and the man-child dad Devon Corneal is an attorney and a writer. Her essay "Can You Hear Me Now? Why Parents Can't Get Kids to Listen" was published online by The...

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Step-Family Issues: Parent From the Marriage

Posted on 11/15/2011

How to 'parent from the marriage' Q: Several years ago, I married a widower who never disciplined his children. They are now 9, 14 and 16 and he still has a very difficult time denying them...

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Pressure, Anxiety, and Guilt of Today's Mothers

Posted on 3/23/2010

Hey, moms: There's more to life than raising children Q. My wife and I have been married for nearly 10 years. We have one child, a 3-year-old boy. Ever since our son was born, our marriage has...

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Husband's Priority Shoud Be Wife First

Posted on 4/21/2009

DAD'S ATTENTION SHOULD BE ON WIFE The response to my recent "I can't wait for the 1960s to be over and done with!" series has been overwhelming, so here's another installment. A fellow...

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Parenting 101: Effective Leadership, Marriage First, Boundaries, Say No More Than Yes

Posted on 11/25/2008

THE FIRST RULE OF PARENTING: YOUR MARRIAGE COMES FIRST Welcome to Parenting 101, a two-part introduction to the fundamentals of effective child raising. Upon passing this course, which will...

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Recent Questions

Sleeping in your own bed.

Posted on 9/7/2019

Our 11 year old son has been afraid of sleeping in his room alone for essentially since he moved from his crib to a big bed. He and his older sister (now 13) shared a bedroom for several years...

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Parents Need to Be On The Same Page

Posted on 8/30/2019

My husband and I recently legally adopted our six and half year old nephew who has been living with us since he was 2.5. He did not know us prior to him coming to live with us. He comes from a...

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A Strong Marriage is Your First Priority

Posted on 7/24/2019

This is the scinerao...we are sitting at the dinner table. My husband is reading "whatever the latest news is" on his phone. When our 6 yr. talks back to me or does not do what I have asked of...

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Be The Grandparent

Posted on 7/10/2019

I witnessed my son try to discipline his daughter. Daughter in law repeatedly challenged him and totally emasculated him in front of me when he continued. She's a wonderful daughter in law and...

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Posted on 6/28/2019

What is the best way to get your husband to become "husband first", when he has put every other role (provider, father, hobbies) first instead? My attempts at intimacy, or "wife first"...

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Good decisions sometimes hurt.

Posted on 5/4/2019

Hi, Question: What advise can you give? I'm a female in a same-sex marriage and have an 8 year old. He doesn't want to live with me because of my instability with moving from place to place and...

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Communication

Posted on 12/18/2018

The John Rosemond books and this site have been helpful to me in regards to how I interact with my children. I would like to make our home a marriage centered home, but my husband and I have a...

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Role Reversal Questions

Posted on 11/16/2018

What are your thoughts regarding a wife being the bread winner and a husband staying home with the children. I make significantly more money than my husband so it appears to make sense financially...

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What a healthy marriage looks like to a child

Posted on 7/7/2018

Dr. Rosemond, Could you please describe the qualities of a husband and wife marriage that increases a child’s respect for adult authority, and the most common pitfalls of marriage that erodes a...

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Figuring things out isn't easy.

Posted on 7/6/2018

I have been married for more than 25 years. My husband came with a daughter from his first marriage and we have two of our own. He is very permissive-extremely guilt ridden and operates from the...

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