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Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old)

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Authoritative Attitude Is Key to Discipline

Posted on 5/2/2018

Q: We are having no success getting our 3-year-old (her third birthday is in a couple of weeks) to do what we tell her to do. She defies us at every opportunity, whether it’s just ignoring us or...

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Rescue Yourself and Your Child With Bedtime Routine

Posted on 5/11/2016

Q: My daughter, who just turned three, has a surge of energy after dinner and can take hours to fall asleep. I try putting her down around 8 o’clock, but there are nights when she doesn’t fall...

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Occasional Tantrums Don't Indicate Bipolar Disorder

Posted on 1/27/2016

Q: Our 3-year-old son is very sweet, loving, and generally well-behaved. Occasionally, however, he breaks into a huge tantrum during which he becomes uncontrollable. The word “possessed” comes to...

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3-year-old Preschool Issues

Posted on 11/10/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: My just-turned 3-year-old daughter has started biting other children in her preschool program. I put her in for three mornings a week thinking she...

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3 year-old Tantrums

Posted on 9/8/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our first, a girl, just turned three and has suddenly started throwing tantrums. She can begin a tantrum when she’s alone in her room if something...

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Newly Academic Nature of Most Preschools

Posted on 11/25/2014

Courtesy of my friend and parent coach Janet Carter (www.ourchildishways.com), comes an interesting story: The parents of a 4-year-old girl went to a preschool parent conference to...

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"The Doctor" Makes House Calls

Posted on 4/28/2014

Shortly after I finished graduate school, a friend of mine shared with me a book called Indirect Hypnosis, written by Milton Erickson, a most unorthodox psychiatrist if ever there was one....

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Who cleans up?

Posted on 2/4/2014

Q: I have 3 kids ages 8, 6, and 4. I need help solving the "pick up the playroom" dilemma. When an area in which they've been playing needs to be picked up and straightened, the 8-year-old always...

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Toddlers in Restaurants?

Posted on 6/25/2013

Q: Help! We find it almost impossible to finish a restaurant meal when our 18-month-old twins are along, which is always. We give them toys to keep them busy, and they do well for about 30 minutes...

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Authority

Posted on 5/28/2013

Q: My 3-year-old started preschool 3 days a week (private sitter other two days) about 2 months ago. He did great. However, this week he began being defiant, not following directions then kicked,...

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Recent Questions

Potty Problems

Posted 1 week ago

Our 3 year old (with a 2 month, 5 year, and 9 year also), is struggling with potty training. He won’t go potty until it is too late, so we are constantly cleaning up potty. He does fine at his...

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3 yro trying to continue the royal treatment

Posted 2 weeks ago

Our three year old daughter is anxious and crying when my husband and I want to step out for dinner for a few hours She likes our nanny and knows her since she was four months old, however she is...

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Growing an Independent Three Year Old

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hello! Our daughter is three and a half years old, and we have noticed that she plays very little independently. When I start cooking, she wants to sit on the counter and help; when I do...

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Preschool Potty Troubles

Posted 2 weeks ago

My 3 yr old boy knows when he needs to use the potty, but he won’t tell me. I’ve tried taking toys & TV he doesn’t seem to care. Thanks,

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5 year old boy behaves better at home than at school

Posted 2 weeks ago

My 5 year old son is in preschool, and we are working very hard on his behavior and manners. He still has tantrums which I am working hard to end. Lately, when he has a tantrum or is disrespectful...

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Sibling Rivalry or Sibling Abuse?

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hello! We have two daughters (3.5 years and 14 months). Lately we have seen increased incidents where the youngest bites or hits the oldest or the oldest pushes the youngest away (our oldest...

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Manners are great!

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hello! I would like to ask for your advice on how to work on instilling manners into our oldest daughter (3.5 years). We expect her to say please and thank you (like we expect that of...

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3 year old can “obey all the way, right away, everyday”!

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hello! Our daughter is on tickets (3.5 years) and she has been doing pretty well the last couple of weeks. The only behavior that is on the tickets system is that she needs to obey us when we...

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11 m, 3.5 and 7yrs Road-trip Remedies

Posted on 9/3/2018

Hello! We have three usually well behaved children who were all raised on the Parenting By the Book philosophy. They sleep in their own beds, do normal age appropriate chores, have normal sibling...

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3 yo Disturbing Family Sleep

Posted on 8/31/2018

HI there. We have a 3 yr. 5 mo. old little girl who is waking up around 5:00am and proceeds to go around waking up her sisters (twins age 6 and a 5 year old). Our rule has always been stay in...

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