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John's Most Recent Articles

Should You Ask Your Baby's Permission Before Changing Their Diaper?

Posted on 5/23/2018

Competition amongst the membership of the International Association of the Weird and Even Weirder for the Most Bizarre Idea of All Time has finally, after more than five decades of...

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Parental Anxiety

Posted on 8/12/2014

On one of my websites I, along with a team of certified parent coaches, answer questions submitted by parents. In the last two days, 67 percent of the questions have concerned toilet...

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Diapers at night

Posted on 7/22/2014

Q: Using your advice, I successfully toilet-trained my daughter by age 16 months. It is now three months later and we are still using diapers at naps and nighttime. At her nap, which lasts...

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150 Word Toilet Training Program

Posted on 12/10/2013

Q: My 18-month-old kicks me and hits me when I try to change his diaper. He doesn't do this for his father or grandparents. Should I hold his legs down until he gives up or will this worsen...

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Toilet Training Without Tantrums Note

Posted on 10/25/2013

Editor's Comment: John gets so many questions about toilet training. I am reprinting a column from two years ago; with an additional note. Almost every question received about toilet training has...

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18-Month-Old is a Table Terror!

Posted on 2/26/2013

Q: Our 18 month old is a table terror! While I'm preparing dinner, she walks around acting like she's starving, but as soon as we sit her in her highchair she takes a few bites and then wants...

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One Year Old Slapping Parents and Screaming

Posted on 11/8/2011

Punishment may fail with toddlers, but try a firm 'no' Q: My 1-year-old has started slapping us. He also screams a lot, often for no reason, or at least we can't figure out the reason. He won't...

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16-Month-Old Son - Read to Child When Ready

Posted on 6/14/2011

Read to toddlers when they're ready Q: In your book on 2-year-olds, you recommend reading to a child from early on. My problem is that every time I attempt to read to my 16-month-old son he...

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10-Month-Old Boy Bangs Head

Posted on 1/25/2011

Parents should roll with baby's rocking Q: Our first child, a 10-month-old boy, bangs his head on the headboard of his crib when we put him to bed. He doesn't cry or exhibit any distress, but...

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Preschool Education Programs

Posted on 10/12/2010

Preschool without shame? What a pity The National Association for the Education of Young Children and I don't see eye to eye on many things - maybe anything. We don't even agree on a definition...

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Recent Questions

Baby Won't Sleep

Posted 4 weeks ago

Hello, My son is 4.5 months old and having some major sleep issues. I'm going to try and summarize but would love some ideas on what I can try. Since he was born he's had sleep issue on and...

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Sleep issues with 9 m/o adoptee

Posted on 10/9/2019

We recently adopted a nine-month-old boy. He’s been delightful and sweet during the day but has trouble going down to sleep for naps and nighttime. He also wakes up several times at night and...

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First Born Still Wants Center Stage

Posted on 9/30/2019

Our 27 month old daughter seems to have had a tough time with the transition of adding our baby to our family 6 months ago. She seems to love being the center of attention, and hates when any...

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No Toddlers Allowed!!

Posted on 8/29/2019

I am currently reading Making the "Terrible" Twos Terrific and in Q&A section of Chapter 3, a mom asks about her son who throws things, even in restaurants. In his response to the mother, Dr....

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Toddler in church.

Posted on 8/9/2019

My 17 mo daughter hates to go to the nursery at church. I always drop her off cheerfully and quickly, but she cries for 45 minutes or more, until she falls asleep in a stroller that dedicated...

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Let the Toddler Games Begin!

Posted on 7/31/2019

Hi! My son is 11 months old and has started to deliberately do things we tell him not - he will throw his sippy cup anytime he is sitting in his high chair, and hits both my husband and I. We...

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When to Start Potty Training?

Posted on 6/10/2019

Should I start potty training now or wait? Our daughter is 16 months old as of yesterday. I have read your potty book, and my husband and I agree with it and plan on following it. I have already...

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Dealing with One-Year-Old's Challenging Behavior

Posted on 6/6/2019

Hi I have a 12 month old, and have recently finished Making the Terrible two's terrific. He seems to be staring tantrums when he has items taken from him, eg the car keys because I have to use...

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N75 Newbie

Posted on 6/4/2019

I started N-75 with my 18 month old daughter yesterday and am looking for a few encouraging words and advice. Day 1 was all accidents which I expected. When we told her about the change to a...

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14 month old harming Mom and family members

Posted on 5/28/2019

My 14 month old baby has started scratching my face, and pulling my hair when upset. In the past few days she has also started pinching and biting her 4 yo sister and 5 yo brother (who are very...

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