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John's Most Recent Articles

Should You Ask Your Baby's Permission Before Changing Their Diaper?

Posted 2 days ago

Competition amongst the membership of the International Association of the Weird and Even Weirder for the Most Bizarre Idea of All Time has finally, after more than five decades of...

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Parental Anxiety

Posted on 8/12/2014

On one of my websites I, along with a team of certified parent coaches, answer questions submitted by parents. In the last two days, 67 percent of the questions have concerned toilet...

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Diapers at night

Posted on 7/22/2014

Q: Using your advice, I successfully toilet-trained my daughter by age 16 months. It is now three months later and we are still using diapers at naps and nighttime. At her nap, which lasts...

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150 Word Toilet Training Program

Posted on 12/10/2013

Q: My 18-month-old kicks me and hits me when I try to change his diaper. He doesn't do this for his father or grandparents. Should I hold his legs down until he gives up or will this worsen...

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Toilet Training Without Tantrums Note

Posted on 10/25/2013

Editor's Comment: John gets so many questions about toilet training. I am reprinting a column from two years ago; with an additional note. Almost every question received about toilet training has...

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18-Month-Old is a Table Terror!

Posted on 2/26/2013

Q: Our 18 month old is a table terror! While I'm preparing dinner, she walks around acting like she's starving, but as soon as we sit her in her highchair she takes a few bites and then wants...

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One Year Old Slapping Parents and Screaming

Posted on 11/8/2011

Punishment may fail with toddlers, but try a firm 'no' Q: My 1-year-old has started slapping us. He also screams a lot, often for no reason, or at least we can't figure out the reason. He won't...

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16-Month-Old Son - Read to Child When Ready

Posted on 6/14/2011

Read to toddlers when they're ready Q: In your book on 2-year-olds, you recommend reading to a child from early on. My problem is that every time I attempt to read to my 16-month-old son he...

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10-Month-Old Boy Bangs Head

Posted on 1/25/2011

Parents should roll with baby's rocking Q: Our first child, a 10-month-old boy, bangs his head on the headboard of his crib when we put him to bed. He doesn't cry or exhibit any distress, but...

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Preschool Education Programs

Posted on 10/12/2010

Preschool without shame? What a pity The National Association for the Education of Young Children and I don't see eye to eye on many things - maybe anything. We don't even agree on a definition...

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Recent Questions

21 month old too young to understand boundaries

Posted 2 weeks ago

https://www.parentguru.com/questions/view/12488?return=%2Fmember%2Fusers%2Fhome If it is possible, I would really like to ask a couple follow-up question to this post. When you say that we...

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21 month old needs gentle, age appropriate discipline

Posted 2 weeks ago

Our son is 21 months and we’d like to be better about him cleaning up his toys. We’re going to sweep through his toys and get down to the bare essentials like John’s book mentions. In order to...

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21 month old just wants to have fun!

Posted 2 weeks ago

Our son is 21 months and really likes to run. This has manifested in two different ways. One, he really likes to be chased. He will do bad things on purpose so that my wife and I have to chase...

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A Toddler Bucket of Sass

Posted 3 weeks ago

My 16 month old shook her finger and said no no in a sassy way after my husband told her no when touching something she shouldn’t. How do I correct the sass back at this age appropriately?

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Cries from afar

Posted on 4/24/2018

My son and daughter-in-law put my 11 month old grandson in the nursery during Sunday morning church service for the first time, and he screamed so loud that the pastor even paused his sermon. Mom...

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2.5 year old tantrum must be contained and not punished

Posted on 3/25/2018

What is the appropriate reaction/action or punishment for a 2.5 year old that is throwing a tantrum and then it escalates into hitting or pushing myself or his nanny or his 5 year old...

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1 Year Old and Table Manners

Posted on 1/31/2018

My one year old has starting dropping food off side of high chair, yelling when she wants out, and sometimes refusing to eat what I have cooked. How do I teach her manners in her high chair?

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Pincher

Posted on 1/22/2018

My one year old has a new love for pinching. She looks me square in the eyes, pinches me, and grunts. Then she waits for a response. I’ve tried time out with pillow in between us calmly telling...

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Failure to Bond?

Posted on 12/4/2017

I have a question about bonding. We are first-time parents to a very lively and happy 17 month little girl. We struggled for years to become pregnant with two failed IVF attempts and through egg...

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Toddler training

Posted on 8/6/2017

My husband and I are looking for advice on how to discipline our 16 month old. He is a very energetic toddler, running around and getting into everything he can. We have a baby gate up to stop him...

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