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Should You Ask Your Baby's Permission Before Changing Their Diaper?

Posted on 5/23/2018

Competition amongst the membership of the International Association of the Weird and Even Weirder for the Most Bizarre Idea of All Time has finally, after more than five decades of...

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Parental Anxiety

Posted on 8/12/2014

On one of my websites I, along with a team of certified parent coaches, answer questions submitted by parents. In the last two days, 67 percent of the questions have concerned toilet...

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Diapers at night

Posted on 7/22/2014

Q: Using your advice, I successfully toilet-trained my daughter by age 16 months. It is now three months later and we are still using diapers at naps and nighttime. At her nap, which lasts...

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150 Word Toilet Training Program

Posted on 12/10/2013

Q: My 18-month-old kicks me and hits me when I try to change his diaper. He doesn't do this for his father or grandparents. Should I hold his legs down until he gives up or will this worsen...

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Toilet Training Without Tantrums Note

Posted on 10/25/2013

Editor's Comment: John gets so many questions about toilet training. I am reprinting a column from two years ago; with an additional note. Almost every question received about toilet training has...

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18-Month-Old is a Table Terror!

Posted on 2/26/2013

Q: Our 18 month old is a table terror! While I'm preparing dinner, she walks around acting like she's starving, but as soon as we sit her in her highchair she takes a few bites and then wants...

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One Year Old Slapping Parents and Screaming

Posted on 11/8/2011

Punishment may fail with toddlers, but try a firm 'no' Q: My 1-year-old has started slapping us. He also screams a lot, often for no reason, or at least we can't figure out the reason. He won't...

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16-Month-Old Son - Read to Child When Ready

Posted on 6/14/2011

Read to toddlers when they're ready Q: In your book on 2-year-olds, you recommend reading to a child from early on. My problem is that every time I attempt to read to my 16-month-old son he...

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10-Month-Old Boy Bangs Head

Posted on 1/25/2011

Parents should roll with baby's rocking Q: Our first child, a 10-month-old boy, bangs his head on the headboard of his crib when we put him to bed. He doesn't cry or exhibit any distress, but...

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Preschool Education Programs

Posted on 10/12/2010

Preschool without shame? What a pity The National Association for the Education of Young Children and I don't see eye to eye on many things - maybe anything. We don't even agree on a definition...

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Recent Questions

Relax - it's toilet training

Posted 1 week ago

Toilet Training My daughter is 18 months old and tiny. At 6 months, she'd crawl to get her diapering products after pooping. So I've been thrilled to train her early. She is just big enough...

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Nip It Now

Posted 3 weeks ago

My 16 month old has started occasionally hitting his father and me in the face (not super hard). He thinks it’s funny when I grab his arm to prevent him from hitting me; he thinks it’s a great...

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15 month old loves to throw!

Posted on 2/11/2020

My 15 month old loves to throw things. I am looking for guidance on whether this is behavior that needs to be contained or controlled. He still crawls, and throwing and chasing objects is one of...

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Are Family Beds Healthy for the Marriage?

Posted on 2/8/2020

John's "Thought of the Day" said that good parents take very good care of their marriage. I wonder how he feels about "co-sleeping" with a new baby and if that is harmful to the marriage. I want...

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Nightime potty training

Posted on 2/5/2020

I am reading Toilet Training without tantrums and I don’t see where it addresses nighttime. Do I put my child in underpants for naps and bedtime even though he’s not potty trained yet?

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Family beds - are they healthy?

Posted on 2/3/2020

John's thought of the day saying that good parents take very good care of their marriage! I am wondering how he feels about "co sleeping" w/ a new baby, if that is harmful to the marriage or not....

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Mom Wants 13-Month-Old to Stop Screaming

Posted on 1/20/2020

Hi. I am having some difficulties with my 13-month-old. He is stubborn, disobedient and he screams quite a bit if he doesn’t get his way. He does not yet talk, and I was told that screaming is his...

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Toddler's Frustration with Confinement is Understandable

Posted on 1/19/2020

My 15 month grandson spends a lot of time in a corral to keep him away from things where he can be hurt. This morning he began shaking the corral, pushed it into a wall, kept shaking and pushing,...

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Solving Baby Sleep Issue

Posted on 1/18/2020

Not sure if this is your expertise or not but our 10 month old has been giving us some grief at night with sleep. He generally does okay when we let him cry to sleep but some nights he wakes up...

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Who is in charge here?

Posted on 1/14/2020

My 13 month old loves his bottle and milk. He regularly drinks over the recommended amount of milk. He also does not hold his own bottle. He will drink water out of several types of sippy cups,...

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