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Parent Leadership and Authority

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Respect Is Claimed, Not Owed by a Father

Posted on 12/26/2017

Is a father owed respect from his children? Actually, the question, from a father, was rhetorical: Isn’t a father owed his children’s respect? The dad in question maintains that because he loves...

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Children Need Unconditional Love and Unequivocal Authority, Not Respect

Posted on 11/20/2017

I was fresh out of grad school when psychologists and other mental health types began recommending that when speaking to a child, an adult should squat down to eye level with said child....

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To Stop Yelling, Change Yourself Not Your Kid

Posted on 9/13/2017

Q: I get very frustrated with my children when they don’t obey me, even down to the simplest of instructions, and end up yelling. How does a parent stop yelling at her kids? A: Thank you,...

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Authority Is Conveyed With a Proper Presentation

Posted on 8/29/2017

Q: I have taught my 4-year-old son that he is the boss. I have given him too many choices and too many explanations. I’ve allowed him to manipulate, disobey, and disrespect me. Ever since I began...

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A Little 'Vitamin N' Can Go a Long Way

Posted on 7/12/2017

I call it “Vitamin N.” It is the word children need to hear most, but it is currently the word children hear least. It is arguably the most character-building word in the English language, but...

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Are You a Parenting Wreck? This Quiz Will Tell You

Posted on 7/4/2017

Do you need a parent-nanny? Not a nanny for your child, mind you, but one for YOU! I recently introduced my readers to what I call “upside-down, inside-out and turned around...

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Children Need Adults Who Are Worthy of Being Paid Attention

Posted on 3/21/2017

Once again, a reader proves that parenting must be added to religion and politics as verboten subjects for polite conversation. A column I published back in December of 2016 went viral...

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It Is Not a Parent's Job to Solve All of a Child's Problems

Posted on 3/29/2016

Q: We have a 7-year-old son and two girls ages 9 and 6. The girls are gifted academically and athletically. He simply can’t keep up with them. They’re even better at bike-riding. As a result, he...

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Authority Is About Unequivocal Expectations, Not Persuasion

Posted on 3/8/2016

Actress Charlize Theron recently caused a media stir when she wrestled her adopted four-year-old son Jackson to the ground when he began throwing a public tantrum. For this, Theron was labeled a...

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Children Have the Right to a Steady Balance of Love and Leadership

Posted on 2/17/2016

“Do children have any rights?” is the question of the week, submitted by a 30-something reader. Yes, children have rights. First and foremost, there is their right to be loved...

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Recent Questions

9 YO Daughter In Need Of Wake Up Call

Posted 3 days ago

My 9 year old daughter is defiant and refuses to go to her room when disciplined. She is too big and strong for me to carry her and she won’t stay even if I manage to get her there. She feels...

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Nixing Negative Talk

Posted 6 days ago

My 13 year old son is Negative Nellie and complains about everything. And by everything I mean everything. This behavior really started in February of this year when we sold our home but has...

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Reining in Mouthy Eleven Year Old

Posted 1 week ago

Hello, John and coaches, I really need help with my eleven year old. She just is so mentally exhausting to me and my husband. She is extremely strong willed and argues everything with me. I am...

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Grow a Man by Growing Flowers

Posted 1 week ago

Hi. After being at a 4 hour playdate, my 10 yr old still makes me feel bad for not playing with him when he gets home. How do I handle a 10 yr old boy who needs to be entertained constantly? Is it...

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'Tis the Season of Leaving and Cleaving

Posted 2 weeks ago

My son has joined my practice which was always our plan. He brought his girlfriend (also a dr & now is wife) back. They lived with us for 2 years. I trained them, shared my practice & they kept...

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Preparing children for Grandma's death

Posted 2 weeks ago

We have a 2.5 year old and a 5.5 year old; also have a niece and nephew that are 7 and 11 years old. My mother is dying of a terminal cancer and is now on hospice. We have been slowly telling the...

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4 year old won't play by herself

Posted 2 weeks ago

I have two children. A two year old and four year old. I have followed Dr. Rosemond’s advice from the start with the two year old and there is a night and day difference between their demeanors...

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Following up with 12 y/o's Sensitivity Issues

Posted 2 weeks ago

Thank you for your response to my question about my 12 year old daughters sensitivity "issues". Later that day, she threw a huge fit over her smart phone and computer as well as us not...

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12 y/o sensitivities most likely manipulative behavior

Posted 3 weeks ago

My almost 12 year old daughter has been having issues with visual/hearing/touch sensitivities that started when she was 9. These issues have gotten to the point of disrupting not only her life,...

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9 year old boy needs mom to say it one time!

Posted 3 weeks ago

I sure appreciated the response from Katherine Saltzberg (Leadership is Always Plan A) to my question. Can Katherine or someone else please read my initial question and then expand on her comment...

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Audio

Setting The Gate

Posted on 5/16/2014

Boundaries establish leadership.

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Assuming the Power of Parenthood Audio File

Posted on 1/1/2011

This is one of John's most dynamic talks to date. If it's time for you to assume the power of parenthood in your life, this is the Audio to listen to!

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Videos

Parenting Retreat

Posted on 5/17/2014

What do past attendees say about John Rosemond's Parenting Retreats. For the next Retreat see Upcoming Events

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