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Mealtime/Eating

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Restoring Peace to the Family Dinner Table

Posted on 10/11/2016

Q: Dinner with our three kids always, and I mean ALWAYS, turns into a disaster. Typically, the oldest, 11, begins to needle the youngest, 6, and then, when the middle one, 9, figures out which of...

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3 Rules for Taking Kids to Restaurants

Posted on 7/19/2016

The Wall Street Journal recently interviewed Daniel Eddy, a New York City chef, on how to have a mutually-successful experience with a young child in an upscale restaurant (“How to Take Your Kids...

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Fail-Safe Formula for Getting Kids to Eat Everything

Posted on 1/14/2014

Yes, it is possible to get kids to eat everything on their plates-spinach, broccoli, Brussels sprouts, you name it. Why, in the American southeast, it is common for toddlers to eat something...

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Eat What You Are Served

Posted on 12/31/2013

Q: Our son is two-and-one-half and for the most part eats very well. We make up his plate for each meal and he has to eat what is on his plate, or at least try each food on the plate before he can...

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18-Month-Old is a Table Terror!

Posted on 2/26/2013

Q: Our 18 month old is a table terror! While I'm preparing dinner, she walks around acting like she's starving, but as soon as we sit her in her highchair she takes a few bites and then wants...

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Give Children What They Need and Little of What They Want

Posted on 11/22/2011

Respect children; don't idolize them A young mother who identified herself as a practitioner of "attachment parenting" recently told me that "children should be approached with reverence." I...

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Meal Time Circus

Posted on 2/8/2011

Don't let kids run family food circus I must, in the interest of full disclosure, begin this column with a confession: I am a voyeur; more specifically, a parenting voyeur. In the words of...

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Childhood Obesity

Posted on 1/11/2011

Parents can solve childhood obesity Last week I offered 15 parenting resolutions for the new year. This week, I'm making a prediction: 2011 will see the beginning of a revolution in what and...

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15 Resolutions For Parents

Posted on 1/4/2011

15 resolutions for parents Given that this is the first column of a new year, I'm proposing a number of parenting New Year's Resolutions for my readers to consider. The list is by no means...

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2-Year-Old Girl Eating Issues

Posted on 9/28/2010

Don't get into a food fight with a toddler Q: My 2-year-old daughter eats a few bites of supper each night and then wants milk. So I give her milk. Then she refuses to eat anything else. We...

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Recent Questions

Addressing Food Issues - Part 2

Posted 2 weeks ago

We cannot get our 10, 6, 4 and 20 month old to eat their fruits in veggies in large part. Our 20 month old used to eat what we gave him, and now he discriminates based on the color and texture of...

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Addressing Food Issues - Part 1

Posted 2 weeks ago

Our kids are 10, 6, 4, and 20 months. The 10, 6, and 4 year olds do not eat their dinners very well. Sometimes they don't eat at all and pick and complain about their food. I get tired of...

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Children, Vitamins and The Doctor

Posted 3 weeks ago

Any tips on getting 12 and 8 year olds to take supplements? We’ve tried everything to mask the taste but it seems more of a power struggle. Thanks!

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Refusal To Eat Leads To Worry

Posted on 2/29/2020

My 7 year old son and his 9 year old sister were playing around while brushing teeth and somehow his tooth brush jammed into the side of his mouth. He needed oral surgery for a herniated buccal...

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Mealtime Battle

Posted on 2/6/2020

Our 2.5 year old daughter has been giving us a hard time at dinnertime lately. She will either take a couple bites then want to get up and play with something and then doesn't want to go back to...

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Mom Wants 13-Month-Old to Stop Screaming

Posted on 1/20/2020

Hi. I am having some difficulties with my 13-month-old. He is stubborn, disobedient and he screams quite a bit if he doesn’t get his way. He does not yet talk, and I was told that screaming is his...

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Toddler Questions

Posted on 1/11/2020

I just want to make sure that I’m on the right track with my 13 month old. I read the book “making the terrible twos terrific” and thought it made a lot of sense. However, I can’t determine what...

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The Picky Eater Battle Continues.....

Posted on 12/30/2019

We were trying to stand our ground and get our picky eaters (2 year old twins) to eat the meals their parents are presenting them. We stopped giving them snacks in between meals. If they...

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Table Manners for Toddlers

Posted on 12/18/2019

What is the best process for teaching 2-year-olds to use eating utensils? They enjoy feeding themselves, but ignore their spoons and just dig in and eat with their hands. I have showed...

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Don't Give In to Picky Eater

Posted on 10/22/2019

When food is offered to a 2 year old at their meal time, but they purse their lips and try to to wiggle away, what is the appropriate response? Should you keep insisting that they eat and persist...

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