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Where We All Went Wrong

Posted on 8/25/2020

My profession, psychology, began demonizing traditional childrearing in the late 1960s. I was in graduate school at the time and on fire for the promise that the proper use of psychological...

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Some Benchmarks on Toilet Training

Posted on 6/9/2020

“There’s no one-size-fits-all model of childrearing for all the world’s parents,” opines Alma Gottlieb, Professor Emerita of Anthropology at the University of Illinois. Gottlieb was quoted in an...

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Toilet Training Is Not Rocket Science

Posted on 9/26/2018

Talking today’s mother through her first experience with toilet training is akin to talking someone off a ledge. Both situations involve massive anxiety, high drama and lots of yelling and...

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Debunking Hot Potty Training Myths

Posted on 8/14/2018

“Potty training is a nightmare.” So begins advice from Meghan Leahy, advice columnist for The Washington Post. More accurately, potty training has, of late, BECOME a nightmare, thanks to advice of...

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I Spy Toilet-Training Atrocities

Posted on 7/10/2018

Strolling through my go-to grocery store the other day, I happened down the Baby Products aisle where I spied packages of toilet-training pants featuring pictures of happy children who looked at...

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Nip Toddler Misbehavior in the Bud

Posted on 12/19/2017

Q: My parents recently told me that my husband and I are letting our toddler run our family and that it’s becoming increasingly uncomfortable for them to visit or have us visit with them – they...

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Key to Toilet Training Success: Start Early

Posted on 8/2/2017

Q: Our twin girls will be three in a few months. Our pediatrician recommended that we start toilet training at 32 months, which we did. After several months and lots of gnashing of teeth, one of...

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Pull-Ups & Adoption Age

Posted on 9/16/2014

Q: My 23-month-old son does well with potty training when we’re at home. We use a “potty bell” and he goes every 90 minutes or so. When we’re away from home, however, he seems clueless. He...

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Parental Anxiety

Posted on 8/12/2014

On one of my websites I, along with a team of certified parent coaches, answer questions submitted by parents. In the last two days, 67 percent of the questions have concerned toilet...

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Diapers at night

Posted on 7/22/2014

Q: Using your advice, I successfully toilet-trained my daughter by age 16 months. It is now three months later and we are still using diapers at naps and nighttime. At her nap, which lasts...

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Recent Questions

Nap Time and Potty Training

Posted on 11/22/2020

When potty training, you say in your book to put diapers on them at nighttime at first, while trying diaperless a couple of nights a week. So, what do I do at nap time? My twin boys are 29 months...

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'Naked & $75' is a Process Not a Magic Formula

Posted on 11/18/2020

We're a week into toilet training our 20 month old twins, and I simply don't feel like we're making much progress. We're committed to staying the course and will do just that, but with having only...

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Toilet training day 3

Posted on 11/14/2020

We toilet trained our oldest at 28 months in two weeks using N75. Now years later, we are on day 3 of N75 with our boy/girl twins who are 20 months old, and I'm already projecting this is going to...

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Toddler seems angered by the potty

Posted on 11/2/2020

Hi! We’ve been potty training for going on four months now. Daughter is 23 months. She has days where she goes accident free and then others where it’s 100% accident. The past few weeks she seems...

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Potty Training Two Kids at Once- Go for it!

Posted on 11/1/2020

I've read the toilet training book. I'm going to start with my older son (30 mos) on Thursday. I also have a 17 mo son that I was thinking of training at the same time. I know he is a little...

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Potty Training Isn’t the Same for Each Child

Posted on 10/25/2020

I began potty training my second son 6 days ago. He is so different than my first! Help! He doesn't seem too concerned about messes. He simply says "Uh-oh" and keeps on playing. When I say "Go sit...

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Night Time Dryness Takes Patience

Posted on 9/26/2020

Hello, I understand that there isn’t really nighttime potty training, and that’s fine. She often wakes up soaked, and happily helps me strip the bed and put the linens in the washer. We’re still...

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Adjusting to a New Pre School Can Be Hard

Posted on 9/25/2020

We are struggling with our 3-year-old at school. She started in PK-3 this year at a new school. The past 3 years she has been in daycare/pre-school. Where to begin... and by the way all of these...

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Night Time Potty Training Takes Time

Posted on 9/21/2020

My 2 year old daughter wets her bed almost everyday and she has only Been potty trained in the day time for 2 months should I put a night time diaper ?

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Time To Introduce The Potty Gate

Posted on 9/17/2020

We have been potty training my 22 month old for 2 months (8.5 weeks).He will only use the toilet if I catch him before he pees in his pants and have him go sit on it. If he needs to go before the...

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