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Toilet Training

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Toilet Training Is Not Rocket Science

Posted on 9/26/2018

Talking today’s mother through her first experience with toilet training is akin to talking someone off a ledge. Both situations involve massive anxiety, high drama and lots of yelling and...

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Debunking Hot Potty Training Myths

Posted on 8/14/2018

“Potty training is a nightmare.” So begins advice from Meghan Leahy, advice columnist for The Washington Post. More accurately, potty training has, of late, BECOME a nightmare, thanks to advice of...

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I Spy Toilet-Training Atrocities

Posted on 7/10/2018

Strolling through my go-to grocery store the other day, I happened down the Baby Products aisle where I spied packages of toilet-training pants featuring pictures of happy children who looked at...

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Nip Toddler Misbehavior in the Bud

Posted on 12/19/2017

Q: My parents recently told me that my husband and I are letting our toddler run our family and that it’s becoming increasingly uncomfortable for them to visit or have us visit with them – they...

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Key to Toilet Training Success: Start Early

Posted on 8/2/2017

Q: Our twin girls will be three in a few months. Our pediatrician recommended that we start toilet training at 32 months, which we did. After several months and lots of gnashing of teeth, one of...

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Pull-Ups & Adoption Age

Posted on 9/16/2014

Q: My 23-month-old son does well with potty training when we’re at home. We use a “potty bell” and he goes every 90 minutes or so. When we’re away from home, however, he seems clueless. He...

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Parental Anxiety

Posted on 8/12/2014

On one of my websites I, along with a team of certified parent coaches, answer questions submitted by parents. In the last two days, 67 percent of the questions have concerned toilet...

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Diapers at night

Posted on 7/22/2014

Q: Using your advice, I successfully toilet-trained my daughter by age 16 months. It is now three months later and we are still using diapers at naps and nighttime. At her nap, which lasts...

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Potty Training: It's a process

Posted on 6/24/2014

Q: My 26-month-old daughter will go on the potty happily every hour when told (we’re using your “potty bell” and it’s working extremely well) and produces every time. As a result, she’s having...

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Patient Approach to Toilet Training

Posted on 6/10/2014

Q: We began toilet training our daughter when she was 21 months old. Within 10 days, she was consistently using the toilet for Number One. She now wears underwear 24/7 because she doesn’t...

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Recent Questions

When to Start Potty Training?

Posted 1 week ago

Should I start potty training now or wait? Our daughter is 16 months old as of yesterday. I have read your potty book, and my husband and I agree with it and plan on following it. I have already...

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Potty Training Toddler

Posted 1 week ago

I am a stay at home Dad and our son just turned 2 years old last month and we are now in the 4th month of trying to potty train him. He has a 4 year old sister and she was potty trained in about...

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Tips for Taming Automatic Flusher Fears

Posted 1 week ago

Hello, we are very grateful to have our 3 year old well potty trained. Unfortunately, we have run into a little problem. He is deathly terrified of automatic flush toilets. He will cry, scream,...

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N75 Newbie

Posted 1 week ago

I started N-75 with my 18 month old daughter yesterday and am looking for a few encouraging words and advice. Day 1 was all accidents which I expected. When we told her about the change to a...

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The 2 Year Old Bedtime Staller

Posted on 5/15/2019

Hi! My 22 month old daughter had started displaying stalling tactics to avoid bedtime and other undesirable activities. She wants to kiss all her toys goodnight, attempts to give more kisses and...

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What to wear for potty training an 18 month old girl

Posted on 4/25/2019

My daughter will be turning 18 months soon and will be potty training. What clothing would you recommend for a girl?

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3 Year Old Delaying Bedtime with Potty Breaks

Posted on 4/25/2019

Hello, my three year old has always slept well through the night and became potty trained pretty quickly. Unfortunately, until recently, he asks to use the restroom 2-3 times a night. He refuses...

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calm persistence in potty training

Posted on 4/25/2019

I have started potty training my 18 month old daughter, I used N75 with my older daughter and had good success with her. I am in the third day of training and I am finding she seems scared of...

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2 1/2 year old needs to be potty trained before swim lessons

Posted on 4/21/2019

My 2 yr 9 month old refuses to poop in the potty. When she’s naked from the waist down she does fine. Panties on and she poops in them. I had her wash her panties out for the first time and the...

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5 year old still pooping in his underwear

Posted on 4/17/2019

My 5.5 yo son poops in his underwear regularly, a couple of times a week. He is also responsible for cleaning it up every time. Other than pitching an obligatory fit, he doesn't seem to mind that....

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