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Toilet Training

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The Keys to Relatively Quick, Painless Toilet Training

Posted 2 weeks ago

Q: I recently tried toilet training my 32-month-old, but after a few days of no success, I decided to stop. A friend tells me to hang in there, but my pediatrician says my son isn’t ready. She...

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Where We All Went Wrong

Posted on 8/25/2020

My profession, psychology, began demonizing traditional childrearing in the late 1960s. I was in graduate school at the time and on fire for the promise that the proper use of psychological...

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Some Benchmarks on Toilet Training

Posted on 6/9/2020

“There’s no one-size-fits-all model of childrearing for all the world’s parents,” opines Alma Gottlieb, Professor Emerita of Anthropology at the University of Illinois. Gottlieb was quoted in an...

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Toilet Training Is Not Rocket Science

Posted on 9/26/2018

Talking today’s mother through her first experience with toilet training is akin to talking someone off a ledge. Both situations involve massive anxiety, high drama and lots of yelling and...

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Debunking Hot Potty Training Myths

Posted on 8/14/2018

“Potty training is a nightmare.” So begins advice from Meghan Leahy, advice columnist for The Washington Post. More accurately, potty training has, of late, BECOME a nightmare, thanks to advice of...

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I Spy Toilet-Training Atrocities

Posted on 7/10/2018

Strolling through my go-to grocery store the other day, I happened down the Baby Products aisle where I spied packages of toilet-training pants featuring pictures of happy children who looked at...

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Nip Toddler Misbehavior in the Bud

Posted on 12/19/2017

Q: My parents recently told me that my husband and I are letting our toddler run our family and that it’s becoming increasingly uncomfortable for them to visit or have us visit with them – they...

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Key to Toilet Training Success: Start Early

Posted on 8/2/2017

Q: Our twin girls will be three in a few months. Our pediatrician recommended that we start toilet training at 32 months, which we did. After several months and lots of gnashing of teeth, one of...

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Pull-Ups & Adoption Age

Posted on 9/16/2014

Q: My 23-month-old son does well with potty training when we’re at home. We use a “potty bell” and he goes every 90 minutes or so. When we’re away from home, however, he seems clueless. He...

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Parental Anxiety

Posted on 8/12/2014

On one of my websites I, along with a team of certified parent coaches, answer questions submitted by parents. In the last two days, 67 percent of the questions have concerned toilet...

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Recent Questions

Pull up and Potty Problems

Posted 1 week ago

My 3yr old son is almost fully potty trained. He still wears a pull-up at night and he is very inconsistent about using the toilet to go poop. He has a very hard time going poop all together. I...

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18 month old Wetting Bed and Doesn’t Care

Posted 3 weeks ago

My 18-month-old could care less about his wet sheets in the morning or after naptime, and I am getting very tired of doing laundry twice a day (I am 8 months pregnant). Do you think putting a...

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18 month old Screams on the Potty

Posted 3 weeks ago

We are potty training our 18-month-old boy and are on day 5. The first day he screamed when I introduced him to the little potty, but slowly he was sometimes ok with sitting on it. My husband...

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Getting to the finish line with potty training

Posted on 12/8/2021

Our 3 year old daughter has been doing N75 for 5 days and has progressed very well and is intimating in the toilet and rarely having accidents, maybe just a little urine in her panties before she...

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Keep Potty Training Positive- Don't Punish For Accidents

Posted on 11/2/2021

Hi, our daughter is 2yrs 10mo old. We potty trained her 9 months ago using the “naked and $75” method from John Rosemond’s book Toilet Training Without Tantrums. Potty training clicked with her...

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Need to relax with potty training

Posted on 9/24/2021

I am trying to potty train my 19 month old. I’ve read Making the Terrible Twos Terrific and have tried the methods there. My daughter refuses to sit on the potty or even attempt to use the potty...

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Bedtime and night waking potty breaks

Posted on 8/22/2021

28 month old daughter bedtime routine and waking at night. Our 3rd child, who is 28 months recently started climbing (and falling) out of her crib, so we moved her to a toddler bed a little...

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Smelly kid

Posted on 7/27/2021

My four year old daughter has been potty trained for a few years now but she constantly either forgets to wipe or doesn’t do it well enough despite all my efforts. She smells like pee almost...

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Hiccup on the road to diaper freedom!

Posted on 7/15/2021

We started potty training our toddler about 5 months ago when he was 26 months. Unfortunately, we had not discovered Rosemond's books yet. We used a similar, but not exact same method. We...

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Toilet training- acting out or an accident?

Posted on 7/12/2021

We potty trained our daughter at 2yr 1mo old. She is 2yr 6mo old now. Today, her teacher at daycare said every time they told her “no” today, she would walk away and have a pee accident. They...

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