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Toilet Training

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Where We All Went Wrong

Posted on 8/25/2020

My profession, psychology, began demonizing traditional childrearing in the late 1960s. I was in graduate school at the time and on fire for the promise that the proper use of psychological...

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Some Benchmarks on Toilet Training

Posted on 6/9/2020

“There’s no one-size-fits-all model of childrearing for all the world’s parents,” opines Alma Gottlieb, Professor Emerita of Anthropology at the University of Illinois. Gottlieb was quoted in an...

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Toilet Training Is Not Rocket Science

Posted on 9/26/2018

Talking today’s mother through her first experience with toilet training is akin to talking someone off a ledge. Both situations involve massive anxiety, high drama and lots of yelling and...

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Debunking Hot Potty Training Myths

Posted on 8/14/2018

“Potty training is a nightmare.” So begins advice from Meghan Leahy, advice columnist for The Washington Post. More accurately, potty training has, of late, BECOME a nightmare, thanks to advice of...

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I Spy Toilet-Training Atrocities

Posted on 7/10/2018

Strolling through my go-to grocery store the other day, I happened down the Baby Products aisle where I spied packages of toilet-training pants featuring pictures of happy children who looked at...

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Nip Toddler Misbehavior in the Bud

Posted on 12/19/2017

Q: My parents recently told me that my husband and I are letting our toddler run our family and that it’s becoming increasingly uncomfortable for them to visit or have us visit with them – they...

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Key to Toilet Training Success: Start Early

Posted on 8/2/2017

Q: Our twin girls will be three in a few months. Our pediatrician recommended that we start toilet training at 32 months, which we did. After several months and lots of gnashing of teeth, one of...

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Pull-Ups & Adoption Age

Posted on 9/16/2014

Q: My 23-month-old son does well with potty training when we’re at home. We use a “potty bell” and he goes every 90 minutes or so. When we’re away from home, however, he seems clueless. He...

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Parental Anxiety

Posted on 8/12/2014

On one of my websites I, along with a team of certified parent coaches, answer questions submitted by parents. In the last two days, 67 percent of the questions have concerned toilet...

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Diapers at night

Posted on 7/22/2014

Q: Using your advice, I successfully toilet-trained my daughter by age 16 months. It is now three months later and we are still using diapers at naps and nighttime. At her nap, which lasts...

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Recent Questions

Potty Training Isn’t the Same for Each Child

Posted 5 days ago

I began potty training my second son 6 days ago. He is so different than my first! Help! He doesn't seem too concerned about messes. He simply says "Uh-oh" and keeps on playing. When I say "Go sit...

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Night Time Dryness Takes Patience

Posted on 9/26/2020

Hello, I understand that there isn’t really nighttime potty training, and that’s fine. She often wakes up soaked, and happily helps me strip the bed and put the linens in the washer. We’re still...

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Adjusting to a New Pre School Can Be Hard

Posted on 9/25/2020

We are struggling with our 3-year-old at school. She started in PK-3 this year at a new school. The past 3 years she has been in daycare/pre-school. Where to begin... and by the way all of these...

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Night Time Potty Training Takes Time

Posted on 9/21/2020

My 2 year old daughter wets her bed almost everyday and she has only Been potty trained in the day time for 2 months should I put a night time diaper ?

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Time To Introduce The Potty Gate

Posted on 9/17/2020

We have been potty training my 22 month old for 2 months (8.5 weeks).He will only use the toilet if I catch him before he pees in his pants and have him go sit on it. If he needs to go before the...

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Daytime vs Nighttime Dryness

Posted on 9/15/2020

My 2 year old daughter has been potty trained for 2 months now and is still wetting the bed at night how long should I give her until I use the blanket with a buzzer to wake her up when she pees ?

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Road to accident freedom

Posted on 9/10/2020

Hello! My two year old is recently potty trained using Naked and $75. He is doing so well with peeing on the potty at home, but we have two issues. He will not tell me when he needs to poop. He...

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Potty Bell and Gate

Posted on 8/12/2020

So my daughter is 2 and she used the potty gate And potty bell very well for one whole day should I remove the gate or should I keep using it ?

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Toys or No Toys for Bathroom Gate Time

Posted on 8/11/2020

Our bathroom is way to small to keep our 24 month old, so we decided to have the gate on my room door . So when they potty bell rings we take her to my room but I have no toys in there should I...

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Potty Training: Going Between The Bell

Posted on 8/10/2020

We have been potty training my 20 month old for 3 weeks. For about two of the weeks we have been doing the potty bell. He does well with the potty Bell and goes almost immediately once the bell...

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