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Toilet Training

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Toilet Training Is Not Rocket Science

Posted on 9/26/2018

Talking today’s mother through her first experience with toilet training is akin to talking someone off a ledge. Both situations involve massive anxiety, high drama and lots of yelling and...

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Debunking Hot Potty Training Myths

Posted on 8/14/2018

“Potty training is a nightmare.” So begins advice from Meghan Leahy, advice columnist for The Washington Post. More accurately, potty training has, of late, BECOME a nightmare, thanks to advice of...

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I Spy Toilet-Training Atrocities

Posted on 7/10/2018

Strolling through my go-to grocery store the other day, I happened down the Baby Products aisle where I spied packages of toilet-training pants featuring pictures of happy children who looked at...

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Nip Toddler Misbehavior in the Bud

Posted on 12/19/2017

Q: My parents recently told me that my husband and I are letting our toddler run our family and that it’s becoming increasingly uncomfortable for them to visit or have us visit with them – they...

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Key to Toilet Training Success: Start Early

Posted on 8/2/2017

Q: Our twin girls will be three in a few months. Our pediatrician recommended that we start toilet training at 32 months, which we did. After several months and lots of gnashing of teeth, one of...

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Pull-Ups & Adoption Age

Posted on 9/16/2014

Q: My 23-month-old son does well with potty training when we’re at home. We use a “potty bell” and he goes every 90 minutes or so. When we’re away from home, however, he seems clueless. He...

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Parental Anxiety

Posted on 8/12/2014

On one of my websites I, along with a team of certified parent coaches, answer questions submitted by parents. In the last two days, 67 percent of the questions have concerned toilet...

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Diapers at night

Posted on 7/22/2014

Q: Using your advice, I successfully toilet-trained my daughter by age 16 months. It is now three months later and we are still using diapers at naps and nighttime. At her nap, which lasts...

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Potty Training: It's a process

Posted on 6/24/2014

Q: My 26-month-old daughter will go on the potty happily every hour when told (we’re using your “potty bell” and it’s working extremely well) and produces every time. As a result, she’s having...

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Patient Approach to Toilet Training

Posted on 6/10/2014

Q: We began toilet training our daughter when she was 21 months old. Within 10 days, she was consistently using the toilet for Number One. She now wears underwear 24/7 because she doesn’t...

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Recent Questions

Better aim

Posted yesterday

Thank you, we went with the gate and bell method and by the end of January he got it! Now he rarely has an accident. My next question is, since he stands too close to the potty and he only...

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Nightime potty training

Posted 3 weeks ago

I am reading Toilet Training without tantrums and I don’t see where it addresses nighttime. Do I put my child in underpants for naps and bedtime even though he’s not potty trained yet?

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Get more out

Posted on 1/27/2020

2.8 year old boy is on day 10 of potting training. He is doing fairly well, but it seems he is not emptying his bladder, as sometimes there is as little as 10 minutes between trips to the potty....

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Stay the Course.

Posted on 1/14/2020

I used N75 with my first child and it was a snap. At 22 months she was without accidents within a few days. My second child was 22 months before the holidays. With traveling etc. etc. we...

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Aversion to potty

Posted on 1/10/2020

My son is 3.25 years old. We started toilet training a week ago and he has done well with the potty part, but he’s having issues with pooping on his potty chair. He did it just fine a couple...

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Toilet training with Gate and Bell

Posted on 1/10/2020

Hi, I have a follow up question to my previous question about the bell and barrier method not being successful; after my child pees on the floor do I let him out of the bathroom or keep him in the...

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Toilet Training While Out on the Town

Posted on 1/7/2020

Hi There! Last October we started potty training my then 19 month old son using the "naked and 75" method you lay out in your book. By the end of November he was doing so well, we started...

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Toilet Training for a 23 month

Posted on 12/31/2019

My husband and I are on Day 6 of potty training using the Toilet Training Without Tantrums. We have had a few successes but... we're frustrated. Our daughter is 23 months old. She's been naked...

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Potty Setback

Posted on 12/26/2019

My son, who is two and a half and well potty trained, has recently taken to pooping in his pants and/or on the floor. Timeouts do not seem to be effective. I tell him that "only babies poop in...

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Potty training setback

Posted on 12/18/2019

My daughter is 27 month old, before she turned 2 in October we started to potty train her. At around 25 months she was completely trained; she'd tell us when she needed to go and at one point, she...

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