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Toilet Training

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Some Benchmarks on Toilet Training

Posted on 6/9/2020

“There’s no one-size-fits-all model of childrearing for all the world’s parents,” opines Alma Gottlieb, Professor Emerita of Anthropology at the University of Illinois. Gottlieb was quoted in an...

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Toilet Training Is Not Rocket Science

Posted on 9/26/2018

Talking today’s mother through her first experience with toilet training is akin to talking someone off a ledge. Both situations involve massive anxiety, high drama and lots of yelling and...

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Debunking Hot Potty Training Myths

Posted on 8/14/2018

“Potty training is a nightmare.” So begins advice from Meghan Leahy, advice columnist for The Washington Post. More accurately, potty training has, of late, BECOME a nightmare, thanks to advice of...

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I Spy Toilet-Training Atrocities

Posted on 7/10/2018

Strolling through my go-to grocery store the other day, I happened down the Baby Products aisle where I spied packages of toilet-training pants featuring pictures of happy children who looked at...

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Nip Toddler Misbehavior in the Bud

Posted on 12/19/2017

Q: My parents recently told me that my husband and I are letting our toddler run our family and that it’s becoming increasingly uncomfortable for them to visit or have us visit with them – they...

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Key to Toilet Training Success: Start Early

Posted on 8/2/2017

Q: Our twin girls will be three in a few months. Our pediatrician recommended that we start toilet training at 32 months, which we did. After several months and lots of gnashing of teeth, one of...

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Pull-Ups & Adoption Age

Posted on 9/16/2014

Q: My 23-month-old son does well with potty training when we’re at home. We use a “potty bell” and he goes every 90 minutes or so. When we’re away from home, however, he seems clueless. He...

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Parental Anxiety

Posted on 8/12/2014

On one of my websites I, along with a team of certified parent coaches, answer questions submitted by parents. In the last two days, 67 percent of the questions have concerned toilet...

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Diapers at night

Posted on 7/22/2014

Q: Using your advice, I successfully toilet-trained my daughter by age 16 months. It is now three months later and we are still using diapers at naps and nighttime. At her nap, which lasts...

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Potty Training: It's a process

Posted on 6/24/2014

Q: My 26-month-old daughter will go on the potty happily every hour when told (we’re using your “potty bell” and it’s working extremely well) and produces every time. As a result, she’s having...

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Recent Questions

Holding it

Posted 1 week ago

Two weeks into “Naked and $75” with my 21mo. boy and he’s been holding both his pee and poop until he’s in a diaper for nap or bedtime. When he can’t hold it until then, he runs around on his...

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Potty Training day 3

Posted 4 weeks ago

My son is 18 months old and for the past 3 days I have been trying to potty train him. It has been a big fail so far. He doesn’t seem to know when he needs to go. He has a surprised look on his...

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Potty Training day 3

Posted 4 weeks ago

My son is 18 months old and for the past 3 days I have been trying to potty train him. It has been a big fail so far. He doesn’t seem to know when he needs to go. He has a surprised look on his...

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Follow up on potty training

Posted 4 weeks ago

Also, how do you handle a 25 month old that is holding his stool in now that training has started? She usually has 2 movements a day but, now is just holding it in. Thank you.

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Potty Bell

Posted on 6/29/2020

We’ve implemented potty bell. Sometimes she sits for 3 seconds then pops up and goes somewhere else, and other times she doesn’t want to sit at all. We’ve had zero success on the toilet. We are...

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Help! Potty Training Isn't Working!

Posted on 6/18/2020

I have read the toilet training book and have been trying N75 with my 2-year-old daughter. After 5 days she has had zero success going in the potty. Peeing on the floor and down her legs does not...

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Pooping "Beacuse I Want To"

Posted on 5/21/2020

My very bright 3.5 year old has been potty training for over a year--it's not that he doesn't get it (he got the pooping pretty quickly within a month) but it's about control. He's very spirited,...

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The Frustration of Regression

Posted on 5/19/2020

Our daughter will be three next month. She has been doing great with potty training until recently. Our one year old just learned to walk so we’ve been praising him a lot more and he’s been...

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Potty trainning process under control.

Posted on 5/18/2020

We started potty training our girl at 22 months, in the 4th week now. She knows we go in the bathroom and wants to go in there, but she's developed a habit of standing on a stool to wash her...

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Oblivious To Potty Training

Posted on 4/24/2020

On day 4 of potty training my 22 month old daughter. We’ve been naked, doing the potty bell timer and she still seems like she’s not phased by any of it. She doesn’t even notice when she pees. It...

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