"A child who can't take "no" for an answer always has parents who can't say it and mean it. "

Anxieties, Fears

John's Most Recent Articles

Keep Calm and Carry On

Posted on 3/24/2020

Vital to a child’s sense of well-being are parents who act competent to provide adequate provision and protection under any and all circumstances. I often refer to that obligation...

Read More

Replace Psychological With Old Fashioned Parenting

Posted on 9/24/2019

As my regular readers know, I am a certified heretic in my field: child and family psychology. To the point, I am convinced that psychological parenting theory, which began to inform American...

Read More

Try the 'No-Talking Cure' for Childhood Fears

Posted on 2/7/2018

A true story: When my daughter, Amy, was a pre-teen, she became anxious about going to sleep because of fears of dying in the middle of the night. When I tucked her in (I was her preferred...

Read More

Parents Should Keep Kid With Irrational Fears Grounded

Posted on 9/27/2017

Q: Over the past year, our 4-year-old has developed several fears that have become quite disruptive. It started with a fear of dogs, which is inconvenient given that there are lots of dogs in our...

Read More

Use Godfather Principle to Nip Fear of Doctor in the Bud

Posted on 9/20/2016

Q: Over the past year or so, our 5-year-old has developed an extreme fear of going to the doctor or dentist. This came on suddenly, without a precipitating incident. The crying begins when we...

Read More

Have a Game Plan for Daughter's Anxiety

Posted on 6/28/2016

Q: My 8-year-old daughter is having anxiety issues that seem to border on obsessive-compulsive disorder. She wants me to repeat certain things back to her and has a set routine of things I must...

Read More

Don't Turn Bedtime Fears Into a Disciplinary Issue

Posted on 4/5/2016

Q: My 6-year-old daughter watched too many episodes of a certain TV show when she was sick and now she doesn't want to go to sleep at night because she is having scary thoughts related to the...

Read More

Bedtime Fears

Posted on 3/10/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: About six months ago, our four-year old daughter began complaining of being afraid to be alone at bedtime. Upon questioning, she told us she was...

Read More

Anxiety and Panic Attacks in Teenagers

Posted on 2/24/2015

<b>Q: My 13-year-old son has developed overwhelming anxiety about going to school. This began a year ago, but has gotten steadily worse since then. At this point, he fights me every morning about...

Read More

Pulling Her Hair Out

Posted on 7/15/2014

Q: Since our daughter, now 2 years old, was born we have lived with my parents. Being the first and only grandchild she has been the center of attention. Several months ago, our son was...

Read More
View All Articles

Recent Questions

Wind Fear

Posted 2 weeks ago

Our 3and 1/2 year old is terrified of the wind and refuses to go outside. We have tried logic. Occasionally we get her outside and if she sees a lizard or cool bug she will be delighted and have...

Read More

Conquering Fears

Posted on 4/3/2020

My almost 2 year old daughter developed a fear of walking outside. When we go out, she goes up and down the stairs and when it’s about to walk on the side walk she screams in fear and tears and...

Read More

Potty Training Regression and Coronavirus

Posted on 3/31/2020

My 3 year old potty trained very fast right after his 3rd birthday. He has not had a problem being dry overnight, so we have always just used underwear. He’s been potty trained 3 months. Because...

Read More

Relax - it's toilet training

Posted on 3/26/2020

Toilet Training My daughter is 18 months old and tiny. At 6 months, she'd crawl to get her diapering products after pooping. So I've been thrilled to train her early. She is just big enough...

Read More

10 yo struggles with low self-esteem & social anxiety

Posted on 3/22/2020

My 10 year old is dyslexic, and struggles with low self-esteem and social anxiety. How do I help him with his social anxiety? How do I help him with is low self esteem. Is there a book or two...

Read More

Helping Kids Deal With Coronavirus Anxiety

Posted on 3/20/2020

Hello, I'd like some advice on how to handle my almost 5 year old daughter's worry/nerves at night since this whole coronavirus pandemic took over. She usually goes to school every morning and...

Read More

OCD or just feeling special?

Posted on 2/28/2020

My 11 year old daughter has several ocd like behaviors. I have started to work on a few of them after reading and hearing your podcasts. My question is should I do them all at once or one at a...

Read More

3 yo Child Cries When Adults Laugh

Posted on 2/12/2020

Hi. I am a pediatrician and recommend Making the Terrible Twos Terrific and Well Behaved Child to almost all the parents in my practice at the relevant ages. I have a normal healthy nearly 3 year...

Read More

Toddler's Frustration with Confinement is Understandable

Posted on 1/19/2020

My 15 month grandson spends a lot of time in a corral to keep him away from things where he can be hurt. This morning he began shaking the corral, pushed it into a wall, kept shaking and pushing,...

Read More

10-Year-Old Worries about Death

Posted on 1/12/2020

Hello- We have a 10 year old only child who has recently started crying and getting upset about what he will do when we die and how sad he will be. We have tried to reassure him but it’s become a...

Read More
View All Questions