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Anxieties, Fears

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Try the 'No-Talking Cure' for Childhood Fears

Posted on 2/7/2018

A true story: When my daughter, Amy, was a pre-teen, she became anxious about going to sleep because of fears of dying in the middle of the night. When I tucked her in (I was her preferred...

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Parents Should Keep Kid With Irrational Fears Grounded

Posted on 9/27/2017

Q: Over the past year, our 4-year-old has developed several fears that have become quite disruptive. It started with a fear of dogs, which is inconvenient given that there are lots of dogs in our...

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Use Godfather Principle to Nip Fear of Doctor in the Bud

Posted on 9/20/2016

Q: Over the past year or so, our 5-year-old has developed an extreme fear of going to the doctor or dentist. This came on suddenly, without a precipitating incident. The crying begins when we...

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Have a Game Plan for Daughter's Anxiety

Posted on 6/28/2016

Q: My 8-year-old daughter is having anxiety issues that seem to border on obsessive-compulsive disorder. She wants me to repeat certain things back to her and has a set routine of things I must...

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Don't Turn Bedtime Fears Into a Disciplinary Issue

Posted on 4/5/2016

Q: My 6-year-old daughter watched too many episodes of a certain TV show when she was sick and now she doesn't want to go to sleep at night because she is having scary thoughts related to the...

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Bedtime Fears

Posted on 3/10/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: About six months ago, our four-year old daughter began complaining of being afraid to be alone at bedtime. Upon questioning, she told us she was...

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Anxiety and Panic Attacks in Teenagers

Posted on 2/24/2015

<b>Q: My 13-year-old son has developed overwhelming anxiety about going to school. This began a year ago, but has gotten steadily worse since then. At this point, he fights me every morning about...

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Pulling Her Hair Out

Posted on 7/15/2014

Q: Since our daughter, now 2 years old, was born we have lived with my parents. Being the first and only grandchild she has been the center of attention. Several months ago, our son was...

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Head Banging

Posted on 7/1/2014

Q: When he throws a tantrum, which happens several times a day, my 20-month-old often gets down on the floor and starts banging his head. Worried that he may hurt himself, I pick him up and...

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Don't laugh!

Posted on 3/25/2014

Q: Our 4-year-old daughter has a huge problem with being laughed at. She loves to be goofy and do funny things but as soon as someone, including one of us, laughs at her she becomes upset. She...

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Recent Questions

Hesitant Preschooler

Posted 1 week ago

Our son who will be 3 in January is very outgoing and social when he's in preschool but becomes very hesitant when we go into new settings (birthday parties or soccer for example) and will refuse...

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3 yro trying to continue the royal treatment

Posted on 10/7/2018

Our three year old daughter is anxious and crying when my husband and I want to step out for dinner for a few hours She likes our nanny and knows her since she was four months old, however she is...

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...when co-bedding becomes a problem...

Posted on 10/3/2018

Hello, My daughter is 5 years old. I am a single mom so it's just the two of us at home. At night, we read stories and say night prayers, and I typically either fall asleep next to her, or sing...

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6 Year Fearful of Being Alone

Posted on 9/19/2018

I’m looking for some feedback on how to handle our 6 year old boy’s fear of being alone. It started about a year ago and seemed to have lessened after a few months but has resurfaced recently with...

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Never feed fear.

Posted on 9/5/2018

Hi there. My 10 year old son is very fearful of thunderstorms. He panics before they happen and is a mess when a bad one is going on. He loses a lot of sleep during a storm. Any thoughts?

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18m & 6 yrs Daughters Dealing with Dad's Death

Posted on 8/26/2018

Does John have any writings on children dealing with the death of a parent? My 37yo husband suffered a heart attack and passed away while we were on a family vacation last month (totally...

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Daughter is fearful about going to kindergarten

Posted on 8/22/2018

We thought going to the open house tonight would help, but it didn't seem to - our daughter is anxious about kindergarten. All summer she has vacillated between being a bit nervous and downright...

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Parent anxiety can be contagious to 8 yo

Posted on 8/22/2018

Our 8-year-old son is headed back to school tomorrow, and we just got word that one of his favorite elementary teachers has been arrested for third-degree sexual abuse. We believe in the “Tell him...

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Grandma custody of 4yro

Posted on 8/3/2018

My 4 year old Grandson who has always lived with me seems to be having some new concerns regarding his Mom. His Mom, has not seen him since Christmas Day, and has not contacted me to do so. Yes,...

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Stay in Bed!

Posted on 7/30/2018

We are having issues getting our almost 3 year old to go to sleep and stay in his room at nap time and bedtime. He recently transitioned out of a crib b/c he could climb out and now he comes out...

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