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Anxieties, Fears

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Replace Psychological With Old Fashioned Parenting

Posted on 9/24/2019

As my regular readers know, I am a certified heretic in my field: child and family psychology. To the point, I am convinced that psychological parenting theory, which began to inform American...

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Try the 'No-Talking Cure' for Childhood Fears

Posted on 2/7/2018

A true story: When my daughter, Amy, was a pre-teen, she became anxious about going to sleep because of fears of dying in the middle of the night. When I tucked her in (I was her preferred...

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Parents Should Keep Kid With Irrational Fears Grounded

Posted on 9/27/2017

Q: Over the past year, our 4-year-old has developed several fears that have become quite disruptive. It started with a fear of dogs, which is inconvenient given that there are lots of dogs in our...

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Use Godfather Principle to Nip Fear of Doctor in the Bud

Posted on 9/20/2016

Q: Over the past year or so, our 5-year-old has developed an extreme fear of going to the doctor or dentist. This came on suddenly, without a precipitating incident. The crying begins when we...

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Have a Game Plan for Daughter's Anxiety

Posted on 6/28/2016

Q: My 8-year-old daughter is having anxiety issues that seem to border on obsessive-compulsive disorder. She wants me to repeat certain things back to her and has a set routine of things I must...

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Don't Turn Bedtime Fears Into a Disciplinary Issue

Posted on 4/5/2016

Q: My 6-year-old daughter watched too many episodes of a certain TV show when she was sick and now she doesn't want to go to sleep at night because she is having scary thoughts related to the...

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Bedtime Fears

Posted on 3/10/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: About six months ago, our four-year old daughter began complaining of being afraid to be alone at bedtime. Upon questioning, she told us she was...

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Anxiety and Panic Attacks in Teenagers

Posted on 2/24/2015

<b>Q: My 13-year-old son has developed overwhelming anxiety about going to school. This began a year ago, but has gotten steadily worse since then. At this point, he fights me every morning about...

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Pulling Her Hair Out

Posted on 7/15/2014

Q: Since our daughter, now 2 years old, was born we have lived with my parents. Being the first and only grandchild she has been the center of attention. Several months ago, our son was...

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Head Banging

Posted on 7/1/2014

Q: When he throws a tantrum, which happens several times a day, my 20-month-old often gets down on the floor and starts banging his head. Worried that he may hurt himself, I pick him up and...

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Put Parenting Anxiety to Rest

Posted 1 week ago

I have been following John Rosemond podcasts for a while now and everything he says tends to make sense and sit well with me. However, I am lacking so much common sense in parenting having come...

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Mommy Guilt Not Helping Anyone

Posted 1 week ago

I have a 5 month old daughter who likes to be held and cuddled all day long. I love the cuddles and I am trying to make the most of this stage as I know how quickly it goes, and I deeply regret...

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Harsh Consequences?

Posted on 10/24/2019

I have been using the ticket system with my 5-year-old for about a week now. When he loses his tickets he’s sent to his room for the remainder of the day. However, my son seems to be dealing with...

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Just a few reminders on potty training!

Posted on 9/9/2019

Hello again, We have started potty training our 24 month old and she is doing awesome except she seems to fear going poop in the potty. We have been keeping her naked and her toilet is easily...

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Concerns About Child's Adjustment to New Sibling

Posted on 8/21/2019

Our 3-year-old daughter has a brother coming early January. I am pretty nervous about how she will react and if I have what it takes to continue to make her feel secure. My brother came when I was...

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The Great Outdoors

Posted on 7/22/2019

First of all, thank for all the previous advice I've been given. It has all been helpful. This may be a silly question, but I was wondering what is an appropriate age to send my kids outside to...

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Territorial Toddler

Posted on 7/18/2019

My daughter is 22 months old, turning 2 in a few months. I've noticed that when I'm in a room with her, she shows little interest in me as she plays with her toys. Which is good. However,...

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Overly Protective Mom Needs Help With Anxious 4-Year-Old

Posted on 7/11/2019

Hello! I will freely admit that I created this problem, but now need to help my currently 4 1/2 year old daughter the best that I can. I was raised in a very protective family and have a...

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Trouble with Transitions at Preschool

Posted on 7/10/2019

A follow up to my previous question... we have had several informal conferences with the director of my 3 y/o son’s preschool. It seems like everything is fine until he is asked to do something...

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Adjusting to Preschool Can Be Tough

Posted on 7/4/2019

My almost 3-year-old son has been attending the same Montessori-based preschool for the past year. 90-95% of the AM drop-offs have been difficult for him resulting in a meltdown. His teacher...

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