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Disobedience/Defiance

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Don't Tolerate Sassy Behavior

Posted on 11/15/2017

Q: Our 8-year-old has suddenly developed a very sassy mouth. She picked this up from a new neighborhood friend who speaks to her mother in a very disrespectful tone, like she’s the girl’s...

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America Needs a Parenting Retro-Revolution

Posted on 6/21/2017

I was honored to be a guest on my good friend Dennis Prager’s syndicated radio program the other day and as anyone who is familiar with my point-of-view on parenting matters will appreciate, much...

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Stay the Course With Rebellious Teen

Posted on 5/23/2017

Q: Our 18-year-old daughter is a month away from high school graduation and she is failing nearly every class! About six months ago, she took up with a group of young adults who are less than...

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Kids Are Happiest When Obedient

Posted on 4/25/2017

Q: I’ve read enough of your writings to know that you believe children should be obedient, that they should do what they are told. I want my children to think for themselves and to question...

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Medicine Doesn't Cure Misbehavior

Posted on 7/26/2016

Q: Our son is a rising second-grader at a private school. Last year, his behavior was often disruptive and sometimes even downright defiant—problems his first grade teacher did not have with him....

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Custody Issue: Teen Acts Aggressively Towards Mother

Posted on 1/12/2016

Q: My ex-husband and I have pretty much fifty-fifty custody of our 15-year-old son, who has become infected with his father’s disrespect for me. When he’s with me, he makes it very clear that he...

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Use Proper Authority with Teens

Posted on 4/21/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our son is going to be 13 next year and we’re trying to be proactive about the coming storm. He’s been a good kid and relatively easy to raise to...

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Alarming Trends

Posted on 3/3/2015

In the 1960s, child and teen mental health and behavior problems began an alarming rise that has continued to the present. In 1970, one of my grad school professors proposed that this trend could...

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"The Doctor" Makes House Calls

Posted on 4/28/2014

Shortly after I finished graduate school, a friend of mine shared with me a book called Indirect Hypnosis, written by Milton Erickson, a most unorthodox psychiatrist if ever there was one....

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The "Hang in There Principle"

Posted on 11/26/2013

Q: My 11-year-old son cuts corners on everything. If he does a chore, he'll leave the cleaning products behind. If his bed his hard to make he hides the sheet in the closet and throws the blanket...

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Ditch the Guilt!

Posted 2 weeks ago

This week I had a friend of mine and her child come to stay at my home from out of town. My 3 year old son and her son are the same age, and they have been enjoying playing together. On the third...

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It's Only a Phase!

Posted on 3/21/2018

My 3 year old child started the ticket system with 5 tickets in October of 2017. By January of 2018 we had a changed child on our hands and we were able to put away the ticket system. All of...

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Set the standard and hold them to it.

Posted on 3/18/2018

Hi there, Thank you for all the advice you have given me re: my out of control 3.5 yo son. He’s been kicked out of the garden for hitting mum - and successfully strung together 28 days of not...

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8 Year Old Too "Curious"

Posted on 3/13/2018

When my son was 5, he tried to search for "girls pee pee" and other related terms on his tablet, which luckily was on the child setting. We talked to him the best we could even though he denied it...

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Self Control?

Posted on 3/12/2018

Thank you for answering my question from earlier in the week. I appreciate Parent Guru & the role of the doctor in my life. My sons 3 qtr report came home on Thursday of course I knew he had...

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Sticky Fingers

Posted on 3/10/2018

Our 5 year old has been having a problem with thinking he can take things that belong to others in the house. Recently we found a pack of gum that we do not remember purchasing. We are pretty...

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Two out of Three

Posted on 3/5/2018

My 9+ year old talks back to teachers and classmates, calls other students names, won't follow directions of teachers and refuses to do what he's been told (one teacher captured it perfectly...

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Solitary confinement

Posted on 2/23/2018

What do I do when I kick my kids (6, 5, and 4) out of the garden and the LIKE it!! All three of my girls are upstairs in their room laughing and jumping on their beds. I took their bed frames...

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Tumultuous Trio

Posted on 2/23/2018

Where do we start? We have 3 girls age 6, 5, and 4. They are ALL out of control. Reading through the Well Behaved Child I'm overwhelmed with all the methods. My husband and I have started...

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An 11-year old Queen?

Posted on 2/21/2018

I home school our 11 year old daughter. She refuses to do any work if she does not feel like it. I will send her to her room and she will not go. I inform her that there will be a consequence if...

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